Women if he's not gay or trying to burrow money from you, then there's a 99.9 %chance he wants you, but how he wants is what you need to find out. Because if a guy just want to make sex you, that's the only time you've going to hear from them but now if he wants a relationship leading to marriage. He's going to get to know who you are as a person and the flip side of that is he's going to analyze his self look to see if he can make your better or would it made it worse. If he's a real man meaning he has respect for his self he would step back if he sees his self being a burden to you. It's not that he doesn't like you enough, he just knows his self better than you do. And for those that haven't notice but Apollonia opinions are for civilize people, trying to improve themselves not for people that don't have anything better to do but go online writing silly comments on people's channels. Yeah I know the truth hurts!!
wow, well said, the advice that she gives is "only for mature men and women whos serious about dating and finding somebody to grow with , not for ghetto minded adults whos looking to play all their immature life , then end up miserable and complaining about why aint no good dateable people. You have to examine yourself first before you can have a serious relationship.
I just use texts for setup dates only, or unless there is an emergency! The same goes for the phone, men and women need to talk in person to build a relationship!
@@hanzohattori755 it' s simple- reveal nothing important, about yourself. No matter, how much she begs you, to. If she' s into you, she' ll have patience and respect your privacy.
Damn that sounds like a lot of work. To be honest, most girls aren’t worth that much work. And many of the guys that go through all that work, just want to end up on top... I prefer the more humble ones. Every one has a price tag and a perception of their self value. A lot of them today have a false sense of worth and value the wrong things in men and in life. Especially with social media and conditioning of materialism.
i disagree showing your intentions, you can show interest but women are more attracted to men whos intentions are not clear and who has some mystery about him.
Hey Apollonia Ponti. I am a guy who has done some of the things that you mentioned. I was respectful to the girl that I like and I still do love her so much. But I was afraid to make the move and show up for both of us. And when she was backing away, she said that she just wanted to be friends. This hit me like a tonne of bricks and I reacted to it in a very off putting, needy kind of way. I know I need to work on my confidence. I need to recognize and stay true to my values, which would help me a lot in the decisions that I make. I am trying to watch your content to try to find my edge, so that I would be confident if and when I get to meet her again. If she's moved on, then I would be okay, because at least I know she would be happy. I am not being weak when I say this. I am just looking out for myself. I really want her to be happy and I wish that I would be the one to contribute to her happiness.
Not, really. Look at the rich and good looking 6+ feet tall guys... Their women still dig up some lame excuse, to be "unhappy". Problem lies in the way, they' ve been "raised"... Disney bs, Hollywood rom- coms, etc.
So... if women don't like hearing a man complain about his problems, then why does a man have to listen to her problems? I get the 'safe zone' concept kinda, but men look for that nurturing quality in women, so who does he go for comfort if she does not want to hear it? Thus, what is actually left for a man to want a woman on a deeper level if she's not willing to support him emotionally, but she expects him to keep it all together for her?
She wants to hear that you have solutions about your problems not just talking about them. If nobody likes hearing kids whine and complain, what makes you think it sounds better on a grown man??
Sid MeHere you don’t win all time. Who cares if she gave the “we can be friends”. She’s not entitled to your friendship. Walk away or let her know how friendship will work with you. But while she’s in your friend zone you’re dating other women. She had her chance. She can hang out on your time not hers.
I like the attitude and not the beat around the bush! you tell it like it is!. and I don't know about other men but I appreciate the bluntness keep it real real talk! Jaime.
You're only worried about rejection if you genuinely care about the friendship. If you're genuinely not concerned about the friendship, then take your shot. If you really value the friendship, then her suggestions are excellent to simply change the dynamic and narrative and hopefully get her to consider a romantic relationship, too.
Here are a few "options" for escaping the "friend zone" (1) Get yourself a "hobby" such as taking flying lessons, martial arts, or oceanography, if you reside near the ocean. Once she sees how passionate you are about your new interests, than she may want you to transfer some of that "passion" on to her. Psychologists refer to this as the "Transference Syndrome". (2) Wait a few years until she is over 30 yrs old, has 5 kids, gained 90 pounds, and working at Walmart, trying to feed her family on $14.00, eating Hamburger Helper, without the hamburger. Then, she will fall madly in love with you, because you will be the only thing standing between her and future poverty. (3) You might have to find a new woman to involve yourself with. Most American women, by first impressions, decide very quickly, if a certain guy "turns them on." or not. If there is no initial attraction, then you are, typically, consigned to the "friend zone". (4) You might have to leave the US and start dating women from other cultures. In a lot of foreign countries, a guy does not have to be tall, good looking, or even wealthy. In a lot of European nations, if a guy has good manners, good hygiene, and has a sense of humor, hot babes will want to date him.
Absolutely great video!!! If I could say something: guys!!! Friend zone is absolutely powerful, you have no idea how!!! If you know how to use it, do it!!! I absolutely love the friend zone and now, I am the one who friend zone a woman away before she friend zones me...
This video is gold.Packed with sensible advice all of which seems common sense yet so often badly handled by clumsy men.The take away for me was the vital importance of Attraction and Connection which of course is based on shared interests, values and philosophies.
Here are a few "options" for escaping the "friend zone" (1) Get yourself a "hobby" such as taking flying lessons, martial arts, or oceanography, if you reside near the ocean. Once she sees how passionate you are about your new interests, than she may want you to transfer some of that "passion" on to her. Psychologists refer to this as the "Transference Syndrome". (2) Wait a few years until she is over 30 yrs old, has 5 kids, gained 90 pounds, and working at Walmart, trying to feed her family on $14.00, eating Hamburger Helper, without the hamburger. Then, she will fall madly in love with you, because you will be the only thing standing between her and future poverty. (3) You might have to find a new woman to involve yourself with. Most American women, by first impressions, decide very quickly, if a certain guy "turns them on." or not. If there is no initial attraction, then you are, typically, consigned to the "friend zone". (4) You might have to leave the US and start dating women from other cultures. In a lot of foreign countries, a guy does not have to be tall, good looking, or even wealthy. In a lot of European nations, if a guy has good manners, good hygiene, and has a sense of humor, hot babes will want to date him.
You give the best dating advice out of all the women on youtube. It's almost like you've been listening to Alpha Male Strategies lol but keep doing your thing. I've subscribed.
Thought I'd stop by this video for a laugh. Interested to see some tips. Could not stop laughing how materialistic and high expectations of women these days. Theres a reason these women stay single.
Uhh false cu the girl that friend zoned me did it because she met someone a couple months ago. Issue with that is because I have been her closest friend for 3 years. I was always there for her and hung out and got her gifts on her bday and stuff. I was literally her everything. Then a couple months ago this guy comes along that she just met and they already go on multiple dates and shit. I was like hella depressed cuz she meant the world to me and I felt like my 3 years of trying was all for nothing. And it sucks.
Wow!.. I have to absorb all this..some of the things I'm doing right subconciously, but some of the things I haven't thought of. Gives me food for thought to ponder. I'll need to watch all these over again:)
"Talking about your problems is not something we like..." Listen up men. She speaks the truth. Women can't help you emotionally because they are weak and are looking to us to help them emotionally by being rock solid. There is no way around it. Nobody wants to hear your problems. They never will. It crushes relationships. We must hide them. Sad as fuck.
Wow some of the best advice to self improvement ...as a good man who can’t seem to take action to get what he wants this video was very instructional ... even when we know what we want it’s hard to know the proper steps to take... having good advice that comes from a woman herself is life changing. Thanks for a great video
Now I don’t know about you guys.. but for me, my situation is kinda difficult..and long. Soo I met this girl on a trip about 2 years ago I think (?) And we had, what I think was a good time! We hung out and talked! It’s was awesome, for me at least. And well, (this is when I moved from middle school to high school) she was a grade younger than me at the time, soo she stayed in middle school.. while I went onto high school. for me, I kinda thought it would just be weird to talk to her again, especially if I rarely see her over the year. And it really bothered me... so I rarely texted her, and when we do talk, my heart just jumps all over the fuckin place!😭 but I never told her! So anyways this year she became a freshman, that I only see during our lunch break, (did I mention that we txted a lot the year we met? - so much that I told her I was into her) and that I eventually try to avoid her cuz I feel stupid and almost ashamed that i told her I liked her, and plus she never told me if she liked me back- Soo you know I fear rejection now. 🙁 But we slowly start to talk again, to the point where we actually play video games together!😄 (didn’t know she loved games!) but we rarely talk in real life.. like a few words.. a week.. and I just feel lost.. we’ll play games together, and txt a bit, but I’m too embarrassed or scared I guess you could say, to go sit by her and have a normal conversation, cuz I think she’ll think I’m really weird and not want to hang out.. I don’t know, I seem like I think and type too much - but I just have that feeling that she sees me as just a friend, and I don’t know what to do about it - I’ll just go to another girl, and some fucking how she’ll cross my mind, or randomly txt me (extremely rare - it’s me texting her) or invite me to a game and then I just can’t get over her! But I can’t tell if she likes me either - I’ve been studying some body language and all- and from a distance she seems kinda close off... and while I’m at it, I noticed, if i was one side of her, 20 feet away ofc, she’s looking the other way And if I’m there 20 minuets later, she’s looking the other way! And when we catch eye contact - I just feel like I froze, and then she looks away - and it really frustrates me a ton!! I don’t know what do you guys think? TMI? Or what? i know I’m stupid, and even crazy - but I want your guy’s opinion, if possible!
It sounds like you are love struck. Unfortunately if you don't show her how you feel, nothing will change. You can try to be more flirty with her and see her reaction. Then she can either accept it or reject you. But if you are happy with the way things are now and don't want to change the friendship you have, then don't say anything and keep doing what you are doing.
Hi Apollonia I must say you are so beautiful. I love the advice & your wisdom.l wish I knew all of this twenty years ago. Life could've been much sweeter
That’s all I ever was. Friend zoned. That’s why I always heard. You’re so funny and a great guy .... I wish I can find a guy like you. (But not you ) 37 years over and over again. Been doing this since I was 17
There’s a girl I’m into righty now. We’ve know each other for almost 6 months now. She’s Been to my place many times and even spent the night with me twice. But each time I try to make my intentions known to her she always turn it down. Although we still go out together even travel some places together recently. She wouldn’t talk to me for days sometimes. I was worried at the start but now I decided not to bother her whenever she ignores my on . At times she’d just call me and ask if we could meet and go somewhere. Now I don’t know if I should keep expecting anything from her or I should just let her be and move on.
Here are a few "options" for escaping the "friend zone" (1) Get yourself a "hobby" such as taking flying lessons, martial arts, or oceanography, if you reside near the ocean. Once she sees how passionate you are about your new interests, than she may want you to transfer some of that "passion" on to her. Psychologists refer to this as the "Transference Syndrome". (2) Wait a few years until she is over 30 yrs old, has 5 kids, gained 90 pounds, and working at Walmart, trying to feed her family on $14.00, eating Hamburger Helper, without the hamburger. Then, she will fall madly in love with you, because you will be the only thing standing between her and future poverty. (3) You might have to find a new woman to involve yourself with. Most American women, by first impressions, decide very quickly, if a certain guy "turns them on." or not. If there is no initial attraction, then you are, typically, consigned to the "friend zone". (4) You might have to leave the US and start dating women from other cultures. In a lot of foreign countries, a guy does not have to be tall, good looking, or even wealthy. In a lot of European nations, if a guy has good manners, good hygiene, and has a sense of humor, hot babes will want to date him.
So basically your friend-zoned from the beginning it's not always a bad thing. Especially if you are an adultit takes time to get to know someone stead of just running and jumping in the bed and wondering why the relationship didn't work out.. if a woman is not feeling you you definitely going to figure it out pretty quick. She's not going to want to talk to you on the phone text you or spend any time with you. Point blank period.
I'll have 2 shelf this i have wonderful lady friends and would only respect them as such wouldn't ever switch out of friend zone !!! Great advice dear lady !!
Hello Apollonia congratulations on the great work. I am a package member. I recently pulled away from a girl who has asked to raincheck a second date, also said she’ll call back once and didn’t. Moved on with my life, Recently went on a hiking trip with a other girl and she commented on my Instagram joking “You didn’t invite me on your Trip?” Should I ignore or call her out?
So there's this girl that comes around often enough to make wonder why. She seems interested. We've known each other for about a year and recently she's been stopping by out of nowhere just to chit chat. She brought her mom and son today, which I know her son. I never met her mom before. I asked to take me to the store just to see if would and we a fun time going up there. I've always got along with her son. She dropped me off and that was it. I live about 7- 10 miles away from the city but she'll go out of her to come see me about twice a week. I'm not sure if I should ask her out or just not do anything?
I have this woman that we were talkin. I know she was married. And she knew I was married. But we had this great connection. Each other We ended up being with each other once. Maybe it was me. We're having lunch one day. And I told her I know you love me, but you just don't want to admit it. And I meant it as a joke. But I think she took me serious. The next day she didn't respond to my text. The whole thing and that day was Valentine's Day. Later on that evening. I don't know how it happened. When the talking on the phone And I said Happy Valentine's Day. And then that was it. We both work at the same place. But I haven't heard from her since. I'm almost positive. I scared her away. But unfortunately I'm in love with her. Haven't felt like that in years. I never told her. But I think what I said. I know you love me, but you don't want to admit it. I think that's what made her. Walk away from me. Now, what do I do? I have to see you at work everyday. What do I say? Do I ignore her?
If she friends zone you tell her that you're not interested in just being friends. If she says that you can only be friends then tell her adios. Don't give her that power. Walk away from her. It's pointless being in the friend zone.
friendzone is a term for physically matured males and females that still have the highschool mind because through the illusion of this social construct or 'the game' (and how its played), you'll know that being friends with the opposite sex is a catalyst for an endless supply of sex.
One thing about the problem that isn’t always right like the girl who likes me told me what are my problems and I said why should I tell you she said because I will tell you mine if you tell me yours
@apollonia Thank you for all your advice. I have a serious question I would like your honest input on. I have a step cousin who I find very attractive. Although we’re considered step cousins we have barely gotten to know each other over the years. I was wondering what you think about it? Is it weird or wrong? If it’s ok, then how should I approach this in a way that is if possible subtle but still reel her in and have her wanting for us to talk more? I need your help
People drown not because they can’t swim. They drown because they “stay in the water”. If she friendzones you, walk away. Never settle for a setup that you are not looking for.
Hey! You are awesome and ya videos are so informative and make sense :) I like someone since couple months, conveyed my feelings to her a month ago. She said right now we can be good friends and I’m gonna think on it. We text everyday and hangout once a fortnight. She invited me at her home for dinner. She lives with her Mom and her Mom knows about us and even she hungs our with us sometimes over the weekend. She is also ready to go out with me out of town for a concert. Please lmk when should I propose her again next and how? I’m planning when we go for the concert and before it during the dinner. Appreciate ya suggestions in advance :))
Isn't it best to start a potential long-term relationship with friendship? And if so, how long ideally should that friendship last before we 'get out of the friendship' zone? Are you saying the friendship zone is to be avoided, if a long-term is desired?
After decades of trying to find a girl.....I have found out one thing...it does not matter if you are confident....charming....funny....use body language...and eye contact......if you are 5'3'' you may as well forget about dating!
Actually the way it work 100% if he or she like you its goin to happen . Or if you guys hit it off its gonna happen . If not you are bein move to the friend zone .. it's that simple.
I spent 3 I thought wonderful years with a girlfriend and the night I was going to ask her to marry me, my father committed suicide that day. I was living on the other side of the country when it happened. When I came back from the funeral I found out that she was sleeping around on me. So I find it hard to trust women anymore! What do you think? Am I crazy to think that someone will love me for me! Thoughts? ?
Man I don’t know what to say! It seems kinda depressing... but I’m pretty sure there is another girl, you can trust and that you both are interested in each other! Just.. keep trying!
Apollonia, I love the way you say "Woman wants"! I can't wait to here you say that in your videos - I think I know why I love it, but I will leave that to your imagination.
Thanks for this. I feel comfortable talking with other guys or a woman I’m not interested in, and my speech reflects that. The subtleties that communicate where I’d want to be have not been intuitive. Gratitude 🙏
I wish I would’ve watched this video beforehand. I recently just been friend zoned. But she still initiate convos to see how my day is going etc etc. But she still ask questions that are deep. She even told me that i have a lot of layers that she likes. How do I get her interest back?
Walk away. Let her miss you. Don't be an ass about it, but show her you got things going on. Then after a month of two, "make time" for her. If she doesn't bother calling you or reaching out, then you were never important to her. Always be willing to walk away. Be a man, not a lap dog who comes at her beckon call.
Been there once done that. Like Juan said Treat her like a job and if you don't get her (like a job) like in my case to move on. There's better younger women for you out there. In my case, I don't want to be in relationship but do other things with the women that do want the time. Less stressful.
This attitude can be confusing! Take the time to work on yourself so you can identify what you are willing to accept in a relationship. Here is a blog I wrote to assist you! www.apolloniaponti.com/how-to-love-yourself-again/ Best, Apollonia
Who is going to make the man feel wanted? Nobody. Well I guess maybe his mom. However she tries to compete with her too for his attention. It's all about attention. It is my belief that women today suffer from hypo-empathy.
Men want a woman and find friends easy to come by. Women find getting a man easy and find getting friends hard. This is why women friend zone. You can't let them get to that mind set of seeing you as a friend.
