Assets and liabilities?? 😳 Excuse me, but this is so disfunctional it's not even human anymore. What ever happened to honesty, respect and a genuine desire to connect with the heart of another human being? Sorry, I'm done with this sick channel.
@VR G Sorry, but that's the dysfunctional, under 25 age group. Been there. Seen that. Grew up. Moved on. Mature people don't use others as assets and liabilities. You'll see what I mean in a few years.
He did say he doesn't recommend, but there are people out there that do these things. I am doing this low key now:- Myself and new 'man' (my ex), in whatsap profile, looking cute and his cocky and insecure mind games are being dealt with, stealth way - he he!!!
This is what it is! An investment! You’re making an investment so he is spot on in the way he is projecting his content! And if you’re a woman this how men think so yeah!
dont answer next time if he calls when he is alone, wabt an attention.or just sex. oh you can haha...tell them that you are on some exotic island, no more messages.
Narcissistic or wealthy men will lead you on to think he doesn’t care and can move on easily but don’t be fooled: these guys have the most fragile egos. The bigger they are, the harder they fall.
im personally waiting for a guy to come crawling back from this after covid as he would brag about ex girlfriends and other women "friends" he had, i just saw a red flag, cut and run because its a shitty tactic to use.
A C C U R A T E. The guys who seem like they'll be the least affected by a woman pulling away are very often the ones who take it hardest. Especially because many of them aren't used to being told "no". IMO TBH it's a great way to assess who's worth dating, because even if they're wonderful in every other way and decide they are interested after all, frankly I don't want to be stuck doing constant maintenance work on someone who needs to heal their self-respect a bit first so they're not dependent on my validation 🤷♂️
This won't work with dismissive avoidant men and narcassist they will just go ok even if there pissed they will hide all emotion and you'll never win. This will definitely work on anxious men, secure and fearful avoidants as they all have anxiety, the dismissive has hardly any so he'll go along with it, you need to understand who your with before you play this game. X
It would work with a dismissive avoidant man as well, but he would just never show it. They internalize all their emotions, and numb it out. A man who is dismissive avoidant, is essentially emotionally unavailable, and no one should be dating him unless he’s actively working on himself
@@beIETian it will work but after three months and by that time you would have moved on, they process everything at a slower rate and even then they need to be heavily into you first, they will contact twice and get rejected and that will be them, no chasing no fighting, dead stone people all the insecure attachments are emotionally unavailable including anxious, and fearful. Just because anxious are emotional doesn't mean they are properly present that's just fear. I know I'm an ex anxious now secure. Xx
Definitely won't work with a dismissive avoident = sociopath. My ex was dx sociopath from several psychiatrist. Jezuz. Maybe will work with a fearful avoidant?
@u knoe wat dis is I'm not with a dismissive I'm engaged to an anxious and happy. That was an ex who was dismissive hence why he's an ex and I'm secure. Xx And your attachment is decided from 0 to 2 years old fact so no one does anything to make someone act this way, they do this because of there parents or caregiver and have not healed there attachment. X
@@ElliotScottDating haha well I cut my ex off and let’s see how it affects him. He broke up with me but wouldn’t leave me alone so I did the nice thing thinking if I were present and building a good connection he would want to give it another go. Even though he would call/txt me everyday and see me 1-2 times per week he still wouldn’t take things to the next level, aka I didn’t get any ass out of it!
Totally agree with this. I’ve watched your videos and pulled away when things were great (they are still great). But I pull away sometimes, i.e. not answering every time or calling back day or so later. Mr. I don’t care about anything literally said, I thought maybe we were talking too much or you didn’t wanna talk to me anymore. The pull away works. I “friend zoned” him because I didn’t feel he was doing enough, and he calls me everyday still and tries to see me. Doesn’t want to hear about other men. I hate playing games, but it is a game, and it’s working. Elliotts advice is working. I have him hooked enough and confused enough about where I stand so he keeps coming. He isn’t getting any nookie until he invests a bit more. And we arent past the 6/8 week time frame just yet ☺️
Elliott you forgot to mention men who are Narcissists that have ALOT of money, private business, etc as Assets. They can get many women and have what they want. Getting caught-up with a man like this is high risk. Yes they can get jealous but not for too long. These guys have a lot to be distracted by!
It also triggers our rejection from a clan and our sense of belonging can be affected by this too. Honestly dont like jealousy as a tactic but jealousy can happen regardless of if you're trying to make them feel that way or not, it can have negative effects, most guys can just see you with someone else and choose to just move on themselves too, hence if you use it on purpose can have a negative effect.
Omg Elliot I love your videos and took your advice about leaving a fwb situation. We were actually friends on and off for 6 years I left our friend ship 3 years ago but we were fwb for the last 4 months and I gave him an ultimatum.. he’s been single only 6 months but I need more than what he’s giving. Could you make a video about after you pull away from a friends w benefits and what you can do in that time to make him come back their are no videos from anyone on the internet about it ... Keep this up!!! You’re an amazing person for breaking this down for those of us who are clueless Stay blowing minds -B😊
I really liked and enjoyed this lesson. It was easy to follow and very well explained. It helps being taught like this as it sinks into the brain more haha. Thank you
I need a dose of Elliott today. College version; my daughter just runs into some of the rudest people??? She's always been the nicest person, but in college....whooooaa. She's like a magnet for some guy (usually older) who just stirs the ******. I'm telling her how do we get rid of those ones, so you can open up to meet the "nice" guy.
Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately
This made me understand in depth about the sh*tuationship I was in. 7 months of NC. Ex narc doesn't care as he is focused on "the compatible one" (who is also a narc)
Soooo I truly and whole heartedly fuck with you the long way lol I am an instant fan. Thank you for sharing your insight and knowledge, love that you just cut through all the bullshit and get to the point of it all. Enjoying your videos even when I see where I fucked up 🤦🏽♀️ Side note: how does it seem men are more complicated than women? Lol how am I setting up to play more mind games…so I should just treat him like a pet and all will be well…got it jk I know men have thoughts and feelings.
For me this channel is only an absolutely horrific reminder of how selfish and egotistical people under age 30 treat each other - as mere "assets" to boost the "value" of their crippled egos. So glad to be at an age - over 50 - where people can finally be kind, loving, honest and respectful towards each other. From now on I'll stick to the more humanly considerate channels of Jonathon Assly and Mathew Hussey.
@@ElliotScottDating I'm not a geezer. I'm an attractive woman. And my handsome 30-something boyfriend doesn't find my crotch "dusty" 😉 Grow up already, okay?
A guy I was seeing has pulled away as he just sent away his divorce. I am broken and praying he comes back even if it takes a long time. We used to talk every day but I have spoke to him once in two weeks and that was to say happy new year. He has told me its not final and he wants to see me again but he needs to sort his head out. I have left him to it, as much as I want to reach out I am also respecting the fact he has asked for space but im struggling as I miss him so much. Lockdown isn't helping! Elliott your videos are helping me understand why a man pulls away and giving me hope he will come back so thank you :)
Let him sort his head out. Give him space, when divorce involved it can take a year for him to process sh*t. So just concentrate on your own happiness and wellbeing which you can find from within. 🙏
If a man is in the middle of getting a divorce, or just got divorced, he is in no way looking for a serious connection. No matter how good or bad a marriage was, every man needs to process it. A divorce is like an ending, basically like a death. And when a man feels free, it’s a rebirth...the last thing he wants to do is get into a serious commitment. I’m sorry, he was likely using you as a crutch to get through this time, and not feel the pain. But now it’s sinking in. Also are you not the center of your own universe? You should have enough self-love, that if someone walks away, you wouldn’t break. Relationships can hurt, they shouldn’t leave you broken, that means you have the other person on a pedestal, are ignoring the red flags, etc... Good luck with your situation
Give him space and try and focus on your life. I hate to say it but maybe he is having second thoughts and wants to save his marriage. Don't wait around on him. Live your life, if he comes back you'll be in a better place. Maybe by then you won't want him back.
How does ego and assets work if it’s a bisexual woman (not me personally) but does that have the same impact another man is a direct threat but is a woman a direct threat. Be useful to know personally I give up with everyone just eat chocolate get your endorphins that way and prevent stress
Great presentation. What tech tools are you using in this video? I like the blackboard and the handwriting. Are you writing with a stylus? Are you using an iPad?
yasss great video elliot! kinda unrelated but is there any way you can get a guy to realize how good he has it with you lol i feel like it seems easy for guys to discount all the positives when they're upset and kind of create this false narrative that you're the bad one without examining themselves. so if you breakup he'll just have this view that everything was bad anyways and he won't regret it and it's so easy for guys to just distract themselves and not acknowledge their emotions. would they ever look back and realize afterwards?
Couldn't refusing sex without being rude about it cause jealousy? Like if I'm waiting for marriage and tell him I'm going to masturbate and he first thinks I mean with him then correct him and say I was just Telling him what I was going to do
Is this even possible that this guy in seeing(FWB) is not jealous at all? He never showed me any signs of jealousy🥹like saying something or doing in front of me..I brought other men into our conversations few times but he never said anything he was just listening..😤unless not texting me for 2 days or ignoring my texts time to time is that a sign???It’s so sis annoying I know he likes me and we have a good connection but like WTF 😑🫤😵💫😳😳
