I changed my hair, moved to a different continent, started exercising, eating healthy, meditating daily and working a lot since the loss of someone important. I do what I love and I'm content with myself. But the pain just doesn't go away, I don't think it ever will to be honest. I don't believe I'll meet anyone like that ever again, it's just impossible. UPDATE: Thank you to all the people who kindly responded. I was an overly dramatic 18 year old after my first major breakup. The guy was a complete loser in so many ways and I am baffled now that I was so heartbroken. Anyhow I did get over it within two months and have rarely looked back. It's rather hilarious to read this reminder of my mindset back then. Next time I'll write a greek tragedy!
Sara Anne You may be right...the pain may never go away...but when I read of all the changes you've made in your life during this painful time, I feel so proud of you, and I hope that pain at least lessens.
+Universal Mastery AXE! AND SO IT IS! i am still healing from a break up...still in awe at how long it takes me to remove ppl from my astral memory, so to speak...but i know that it is laid out for me to CHANGE. some of us have a deck to shuffle many times before we can see the spread clearly...heh. the pain is with me every day, but wow does it make for a hell of another layer of my time here as a spiritual warrior. his journey really isn't my business and thats where i get bogged down. we get enmeshed...but the contracts break, bridges burn, ppls poop gets projected on to you. doesn't mean you have to shovel it with you forever. not saying i have learned how to put the whole thing in a more compassionate place. . . but every day is work on this.
+Sara Anne +Chrisy McConnell I just read what Chrisy said to you and I have to say I agree with her. It absolutely courageous that you changed your entire self AND moved to a different continent. Maybe you should think about contacting someone who can do channeling to seek guidance. I've used it myself for other stuff.
+Sara Anne Ask yourself - did you know how good you would feel just before you met that person? No. Similarly, you don't know yet how good you will feel again.
+Sara Anne What is for you will not pass you by. Just remember that. Wish him well, sometimes the ultimate love is to let them go-release him with love and without any resentment and if it's meant to be he'll come back. But don't waste your time waiting-if he doesn't the chances are someone even better will be coming into your life, you just have to open yourself up to receiving that love. I personally think maybe running away isn't the best solution-you physically ran away from the emotional situation. It may have felt better for a while but ultimately there is something inside you that will not be resolved until you face it. You are clearly strong and are willing to take steps to improve yourself. It's a grieving process which is the most painful experience as far as I'm concerned but if you can get through this, you can achieve anything. You do deserve happiness and love but you have to let go before you can truly allow anyone else in. Did you move to another continent for you or through pain of losing him?
I am not grieving for her or the fact that she didn’t happen to be the person I believed her to be . I’m grieving for myself for all the innocent, pure , true love I’ve felt in my heart . I’m grieving for the person i lost . The person that loved her more than loving themselves. I’m grieving because that person died inside of me .
Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him....
I just got out of a three year relationship and I'm in so much pain. The other person moved on less than a week from breaking up. I've had horrible chest and stomach pain. I've never cried so much in my life. He cut off contact with me and I'm just so lost. This video has helped me a lot. Thank you. To everyone else going through heartbreak, I pray you heal soon.
I know how you feel and everyone that is going through the same. My ex moved on even before the breaking up. He started chatting with other women while we were still sleeping in one bed. When I stayed with a friend over the weekend he had his first date! And even kissed her!!!! I found out while I opened his phone. The anxiety made me paranoid but I was right. I was nauseous imagining him with another, being so cute and kind to another, I felt betrayed, disappointed, my heart was broken.....😩 He never takes time to heal the wound, always moving on by imediately dating new women. That is what he did with his previous relationship before me and they were even married! I should have known...I feel used, just like the next woman is used after me...We were together for 1,5 years. All of this happened today. I am still in shock...watching Teal to sooth the pain....😿
Ekaterina JJ The sane thing happened to me... I can’t believe this girl... 3 years. She left me and dated someone immediately. All while telling me she’s loves me so much ... I am so lost, confused, and dead inside. There is so much anger and jealousy. I was supposed to marry this girl, she called me her husband, hunnybun, etc, all the words. I have no idea what to do.... universe, send me a signal, guide me. I need help.
@@RussMalina i know a girl at gym who went through the exact same thing.she was with him 2 years. They gymed together. Then she left him becoz of distrust. Lol this guy brings his new gf.. to the same gym this girl works at..and flaunts his new gf in her workspace.. he basicaly giving her the finger.. but really he made the worst mistake. She had to resign from her job becoz of him.shes doing much better now.. focusing on herself... shes staying stronv
James C Same, my boyfriend and I broke up and 1 week later he’s already talking to 2 girls. We were together for 1 1/2 years, it was our first relationship. He always told me how much he loved me. But after the breakup he got cold and didn’t care anymore. He told me he was over me and that he’d block me if I’d write him again. We were long distance so I wanted this 1 last call to clear the air and end on good terms. He didn’t even want to to that, he didn’t give af about me. He moved on and I have to pick my broken pieces up from the ground.
1. Secure relationship with ourselves. 2. Rediscovering who we are 3. New life 4. Addressing negative beliefs. 5. Why? 6. It happened for a reason. 7. What is right with you? 8. Connect with other people. 9. Best case scenario in the future 10. Cry 11. Relax the body 12. Daily meditation 13. Gratitude (Think small) 14. Self love (so #1 again) 15. Closure 16. Therapy
Heartache is a gift and it is painful for a reason. It's the universe screaming out that there is something about yourself that you're not aware of. When we experience a breakup or rejection we feel that we'll always be alone and we'll never be loved again. The hidden truth is that you are never alone and you will always love yourself.
Where in the Bible are we told to "love thyself first, before all others"????? We are MEANT TO CONNECT and to bond with another in order to become something more than we were, or could have been, by ourselves. It's only today, in our super self sufficient, vain, self obsessed culture that we are told crap like that. Like yourself, work and live with honor and dignity, sure. But self-worship is wrong, it was called "vainglory" and never encouraged. I think it's at the heart of so many breakups: as most everyone think "i love myself, I'm so awesome, who could ever be worthy of me? I need to break with their person and find someone better" A recipe for an unhappy society. Oh, yeah, that's what we have.
@@TheRealThomasPaine1776 Typically as humans, well responsible ones and those who understand and value commitment and relationships, rarely are solely self seeking. Regardless of what man wrote in the Bible over 2000 thousand years ago, god granted everyone with differences of personality, psychology, emotional makeup etc. if a person feels as though they want to end a relationship, that is absolutely okay. The key is understanding that you will never leave yourself. If someone does choose to walk out of your life you should always ground yourself in the fact that you came into this world with yourself and you will leave by yourself. Some people get so caught up in another that they lose self and that’s not healthy. There’s a balance between the other and self and many struggle with understanding this principle.
I've never felt a pain this bad in my life. Every single day is a struggle. I'm totally depressed and just don't know what I'm going to do with my life. Everything reminds me of him ... Everything leads me back to feeling that part of myself is not with me. I wanted him forever. I hope this gets better ... I can't deal with feeling like this .
Kay Grifff it gets better by getting back up. I just went through the same and with depression. It's not easy but getting up and getting ready, going out, making a dating profile (even if your ready to date), and knowing that you deserve better and each day is a fresh start. Sending 💓🦋⭐️
Shouts out to all the genuine, caring women on here. My respects to y'all. I'm sorry you gave your love to the wrong person but I promise you that there are men out here that are desperate to find somebody like you.
This is very helpful. She actually allows you to go through it while the rest of the world is telling you to get over it or bashing the person you broke up with. We need to be allowed to cry
look sister whatever happens happens for good alright nothing happens without a reason ....be like a warrior and slay the evil memory that haunts you.....and keep yourself occupied ......and love your parents as they are the most trust worthy and spend time with them..ok and please reply if I am useful
I know. In your case, probably you like it. Probably you try to remember sometimes, how it was...stop that! That´s not self love! Don´t try to remember it anymore. Pick your self and do your things. There´s no UNICORN! There´s a lot of amazing people and places to know. Your projects and your life are waiting for you!!
I am in the process of ending a 10 year relationship and thank you for your insights Teal. Today I realised I can never lose the love I feel for my partner as I thought I had to cut it off because he has found another, I see love is all encompassing and the pain I am feeling is the letting go of attachment not the letting go of love. Thank you , love is eternal.
+Pamela Mills You ARE love! :) Loss is an important lesson in life and an illusion. It's about re-balancing your emotional energy and forgiveness is the key to this.
Beautifully said :) Thanks for confirming how I feel. Wise words. Let go of the attachment not the love. Never become hard, stay soft and warm, but be more discerning without harsh judgment.
u can trust me! im the one who has my trust guard way up after being cheated on and completely lied to and betrayed by my covert narcissitic ex bf during the entire 2.5 yrs we were together! i was left so shocked confused hurt betrayed and heartbroken when i found out the truth about what he has been doing behind my bk!
My heart just got ripped out of my chest. I lost my love and my bestfriend. I feel lost. I hope tomorrow will be a better day for me and a step closer to heal.
Hope you are in a better place now and that at least some of the pain has eased. I not only had my heart ripped out but smashed into time shards. Just over two years now and I still think about the relationship I thought I had, was married and had an 18 month old son at the time. I had to accept that what I had and the person I was has died, the raw feelings inside were incredibly consuming but I have finally found peace within and concentrate on my son. Never again will I put myself into a relationship as it it something I don't want to experience ever again.
@@kiwidiesel5071 I love that you have healed. I really appreciate how you changed your perspective. But have you still not found a relationship? I believe you can find someone who appreciates and loves you the way you deserve. Never fully close that door. I havent been through what you have, however, I believe it's possible for you to be loved
So true I’m in the middle of one right now and all the childhood trauma of not being good enough unloveable is right at the forefront but doing my best to parent myself as best I can
Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him....
I was depressed all my life . Even when i was falling in love . With her i experienced a constant happiness. I didn't even know how it is to not be depressed. She had a magic stick and she was making me calmer , stronger and super optimistic. It's been 6 months . Hurts like hell . It's 3 in the morning and i woke up again . I meditate i journal i exercise. I talk with a therapist . I had to take anti depressants cuz i couldn't function . The bad thing is that us men we are supposed to be tough. We feel like sth is wrong with us when we hurt so much .
I'm happily married, and have not experienced heartbreak like this in many years. I have heard many bad things about you online, Teal. You know what people say of you. But, I have watched a few of your videos today, and it feels like everything you say is straightforward and makes perfect sense to me.
I agree, I started watching her stuff because I'm an old semi ex hippy. She seems to be very controversial so I checked out her stuff. She's got more figured out than most people with letters beside their names. Very impressive. Truly. Listening to her is like listening to your best friend that isn't going to blow hot air up your A#@. I like her
I was in a relationship for 3 years. I perceived him to be the only valuable thing in my life. That created so many problems. Now I am completely lost. None of my friends live near me and I communicate with them through video calls but that is not enough. I have no support system. I might go crazy or reach enlightment. Thank you, Teal, your strength is a force of nature
@@wulf4713 I posted this comment 2 weeks ago and I am happy to say that I am getting better. I am still very sad and lost but I realized how addicted I was to that relationship and how I bonded with him through trauma. I am praying to have strength to listen to myself and be my genuine self without needing anyone to act as a buffer between me and life. Thank you very much for your kind words. Any act of kindness never goes unnoticed in this Universe. Thank you for existing who knows where and sending me words of encouragement. Love and light to you
@@wulf4713 Well experience is the best if not the only real teacher. Thank you for sharing your story. It is the path of the hero to go and fight her monsters and then come back and teach others how to fight their monsters. I wish you all the best, stay strong, we are all in this together. :)
@@wulf4713 I would love that, who would say no to such a friendly suggestion! But I don't have a discord account. I will make it today and add you. Talk to you soon,looking forward :))
Thank you Teal. I am experiencing now a really painful breakup, I was holding myself into the "relationship" until I opened my eyes all of a sudden and realized that he doesn't want to see me anymore. We didn't talk, I had to figure out by myself that he is not interested in me, cause he is not even answering my messages. It's very painful, but at least now I know how he feels about me and I can start my grief and letting go of the past and all the mermories I have with him. It's painful but, as Teal said: trust the pain and at least now I can start a new life. For those who are experiencing a breakheart... we are much more than that! Love and courage!
Wow. I expected to be told that my pain was an illusion or something but actually this was one of the most sensitive and truly nurturing videos I have seen on the subject. The pain is searing and overwhelming but this video that does not belittle it is a great help. You surprised me Teal! ❤️
SUMMARY - how to survive a breakup - Teal Swan Loving someone means emotional unity, means including as yourself, you match the frequency of source Breake up is the opposite, it means seperation If you breake the contract of unity/oneness with somone you feel betrayed Seperation can be caused by cheating, emotiinal withdrawal, criticism Breaking up is so painful because you are loosing a part of yourself as you feel Hatred is the cover emotion for hurt that you feel in a break up Hatred keeps you from the lower vibration of hurt The hurt needs to be addressed The heart chakra is the unifier When you experience a break up the heart chakra is impacted most strongly Break up is the death of a part of yourself If you are not able to willingly die you hope you die involuntarily, then dont have to doubt yourself or feel guilt Heart breake is traum of the system, it takes a process to stabalize again You cant rush this process What to do if you experience a heart break Live for the next five minutes Wha would bring you relieve for the next hour? 1. do not distract yourself If you come together it most likely is because you compensate a lost aspect of yourself with the partner. 8:00 You feel more whole with the partner You have to turn inward now and become whole again To be autonomous you have to be in a sefure relationship with yourself Dont jump into another relationship ---> completion process To become whole is to find yourself again: Who am? What do I want?/what do I need? What changes do I want to make in my life? Think back to times when you were truly happy in an autonomous way. What have you done back then? Oftem break ups call for start over, beginning new, priorities have to shift You have to feel yourself again, because you have lost yourself --> feeling lost video 3. change your life so that it feels new Different food, appearance, etc. 4. address ylur negative core believes that occur as a result of the break up pain like "I can never trust someone anymore" Address the shoulds like "this shouldnt be happening" --> how to change a believe video --> byron katie 5. Ask why Understanding sets you free You know why, you dont want to admit 6. people come into your life for a reason Look what part or parts of the puzzle they gave you look for the positive things that came with the relationship 7. figure out what is right with you Look at your strengths and whats woth looking at about yourself How does your steength help you in your life? 8. find connection with other people Learn to receive --> receiving video 9. figure out the best case szenario a year from now 10. cry if you feel the urge to cry 11. relax your body by yoga, massage, musoc, breathing, paint, salt bath 12. meditate daily to release your thoughts and connect with source and seeing a bigfer perspective and being more allowing 13. write into a gratitude or positive aspects journal especially before going to bed Think small if you are in emotional pain. Focjs an the little things. Only put things down that feel better 14. practice the art of self love The more love you give yourself the more loving things yoj attract --> shadows before dawn book 15. gain closure What does it need to gain closure? Learning what to do better, apologize, ask why, how to avoid the same in the future, ceremony 16. seek out therapy Therapist can be a secure atrachement figure for you Alllow to feel sorry for your loss You cant really lose someone, its an illusion Pain is temporary, it is like a crying child, crying for your help treat it like that Thanks Teal
Praying and deeply thinking about anyone who’s dealt or dealing with a loss. Praying for your healing and fill recovery. Separation is an illusion. Remember that we can not control other people, but we CAN control ourselves. Take control of self. The enemy wants you to believe you’re separate. Grief is real, but it doesn’t have to define or control the rest of your life.
The man I loved deeply and wanted to marry left me abruptly two weeks ago, leaving me with a shattered heart. Heartbreak truly hurts. This video is wonderful; thank you!
True words there, I unfortunately began drinking heavy after my breakup to try to ease the rawness of what I was feeling, Sadly there is no fast foward to our lives to skip to the end but I did come full circle and found my inner peace again, taken nearly 2 years tho.
This week I have experienced a huge emotional purge while watching Teal's videos it helped me stand up for my self worth in a noncommittal relationship to then loose the relationship based on the other person's decision. I realize now the power of unconditional love begins with having an abundance of love for one self. With this knowledge I am grateful for this pain now as I know it provides for me the kind of space and abundance needed for my spirit to grow and love the next person as whole hearted as possible.
Amon Ra Aten Ra That's is very raw and real. I am happy you have found resolve and definition in your own experience. For me, I see relationships, at all levels, as opportunities for expansion. I love because I am love. There is no separation in this love for me between every soul I have encountered and that of my own, because I feel we come from the same source. She may have felt that you were her soulmate, and it has nothing to do with completeness but instead a magnetism necessary to bring her into alignment with herself. You most likely in your resolve provided for her an experience for which her soul has expanded to understand self-love at a deeper level, which unfortunately usually emerges through grief. Furthermore, I think marriage as a paradigm of slavery is negotiated by both parties as acceptable for that time period, usually to protect egos within the marriage, but paradigms can shift. If we ultimately are empowered enough and loving enough, I would like to believe that marriage can exist in the realm of unconditional love and expansion, if both parties have evaluated their core beliefs and are self aware. That is to say, respecting my partner's expansion is an act of love, beyond the confines of my ego wanting to put in place certain boundaries just to feel safe. There is no slavery in my concept of marriage, just servitude from both sides. But maybe that is far fetched, I have never been married so I speak from naivety. Thank you for sharing though :-)
Amon Ra Aten Ra I am not in a credible enough position to decide if logic is better than the emotional (and consequentially the madness you speak of). But for me, logic without emotions leads to deranged actions and borders psychopathy because emotional intelligence pushes the human spirit to transcend the ego through empathy. Through my experience of aligning my self with source love, it has allowed me to transcend my dimensional perspective to much deeper dimensional perspectives that I never thought spiritually was possible. You are in every way valid to have your views, but mine do not align with yours, I am in defense of love always. :-)
Amon Ra Aten Ra It would be cooler if you were a Vulcan! KIDDING I feel you. I mean I do not know as I am not you. But I know what it means to be drained. To love and loss. But I have learned that this is not in line with source love, which is abundant and unlimited because it comes from us being aligned with our higher selves, which is ultimately aligned with Source energy. I'm sorry I do not mean to preach, this is not my intention. I know you are humbled in your own history. I outline this, because for me it was the key to breaking through that level of emotionality that I was conflicted with and the pattern I was allowing in my life. For me, I've taken back that drainage and I've re-framed my pain as something to embrace. I walk into it the fire knowing that the pain is what reminds me that I am alive and of my capacity to love deeply. Each time, the vampiric energy of these misaligned teachers carve scars into you like a pit to fill everyday with self care and self love. Eventually, as you become more aligned through self-love and raise your vibration, this spills into every aspect of your life, indiscriminately. When this happens consciousness expands and you cannot afford to remain in your same patterns and with the same kinds of emotional vampires that have surrounded you. Your capacity of love is greater than that. They do not align with you. They cannot drain you. You are grounded in your resolve. You are full with your love and sense of worth (which I think is where you are at now). However, those who will, eventually do emerge, and when they do I hope you surrender to it instead of resist. In the words of the Borg, "resistance is futile!" ;-)
I had an online “relationship” we were never physically together but I thought we were going in that direction - I was not healthy at all (he had his own issues). I fell in love with an imaginary scenario it helped me escape my pain. But when I realized there was no true connection on his end (the X other women) I went crazy but realized I had to finally do no contact. I’m moving forward finally and learning so much through your help Teal 🙏 I want me now first.
I'm not gonna hide it... this became a very relevant video to my life today, and I'm glad I started to read the Completion Process book before any of this happened. Being lonely is... lonely....
Ahh.. so what I was feeling was heartbreak in my chest. I really wish I could rush the process 😕 thank you for the part about shock , exactly what I came for ❤
Good video. For me it helped to work on myself. I read more, I brought my reflections to paper, I changed my diet a bit, I went running, I changed little habits, I tried new things, I discovered some nice self development videos on you tube, there is help for every taste and situation and like Teal said meditation really frees you for a while, gives your brain time to breathe... At first I did it to make myself "worthy" for her, but when I realised there will be no romantic love between us I kept on walking in the direction of good and learned the most valueable lessons in my life. Change something for the better, it gives you hope and makes you stronger not only to withstand the weeks right after the breakup but even more it gives you the power to change your life. If you look back on the breakup phase with a healed heart you will see it was a good lesson for you. My best wishes to the heartbroken out there!
Thank you. I'm still in pain, but I start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel & that light is understanding of what is happening to me. One thing that would help me is knowing for sure that he really doesn't care. That tiny hope that he still cares slows down my recovery.
Yes, I do feel grief. Feels like the marriage I thought was good, was just lies. Now, that's not entirely true. But, that doesn’t make my broken heart hurt less. 😢 Thanks for helping. I do needed to hear this. 🌹
All the videos i seek is therapy for me because of my mental health i have therapy but with the pandemic i lost myself into this unhealthy situationship and soul tie so im breaking out the self destructive cycle and learning knowledge about loving n strenghening myself to feel better as im getting stronger
Just so you know Teal I am applying this video to a particularly painful friendship 'breakup' I had a year ago.. It's been made easier with all your videos, including this one on the anniversary of our 'divorce'! Thank you for giving me guidance just when I need it! Platonic love leaves the heart broken too sometimes ya'll!
I could say that ion public and feel fine because being emotional and making deep connections with people is normal.. but you wouldn't know would you love?
The worst thing is that when there were no harm, no cheating and no betrayal. I loved him and he loved me. He moved out for me but he was unable to adjust to a new country, he missed his hometown too much. He was unable to connect with the people here... He moved to France two years ago. I thought we would be happy here... Be our own little family with our dog. But it didn't work out. We've been together for 6 years, married 4... I tried so hard but I feel like this image of this happy little family was only in my head. I was moving foward without him. I don't think he was capable to be my tribe. To be the father of my kids. And it's heartbreaking because he is my bestfriend and I love him. So I thought if I helped him, loved him and supported him, he'll be ok. More social, happier, more grateful for what he has. I'm genuinely afraid that i would never find my hapiness and my tribe. I'm afraid he won't either, that he'll sink as well.
@deerlow1851 I'm doing a lot better, thanks for asking. The pain slowly fades. I reached out to friends, I'm taking antidepressants, going to therapy and we're starting the divorce process. Time and taking care of yourself is key. But yeah those first 3 months sucked and I didn't think I could get through it. I hope that you're doing good as well. 🙏
This was amazingly helpful. I feel as though I was meant to see this because I can finally understand my ex's hatred of me. Thank you for all that you do, Teal!
is one year after my breakup and I still feel the same emptiness, I had done all this steps, focus on positive, rebuilding myself, change city, start new classes, know myself better, stay single until I can meet a respectful person..., I would prefer just to stay in that abusive relationship, he had been in two relationships and I'm here alone with 28 years old getting older. I feel hopeless and think all the time self love and self respect just keeps you alone.
Oohh, that feeling... I'm 36 and getting older and I still can't throw him out of my heart and my head after almost 4 years. This is the hardest thing I've probably done in my life. What's even the point of being alive?
I am older than you, and I have felt this way until the past week, for 7 years after I last saw the man I loved. Even this summer I was feeling what is the point of being alive any more. But my friend send me Teal's video on "Why You Can't Leave the Relationship" and it helped me. I realized that I am a giver and my ex was a taker and I was missing the periods when he actually gave to me. Now I finally want to find someone else out there who is 100% a giver. That said, I was dating a guy a couple months ago who reminded me of the man I used to love so much- good and bad too. I am still very attracted to this guy physically but I now realize there is addiction at work too because he only intermittently gave affection. Please watch the other video. I now believe the most important quality in a man I consistency. p.s. I did the same thing in my 20s- I couldn't get over the first love of my life even after years, and then when I did I just attracted another just like him- I really think that the key is to change the way we think. If someone hurts us, we need to realize that the breakup was for the best and that we will be happier with someone who doesn't make us question their feelings for us. The problem is, I realized that I kept going for these people because my older sister showed intermittent, unpredictable affection for me when I was growing up, and my parents sometimes did too. I learned that this was what love felt like, as Teal says. Now I know that I don't want to be kept starved anymore.
Just last night I had picked up some crutches and put them under my arms when I boy smiled and asked "what happened" and the first thing out of my mouth was "a broken heart" - my chest and neck have been uncomfortable for a really long time and my life has been relationships ending and moving on from one another. Thank you so much!
It's been 7 years and I'm still not over it and I in fact haven't been able to trust anyone again. Looks like I am going be alone for the rest of my life . I can not open up to no one else despite my best efforts I haven't found anyone that loves me . I have been through therapy and it didn't do anything but drain my pockets . I feel like people just tell you it gets better with time to make you feel better or because they dont know what else to say but in my situation the pain is still there like it just happened yesterday
After 4 years I finally said, "I'm been supressing my beliefs and values. This is who I am." and he said, "I can't accept that." and now I feel like I'm not acceptable. I am wrong for who I am. I'm litterally punching myself and I want to hurt myself. I feel so alone and the only thing I want to do is run into his arms.
I had to make the decision to end my relationship this year. Now after three months my heart broke. The physical pain in my chest was so intense I thought I needed to go to the hospital. I miss him every day now.
So true that sometimes you have to be totally broken in order to find yourself. Self love is the first key, once you have that you radiate a new light, and at that point your whole world starts changing! ❤
Hi Teal, I have to say that although I've broken up with my guy I do feel love for him. It's just that I couldn't live with his emotional issues and addiction anymore. Besides that I felt emotionally reserved towards him ever since the beginning actually and my gut told me years ago to break up, but bc of the love that was still there I just couldn't, until now and I feel liberated and sad at the same time. Thank you for this vid. Much love and appreciation ♥️
I think this is pertinent to all kinds of emotional trauma that generates that sense of loss or 'death', including family stuff where love might be lacking that could be old stuff that still affects you now. It makes a lot of sense and some great advice.
Thank you so much. I'm in a phase of excepting the end of a 40 plus yr relationship and marriage. So much of the video spoke to me and I will follow those steps...love you much for sharing this...Namaste
@@kellefinochio6617 I went back to school and on Dec17 I will have earned my doctorate degree as a Chiropractor..my(our) best years are still to come. Look forward my friend.
9 years together & marriaged. Plans to travel the world together in a few months. There was about 30 minutes between him never wanting to give up on us and being done. He had moved on in days. Its almost been a year, he's on relationship #4 since (at least) & I'm considering dating soon. But I won't change anything, if it took away my lessons. I feel more myself than ever. Yet, in the my current circumstances, ive had many challenges to work through that have caused some minor set backs. Sitting in our pain is the way through. I experienced my awakening, a few months before our relationship ended for good.
It really helps to watch this video and give some direction on what to do. I've been feeling so lost lately and everything seemed like it was falling apart but Teal Swan, youve helped so much, youve hit every aspect on the head. It is definitely a lot to go through. My boyfriend and I just broke up less than a week ago, thought we were the ones who were going to get married one day, we were together 3 and a half years. I'm going to continue to watch so many more videos from you Teal, Thank you.
I bumpted into Teal's videos after a really hard separation last year, and I've been learning so much ever since! To the point that now I can say that losing that person was one of the best experiences I've had in recent years
I will never be able to hate someone especially someone I love. We love unconditionally. Yes it hurts as you have described. But to hate or wish harm on anyone is sick and not healthy. I'm sure that is not true for most. I will always love my ex. He has a part of my heart forever. Learn to love in all its capacity and accept it. I choose to grow from every situation.
Just listening to it brought up so much pain .Feeling suffocated out of breath and helpless as the people I broke up with has nothing to do with their personality or love between us but their dangerous addiction problem and the problem is my fear of getting cheated lied again because of someone else’s addictions. It’s terrible as love is not lost but dead people are unable to function.Falling love again with a Walking dead is something I’m afraid of.
Teal, I am so happy that you have done these videos, and so grateful to the person who told me about you. I am in a state of self exploration and right in the midst of breaking up with someone, a five year relationship, a good guy, and makes it hard to end it, because I don't want to hurt him. Its time now though, I love him enough to let him go, so that he too will have the chance to find a person that his more aligned with him. This video helps so much, and I don't feel alone in this. I am taking care of myself right now and inviting joy into my life.
I've been single for 4 years. I met a guy I thought was special. He turned out to be very rude at times. His vibration is very low. He has belittled me a few times and never showed up for dates making up excuses. He's had a hard life. I think he's brave. Kissing him was heavenly and his smile lit up my world. We were just together a few days ago but since then he's been distant. I feel lost I want so much for him to love me whole hearted and he said he loved me but I feel something isn't right. I will let go of him now. If he loves me he will contact me. Its my bday Monday I doubt he will even with me a happy bday. How PATHETIC am I to let him in. I feel like vomiting. How sad. I really love him.
Last February for the first time in my life I did experience a break up. It was my first love relationship. I did all of the things she stated even without knowing that it could help. Watching this after six months of that break up to see of what I did was right or not and I feel so proud of myself. Always choose yourself no matter what 😇❤️🌸✨
My heart is here with me where it belongs. My heart is home, with me. Thank you Teal. I do have to acknowledge the need to grow into the person I want to be.
I'm 2 years on and although the days are better for me, the nights are still so long and dark, Takes so much but I know the sun will always rise in the morning.
I am tired of the repeated heartbreaks I need to go through in 1-2 years. It is reeeallly tiring and I reeeallly don't want to feel it anymore. I don't want to cry like a tiny little orphan elephant in the middle of the night, alone in my room... But it happens. It is so not fair. Not fair at all. It is for 5 years now and the coreography is the same. WHY?
Thank you so much for this video Teal! I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago, and the pain hurts so much sometimes, that all I can think about is given up. After watching this video, and reading some of the comments posted before mine, I feel a little bit better because I know that I am not alone, and because I believe that there's hope...
Very happy to have found this video. I was broken up with a week ago, by my partner of 6½ years who was also my best friend for 8 years. The pain right now is unbearable and I have no idea how to get through this or if i ever will - but I will try the things you suggest and attempt to hope for the best. Thank you
I was supposed to get married at 2:22 today and I was ghosted a week ago after some silly argument. This has been a pattern throughout the 27 years I've known this man. He probably was already bored with me and getting ready to discard. I can't help it so my heart still aches. He totally blindsided me.
Gosh Teal thankU. I like how you explain things. I'm glad I'm old. Once heartbreaks got so bad --mea culpa-- I resigned from dating, learned to keep it platonic. From my acupuncturist i heard something amazing: the pericardium, the protective skin-like membrane that protects the heart, is associated with romantic connection. It gets its own meridian. When 2 hearts meet, the pericardia are the interface. Folks with relationship issues often show pericardium imbalance. Like yours truly. It's a poetically beautiful system.
My heart ache which was an 18 year relationship and he went through a midlife crisis literally overnight. Prior to that there was no toxicity. It was nothing but love in our home and we have a son together. So I can’t just put away the memory. I had to see my son who’s only 13 every day and every day that’s my reminder. To this day I don’t know what happened. And I’m still dying inside thank you teal.
Too chicken to kill myself even though that's what I want more than anything, just for an easy way for it to all end. But thanks, I feel this video helped a fair bit. Thanks.
i stood on the balcony many times. thinking about jumping. i could not process being dumped by my spiritual-healer husband. yoga is not meant to destroy families, or is it? thank god i was too chicken! i am learning how to crawl out of the dark night of my soul. i am glad you were too chicken too. you will come out of withdrawal, and you will be so glad to be still alive!
Pain can feel and become unbearable. You just want it to stop or at least lessen. I understand. I have recently found Dr Margaret Paul. Her work has helped me greatly with navigating thru my dark thoughts. And I definitely love Teal!!
Bruce Wayne do you want to kill myself. I too want to kill myself. I just don't have the guts to do it because I know it probably fail. Then I would end up like my ex-boyfriend. On life-support.
When you mentioned that people start hoping their partner die in a freak accident when things go south, I froze up. Ive thought that sometimes and its terrible! Its that “I’d rather them die than not be with me” type thinking.
Teal, will you please consider doing a talk about losing and letting go of friends. When and how to release these relationships. It's harder for me to break up with a non romantic friend than a romantic one.
ahhaah thinking about my ex who was too cowardly to come to me with things he felt badly about in our relationship, then immediately got together with a coworker who has same name as me (who i had never heard of from work prior...hmmm)...and knowing that after 3 years they broke up anyway...and all the misery i've dealt with processing this "betrayal". . . that he is only NOW possibly dealing with the pain of it compounded OR NOT...b/c he is so detached. oh wait his process isnt my business. :{
This is exactly what happened to me as well! 2 days ago and my boyfriend dropped the bombshell that he had now got together with a coworker with the same name as me! He was also too cowardly to address issues in our relationship and just looked for a clean start elsewhere.
