How Nice Guys Kill 

Yes, I confirm that I acted nice out of fear of conflict and exposure. But I realized this about my self and changed my behavior. I realized that goodness can only come from courage and strength, it cannot come from weakness and avoidance.

Being nice is a waste, being decent and humble is vital.

Being perceived as a nice guy most of my life has made me suicidal. This video was so accurate and described me and my behaviors perfectly

Three days after watching this video my life has changed so much for the better. I am\was a nice guy. I used to think that that's how everyone should be, but not anymore. Blessing upon you Teal ❤

”Kind is an other-oriented behavior where you demonstrate that you can act in the best interest of others. Kind people perform good deeds for others. A kind person feels empathy and acts in the best interests of others. A kind person is exhibiting strength. A kind person acts from care and love”. Teal Swan. Thank you Teal for talking about this 🌎

“Kind men step INTO conflict, ‘nice’ men AVOID IT” 💯☠️

I was / am the nice guy and had no idea, absolutely no idea. The amount of resentment that I built up from my previous relationship always bothered me, like I was missing something. I consider myself fairly intelligent (not overly) and an empath (exactly due to trauma, which you pointed out in another video) and I just couldn't figure out the problems that I perceived my partner to have...only to realize that I was trying to solve an impossible puzzle as I was the problem in every single instance that I held resentment for. So thanks for your work, not only did all of the resentment dissolve immediately, I have a lot of apologizing / explaining to do as I can only imagine how much damage my behaviour might have done to my partners self image. And while this is no excuse, I really had absolutely no clue whatsoever prior to watching this. (And obviously there's quite a bit of soul searching and other build-up prior to me seeing this video that allowed me to have this almost instant realization)

Excellent video! I used to be a nice guy... what is important to know, that when you are a nice guy you were not born that way. Boys are transformed into nice guys by their bullying parents who lack the initiative to figure out what was the cause of the punished behavior, they just treat the result and do not root out the cause. For me being a nice guy was the only way I could survive the emotional and physical bullying of my parents trying to quick solve issues that were beyond my control as a child. Being assertive, owning my power as a child always got me into the most vulnerable situations with my parents, where I feared for my very survival. This fear of survival got so ingrained that reaching out to my own power, to integrity, to be fully present and responsible in a situation became equal to choosing the worst outcome possible where I am unjustly punished - not just punished, but destroyed, a part of me sentenced to death. When I grew up, I finally learned that when I reach to my power my physical survival is not at stake anymore, and I have the power to defend myself. However, that was only in the conscious level, and I was incapable to let it go from the patterns despite being extremely aware of this issue and constantly working very very hard on it. Shedding the depths of the ingrained pattern on which my very survival depended during the first 20 years of my life took me longer than then next 20 years. Once I shed a layer, I always found there's a deeper one underneath.... My advice for women who have partners with this nice guy behavior: BE COMPASSIONATE AND KIND towards your partner. As a nice guy what has hurt me the most was the same hurt that my parents did to me: that my partner never trusted me that I can become the man I want to be and who she wants me to become. Nice guys do what they do because those closest to them are HURTING THEM when they need help and compassion the most! Compassion and kindness is the only path to reach them. If you start by bullying and forcing them to change, they will wall up even tougher because bullying and gaslighting is what turned them into nice guys. These are the pressure points which will keep them drowning in that behavior. If you, as his dedicated partner show that you are emotionally supporting them, believe in them, they will be able to shed their behavior and grow up to be the man you want them to be. The nice guy WANTS to protect you! However, if you make him feel that he is not loved, he is not trusted, then he will convince himself that he does not have the strength, the foundation to take action. I understand that you want him to be that foundation, that rock. In order for that to happen, you need to take the first step and provide him the nurturing environment so he can feel SAFE, open up and own his own power. You are not to become his mother: his mother was the one who took his power away. You must choose to become his partner, who supports him to own his power. If you do not want him to change, or you do not trust him to go through that change, then go on your separate ways, so you can find the man you trust, and he can find the women who will help him at this stage of his journey. Love, patience, and kindness. They turned into nice guys because their parents did not believe in them, withdrew love and kindness from them, and found it easier to ignore, gaslight and abuse them instead of taking the time and figuring out what their actual problems and needs are, and find strategies to solve them.

Nice people have disowned their sense of self. They don’t know you can be confident and still be a good person. You can love yourself and not be conceited. They fear conflict because they’ve experienced danger upon saying no, thus they turn agreeable. They people please and self sacrifice to the degree it hurts others.

Being ''disagreeable'' is a natural and healthy personality trait. Psychologists know this. I feel like the public/status quo doesn't.

She’s so smart. Better than any therapist I know.

You described my husband. Thank you for the warning, although I'm at the end of my life. The thing is all my friends who knew him for 20 years thought he was the epitome of wisdom and grace even though his former wife of 25 years divorced him after the kids were raised.

I am a “nice guy”. I lost so many people because of it but only now i’m truly realizing it, just after parting ways with one of the dearest people in my life because of it. I don’t know if i can even describe the pain. We need to be better, guys. MUCH better. It is our responsibility to the people we love, to ourselves and to the world. Thank you so much, Teal. You’re helping me immensely and i’m truly grateful! 🙏🏻

As the band Smiths said: "It's so easy to laugh, It's so easy to hate, It takes strength to be gentle and kind." Tnx Teal for the powerfull, simple yet uncomforble truths you are sharing with us ❤

Thank you for pointing out that effectively I am a nice guy, and since I do not want to cause other people pain. I am right to be alone.

Many men are told being nice and being liked is the most important thing in life. We are raised to never start conflict. I used to be a 'nice' guy, my mom raised me to respect women and be nice to them, and for years I was frustrated at why no woman wanted me. I changed long ago, but this video is spot on!

“he has abandoned his own daughter without ever leaving the house” hit me so deep. i experienced that and it’s a crazy experience.

Don't forget that your best friend isn't going to be nice to you, they will tell it to you straight. Let that sink in.

Yup. This is the difference between a Good Man and The Nice Guy. The key of distinction is holding boundaries first to himself and then to others.

I'm not a nice guy, never have been. but I can sure be better at containment, ownership and protection. Your analysis is really on point, you bring clarity to this huge topic! Thank you

I've often talked with friends about differentiating between kindness and niceness because I've always known the difference. My mother leans toward niceness because she's extremely concerned about the perception of others. As a child I was left in harms way because of this at times. This video is the best explanation of my very real experiences with nice people vs kind people.

Man this resonates for me so much. Just ended things with a “nice guy”. I had so much anxiety around this person and couldn’t figure out why. Thank you Teal ❤

I agree whole heartedly. I was this person. Yes its fear. Its a lonely existence, and boys are damaged as children just like girls. The key to freedom for me was a focus on being the person I wanted to be, and not pretending to be the person I wanted to be. Learning to be kind. Not just so I would be accepted and liked, but instead so that I could respect and trust myself. I am 61 years old and have spend many years a prison my own fear. Thank you Teal. You are incredibly knowledgeable. I listen to regularly.

Teal I have to say you nailed me with this video. I definitely fall into the category of a 'nice guy'.

My parents both played this game, each said the other was bad but left me to my own devices while the other was abusing. No support, just scoring points against each other, the kid didn't matter. Thanks for this, it brought up a lot of things. I've been struggling to feel worthwhile ever since, decades of being nothing. Teal makes another good point about "nice" people and who they are afraid won't like them. People will be nice and love-bomb until they are sure you like them, then emotionally abandon you to concentrate on someone else who doesn't yet like them. My last ex did this, the more someone was kind and supportive, the more she ignored and focused on other angry guys to the point of cheating. One video from Teal is worth months in mainstream therapy, I am grateful.

Just exiting a relationship with a nice guy and a big weight has been lifted from muy shoulders. Every word you said is like listening to the last two years of my life. Thanks for clarifying what my intuition have told me and didn't listen.

When a nice guy does something nice for you he’s actually doing it to serve himself, but he’ll disguise it well.

Very insightful. Teal points out a lot of downsides to being nice that I was not particularly aware of. Still I think there is a time to be nice, and time not to be nice. Not every hill is worth dyeing on.

I can't thank you enough for this video, which comes at such a synchronistic time. Yesterday, I felt berated by a male employee for not being "nice." Even my manager wants me to be "nice". I'm NOT nice, to some people, at all! I AM KIND. And I try to explain the difference, and I can't find the words, and then I feel frustrated!!! I've been ruminating and ruminating----and came home to THIS! I needed this soo badly. Once again Teal, you're plain magic! THANK YOU!

11:00 Teal Swan just dropped the best list ever of all the things we need in a relationship and simply hearing this list empowers me to acknowledge what I want my life and next relationship to feel like.

Oh my God. This is so absolutely true. I lived in this dynamic for 26 years. All our kids are a mess and I'm always the bad guy. He made me feel like I was going crazy and that I was a horrible person. I have felt so much anger and resentment . He is such a covert manipulator that he has successfully ruined every relationship I have with all my family. He says one thing to me and something totally different behind my back. Now I'm focusing on myself to heal the traumas caused by this dynamic. I'm doing the inner work and have needed a lot of help and self love. He desperately would not let go of me. Ugh😢. And the love bombing is rediculously. I'm going to make it through this because I'm doing the inner work and facing the truth. I'm learning that I am worthy of love and I am loveable. Thank you Teal Swan for your brilliant teachings. ❤❤❤❤

Please keep these videos coming, I love the deep laughter they bring!

OMG! Teal articulated the psychology perfectly. Almost like she was a fly on the wall in my last relationship! I left looking like the bad one. Topically sick while he worked the neighborhood with his nice guy personna. This is serious stuff.

“A harmless man is not a good man. A good man is capable of great violence, but he has it under voluntary control.” - Jordan Peterson

Niceness is epiphenomenal, the real substance that is imagined is internal, expressing the actual intentions of the person. A kind person may or may not seem nice, and a nice person may or may not be kind.

I literally just experienced this. You nailed every point, on both sides, perfectly. THANK YOU!

I was listening and my heart was falling. That is exactly my ex`s description. Everybody loves him, people pleaser to the core. At the same time, he made me feel crazy, clingy, and unreasonable when I was sad after him canceling one date after another. One day he is tired, another busy, then a friend is coming to town. And every time I saw big eyes filled with judgment: "why are you reacting so strangely? Only crazy people react like that, what is wrong with you?". And having all people around him loving him fiercely I started doubting myself. I broke up with him eventually after several months. But the thing that kills me the most is that he is actually MAKING other people like him and love him and he never admits he does it. He manipulates and gets what he wants, he keeps people like puppies - stroking with love and attention when he needs smth and kicking into the belly when he is in another mood. Surprisingly, people TAKE this happily saying he is such a nice guy, might be tired or something, let`s not be harsh on him. I am looking at this with true terror.

I was in a 23 year marriage with a "nice guy". It ended disastrously. This explains SO MUCH of my life with him. Thank you so incredibly much!!! 🙏This brings some resolution, understanding and peace to that huge part of my life.

Absolutely one of most powerful videos I’ve seen after searching for so long about my self . I was always told I was a nice guy but always lost relationships. everything you described is a carbon copy of what I’ve become. I used to give myself credit for being “nice” but in reality now I see how it’s been a detriment in my life.

This has been a subconscious behavior for me since birth, and now that I'm able to see this I can figure out how to show true peace and kindness in healthier ways. Thank you Teal.

I think a good say to say this is niceness is associated with an anxious or avoidant attachment style, whereas kindness is a secure. Niceness is conflict avoidant and results in fawning behavior, whereas kindness looks and acts outward in a way that stabilizes others with empathy and compassion.

This is a frighteningly insightful video. I had a friend of many years who was a people pleaser. What she says is so true. After a traumatic incident, I shared my concerns...not with an intent to get help, but only with intent to share how I felt. "Don't expect any help from me," was the response. Strong on vapid neutrality, but too insecure to be a true friend. "Cowardly and Passive," fits to a T.

Dang Teal. Wish I realized this years ago. I was in a marriage with a nice guy for 22 years. I always thought something was wrong with me. Everyone thought my husband was so nice. What a manipulator. I can only see this now. What a waste of years. It was a horrible divorce. He made sure his family knew I was the bad, horrible person and they never talked to me again. This video is absolutely fantastic! Thank you for sharing!

I love every time teal drops a hardcore truth bomb and then delicately says after, “Have a nice week.” 😂 so funny

That makes good sense. A lot of nice people seem to lack integrity because they want approval, safety, etc. I used to be a people pleaser but learned that that never helped anything. Eventually, nice guys n gals wi'll have to take the mask off to heal their trauma. Drop the ego defenses and be authentic ❤

How interesting and important you put across this complex, subtle difference, so often overlooked and misnderstood. Thanks Teal,

I don't know how I found you but I'm glad I did. I love you and I know you'll understand without freaking out. Thank you for being you. You belt it out of the park. Thank you. Always be authentic.

You have 100% described a marriage that I left after 22 years. I have not for a second regretted my decision.

i used to feel like a divided person. i fell into the 'nice guy' category and was lonely and also afraid of conflict. the resolution for me was seeing that both my fear of others and the sadness i was experiencing were not actually two different parts of me, my fear was because i needed others to love/approve of me and my sadness was because i felt unloved. seeing that both parts were trying to get the same thing caused my belief in having two different selves to disappear since they were both motivated by the same thing: the desire for love. since then i have found deeper self-acceptance and generally feel more calm and unified in myself. i still feel afraid or sad sometimes, but i don't make my emotions into an enemy or something i need to get rid of anymore, it's more like they are just something that comes and goes. my heart goes out to those feeling like a divided person, it is a very painful way to live, i hope you can find unification

Great video. Unfortunately society and way too many women eqatw the "good man" with "nice guys"

That was a beautiful video,thank you. My own father had to protect - physically protect his family at times - perhaps not all parties agreed that he was acting 'nice' but he was acting kind.

Goodness gracious, Ms. Swan... This has to be the most powerful, eye opening and enlightening 30 minutes I have probably ever spent in all of my 43 years of life. Thank you for the extraordinarily illuminative lesson in how "nice" guys (actually all "nice" people in general) move in this world. I will share and pass it along to everyone I can - I hope that it garners a massive amount of attention as the wealth of knowledge you so generously shared really is a phenomenal eye opener.

'Nice' is a way to avoid conflict. At the end of the day, 'nice' doesn't get anything that needs to be done, done. 'Nice' doesn't stand up against injustice, or say what needs to be said. 'Nice' does not communicate openly and truthfully, as being truthful can often lead to being disliked, or drop you right in the middle of a conflict. 'Nice' is selfish. Kind people walk right into conflict that is necessary. They say what needs to be said in a way that is ultimately positive, even if it hurts. Kind will defend you. Kind will be there for you in every way. Kindness takes strength and an open heart, and a mastery of fear. Kindness acts out of love and doesn't expect anything in return. I've personally noticed 'nice' people will act like children having a tantrum at the first sign of interpersonal conflict, or not getting what they want when they want it. I've learned that the avoidance of conflict in and of itself is a huge red flag. Strong, kind people are not afraid of conflict. They will let their opinions and honest thoughts be heard in a balanced way without fear of how others might view them as a result.

I recognize that I am a nice guy. I don’t often think about others. I’m actually pretty selfish. And I do avoid conflict. I wanna be liked and agreeable. But that doesn’t mean I wanna be that way. I know I’m not a protector. I’m grateful for your insight. Thank you Teal. 😢

Holy crap! THIS!!! 💯 perfectly put. This is my current relationship. I’ve never been able to articulate this, of course Teal nailed it.

I so needed this right now. I'm the caregiver of my grandma and she is the "nice guy". I feel like I'm losing my mind in what has us living in two different realities. Her well runs no deeper than a polite etiquette that must be maintained in preference of polite lies devoid of any truth or genuine compacity for intimacy. For her kindness is enabling and to be enabled into a continued "why bother" weakness while perpetually demanding cotton candy compliments offering no nutrition or substance. She is a bottomless pit abyss, and I am falling into it. I am the perpetual "bad guy" while dancing on the egg shells of her fragile self esteem. I'm losing it and I have no support system or backup that'll help add balanced perspective. I needed this. You don't know how much I needed this.

Your chuckle after detailing each negative aspect & behavior of a nice guy was unsettling, but effective in driving the point home.

I just happened upon Teal Swan here from the short one minute videos that appeared in my feed. This hits home with me and I’m considering it deeply. Her delivery is quite unique and intriguing. Nice and kind are two different things, I agree. I endeavor for the latter. There’s a lot in this one video to absorb. I will watch it multiple times.

I would love to hear you talk about nice woman - I really feel called out by many of these points and I truly understand the problems. The more work I do on myself the more often I feel the discrepancy between my reactions and actual feelings

Omg, this was my ex-husband, and I couldn't get him to understand the neglect I felt when he only did things in his own best interest. The nail in the coffin was the lack of protection. Once I realized this man would never protect me or our future children, I had no choice but to say goodbye.

💯 They will never confront or address any issue because they have to stay the “nice guy”. The other party has to assume the role of addressing, confronting, solving all conflicts, therefore, ending to be the not so nice party.

Brilliant. Thank you. I was in a relationship with a guy that made me wrong as he told everyone how horrible I was. Therefore he was nice and I was the asshole. All the while he was doing abusive things to me and others. Thanks for the detail Teal on such a challenging subject. More people need to learn these things especially women in my opinion.

Fascinating explanation !!! I have always despised 'nice guys' ---they are ruled by fear & not by honor !

Perfect timing and very accurate. Starting with my Daddy, all the men in my life have been nice guys. I am a very self-protective woman.

That is so accurate! you just described my last relationship in every word you said. I was so scared to tell my family we broke up because they would point out the blame on me. I sacrificed everything for him and left with nothing. I do a lot of self learning and treatments to overcome that experience.

So not only am I broken like I've always felt but I'm also covertly evil and self-centered.......wonderful...

Never heard anybody explain this so well. Really spot on! Thanks, Teal!

5 years with a nice guy. (This video is 100% spot on it’s scary!) It’s really amazing to hear all of this, that I knew in my heart but was so confused and heartbroken throughout it all and long after I’d left. And wow, the chronic stress & anxiety! 7 years out and still healing my stress & anxiety that became so normal for me. Heart Breathing and somatic exercises are a great help but videos like this, that are deeply informative are so valuable! Thank you Teal xx

so f-ing true, only this is equally true for everyone - men and women. i live in australia and they are obsessed with politeness. some of them have no problem stabbing you in your back however - as long as they do it politely. can't stand it. i need to add that there are some of the most beautiful people on earth here as well, and i feel truly blessed, grateful and privileged that i have met them.

Nice guy syndrome [glover] is a survival response form childhood-which I had. Awareness really helped squelch it. I openly called myself a social chameleon before I knew what it really was.

Recently divorced (8 mos) from a nice guy. The thing that kept me for so long was that he would validate my frustration, tell me I’m 100% right, it’s all his fault, AND THEN NEVER CHANGE. He did ALL these things on a scale of 1-10, he’s a 10. And now that I’m filled with rage, and lashing out at him, he is in victim mentality, acting like I’m emotionally unstable and abusive. He cowers like a little boy. I cried through this whole video, bc it made me feel so validated. I am now dating a masculine man. Immediately, after our first date, I felt like he was the first MAN I have ever encountered, all the others are BOYS in comparison, including my father. I can’t describe how healing and how safe I feel with this masculine man. He is not afraid of conflict, yet humble, he is fiercely protective of me and my children, he takes accountability for himself in all areas, mental, emotional and physical health. His house is clean, his business is successful, and it makes me feel like he can easily contain and protect me, which I have NEVER had in my life.

You’re making me realize I was the “nice guy”. I’ve been slowly working on myself with the lying and exaggerating or sugar coating the truth. I’m putting others needs and feelings first and I’ve lost a lot of people but I feel healthier emotionally. I’m no where near done with this journey but I’m glad I have an outside source to explain this because I always saw it as narcissism but I’ll admit to my faults and wrong doing and I actually try to change the pattern and I actually feel guilt when it’s been pointed out or I notice it in myself. Love you and your channel. You teach me new things all the time.

That example was eye opening. I love it!

Lady, I just found you... Who are you out here changing my life!!! Thank you

My father is a nice guy. As a result I’ve learned early on that the world is not a safe place to be 😢 Now I have to go through therapy and cannot sleep without pills at age 24… 100% agree with everything Teal said in this video.

I dated a nice guy recently and i have never been so aggressive and angry in any relationship. The way he brought me out of myself was craaaazy.

Absolutely BRILLIANT!!!! I'm following every Teal Swan video from now on! Just WOW!!!! Tremendous Work!!! 🎉🎉❤❤

THANK YOU!! 😭 far beyond words I can find! This is exactly what I needed to hear. I’m totally a nice guy and have been pretty desperate find what’s been so damaging to my marriage and relationships the last 5ish years(at least that’s when things started to go south) there’s few things more freeing then self knowledge and awareness!

I read “No More Mr. Nice Guy” a few years ago and it woke me up to realizing why nobody, especially women, don’t like nice guys. This video was great. There’s a difference between being evil, good and nice. The world doesn’t need nice guys, it needs more good men. Every time I’ve met a nice guy I feel like I can’t trust them. They’re a little too smiley and aren’t clear with their morals or standards. Eventually, I know they’ll screw me over.

I feel so validated, ended my 5 year relationship to a nice guy half a year ago. Everything she said in this video explain exactly what I went through in that realationship..

The amount of mental gymnastics here is incredible.

So strong... So true... Thank you for creating this video. Eye opening.

This is my Dad actually. I wasn't sure what this would mean when I clicked on this but my dad even said to me when I was pleading with him to listen to me "looook, I don't really want to go there". My mother was giving me the silent treatment and all I'd done was try to raise an issue. It was such a harmless comment he thought but in that moment, I understood. The truth doesn't matter. The damage done to me doesn't matter. His Easy Life as my mum's side kick is what matters.

Omg this explains so much about my dad that I knew tacitly but could never put words to. Thank you Teal 🙏

Thank you for delineating between niceness and kindness. I have served in lay ministry in two denominations; I began to denounce "Niceness" 40 years ago as being unloving.

Just ended relationship with a "nice" guy. You nailed thiis!!

Once again, from my own experience, this is 100 percent true. I am not really sure why I avoided Teal until recently, but now I am blown away by how much we have in common as far as observations and conclusions go. Bravo brave lady ❤

A nice man is an enabler of dangerous dysfunctional family dynamics, not a kind man who's a protector of healthy functional family structure.

This is so eye opening. I love how she give explanations of why nice guys aren't always desirable. Nothing is wrong with being nice, but as my elders have always told me, too much of one thing is never good. But what I believe, is that when your are too nice people take advantage of you, you build up negative emotions and then suddenly, without warning, you lash out at people.(eg. being passive aggressive, etc.).

Very true. Thanks very well explained! 😊

It is a HUGE eye opener for me.Thank you!❤❤❤

For me I think niceness does come from a place of anxiety. From a place of people pleasing. And in hopes of not hurting people's feelings. I definitely recognize when I'm being kind from the heart and when I'm being "nice"

Sometimes a person becomes a nice guy due to childhood trauma and ptsd. If he grows up poor he doesn't have access to therapy or other support systems and becomes stuck for many yrs.

Teal I freaking love you so much!! I have been so intrigued with the psychology and human behaviors why people do the things they do where it comes from. I really appreciate everything that you have to say it's changed my life and I've passed your words on and your videos on to those who struggle and it has enlighten them and change their lives you are an amazing brilliant woman and you're so beautiful I look up to you so very much thank you for everything

This is a masterpiece,thanks a lot, Teal ❤️

Thank you for this video, Teal. You perfectly described my one and only ex-husband. On our wedding night in 1982, I laid on the hotel bed and sobbed my heart out. My soul clearly knew the mistake I had made. I ended the marriage after 14 years, childless. He died suddenly and alone last December and I found myself unable to grieve or with any desire to travel to attend his crowded public memorial service. It was as if I had been married to an "Organic Portal" or NPC-- like there was no one behind the ever-smiling mask he wore. The hardest thing to hear was that nice guys choose unlikable people to partner with. As a survivor of daily and constant violent abuse and neglect since birth, I suppose that leads to personality defects. It is painful to accept that I was unlikable, which must have been what he liked most about me. You are a brilliant catalyst for healing, Teal, and I appreciate your messages so much. This one might take a while to process. 🙏🏼🕉❤

As one of those "nice" guys this video has really helped me realize that I need to put in the effort to change myself. Thank you, Teal Swan

If I'm understanding correctly, what's being described here is covert narcissism. I definitely worked with a guy who fit this to a tee, and yeah, it was frustrating as hell. He'd pretend to be your friend, but then make subtle actions behind your back to make himself look better than he actually was, as well as make him look better than you. When you would call him out on his mistakes and ask for change, he would always apologize but find some way to try and reinforce the status quo. He was functionally useless at his job, yet he became my boss after only a couple months being there, and I have to assume he lied his ass off to get it that way.

Wow! 👏👏👏 breaking up with a nice guy now after almost a year- long relationship. I always felt “smth is off” but so hard to spot exactly… needed this video! Thank you! 🧡

wow, Teal did it again, what are we even doing?! Also, I LOVED this breakdown of niceness, it really helped me understand a toxic pattern I'm involved with a female friend. Word for word. PRICELESS