I'm an INFP and my most recent ex is ENFJ. It was an incredibly deep and intense connection. I loved the intensity. Explosive chemistry. But explosive is also dangerous. Very high highs and very low lows. I think that it's important with this pairing to make sure both people are emotionally grounded and stable. In our case, I'm an enneagram 4 and she's and 8, which is a pairing notorious for volatility. I would love to date another ENFJ, but I would just go into it with a little more awareness this time around.
This is my exact pairing with my boyfriend ! We are very explosively in love. But I agree healthy pairing is VERY IMPORTANT because the 4 can be stuck on the lows and blame and feel guilt
@@Citrine-K That's a very interesting point. I actually initially thought she was a 2. And she definitely has a lot of 2 type of behaviors. When I introduced her to the enneagram she identified with a lot of 8 and 7 traits and motivations. But I know it's easy to mistype ourselves because we type ourselves based on how we want to see ourselves, not who we actually are. I also just realized that 2s go to 8 in stress. I definitely saw those 8 like characteristics most strongly when she was upset and stressed. She could be very aggressive and confrontational. Yeah it all makes sense
@@baptistlion4060 No. I'm the one that ended things, she fought my decision, didn't want to end it. And she is still interested in getting back together.
I’m infp , met a guy I found out so interesting,he also found me very cool . We can not let go each other so easily, Later I know he is enfj, like what you say in the video. mirroring a lot but very different, we both have a lot of things to learn.
I’ve acquainted two ENFJs and they seem to be a lot from far away. I’ve been around ENTJs, and ENFPs and they are a lot too but I have realized that I would rather be with them more than ENFJs. That may change if I would get to know the ENFJs better though
As an INFP, I want an Intuitive...no sensates for me. I'd be willing to get to know any of the intuitives. Initially, my preference would be Fs. Also, an ENFJ or another INFP would be my top choices. INFPs rate at the highest, amongst all types, that like their own type.
Wow same, I love my typ about everything and if somebody is understanding me but enfj I really love to, idk for me they seem like infp but without this things I don't like about myself (being to introvert or shy or how to say and having more structure and less Prognostication) why I like both ships or why they are difficult is because infp x infp same in good like bad enfj x infp makes growth and have differences to teach each other but also wouldn't realate always with you at the same way because different.
@@ahuehuehueakakaka7488- Yeah, I think either option would be awesome. I've realized, since writing the above,, that I'm ONLY interested in Fs; no Ts for me!!!
@@taketheredpill1452 I also prefer feeler including intp because they are nearly like a feeler or at least close to me since I have 4w5 enegram. Also I couldn't ask many people after there mbti but some close online friends I have are intp. The nf types including intp are my favorites, isfp isn't bad as well because they share introverted feeling with infp together and I know an isfp online friend as well. Why I find infp × infp fits that well is because I were really happy as my online soulmate and friend told me his results are infp t just like me and suddenly it made sense that I understand him that well and I even showed him erik thors video about infp × infp realationships. Now only thing to do left is to ask my teacher squish if she wants to do a test because I exept here to be enfj because she literaly smiles all the day long.
As an INFP who has a child with an ENFJ I can say it’s not good romantically, but as friends it’s great. We have the best conversations. It’s usually him complaining about his job (same complaints for years now btw) and me telling him to stop staying in the same cycle. People say INFP’s don’t listen. I’d challenge that after having known my ENFJ for 30 years. It’s funny too because the solution seems so obvious to me that I can’t understand why someone like him hasn’t already figured it out and taken action on it. Weird.
I knew 5 enfj one of them was assertive and that the only one I can tolerate, the others very very people oriented the most important thing for them to fit in the group whatever what and too much manipulative personalities which can not work with infp who knows himself very well I did not like them.. In my first meeting I admired them but after knowing them noooo, they can ignore all values to fit in a group and that is disgusting to us as infp. I liked entj much more
Are you sure that all of them were ENFJs? ESFJs are (as SJ types are) more conventional in society. But I do not want to doubt that manipulative ENFJs exist, I met one myself. I felt attracted to him, but something was a bit cringe from the beginning - he was manipulative and did not take me serious completely. So the friendship ended before it really began. I did not want to adapt comletely to his plans and wishes.
@@irenegronegger8972 yes I think in Arab country the S stype law is not applied I know esfj also and there is a huge differences between both and I can easily differentiate them. All Enfj I know are manupulative some make that for the good and some for the bad but all like to use the other person feeling to control him
I'm an Infp and I really like one of my teachers, I don't know her mbti yet, but I would guess it is enfj but I'm not sure about e and j could also be infp but I'm very sure about here being nf. Also I'm very interested about infp x enfj (platonic) and infp x infp (online) realationships please do more great content like this. Also about the fact, infps gets enfj if in love kinda made sense to me, because if I really love somebody, I get extroverted, meaning I get energy by being with them together and it recharges me and I try to be less shy and be more brave, for example I made a poem about my teacher and I ofcourse was shy to show it, but as I gave it to her, I did like it wouldn't be that hard for me to be outgoing and didn't showed her how much it meant to me, she acted the right way and did read it and smiled.
I know that these two types always don't work but but... but I want one for mine and I will give all myself to them. Also I make good cookies, so deal?
Its like being with a person that takes in 50% of the world unknown to me(INFP). It's insanely fascinating. (Lol hadn't watched the full vid when I wrote this😮)
As an INFP all i can say is don't bother with enfjs. All I hear is how good and nice they are until you really get to know them. I've been used from an enfj for 10 years after I gave my heart to him. They don't know what they want. Avoid them like the plague!
I kinda have to agree. A lot of enfjs I know are cruel. They will tease me for things that I am very insecure about, and I feel even worse. Idk if they realize they are hurting me. Additionally, from what I have seen, they are very smothering and are pushy for things they want to do with you.
@@OfficialMarliz sorry my dear! I know you are not all like this. I was just very hurt by how I was treated, I was always there for while he was not there when I needed him the most. I guess it happens among all personality types. Have a blessed week
@@sears381 I'm ENFJ and I could say the exact same thing about my INFP ex. I was there for him and he was never there for me Also, we do know what we want, but we are flexible to accomodate others. I heard someone describe the way J's think as "Strong opinions, weakly held" and that's a good way to put it. We can easily adapt as new info is introduced
