How To Get Over A Breakup FAST | Jordan Peterson 

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Thank you

Dealing with a long term breakup for a girl that I was saving up to buy a ring for and she blindsided me completely. Never gave me good closure, I ultimately know its for the best. But this comment is spot on, every time I try and suppress the feeling of heartbreak, or try and distract myself, the feeling gets amplified. If the emotions come in, let it in and eventually the feelings will get more numbed and numbed. There is no half measures about a serious breakup, you have to do it the right way and you will come out better for it. There will be bad days, there will be good days and eventually the bad days will come far and in between.

I completely agree. You have to work to replace and then strengthen. You don’t leave the bowl in pieces; you figuratively put it back together with gold. And it becomes more valuable than it was before. And more worth preserving.

I started reading an article on grief and when it got to the part where it said, “the best part of you dies,” I stopped reading because I knew, in this case, the best part of me had not died and I was not about to frame it that way. So I picked up my best parts and painstakingly started putting myself back together. I used Evan Marc Katz’ material for the reframing about what I could do better next time and so I’d never make the same mistakes again (which I haven’t) and ... well, it wasn’t fast. But it got done. Tons of writing and meta-analysis, walking and talking and getting grounded. I went to the batting cages daily and bashed the shit out of baseballs, forced myself to eat healthfully even though nothing had flavor. Slept crazy amounts, cried for months. Threw a ton of shit away and wrote out a one step per month month-by-month plan. It took ten months to really pull myself together, all brute force. Then discovered Prozac, which helped me finally get my head above water. But all the stuff he’s saying here... that’s the work. There will be no “fast” about it for some of us. But that’s the work if you don’t want to live the rest of your life broken and jaded and bitter.

how you're doing better

@@karthikvnair7621 yes

..gonna make it to the grave, and then it won't matter.

I’m struggling. It’s been two years. I hate this feeling.

Never thought I’d feel this kind of pain.

Hold the line brother

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Bullshit

Damn, I felt that

Haha sorry man. Breakups are part of life I guess. To me they are empowering becauser they free your time and energy for other things

Literally the same.

Same

Pain

God bless!

People are traumatised and unhealed. It takes a lot to heal. I pray you will find your soul tribe ❤️

🙌🏼

No its not 90% ...100% of people can be assholes..just look for the ones that share your values...dont take the first best thing that walks along!

When I was young, I used to go fishing with my father. One day, I caught a big beautiful fish but it somehow slipped away. To which my Father replied, *"Don't worry, there are lots of fishes in the pond."*

Sean Marc Nipper hahahaha!

Same

Minus the Whats crap bots pushing the phone numbers.

It was interesting but I think I missed the main point

Ye

No

Hurts so bad, man.

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Yes, pierced me open again... release release release

Where in the video does Jordan say that? I missed and can’t find it.

Feel ya, me before yesterday

Same here, but hours ago. I didn´t get the how to on this video

@@eltinchote First, you figure out what went wrong. Second, see the bigger picture, DON'T assume that its ALWAYS your fault. There were lots of factors that lead to your breakup. This will be hard cause you might be an emotional mess at the moment. Third, you use the information you gathered from what went wrong in the past and use it to avoid making the same mistakes in the future or use it as a tool to forsee where your future relationships are going. Like for example, let's say your recent relationship ended because she/he cheated. Examine why she/he cheated. Don't blame yourself, it's not your fault. Unless you cheated too. But if you didn't, then analyse why they cheated. Maybe you weren't always there for them in the relationship, maybe you slowly drifted apart because you had a major argument, etc. The point is, once you have analysed and determined the problem that caused the split, you'll know that when something similar happens again, you're prepared to find a different solution. You'll have a clear head on what to do. So yeah, i got a clear head now. It still hurts, but you gotta move on no matter how disappointed you are. It's your life, why do you want to spend your days with something that's killing you inside? Let it go and do what makes you happy. Sleeping around with strangers does not make you happy. It'll make you feel like shit after it's done. Trust me on that one.

Garrius Tius hope your doing ok ❤️

@@mysticalpineapple7263 i guess i am. thank you for wishing. :)

I agree, that helps. But you’re only suppressing your feelings. Running from all those built up emotions will later catch up to you in the future.

Or take up new physical activity, Come back to who you were before meeting that person.

I don't have friends sad

It sounds like you are avoiding the falling into the same pit again. How is what you describe going to help you not repeat the same mistake if not by sheer chance of you not falling for the same kind of person (which unlikely, you get attracted to specific things) or what ever you improved on while being busy was just what you need to avoid the same mistake (which as I said must be based on luck since you didn't think about the mistake to come up with the activity which would help you avoid it). So you made a mistake, you can't ignore it and you can't find a solution what do you do?

intellectual unicorn agreed

Well said. I was in the same position recently. His issue was jealousy No matter how hard I tried to reassure him that I wasn't doing anything, and that I wasn't that type of person he never could get over his insecurities. It would inevitably lead to a lot of fighting. You get to a point where you just get tired of trying. You realize you can't fix the person. You just have to let go and move on. Love without trust can not survive. I wish you luck in finding someone who will make you happy.

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Sounds like a you problem.

Same thing happens to me, I always give give give to my partner and love them to fucming death and its always ke that gets left

You wont, people are horrible.

Check out Harville Hendrix's work, it sounds like it may help you. Good luck!

Likewise my dude. I was dumped yesterday and I’ve been crying like a baby

Need

It’s 4 am and I’m feeling it too. Sending love. I’m here for you ❤

whats stopping us, lets do it

Well there's one for men but you're better off staying away lol. I do think that's something that can't functionally exist, like Communism. Unfortunately. Being alone and actually feeling the pain is still the best way but sometimes it's inconvenient. Most people manage it with caffeine, alcohol, or pornography which are unsustainable despite seeming necessary. I think the best way is to just find other stuff to do that doesn't involve trying to find a romantic partner bc he who tries will be wasted (Alice in Chains lol)

Omg That's fucking brutal Disgusting, outrageous and apaling. I feel you. Peace and love

someone once told me "Your friend is your friend until the day he isn't your friend anymore".

fuck man

Colton Weir sometimes friends can make the worst enemies.

Pussy is a powerful thing. Dont take it personally.

Thumbs up for you staying loyal brother!

You remind me of my younger self, brother. I recently wrote something to another friend of mine, and I thought you might benefit from it. I'll paste it here. We can very briefly review the basics. Generally speaking, men and women will have different goals in life. Women generally know what they need to do during the course of their lives - it is their biological mandate to bear children and raise a family. They have a relatively short biological clock, too. Men, on the other hand, have to figure out (usually from scratch) what they need/want to do. We also aren’t limited by the same biological clock, which means we can (and likely should) direct our long term focus on our personal and professional development, creating a legacy, and attaining childbearing “readiness” (becoming financially independent, etc). It seems to me your focus is flipped - you may have been placing all your eggs in the wrong basket - somehow focusing on your relationship(s) which is more of what women need to do before their eggs dry up. Excuse the pun. Remember women don’t chase after men - they chase after successful men. Generally, they wait at the finish line to pick up the winners, because successful men are the prize. Ask yourself are you chasing after an imaginary prize, or are you going to develop yourself into being the prize? Chase success, attain it, and you’ll naturally find yourself in the company of high-value women. However, you should be chasing success regardless of whether there are women in the picture. Chase success so you can unlock your own potential for impacting the world. Chase success so you can reach your peak physical, mental, emotional, and financial health. You owe it to yourself, no one else. Lift, read, pursue your passions and hobbies, develop conscientiousness, network, learn from your relationships, and develop self-esteem independent from your “relationship status”. Only then will the real you begin to surface. Lastly, take the time to evaluate whether you may have had a type of upbringing that led to your focus on relationships. Too many of my close friends who were from broken homes or were raised by single-parents ended up putting an unhealthy emphasis on their relationships, and to their own detriment no doubt. They lacked familial validation throughout their childhood and subconsciously seek to make up for it in their relationships or by entering a relationship in the first place. Going into anything with emotional baggage is no doubt a receipt for disaster. Good luck brother.

It's over because she lied to you? Wasn't there a possibility for understanding and forgiveness? It seems like an overreaction to end a good 4 year relationship over a lie.

Shiroyasha Of course it is over after a lie, especially if the lie is a big one they deals with potential cheating and infidelity. It takes years to build trust, and only seconds to break them forever. You can forgive them but the trust will never be the same once it is broken. Going back to her will make her actually have less respect for you, as it shows you don’t hold steadfastly to your core values of integrity. It means she subconsciously knows she and anyone else can mistreat you with no consequences. It is a strong sign that you have no options, as any man with options in the dating pool would not need to even consider giving up his integrity and dignity like that. No man who lets others mistreat them and break his trust is worth respecting, if he simply bends over to them. Eventually the girl will cheat again, not to mention likely already be concealing more lies to begin with. In many cases, the lie itself is also a lie. She lied about cheating, said nothing happened, both people make up, then later the guy finds out something did happen. Lies on top of lies is not uncommon.

@@anthonylam1078 You've got a pretty bleak picture of relationships my friend.

Two yrs now for me and unfortunately some days still I have to take it day by day . I have to remind myself how his stonewalling was a deal breaker In a huge way.

@@ZFern9390omg this comment! I left my bf, who I loved more than any other man, because of his stonewalling. That will never change if we stay with them and we deserve more. Communication is a minimal requirement, idc how amazing they are in other ways

Don’t know Kevin. I’m dying still lol. I have learned to love myself more & spent almost every single day at the driving range ha ha. Hard? An understatement to describe the situation. It is more like unbearable but as humans somehow someway we will survive. I said to myself, “I am done with LOVE.”

This is what I need. I tend to overthink, and with these thoughts, it will, thus, affect my emotions. The harder it is to control your thoughts, the harder it will be for you to control your emotions. To be honest, it is hard for me to control both of my thoughts and emotions, and it took me months of crying and self pity. It just doesn't go away. The time I realized that this happened for a reason and I must not wreck myself too much over this, the better I felt the following weeks. Though, I stalked my ex and found out that he has someone new, and it felt like I got back on the first few days of my breakup. In short, don't be scared to let out and feel your emotions, work on your self-esteem, and prevent the urge to stalk or contact your ex. Work on yourself. Focus on you, not on him or her.

@@fluffyfelix539 I'm an overthinker as well, I just got blocked out of a 5 month relationship and I knew it was gonna happen an hour or so before bc of my anxiety and overthinking..

It's difficult. Some days I'm okay and feel recovered, and then other days I'm just dying inside. It's so painful.

Take my hand, let's walk through the valley together because I too want to get to the other side.

More Power To You.

you are lucky, I no longer fall in love like that

Most people tend to fill the void that the past relationship left, even when sometimes we still love them and the relationship just ends by personal decisions and not some toxic situations, it's OK to grieve and feel empty, it's part of the life and it's the meaning we as human beings have, to feel everything, even when that thing hurts like hell. I need to move on also but first I need to take care of myself, mentally and physically, so the next possible relationship could be better, it's never gonna be OK to use some random stranger or past known "friends" just to find some companion, we have to enjoy being alone and loving ourselves.

It takes years if you get over it at all. If it happens fast there wasn't much there.

I’m here for you my brother

How are you doing? Hope the best for you :)

Hang in there bro!! You are special

There's no bigger show of strenght than trying to be happy. Hope you're doing well.

Hope you're okay brother, stay strong king

You are never better than before. With every failed relationship you lose a part of yourself. You wither.. little by little. There is no getting it back.

@@earlgrey2130 That attitude won't allow you to heal properly. I hear this "take a part of you" stuff all the time. Sure, each relationship will leave a contextual imprint on you which may shape you future experiences, but it's ultimately up to you on how you interpret that event and the beliefs that you choose to entertain surrounding it. Do yourself a favour, unlearn that crap you filled your head with and learn that you were a whole person before the relationship and you are still whole without them.

You haven't heard what he said. You were incompatible, end of story. No need to analyze what went wrong.

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@@danmchardy6424I guess you are right. Maybe we romanticize too much our emotions, but when you are truly truly in love, it feels like you are left with a void Also every fail relationship leaves a scar, sometimes because of the failure, but most of it because of all the suffering, fights, etc. It causes some sort of trauma You should always do the best for yourself, learn, improve and try to be better, but undoubtely, everything you go through will weight on you more and more. Nothing is like the first time when you had nothing previously, and you were totally pure

That's very intelligent and helpful. I hope you continue to prosper!

100%. Relationship gets better

Talk about them talk about it until you stop needing to

​@@guesswhosbackg6616I have written on a large piece of paper near my bed and different other areas of the things that I can't deal with about my recent ex husband, such as he is very intelligent, more intelligent than I however he is shallow and has no emotional depth. He has no organizational skills or time management. He spends way too much time on social media blah blah blah. I do miss a lot of wonderful things about him. I even miss the smell of his skin. That's the hardest part and the sound of his voice has always done it for me! But I keep that list handy and within eye shot! It keep me level headed although it doesn't ease the pain.

Couldn't of said it better ❤

Poor guy. Stay strong buddy! Going through a hard time my self and I wish you all the best.

True love never die, don't give up anything in life all hope is not lost .

I know a powerful man that can help you get your ex back he helped me too immediately without stress and delay

Text him on what sap

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If she was a keeper, she would have stayed. Dont worry King 👑 you will find your true partner one day :)

@@MakaveliFan71 Thank you for that man. Although I did some ''mistakes'', so some blame on myself

@Ammar Ahsan Thank you so much brother. I wish you all the best in life!

@@Casperh2000 everyone makes mistakes, its in our nature. thats why its so important to be able to communicate and forgive. otherwise every relationship will be temporary. obviously some things shouldnt be forgiven, depending on the severity of the case

@@Kenin2000 That's true bro! I hope you are good

I believe in you man. you got this.

Hope you're doing well some months later.

5 years later, I'm really upset. They don't seem to show much remorse, to them its over to me it's okay your sick and it's not because of me you need to get healthy wtf are you doing? If they want to move on now there has to be some balance some justice you helped them out HUGE of something and got screwed being helpful would be better off without them in your life become an alcoholic again

Update

Thank you for bringing me back to this video. My daughters 2 now. She knows what it is when me and her mother fight, sometimes when we hug my daughter thinks we’re physically fighting. Although things have never gotten as bad as when I first commented several months ago. We argue a lot, but now I just bite my tongue and remind myself that she’s no longer the person I knew, and neither am I. I try to be very careful about the words I say, but she’s not like that. She says she doesn’t mean what she says, but with the amount of times she’s said it, I can’t help but to believe otherwise. The last few months have been rough, the car is under her name, so I’m constantly asking if I can use her car for work since my truck is old and a gas guzzler, I’m still overweight, I have -100$ to my name until my next paycheck (bills all paid) and I think I watch more porn than I should. In short, I’m a loser. But regardless, I’m not scared anymore. No matter what, I just have to keep working. I found a job that pays well. I’m gonna work to buy a used car, and I have to reinstate my gym membership. and finally, I need to either plan to live in a car or get my own place. Thing’s haven’t been good since my last comment, but as long as I still have my daughter, I’ll continue working my ass off. Hopefully one day everything will have been worth it

I'm sry bro, I truly am and the pain you feel would you have ever guessed there was such a pain? In one month I suggest you start dating again.

Just riiiiiide it out bro.... Force yourself to do something you’d enjoy that can both engage your mind and body and focus on it, Boxing for example

You will. Trust me

Its a long life! You will prosper! Dust yourself off, and get up again! Start a new. Start working out. Build new habits and keep your mind active on something to build your dream. Bit by bit.

The book "Mars and Venus Starting Over" can help you healing

I pray you are with the person you were meant to be with. And letting go was the best thing that happened to you now.

a group of friends we are and we ve decided to do the following over the last years since before the pandemic we had we ve stopped entirely with dating efforts and decided to see things developing naturally so to speak - but there we are, we stopped chasing entirely. thats it

Love lives inside you, love yourself ❤

Yeah, i feel you...

SOOOO true !

Bless you 💕 i am so sorry to read this... 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 take good care of yourself.

hey, how are you doing so far ? i've also been cheated on and dumped by my gf which was also my best friend and partner... im heartbroken for almost half an year and it doesnt seem to go away. it got better, im no longer physically ill, but the memories haunt me and i fear i will never be well again... i miss her so much but what she did.. i just dont know how to deal with it. we were so close and such good friends, i still dont understand why or how it could happen.. people just tell me thats life and i have to find a way to deal with it but, despite making progress, i feel like the abyss is calling and theres a very, very thin line between the struggle to keep going and the will to let it all go and just give up on life... she ment everything to me.

I had an abortive relationship that led to my getting severe depression. I'm never letting myself become so attached to someone again (though I'm probably too old for affairs of the heart now!).

How are you mate?

Same.

Yup

What you mean?

So true

How are you now

@@cashpower3365 the void is still there.. living everyday with all those memories is the hardest part. Everything reminds of that person, every minute every day... But life goes on....

But its also kind of beautiful as time goes on. Its something to be grateful for and cherish and keep with you forever, like we do for our loved ones who have died. It is a death afterall. Its all in how you choose to move on from it i guess.

@@show_me_your_kitties you wrote that so beautifully. isn't it amazing how a slight change in our perception can make a huge difference in our mental and emotional health. May lord give strength to all those people with innocence and pure heart who were devastated and heartbroken when the person they trusted the most cheats them

@@vikat99amen 🙏

Nicole Coppini he’s lost his sense. Shake his view and show him how you see it and feel.

Terrible... I'm so sorry girl... Love is always a HUGE risk in many cases not worth taking... It took tons of pain to change me completely. Now I'm retired of all that nonsense, my trust in humanity is completely broken.

Never build with a man. Once they find better they will dump us.

He might use it as an excuse and not being brave enough to say the truth.

Yeah sorry but thats not the truth

I’m so sorry to read that. I know exactly how you feel. That was when I figured out how to deal with the feelings and the Voice in my head. You can actually hack your mind to heal by saying “Thank you” 👉 Feel free to watch my video where I explain how: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-faS7_foabpE.html 💛 Wishing you all the best and a fast recovery from your heartbreak. 🍀💕

A lot of life is about managing heartbreaks and finding strength and reinventing ourselves… your comment is from a year ago… hope all is groovy with you and you upgraded to better circumstances. Being sad sucks but its just a season. … a rebuilding season. Whenever a relationship ended for me I always told myself that it was just training for something better.

a group of friends we are and we ve decided to do the following over the last years since before the pandemic we had we ve stopped entirely with dating efforts and decided to see things developing naturally so to speak - but there we are, we stopped chasing entirely. thats it

Tell me things get better 2 years on. I’m going through what you went through today

I got broke up with last night. This shit feels rough.

Love's life true love never die, i know a great and powerful healer that can help you get back your ex or crush forever within 48hours without delay, he helped me too immediately.

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I’m 28. Every relationship I’ve been in the other persons walked away. It’s hard not to keep searching for the imperfections when you feel like something must be wrong with you when everyone runs away. I wish I could find a cure for this bottomless pot of loneliness cause opening up and getting hurt makes it worse but seclusion doesn’t help either 🤦‍♂️

I am going through something very similar at the moment and I hope you're doing alright now that some time has passed. Communication is so important and you just have to try your best. You can never know everything and you can't change others, especially if you love them. Try to be strong and honest with yourself.

I know how you feel mate . I broke up 2yrs ago but never been able to connect with anyone like I did with her . But like you said . That’s life , you don’t always get what you want

Damn man you are glowingly handsome and vibrant. You can't be out in the world unsatisfied, I won't accept it.. cause fuck man if so what hope is out there for young men? 💔

This is a perspective I don't see enough! It kind of annoys me that people always say you'll meet someone better when that just may not be reality. It this person lit up your life like no one ever before then it's hard to imagine a connection like that again. Ugh the pain.

True love never die, don't give up anything in life all hope is not lost.

Text him on what's app

@@jaspermelanie7855 - We need a SPAM serial killer.

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LOL Yes, Just knowing about the hypothalamus made me get over my break up fast. NOT

Wtf is alpha beta shit

What happend though

Your transition from beta to alpha, cringe...

you and me girl...we need to meet

@@EdwardGFunk thanks for reaching out. You're a woman right?

no i'm a guy that is living what you're going through.... Listen i'm probably halfway across the world so don't freak out here.... Conversation is good

@@EdwardGFunk ok man... Hey... sorry for your pain... How long are you dealing with this, is it recent? Take care man

Hey, here's some advice if you want to listen. By your comment, i can see that you just fill the hole in your heart with someone new. You did not properly heal your heart before finding someone new. I suggest that you close your heart to everyone at the moment. You need to be able to live with yourself and not need someone to feel whole. Find a hobby, workout, read books. You need to be comfortable with who you are and not seek approval from others. Love yourself before you love others. Someone better is out there for sure. But he can wait. You need to focus on being someone better too. Improve yourself. Give yourself time to heal and become the best version of yourself. Once your heart is healed, and you decide to let someone in again, ask yourself this. "Can i live without this person in my life?" if the answer is yes, go and be with them. If not, then you still need to work on not being dependant on another person to live your life happily.

The comment that best translates my feelings I've seen under this video. I'm dying for his care, compassion and love. But he prefers to leave after 4 years. I can't blame him, he can do whatever he wants to do. I can't hold him or decide for him. When the sound of all these logical thoughts goes away, I turn into a little girl in pain. A lonely girl who has lost the love of her life, her future husband, and perhaps the father of her future children. It's been a month since we broke up, but I still can't accept it sometimes. It feels like hell not to be able to kiss his lips again, never be able to make love to him again. But the worst part about it all is knowing that he doesn't share the same feelings. It hurts. I really miss him.

it feels like hell, so heart aching.... can you discuss something more that would be most grateful.

Good luck

Hey, I'm right there with you. It you need anything or have recommendations in all ears (or eyes)

It’s been a month how are you feeling? I’m going through a similar situation.

Same. Just found out they had a baby a couple months ago. It’s over

If they hadn’t taken time to heal from the past relationship you had,depending on how emotionally invested they were,it’ll eventually catch up to them coz they’ll repeat the same mistakes that got you guys to breaking up bcoz they’re just trying to run away from being alone and dealing with the emotions that come after a break up by being with someone else !!! Alot of people out there hate themselves and have hollow hearts but try to fill in those gaps by using other people which will always be detrimental for them and the people they use

a group of friends we are and we ve decided to do the following over the last years since before the pandemic we had we ve stopped entirely with dating efforts and decided to see things developing naturally so to speak - but there we are, we stopped chasing entirely. thats it

Love's life i know a powerful healer who can help you restore back your broken relationship and marriage without delay

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I hope you are doing better I know how hard it is ...

@T R you've been blessed you didnt marry her. You're hurt now but you will see that she doesnt deserve you and that she is completly responsible of the betrayal. If it wasnt with the therapist she would have cheat with someone else. When you really love someone you dont cheat, what ever happen. If someone try to flirt/ seduce you then you step back and stop this person. She didnt, so she is in my opinion more trashy than the therapist who you said played game to get you split. Be strong and dont look back she doesnt deserve you and I pray you will find soon true love. I've been cheated on by the man i was engaged to so I know how this shit hurts. I never forgive him because cheating is the highest form of disrespect.

Hypergamy my friend, a heart breaking fact for a man to learn and swallow. He was a more valuable resource in her eyes, that's it. I'm sure you gave her oodles love and affection, but that don't matter shit to a woman who sets her sights on a more superior male ( to her ) and their minds are made up. Move on, time will heal, value your worth and make the next one work for your heart. Take care.

If you dont go break his legs, you're a massive pussy.

@@jaymcd8577 important to realise she'll likely do it to him as well when she sees cracks in her illusion of him and starts looking elsewhere again.

@@poface4827 true, we need to start confronting women head on. Shit test THEM at the gate. I'd recommend an excellent book called 'the tactical guide to women'

1 and a half hours ago, I still have a terrible headache because of it, but same

@Sam Farza Thank you for your advice, I work out regularly, but I stopped since the quarentine. I feel a bit better after sleeping, but I know it's just me not accepting what's going on. Still I'll try not to fall into a negative loop, and let everything else fall apart with my relationship.

Snapper ! I know of a man that can help you bring him back

@@joytracy505 bring who back?

Snapper ! a man help me bring back my ex after twenty four hours

This was 20 years ago. I've been married for 15. I made this comment based on my experiences as a teenager to young man. The point is there is plenty of fish in the sea. Don't waste time with people who don't show the same effort. I'm happy you made it work with your ex. In my case I found the right woman and I'm happy now. Thanks for the comment.

@@raymondriggio7131 you replied to a Bot 🤖 dude.. In any case thank you for your write up, it was painful to read because I’ve just lost 7 years and been dumped after giving everything. I feel devastated. I thought being nice would mean they’d love me equally but instead she just lost respect for me and cheated on me instead. She wanted me to be in an open relationship- so I said no and decided to walk away. We just got engaged too. I feel sick

@@sunnyrana4248 sorry to hear this my friend, you do seem like a good person and maybe now it's time to focus on you, the initial days after the breakup will be tough, after that goes away you will realize your better off, takes alot of courage to do what you did and having morals and values makes you a keeper. You regret it now but in the future you will consider it a blessing, wish you luck my friend, be strong hang out with loved ones and move on. I hope you learn from these moments and next time around be a little more selfish. Much respect and thank for reaching out bud. I appreciate you

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That last sentence yes, so true. I had to let this guy I love so much guy because I know we won{t work long'term. It is so hard. Sometimes I want to call him and see him but that would put me back to square one. He lied to me twice )that I know of and now the trust is gone.

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To use your brain ,don’t waste time just move on.When we can’t get over we are like that cat who is killed by the curiosity but it’s a waste of time.learn from the pain.

The whole idea is mindset. Mindset gets you over the breakup.

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Same here. Am hoping to find a link to this dna video he said is so cool.

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"Understand that those you lose, you lose because you refused to lower your standards. Always honour yourself with the utmost self-respect" This phrase will be stuck in my head everytime I start feeling that I miss her. I'm the one who decided to break up, and I know it was the right decision, although not the easy one. Thanks a lot!

@@miguels.b.2749 2 years later and I still miss her, but I know better. It’s too easy to give in to our emotions thus acting upon them, the real challenge is staying true to yourself, for yourself, by yourself - in all aspects of life. Keep a level head and strive beyond greatness, Miguel. All power to you, and god bless, my friend!

@@jt0094 thanks a lot for all your kind words, brother. I just learned that it's better to be grateful for the good experiences and be thankful for the good memories that we had instead of just focusing on the pain. We must learn from our mistakes, and strive to become better men. Stay strong my friend, I'm with fresh wounds, it's been less than a week, but slowly I'm starting to comprehend that whatever happens always happens for a reason. Keep your head up, always. You're not alone in this path.

I had similar feeling about my broke up. We were different from each other but still we were really well conected. Cant even tell what went wrong, we had pretty healthy relationship, but she just left me from day to day and it felt like huge part of me gone away. So many questions but I dont have answers. Do you feeling better right now?

i'm really sorry about the things that happened between you two. as for me, it hasn't improved in a meaningful way. i still feel like something vital is missing from my life. i can somehow manage but whenever i'm reminded of a memory i feel lost again. i think i can't fix it beyond this point.

I'm feeling the exact same at the moment, guys. Know that many people do. We all respect your pain since we now how it feels - you're not alone.

@@angelphetamine stay strong, if you want to talk about your experience im open to it, some things we are just unable to control so we have to mainly focus on things that we can control in our lives

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Me to only an hour away but covid and she got a dog which distracted her from me, sucks.

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feeling this very same thing right now the breakup ended me, now I am just on auto-pilot I feel as if I am waiting for something, I do not know what, perhaps death or idk

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It wasn't, absolutely not. Witness that I said "with the wrong personality type". For borderliners and trauma bonders a relationship isn't defined by how much joy it brings, it is defined by how much it fills the empty holes in their psyche.

Bro, please find a doctor. A Psychiatrist. It will help you a lot. Don't get lost in the dark. There's life after it.

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I broke up with my ex 2 months ago aswell. After 13.5 years i feel like im dying. Im trauma bonded also i cant sleep lost 1.5 stone struggling to work no contact is killing me

I had a similar experience a number of years ago. Luckily I came across some information about Imago. It was very helpful to me, so thought I'd share. I hope it helps. Take care and best of luck

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You need to end it mate. Those incompatible things will grow over time, trust me, an internet user you don't know.

Fun little update.... Found out most of what she said is just lies and she's a pathological liar. On the plus side, I said WTF am I doing with my life and have applied to jobs close to my family, doing something for me and my family not someone else that could give a shit. Got offered a new job opportunity and am relocating away from that area. Carries too much pain. I got all this done in literally a few days once I found out most of what she said and is was just all lies. So yea if you want something bad enough you'll make it happen.

Going through something similar with my first love. I'm struggling to understand what's even real, she told me so many reasons for the breakup (caught feelings for someone else and therefore she's a shitty person who doesn't deserve a relationship, mom disapproved of the relationship, she wants to focus on her academics, she's flawed in all sorts of ways...) over a span of several days so I can't figure out if one of them is fully or partially the real reason or if they're all excuses to hide the real reason. I've got finals coming up and in my neurotic post breakup state I told her I was going to fail if she leaves and that was a big mistake because once I said that, I couldn't to tell if anything she says or does after that are real or just to keep me going through the exams. She still throws the odd text daily and sounds chill but I can't help but think about her having experiences that were meant for us, with that other dude, or her crying all alone in secret to keep me from getting affected.

It sounds like she didn't really care for you. Count yourself lucky for getting out and move on.

Because you didn't listen, your interpretation is completely incorrect. He first went over what commonly happens to people after their relationship ends. Then he explains why people have a lack of self worth after relationships, and why that lack of self worth is incorrect. Then he explains where the trauma from a ended relationship comes from. Then he explains the role conflicting personality traits have in bad relationships. He then explains that this can all be extremely helpful if you come to terms with the true reason your relationship failed because if you can do that, half the battle is gone, and your self worth isn't dead.

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So well expressed. I'm sorry for your pain. I think this is the perspective we don't hear enough! Everyone's always saying we'll meet someone better, but those of us who had a deep and compatible love unlike any other in our life, may struggle. All we can do is self care because something that's helped me is this: if you thought your person was magic, then it takes two people to really create magic. That means you, too, are magic. Take care.

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@@su2sa1li4 I'm doing a lot better, but I'm sorry to say that it took a lot longer than 15 days and it was a fight. Idk where you are in your life or if you'll accept this but its what I have to say. My breakup was one of many reasons I spiraled back into a very dark place in life. I couldn't feel joy and everything was pain but I was trying to do it all myself and deal with it on my own. It wasn't until I turned everything in my life back over to God that I was able to function again. I've never had such a big weight be lifted off me. Obviously the struggles are still there but it I wasn't carrying the burden alone. I realized that I made other things the focus of my life, making things and people my purpose and source of happiness. Now that I'm doing my best to pursue God's will as my purpose I feel so much more alive. I still have sorrow over the circumstances in my life but I now have the ability to feel joy and connect with people. The happiest I've ever been in life was when I was pursuing the Lord and letting him bring things into my life instead of pursuing the things. Thats where I'm trying to work my way back to. This isn't the most clear message ig but I wanted to say something at least. It CAN get better, but I honestly don't think you'll find a lasting solution without Christ. I tried everything else and it just got worse

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