When to Walk Away from a Toxic Mother 

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One month after I cut off ties with my mom... my shoulder injury resolved, my gut distention improved a lot!!! Wow.

One day after starting no contact with my mum - I've stopped feeling suicidal.

My mother has never defended me in my life. Looking back i want to cry. I’ve tried everything

There was absolutely no relationship with my mom and no possibility of a healthy communication with her whatsoever. And she never took responsibility for all the ways she abused me and would just continue to do so. Took me more than 40 years to realize that I didn't have to enable this anymore. I've been no contact for months now. It's not easy but I know it was the right thing to do. I'm even moving out of town! I'm on a path to healing. Thank God I have Jesus!

Mothers are more toxic then we acknowledge and we always wonder why the fathers run away

A true narcissistic mom will never validate your feelings. I tried all your suggestions and was met with absolute indifference.

I walked away 2 years ago absolutely no regrets ..

As a Mum whose daughter has gone no contact with me for 4 years now, I really want to fix the relationship with her. I am a Christian but this did not prevent me from acting in a lot of toxic ways toward my daughter. Some of this was patterns of behaviour learned from my own mother and the unhealed hurts that I had. Some was from my own selfish tendencies and more. But I was blind to what I was doing and didn't realise the harm I was inflicting. This was all complicated by the fact that she had undiagnosed disorders which affected her behaviour. It is very true that '' Hurt people , hurt people'' - the unhealthy cycle just goes around and around down the generations. Because my daughter went ''No Contact'' with me I have been on a long and painful journey of grief and increasing self awareness and I realise that am mostly to blame for the situation. As a Christian and a mother I continue to pray for restoration and healing of the relationship. I write this to encourage other mothers to be willing to take an honest look at their behaviour no matter how painful this is. God will give you the grace to do so.

Lived this for 53 years. No other recourse than having to go no contact.

My mother and me are done. She criticizes me constantly, called me a liar when I told her I was suffering with anxiety and depression. I'm even on pills for my condition. And she told me last week I'm ugly because I don't wear make up, and also she has said I dress like a clown? I have had enough, and as of today I'm walking away from her forever. No choice because she is making my anxiety and depression much worse. I feel relieved to be away from her. There is nothing left now, I just want peace from her. She treats my sister like the golden child, and never does this to her. But with me she can't stop being nasty about me and my life ❤❤

Mothers thruout the centuries have been viewed, and even idolized, as loving, nurturing, supportive, sacrificial. When you have a mother that is not, you feel jipped! Others have a hard time believing you when you seek help. If they refuse to acknowledge your profound pain and suffering, you won’t get help carrying your immense burden! They are gaslighting you just as your mother is!

You have just summed up my life. On every point you made. My mother is a chronic liar, master manipulator, and always has to be in control of every situation and every person. I could never talk to her, never feel comfortable around her, the last time I was with her, she made me physically ill. When I was little, i was always sick. Always going to see the dr. i used to pull my hair out. I also always was nervous and at the age of 12, I started suffering with anxiety and panic attacks. As an adult, I always had chronic bronchitis, ulcers, physical pain. I was always accused of being a hypochondriac, but it was a physical result of being around her toxicity. It has been about 10 years that I did not have to be around her daily. Only on the holidays. And the holidays were ALWAYS a huge stress ball for me. Everything was always wrong. Nothing ever made her happy. So sad that a mother, someone who is supposed to give comfort to her child can do just the opposite. I always wanted her to love me, I always wanted a relationship with her. But in my old age now, I realize I will never have that. Your videos help me so very much.

When i was 46, i finally went no contact with my mother. This affected my relationship with my entire family so the no contact eventually extended to all of them. I hate that i lost who i was....daughter, aunt, niece, granddaughter, cousin, sister. She was so malicious. She died a year ago in December and i felt relief...not even sadness, just relief.

Yes my blood pressure gets high when I deal with my mother . I’m going full low- contact on my terms ONLY

After 45 years of dealing with a toxic mother I reached a time to investigate why she never changes her ways with me. I realized that after math of every time she comes around is like it took me a while to detox from her toxicity. These moms and not all are the same even if they are many miles away they can hurt us badly with their wrong ways towards you. Highly bad for you to mind them. I closed on her today by blocking and telling my siblings not to notify me on anything to do with her. Thanks for the video.

This was timely for me. Thank you. I have decided a no contact with my mother. The toxicity is extreme. Makes me sad but I’m ready to move on.

My mom and I used to be best friends, so as I got older and realized her hitting me, calling me a lot of horrible names (primarily stupid, and ones that have cuss words), always asking me for money since I was in elementary school, guilt tripping me, shaming me, never liking anyone I've dated, disregarding my thoughts and feelings, treating me like a child as an adult, crossing my boundaries, and worst of all making me so sick I ended up in the hospital even the ER many times. In 2018, I started to realize how unreasonable she was and last June cut ties with her completely. No visitation, calls, emails, nothing. I gave her so many chances to recognize and change her bad behavior and she just wouldn't. If anything, she's gotten worse. She's told me since I was little she never wanted to see me again and as an adult, she said if I ever came over, she'd have me arrested. Guess she got her wish 🤷So, enough was enough and I walked out of her life permanently. I have no need or desire to ever reconcile with her and other toxic relatives, past toxic friendships, etc. It's 100% on her that she won't change for the better. She's almost 50 years old, if she hasn't changed by now, she never will. The crazy part is, she's the one who introduced me to Jesus and made fun of me for continuing to follow Him as an adult! She makes absolutely no sense and is the most unstable person I have ever met. I've been reparenting myself since before I cut ties. She hasn't felt like a mom for a long time. I honestly wish I never met her. No mom is much better than a toxic one. Not sure if God is ever going to answer my prayers to bring her back to Him, but I have peace knowing I did everything I could and it wasn't my fault. I don't have to keep blaming myself. My life has immense peace since I've left 💕🕊️

Psychological damage to a child from a toxic parent or parents is significant and CAN be addressed by a professional if recognised by the affected individual. If not, the damage remains and spills into personal relationships outside the family. Friends, relatives, co-workers and future partners can all be affected by an individual who has unresolved toxic parental damage.

It’s the draining me for years. My whole life is was surrounded around taking care of her.

Mines a stalker, bully, cusses people out without cuss words. Narcissistic,jealous. Tried to be nice and deal with her. But not worth it. Everything goes wrong when shes near. Never knew a more gossiping bitter person. Too toxic. She's not rational so it's not the kind of person you can work with. She likes to cause problems on purpose something is wrong.Not only does it affect physically but it has become a spiritual attack. There's something demonic now moves through her. When a parents like this sometimes God's saying just get away

This is the story of my life! And this can be so overwhelming because the "villain" can even play the "victim" so well and even get ahead of the narratives to cover up their toxic behavior .it's like they can take away every "argument" they think you would have and use it against you until you no longer have the energy or vitality of mind to even know where to begin to verbally defend yourself this can have a deadly impact on a person's pysche

I feel like everyone pushes no contact but I just choose to be distant from my mom. We talk fairly frequently but she’s not really involved in my life, and I prefer it that way. Recently I made the foolish mistake of being open with her about things I was going through and I deeply regret it cause my mother gossips too much. It’s one of my biggest frustrations with her. My mom also throws things and mistakes I’ve made in my face when she’s mad at me. Which is why I deeply regret telling her cause I’m sure she’ll do it again when she’s mad at me or trash talk me. All in all it’s easier to live far from her and only keep our relationship surface level because she’s made it clear she is incredibly abusive and violent towards me for no reason.

I have gone down this path multiple times in my life with my mom, but in the end I cannot just cut ties with her, because she has made so many sacrifices for my younger brother and I. It just breaks my heart thinking to just drop her because she has mental health issues and a lot of childhood trauma.

God bless you Kris 💗 I had to implement low contact by email with my mom, like you said they always blame you for the state of the relationship, it's unbelievable! However, I have more peace now and I'm healing a lot faster but I'll tell you there is no greater pain than realizing this reality. I divorced a malignant narcissist and that was painful but listen, having to protect yourself from your own mom? This is a sadness and a void that accompanies you all throughout your life, and when you see other healthy families sharing and loving each other, IT HURTS. 💔

I have heard that the older a narcissist gets, the WORSE they WILL become. My mom is 83. Yes, she is elderly. But STILL not too old to be verbally, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and yes at times physically AND Spiritually abusing me. I am 46. I am married. No children, but still. I recently had to go no contact with her. Long long story but basically there was tons of berating, belittling, name calling, etc from her. I even told her she never listens to me or believes that I know what I am talking about and her response was this very childish, "OOOOHHHH BOOOOO HOOOOO POOOOOR MIIIICHELLLLE!!! GET OVER IT!!!" I hung up on her and have not spoken to hear since. This happened about 6 or so weeks ago. I hate that the holidays are coming up, but I just cannot deal with her anymore. Yes, she is elderly, but she IS "all there" when it comes to her mind . She is VERY smart still and cognitive and lives alone in her own house and drives, etc. Yes, she has had each hip replaced and had major back surgery in 2018 BUT .... she is all healed from all that and walks great and is over all a VERY young 83 year old. I "used to" be on her medical list of people to call. She took me off of that. So, there is VERY little I can do. I have a brother who lives in California, but .... again he is in California. Plus he is 14 years older than I am. She does live alone, but again, seems to get along good. I'm sure this is ripping her up, but there has never been any sign of repentance from her. Everything is always everyone else's fault. Especially mine. I would be there to help her medically but she becomes a tyrant even in those moments. Her "needs" instantly become unrealistic demands. I live about an hour away......so being "right there" at her every whim is not always necessary. I do love her as she is my mom, but I am in this "struggle" with going "no contact" . I never thought I had have to make this decision, but many have confirmed that I am doing the right thing. That adult children are NOT to be an extension of the parent, but a separate entity growing into who God made me. I also know there is scripture in Matthew 10:35-38 where Jesus says that if we love mother/daughter, father/son more than Him, He cannot use us and we cannot be His disciple and follow Him . Well, I long to be His follower for once in my life. So..... I do believe God is in this. He is with me, AND with my mom. I have forgiven her. I do pray for her. I have accepted she is likely to never change unless God moves in her in a majestic way. But to be there for her medically .... especially since she took me off the HIPAA list .... I really can't do much.

not only mothers, fathers as well. I am learning the low contact and learning to keep a lot of things to myself. It is very difficult.

We’ve recently had to leave the church I’ve known all my life to escape my toxic mother. She has been silent treating me for almost 2 years but using church as a means to see my kids. She was also using it as an opportunity to plead her case to my kids and make me seem like the bad guy. I’m thankful for a congregation that was sad to let us go but didn’t stop us from going.

Thank you so much for this video and for your channel. My mother is a minister, along with my step-father. Throughout my whole life, I have experienced emotional/ mental abuse from her as well as some physical abuse at times during my teen years. I finally had the guts to cut her off 4 years ago. I was the last of 4 children to do so, my brothers have not spoken to her for over 20 years. I love to see the scripture in your videos because, since I cut off my mother, she and my step father will often try to communicate with me and use scripture to show that I am the bad one and that I am "going to hell" for cutting her off. but in watching your videos, I know that is not true, and you even have scripture to back it up. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! you are such a blessing to me when I really need it.

My mother is so toxic that im becoming like her subconsciously. That’s why I'm scared to become a mother. I know Hurt people hurt people. This toxic crazy cycle ends with me.

My mother is broken from childhood, which she is in denial as she had a father who had multiple families. She is always in the church. She emotionally and verbally abused my father, and after he died, began emotionally abusing me and my sister. She is self-centered, toxic, and always a victim. The only way she tries to stay viable is to pay for ever everything when we're home or to give money. She can't be trusted with anything we tell her, because she will use it against you...using religion or "prayer". I'm not enough if I'm not married or have kids, as "she prays for God to bless me as I should be blessed". It's so damn sickening and I'm tired of this.

I got used to it. No job no friends but God is so good! I am content in different creative ways.

I could never say no to my toxic mother. She destroyed me and everyone in my family. She was so full of hate that you would never talk back. Everyone she would meet, got the whole story of her terrible daughter. Her children were supposed to live with her for the rest of your life and hand over your paycheck to her. As you had no money how could you get away? My older brother was going to be married and she said to me "I would rather see him dead, than married to that girl". (She never met her.) I still am not over the nightmare I lived thru. When she died, I cried for her about 2 minutes. Being relieved that she could not hurt any of us again. All the damage she did to us. I believe she was truly evil. I pity her. Love to all the daughters who lived thru this. Some escaped and some stayed. There is life beyond the nightmare.

Such great advice! I have a wonderful relationship with my mother, but have extended family who behaves exactly as you describe in this video. It's very disturbing. I appreciate your insight presented here.

This is the best explanation of boundaries I ever heard. So many video's on this topic but I found this advice in detail

Wow, I’m impressed. Just, what I needed it. Lot of work to do, but it’s a first step. Grateful for came across this video and that you address it. Thank you God bless you and give those who need it guidance.

Thank you for this Kris, this is 100% what I'm dealing with right now.

I’m 30, and treated like 13. I’m still living with her…the relationship is such a push and pull that I don’t Ben know how to move out now. I can’t go to college. I can’t get a job because I can’t have a car and I have to rely on her for rides, which usually means I’m late to everything or have to reschedule. She is also my only babysitter because I’ve had to give up all friends and I can’t talk to anyone. I can’t go anywhere. I can’t have friends over. She still goes thru my room. She has cameras at the front and back doors, she says for the cat, but it also men’s she knows when I go out or in…she’s constantly doing my dishes and laundry, like I can’t do it on my own. When I buy groceries she yells and cries the whole time she’s putting them away, I can’t put them away. If I need to go to the store she wants to know why. I can’t use the car. Idk how to move out, idk how to get a job and make it work. I don’t wanna leave my son with her for a full time job. Idk what to do anymore. I’m always wrong, lazy, stupid. I have stress and anxiety so bad. She’s called me a useless POS in front of my toddler, and that I can’t support him or take care of him, that I will never function as an adult, and that I will never be able to live alone. I have before. Idk y she thinks I can’t. Idk y she won’t let me leave, she doesn’t even like me. Just now I was fixing my sons toy, she took it from me to fix it herself. Idk what to do. I don’t know how to move out. She’s also alienated me from my family so they all think of me like she does. I have no one but my 3 year old. I have counselors and my pcp and they all think I need to move and they’re all backed by her and how to move out and move forward.

I went to VERY LIMITED/LOW contact, and now both my aging parents are very sick physically yet still very toxic. I still keep my contact very limited and my conversations very short and neutral while trying to help them, but I do feel like I'm slowly being dragged back into the circus.🤦🏽‍♀️ How do you navigate through narcissistic, aging, sickly parents, who seem to drain every ounce of energy from you?

Listen!!! #5 is IT!!! Thank you so much for posting this!

This is amazing. Thank you so much Kris Reece ❤😘

I'm so thankful to you for doing this video. I had to go no contact with my mother 5 years ago because I couldn't handle the abuse anymore. It wasn't just one but my husband and my children. I called mum out for hitting my son and she down played it saying it was only a little tap - my 11 year old son was howling! I proceeded to try and calm him down but had mum berating me, tell me I was sending him mixed messages. It was when she claimed the grandmothers took precedence that I heard a voice in my ear saying "time to go" and so I told my son to pack his thing that we we're leaving and we weren't going to hang around to be on the receiving end of this anymore. So I packed up the children (my two youngest) and the majority of our things, put them all in the car and as I got in mum said to me "You're not always right!" to which I ignored her. I drove the 5 hours journey home after a very long day (I had just attended my estranged father's funeral) and I had had little sleep the night before. All I wanted was to get my babies to safety. The trouble with mum is that she doesn't know how to step back. She takes over EVERYTHING and it does interfere with my life - parenting, my relationship with my husband, my self esteem, my confidence and my individuality. On the way home I prayed and cried and I kept hearing comforting words "You've done the right thing." I'm not sure if this was my voice of God's and but I am confident HE told me it was time to leave. Since then, I have not engaged. I did have to go back a month later to collect the rest of my things where I was met with mother giving me a very good impression of a sullen child and her passive aggressive silent treatment. I also had aeration from my step father. It was then that I put my house key on the cabinet in the entryway and left! I have had well meaning and ignorant people in my family and at church tell me that I need to see my mother. On Sunday I had a cousin tell me this and in the next breath she told me that God will tell me. HE already has! He saw me go through a tough childhood and to have consistent abuse welling my adult years. He has seen me struggle to be the good and loving daughter only to have the backlash and he has seen me become ill both mentally and physically as a result. Next month my son will be confirming his faith and no doubt she will be there. We are now working on ways to protect ourselves further so that we can all enjoy the day and celebrate this special moment in our son's faith journey.

I've gray rocked my Mom since she betrayed my trust 2 years ago.

Thank you Kris, I needed to watch this. It nearly costed my life to realize my mom was manipulating me to believe she was right and that her decisions were correct. I was kind of fooling myself not wanting to believe the fact that all she tried to impress was other people, and even when my husband pointed out to me that she was using me for the money I sent her monthly, sometimes even asked more than the regular amount we agreed on I denied and talked in favour of her. At some point when I realized she was using my innocence, I tried to overdose and had a couple of meftal tablets altogether without thinking of my children - 11 months and 4yr old boys. My husband really broke out and even hit me hard out of fear and shame on what I have done. And he yelled at me saying, its all because of your mother - and I understood deep inside already that yes, he was right. He was always right - I just didn't want to accept it until that moment as I couldn't voice out the fact that I was beeing fooled. Two days I waited to see if I was going to be alive - I got severe headache, upset stomach, yellow eyes etc. but thanks to Almighty, my children got their mom back. I still feel much guilty on what I did that night. Now I have gone to a 'No contact' phase, she is living in a different country so she is kind of believing its due to some other pressure that I have blocked her from social media and everywhere. But the reality is, I am now convinced she was infecting me, but I don't want to let her know this. And I feel a great level of peace now - I started to love my husband and kids with a fresh start now. I don't have to please anyone anymore.

I like being grateful and looking for the good. There is always goodness to be grateful for.❤❤❤❤❤

Countless video's advising to break the contact for some time or break the contact totally but scriptures teaching us balance and acting accordingly to the situation. Great video

Thanks Kris for this message. Its very helpful. I would like hearing about toxic moms who have gotten older and now appear to need care from their children.

I hope this video can reach much more people as the advice is in details & scriptual

thank you for sharing everything i needed to hear

Thank you Minister Reece your information has been vital to my growth. God bless you ❤️🙏🏾🙂

I had to cut off my mom. She came back and couldnt even acknowledge that I had a right to be angry. It's been months. Today she tried to open lines again, and I feel bad because I laid into her as the shitty person she is. Idk why I feel bad. But I do. Her claws always dig in

I have became an alcoholist because of my mother... I'm really getting to hate her

Thank you again for another amazing video!

Thank you for this video. I decided to do what you say. Hopefully, this will make me at peace.

My mother was not toxic but I have a sister who is. I’ve been listening to these toxic series and they describe her perfectly. I tried to hang on to our relationship for over 25 years of our adult relationship. When her physical abuse of our parents started, I walked away. I took my mom with me as my father soon passed away. I haven’t spoken to my sister in over 8 years and have grappled with this. But she hasn’t changed. Her children have walked away. Her family is in shambles.

Thank you so much! I sometimes feel like you somehow get to know what I am going through in my mind as the videos are so apposite and relevent for my aparent mind state.

Very familiar topic for me. Great video. Thank you!!

Thank you for the words, are very helpful. Just seconds ago my toxic mother came to yell at me again at my bedroom room and that it's just too stressful.

My mum is toxic & sometimes knows it, other times is oblivious. People are slowly turning away from her, even with losing people around her she is unable to stop the me me me victim complex & enjoy life. She had a horrible upbringing & sad childhood but chose not to do anything about it or get proper therapy to tackle it head on. She’s nice one minute, then abusive the next, usually when she can’t get your undivided attention or don’t do things her way, any form of boundary or holding them accountable. She smothers her kids & I myself am nearly 40. As soon as she first meets my partners, she creates a narrative & tells everyone why she’s decided they’re not right for me. My father & myself/siblings all have developed chronic health conditions all linked to long term emotional distress

Amazing you just answered everything I prayed about before watching this word. Thankyou now I'm going to prep and choose the Christian Cousllser 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

Thanks for making this

This is what I needed, my relationship with my mother plus toxic.

God is so good! I’m grateful for Prozac and Seroquel.

God has blessed you with great understanding. Keep growing and be a blessing in Jesus name amen.

Here’s a story for ya. At age 15 I started having severe pains in my right side, such that I ended up in an ER three times, even on the morning of my graduation from high school at U Hall in Charlottesville. I went from doctor to doctor in an attempt to have my problem diagnosed. All the time my mother insisted my excruciating pain was in my head! Imagine what that did to young me, who thought everything my mother said was the gospel, psychologically! I lived with the pain an entire decade until, at age 25, undergoing abdominal surgery, my right ovary was removed. It had grown to weigh six LBs and was nine inches across. Miraculously it had not burst to allow the cancer to spread! I remember lying on the couch at home recovering when I told my mother how interesting it was that the problem in my head had been removed from my abdomen!

I listened to the others. This is the good stuff.

23 years old, multiple back and forths with mum. Dad passed when i was 13. Glad I have Jesus. He holds me when I need. And give me the love when I yearn for it. HALLELUJAH

I am not am all out Christian but... you are amazing. Thank you.

I hope there is a video on toxic fathers!

I had to walk away from my mother in law after 20 years I realized she was a manipulative narcissistically Christian mother in law. I couldn’t take it anymore she started doing it to my kids. I finally stopped talking to her and now she’s trying to put my husband her son in the middle. When I’m pleasing to her I’m her daughter in love but when I’m not pleasing to her I’m your wife to my husband. Since the day I decided to stop talking to her I’ve never felt so relieved stress free not having to worry about what she’s going to say or do is amazing.

So good!!

Bad time to be broke. Just want to move out

GUYYYSSS!!! I m turning 40 this year my parents stay with me and my dad is soooo calm & respectful. My Mother is SSSOOOO toxic it is so bad I feel mentally drained. I decided to move out end of this year even tough my finances doesnt look good & it is really not good for my son who is 14 years old. I am literally planning to move out of my own house that is paid up in full to go and pay rent somewhere else just for peace. thats how bad it is. my mom was ALWAYS possesive growing up but yet very loving & caring & my best friend. She now became my worst enemy.

Thanks for sharing 🙏❤️ My personal notes 6:00 14:00

Hey KRIS …. thank you for acknowledging that parents can be toxic, and the fine line that BELIEVERS walk in honoring THE 10 COMMANDMENTS and the realities of childhood ….my way reconciling this is realizing I’m much older now …. hopefully wiser, taking into consideration the emotional baggage my parents carried… perhaps most narscistic parents may actually thought they did the right thing at the time… also like that 1 of your videos say BELIEVERS don’t have to be push overs.

Omg thank you thank you!!

My mom just called me a low life POS today after I just made her dinner. Such a sweet 72 old woman she is.

Thank you.

Thanks for the great video! I disagree though with the admonishment to not email and only talk in person when you're ready to have that very difficult conversation. I usually would agree with the need for in person difficult conversations but with a toxic (well especially a narcissistic) mother you're dealing with someone who is highly manipulative, brilliant at acting the victim and very adept at gaslighting. And as that person's child you've been programmed to respond to all of the above by giving in and believing that you're the one who is bad. There is a definite power imbalance in the relationship and in a face-to-face conversation that power imbalance will definitely arise making it unsafe for the adult child. So my husband & I emailed. It was safer for us. We went to counselling after the emailing (& the awful backlash that came from it). We are no contact at the moment & our counsellor has advised that if we ever did want to talk to her in person again that it might be a good idea to do that with him there. Although I must admit I think she could potentially pull the wool over anyone's eyes. Anyway, suffice to say, I think email is a good option in these circumstances. ☺️

I realize how toxic me and my mother was wen I couldn't manage relationships with other wemon later on in adult life💯

52 years old and the youngest of three and the only sibling dealing with my mom. My eldest brother (63) has dementia and his wife keeps him away from my moms toxicity. My older brother(62) cut her off cold turkey. For 15 years I felt obligated to care for her and my abusive dad. I put my dad in a home because his care was above my qualifications. My mom wanted a senior apartment and I was trying to do as much as possible, until 11/24/23! This is the day I became sick of her belittling me and treating me like a 2 year old. This was the day she grabbed me in aggression as I was trying to walk away from her denials…. Pulling away from her tight hold was just as damaging as her lies, guilt trips, bad mouthing, and the day she set a fire in my kitchen sink and walked out the house. This was the worst Thanksgiving ever and I'm hurt. What hurts the most is that my 30 year old son witnessed our arguing over her disrespectful mouth. My son then punched 2 holes in my wall because my mother was saying somehurtful things. My son then took her home because she doesn't know when to stop with anyone. I'm hurt but I've been her enemy since birth. It's best I leave her alone for my own healing…. Now, She has no children who deal with her and out of 9 grandkids, only my son is around and he treads lightly on that! She’s toxic with her friends, sisters, and was horrible to my grandmother. One of my aunts is very religious and my mom even cussed her out one year! My mom is a piece of work!

This is everything. My mom responded in an evil fashion. We live together. My father is the same. My daughter and I do our best to keep a great distance in close quarters.

my mother abusive mentally called me b#tch and useless many times I would walk away if I had more money....and could live somewhere else.

I’m suffering in silence. I’ve tried (years ago) to confront her… and it backfired because she made me look crazy and uneducated. I’m 30 now and just dealing with it while she smears my name and everyone just thinks I’m a horrible person. It hurts. When I finally come forth I know I’m gonna be met with backlash from family bc she’s such a saint to them and a victim of my abuse. If they only knew…

OMG! Ty

Thank you for your help. I can now see I have to cut myself out of my mother's life, she has hurt me since I was a little girl because I got epilepsy and after that she wanted me out of her life. I have the Lord and that's all the matters to me.

This is my mom and grandma to the Tee! It's painful❤ I walk around with a lump in my throat and I was the blame for everything😢 I would try to vent them and they would tell me "there she goes being nuts again" and I'd tell the doctor said this for mental health and they would say "Doctors only want your money" 😢😮

I need to go. My mother lied to me that my grandmother was the one that throw things. She is still doing that with my younger brothers.

I recently got divorced and moved into my toxic mothers trailer i feel like taking myself out since I’ve done many things that if I did it in the outside world I’d get paid for but in her mind we both live here and I s my obligation even though it’s not my field but I’ve done them either way I want to move on prayed are highly appreciated thank you 🙏

I'm just throwing this out there it's okay to walk away and distance yourself. Sometimes it's healthier that way.

We need a teaching on the Narc Mother in Law!!!

Thanks

I hope folks realize we are inflicting the GREATEST NARCISSISTIC INJURY THE DEVIL WILL EVER KNOW!!! keep up the great work!!!! Blessings to All!! 🙌 HALLELUJAH!!! Stomp out evil in all its forms! Its had enough time getting away with everything. For the love of God!!! 🕊 👏

First I wanted to stop my relationship with my mother, she came to my doorstep at 8 o'clock in the morning (I live 200km away). She then rants how of a horrible of a person I am and how I can't control myself. I defended myself but it all just made me sick in my stomache. I just couldn't process it at the time. No clue how I got back in contact after that, but now I said I wanted to end the contact once and for all, she accepted my decision. I still need therapy, but things are now looking up.

Titus 3:10 Told to Sit Down twice. Protecting my peace. Low to No contact.

We have 7 adopted children. One passed away from cancer at 4. Four of the children have good relationships with us, but two won’t have any thing to do with us. Sometimes it’s the child’s own issues.

My toxic mother in law recently ruined my marriage, my wife left me and can't see how her mom destroyed our marriage. It's sad how my wife adores and runs to this person. I could understand if i was a crappy husband but i know im a good man

My mother always critises me when im around her like my hair, my clothes, my job, my friends, my relationships, what I eat. So i cut her off and blocked her cuz i don't need that bs.

I'm going no contact.

I went no contact then tried again and she said that “ I was so sensitive as a child and I have never been able to receive criticism “. My husband left me and I was reaching out and all she can talk about is herself and my sister.