How to get over a Narcissist or how to move past a narcissistic person 

Two of your famous quotes: 1. What triggers you controls you 2. Abuse is on them, but the healing is on you.

Vengeance is Mine sayeth The Lord..

The key for me is zero contact, no looking at social media, no reading texts or emails (all blocked), nothing. I've made that mistake before (got sucked back in). Not this time. Grief is slowly being replaced with relief.

Every time a think about my narc and the “good times” I think about the horrible crap I went through and that keeps me from going back.

No contact allows you to heal from the massive car wreck you went through!

Winning looks like peace of mind.

Be you. Be who you are because that is what they envied the most and that is why they couldn't handle, and that is why they effed up with you because of their own self-destructive nature.

If you get out alive you have won

I think to me “winning” would be not giving a shit about him. Truly not caring. If someone mentioned his name I’d be like “who?” Because I had forgotten about him.

I don't want or need revenge.

i was super upset over some bs with a narcissist and this really calmed me down and help me im going to go for a walk instead of dwell and be sad and continue to thrive thank you 😘😘😘😘

More into no contact I am more clear about my feelings. I may still love the narcs and they still may be able to trigger me. But I finally learned to love and respect myself enough to walk away and heal. I do not blame them or myself for the damage and pain anymore. I simply accept that they can not change and I can not allow them to hurt me anymore.

It's not over til I win? NO, it's over when I walk away. Winning is for competition and contests, Revenge is childish I wanted revenge too until I woke up and realized my revenge was forgiveness without re-entry.

I was dealing in a narcissistic relationship for almost 2 years didn't even now what that meant tell i meet them and i felt trapped i felt crazy i felt so many things i cant even described it missed with me mentally physically and emotionally and im so hapoy now that im out of it that i haven't felt this happy in a long time i may have lost everything to get away from that narcissistic person but i never felt so much happier id rather live under a bridge then be with that person any more in my life

I'm feeling really hurt tonight. I foolishly let the narcissist back in my life trying to give him the benefit of doubt knowing that it was a possibility he would hurt me again and he did without remorse just didn't care at all. I feel defeated, I feel like a joke and I'm humiliated. He hurt me for his own enjoyment. I feel so stupid because I let him back in. Smh

I appreciate every single video you do, Lee. You like the big brother I never had 😅

I need to listen to this every day 😔

Because of you I started therapy and this journey is well worth it

"i am watching your videos like im doing movie marathon"! ☺️🍿🎥

For me, it is like solving a murder mystery. My narc, love bombed me, introduced me to all his friends & family, then married me & hit me the next day. It shattered my love & my trust for him. Then he began devaluing everything about me. I asked him, "Why did you marry me then"? He looked shocked? We were divorced within 3 months. But he stayed in my life and wanted to get back together during a course of 6 years. I knew in my spirit, that he was with other women all that time. And I didn't care what or where he was. I NEVER went back. But I still have these nagging questions "why" he cont. to call? And did he ever love me? Or was it all just a game to him?

Congrats going to UK 👍 helping more people❤️good job Lee☺️

"Healing is not a destination. Is is a journey." Thank you so much, Lee - with this you helped me to finally let go of pushing myself too hard. You are really doing such great work here. Really. Thank you.

So true. And remember, when things go wrong - and they will - it wasn't 'their' doing, it's just life. Crap happens. I've been dealing with that myself, and needed the reminder. I *am* living my best life, and that includes the crap too.

Lee, I appreciate all the hard work you do to help people..and information you give from your perspective. 💕

I don't need 2 seek revenge cuz they will get their karma...just bcuz of who they r which r mean heartless individuals they will get theirs...Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord...he will repay...It's bout me now...Just not having 2 deal with the narc is a GREAT RELIEF!!!! My life is much happier now!!!!

You've helped me in so many ways possible. Thank u so much.

Your videos are a REAL blessing and LIFESAVER! I was married for 32 years to this type of man...that left me last Christmas and it has been a devastating experience. Your videos are so helpful!!!!

I actually never considered the idea of "winning"...until now... Hindsight being 20/20, I always felt like people were playing with me or using me. I had to take accountability and accept the fact that I allowed these behaviors to consume me especially since I offered my services on a silver platter to people who would minimize my efforts, including friends. I felt like I was a loser while I was with my ex and all I can say is after I went no contact, I dont feel that way anymore. I found that I've dealt with a few narcs back to back. I couldnt even withstand a healthy relationship although I was with one person who was worthy of that. I realized I have been broken for a long time. I removed alot of people from my life alongside my ex narc. Now, I dont feel like a loser. I dont feel like I'm always doing something wrong. I smile more amd worry less. No more chess pains, no anxiety, eating better, working out more and lost 40 lbs in the process, I can even do a couple pushups now, lol. So in that case, to me, I am winning!!!🤯😁

Trust me I'M A WINNER...I LEFT THE NARC...I'M THE HAPPIEST I'VE EVER BEEN N MY LIFE!!!!

This video is so helpful for me as it is getting me clues on how to move on. Thank you 🙏

I just left my sons father .. I’ve went through so much mental abuse and the shame of staying after being abused .. and I’ve pushed him out of my life.. it’s been so hard the last few days.. he’s been telling me he’s been talking to other women but he didn’t want to because he misses me.. and it hurts me still that I tried to love him so much and he still does not see what I had to endure .. and I blame myself too for staying when I knew he wouldn’t change .. I just had hope that one day he’ll see how wrong he is.. and now I guess he just won’t ever see it .. I’ve been going to church and going to god and crying so much for healing and the Pastor even told me god was saying love doesn’t hurt this much to leave this toxic man breaking me down in my life .. without even telling them my story .. and still I’m in shock .. like how can people really be this selfish and heartless 😢

Keep up the good work my brudda! 🤛🏾💯

So grateful I found your channel. Healing is slow but steady.

And the real thing I meant to comment on is how right you are my #CLUSTERBuddy. Today I am again confident in the resolve that I want nothing to do with that carnival. I love that carnival but I can no longer abide clowns and mirror mazes. Thanks for taking something that is often a handicap for people and becoming more aware (even though awareness can painful and exhausting in my experience ESPECIALLY since awaren does not mean healed. The awareness alone is some first level shit and level up still has to happen 💯) So you are fucking leveling up and getting many of the same needs met while giving people information so that they can level up as well which means that you're acting in a way as you deserve to feel accomplished and that you're good enough,smart enough, and gosh darn it people like you. Giving the tea so everyone can come up instead of pushing people down and then convincing yourself of that same end result.

Lee, I'm excited for your global recovery workshops. You and Ben are doing a phenomenal job getting people out of the brain fog! I know how cats can be, and my Tabitha looks just like your furbaby, and she has that "I've arrived" attitude 😂

Thank you so much for this video. I appreciate your time effort and wisdom you have put into this. God bless you for helping me out of a very dark time using this video and your words. God bless.

I'm going through the pain of this now

I’m dealing with that this morning. I want revenge. And I hate feeling like this😭

Thanks for the video. Creating art can be helpful in healing.

It's not over till I win. What does winning look like to you? Cherishing every word of this video Lee. 🙆🌄

Love Yourself More... exactly right. I was discarded by my covert narcissist husband. I feel I was sold a fake bill of goods and now I know who he really is after living together for six months. Three times in the past year he's mentioned divorce. He won't file, though. He wants me to It's been heartbreakingly difficult, but each day I find something to be grateful for and do something for me. I make myself do it. I have also been going to therapy for the past three months. Glow up!

I have to go No Contact by tomorrow because he’s planning on coming back and I’m so sad stressed and scared

Winning is just not feeling hurt anymore

Pack your shit and disappear and go be yourself and let them continue on going through people like water... never knowing what it truly means to love another person at all. To me that is worst hell ever.

Yes freedom 🎉thank you for your healing ❤️‍🩹 honesty God bless you beb😇🙏🏽

Love the cat so mischievous...

Thank you 🥺💗 you are impressive

Wow lee you have been going all over the world lately its awesome

Don't seek revenge cuz u will stay entangled

"Narcat" I love it! Black cats are the best. They get a bum rap, but I wouldn't trade mine in for the world 😻❤

Please wait it out listen to us to are farther along with healing you can do this its the best feeling ever!!!!!!!

Glow up Self-love 🙆🌄

I shared my dream vision with my ex, he said I am not ready to do that, so I waited for him. He left me and in a matter of weeks has gone to do my dream.

It's a win-win situation The one because you allow them to win and you only allow that because by them winning you win too you win Freedom you win yourself back . LET THEM WIN AND CELEBRATE THEIR WINNING...because in the end ..you both come out winning..just don't let ur win show cus if they notice you're happy that's when a narcissist will demand a rematch just to try to keep it going drag it on and find a away to make you want to tap out metaphorically emotionally speaking....

I appreciate and love you SO MUCH Lee 🙏🏻❤️ thank you seriously

This cracked me the hell up, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else lmaoooooo ha!

I loved ALL the video but just about lost my mind over the KITTY! 💗💗💗

I m crying watching this video is been 1 year and 4 months i have a lot of bad days i try to get over but i feel like is a road block in my mind 😢i m trying.I m trying

Its hell being with them! I wish i knew about this earlier 😕

What a beautiful cat! ♥️

😂 lol the mom, Grandma and them tho 😆😆

It's just so hard to heal but I know I'm getting there

It hurts that I was pulled into a demonic web of deceit with a narc, male and female

this actually helped a lot. thank you

@MentalHealness riddle me this.... If insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome...... what would you call someone that does the same thing over and over again knowing what the outcome is going to be and knowing it's not going to be different and continuing to do it because the want and hope of a a different outcome pushes you to keep on

They lose in the end with karma and my x is getting his right now

Thank you excellent message.

Never clicked so fast on a video!😂

I’m on RU-vid trying to look up videos on how to heal from a narc because the last family member I trusted used me for money probably in more ways than just this thing I found out but she has been really irritating me bad this week, 7 months ago I ended things with her and all of a sudden she has the money, time to afford to build a brand new house RIGHT ACROSS from my apartment! I’ve been hearing for years excuses why she can’t help me, take me somewhere, hang out, etc then she gets a new bf and immediately has plenty of time for him and not only that I’ve seen her here early morning to late evening with her bf (which I found out he is moving in with her when she said she couldn’t possibly think of a way to move in with him lol). But she’s been here all week to work on her house but she is here manipulating me and lying saying she’s so broke she just can’t take off work 😂 so it’s been more than stressful and I am trying not to give my energy to her cause she doesn’t care but it’s hard to see someone you cared so much for do this to you:(

I love this!!!

Yea I wanna go out and get better but they just wanna hold me back. Yes I’m dependent on them so like they say I’m not giving them a good enough reason, when there is no reason why they wouldn’t let me do something that would help me except they don’t wanna lose control.

Been 2 months since I left ... didn't expect to go thru a grieving process kinda threw me for a loop ... it's getting a little better each day ... he's called a couple times, I call em fishing expiditions, he's testing the waters to see if he might could come back. Not in so many words, but the question is there all the same ... didn't expect him to call so soon ... Hoping karma kicks his ass, but I'm what's important now! So if it happens it happens, if not, oh well at least it's not me dealin with him anymore ... Still in the discovery process of me without him. Anything else is gravy!

Hope you will have a meet up in Louisiana!

Thank you ❤

Crying at 8:25😂 oh lord lol

Realised 3 months ago that my partner/father of my now 8 month old was a narcissist who was living a double life. Terrified and overwhelmed about trying to coparent. He's refusing to pay child maintenance or let me double barrel our child's surname. Would appreciate any advice on how to negotiate with this type of person 😫

I feel my wife has Narcissistic traits I am by no means a doctor. We had a conversation about her lying of omission. She tells me to never lie to her but then she will ask me to omit things constantly from friends and family. So I called her a “lair” and she lied about lying go figure.

Their life is revenge

Am I too much of a cliché, hopes, romantic or should I burn all of my exes belongings that he gave to me?

I can't do it

It's hard. I love the hood loving partner. Very much dislike how he treats me.

You're hilarious 😂😂 the dad the granddad..

My ex came by where i live by this park while married and lives 2 hours away . I feel hes self obcessed and stalkerish. Im scared

I recomend Ayahuaska she show you who you are and how to be happy..

Get behind me Satan

I don't care who the narc is with cuz they r now someone else's PROBLEM...they will seeeeee...lol

4:21 Don’t go to Australia! But I live in Australia what do I do now? 😳

Can someone tell me how to forget that narcissistic person? I cannot stop thinking of her and i hate it. I want to move on because that person is rotten.

How can I get a one on one?

Cute cat 🐈‍⬛

I'd love to do a one on one zoom chat with you man, how do I line that up?

How can I get a consultation I need help !!

Yessssssssssssssssssssss🎉

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Not Over Till I Win.. Childish.. Lol.. If That’s Where Ya Mind Is You Aint Been Hurt Bad Enough.. All You Should Want Is Peace And Happiness.. That’s Just Childish..

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#NarcCat 😂lol