How To Make My Ex Want Me Again by Clay Andrews

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Does it seem like you're always contacting your ex?
Does this make you feel like you're bothering your ex when you reach out?
Does keeping score on who reaches out first, make you feel uncomfortable?
Let me tell you this.
It's not about who contacts who first.
It's not about taking turns contacting each other.
If you are keeping score, you're going to feel like you're being a burden to your ex.
This will put you in damage control mode.
To get a reaction from your ex you will pull back.
because you want to see if pulling back would make them want you back!
Now you're down to playing mind games with each other.
Here's the thing. If you're not contacting your ex a million times a day then you're okay!
It's not your duty to set boundaries for your ex.
It is their duty to reinforce boundaries with you if you are crossing a line.
Trust that your ex will tell you to stop contacting them if you are crossing that line.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with initiating things.
We're made to think that men and women have certain roles in the dating arena.
Men should always ask a woman out,
and women should never do the asking out.
Here's the thing, things don't just fall in to your lap.
If you want something you have to go get it.
This doesnt mean you have to be over zealous
You just have to be willing to step out of your comfort zone.
I hope this video helped to answer some of your questions about reaching out to your ex after no contact.
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@procknyp238 7 лет назад

That was the realist advice I ever heard. One from a relationship expert compare to all the rest of them & what they say.

@luulips 8 лет назад

This helped me a lot. Thank you because I was feeling stupid because I reached out to my ex a little over a week after we had a "good episode" I'll call it. He took my hand and walked me to the church van after church. It was sweet and romantic from my point of view. I'm not sure if that's how he saw it. I did let him know that I valued him after that by some nice words of positive reinforcement later that day which was a follow up to something else that happened at church with he and I. I feel ok about the fact that I called him now. I always make sure I'm not a nuisance though lol. In fact I often get the feeling that he'd like me to call more often. Thanks again.

@digitalrob50 10 лет назад

What if there is no "turns" per say but you are told she said that she needs this space (which I respect) and she will contact me. Is there a time frame that goes by (1, 2, 3, months etc) before its appropriate to initiate contact to see if the interest is still there or do you just sit and wait. I respect it either way, however an open ended "you have a chance but you need to work on you and ill contact you when im ready" feels good because there is a "chance" but gives me anxiety because it feels so open ended.

@autumn111155551 7 лет назад

So you think it's okay to initiate contact even if you were the one who was dumped? I've heard other experts say if you were dumped you should always wait for the dumper to initiate contact.

@ClayAndrews 7 лет назад

Hi autumn111155551, Yes, it is okay to initiate contact with your ex because you are gauging or testing the waters. To see where your ex emotionally at and if they are receptive to communication. If we are waiting for them to reach out, we are then using the Passive Approach. In doing the Active approach, it doesn't matter who initiates the contact, whether it will be us or our ex. Because what is important is the Advanced Relational Skills that you have homed in for yourself. :-)

@Healthyvibing 6 лет назад

Clay Andrews is this assuming that we have already finished the active no contact period?

@kauecurvelo3959 3 года назад

@@Healthyvibing yes, he says that in the video

@carlosjenkins9505 8 лет назад

how to get her to message you if she doesnt message you no matter what you ask or say she reply back when i did a good reminder text for the name of a place we went on a date with on the 16 i just messaged her back she didnt message me back how can you get her back if she doesnt want to talk to you any more or reply back to anything you say or ask her

@samhines5084 7 лет назад

I have access to my exs profile on twitter and instagram she's not updated her twitter that she's with someone else but on instagram she's put 'love having silly times with this one' because she knows I can see it I know I shouldn't look but I don't want to block because I want to be indifferent if you know what I mean