@@Gabzoox when some things seems impossible to get, you tend to reject it altogether. Like when you like a boy/girl but you feel that you are "way out of your league" but the boy/girl actually likes you back, you reject it because you feel that it is totally impossible to happen.
@@Gabzoox to understand this, imagine a super confident man like Jeff Bezos. Imagine now HE reads a profile with a lot.things.which HE doesnt fullfill or doesnt immidiately believe the other Person could authentically fullfill. Do you.really Think this man would then just not write him Back when he got written in a polite way? If HE doesnt believe him immidiately, OF COURSE.he would. Why? Because he has nothing to.lose becaues he showed hinself already he has the Power to build an Empire. A rejection from the other Person cannot take this believe away..so he would.give the other Person a chance to Show HE is really as competent as claimed. So, what can we conclude from.this ? That this means of we are rejected although we have described ourselves with high Standards, it mostly means that most people just dont feel like they cant live up to us. Because if they would feel.worthy of us, they would kindly write to us that our profile Sounds hard.to believe to be true but still is interested to see if he might be wrong about this and the other Person reslly described himself authentically. So if you want to have a really honest idea how much you are really worth,.only.confident people can estimate IT. The other people just project their lack of.worth onto you..
I was rejected and gaslighted since I was a little. I live in constant fear and confusion for the next years from that. I just realized that there is something not right within me when I was 18 years old, and it took about 12 years later for me to feel better of myself even though there's some pain still. What I want to say is please don't get discouraged if it took you a bit long time. Just keep going and you will find your answer.
Not for me, not at all. The world is in the middle of a freaking crises and she casually makes videos about extremely trivial topics that send passive aggressive messages to her viewers on top of that. Now is not the time for Teal to act childish like this. The pandemic crisis is an extreme physical manifestation of our collective relationship problems, since the virus affects the lungs. But nah, instead of actually making a helpful video about the current situation that affects ALL of us, Teal decides to be passive aggressive again and just calls us narcissists in the only video she made about the pandemic. I appreciate her work but sometimes she's just too blinded by her own personal issues with the world.
@@ashleen7370 you haven't followed her long enough then, she always makes videos about what bothers her about people in her life or her viewers, she's said it herself multiple times
@@aight33 from my perspective, I think you are reacting with Teal affairs. She's another level of how to deal with the situation in general. Teal is not a sensational being. she's not being triggered by any circumstantial situation in the world . She deals with the source which is at the individual level not at the collectively level . Again its my perspective, take this as you which. Sometimes we become strong and wiser in silence introspective ourselves and not letting a situation annoying us.
1. Rejection is not validation 2. Face your emotions about it 3. Self acceptance self love self compassion 4. Who needs me ? What do i need about me ? 5. You are stuck in resistance to futility 6. Feel into see into the person that rejected you. Get to know them, without judgement. You may decide to change based on their judgement or you may decide to commit to yourself further. Be brave enough to ask why 8. Out of rejection can come your strongest sense of direction (a thing people that dont face rejection know, but people who do ont know) 9. Don’t confirm the rejection by isolating yourself. Seek relationships that are soothing 10. Deliberately seek belonging relationships (Follow up question… how to match the vibration of belonging) 11. What determines if pain becomes suffering is the actions you choose Are you goin to suffer? Or will you take this opportunity to learn about yourself or find soemthing better ?
Yes , rejection stings at first but after feeling it , working through it & realizing it is for your own benefit & you are being redirected into a better place in your life and ultimately you will gain strength and wisdom from it .. Sending good energy & health to all ❤️🙏
Well said. It almost always has everything to do with their issues. Really, the people who reject all the time are really rejecting aspects of themselves!
Nooot really what she said though. I mean I just rejected my friend who keeps wanting me to drink and I am sober.. I had to walk away. And they keep lying to me and hurting me. And they rejected me in a way by not respecting me.
Being rejected by a dysfunctional parent, a toxic partner, or jealous associate....stings superficially, but is absolutely necessary in the grand scheme of things. Great video.
It doesn't sting nor faze me at all. It only stings when I feel like I lost something I was actually fighting for. Everyone else who rejects me is a relief when they finally leave me tf alone.
REjection is the best thing that can ever in someone'S life! How many time have you been declined or rejected by something only to go for something else and thinking in the end, if the 1st one wouldn't have worked out, I would've never found the new one... How many times!! Be honest people!!
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RU-vid channel 9 months ago about self development. Now I have 1,794 subs and > 1k hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
I’m in the middle of the job search, this comes with a lot of rejection, hits my self esteem big time. Thank you for this video and a different perspective
I love this idea as rejection as a compass. I never thought of it that way. I’m starting to look at things in my life I have felt rejected over through this perspective and it’s kind of inspiring. I’m glad Teal followed her authenticity and became who she is today. It’s her telling the honest truth when it seemed like no one else was that drew me to her.
Me too . I feel the same I think authenticity these days its far away from people's lives there's not authenticity in them and therefore people are so lonely and feel so rejected by society and general. I mean its my humble opinion. Thanks for sharing. We need more people like Teal that hammered us with the real truth of what's going on at the individual level so we can wake up, we need real authentic connection with one another . Oneness is the solution of all the suffering around the world.
My EX Fiance left me a week before our Wedding! Happy Days ! I was a chef, she was a nurse. She would often come home and tell me about the Intern Doctors(training) would try to "CRACK-ON" to as many nurses as they could, while they were at the hospital for a short term. She used to say how dISguStinG they were. We were going to the Maldives for our Honeymoon, of course never got there but I found out about 2 years later that She went to the Maldives with GUESS WHO, YEP, an Intern Doctor !!!! That was over 30 years ago and Im BELLY Laughing now Telling you!!!!! Happy Days111
This reminds me of the Star Wars series The Mandalorian. "The Child" is constantly rejected yet he is my favorite character. The universe always directs "The Child" straight towards something better. 19:34
I prefer honesty and authenticity more than feel-good speeches, so that’s why you’re one of my favorite spiritual teachers alongside Luna and Sol from lonerwolf
Rejection lets you know that you either need to heal something in yourself, or that the people outside you need healing. Either way, it is a gift. Rejection , more often than not, has almost always been, the best thing that has ever happened to me. Be honest with yourself, and see that often it is the best thing that has ever happened to you as well.
One day comes, that every truth feels amazing. Even when it hurts at the same time it gives one insight. If the grieve of daily life is big enough the hurt of the truth is just a tiny pain.
Here's how I feel after watching your videos. I feel hope. I feel positively entitled to feel what I've been feeling. I feel inspired to feel better. I feel less lonely and more connected to source . I feel more love and compassion for myself. I feel empowered to learn more about my truth, my wants and most importantly my needs. I am grateful to have access to all of your healing messages. Bottom line you assist us in healing. Love you❤
"if you deliberately initiate seeking out the people in your life who actually might value you, you're gonna re-tabilize the sensation of beloning" I just experienced this and didnt know why is that. Your videos always pop up in a divine timing. Nobody has ever told the important yet subtile things as you did. I am so grateful that you videos appeared on my RU-vid page.
We experience rejection to understand that we don't need other people acceptance to exist. But it goes counter to the hard wiring of the body: reliance on others' acceptance to survive. So it is difficult to break this chain. But necessary.
Wow, thank you, Teal. Your point about why you were ostracized really helped me. I come back because you tell the honest, brutal truth. I learn and grow more because of you than the feel good people.
To me, rejection is personal, since it stems from my mom rejecting me for who I am. And so I figured that if I wasn't good enough to be accepted by my mom, then I wasn't good enough to be accepted by anyone else. And so I've went through life trying to be whoever I thought others wanted/needed me to be in order to be accepted. I just realized acceptance is what I came here to experience.
The most important thing we need to do to heal the emotional wound rejection creates is to revive our self-esteem by focusing on what we do bring to the table, whether the rejection was by a romantic partner, a prospective employer, or a neighbor. Some rejections truly aren't as personal as they feel. Love rejection on Tinder, for example, simply means that some stranger took all of 20 seconds to make a snap judgment based on criteria you'll never be privy to. If we get rejected by our date, the last thing we should do is to review all our shortcomings in an effort to understand what went wrong.
Just say ok and move on. Trying to take something so simple and complicate it just makes it worse. Every one goes through rejection. The idea is to just realize that this just happens in life. Don’t unpack and move in. Pick up your bag and on to the next thing.
In a deep booming voice; "The omens are not favorable, the ides of march have fallen... Well, not directly on you, maybe on your neighbors super barkey dog that won't shut up at two in the morning." Anyway, tis the season, maybe you'll have puppies in your future. Hope you like it's breed cause you get one too. Turns out the bad omen wasn't that you're not gonna get your crush, but rather, your neighbors dog had puppies that you think are hideous, but since you're a nice person, you can't reject that disgusting little mongrel... And now you've got an annoying, ugly, puppy. Oh wait y'all call 'em floofs now days huh? Hey give the dog to your crush... Then when your crush pisses off, they can take that shitty little mongrel too...
Teal there is no one on this earth that is providing me with such life saving advice. I feel bad for millions of people stuck in the labyrinth of their mind and with no access to support. You are a light bringer.
I had noticed severe feelings of futility after certain seemingly "harmless" situations but a part of me was really being rejected. It all makes sense now.
I would rather have someone tell me the hard truth that will actually help me than being sugar coated because reality can hit hard but it surely will help when you are striving to be much better.
If you would have listened to those people and altered your approach, I wouldn't have found you and you changed the trajectory of my life and i'm sure thousands of others too. This reminds me that just because i'm not someone's cup of tea is not an indication i should alter myself. I am who I am for a reason. I'm perfect for those who align with me.
To end any frustrated moment with clarity = understanding many triggers that cause you to feel rejected, to the point of change, is an awesome experience, thank you for being you, trust the univers kotuku, one love one family.
I'm always blown away by your depth. Thank you.… Been facing so much rejection the last few years, especially hurts when it's from people you love. Been really allowing myself to really have my cries and emotions.
Man sometimes RU-vid's wacky algorithms truly redeem themselves. Thanks for going through everything that you have to go through in order to be able to share your myriad and compelling thoughts with the world, and with me. _/\_
I always want to know the truth! If I'm going to spend my time learning about something, it seems much more beneficial to know what is true. But I don't have a need for "feel good" truth. Authenticity matters, and I appreciate your straight forward videos, Teal. They are forthright and direct. Thank you.
I like the way teal carries herself while she does her presentations & I GOT AN IMENSE HIGH WHEN SHE SAID ALMOST AT THE END REJECTION IS LIKE A FORM OF THE UNIVERSE REDIRECTING YOU 💌🤍📭
This video was very valuable for me. Thank you Teal for breaking down all emotions and feeling, even those against myself, I had when my ex suddenly broke up. The pain in my gut and in my whole body and months of suffering emotionally and mentally were unbearable. I made notes from this video and will treat it as a therapy going forward. After that break up I now believe that someone you love and care can destroy you emotionally... and your body can go very sick physically from those negative feelings/emotions... For real and it applies to women and men
Honestly you describing rejection as inflammation lifted a heavy rock from my heart, because that's EXACTLY what it feels like. Having it acknowledged and described so perfectly really helped me put it into perspective (and look for something to sooth this burning feeling). thank you
Rejection often times means that we haven’t matured for the experience we are going after. Taking it as a motivation for improvement is the best thing we can do.
I don't agree, that's actually what leads to rejection having a negative effect on the rejected. Thinking you're not good (mature) enough for what you are pursuing. It's just not meant for you, simply.
I just realised that rejection I got from my teenage relationship is actually a gift because if I did have a relationship with him and then seeing and comparing on how he live nowadays.. I really grateful that we never be in a relationship. I changed my direction for far better way of living. And that I found the strongest direction at that moment when he rejected me
Most people these days are walking around in an illusion. The painful part is if you create an illusion around someone, and they pop your bubble with a rejection.
Wow Teal the synchronicity is off the charts here. I had a great exemple of this with my girlfriend yesterday and this morning. I am grateful that we were able to watch your video on rejection because it allows me to help my girlfriend the concepts I have learned over the years. To me it all started with accepting that what I belief I am, is only just what I have learned to believe just up to now. From the moment I start accepting what I feel right now I start growing and changing. Namaste 🙏
Thank you Teal, you put the rejection in a completely different perspective for me, I'm glad you decided to be true to yourself and tell the truth even when it hurts. Your videos help me a lot ❤️
Teal, everytine I finish a video of yours I do feel amazing, because your words make me feel closer and closer to my own essence and deeply connected to everything. So thank you, immensely, for being so brave and telling us the most painful truth, which is the only way for us to evolve...
0:30, 1:26, 2:11 Rejection is completely natural & normal AND is not validation, 2:53, 3:39, 3:58, 4:59, 8:32-9:11, 10:43-11:27, 11:33 , 12:39, 12:58 Incompatibility has nothing to do with your self worthy , value. 13:52, 14:20
The highest belonging, The richest laughter, The most profound joys, And deep seated soul-felt connection -- is elsewhere. At another table. They're waiting for you. That's what rejection aka re-direction can mean. (Think of it like a banquet setting and each no is a pivot so you can get to your table - designated specially for you.)
I have been brave enough to ask why about rejection and people lie about it. They say 'you're fine, it's just me' and then go straight back to ignoring emails & phonecalls. One or 2 people, fair enough. But a repeated pattern? It must be me. I follow the advice about showing an interest in people, asking questions, being light-hearted and it seems to make things worse. WTF?
You are extremely pleasant to listen to and I much prefer the honest truth even if it hurts. Thank you Teal for your words of wisdom you are a very very clever lady
Omg she teaches me so freakin much I practically made it into a study lol 😂😅 i really love her honesty. I would walk away nauseous after an event about happy rainbow unicorn spirituality. World needs more truth..
Thank you Teal... It is exactly what I needed. You are so brave. I'm looking for meet you in this experience for sharing thoughts. With much love 💕 Camille
Thank you, how great. I'm glad I'm old, and that I stuck around. Changes happened I never imagined possible. Thanks for pointing out how useless are platitudes.
Gosh I really need to attend one of your live events. While I do have the courage to ask, there are times when silence is more practical. I saw your video on ghosting yesterday. A dear dear old friend ghosted me recently. She committed a grand faux pas, which I gently rebuffed. In a masterpiece of passive aggression, I now must be punished. She deserves and gets the benefit of the doubt. But I need to take the hint.
I’m not sure if teal believes in twin flames or if I do either, but I believe I met him about a year ago and the pain of separation was one of the most painful things I had gone through my whole life. My chest would hurt when we stopped talking. I knew this guy for 2 months, he rolled out the red carpet for me, then pulled the rug from underneath me because he wasn’t ready. I never really gave much thought to how much my dads abandonment was a deep rooted pain I was carrying, because I feel like he triggered such a deep pain within me and provoked really suppressed emotions. He told me he was sorry and he thinks I’m great, but the pain of rejection at that moment felt so unfair to me it provoked another awakening in me, because for a long time I resisted the present so intensely when really my only option was to surrender and accept. I still miss him everyday. It’s been better with time and I’ve been careful to go easy on myself and be a friend to myself, because I realized I wasn’t doing that when I met him. He saw my value and it made me see my own value. I thank him for that and I’m doing the inner work, as hard as it’s been it gets easier little by little
I am just speechless! So true. So like this makes me think about everything differently. Like race, everything! It's not because he didn't like or love me, or that he was even remotely racist, it's because he couldn't afford what he would have to give up to have me..everything! Teal girl, the gays are listening and so are brown folk.
The vail and the matrix and the allusion of seperation u are never alone and we are all the same and we are all family we all bleed red. Be yourself and dont compare yourself to others money wont give u happyness.
