@@christinejohnstone2400 so sorry and I pray God heals your heart. 😢. I am divorced but when I was married my late husband could be described by me in one word: BRUTE. He didn’t physically handled me but in every other way he was brutal to bring any type of correction. I learned to run to God like a child. Every time he wounded me, I went to tell. I have footprints on the courtroom doors in heaven. Our Heavenly Father knows how to handle them better than we ever could. Hang in there and don’t give up. The more you go to God and cry it out, the quieter your spirit will become because you will know you have been heard on high even if he doesn’t hear you.
Me too! And when I first saw it I kinda of wrote it off and didn't listen right away because I had the thought "like what does this have to do with me? I'm single and unmarried". I'm so glad I chose to not listen to that thought
"I want to expose a lie". That is some great communication. It says " this is what is going on in my head, but in my heart I know it's not true about who you are. However, it's what I'm thinking which is very well a thought planted by the enemy." I'll take this into my next relationship, the Lord grace me to have one...
This was so so good. Been married 24 years but currently separated for five months. I definitely see satan at work. I am still fighting for reconciliation and will watch this again!
Now this is food for the soul. 23 yrs of marriage and I can testify to the faithfulness of God, and to the thwarting of the enemy plan to break up my marriage. ❤
Or just means you’re in a long term human relationship, whether that’s parenthood, Marraige or friendship…for the younger generation they’re less likely to marry bc they think conflict is only in Marraige, but any meaningful long term relationship is going to have conflict
Let me tell you something...that waking up and seeing him studying the Word being a turn-on is real. Study your Word. It pays off. Lol 😆 Real talk. This was a blessing. ❤
I relate with you sis. And I pray a covering over your husband and you, devil’s a liar. May the enemy’s plans towards our marriages fail forever in Jesus’ name, amen!!!
I can relate sis. My bestie sent this to me and it was godsent! I pray that we would all continue to cover our spouses and yield to the leading of the Holy Spirit in our marriages. May all of our marriages be blessed in Jesus’ name.
I needed this right now. I’m beginning and working on my spiritual journey. My husband is not a believer. I sent this video to him. I hope he watches and most of all listens and the Holy Spirit moves him in the direction of the Lord. I pray this in Jesus’s name AMEN 🙏
The part about the husband spending time with the Master to get motivated then washing his wife with the Word and filling up her love tank… that made so much sense of the desires I’ve been having for my own marriage but I have totally come off as a nag. And we’ve been happily married for 11 years! Still figuring things out… Thank you for this!!! Improving marriages all over the place!
My wife and I had the privilege to attend a weekend to remember that was co-lead by the couple the Fabian’s are describing. When I tell you the humility they both walked in through the brokenness in their marriage convicted me deeply about my unforgiveness toward my bride. The couple mentioned they were writing a book about the experience hopefully you all have them on “With the Perry’s” when it drops. God is amazing!
Omg!!! This topic exposed where the enemy has embedded himself the deepest. Watching this I felt battle within myself. The spirit of God being nourished and the enemy getting so upset. Married 11 years and never realizing how I’ve contributed heavily to the dysfunction. Thank you
I'm a teenager but this really spoke to me. I realised that most of my generation's expectations around marriage, sex, relationships, friendships, children and so much more, has stemed from secular ideologies because worldly people are leading these conversations. I'm very grateful for all the podcasts and shout out to the Fabians🥰, as soon as you said that you're starting a podcast I searched it😹. I'm here for it... each and every second of it. God bless you all❤️👏🏽
I love that this spoke to you!!! As a mom of 2 young adults, I think it's a beautiful thing that you would even consider learning from this. I'm 52 and wish I would have really learned in my younger years what it takes to have a successful marriage. No on really tells you how much work it takes. Stay on your path and always keep in relationship with God ❤
I’ve always had a negative outlook on marriage. It used to be more positive when I was a child. The Lord is working on me, and thus podcast was so helpful. Truly brought me to tears.
I needed to hear that. "He was teaching how to speak to him." I don't like when my husband tells me how to say something. I see it as correcting how I speak. But, now that I've realized he is trying to teach me how to speak to him so he hears me, now I choose to be open to hear him. Thank you
I’m not married but I learned so much, I loved the practical technique of exposing the lies, recognising this feeling is not absolute truth but sometimes exaggerated seeds planted by the devil. Being able to say it loud releases the burden on you but gives your spouse a chance to tell you how they feel too. This conversation was really a blessing 💕🙏🏾
SHALOM, I HAD MY POTENTIAL WIFE LEAVE ME... REFUSED TO BE DIRECT AND SET ME DOWN WITH HER ISSUE... INSTEAD WENT TO SOCIAL MEDIA AND ALLOWED TWO WOMEN IN A CHURCH SHE JUST MET TO CONVINCE HE TO LEAVE. I WAS THERE FOR OUR BAPTISM... I FELT THE ENERGY. UNFORTUNATELY MANY BELIEVE THE DEVIL CAN'T DECEIVE THOSE IN THE CHURCH... THEN YOU GET TOLD HE'S DECEIVING YOU... CRAZY. REGARDLESS I HAVE PROPHETIC DREAMS THAT COME TO PASS, ONE WAS WE DON'T HAVE MUCH TIME. IF SHE LEAVES ME, THEN WAR WILL COME AND I WILL BE ON A SOLO PATH WORKING FOR THE KINGDOM. ***DON'T LISTEN TO DEVIL, LISTEN TO LOVE*** THIS IS WHAT TMH WANTS! LOVE! ALL LOVE!
This is BY FAR one of the most issue-inclusive podcast I have EVER seen/heard. You all left NO STONE unturned and it is the deepest deeply-rooted topic at the utmost level of prolific level. Thank. You. ALL!! 🙏🏽
Ladies I fought for mine once I was truly Saved about 15 yrs into a 27 yr marriage, and my hubby was far from.. I fought on my knees, studied and learned and got counseling for years. I could not save the relationship with the Enemy continually trying every way to divide. Criticism, alcohol, money, worldly things. I know God was/is for me, the Mother, worker, faithful wife, but I guess it wasn’t in HisWill that I stay with such a man who refused the Lord, tho the kids & I were baptized. He refused to go to counseling and just deserted me and left while we were at church. God hates divorce but also stiff neck atheists who lie, cheat and steal. I live happily single fully dedicated to God, no man.
@@foreverlovegreen8843it’s very tiring and saps energy out of you. I decided to leave when I realized it’s not up to me to fix him or keep taking him to the “river” to be fixed. So knowing that I did all I could, gave me peace. & once I had peace - I began seeking healing actively. -books, worship , support community, dreaming again …
When one spouse demonstrates a behavior in the power of the spirit….it reveals the other spouses lack. When the correction is in the right tone, the bigger issue wasn’t you but your spouses heart……. 🎯
This was SOOOO GOOOODDD! When y'all started talking about the devil trying to get us to leave our spouse!!!! I used to have those exact thoughts whenever I got upset with my husband. The only difference was the devil would tell me to leave and take the children. He would glamorize the idea of divorce and coparenting every other weekend because I would get more time to myself, and he would try to appeal to my ego by telling me that my husband doesn't appreciate me but when I leave he'll finally see what he had and constantly begging me to come back and I would be "the one that got away". In my pursuit for Jesus and speaking the name of Jesus over my marriage God revealed to me that the Devil was trying to use me to bring my husband unimaginable emotional pain and send him in a downward spiral. God had to give me the tools and scripture to cast that enemy out of my mind. This past year God has truly transformed our marriage!
I’m not married, but hearing Mrs. Fabien talk about how she needs multiple days to really internally process stuff makes me feel so seen!! It’s hard with my girlfriend since we’re opposites in that way and I feel a pressure as the man to resolve things, but to know that it’s actually okay to take time to be with God first is so encouraging 😖😭
I’m not religious, but I really enjoyed this talk from all of their perspectives! The last story about the AT&T guy got me! Melody was so funny, but that question, “are you happy,” really gets a lot of people. Often times marriage will come to many points when you ARENT happy, like CD and Melody were saying. Just because you arent happy in that current point of your relationship doesn’t mean you didn’t make an oath to work it out and do life with your partner. Beautiful stories!
I listened first on Spotify but here listening again. This was SO edifying. I am single but there was a lot of great information talked about. Please have them back more. They were awesome ❤
As someone who is preparing myself to someday be a wife, listening to this was so helpful and beneficial for my spirit. I'm gonna have to save this and come back to it later. This is what I needed.
I'm listening to the podcast now, and it's soooo good! I love the part Melody mentions about recognising the devil was at work. At it is such a good handle for relationships even beyond marriages. Take every thought captive and present it before the Lord. Thank you so much for this, the Fabiens and The Perrys. It's such a blessing. Shout out to you too Kim, we love you!❤
Whew!! Lemme tell u that hit me right in the spirit it made me think of my ex and me dumping him as i got closer to God and all the methods that would cause me to slip up from time to time but eventually i stood strong and realized what was happening spiritually and i consistently resist his tactics no matter what random avenues the devil uses praise God!
As a newlywed (who’s approaching our first year!) THIS 🔥 This has been such a humble, encouraging and Spirit led conversation. We needed this both for perspective and for language to communicate to one another. This conversation is blessing marriages and families. Thank you for being real and sharing much needed wisdom 🤍
That "lust of the eyes" story was eye opening. Thank you for reminding us we gotta have a battle mindset to protect our marriages. I'm not married yet but this was needed.
I had to listen to this in increments. There was so much emet (truth) that it forced me to have to pause and evaluate the actions or lack thereof in my marriage. I'm experiencing a separation from my husband that pushed me to look at previous abandonment I had undergone. Despite the separation, I still fight in prayer for my marriage against the enemy who I know only comes to kill, steal, and destroy.
We do the hand on the arm with one “excuse me.” We always get complimented on our children’s manners but it’s because my mom’s wisdom was drilled into my head when I had kids. -She said, “how you allow them to act in your home, is how they will act in public.” So whenever addressing behavior I would ask, “do I want that behavior out there?” And that’s how we decided what was ok, and what wasn’t.
I listened to the podcast and I’m very glad that you all were comfortable to open up about the warfare side of marriage because I am single and this is good knowledge for me to have when entering a marriage. I experience a lot of warfare now but not a lot of believers are aware of these things.
This episode is my favorite, not because the others lacked value but because it resonates with my Haitian heritage. I'm proud of Mr. Daniel's wisdom, which has blessed my husband and me. It's unfortunate that Haiti is often associated with mostly Voodoo, overlooking its strong Christian leaders. Melodie and Daniel serve as wonderful mentors, and their impact is significant. Thank you, Perry family, for your inspiring message.
Wow, the fact that this speaks so much to my marriage!!! It's literally as if I came to each couple and said "it's ok to use my husband and I as examples for your show"; down to the dreams!!! My husband kept having dreams about me cheating (which I've never struggled with in any relationship...) and literally had to praaaaaaay against those thoughts of things that never happened... Wow, this confirmed that our marriage is definitely stressing the enemy out and he's using the same tactics! NOTHING is new under the SUN.
This got uploaded at the RIGHT time!! Communication tools, Discernment, past examples, legacy, authority in oneness and the recognition of spiritual warfare ... wwhheeww .... Pray for me as I speak to my wife, seek oneness and expose some lies. #MarriageisGodsImage
I remember CD and Melody came out to Camden when I was in youth group and taught on purity. Their ministry is such a blessing. Now, being married, I appreciate this conversation so much. It’s crazy how the enemy does not have a new trick in his book! He uses the same tactics and honestly better for us identify and expose him. It had not been easy to always discern when spiritual ware fare is taking place in our marriage but we’ve recently been seeing how vital it is to be on guard. And to have friendships, accountability, mentors that love Jesus and are spirit led as we continue to mature spiritually. We have those people in our lives but I usually shy away from reaching out to them because of fear of sharing too much. But I’m SO grateful that you guys shared your stories because it helps me know, “oh it’s not just me” and to be bold enough to pray against the attacks and seek council. To the Perry’s and the Fabien’s, Thank you.
I don't tend to watch any podcast from start to end due to time... but this was way too good. Part 2 please. The 4 of you have a great presence together. Invaluable advice and wisdom shared and delivered beautifully.
The world, especially all the men and women digesting all that “red pill” rhetoric need to hear this. This conversation is anointed. The wisdom, revelation and tools received in this talk is gold!
Thank you guys for bearing your hearts on the topic and revealing the depth and lengths of the enemies plans against marriages. Many marriages including those that are yet to happen will be better because of this🙏🏾
This episode was exactly what I needed to hear. Preston, Jackie, CD, and Melody, thank you so much for being vessels of ministry for the Lord. God used this episode to answer so many questions and to encourage both me and my husband. These written words don’t hold the weight of thankfulness I feel in my heart. Because you shared, we were finally able to have deeper communication and it definitely drew us closer.
I am single but try to prepare myself in case God had marriage in the plan for me. Recently I have undergone a level of warfare that I have only encountered 1 other time in my life. I was truly at a breaking point and listening to this helped me break out when she spoke about the enemy telling her to leave. So much of what they said shined light on things for me that helped me stand firm and fight! Thank you to all 4 of you for being faithful to God.
I’m listening to the podcast and wow ! My husband is being attacked with the same nightmares! It made me feel some type of way because I didn’t understand what was going on. I’m so grateful for this episode !
My husband has been attacked with these nightmares many of times. Loved this podcast and the emphasis on confession and fighting TOGETHER. I really needed to hear this. Dreams like this can bring on shame but there’s nothing to be ashamed of once one realizes it’s a spiritual attack. Will likely do a repeat listen
I can’t even begin to put into words how much I appreciate this episode. Thank you so much. May God continue to bless and use y’all for His honor and glory
YOOO fam! This is one of the most profound episodes of With the Perry’s! There are so many gems you can’t just listen to it once to catch them all! Such a timeless conversation! Love y’all for this ❤
This was EVERYTHING!! I’m in an awesome marriage for 23 years and all of this was a complete blessing to me. I so want to send this to at least three couples… I know needs to hear this. Wow… what a blessing this conversation is MORE… MORE … MORE 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
The timing for this episode couldn’t have been better. Having one of the hardest few weeks in my 7 year marriage and could feel God telling me to soften up. Jackie was on it with meditating on how we feel vs meditating on the word and Gods direction. Thank you for this podcast. 🙏🏿
I listened to this the other day on Spotify and told myself that this was one I needed to sit down, dissect, and digest....Needless to say, I just got so excited to pop up on RU-vid. Praise be. 👏🏼 Round two, here I come.
Very powerful and needed! Literally the words were taken from my brain today as a wife and conversations we've recently had!!! Love my Sister Melody Fabian, she's the real deal! Went to school with her! ❤❤😊 Love the Perry's always holds me accountable in my marriage and I'm 19 years in my marriage! I pray that God continues to bless you both & the Fabien's and keeps your families and ministries!!! 🙏🙏🙏 The devil is definitely at war w/ our marriages...🤔🙌
Imma need yall to start dropping at 2pm because I need something with substance to watch rn 😤😫 Im tired of hitting the "Notify Me" button 🙄😭 Anyways love yall 🤎
This has to be the best conversation I ever heard in my entire life! I have never been in relationship in all my 25 years of living but I do know the day I do, this video will forever be a reference! GOD BLESS YOU ALL
Excellent interview! I advise all married couples to listen to this. I'm single, and it blessed my soul. It is my prayer that the Lord send me a spiritually mature Man of God!
Just to add as he said this in the video...maturation is a process. Be open that your spouse may not come spiritually matured, may be a progress or process for them as we are all in the process of maturing. ♥️ That is something the Lord has been showing me. Cause he had to tear my list up. Lol, my spiritual list i required was exhaustively long and unattainable because I couldn't even measure up to my list without Christ. So how could I expect my desired man to do so?
I am speechless! I am so thankful what a profound conversation…god is goooood! The dream part hit HARD for me. For a whole week these dreams came out of nowhere, and I wasn’t sure if it came from god or not. I feel as though god lead to me this conversation and I know now those dreams did NOT come from God. Those dreams brought nothing but hurt and emotions, I know God would not want me to feel that way. ❤
12m What a perfect casting, a relevance of life. Thank you so much, all 4 of you. I've never been privileged to such a conversation of real life. I wish this was available years ago. Appreciate you. May GOD bless your marriages always in every aspect.
The devil does hate y’all’s marriage because this conversation right here is breaking chains. God bless you all for providing this blue print and guide to prepare singles who are not married yet and also married folks
This Episode was fire shed so much light into how to live daily & approach to scenarios. The "Exposing a Lie" thing can help expand the honesty without having to reserve certain thoughts that can nest and grow.
THE PODCAST WAS GREAT! I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE THE VIDEO ON IT!!!!!!! THANK YOU LORD FOR THE PERRY'S AND THE FABIEN'S AS THEY HELP GUIDE OTHERS TO A MORE HOLY WAY OF LIFE. THANK YOU LORD!
This session is so weighty in such a good way my oh my, this is something to always pull out when you need to massage your heart to get through difficulties in a marriage. I’m not even married yet or dating, but this is such a good conversation to equip yourself under along with the word of God to have in your tool box ❤🙏🏾
I know this was set for couples but man this has blessed me as a single. I really feel like I got so much wisdom and understanding from CD and Melody's stories and strategies with going to God and accountability partners. It honestly helped me a lot! Can't wait to hear more on their PodCast!
