Hello man You are a legend man. Guys he is a truly legend when i was struggling during my breakup 2 years ago this man, seriously this man helped me , mark his every word no contact means no contact , seriously man you are a legend. Idk how i thank you. Thank you man, thanks a lot , there are very few knowledgable person about relationship and you are one of them , not only one of them but also on the top them. Thank you man 😊😊
Sorry to hear. How long has it been since the breakup? I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-5UT92IB5ugs.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-aeGNPBdpnsI.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-D1GpR5MApQk.html Good luck!
Really sorry, but your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-e3l5KWEpIpw.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
Hey Brad, Im an engineering student studying in the UK. I have recently been through a breakup in June 2022. My girlfriend and I had been together for 2 years before we broke up, that includes 1 year of long distance (India-UK). She started feeling for another guy around April 2022 (one of her friends who she had been spending time with along with her other friends while I was in the UK) but she told me she was confused and that we could give it a shot when I’m back. She also said that long distance was very difficult for her (she’s a very clingy person and always needs me there) From what I have heard, she used to turn to him for comfort when the two of us had fights or arguments due to not being able to give her time. Another possibility is that she literally saw him as a version of me but in the flesh (dude has a couple similar features). After the breakup when I went back to India for summer, we spoke normally everyday just like we were still together, but slowly she stopped giving me attention and stopped meeting me. I thought it would be best for me to give her space so I didn’t bother texting or calling either. Eventually after month, I lashed out at her telling her she gave me false hope, and there was some begging and pleading (I know, not ideal) The next day I met her and gave her her favourite stuff, and a letter apologising for all my mistakes and asking her if we can make it work again. She said that she feels for another guy AND me so she can’t be with me and think of him. I stopped replying to her messages after that. She always messaged me asking if I’m okay. Now, this is where the complications start. I am back in the UK. She’s called me about 5 times in 3 weeks. Talks about the relationship sometimes, 10 days ago she called me and said she can’t keep calling me because she feels sad and nostalgic. 2 days ago she called me again saying that she was unwell and needed company and I’m the first one she thought of. I tell her I’m doing great when she asks me, and herself says that she’s not doing great. She also facetimed me for the first time in months today, which i didnt pick up. She then sent about 4-5 messages, and unsent all except the classic "Hey, you free?" "just wanted to check up on you" The guy she likes is now in Boston, USA for his studies for 4 years. She is planning to go Florida for flight school for 10 months. This is the scenario Im dealing with. I have watched a lot of your videos over the past few days and have gained a lot of knowledge about the Do’s and Don’ts. I just don’t know how to go about it. I really think that I can get back this relationship if I push the right buttons at the right time. I just need some guidance.
Looks like she's fighting her feelings for you. Don't force things and yes, do play your cards right by striking the balance between loving yourself and creating the space for her to open up to you again. Your situation is also very delicate so once you start to see some progress with your ex, then don’t go at it alone, especially if you're in doubt or don't know what to do next. Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad. Thanks for all your help and advice, it has really helped over the past few months. Just a quick question (which I will try to keep short and sweet). Basically my ex broke up with me after 8 years. Two months into no contact he messaged saying he loves me, misses me, biggest mistake he’s made etc. We agreed to start dating to see how things went before we officially got together again. Anyway, he kept making deadlines about when he’d ask me to be his girlfriend again and after 8 months he’s still not done it. Surely if leaving me was his biggest mistake he would have asked me by now? And he is acting like we’re in a relationship but without the title? I feel like maybe he’s leading me on to be honest, but wanted to know what you thought? Thanks.
Depends on what's really happening and how well you've been playing your cards, or not. If you've only talked recently, I'd say you two are friends or more appropriately, talking terms for now, but don't let that derail you, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. If you've already reconnected for a while though and your ex is pushing you deeper into that friendship hole, then that's a different story. Getting an ex back is a process. Whatever you do, make sure you don’t resort to doing the things here: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo however, I really do need to know more about the situation to determine what your best course of action is to your situation, considering it's been many months and you felt led on. Consider signing up at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Yes, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-aeGNPBdpnsI.html and the golden rules here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-1kJ1ybuFIHE.html
My ex wants to hook up (make love she says) and be friends and have fun. She also wants to go on dates with guys and see what else is out there. She said she only wants to sleep with me for now unless she really connects with someone. She said I can date other women too but doesn’t want to know. She said we are not getting back together but will never say never with me and she needs to be independent and wants to be single for a year. She told me we were not toxic ever and she loves me very much but I didn’t show her enough love and appreciation. She said all this after two months of no contact she was drunk and missed me one night so she set up a day to come give me my stuff I said I previously didn’t need. We “made love” (her terms) twice now and she was all over me, telling me she loves me, holding my hand, and cuddling me while we were in public. Our bodies are just attracted to each other and we have great matching personalities but I’m worried I’ll lose her. I want to show her I care but don’t want to over pursue and I know she’ll sleep with another man sooner or later to try and get over me because she said she’s sexually dependent on me. She wants us to focus on ourselves but still hook up. I think there’s a chance but I also don’t know if she’s using me until she’s finds someone else because she’s been getting in shape, making lots of money, and men are throwing themselves out her now cause she’s confident. I’m always in shape because it’s my life style and I have a good job but she says my low drive in life turned her off and I need to mature. Is there a chance I can turn this around? This is the 2nd breakup and she just wants sex for now. I don’t want to waste my time but knowing she’ll keep coming over gives me too much hope to call it quits.
Watch and follow the tips here first: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-qoEZiPn9EH0.html AND ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-pXKPxAXaunc.html but at the same time, also employ the following suggestions to get the ball rolling: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-gUBNd6pDINM.html
I did a couple vids but stay tuned because I'll be posting more in the future. Anyway if you're trying to move on, this video is for you: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-01wvLSaS9_I.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-2CakOOSwIiY.html
Hey Brad, just want to give a quick thanks to all your videos and advice, they've helped me improve so much as an individuals and additionally have helped in re-establishing contact with my ex which I believe will lead to us getting back together. Thank you so much for everything
You're very much welcome! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
Love the knowledge! However, I have decided not to follow the no contact rule. At the beginning of the breakup I had a hard time, but I focused on my mental health. I feel a lot better now and realized that I don't really care if I end up with my ex again. Yes I still love/miss her, but I also know that there are trillions of other girls. So I am not going to waste my time on hoping for something. Yesterday my ex texted me and I decided to respond because I just didn't want to ignore her. We actually had a really nice phone call. So will see where this is going, but I am happy either way. It was my mental health that was messing me up this whole time
Yeah, I mean, as long as you're honest within yourself that you don't really see a future with your ex and that it doesn't stop you from taking other opportunities in the future with someone new, then that's good! Otherwise it will only get you somehow stuck which I trust is not the case with you, granted what you just said? Thanks for dropping by!
I have a question so my ex boyfriend has a girlfriend can it still attract him back or is it too late? He still follows me on Instagram and looks at my stories knowing he has a girlfriend idk if that’s wrong or not
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WVFZVqFDFV4.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RU-vid to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
My ex still discuss me with a mutual person anytime they talk... Currently he is comparing me with the girl he talks to on phone and according to the mutual person, he rate me first in all the comparison... What does this mean please and what do I do at this point sir....
Try not to interact with your ex or any of your mutual friends especially if the breakup is still fresh. The 30-day "no contact" rule can work for you in the following ways: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-zw0ChuXCEmw.html It's important to realize that your ex is diverting his attention to someone else, which is the easiest thing to do and is really just his way of coping. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7KE6nb4-ndA.html So that's what you ought to be doing too. Here, watch this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-gUBNd6pDINM.html so try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control whether the rebound ends up working out or not. Watch this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-TBtb34gy6zw.html Now lastly, keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though they try to cover it up. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA
Brad I'm applying no contact ... Because i regret my decision of dumping her .... And she's also moved on 3 months ago but ... After moving on she text me first ... And then said she loves me as a friend but not more than that .... And behaves like a rock 🤦🏽♂️.... So , will no contact will work in this case ?
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
My ex blocked me on everything when she broke up with me a month ago, I did some really fucked up things and I've been trying to get her back. The last email I sent was on 10th of October and now I'm doing No Contact. How do I show her I'm trying to change and get better if I can't even message her? Do I just wait for her to unblock me (which is really unlikely)? What do i do now?
You're not trying to change for your ex. Rather you're doing it for yourself and to NOT self-sabotage whatever chance you have left. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WVB0_l60SpM.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7JtmVbDkblw.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
@@BradBrowning Yeah I won't ruin my chance. I'm seeing someone that can help me become better and I'll most likely contact her next month through a female friend of hers. If she unblocks me I can slowly build the affection again, I'm just hoping she does. Thanks for the help.
So brad Wsp But when no contact is over how do I get thne back do I go up to them or do I text them we go to the same school do I don’t know how to start conversation after all that happens
Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-KMMv9ljdrkk.html AND ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-uN_XAgHjaFM.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
Hey i was just looking for some advice, me and my ex broke up a number of days ago. We where together for only 4 months, she broke up with me because she was struggling with mental health problems, she didnt want to bring me down with her and i completely respected her decision to end it as she wanted to focus on herself and get herself better. We ended on good terms and 2 days after the breakup she texted me saying that she wanted to be with me so bad and doesnt want anyone else but she couldnt do it right now. Any advice on how i should handle it as i do want her back.
If your ex has a mental disorder like depression, bipolar disorder, IED, NPD, or the like, the most loving thing you can do is to give each other space while he/she gets help. Encourage your ex to seek treatment because this is something only a therapist specializing on this can handle, even this is outside of my scope. But I can help you how to handle things on YOUR end as you go through this difficult ordeal. I know it can be incredibly tough knowing you’ve given it your best shot, yet your partner still fails to appreciate it or is breaking up despite it being a good relationship. Anyway it's a bad idea to be friends with an ex especially knowing they have a mental health condition. In the end, they will drain you and leave you with lots of scars that would take years of therapy. Consider signing up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
After watching this video I can clearly see I have been doing all the things I shouldn’t be doing and have pushed him further away. I was doing the constant contact, the pushing for more time together - clearly I’ve done more damage. Thank you for this video Brad it had put so much into prospective for me. I honestly believe and told my ex I believed it was an attraction thing that broke us up. I had an operation and could not be as active and ultimately put on some weight, but I thought if we really had a good relationship that he would still love me regardless. Obviously I was wrong. My question is - doesn’t that make him a shallow person ? The worst part about it was he cheated with a girl 20yrs younger who has a hot beach body. Killed my confidence completely and add to that the start of menopause and my body was changing as well. As much as I still have feelings for him, I wonder if he would ever look at me like he used to now he knows he can get younger hot girls ??
Sorry to hear that and I hope you're feeling much better now, health-wise. Let's just say he may have had a hard time adjusting to the changes in your life. But him cheating on you was his choice and it's best you remember that. Being cheated on is truly one of the biggest heartaches you could ever experience, relating closely and coming second to grieving for the death of a loved one. There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and/or making a solid effort to get back together after giving each other some time and space apart. While the situation is truly painful for you, it gives you the most growth as well so take that time to rediscover yourself and your own strength in getting through this. So really, my suggestion is to heal from this and be open to new possibilities. You ought to apply the tips here but it's really up to your ex to learn: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-4Qe-4A-CpVY.html if you want to find out what your chances are, however, then feel free to take the free quiz on my website at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
If you're asking about your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending o n your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
You ought to watch/review the tips here first, especially the first part, although I recommend you to watch the entire video to get the full gist: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-BLTA4yjTc2I.html and a quick overview here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7JtmVbDkblw.html Once you've completed the "no contact" rule for at least 30 days straight, then it's time to RE-ESTABLISH CONTACT with your ex. Start out with the tips from here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-XonMtLFo000.html Also check out my other videos on my channel for more tips on what to do next and/or get my Ex Factor Guide for a comprehensive step-by-step process on how to go about this. Good luck!
Dear Brad,thank you for making all these videos to feel us secure and confident. My ex gf dumped me on march having said everything is over.I maintained full fledged no contact until she contacts me on 50th day.Over a period of time she started unblocking me on every platform.From last 3 months we are developing great bond . However I'm not rushing the process even though I feel to get back together instantly. She's the one who calls & texts first. We met more than twice from last three months & went good.We kissed & hug each other.Do you think it's the right moment to ask her or wait for some time? Pls Brad I'm waiting for your reply
Hi there! You're welcome. I do need to know more about the situation so I can give a more proper advice but so far so good. Consider signing up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Otherwise, do take time to watch my other vids to get all the tips you need. Okay? Best of luck!
hey brad i really need your advice on this one what do i do if i acepted friendsgip after break up we dont talk me and her but one time our friends tryied to get us together and i talked to her to make it clear that i want to work on things to make it better and that i want more than friends but she said she lost feelings i sent your magic eraser message for the begging i stayed in no contact since and after a month of the break up she got in a rebound relationship with a guy who was friendzoned long ago what do i do or did i blow it up and its over ? please reply
Try to put your focus elsewhere (best to put focus back to yourself) because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7KE6nb4-ndA.html Watch this, too: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-TBtb34gy6zw.html This should hopefully get you back on track with what you ought to be doing during this time: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-obBIttQSak4.html However, if the relationship lasts for 6 months or more, it's probably best to start moving on from this.
If the breakup is still fresh, try to give each other some time apart first. It's an uphill battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for an uphill battle but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-GTjEAGJWTuA.html AND ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-dDZrnNh8LOg.html
Hey brad...My ex boyfriend is very sad after I broke up with him.Why I am feeling very bad about hurting him? Why I always question myself that whatever I have done to him is right or wrong?
Breakups tend to create confusion regardless of whether you're the one who initiated it or not. It's all part of the process so I suggest you take your time to decide. Good luck!
Hello Could you please let me know how I can attract and manifest my ex back while we haven’t even been in any contact for almost a year and I don’t want to be the first who start 😢😢
Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-9LC1ewgBkIQ.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
HELLO BRAD, I have been watching your videos and right now I'm doing no contact it's been 14 days , I pray it works for me because I was the one to end the relationship because he was not read to commit. I wanted you ask if I can text my ex wishing him a happy birthday after my no contact or if I should let it go. Thank you
How long have you been in a relationship with him if he's suddenly non-committal? It sounds like an excuse, if you ask me and is something I discussed here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ZuHWCWeG1xs.html Anyway yes, i’s fine to send a quick one-line Happy Birthday text (or meme is maybe even better actually) during No Contact. Stick to NC for another 20 days minimum though, even if your ex replies to your birthday text.
Hi brad, me and my boyfriend broke up approximately 4 days ago everything was normal but suddenly he said it’s not working and I’m pleading him but he said it’s not working how can I get him back but he is replying my text with respect does he still have feelings for me?
Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-OzVymYnQFTk.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-f7zuXk-sVsI.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-6K3xufEwEFg.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
There is attraction initially for sure, but attraction comes and goes, as everything in life especially when people deal with circumstances and other influence which gets in the way. As you gain more experience, you'll understand and see for yourself how this works. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning Yup,.. I don't know sometimes why can't foget her I still remember of those past days... But I tried to be honest, and I hope one day she'll need me most,... Then she'll know the reasons of ignoring me.
Sir i am using no cantact method since last week, but if she saw me every 2 or 3 days after is no cantact method will work? Coz Me, She & her new bf spend time in the same park.
It won't work. What on earth are you doing being the third wheel? Don't do that to yourself, man. No contact means cutting off unnecessary communication with your ex in any way, shape or form for at least 30 days. It also means ignoring unimportant or random messages from your ex for at least 30 days straight. This also involves NOT looking at any of your ex's online profiles so you won't overthink things. In other words, the "no contact" period is a time where you fully focus on yourself and take time to heal.
Dear I had my breakup 4 month's ago will I get him back my boyfriend is very rude he says i can be friends but no relationship So what should I do? Will he come back It was all about situation and time like things started being everyday fights and all So what should I do?
When a breakup happens, most of the time this means he has lost attraction for you, hence, it's a bad move to be friends with him. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-zw0ChuXCEmw.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-pv_cjzhVKAY.html AND ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-yd6pvNVeHjI.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
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Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-XonMtLFo000.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-BAhMrmw3Sms.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-aeGNPBdpnsI.html Good luck!
Hey Brad. Can you give me some advice in my situation? My gf recently broke up with me and I want to try no contact methode and start working out for my mental health and image. But we live together in the same apartment and now she's sleeping over with one of her friends. The problem is she can suddenly come back because all her belongings are her and then suddently go out for a long period of time before coming back again. How should i remain no contact in this situation? I want to pay for your coaching service but I unfortunately can't afford it at the moment. This breakup happened Thursday last week and I really want to try and win her back. I also want to mention she's struggling with anxiety and bipolar disorder
Hey how are you? How did it go? If both of you had made positive changes in your lives during this time apart, there may still be a chance. Otherwise it'll just be another disaster waiting to happen, man. So consider moving on from this.
Just got here because going through a break up, Hey man I'm thinking to start "No contact" With my ex but would it be okay to do NC with someone who's introvert? I mean they love alone time, What do you say? Should I do NC with my Introvert Ex or not?
It's still your best choice, yes, because the alternative, which is contacting her or trying to "fix" the relationship, is just really counterintuitive. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WVB0_l60SpM.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7JtmVbDkblw.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Hey brad, We have been texting a quite a bit. Still says she’s not ready to meet again in person. I started two of the conversations and she started one, all positive. Now should I not keep initiating contact, and let her come to me? Or keep texting?
Aim for some balance, so give her a chance to approach you, assuming you've already completed the 30-day no contact rule and did not rush through all this.
Yes, assuming you've done the first phase (no contact) correctly. It's time to interact with your ex. Also don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7JtmVbDkblw.html Best of luck!
Hey brad, I did no contact for 20 days and contacted her and it’s positive and said”we should get something to eat or go on a drive and catch up” she then said “ I really don’t think I’m ready for that yet, but I will let you know when I am” she then kinda has been texting me and I’ve been responding after a while. should I go back into no contact? Or what next?
Focus on texting and try not to meet up when one of you or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
So Brad uncle....i agree with every single point u have shared in ur video...and after watching a whole bunch of videos like this(frm many yt channels) i now know what had happened. I was trying to fix situation way too much instead of simply giving him space ... Means too much...in the end he ghosted me and blkd me frm everywhere. Whenever i used to ask him is there smthin wrong he just no it's alright but in actual it wasn't... He told to my frnd so many bad things abt me that she is like this like that bla bla bla.Well currently he is 16 and I'm 18(lol ik we r very young) and we live in same city but still could never meet In short, he just wants to forget that i even existed and few days ago he told to my frnd that whenever he hear abt me his mood get very spoil and keep her away frm me and even warned my frnd that u will also regret being with her like i did Now he spend time in scl with his crush they both like each other. All of his frnds know abt them. He is very happy with his life . apparently they used to talk earlier also and now they started talking again after he left me and she is his gf now lol... And he will never unblock me My frnds just say that he has erased u frm his life just like he said and he doesn't care at all no matter what u do he don't give a f. He is happy with her. I mean i know all that y to say that so straightforward 😂😂. I know where I'm lacking where were his mistakes and where were mine. But idk what to do Is my situation done for good?? What shud i doo?? Only option left is to move on isn't it😂 I hope u give this kid some advice... And yea it's been more than a month since he left me😂i havent talked to him since that day. I kind of made myself that my whole life depends on this person and i now know that how he felt. But it's too late to know lol Ik focus on yourself and all but just tell me is my situation done for good....also i did took ur quiz but scored only 61. I'm too confused at this point ...it seems too hopeless): i hope u do reply me! Also sorry for such a long cmnt😅😅
Hi there! Sorry man, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi brad ! I hope ur doing good! So here’s a thing it’s been almost a year since no contact.he does Call me sometimes but I never pick up or if I do I act cold. N recently his bestie started following me so I showed them I don’t really care:) To be very honest I don’t know if I really want him back or not:) nor im Sure if I Love him still :) you are amazing! Thank you for helping me GET THROUGH THIS:)
At this point, you ought to meet him halfway if you want things to develop (again) between you two. Don't you recognize an opportunity when you see one? :-) Your ex is opening the lines of communication which is a perfect opportunity for you to transition into phase two and there should be a balance. Since you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule, and assuming you've done the "no contact" rule properly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-XonMtLFo000.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-aeGNPBdpnsI.html Good luck!
What happens when you and your ex have a good relationship but unfortunately your ex ended up in an abusive relationship and now can’t get out of it but you and your ex wants to work things out but the abusive relationship is like a prison for them limiting them to who what and where they can go?
It's your ex's responsibility to leave that relationship. That's something outside your control and completely in your ex's. Try not to worry about it and you shouldn't be waiting for your ex to make up his/her mind. Apply the tips here instead: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-4Qe-4A-CpVY.html
If unsure, I always suggest to go for the 30-day rule and don't rush it. Just take note of the mistake most people make here so you won't be making them: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-1cBpNrDDHnw.html Also don’t wait for this person to have an epiphany. If you want your ex back, then keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not. Here's a quick overview of what needs to happen: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-xgR03RcU8mw.html it's best to go by the golden rules here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-1kJ1ybuFIHE.html Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Good luck!
Hi Brad, I was dating a woman, we were seeing and staying in her house, for 1 month, it was everything ok, and suddenly one day after she wanted to stay sleeping in her house, she stays cold, and beginning for Time and saying she don't feel butterflies, I said it was ok, and i move on with no contact, that was before Christmas,she send messages on Christmas and New year, after that don't talk anymore, i don't see her social media, but she continues to see my insta stories, tho you think there are chances to get her back? We only date for 1 month but was very intense
Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-zw0ChuXCEmw.html
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WVFZVqFDFV4.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RU-vid to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
hi coach ive been doing no contact for almost a month but i noticed im still included in her close friends ig story and she still wears my clothes and they arent gifts as well they were literally clothes that I wore before does this have any meaning
Those are "grey" areas especially if the breakup is still fresh as she's processing the breakup in her own way. And you deserve more than that. For solid signs, though, here's what to be on the lookout for especially if displayed by your ex months/years after the breakup: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-CsVR7yV4X8k.html
Hello brad, hope you are well. Me and my ex broke up 2 months ago and we talked regulary. I have begged and pleaded for the first month and 3 days ago we met up and i gave her a big apology for everything. Thats the only time she cryed after she broke up with me. What is your best advise to get her back. I dont think no contact will work, it will just make it worse. She broke up with me because i didnt give her enough attention/love and i also took her for granted. Im also thinking about buying your program. I hope you will answer me. Thanks man
Are you absolutely certain that's the reason for her breaking things up with you? If so, why had you taken her for granted? Take time to introspect first and see if you can make the necessary changes. But begging never works. Having your ex take you back out of pity is never a good thing, so make sure you play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-T4Sz6DiWRsQ.html AND the importance of silence after the breakup here: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw and in the meantime, this is the principle you ought to follow: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-EfbgU7v0Ny4.html A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!
Hey, I’m just looking for some advice. I’ve been doing no contact for a week now, but my ex still has some of my stuff. What should I do about that? I was thinking it could be an excuse to see him for a coffee when I start speaking to him again.
If it's not that urgent, try to apply the full 30-day rule first and then transition into messaging him to get your stuff back. Remember the tips I mentioned here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-jXNMkueSzzs.html
@@BradBrowning how would I transition into messaging about getting my stuff back without making it seem like I’m just getting the last of my stuff and moving on
Hey Brad. Me and my ex broke up a month ago and after 1 week of no contact I saw her posting with a guy at a spot that we usually went and I couldn’t control my emotion and contacted her and asked her what’s the meaning of that. She told me she was with a group of friends and he just happened to be in the picture when she took it. Unfortunately I asked her for a second chance and of course she rejected me. We ended the conversation with a good note and we both know we need time and space apart from each other. I’ve been working to improve myself but I really want to get her back do you think no contact still works and she will miss me eventually?
Never text your ex an empty message such as the one you just sent. I mentioned that it one of my other vids, better take time to watch it. :-) But this really depends. How long has it been since the breakup and have you cut off contact for 30 days yet? If you haven't cut off contact yet for at least 30 days, then you should prioritize that instead of interacting with your ex. On the other hand, IF you have already cut off contact, then you're on the right track. There's no need to redo the no contact just because it didn't exactly went well the first time or you're not getting the response you anticipated. Watch this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-KMMv9ljdrkk.html and be guided accordingly based on the phases of what needs to happen, here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7JtmVbDkblw.html
This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WVB0_l60SpM.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7JtmVbDkblw.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
I have a question why do you think my ex boyfriend would want to know how I handled the news after I heard it through my uncle that he’s dating someone new now idk if it’s a rebound relationship or serious relationship, but I do know he’s calling my uncle this week he asked if he could?
He could just be genuinely curious. I say to try to put your focus elsewhere (best to put focus back to yourself) because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7KE6nb4-ndA.html Watch this, too: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-TBtb34gy6zw.html This should hopefully get you back on track with what you ought to be doing during this time: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-obBIttQSak4.html However, if the relationship lasts for 6 months or more, it's probably best to start moving on from this.
@@BradBrowning I think he still cares about me because he wouldn’t be asking, but I feel like he doesn’t love or want to be with the rebound and my ex he hasn’t be in this relationship for 6 months or more, but your right he’s likely rebounding that’s what I’m thinking. I will start to watch the link to your videos that you sent me and again thank you for you this helpful advice!
So...I did try that no contact strategy for at least 30 days. At that moment people were suggesting that I'd approach my ex again, and I did. She walked away back into the lab room, only just "hey" and left. They're saying that she may need more time because she isn't over the breakup that I made. I do want her back, and still a bit optimistic that I can do this. What are your thoughts on this, Brad, or anyone else's thoughts?
Do you work or go to school together? Try NOT to go out of your way to approach her. Apply the tips here instead: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-dDZrnNh8LOg.html
Hello Brad, Me And My Partner Was In relation for more than 5 yrs. It was mature, but I did many mistakes. 4 months ago, she said she feels it didn't work,we have to many differences. Then I work on myself, tried my best to remove differences..she also praised me that i did my best. But things are falling apart. 2 days ago, we officially break up. But i know deep inside we both love each other very much. How can we be able to back again?
What kind of mistakes? Recurring ones? Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad. I’ve been watching your videos for 2 days now. My relationship ended on Thursday. Unfortunately being an anxious mess, it wasn’t pretty. I ugly cried and vomited and begged him not to leave me. All of the wrong things, I have now learned. He said he doesn’t love me anymore. He doesn’t want this. He doesn’t want to try. He has given me so many chances (I spent a long time recovering from an eating disorder and struggled with being physically intimate, had huge mood swings…). Something just changed this year, and I could feel him pulling away from me. I started a new job and work away from home 2-4 days a week. I used to work at sea where I was away 2-4 months at a time. I think being away for long periods of time gave him time to miss me. I feel like he hasn’t seen ME this year. I was in such a better place mentally. I made huge progress. All I wanted was for us to make plans together and spend time together, that wasn’t just lying on the sofa looking scruffy and watching tv. He spent more and more time going out with his workmates for drinks, staying over with friends, and just neglecting our relationship. He told me a few times over the last couple of months that he didn’t want to be with me anymore. We said we would try having a break, but then he chose last week not to do that, and just to end things. Obviously I’m here because I want him back. No contact is a struggle, because we live together, finances etc. I also moved away from home to live with him, so I can’t just move in with a family member. He has been away at his parent’s house over the weekend, and he is away for 2 days on a training course with work. He said that he will take me out for dinner when he gets back, because he owes me that at least (we’ve been saying for months that we would go out for a nice dinner, like we used to do all the time). He said he’ll have a think whilst he’s away. Please can you give me some advice on what to do? I don’t want to not go to dinner, because I’ve been waiting so long for this. I want to be relaxed when we go out. I don’t want to look desperate. I want to try to bring back the spark that we had. Do you think it’s wise going out on Tuesday for dinner? Should a flirt with him? What do I do? Please help!
Hi Stephanie! Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Brad today is my first day of the 30 no contact rule. But she does reach out now and then, every couple days actually. Do I ignore the calls and messages? She sends pictures of us from time to time sad that she no longer feels the way she feels, she says she wishes she can feel that way again. Also she has feelings for someone else but she's not sure she wants a relationship with him.
@@melp5879 she replied to a status I posted today of myself in work saying "you look tired" I didn't even open it, she called and I ignored it and she called immediately a 2nd time and I ignored it. She then sent "I get it" "you just have to say you don't want to talk to me" "be safe and have a good night" She then posted saying its unfair that everyone blames her for our breakup and she's sick of it And another post saying she feels like she's drowning which is exactly how I said I felt when she just left. Side note: her family keeps saying she should get back with me over and over and is blaming her in an angry way, I'm trying to stop them because have you ever went to wash the dishes then someone told you to go wash them and you didn't feel to anymore? I'm afraid their constant battering for her to get back with me will just drive her away more.
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ek_4wpkV66c.html AND ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-W7iC-gHmZ2A.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-GTjEAGJWTuA.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-bgOG9s1fac8.html
@@BradBrowningWe do have shared responsibilities but I handle them without contact. It's only my 2nd day for no contact and this morning she's posting "Missing You ☹️" She called twice yesterday and I ignored them, she messaged "if you don't want to talk just say so, just reach home safe and have a good night" However the missing that she's experiencing I believe is one of a friend or just being there and for her and not one of reconciliation. What do I do?
I know. Healing takes time and it's different for everyone. Do the best you can to work on yourself anyway and strive to have a better life and a better man without your ex, yeah? That's key. Apply the tips here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-4Qe-4A-CpVY.html Good luck!
People say all sorts of crazy stuff, especially if you've been fighting the breakup and trying to change his mind, so for both your sakes, give each other space, okay? However, if he said this to you months after the breakup, you ought to consider doing so and be open to new opportunities. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning I’m not sure I can. Please tell me that there is some hope for me it’s been 7 months since we broke up and 3 months since we last had sex
hey brad. my ex gf broke up with me about 2 months ago cause she lost feelings for me. we were together for 9 months. i begged for another chance after the break up but now i’ve been in no contact for 2 weeks. she told me to let go and time will tell. will she reach out to me? i miss her a lot and really want us back together. thanks and i appreciate your videos.
What happened? Consider moving on from this, especially if it was just a fling to either you or your short-term ex. Sorry bit there t, Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-zw0ChuXCEmw.html
If it's about an important conversation such as the one you described, you can discuss it briefly or arrange for a pickup and then go back straight to no contact for 30 days minimum.
hey brad, my ex seems like she’s moving on and on her stories she seems having fun ,and it hurts me .She told me she needs time to talk .She’s having fun and what should i do brad?
Maybe stop trying to look at your ex's profile/messages/snaps, posts, etc.? An essential part of the "no contact" rule is to turn your focus inwards for a good 30 days straight, and looking at what your ex is doing and whatnot largely deviates from that point, don't you think? Discussed that here, too: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-MroLZ7XK9gY.html
Hello Brad. 1st of all, I did your quiz and scored 74 points. My situation is as follow: My Ex recently (2 weeks ago) broke up with me while on a 5 years old relationship. This year (2022) has been a disaster, constant arguing, she said that she had reached her limit and she was tired and that lead for the relationship to end. A few days go by, and I come to her house to get my stuff that I left there... all of the sudden, she started saying, that she is going to think better about the breakup, I did what no one should do, wich is trying to insist her to get back together, but I stopped mid conversation, we kissed and had sex. After that, she says "don't get your hopes high because of what we just did", and then we actually established a 3 week period for her to think and giving me an answer. Then, on THIS MONDAY, I go out at night, and because I was wearing a shirt and tie, MY BROTHER thought I was going out with another girl, so HE contacted my Ex about it. the next day, I get a message from my her saying that we should move on and forget about this relationship. I don't know if I should've done it, but when I receive that text, I rushed to her place so we could talk about it, and that I was not seeing another girl. I explained the whole situation, and she had that smirk of relief, and so we went back to square one, ( to give her time to let her think), but on that night, I actually just slept on her bed (BUT she wasnt to confortable with that), yes we cuddled the morning after, hugged each other while in bed, eventually we started kissing. Right before I was leaving her place, we exchanged a few more words back and forth, and we both start crying. I actually stayed for lunch, we talked about non relationship topics and after lunch she went out with her mother. Before leaving, we again kissed goodbye and she says again "don't get your hopes high, tho". It is Friday today, I'm expeting an answer from her around 4th, 5th or 6th of November, until then I'm already focusing on myself, going to the gym, going out with family and friends, not contacting her for that period of time, but maybe giving her that "nostalgic text", a happy moment we shared so she can think that it wasn't all bad. Is it a good idea? What are your thoughts on my situation?
Not a bad score at all but still in the fading fast category, right? Fading fast and therefore the need to act fast means to play your cards right from the get-go and not mess things up further, basically. Here's a quick overview: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-xgR03RcU8mw.html It's time to find a more positive outlet for your emotions. It's totally okay to cry your eyes out (just NOT in front of your ex and definitely not in social media), this is healthy, but try to balance it with other stuff. So keep your mind occupied, get busy with a lot of stuff like hobbies, work, etc. focus on what makes you feel good and take time to heal as well. Also read my Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
@@jarrodoberg2078 hey. So we met a few months later at a Metal concert, I wasn't expecting for her to be there, she actually answered my story saying that she was at the concert, so I changed places to meet her and we spent the rest of the concert together and I actually got a ride from her back to where I left my car near the train station, we talked briefly and I invited her to come to a rock club (yeah, that's our thing, we like rock/metal music, etc) and she said she always wanted to go there when we were together back then, so we went this time. First we had dinner, we started talking about how life's been, after, we had to wait at the car for the club to open, so we were talking more, one thing led to another and we had s*x in the car before going in the club. Then we had fun during the night, dancing and having a glass. We came back, she invited me in and slept together, so mission succesfull. This happened by the end of february, beggining of March, and now we are on a long distance relationship, I'm in Greece, and she is in Serbia, and we are both from Portugal, so it's hard to see each other, but we will manage.
Hey Brad, been your viewer for almost 5 yrs. I got my ex back last year by following your videos. Now she's gone again after a year.. Time schedule was the only reason. Will your advices still apply this time?
Time compromises should be something you and her should discuss and agree accordingly. Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
If you haven't done anything to provoke it, it is usually a good sign. It's a different thing though if you've been refusing to give him space and now he's mad at you, so learn to give each other space first for about a month straight, all right? Good luck!
Hey Brad, I just finished no contact with this girl and established contact, we've been flirty and so on and after about 2 and a half weeks after no contact I told her I had feelings for her, she hasn't replied yet but I wanna know if that was a bad idea and if so what do I do now, do I start no contact again? And what should've I've done as we made contact and we spent time together but we never acc went to the romantic area you know so I just told her I had feelings for her.thanks for the amazing videos btw
What's so awful about accepting your ex's decision to break up though? The no contact rule can work for you in the following ways: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-zw0ChuXCEmw.html If you don't go in silent mode (moving on is also in silent mode, by the way), then alternative, which is bugging your ex can land you a headline in the news! Just like some people here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-1U_IOm8ofFo.html I think most people in their right minds would opt for silence instead, given the consequences, but thanks for comment!
It is uncommon to call it a "break", yes, unless you both agreed to it due to circumstance. At in which case it's more classified as a breakup rather than a break really.
Hey Brad I know a lot of your videos address no contact assuming they were the one to initiate the breakup but I'm just wondering if we should still employ no contact if we are the ones that initiated the break-up? I know the idea is to avoid contact until they come crawling back into our arms or to only briefly and casually reply to them if they are very upset but how does it work if from day one they are already begging for a second chance but I just want a month or so break from the relationship?
If you're ready to do so, yes. The aim is to increase your confidence by socializing and to subconsciously know that there is life outside of the relationship/breakup and to get out of the tunnel-vision mentality most people have after a breakup that only their ex can fix it. So interact with people. It may be just on a friendship level, camaraderie, bonding over a new sport/hobby/activity, etc. and not restricted to just dating, perhaps I should've emphasized that, too, as I can see how it can easily be misconstrued. But if you do get around to dating someone that you truly like, then that’s good, as it would help to let you not seem desperate to get your ex back, which most exes can sense from a mile away, mind you. Anyway thanks for your input! :-)
Hi! Have you received the coaching form? If you haven't, please contact support at support.exfactorguide.com as it could be a technical issue. Otherwise please take note of the time frame indicated since I need to review your situation thoroughly and have to cater to others who came before you. The timeframe is within 48 to 72 hours from when you submitted the coaching form back to me upon successful signup. Thanks for your understanding and talk soon!
Hey brad,first of all thanks for being there and i’m happy that i found you, I broke up with my ex at June and i’ve been breaking the no contact rule till october,now i’m gonna stop texting her and i want her back,and she tells me she wants me back too and she needs time to forget the problems so she broke up .But what if she finds someone in the break? and should i wish her on her birthday which is next week? will that break the no contact rule?when the last time i spoke to her i asked her if i can wish her she told me “you can wish me and even if you don’t there’s no issues” i want her back so should i wish her or not?
Hi there, you're welcome! If you've been keeping touch for many months when you really should be giving each other space, the window of opportunity may have already closed at that point. Yes, you can greet her on her birthday but just make sure the conversation doesn't continue on. Go back straight to no contact rule.
brad but i’m really worried, what to do if our window of opportunity has passed,she told she’ll come back and talk to me once she’s alright,so what should i do brad? what should i do when the window of opportunity has passed?
Hey so I started talking to her again but she wants to be friends but I don’t want that I miss her and want her back it’s been a year since we talked I did the no contact method and it bring us together again as friends but I want to get back into her life in a good way this time
Friends or more appropriately, talking terms for now (if your ex isn't already in another relationship), but don't let that derail you, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Whatever you do, make sure you don’t resort to doing the things here: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it but also try to see you aren't just being strung along. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? Apply the tips here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-4Qe-4A-CpVY.html It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
@@BradBrowning I’ve been using the information on your RU-vid channel to help to know that I can get back with her slowly but surely down the line I’m not messing this up. She really important to me even if we are friends atm. Making sure I follow your plans and how to get her back with your help with the videos is all I need so thank you
Hey sir Brad i have question i dumped my gf for studies 8 months ago but in mid of this july she starts texting me and slowly and gradually i attracted again to her .... And in last month September i just beged and plead her and she said she has a soft corner for me but can't be in relationship with me so after using all my weapons on her i just ❤️ found urr gem 💎 channel and immediately i applied no contact and start dating my old friend to only get her jealous and some little changes are also happening in her behaviour... So what should i do now ,... Btw 25 are still left of no contact... I completed 10 to them ... Any suggestions please 🥺❤️ Brad .... And one more question these small changes are good indicator or not ? I'm waiting for ur answer sir 🙇🏽♂️
What's her behaviour towards you like? If you've been trying to re-attract her, being needy about it is never a good idea. I've talked about that here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-juhamVEwsxU.html You ought to review this first: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-L0hxYTCJ2hU.html and in fact, apply the tips here first instead of taking the shortcut: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-1kJ1ybuFIHE.html In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I been in this breaking up process for so long, i been pleading, all the stupid things,, he blocked n open so many times.. Then i came to the point, if he wants he would text me.. but this 2 weeks he always online n having more followings on instagram. N i still so sad How can this guy who was chasing me so much in the beginning treating me this way
Really sorry, but your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-e3l5KWEpIpw.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
hey brad,what to do if the window of opportunity have passed? she’s following me on my instagram and she told me she needs space so what should i do brad? if my window of opportunity have passed! we broke up in june and i’ve been breaking the no contact rule till september! now i’m on a no contact for a month! what should i do now brad?
