If A Man Is TRULY SERIOUS About You, He Will DO THIS! | Matthew Hussey 

He's full of crap. Look ladies this is what I do. I tell you if I'm not interested in a relationship BEFORE I sleep with you. Trouble is twofold. A lot of guys do it AFTER they sleep with you (since they dont want to risk missing out on sex). Also, Women dont push for the info. Thats the solution. dont sleep with a guy you like, until you know for sure.

Yup

Way too simplistic a statement....

@@valeriatubman1425 Exactly. That would also solve the issues of single parenthood.

Not necessarily because some keep their barriers up first date. Especially ladies. :)

I thinks thats usually the case but alot of those guys don't exactly register in alot of womens field of vision when they come. Might not have any game Might not be very handsome Might be not talk very loud Behaviorally They may seem a little tense May be excessively palliative Or very quiet. May not be good at talking to women A liitle too Eager to help May give you compliments (Compliment is not game at all) May go out of their way to make conversation with you.( Convrsation you may not even want to have.) Very attentive. These guys who probably like you more than anybody else are most likely friends of yours or trying to be friends to get closer to you because they understand if you don't have a connection its going to be no. Male friendship with women can often be motivatd by attraction but please understand character matters.....how they act as a friend is not necessarily the same as a boyfriend so you should reflect on their relationships if you go for one of your friends. For most women its actually relatively easy to turn a male friend into a boyfriend. But the girl usually says something to the effect of not wanting to ruin the friendship because in some ways they SOMETIMES unknowingly use that male friend as a dependable non obligatory source of male attention/interaction and validation when theyre feeling low. Girls used to do that with me all the time because talking to me made/makes them feel good but they don't realize their doing it. They'd literally be all over me in private and in public. And there is the infamous "I wish all guys were like you"....which the natural response is......"I'm a guy like me" as I'm usually single when they say this shit to me😂😂😂 I called the bluff but nothing came😂. If you are afraid of ruining the friendship understand your relationship should be similar to your friendship just with some extras. Issues come when you make things more complicated than they need to be.

That's easy - just pay attention to the 90% of guys who you are ignoring! Don't go for Chris Hemsworth lookalikes, go for the average Joe.

@@jugular911 attraction is still important otherwise theyre settling and they May not appreciate the guy like they should ..... nobody deserves to be treated like someones doing them a favor by talking to them. I've also already said what you have said in my comment.

@@mauricionovae8484 So they're hoping for a hot, rich, tall, muscular, Chris Hemsworth lookalike who is desired by many other women, but who only pursues her. When she's only average herself. That's a fantasy and never going to happen. Well, at least Matthew Hussey and other dating coaches make millions off idiots like these women! I might start my own dating business promising women this fantasy man. I could make millions because women are so gullible.

@@jugular911 You're projecting general beliefs. I understand and I used to think that because alot of girls think they want that but its not all true. I know better now because I HAD TO. You have to see every woman as herself because you lose perspective when you get general. Women want: a man they can respect. They want a man with perspective. A man who can make them feel something. A man that Doesn't lower himself to elevate her. A man they can admire and each woman admires a man for SOMETHING other than his utility, validation, or financial status. They want to watch you be great in some area they value and the area depends on the girl thats why you have to understand who you're talking to. Unlike us women don't exactly say what they really mean...like they mean it at the time but not on an internal level. So the thing is to figure out what she likes about you and not what she says she likes about you. A man who can communicate without reacting emotionally because two emotional people will clash and women are hard wired to feel. You need to be unshakable because if they can move you they can control you and if they can control you then subconsciously she wont respect you. Not tommention she has her own feelimgs to deal with and we as guys SEVERELY underestimate the effects emotions have on women. They want a man they can trust with their life. Somebody they can talk to about anything without being judged. Keep your word. Do what you say. And most importantly they need you to not need them. You need to be willing to walk any second No threats or ultimatums because thats emotional manipulation. If you gonna do that shit just do it. And you dont come back. But when you do it NEVER leave them in a bad financial situation they can't handle.

@@bronkonovak6555 I've read his book and interpret it as advice to stop someone from wasting all their time, energy and emotions trying to make it work with a narcisistic type who was never going to commit to them anyway. If someone is inconsiderate, disrespectful, makes minimum effort and shows no signs of commitment you're likely being used but can't see it and are scared of losing them because you like them so much. You shouldn't hang on desperately trying to make it work. Instead invest in someone you like who is kind and considerate and also invests their time, energy and emotions in you. That way you're far more likely to meet someone who you could have a loving long term relationship with. 😀

@@bronkonovak6555 you better be selfish! Or maybe u rather keep chasing after men who dont want u... Get Smart!

@@bronkonovak6555 Sounds totally wise and right, and coincides with my years of experience.

The golden nugget right there💰

I've tried but the brain chemicals are never there, and I break it off due to lack of interest

I think I just did that today - not intentionally though. I was very polite for a change, but made it clear I’m moving on, because he simply didn’t want me enough. There’s no point being around people who don’t value you. Just move on. It’s easier said than done, but it has got to be done, otherwise you may end up losing all your sense of self-worth and your sanity.

@@BambiOnIce19 & be Safe and aware when leaving buy thinking will they do the unthinkable & kidnap kids , set u up like Amber heard did Jonny , don’t underestimate people’s ability to completely blindside you .

@@RoddyPipersCorneas You shouldn't evaluate quotes like that outside of context. The point is that there are often no real consequences in dating from the person that invests. It's all talk. No action. Ruthless talk and no or kind action. And this is realized quickly by the other side. It's basicly a free ticket to treat you badly again. But many of those situations that lead to ruthless talk and no action are actually really big red flags. So leave. For honest. Make it the other persons task to fight for your relationship. "He or she cheated on me, so I'm going to fight harder for our relationship" creates a real bad precedence and is a surefire sign for disaster. "She or he cheated on me, I'm not interested any more UNLESS he fights his way back into this is much smarter." Or much more common: He or she says that he or she is not interested in a serious relationship. Some people talk upset and hope that he or she will change his or her mind and start justifying sleeping with him or her in order to up their chances. And some will just say "okay, I understand" and walk away.

🤗🤗🤗🤗Bravo!!!!

I have been told this by men. They say this because they don't want to be subjected to a list of conditions and requirements from the woman. If a man says "I want a serious relationship", some women see that as an invitation to vomit their personal demands on them. "Oh but you said you wanted serious, so now you must visit my mother every weekend, and let me check your phone, and never talk to any other woman again". I have also learnt from personal experience that if you don't demand from them, they will want to stick around because they feel free, respected and appreciated in what they do decide to give. Whatever the initial non-committed intentions are, they sometimes change.

With you is always silent though😂

Some men can't be serious about a woman, any woman.

Serious=sickening

Props for not settling. It's not easy to be the one who walks away when you've invested time, but sometimes, our downfall is that we don't walk away sooner.

I would also say it's a combination. Not just he didn't know, but also will be you choosing to ignoring red flags which your friends and family saw.

Kudos to you for leaving

I’m so proud of you. I’ve been there and picked up and left… now… he’s trying to get back in my life. Stand your ground. Be your own best friend first and compliment yourself on doing what was in your best interest. ~N

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Yes, like what am I doing wrong

I am in a relationship and feeling, I am lost in communication almost all the time.

Exactly

Men also need to take them down from the pedestals they put the on and ask the HARD questions, like Besides your body and beauty, sex mainly, which you ALREADY know I want, what ELSE do you bring to the table?? Do you really really believe in equality, and what does it means to you in practical terms, or is it just an ideology you use when it suits you?? Am I your first choice or are you still paining for Chad from your past?? What are my realistic chances of having sex with you soon, or will you string me along to keep that sexual tension, and find out more about me, so I'll have to keep being good and you won't find out anyhow until AFTER we have sex?? How much would you like me if I told you the worst of me?? ... but [always a but] , if men did this we never get laid, so that examination comes later. Men know what women want to hear, there Disney fantasy movies they have watched all there lives... so we accommodate. Women know what the MAIN reason men approach them is, and they also pretend they don't fully know it, and use it to the max. "Like me for me" is meaningless at the beginning.

I actually disagree with this statement. Unless he means later in the relationship, which he did not clarify. My male friends tell me they ran away from women because on the first or second date they shot off "You want to marry in your future? Because i want to.", "Do you want kids?". Wth? That sounds so neurotic!

I started doing exactly that in my early 20’s and the anxiety in my dating life has been nearly non existant.

Amen to that 🙌

Excellent advice!

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And, it’s important to understand this for partners who are decent people who don’t necessarily “mistreat” but cause you unhappiness and don’t understand how there’s something wrong in their behaviour. My problem has been these types of people I attract & then finding it difficult to break away because they’re not ‘bad’ people.

​@SpiralMystic Bingo! Yes! You've described exactly what I've experienced and thank you, that's what I needed to read. 🙏🏻

@@seagreentangerine2065 God bless you & hope & pray from this day forth, you will receive nothing but the very best treatment ✨☘️🙏

Yes a narcissist

Same girl. I started dating after two years of being single, had plenty of options but I really tried to pick carefully. Ended up picking a guy that was just interested in sex. I mean, OK but it was the lies and future faking that made me finish it. I was also doing all the legwork, paying for everything, I couldn't go to his house, never invited me anywhere and I just decided that I was making far much more effort. I'm happy with myself to be honest, my old self would have kept flogging the dead horse, but I finished it and I'm happy I respected myself. Love to you and stay strong, God has a plan for us all xxxx

What is wrong in asking you "what can you do for me?". What can you actually do for them? Or you think you shouldn't be doing anything. What is negative about somebody asking you how will you take care of their needs? I have no idea what expectations you have as a single mother with also a pet involved. You are not really going to attract the best men out there who have their options. I think you have to really find some humility first and really assess where you are placed on the dating market and be realistic about it. So, it's not about that quality is hard to find, it's just that quality men will not really pick somebody in your situation. I know the reality of this is sad and maybe unfair, but that is how life goes.

@@Alnivol666 Nothing, if the question is being asked is also reciprocated. It’s a shame you’re looking at your assumptions of a situation and passing judgement on what is quality and what is not. None of us are clean slates, and many of us aren’t interested in the ‘Market’ mentality.

@@mrm7185 Just because none of us are clean slates, you think that means what exactly? I really have issues with people thinking their decisions in the past and sometimes in the present should not carry the weight that they do.

@@Alnivol666 asking that question sounds like you are looking for a good business deal, looking for an employee. Are you looking for a live-in chef, housekeeper, assistant, therapist, hostess, financial investor, PR manager etc? This does not ellicit romantic feelings in a single soul. It kind of stabs the idea of love in the chest. Simply put. Asking this you immediately reveal yourself as a selfish user.

The man needs to initiate As a woman. You respond but don’t initiate

That's the whole 48 mins not need to watch. This statement is enough. There is no hard written rules who should initiate every person is different and some guys like a women to initiate some guys dont. Humans are complex.

@@MimiAndM1niMe2184 men say that they want one thing but their brains are wired to respond to other things . Their brains need to chase. It’s pure biology. When they say that they want women to initiate, they mean “I want Rihanna to initiate with men”. It’s never the case. Only an insecure woman chases a man. And this is why the man is turned off. If you chase him, it means there is something wrong with you. In nature, the feminine is looking for the best candidate for her egg. She waits for the males to prove that they have the best genes

Yeah guys and it’s literally coded into the physical world: the sperm chases the egg. The best sperm wins.

@Cindy Lou sorry queen I put a Thumb down on your message because I didn’t read it well Yes. It’s the ego boost 100%. It gives them the confidence to go chase their dream girl

And my experience vouches for it. People aware of their masculine energy will express it. My first relationship, the guy was self aware enough to know he was selfish and runs after people when interested and drops them if he loses interest. It was a red flag, and then 2 months later it happened. Same with a female friend who has very masculine energy. Didn't have time for people going through treatment resistant MH issues and left with very cruel words. But we all learn the learnings 😊

OMG! I thought about this same quote while watching

It is the quote of Maya Angelou.

This!

...yeah but little do they know you're gonna make 'em wait at least 90 days before even considering to have sex with them...they drop like flies, LOL..... ;)

Exactly

@@leslieferguson9562 I've had plenty of women tell they weren't going to have sex with me and they did the same night.

@Amanda Schwartz Exactly! thats what just happened to me now!

@@HiddenHandMedia They perhaps meant well, but temptation overwhelmed them. Goal is to not put oneself in position to fail. Takes a LOT of willpower....

exactly

My ex was like that... initially he wanted commitment in the form of me moving countries (we live in the same continent but two different countries) and starting a business with him after 2.5 years. I didn't move permanently (chose to spend 6 months instead every year) because I am still a little old-fashioned and don't want to disrespect my parents and grandparents...also moving and settling into another country is no joke...I needed to know that I would get total support and love from him. So we thought about a business... rather he chose a business and told me to do it. Initially I was only "allowed" to do its marketing...then when his mum couldn't do the cooking (the business idea was selling cooked chicken), he turned to me and emotionally blackmailed me to do it. I didn't do it...I did the marketing and everything that I could despite not having any product to work with but I told him that I'll cook with him...that didn't happen. And then 1.5 years later, he gave me several reasons as to why we can't continue our relationship - reasons such as I don't listen to him (I once drove over a glass bottle by mistake and he has held onto that), I haven't lost as much weight as he'd like me to (apparently when he first met me he got so depressed that he started drinking and smoking heavily), I haven't moved there permanently (and we follow the same culture and religion), I haven't started a business with him, I don't help him, everything I do is for myself and my happiness solely...and then two days later, his reasons changed...he said that because of his past relationships with his mother, sister and ex's...he cannot trust women anymore and that I deserve better and he doesn't want to take away my happiness. I have never felt so betrayed and so lost and shocked. Oh and this was a 4 year relationship... and every year he broke up with me...the first three years his reasons were that I didn't move there permanently and my weight. He is the only man who has managed to break my heart, my positivity, my strength and my spirit. The lesson I've learnt is that when a man breaks up with you...no matter how perfect he may be...leave. Because that's just a precursor of what's to come.

Roshni Peshavaria Yup--- he probably was never loved unconditionally and became a border line /narcissist as a defense mechanism. People like that are broken and stuck in their shadow side. It it takes self awareness and spirituality to bring them to a place of self love. Consider yourself lucky you did not get stuck in a marriage with children with him. I suggest you watch videos by soul gps or sam vaknin or richard grannon and many others to understand the gaslighting you went thru so you can heal your heart, grow stronger , love yourself more and attract a person who love you unconditionally . ❤️🙏🏻❤️

@@lisaariottiart thank you so so much.❤️ You're absolutely right. And I will most definitely watch videos from those people/channels you have recommended.❤️❤️ Anything that will help me move forward and take back the power I lost, I'll take with open arms...thank you so much. You don't know how much this means to me.❤️😌

Key symptom of Narcissist

better to have loved and lost, than never loved at all

Spot on. Love your life, you'll be fine.

same.....

Yes it did 🫣

Yup me too We can't even appreciate the attention

If the majority of reactions you get from different people is anger, then you are being aggressive, or asking the wrong people or at the wrong time. They might be angry just because they feel cornered. Asking the hard questions doesn't have to be a punch in the face. One can ask softly and subtly, and engage the other in an interesting and mutually exploratory conversation. Where many truths come out and both of us grow, even if we decide to part.

Truth

@@neliaferreira9983 he did say the hysterical is the historical...which means that maybe you are dealing with too much of another's baggage...dodge that bullet.

Yass queen! Agreed!

@@icecreamlover4992 smart lady 💓

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@@rosesolorio81 she is smart both wrong

We sure know it ... but there are plenty of folks who just like to flirt. (Just sayin’)

absolutely true. it's simple really

I dated a psychopath! It was really hard with all the acting!

Totally agree babe

@@pennyprayer764 lol this proves op's point. A guy who flirts isn't necessarily showing interest- he could just like the attention. A guy who wants you will make all the effort in the world.

*they’re

You may want to avoid thinking about it as his loss. It hurts not being reciprocated but you don't have to lessen another person to retain your value. Most times It may be circumstances that lead to you not simultaneously wanting the same thing. And thats okay. You shouldn't want people to do things they aren't sure about. You should want happy willing participants. I agree that you should move forward but always hope the best for that person.

@@mauricionovae8484 and it hurts when men treat you as an option...I know my value and I deserve to be treated as one.

@@joannacusi5128 you think men don't get treated as optional?😂 when I talk to women I go in with full knowledge I'm optional. Most attractive girls keep 2 or 3 in their back pocket. As long as they're respectful, treat me like a human being, and the intentons are clear early on (maybe not in the first 2 weeks) its cool. Its not that I don't have my own value of myself, but my value to me could be more or less than what is to whatever a woman would value me....like who the fuck am I?....I'm just a guy as far as I know. I think we get along. The question you have to ask yourself is "am I satisfied with this" and if the answr is no thats when you walk. No ultimatums.

@@joannacusi5128 the thing about commitment is being consistently chosen as THE option. We are not THE option for everybody. And thats OKAY because to someone you are THE option of a lifetimes. It does hurt ...ive approached hundreds of girls and thats not an exaggeration....its the reality ....literally hundreds and I've found my person after all that. I always start off as optional in every situation. In some cases I become relevant....even necessary...but wishing to be necessary is too high of an expectation. Keep it light and if if it aint right communicate...if nothing changes drop that shit. If it works You have Love Commitment EFFECTIVE Communication Understanding Trust Sexual attraction Some form of reciprocation You'll be fine

@@mauricionovae8484 I am not here to argue. I hear you loud and clear. Thank you.

From psychoanalysis

That’s beautiful, I’m glad his advice actually works.

Me too!

so i have to make the first move to get the person i like right

@@hardcorepreparation6740 You should just give a clear sign of interest... You don’t need to plan the first date if you don’t want to! That’s what I did to make him notice me and to see If he was interested in me. I just decided to go talk to him and to write him one time aftewards. He did the rest!

Going back to the All days with a guy picked up the handkerchief even before that to biblical days it said a man who finds a wife finds a good thing I don’t like the new woman who gets on her knees and ask for his hand in marriage never chase a man not saying that I don’t approve of a strong woman who knows what she wants and goes for it however keep the testosterone level down ladies estrogen always wins a sweet cookie

Do you really think men are supposed to change who they are to suit you? If so, that's an unhealthy expectation.

@@thevoxdeus I didn't write that. That's what YOU chose to understand.

You don't have a choice, most men are not going to choose you if you come as aggressive. That is why Matthew suggests a more subtle approach, like dropping the handkerchief. Straight men do not want to date men

@@Darth_Serpentor Agreed. But I didn´t write anything about being aggressive, or about men having to change for us. All I meant was that we women tend to forget that we have a choice on who suits better for us. As men do too. We don´t have to accept whoever comes into our lives if they don´t ally with what we believe in terms of a healthy relationship. I see many women (such as myself in the past) in a sort of "desperate mode", which is accepting a person who doesn´t want to be in a relationship, just so that we are not alone. Understand?

Damn your so right. But if I look at a guy and I'm Not interested than I'll just ignore him

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My mom told me not to look for it. When you least expect it, it happens. That has been true with some of my relationships. Of course they haven't worked out too well in the past,but I think this guy im seeing, is the one. It'll just take some time for the relationship to flourish since e has been through so much.

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Amazingly it can happen!

@@lindacahoon829 hey Linda, how is going with the guy?

Yup. I have been experiencing the same thing.

100% !!! Social media has definitely damaged women more than men, women are rewarded for being narcissistic and provocative, and therefore men are given too much choice that they didn't use to have. Also you know what else annoys me? Men - especially good looking men say that they don't like fake looking girls with fake boobs, hair, lips, fillers etc - yet WHO are the ones they always end up going after and end up in a relationship with - Instagram girls!! SO infuriating!! Makes you feel like you are not good enough just the way you are, no wonder girls are so insecure ☹

Yes, they’re not alphas and lack the masculinity to take the lead... they have to earn our investment and attention.

@@georginalewis837 One thing about me is I never let myself feel insecure. Try to work on that. It is VERY annoying men lately I agree with you say they don't want one thing yet go for another thing. I've had men attracted to me and even when I do approach they still play around or its someone I am not into but I'm direct. I feel the act of 'committing' is really being lost and its being acceptable in society to 'play house' and in the end people get really hurt. Social media in general is destroying youth and no one knows how to handle emotions. All the men I have encountered so far do not know how to handle emotion even when they are doing well in life. That is a signal to me. Sorry I went on a ramble but my point is it not your fault and don't ever think it (unless of course its valid) when with a man. I really encourage you to watch Breeny Lee she really impacting videos!

I always believe that the right one will come by, and when he does you'll be wondering where he has been all your life. A little cheesy, but hopeful

Agreed. I have a few younger employees that are women ages 21-24 and while out with them once I scolded them for being openly rude to a guy who kindly shot his shot. It's important not to discourage respectful behavior.

I agree totally. I can't stand rejection, but I can control how much I get rejected. Men have to keep, getting rejected or wind out getting hardened by dating.

Why don't you take the lead and ask the man out?

One way to avoid that is to wear a wedding ring. I wore one for five years after a severe heartbreak. But I am sure there are some slime balls that wouldn't care...

I think I would give my number to anyone who asked to meet more people and to get to know them first before judging (unless something feels off, your gut telling something is weird etc... )

100% facts

Any good thing takes work, but it rewards with equal pleasure. But not because they are difficult to manage. But because we care and invest our time and energy (work). But then we also reap the satisfying rewards. If a relationship starts feeling like more work than pleasure, that is when it is time to reevaluate...

Soooo true. This really hit me and finally made sense. I fell in love with someone who was in a relationship and then got married and all the time he spent with me during this time was great - that’s just what it was…a great time. Nothing more even though it felt as if it would go further. Until I finally said that I wanted more and can’t keep doing this to myself. Feeling so excited to see him and it was to going home alone. He had a life with someone and had no intention of having that life with me. I didn’t exist to anyone in his world but he did in mine. So lesson learned - I was only an option not a priority.

Ty❤

Thank you!

This is great. Thanks!

Thank you. 😊

Thanks for your efforts❤

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the guy I'm seeing, one of the first things we said to each other at the SAME TIME: " I MISS UNDERSTOOD YOUR TEXT." how crazy is that?

Agreed

We see ourselves reflected back through relationship. i am a senior and happily single woman who knows this. We can discover nothing alone.

He seems quite sad though

@@honeysugar1 yes.. I dunno why!

what’s on the inside shows on the outside 💘🥺

He seems hurt

@Jessica Yes he looks under the weather !!

@Jordan Atlin I thought that as well! In his last few videos as well. Maybe it's the lighting? Or he's not getting enough sleep?

I was waiting for someone to say that... Sad that a man had to say that...

Love myself and you too!

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Don't complain later on then

@@madking1021 I won’t.

@@julieadamson6398 just wait.....

take vitamin e and flax oil every day

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So while being friends, (sensitive topic here) did you just stay celibate or were you guys friends with benefits? I had a coworker who was friends with a guy first for a long time, I was wondering the same thing, she later revealed that she and him had been friends with benefits after breaking up with boyfriend.

This is the worst advice

@@user-us4uz4xu7y it really is 😢

I work with a lady who's Husband totally kisses the earth she walks on. She is so spoiled and confident with power. But does she love him back?

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@@ImranKhan-tj3dr hahahaha

The right person, will never come along. It is aaaannnn old outdated message. Wrrrrooonngg

@@keepcreationprocess that's probably why you don't have an amazing relationship, your perspective is wrong....do you have a healthy perspective & love for yourself? Do you know what healthy behavior & attitudes are in your life & relationships? People generally pick out partners according to what they are taught & how they feel & see themselves. How do you view women? If you want a good women, have you become the kind of man a good woman will be attracted to & deserve? It sounds like you're going in the wrong direction for picking partners.

exactly....integrity... i said that to myself...its so hard to find

Sooo true 😂 time to try something else 😉

@@LisaBilyeu the sad part is this... you think that is us who have to make the move when all along you could have done the same... So sad tbh. Especially when you think about it. Theres alot of regret there i bet. Because your scared because your to good or whatever you whant to use as an excuse... But heres the thing. I dont regret a thing cause atleast i tried failed sure... but i got her! can you say the same? no i bet you cannot say the same.

Omg I tend to ignore people I'm attracted to out of terror haha

@@jaimierose2985 well why? what is the worst that can happend? No im sorry im taken or im sorry im not into you. that is litterly it... right? so why are you being so scared again? Trust me you miss out.

@@sebulller yeah, you're right! It's something I'm actually working on now. There's someone I'm gonna try and ask out next week! You don't know unless you try. So, thank you!!

I always thought his content made sense and there is also a psychologist in the comments that took his advice and supports him.

I like looking at him 🤩

Of course! Because he is British.

Hello dear

Let's see how long will it take you to leave him

Women initiated the interest in men they want for thousands of years, but then, they used to know what they want.

@@alexk2049 and women rejected these women and went after hot chicks who played them

Am so proud 🥲 of you I hope you guys stay together forever. I commend your bravery🙌👏👏

"Average guys are no better than the so-called "one percent."

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I don't know about that. Usually people tend to put their best shoe forward.

It's so annoying when people interrupt others. That happens to me at work,or they walk away while I'm talking. Have you ever seen the view? I've only seen clips but those women interrupt all the time

SarahDunlap Good for you! 👍 And, it's good to read that there isn't a one fits all way of getting together, or staying together! Humans are very different, and variable. I think it's a big mistake to always go by the so called rules... Although, usually, chasing a man as a woman doesn't bring much, but often a breakup or ignorance from the man. Alas. I also really didn't recognise myself, last year, being full of extreem high energy, happiness, and chasing a man I really appreciated a lot, and him me. I lost track of my own self for a 1.5 month!! (That 1.5 month seemed like a year, for me!! For him, it only was like three weeks!) He gave me the ice cold shoulder, soon after. A huge rejection, I never had been through before!! It's horrible. And, a year later, here I am, still thinking about him, and the why and how... Especially because I knew that he did love me... And, he wanted so much to be together. But his past fears caught up with him. And, he flung it onto me, that way. Very nasty. 😓 When I showed him how much he meant to me, by showing up once at a different time, because I thought he was in need at that moment. (Wrong, but due to no or afterwards bad communication on his side, I thought it better to see him, fast). He took that action of mine so badly, to reject me bluntly and harshly. Although I explained afterwards. He's not a good communicator, when he thinks someone wants to hurt him. (Which I certainly didn't!). I won't go into detail, but he's way too mucked up inside and too complicated for me. Strange, because he too, like your man, is very shy and introverted. But doesn't show it really. And, he did appreciate my way of approaching him, and being there for him! He said so, many times. I still don't know what really happened in his head or life, at the moment of rejection. He still hasn't told me, properly... After 7 long months, no contact, (I forced myself), I only went to see him for a few brief moments, like his birthday. He was cold and seeked to be nasty... It's a transfer, from his past onto me, but he doesn't seem to want to register that. I've tried to tell him. He's is a very bad listener, alas. And, thinks he's superior, just because of his studies...(Alrhough, I'm more studied!). But, he's done some immense stupid things. Like making his business go backrupt, by corrupting huge amounts of money, having wrong associates, etc... But, he's ever so proud... Fled his country, and started from scratch here... Being a slave in a fast food!! Owes his country billions, and should be in prison. But strange enough it doesn't seem to bug him that much... He's just after the money here, again!! And, I thought he was a spiritual being, because he did show me that side of him, too!!!! Wishful thinking! So, I don't seek any contact any longer. He can get it up his! It took me a year, to unhook. He will find out soon what he did to me. The Universe will tell him, and show him. Because the worst is what he did to himself. And I'm very sad about that. It hit hard. He's a masochist. It will hit harder into him, now, I'm sure. Time will tell. In an ideal world, afcourse I'd wish all of this wouldn't have happened! And, that we'd be happily together! But, this is the real world ! I wish for a balanced, harmonious, kind, caring, responsible and giving man, and for a blissful loving and long-lasting relationship. 🙏💖 Take care, 🤗

Totally agree 👏

I agree. Hussey is actually victim-blaming by putting the onus on women to decode manipulative males. Disgusting.

@@TxHoneyBee I disagree. He never states that we as women HAVE TO decode anyone and to obey the man blindly, but gives a guidance to BE ABLE TO decode what is/what could be manipulation, to make a distinction what is manipulation and what is the truth, and how to deal with any manipulation in a proper, bold and self-respectful way. Nicely said, well-worded phrases and masculine, strong approach don't guarantee true and sincere feelings behind them, the same way shyness and waiting on a girl to approach don't mean a guy is not interested and should be rejected as not interested/weak etc. He explained it extremely well in the beginning of the video. And although actions do speak louder than words, attention doesn't mean intention.

We think differently and communicate differently. Communication is key. He is showing us how to see the situation from a males perspective. How can you decode a language you don’t speak? Emotions and getting rejected causes blockages to communications.

@@Raray200 exactly. Beautifully said.

Word.

Yeah even I feel the same. Some of Matthew videos make women go for pleasing men.

Yep.

Damn straight!

How is he a relationships expert? He has never been married and never had a long term relationship - another BS story that will come to light when the truth hits

Haha! He’s worthy don’t you think 😉❤️

watch his actions, ignore his words.

If men and women are both looking to choose the one who loves them rather than the one they love, then it's a stale mate. Everyone is choosing no one. There should be some degree of balance.

Best advice ever.

That's.. pretty sad.

John gray, right?

@@juliemango3538 I'm sure there would be some crossover.. lol

i fell for you just looking at you walkin the office, plus the feel of your hand holding mine made me feel so secure in the world so sure of who I am, confident in me as well as you. you are and you have been the completehappiness of my entire lifffe. stay just as you are. You are perfect for me. I hope I can be as good for you as you have been for me. PERFECT. F for salways yours . F

Thank you for taking your time to write this down

i've always gravitated more toward older guys too.. i'm kind of an old soul myself for 40.. I feel like what tends to get complicated is some of the older ones (who've been married before, have kids/grandkids,) tend to have some baggage, if you will....and it gets a little harder to set a solid foundation. Sometimes you are at different life stages also, which can make things complicated... But don't let any of that discourage you...just some aspects to be aware of and open-minded about.

So great to hear! Glad you enjoyed the episode 🙌

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