How to get your boss to respect you and stop being difficult at work

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In this professional communication training video, How to get your boss to respect you and stop being difficult at work, communication skills coach Dan O'Connor gives you tips and techniques for getting your boss to stop harassing you and start respecting you. #difficultbosses #gainrespect #respectatwork
Here's the breakdown of this free effective communication skills training lesson online:
0:40 How to get your questions answered
1:14 Leanna's dilemma
1:58 How to set up this talk
2:43 Some handy power phrases to start
3:00 Danger phrases to avoid
3:40 a great lead-in line for this talk
4:07 Woman to Woman
4:52 How to say, "I respect you"
5:15 The complete lead-in line
5:43 What it means to "Overturn the Tables"
7:12 Key phrases for table-turning
7:33 Where to get more
8:12 How to take the high road
8:43 The entire message
9:27 Block the interruptions
10:24 I don't judge you for your mistakes
10:40 You're better than that
10:55 You can always come to me
11:14 I cannot abide that
11:44 I don't want to have this talk again with you
12:45 The essence of assertive communication
13:17 Forgive and atone
13:25 Level 2
13:50 I was trying to be nice
14:45 Throwing down the gauntlet
15:04 This is not a sorority
15:53 Mandate and Unfair
17:33 Enough
18:29 Above all else . . .
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-Getting unstuck and moving ahead in your career
-How to gain the respect and acknowledgement you know you deserve
-Communication skills for the telephone
-How to deal with difficult people at work--notably bullies, gossips, and people who make inappropriate comments
-How to be seen as the competent professional you know yourself to be
-How to approach your job with confidence and earn the respect of coworkers
-Job interview skills
-How to deliver bad news to a customer
-Communication Skills for Leaders
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@TheWizardOfWords Год назад

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@denishabrown4034 Год назад

Omg this is delicious!!!! I’m in bed giggling and can’t wait to try!

@judojohn11 Год назад

Your videos are always good. I didn't mean to suggest it doesn't work. In my situation I am respectful to my bosses. I was hoping they would show the same kind of respect. What happened to me has to be much deeper. Mom and pops just didn't like it. I was just a good fit for them. I'll keep on trying to love people some day I'll get a little love back. I look to see how to become a Channel member. Thank you .

@oanar1289 4 года назад

I have the opposite issue, my boss thinks I don't respect him and I treat him like the cleaning lady...but I respect the cleaning lady, not sure what he means...he expects submissivness and I expect equality. He sees me as challenging his authority. I see him as a tyrant who wants people to follow him blindly. Not sure how this can be fixed. Currently we are ignoring each other

@justmejo9008 4 года назад

Yes 📢 this Dan

@KarmasAbutch 4 года назад

Yup

@myheroacademialover4923 Год назад

I am a cleaning lady and I get treated like shit.

@user-oe4bl5qs7t 8 месяцев назад

Curious- Are you still at that job?

@taylora3830 7 месяцев назад

YES!!

@micheller6804 3 года назад

My boss recently came to me, said I wasn't acting my usual self and asked if anything was up. I had tried to approach her in the past regarding certain workplace issues, but she appeared dismissive. So I gave up and began looking for work elsewhere. I felt I had nothing to lose at this point, and was honest with her, saying I didn't think the job was for me, and I felt like leaving. She pulled me into a conference room and we had a frank but respectful discussion. We agreed to meet the following week while she spoke to some higher ups and HR about the situation. Come Monday morning, she called me into the conference room and slid a paper across the table. I figured I was terminated, but was surprised to see it was an offer for a substantial raise. I am learning to become more assertive, which is a struggle because I'm naturally passive. Ironically, calmly and logically explaining how dissatisfied I was made them respect me more. Thank you for your videos. They are so helpful. 👍

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Bravo and right on Michelle R!

@Mosdefinitelyable Год назад

Omg great story

@alamedadanceparty Год назад

Amazing! Congratulations for standing up for yourself!

@animezinglife9627 2 года назад

The day my boss respects me is the day I know my character has fallen to her level. She is a dreadful, cruel, competitive, and insecure woman, and a textbook narcissist. She's known to throw tantrums in the workplace and treat everyone like garbage. I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm counting down the days when I can get out of there. Any advice in the meantime for those who go far beyond rude or passive-aggressive?

@TheWizardOfWords 2 года назад

Stay well below the radar until you have the opportunity to leave. A true narcissist should be avoided at all costs.

@bekit7131 Год назад

Thanks for making this video. You are one of the few career coaches on youtube that support being assertive when dealing with coworkers & managers.

@juanitav1592 4 года назад

You are an amazing communicator!! I’m blown away by your savvy technique!😍

@craig3714 4 года назад

Thank you for your message Dan I needed this dealing with a narcissistic boss too .

@debbiekillewald8384 4 года назад

This is awesome thank you! I just love how they try to make it look like a mistake calling you a different name. Great way of handling that.

@marilynl2545 4 года назад

Thank you for sharing your wisdom and insight it's always helpful...you're awesome

@Angelchickie101 Год назад

I love your professionalism ❤❤❤❤

@circular17 4 года назад

This video is very useful to me because it shows a way to be angry that actually delivers the essential message. I have been looking into communication to improve myself, but it always seemed to suppose that it goes alright or at least that it never gets to a dead end. Though frustrating cases do happen and just the fact the they are possible can hinder my motivation as I don't know how to handle them. Even though it may be theoretical it is good to know how you can react to them.

@MillwallMike 4 года назад

I needed this like you have no idea! Many thanks. You're legendary!

@justmejo9008 4 года назад

As always .. Thanks Dan 💚

@JesusSaves77799 Год назад

Thank you Dan!! Great video!!! God bless you!! 🙏💖

@zac2877 Год назад

The way you tell a story and the way that you speak, and do it with humor and in a basic way, helps it stick in my brain better. Thank you for this I am absorbing this information and I really needed exactly this one thank you

@TheWizardOfWords Год назад

Happy to help, Zac.

@KimberlyLetsGo 4 года назад

You're awesome, Dan!

@zac2877 Год назад

When he said: " But sometimes..... you Have to overturn the tables in the temple." Then the world's explode revealing his serious gaze back at the camera. That one moment was priceless, made me TRULY laugh

@zac2877 Год назад

Liked, subscribed, and shared. Thank you for sharing some of your wisdom

@TheWizardOfWords Год назад

Thanks for the subscription and for your comments, Zac. Much appreciated.

@shanehall98 4 года назад

Hello Daniel, I have been enjoying your videos. I have been using your tips to deal with people in my life.

@Mosdefinitelyable Год назад

Ok I tried some of this today. It was hard but I actually let my feelings support my communication. I told her how I felt. “Your email really hurt me and is preventing me progress in the organization. “ she had a hard time and said she needed to get back to me. I hope it goes well. I feel good and strong and confident. This is my soul speaking.

@TheWizardOfWords Год назад

Good for you, Mosdefinitelyable.

@dominiquedoeslife 3 месяца назад

Well…? How’d it go?

@Mosdefinitelyable 3 месяца назад

@@dominiquedoeslife Oh, I definitely got fired for that one. Haha! But, all in all, speaking up for myself results in bigger wins for my self-confidence. Feeling good, I moved on to other opportunities. :) Thanks for asking! Your content is still good. For me, speaking up for myself is more important that a job. Just my opinion.

@dominiquedoeslife 3 месяца назад

@@Mosdefinitelyable Oh no! I’m so sorry.

@dominiquedoeslife 3 месяца назад

@@Mosdefinitelyable I agree though. Speaking up for yourself matters.

@NikkiElla622 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for making this video this helps me so much!!!

@aratsass1 2 года назад

This channel is PURE GOLD

@AshJae 3 года назад

Thank you so much!! This will be so very helpful for me especially right now at this time.

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Glad it was helpful, Ashley.

@beth6102 4 года назад

Dan is SO wise!

@tomasacadiz9467 3 года назад

Your tips are so helpful and you crack me up too. You make my day!

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Thank you Tomasa. My byline for onsite training has always been "No more boring training--ever" because I believe it is possible to keep people awake during a seminar--or a RU-vid video. (Possible, not always easy :) )

@carlamitchell2259 3 года назад

Wow. This one blew me away; you are gold!

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Not platinum? Come on now!

@bluelight5706 4 года назад

Thanks so much!!!🦋🦋🦋

@venicebeckford3341 2 года назад

Thank you

@GlasssWalll 3 года назад

I love watching your videos while I get ready for work, these inspire me to improve my communication skills! Thank you

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Thanks for letting me know Gla$$$Walll. Did I get that name right?

@GlasssWalll 2 года назад

It’s Kelly :) My profile is ancient and due for an update!

@sunflower-bp6np 3 года назад

I've done it with a co worker ... it actually work... but now that I've seen your video I'll do it conciously

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Great and please let us know how it goes, Sun.

@kaminisalunke9550 3 года назад

Excellent communication skills Sir. You are great.👍

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Thanks Kamini. Please like and share!

@susanwines5407 2 года назад

Thanks!

@deborahmartin6835 3 года назад

Lol! I found you 5 days ago. This is my favorite video so far. Lol

@sherrianelliott7994 Год назад

Thank you 🎉

@blackmamba2613 Год назад

Thank you very much for this video, it change everything. It's work s out for me.

@TheWizardOfWords Год назад

Great to hear, and please share this video.

@smoothacceleration437 3 года назад

Damn, that was such a powerful & masterful delivery. Great video.

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Many thanks for your comment. I hope you liked and will share the video.

@hylabrookbooks Год назад

these are so so helpful!!

@TheWizardOfWords Год назад

Glad you think so!

@chinkyfist6655 3 года назад

This video was very helpful. Thanks again. I'll have to keep watching your vids.

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Please watch, like and share Chinkyfist. I would very much appreciate that. Dan

@vivianawolford6102 Год назад

Thank you for all you help and wonderful communication knowledge.

@missdeep6260 4 года назад

The background is bothering my eyes lol the pattern looks like it’s moving .. i love ur content

@SKW-12 4 года назад

Brilliant. Elegant. Empowering, Full of integrity. Thank you! I especially appreciate your underlying thread of loving expression. I hope you are with people who love you, too ^u^

@marilynl2545 4 года назад

Fair is an annual event in some states featuring farm animals....one of my moms sayings....

@spd2978 4 года назад

Dan, wishing you a speedy recovery.

@jennyaskswhy Год назад

Love this

@TheWizardOfWords Год назад

Many thanks and please spread the word :)

@dawnmarshall1290 8 месяцев назад

That is sooo funny! I've once hada boss that kept calling me by my official name instead of the one on my name tag! Lol! It was on purpose and I was too timid to correct her. Listen to Dan! I regret not standing up to her. Thanks Dan!

@princessrosy403 11 месяцев назад

You’re amazing!!!! Glad I found you!!!!!😢😂😮😊😊🎉🎉❤

@princessrosy403 11 месяцев назад

Oh my gosh.. your just amazing!!!!!!😮😮😮😅😅😊😊😊😊😊😊

@vexstar151 3 года назад

BEST, REAL Advice for the workplace that I've ever learned! I only wish I could be that straight forward AND assertive tho... especially w/ The Boss! But thank you for this! Hopefully in time, I'll learn to mix a mild amount of assertiveness into my constant people-pleasing manner (aka, constant sugar coating)!!🤞🏻🤞🏻 P.S. Such a delight to find your channel 💝☺️💝

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Karen--not "A Karen" (thankfully) Please keep trying, poco a poco--to be assertive and straightforward. It's OK to be a people-pleaser, but not at the expense of your own needs. And I'm happy we found each other :)(

@gbrieannful 3 года назад

@@TheWizardOfWords you’re the first person I’ve heard say it’s okay to be a people pleaser. I always that was a negative trait. Interesting 🤔

@meeganhargrave5899 Год назад

What do you do if you politely stand up for yourself to a passive aggressive boss, and tell her how you feel about a certain situation, but she then turns it around on you and plays the victim? I politely stood up for myself because she acted out of line and was very disrespectful to me, and in turn she got offended and said, "No one speaks to me that way!" I was very polite and said phrases like, "I feel like", and was in no way disrespectful to her. Yet, she got very defensive. She also at times will say one thing one day, and then redact that statement a few days later. Can't ever stick to one plan, and is constantly changing things from one day to the next. It's very frustrating. I want to have a good relationship with her, but when she gets in these passive aggressive, high all mighty moods it makes it very difficult to deal with. I also understand that she is in the authority to act high and all mighty since she is my boss, but at the same time she should respect her employees at all times, and they should be able to communicate their feelings or concerns without the backlash in return.

@TheWizardOfWords Год назад

Meegan, I can't answer that question without having been there because tone and posture are a very real part of the message you delivered. And some people, even when you perfectly deliver a message, will become defensive. All you can do is your best, and then decide whether or not you can live with this person's erratic behavior.

@ogonebasiamang2163 Год назад

I can’t imagine myself taking a walk with my boss 😅, you have taught me so much, I have become a better communicator and I am pleasantly surprised 🥳 thank you for your videos I have even shared with my friends because they are essential

@TheWizardOfWords Год назад

You are so welcome.

@ActionAimz 2 года назад

At first I was like no way would I say that to my boss but I get it in context it totally works!

@TheWizardOfWords 2 года назад

I think so, ActionAimz.

@advocateagainstantisemitism 3 года назад

I think I love you lol. And I'm pretty sure you'll never see this comment anyway, but I had a major issue with my boss last week, and I'm expecting a show down in front of my colleagues tomorrow as is her habit to embarrass me. I am TAKING NOTES. I already feel less anxious. Thank you so much for your videos. Love, from your new favorite fan !!!!

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Oh I saw it. I try to read and answer these comments as time allows. Be sure and give me an update from your meeting with your boss.

@advocateagainstantisemitism 2 года назад

@@TheWizardOfWords well......here we are 9 months later and I have a new job. 😂 I'm also back to watching your videos and taking careful notes for my flashcard collection. So that what happened at the last job never happens to me again.

@svingysvingy 4 года назад

re question of saying “woman to man/Man to woman”: How about “person to person”?

@Bradley9967 4 года назад

Face to face

@krisvars6122 3 года назад

won't work boss is an animal.

@daisyhuntsmen8022 3 года назад

I’m smarter than I thought. I did this and used a lot of the language here before I even found this channel. My boss on the last hour of the last day of training went off on me because I worked for 4 days 3 years ago by a hired contractor in the same field. I answered her line of questioning, and she literally said, omg forget it, it like pulling teeth with you. Then circled around again picking off more information, and rewording her questions. I answered and she said It not ok, and said my name in such discuss that it could not be taken any other way but as upset. So that co tinted for 20 minutes in front of 5 other people in training class. I reported to my Temp Agency what happened. 2 days went by and the response was, oh she was just questioning something, it’s ok report to work on Monday @7:45. Um no it’s clearly not ok. I feel attacked, do you think I don’t know what an attack is?

@uknowitliberty6373 4 года назад

#Truth.Be.Told.

@LadyBug31705 2 года назад

So true! I did just that last year at work. And I that is what I have told others, " Jesus flipped tables in the temple." And He is our example to follow. Sometimes we have to flip the tables for others to take us seriously.

@vivianawolford6102 Год назад

That would be an interesting way to do it. Sometimes I feel that way

@louisbates673 4 года назад

I love this channel but does anyone have a boss that has the time to walk around the block with them?! Saying stuff like "I expect more from you" is a bit condescending, hats off to people who go ahead and take this approach tho!

@user-rf5pb7cx6z 3 года назад

I wish I wish I had your Gift. Thanks so much :)

@stephaniefrost8508 4 года назад

I have a question that I’m sure many others have. My supervisor has been singling me out for a year because I called her out on behavior that was directly lowering my teams performance and upsetting everybody. What this supervisor will do is make sure she didn’t do anything wrong, but rather one of the team members will have the blame on them. Usually, this is a result of there being some kind of invisible rule that she hasn’t told one or all of us. What can I do to maintain my image to everyone else or get her to stop doing this?

@stephaniefrost8508 4 года назад

Just Moi That’s what ended up happening. Lol Great explanation 😁

@sugarfalls1 3 года назад

I'm sorry to say this, but narcissists don't think they do or have done anything wrong. I've never thought a supervisor would bend over backwards to change their behavior. If she's singling you out, then you'll have to wait until it blows over. And don't bring up anything again about how she treats you. If she demeans your teams performance, that's a reflection on her and you can just show them to rise above it. I'm sorry but I don't think there's anything you can do since you pointed out what she's doing. I'd like to know if you changed jobs since then or if things have gotten better.

@DarthTwilight 2 года назад

Get everyone to tell you how she does it, then find the common thread. People like that are wolves, and they often go for the one that they think is weakest, and by that I mean in job, personality type, something that reflects their insecurities, etc. Find the pattern? You find the way to fix it with everyone on board. Gather information, but learn to do it subtly. Steer the conversation from at least two others, then, just let them talk, and you'll find out if this person is gonna tell you anything useful. If they look like they're shocked, just say, "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have asked." This will prompt either a verbal and or non-verbal cue. Assuming you know how to read people, this will give you at least four different options if you use yes or no questions when you finally get them talking about it with open-ended questions. No matter what, be sincere.

@myang651943 Год назад

I've tried these with employees and it works but doesn't work for a boss or a supervisor. They think they are always right and they do no wrong. Even as a manager to manager they have taken it the wrong way.

@MayorgasHotWheelsWorkshop Год назад

love this videoo on the GGGGGsSpot!!!

@SKW-12 4 года назад

My team are very focused on framing anything with positive words. But we notice that something can be fine when spoken, yet can seem presumptuous or passive aggressive if expressed via email. For example, when speaking: "Would you mind helping me with ...?" The collaborative answer is "no", implying "I don't mind - but it seems counter-intuitive to say "no" when agreeing to do engage in something. INSTEAD we ask simply, "Would you help me with ...?" to which one can answer, "Yes" - and this feels like a better response that moves both parties forward. However, in writing, the simpler version seems too abrupt. Do you have any videos/tips on adapting best phrases depending on the delivery format (spoken vs. written)? Or, perhaps there's a different way altogether of posing such a question. Thanks, Dan. 🙏

@shaylajwashington8139 2 года назад

Good day, Dan.

@TheWizardOfWords 2 года назад

Good day, Shayla.

@JustMe-qe2ki 3 года назад

OMG TRIXIE 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Awesome advice

@ruthycantfail 3 года назад

Very interesting. I started a job last month and my manager has changed my name from Ruth to Lucy! At first I was kinda like “I don’t care” (the reason for the name change being I teach foreign kids who might find it hard to pronounce Ruth), but it’s started to really piss me off, especially as she barks orders “Lucy! Do this/that”. So another manager, who may be her boss, haven’t figured out the hierarchy yet, has told me she doesn’t agree with it because the kids need to learn how to pronounce sounds that are hard for them, so going to have a chat with line manager about it this week and ask to be called my actual name! So this was very helpful 🙏

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Glad to be of help, and btw, as a former teacher, I'm going to weigh in: Your name is Ruth; that is what you should be called.

@ruthycantfail 3 года назад

Online Communication Skills Training Courses thanks so much for your reply Dan! I spoke to her about it today using your tips and it went well, I’m now Ruth again 😂 I also asked her to stop manhandling me which she had been doing the past couple of days, roughly grabbing my arm, so the video you did on asking people to stop touching you also came in useful! Love your work 🙌

@Scorpio12348 2 года назад

Omg unbelievable

@Fiiii4567 4 года назад

Brilliant Dan! Dont choose the roof top to talk though,it be awful if an accident happened 🤣

@katarinatibai8396 3 года назад

🤣🤣🤣 I had the same tought - 😆 - it would be to big temptetion for me.

@imalwaysme4332 Год назад

🤣😂🤣😂🤣😅🤣😂🤣😅

@a.d.b535 9 месяцев назад

After much abuse, I grew a backbone, looked at boss man direct in the eyes and told him to deal with me as a professional. He's backed off since.

@TheWizardOfWords 9 месяцев назад

Proving that it CAN be done and you WILL be respected.

@kiyasuihito 8 месяцев назад

Love this video 🎉 As a man raised by a narcissistic father and in a feminist culture who constantly bombards men to be passive and harmless and submissive, I find your content incredibly helpful. Thank you! 🎉🎉

@TheWizardOfWords 8 месяцев назад

You're welcome, Rudy, and please check this out. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-CXCUmkfMNDk.htmlsi=4G1MBK6LVNoUAmhm

@arizonanative7409 3 месяца назад

Dan… I work 100% remotely. My boss changed toward me after the higher ups complimented me. I’m going to try your ideas.

@TheWizardOfWords 3 месяца назад

Let me know, Arizona.

@HomemademasksNet0 2 года назад

Very helpful and I can tell you enjoy turning the tables very much 😁 I would like you as my lawyer whenever I am in my people pleaser mode 😄

@TheWizardOfWords 2 года назад

Deal!

@judojohn11 Год назад

I did. Now I don't have a job. I feel like a failure. I loved my job. Is it because I let them know they couldn't schedule us to be on call without pay? They said they have to let me go because I can't remember the processes while putting jewelry together. Yet I completed everything and the customers were happy.

@Pumpkinshaker 4 года назад

Great advice, but it Wouldnt work with my boss, unfortunately.

@jasimalyousif8054 4 года назад

Is there any possibility to ignore someone trying to embrass you of others?

@april2161 3 года назад

Will you offer any more training in the future? I just discovered you today. There were references to signing up but only for a limited time & I see nothing about it below. I am bummed about getting in late. Thank you.

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Ruefus, training is my life. If you want to take a look at my upcoming course that is currently on pre-sale, as well as my VIP package and individual training courses, go to www.danoconnortraining.com/ and click the "learn more" link at the top of the page for information on my pre-sale new course, and click "shop" to see everything else. You haven't missed a thing. I'd love to welcome you to my training! Dan

@april2161 3 года назад

Whoa. I can't believe you answered that quick. Thank you.

@indigosungirl 2 месяца назад

And when you’re well-seasoned you would say right there that you don’t go by that name. Then don’t answer to what is not your called name. “Why do you keep calling me Mary when I don’t go by that”

@holdyourhorses9842 3 года назад

Mr. Dan, I've got a boss who is loud and serious at all times. He tilts his head back and looks down his nose at me when I have question. Is that a narcissist?

@MrOMYSTARZ 3 года назад

God said, "let there be Dan"!

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

HAHAHAHA, thanks Johnnie. Don't let my mother see this. She'll call it blasphemy. :)

@marilynl2545 4 года назад

HI Dan hope your burns heal soon maybe some aloe Vera will quicken the wound or rx silver sulfadiazine cream

@Beautifulblessings88 6 месяцев назад

I been at this job for awhile and I'm getting tired of my boss. She acts rude and loud she wants you to cater to her needs and she micromanage. She's been making me go to the store for her. She treats me like I'm her personal shooper and I'm not. Also when we run out of food at lunch for the students she blames us but the blame should be on her cause she tells us not to make anymore even though I ask her ahead of time to make more. She told me to tell the kids we are cooking more even though we're not she doesn't want me to tell the students we're out of entree. Also when I haven't clocked in yet she asked me to do something I tell her but i haven't clocked in yet she say she doesn't care go do what I told you. She nit picks at certain things even though she doesn't have to.

@TheWizardOfWords 6 месяцев назад

You know what to do.

@ScooterMcWhatnow 3 месяца назад

why would you continue working with that :O take control of YOUR life

@techworld-kc6lt 4 года назад

How about in a work place that is low paying I.e. hair salon they are unwilling or impossible to hear you or the moment you speak they talk loader with any words that make no sense in other word they don’t want to hear anything from you; also they know that the owner is short of stylish and they will not be fired

@fim-kaukimoce7283 3 года назад

Dan I really want to do this however there is a language barrier. What should I do?

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

You'll have to work on you linguistic skills, FI.

@Dina_Darling 3 года назад

Person to person evens the playing field.

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Right.

@andrestifyable Год назад

I wonder if this would play out well on the long run

@TheWizardOfWords Год назад

Why wouldn't it, Andrestifyable?

@angelaking8580 4 месяца назад

My boss wants me to step up my goals and I asked to job shadow her position, (because i want to become a supervisor) its been 2 years and each year this is the reply" you can but its boring, send me the request again but if you dont want too, its okay" She is a bully and can be aggressive...what do i say!?

@Butterflyneverlands 3 года назад

I’d just look behind me and say, “Mary?” “Who’s Mary?” LOL

@jacknjill3000 7 месяцев назад

My boss when wanting to talk, always says not now or we’re not going to talk about that now. This manager seems like he’s not aware of his incompetence and have created skills to avoid explaining or avoid the whole issue. So what should I do or say that I demand to have a talk with you?! Why do upper management and do checks or ask staff that’s under this manager on how they’re doing?

@TheWizardOfWords 7 месяцев назад

I would send my boss an email requesting an appointment at his earliest convenience.

@liebersohn6868 2 года назад

What would you do when your boss burries you with a lot of work 4 times than other employees,you still shine though the set up, that same boss brushes off your concerns and unethical behaviour that you are enduring the impact and said focus on your role and do not bring other people behaviour.What would you do when you are singled out and your concerns and standing up for yourself getting you to be labelled by your boss as you are being argumentative and making negative comments that are not acceptable in the company Baring in mind I am a very high achiever,my boss wanted to break me, but I shined though the odds.

@aratsass1 2 года назад

Wow

@JulianeBella 3 года назад

I wouldn’t recommend using the word hostile at work. At the mention of that word in some workplaces policies are in place that immediately when a supervisor hears it he/she must report it. So unless you want to escalate things be aware of internal policies before using this word.

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Good point, Juliane. Words matter.

@healthiswealth7555 5 месяцев назад

Can you do a video on how to deal with a narcissistic boss?

@TheWizardOfWords 5 месяцев назад

Check my YT channel; been there, done that.

@joannab3887 3 года назад

How do you handle an interrupter who just will not stop interrupting and does not allow you to speak at all?

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

I would eliminate that person from my circle of acquaintances. If that person were at work, I would avoid them. If I had to interact with someone like that at work, I would look at them but not speak. When they notice this and comment on it, I would ask them if they are ready to listen to what I have to say, and wait until I am finished before they respond. If they say "yes" I would speak. If they interrupt I would stop speaking and just look at them. This would become the pattern and I would not break it. The first time they interrupt, stop speaking and DO NOT SAY A WORD thereafter. Rinse and repeat daily.

@Sizzle43 4 года назад

Dan. I work in an unprofessional environment have a foreman who includes the other team members in our arguments because she has them wrapped around her fake ass. I just usually don’t say anything most of the time and don’t make buddies as I just put my head down and work. Sometimes though I try to make a suggestion to my foreman and that’s when it blows up. I don’t know what to do in those situations when she is trying to get me to look like an idiot in front of her “support crew”. I have no support. My main boss tells me to just be neutral but he does not see it happening. Anyone else have any suggestions too?

@youparkedinmysafe-space1476 3 года назад

Your best bet is too hardcore ignore everyone there. Be the most unpleasant person to be around and at the same time study the job and be better than all of them. They will crave your respect. But ignore the sirens. Eventually, you will have a couple of followers who will admire you because of how good at your job rather than a piece of silicon on your foreman backside. Develop your stamina, attention to detail, and maintain a good track record and keep them far off even when they try to buddy up with you because I promise you they will.

@mulan7015 3 года назад

Record that shit send it to HR or HR hotline. Sue them. Just make sure to know the recording laws in your state.

@mela.1060 Год назад

@@mulan7015 you can't record at work unfortunately :( not allowed

@annetterich1460 9 месяцев назад

@@mela.1060ha ha doesn’t stop any of my workplaces…seriously WTH?! Lawyers, anyone?!

@VesnaArtChannel 4 года назад

WOW Dan,,, I am listening to your videos for the first time and I have to say (pregnant blink) I love it (regular wink) ;P :) I have in an hour a to be unpleasant meeting with two of my bosses - one wasn't enough to beat me ;P I'll try to use some of your tips. I do find that my communication philosophy matches a lot what are you talking about. Lots to learn,,, Always,,, Ta

@TheWizardOfWords 4 года назад

Vesna, how did your meeting go?? Are you still employed? :) :)

@VesnaArtChannel 4 года назад

@@TheWizardOfWords Thanks for asking Dan. Let's say it was turning tables but not as a result of that meeting. The meeting was a waste of time and nerves. I had another one with my CEO and yes I am still employed. Trying to position myself much better than before the whole situation. I did some Can you repeat that please? and pregnant blinking hahahha and it is fun to see how people react on that.

@andreaviola8675 3 года назад

My Boss hasn't spoke to me or been into the office in almost 6 weeks. I keep him in the loop now via email but I find this completely passive aggressive behavior. Normally if/when he responds to me which is hours later its mostly something like ..Thx! . It is only him and I . I am basically on my own.

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Andrea, is there any need for your boss to come to your office? Do you need his help to do your job or are you looking for socialization. Is this a change of pattern for your boss??

@andreaviola8675 3 года назад

@@TheWizardOfWords It is a change of pattern for him. There are certain things I cannot do because I am not qualified. I am the only employee. We are supposed to have weekly meetings and product training ( I am studying to get certified to do what he does) he is just checked out. This is a new industry and while I am a smart cookie I don't know everything.

@54321LetsGlow Год назад

How do you handle a situation wherein you're new (6 weeks), and your boss sends you an email on a Saturday letting you know they are planning to meet with you regarding information they received from "their sources" about conversations and situations that took place during her absence last week. And wants to talk about training, organizational structure, team dynamics and expectations, and ends it with, "I just wanted to give you a heads up". I was taken back! Background: the team doesn't follow written policy, the manager has spoken disparagly of at least 2 other staff members, and I come from a compliance background which is why I was asked to join the team. I'm now feeling like I have to abandon my work ethic and shrink back as if leadership makes decisions based on emotion rather what's in the best interest of the organization.

@TheWizardOfWords Год назад

Whatever transpires, deal with it without emotion. Insist on specifics and facts and address those specifics and facts keeping your ethics intact always. If you have not violated company policy or your own ethics, don't be afraid of such meetings. If your supervisor is passing along gossip, point that out and point out what is the fact and the truth. Keep everything objective and very specific. In other words do not engage in generalities and do not allow her to engage in generalities. Do not be put off by her foolish warning.

@54321LetsGlow Год назад

@TheWizardOfWords Thank you for your insight and I appreciate that it aligns with my initial thoughts on having this discussion. I didn't reply to the warning btw. You're channel is exrtremely informative...many thanks again.

@1999PT 4 года назад

It worked for my kids too , lol I swear

@Butterflyneverlands 3 года назад

Good advice but I don’t think it’d work with most bosses. You can get fired or harassed in a passive way (oxymoron maybe?). Be careful using this with your boss. But with others? Oh yeah, baby!

@biljanas7931 Год назад

I agree with you. When they need you, you can stand on their head they wouldn't mind. On the other hand, when you seem redundant, nothing you say will be taken seriously.

@sunshinerainbows4627 2 года назад

Would you understand why a male passive aggressive boss might lay into one person real fast (30 seconds) yet say nothing to two managers who exceeded his dislike in a self interested way rather than a functional way? Example: Set the thermostat at 60 F to prevent freezing 🥶 pipes and the man laid into me due to expenses. Guess supposed to freeze too. Two managers set the temperatures at 68 F when they arrive yet when the day is done all is turned off. Long story short, the man fully laid into me. I sat in no heat all winter because didn't want to lose the position yet never see him. Pipes froze. Pipes burst. The cleanup fell in my hands since I walked into it. Drenched from head to toe. How could I have gone about getting him to spend 5 minutes listening to "afraid the pipes will freeze, we need to address this"? I said this yet he was racing off and stays in a remote office. He'll say he didn't hear me (his back was to me). Fully realize there is a tradeoff between prevention and expense yet he's not listening to reason. When the time comes its like nothing was said. Also, if he said, "set at this temperature only" that's simple. OR "is it possible he's angry and merely taking his frustration out on me?" This should be easy yet the powers that be seem to "hit and run". Any insites you might have, much appreciated.

@TheWizardOfWords 2 года назад

I suggest you concentrate on the future. Sit down with this man and agree on a temperature for cold weather. Even 68 sounds very cold to me. 72 sounds reasonable. Agree in advance, when he is not angry or frustrated about ANYTHING. If you can't agree, find a new job. He is literally freezing you out.

@vt4316 Год назад

How do I stop being sensitive if I'm an empath. People can feel this out

@TheWizardOfWords Год назад

There is nothing wrong with being sensitive. Sensitive people have a right to their boundaries.

@7CFlo Год назад

@@TheWizardOfWords what about when you ask your boss to leave at 3pm and they say no. Then, 4 minutes later he sends a group text out asking if anyone wants to leave at 3. He also adds that he doesn't care who it is.

@fathermischief8025 3 года назад

Dan, I find some of your lead in statements as "over used" and trigger more eye rolls and listening shutdowns. Are there better lines that are not so "clinical"? I find I am more willing to listen when I know a persons words are their own and not repeating what someone told them to say. Thoughts?

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

Mr. K, I am comfortable with these words because they're mine. Why not take them, adjust them at will, and make them yours? BTW, Mr. K--who is over-using these lead-in lines? Inquiring minds would like to know.

@Its_Renee_ 2 года назад

My boss dismisses every good thing I try to do that would improve work life. I type a form that's beneficial to customers, she shreds it when I'm gone. And talks about EVERYONE behind their backs. I'm not a threat because God knows I love 3rd shift and I don't want to be a GM!

@idontknowwhatmyusernamesho5540 3 года назад

i fear for those who try to be rude to you! You seem very socially adept, how did you learn all this, man?

@TheWizardOfWords 3 года назад

I watch and I listen and try to learn while keeping an open mind, whether I am in a classroom, a boardroom, or a laundry room. Also, I had wonderful teachers in my parents and grandparents. They taught me that education isn't just gained in a classroom, though that's an all right place to start. Rather, education is the sum total of man's knowledge and experience. So I try to accumulate both. Which brings me back to listening to and learning from all people with an open mind. You can develop a treasure trove of wisdom if you start from the premise that ALL PEOPLE HAVE VALUE and all people have a contribution to make and all people have something to say. Once you determine that--then you listen.