How to get a toddler to listen without raising your voice 

yes a childs nightmares lmao it works~!

Preach!

charlene hughes-peseta I AGREE!!!!!!!

charlene hughes-peseta ohhh yeah i agree, everytime i do it my child also stare at me ,

Pearl Ishsha 😂😂😂😂

Yeahhh

They are more likely most comfortable with the mother so they think they can get away with more.

I remember as a small child that I would listen to people I was more unsure about. Or strangers (like neighbors or something) they scared me because I didn’t know them well, and I would listen because I was more scared of what could happen if I didn’t listen. I think I was more scared of people than normal kids, but I think there is something to say about kids listening to people they are unsure about.

Eduno Eduno wow you’re sooo cool. Does that comment make you feel better?

Katie Smith yes that it is my 2 sons they will listen to other people but they will not listen to me as their mother

i think thats not only with children, me an 18 year old, my mom could literally scream at me and fight and scold about me not doing anything and i wouldnt really care, my dad would say one word about me not doing dishes and id start bawling, all because when i was growing up my mom was always the one who gave instructions and basically raised me, my dad was always there, just that he didnt really put much effort in all that. So now i do what he says but not what my mom sayd idk how to explain it, im not afraid of him or anything its just the way it is

it's funny that you can hear her say 'HEY!' so loudly and the commanding voice she used... She is not ASKING the kid, she is TELLING the kid she expect to see him do, even if she continue saying 'don't expect the kid to follow through, you need to help (and basically do it yourself). So in the end, the kid will stop listening to the Hey command knowing very well you will do it instead... So i am sorry if i call this BS. i applied a simple principle ; 1- i will not repeat myself 2- bad behavior (and not listening to the first warning) bring isolation. 3- Always do what you said you were going to do. (put you into your room, no tv, no distraction, BED!) this principle stop me from insanity with 2 boys that were at their peak 'performance' at 5 and 8. They were driving us crazy and didn't know what to do with them anymore. 'psy's didn't help at all. Always make it worst. After i apply these principles, the bad behaviour 'the constant fighting' 'playing with food' 'throwing stuff' stop in 2 days. 2 days! thats all it took before we would be able to go to restaurant, friends, shopping again!!!

Exactly. You could tell any daycare or elementary school teacher this and they’d not be shocked at all. Ofc you can still have different approaches while still using positive reinforcement and redirection from negative behaviors and not have to tell you just have to find what works best for each kid. Slightly alter your approach or method. Some kids need to follow, some like to help, some need to be threatened or given a reward, some need to be told no, and then be redirected to another toy or activity or even be given an incentive or motivation. But yelling shouldn’t be required unless they continue to not listen despite trying every positive or gentle approach.

Therese Ward Older generation so often assumes their way works. No matter how many counseling patients it created:)

Choices even can be as simple as “do you want to go play with the cars? No? Okay what do you want to play with?” Even that’s a simple type of a choice for an 18 month old but it’s a big deal. And we give choices to 2 and 2 ½ year olds in my classroom as well. They understand so much more than many people think. They tend to not realize how smart and how aware children are. The choices are things like “do you want to play with the kitchen toys or would you like to go play with the cars over there?” Or “do you want to read this book or this book?” “Do you want to try the potty again later?” Everything can be a choice or seem like a choice to them and then they feel much happier knowing they have full control or seemingly so over their actions.

Gigi C like my demons, I mean kids

Gigi C amen!

Raven Bailey 😂😂😂 hilarious!!!

Gigi C Newsflash: 2s are not "terrible". Misbehaving and tantrums are beneficial.

Nadiya Nanoha says who???

Yes! I scrolled and scrolled looking for this comment lol.

I was about to comment on that and saw this comment already!

Panhandle Paranormal LMAO too funny. Yeah right, not happening

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Panhandle Paranormal I think it's a you problem. If from the start you keep your composure when soothing a baby. Baby will emulate you. I have seen my cousins raise their bratty kids with yelling and that's how the kids are too. My sister corrects my niece with kindness and at 1yr she is manipulative.... 1yr Outside please... Me No 1yr outside please Me No it's cold 1yr It's cold. Sweater? Me Why 1yr Outside cold Me we will go outside later 1yr Hug? I hug her 1yr Outside please. Have never seen her throw a tantrum or cry other then when she wakes up alone and calls for mama and calms down when we respond to her.

lmfao thanks for the tip from a non-parent but you can shove it up your ass until you have a kid that will do anything to defy you by nature no matter what tone you give them. Some of us have jobs we cant be late for and my kindness technique has only taught my kid to defy teachers adults and authority. Sure my kid was sweet as a 1yr old but honey, they grow up and other kids teach them to be ugly anyway.

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monica villanueva "in my opinion"

The first thing I noticed was her shirt🤣🤣🤣so cute

Ashley B. At that age assault.

charlene hughes-peseta I was only referring to the title “how to get a toddler to listen without raising your voice” ........

charlene hughes-peseta because asking someone to come to the table for dinner, take away tablet, put away toys, give choices....definitely abuse.

Ashley B. Lol I was just joking.....i remember when I had to deal with my 16 year younger sibling.....its challenging, and that sometimes really feels like the only solution. But truthfully, just let them be, in a few years, it will be a non issue, and you guys will be laughing about it.

Mary Festa how old? I am a preschool teacher and normally if they start screaming or throw themselves on the floor I told him that’s not how you get what you want and they can come and sit in a chair when they are ready

The ages I teach are 17mo-26mo but I use it around 22mo or older. Just depending they on whether they have the comprehension to understand.

Care for their need first

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Can't? Or WON'T?

Miss B won’t

Veronica Rangel thinking 🤔 exactly the same 😂😂

Why does she even say "hey" when talking to such a young child. And her tone is definitely loud

Veronica Rangel

No, children need to understand that they should do things because the need to be done, not for praise

Andreen McLean that’s right

Lily Raimey she gave him a big smile, I think he can see she's pleased with him

Andreen McLean OBVIOUSLY a toddler doesnt understand that concept yet. And since you want that to be the case...then your child never has to thank you for doing your responsibility as a parent. You brought him to this world by choice. Don't expect praise for taking care of your own choices.

Andreen McLean its also never to early to show appreciation. You don't have to throw a party but a smile and a thank you goes a long way. Children aren't robots. You can't teach empathy and appreciation if you refuse to model it.

ua zoo tau zoo white exactly! She has a stern raised voice as it is! She's not shouting but she is loud

.Well, everyone have their own way of doing things.

Elena Kushner what book?

Elena Kushner flawed logic. Just because one thing is true doesnt mean the opposite is too. You sound like those annoying people who respond to "you look nice today" with "what, so I dont look nice all the time?!"

Ada Harrison 😂😂

its wrong to even call her a girl she hasnt decided yet ...... lolz

Me neither. I’m here out of curiosity.

Lily Raimey, oddly enough this works on adults, especially males. Give them options, win them over to your way of getting things done by making them think it was their idea in the first place. They will complete tasks quickly and minus the murmuring and complaining. This ignites creativity and problem solving and synergy amongst those whom you work with or work for you! Hope this helps!

Love Bug lol

Lily Raimey Hahahahaha. You are nosey or curious.

Lmao same.

Eduno Eduno 😂😂😂😂😂

That's how you will be treated in the old age.

Nadiya Nanoha obviously you don't know the concept of a joke. And furthermore, I got spanked as a child, I would never hurt my Mother, your assumption is idiotic. Maybe try having a kid then speaking.

charlene hughes-peseta Very usual assumption then if you are an abusive parent, all other parents are abusive too....or they are not parents. Hm, and people still doubt that spanking fucks you for life. Get help. And I don't mean at as insult.

Spankings gets their attention real quick

tammy g. They might pee