As a Mama Bear, it hurts my heart that there are people out there who don't have loving and supportive families to be there for whatever you need, especially if claiming Christian values.
I will be 32 in October, and my mom still makes me feel like I’m a 13 year old boy who is confused about my sexual orientation. I have a very accepting dad, and for that, I’m thankful. I have 3 siblings that have not been great at engaging with me on this or really, most topics. I have definitely felt like the oddball in this family of mine, but I’m holding onto the hope that Jesus loves me just as I am. Thanks Justin. I know you’ve helped a lot of LGBTQ youth. Much love, -Kenneth
Not me coming out during an argument... and debating the Bible... and her finding out through one of my tweets instead of me telling her... and not having a big story to tell because I’ve just now accepted my sexuality myself... holy fuck am I screwed
After watching this I don’t think I handled anything right and I don’t know what to do from here and I’m so scared that this is going to harm our relationship
My parents are very homophobic.. when we were watching Dateline, one person was gay and they immediately changed it and said “Gross, right?” And I said yeah because I have to fake being Homophobic. I’m Pan and NonBinary and when I said the Bible says to love everybody, she said “they made Adam and Eve for each other not Adam and Joe” and my friends are all LGBTQ+ (My friends are pan,non-binary and gender fluid) I’m really nervous about telling them because my dad gets upset easily and we’re going through moving stuff
My dad is very Christian but I’m am lesbian my parents have had very very hard lives and I just want to make them happy so I play the part as the straight Christian daughter to make them happy every time I try to tell them I chicken out I just love them so so much I can’t hurt them like this
Dear Justin, Wow! This is such a helpful video for those who are struggling with how to come out to their parents. Thank you for being such a godly example and a source of help to people in need. God bless you, brother!
I'm considering coming out to my family and I'm really nervous about it, so thanks for this video.. It's super helpful and your voice and presentation are really calming and supportive
Came out about 10 years ago and my relationship with my parents never really healed. My biggest piece of advice is to wait until you are financially independent from your parents. That was my mistake and I ended up homeless for a while.
I've studied theology for almost my entire life before I left the church. I've argued theology until I was blue in the face. If God is love, and we are called to love one another, we are called to love everybody and every soul. After being sent to conversion camp/ mental health 'treatment', I had to leave the church. Their church does have a LGBT support group but they will not go because it's not biblical. My chosen family is super accepting of me and I love them. Even if my family will not accept me as a bisexual cisgendered woman, sometimes we have to radically accept that we cannot change them. I love you for you and be your authentic self. ❤️
My whole family is Christian. None of them exept me support LGBTQ. Today, actually just an hour ago I asked my mom, What if her children are gay? she said she wouldn't love them any less. So I asked her another thing which was, How would you react? She said she would be upset in disappointed because that's not what God wants you to believe, but she repeated: I wouldn't love them any less. So I'm relieved and soon might come out to her sooo
I am mindful that about half of the homeless people in the United States are such because their families kicked them out for being some variety of LGBT. So I always recommend that people not come out to their parents until they are over 18, have completed their education, stopped taking any money from their parents, found another place to live (if only a rented apartment), moved all of their stuff out of their parents' home, understood that there is a substantial risk that they will be cut out of the parents' lives and decided they are OK with that. I admit that I would probably not have been so nice if my parents had been unsupportive (which thank God they were not). Sure, I would have tried to anticipate what their issues would be. But in the end, I would make it very clear that the matter is not open to discussion in the sense of my changing my mind. It is what it is, and their continuing to have a relationship with me will be conditional on their behaving in a respectful manner toward me. I admit that with certain Christian friends whom I have caught spreading disinformation about trans people, I have written to them privately, pointed out their error and asked them when they intend to repent. If they do not see fit to do so, I unceremoniously remove them from my life. It's sad, because some of these people were once close friends. So I pray for them. But the situation is what it is. I am not going to tolerate abuse.
Thanks for this video I will remember him when it comes time to tell my mom that I changed my position and accepted my sexuality. It will be difficult to explain, but your video helped me!
So like what if my parents don’t understand the concept of me growing up and they put me through therapy at the age of 19 because they think I’m “broken”?
I feel like my mom doesn't ask any questions, just denies, denies that orientation can be a thing, and denies that accepting churches are really Christian. Definitely shares her fears, I've tried to listen, i share her faith. I'm waiting for something to change to really pursue a relationship, but i really don't know if any change will happen
Tysm I’ve been in relationships with girls (I’m a girl) and I got caught but now I’m ready to fully come out, well when I’m ready and this motivated me! I’m so grateful for this advice!
Thank you for this. It helped a LOT. I’m trying to come out to my grandma as trans bc I hate hiding myself from her bc I love her and I want her appart of my life.
i've just came out on this 30 of August, hearing you and your story makes me feel calm as well actually when i told them, we had a lot of tears coming out and somehow i feel blessed but also not fully cant get off from this burden that ive been carry on for 27 years well yes when i said it through them my all relatives say that , Hey we all still love you and it's not gonna change us. just some part of my mum still cant accept it till now and i think it's gonna be a hard day for us in front i just wanna find some way to explain more to her, but it just seems like she trying wanna fix me and i told her and all my relatives please, when i came out it means all of me and what i've said already the truth and i want you guys to believe and appreciate they way that i take. well now after i came out, i mean all family members still okay with me, its just my mum that needs more time and i really love all of them but it doesnt mean that i'm gonna change back to bcome what they want i just need courage too, So shout out to all of my LGBT friends stay strong, cause i'm also gonna pass this moment LOVE YOU GUYS ALL!
my mom just told my grandpa when they were reading the newspaper ......" Pope has refused blessing for you know " gay couple " cuz they are evil".....(my grandpa laughs slightly)....my mom said" good thing" .....it s my grandpa 's bday and i can't swallow this lump of guilt ......because i kno im too young ....and they are pretty conservative ....also believe in arranged marriages ...like they said they'll be the ones who 'll decide who im gonna marry...im not gonna let that happen .....so how will i ever make them understand that liking a person from the same sex is alright ......how will i ever come out to them as a bisexual person
Speaking of which, officially Flick and CJ are roommates and "business partners" to explain why CJ keeps raving about his "partner" Flick's amazing art, but come on, Nintendo... ;)
Thank you for this video!I really needed this advice!Im coming out to my parents in 3 days :) Im Gonna come out To my cousins First because They asked me If I liked Woman(What Im trying to say is they asked me if Im lesbian)I wasnt ready to tell anybody But now I am,Wish me luck!
Hi, do you know any Christian communities who are positive towards LGBTQ ? I'm having a hard time here in Europe finding any. I'm in France... Trying to find a community that shares my values.
It’s not my parents for me it’s my aunt and uncle my dad was fine with it but I don’t know How they are gonna react not gonna come out now but maybe later in life
