How To Figure Out What To Do With Your Life (with Dr. Richard Koestner) 

I suggest an astronaut. Good luck stranger on the internet

Reach for the stars!

i am on heavy dose of psychedelics currently, funniest shit i ever seeen

thought it was just me

So that wasn't my video buffering? I closed the screen pretty much immediately after pressing play. I figured it was just my wifi

@@bijumbasph6445 how was it?

@@bijumbasph6445 NIGHTMARE NIGHTMARE NIGHTMARE

I saw an interview from Mark Rober where he said something along the lines of "people ask me how to have success as a youtuber. the first thing i wanna know is why you want to become one? if it's for money or fame, i'd suggest you give up. having money as a goal just put's too much at stake. when i started my channel i had a stable job, so i didn't feel any pressure if i didn't become famous or couldn't earn money from the small viewership." it basically follows the mario effect principle he so loves. the youtube channel with money as the goal are equivalent to the people in his social experiment who lost points everytime they failed. the lack of likes would make those who want fame to give up eventually. the ones who start a channel just to give it a go or because they have something they just wanna put out there are those who had the points on the corner, but didn't lose any. they could fail with no fear.

Hell yeah

To be honest, it didn't really resonate with me because motivation and meaning were automatically associated with work. I'm the kind of person that has absolutely no ambition or motivation for anything work related, and I've been trying my whole life to not be valued as worthless by other people because of it. My motivation only works torwards improving myself and learning new things, and not by getting stuck and dependent on a "worker's title" or something like that. I still get the point of not forcing yourself to build a meaning and satisfaction from the wrong career, it's just not my case. There will never be a part of me that will see work as anything other than constant suffering for the sake of others and for survival, which invalidates it because it makes life not worth living for me.

@@StarmenRock when you are referring to work, is it only work who gives money or is it anything that demand effort to make ? (Edit : i didn't finished listening to the podcast)

@@norskeya.4723 specifically work torwards money and status. Doing stuff for other people, voluntary work, hobbies, doing chores, exercising, admiring art and enjoying nature etc are all extremely easy and rewarding to me. People around me constantly compliment me on my drive towards these actions that they themselves consider dificult if not impossible but also codemn me for not being able to hold my autistic and bipolar ass on a job for more than a week while having my inflammatory digestive syndrome pretty much making life unbearable due to immense stress. I've always been terrible at "working for sucess", it started with a terrible school life and childhood riddled with suicide attempts and overall self destructive behaviors since I was 7, and only managed to graduate with a G.E.D at 20. College was impossible for me even though I tried three different majors... all resulting in failing so hard I got kicked out of all three in two different paid universities even when everything in my life was revolving around studying and trying not to shit myself at least during class. I'm currently unemployed and getting help from my folks since november 2021, which was when I self harmed myself so bad for being fired and losing my partner due to all these troubles that I couldn't even leave my house, sleep, bathe and feed myself, not that the food would stay in me for more than 10 minutes or wouldn't come out as just blood and mucus through the other end. So far being jobless has led me to lose around 26kg (almost 30% of my weight in less than a year), improving my eating and sleeping habits infinitely, being able to keep exercising every single day even through pain, made my illness much more manageable, helped me stop smoking cigs, weed, drinking and binge eating and also helped me through a mild but still present porn addiction. For the first time in my life I feel like I have the power to change and improve myself, and all it took was almost killing myself several times trying to please the world in a way I really couldn't. I'm still deeply ashamed of being supported by my family which I'm not really close to due to all these issues that have been prevalent since childhood, but now I know shame and self hatred won't do Jack for me. Finding something I can do for money now seems impossible where I live (Rio de Janeiro) due to not only the horrible economy and social structure, but the extreme competition with other people that are "normal" everywhere I go, so my plans are to move to a rural area or at least a small town where I can live humbly and with purpose as soon as I can. I'm not sure if it will work out, but at least it's better than staying here and wasting my time being in suffering all the time. Today makes around a year since my last suicide attempt and things changed so much in so little time compared to how much I tried to change for the world that people who know me all my life don't even recognize me anymore. Most still shame me for being "a bum", but now I don't really care that much since now I can do what they can't for the first time in my life. Work and institutionalized education has never brought me anything but absolute suffering with no meaning, unending and unproductive self hatred that wasted my youth entirely.

@@StarmenRock irmão, estamos no mesmo barco. Um dia de cada vez

Happy birthday

Get out while you still can

@@wendigo2442 get out of what...

Did you get out yet?

We probably don't really

You need timestamps. We do not.

???

Do both

@@norskeya.4723 Piss in ones pants basically?

@@counterfeit1148 nice strat

Turn up the volume lol. Audio was fine for me

@@drewlovely2668 my audio is maxed out, i wouldnt have commented otherwise lmfao

@@drewlovely2668 And then a random ad bursts your eardrums

@@MrOiram46 what are ads?

Welcome to youtube! Pay or watch endless ads.

ADBLOCK

ARC self determination theory, is it?

essentially yes @@love-wisdom

Same

Just live the best u can, even if it sucks

I hate you too.

Don’t do it

@@ImBlueDontBe well thanks for the reminder, but im not promising anything

just dont be white bro

haha what?

*Someone somewhere acknowledges racism exist* "I gUeSs iT's BaD tO bE wHiTe tHeN" It's not. It's bad to be racist. Pls stop being cringe over something so simple to get.