NEVER be too invested in the outcome of an online interaction. Say something on point or ask a specific question then get on with your real life. If she doesn't respond, you'll live I promise.
Agreed, I used to just not do anything with the attitude of “they won’t send anything back anyway” it actually feels good in an odd way….shooters gotta shoot
All women live in a fantasy bizzaro world. This advice only applies if you are a Chad or Tyrone. She’s not going to tell you that. She’s giving you advice for guys that she wants, not average or below average guys that have a difficult time with women.
I think the biggest thing no matter how you talk to each other is getting out of the mindset that you have to win somebody over. Just continue to talk to them as long as you are both enjoying it. If one person falls out of the conversation, move on.
I will tell her: “Lokation, send me lokation, I’m gonna come. Dublin, Brooklyn, Moscow, London, I don’t care, I’m gonna come. Lokation. Tell me where, and what time.”
Theres this hot B with more than 50 k followers, she always sees my dms but doesn’t reply. Even tho she doesn’t reply, she still feeds my ego when she reads my texts. She knows if she replies, she will fall for me.
Yeah i can definitely saying talking to girls in person is way less time wastung then trying to get them online. Cuz in person, you can tell by their body language, voice tone, and actions if they want to talk to you or to leave them alone. Not saying online is impossible tho
In my experience the online stuff works best if it's in some other context / topic, like you're both sharing an interest and talk about that and see how the vibe goes from there. I currently chat with a girl about cryptocurrencies and I've decided that I'd like to keep it as a friendship. Having female friends is the best. Somehow I can connect with women - on average - better when talking about things such as music and art. I don't know.
@@richard70854 True. I have seen a lot of girls that I like on Instagram but I know that it’s very unlikely for me to actually meet them in person if we don’t start at least a friendship in the DMs.
As someone who has tried dating a girl in another country and through long distance, I can personally guarantee Courtney is completely right. They're hard, but if you are able to make it work it is worth it. I recommend avoiding the sex talk and focus on the emotional aspect first, though, playful flirting is fine to develop some tension for when the sex does happen. It makes so much better.
Even if a girl has 1,000 followers, if she has mostly selfies and thirst traps, she could have 1,000 unread messages. Personally I like to follow women in my local area that I recognize, I also prefer if they upload a photo once in a blue moon. This shows that she’s not a slave to external validation. And then when she finally posts a story, like Courtney says respond to her story.
Yea makes sense, those Beautiful Women modeling showing off many photos of themselves seem to be slaves to those that enslave them like the corrupt porn companies, etc. I met this one Lady that liked me and she looks like my Dream Girl but she claims that her brand doesn't allow her to have video chats or calls with a guy she likes... So how in the world can I see if she is real and vise versa... It's to bad really.. Its basically like sex trafficking and I wish all Women who are involved with such things could get out and learn that their private Beauty is not for the world to see but for the Man she marrys for life and be free to be what GOD designed them to be and have one Awesome Man to Love and care for her, for life...
Commenting on the stories has worked to get responses for me. I remember one girl posted something about all the adult things you start doing after 30. I replied with " You start telling everyone how awesome your airfryer and instant pot is". I thought it was funny (and true) so did she.
From my experience, chances are pretty low. I've had more success in person than just messaging online. It works because I've done it before, a relationship that lasted 2 years. As long as you can get a conversation going and eventually meet up, you can call it a date or not, and the both of you get a feel for each other, it could work, your ratio is just a lot slimmer b/c everyone is also sending messages and the gap btw the two of you is wider if there is no connection developed from the beginning. Great content Courtney, always appreciate these helpful and insight!
The key is to say something beyond hilarious in her story questions. Or you can ask her something very important that only her knowledge can help you with. She will message you first with either one. Also, you can respond to story questions every day without looking creepy since it's not just a wall of messages in her dm. Just talk from there and don't say anything weird and you're good. If you talk a few times send a meme or animal pic she may like and she'll start to think you're cool. Put actual effort in to make sure they are great. Don't message her every day wanting to talk about bullshit either. Never send a pic of yourself or cock as you want her to start to wonder what you look like. Build up the mystery. She'll start to send you some exclusive pics and secretly try to get you to send something back. Give good sexual innuendo comments to them, but never send anything in return. Eventually she'll be dying to know and ask you for them. From there ask her out if she lives near you. She'll definitely say yes since she kinda knows you and obviously wants to know more. If she lives far at least you made a new secret friend you can send nudes and jokes with. Finally, not everyone gets along. Some girls message you and some won't. It's nothing against you. Just the way she goes.
I try not to use social media when interacting with females. It’s just too hard to know what to read. It’s better if I’m just being friends with them and texting, because there won’t be any expectations of dating the girl.
Great advice. Always appreciate a woman's viewpoint on communication tips for guys. This is what we really need to learn before jumping into the deep end. Keep it up.
@@CourtneyRyan really. I would suggest avoiding anyone who is on instagram. If people post lots of photos of themselves that is not the type of person one needs in their life. Toxic
You are down to earth, sincere and obviously care about helping viewers. Thanks for always having awesome videos. Your boyfriend is a lucky dude. Best wishes.
Courtney great work wanted to share an experience I have been having lately and maybe you can answer why women do this. A few weeks ago a started talking to a girl just out of politeness, I found her attractive but didn't think much of it. All of a sudden she started finding ways to catch my attention, secret telling with her girlfriends when I would walk by. She would get nervous while I was around, I speak to some of her friends whom I have known longer and they would make jokes about me hooking up with her. When it was more than obvious that she liked me I decided to shoot my shot. I told her I thought she was beautiful and that I would like for us to get to know each other. Gave her a ride home one day and I told her about my life a little bit and she shared some of her life as well. After that day she started acting differently giving me short answers to my questions and just disinterested. This has happened to me with a few girls that I know liked me, as soon as I show interest back they begin acting funny. Now I don't know how to proceed when a girl is flirting with me. I know most girls won't take the initiative so what the hell am I supposed to do to let her know I like her as well without scaring her off. Please help
"Don`t ask fish for advice on catching fish, ask the fisherman" Edit: Lmao everyone taking this seriously in the comments. I wanted to put this here mostly for memes
My cousin taught me this early, women forget that the tips they give you if there not interested in a guy that same approach never works on them if they are not interested in that guy.
so, would you do the opposite of what she said, and cling to one girl like an orbiter, bombard her with boring messages, and kept liking her photos forever? Any dude would warn you from doing this.
@@kaz8297 Women say they don’t like a lot things but do the opposite. How many women tell there boyfriends that they don’t like certain dudes because they are azz holes, then end up getting there backs blown out by that same dude in the break room 🤷🏾♂️ if a female is not physically attracted to a guy then she’s chances are she’s not giving him the number, unless she doesn’t want to seem mean or he makes her laugh, women are emotional beings, she may not like something one day, tomorrow she loves it.
@@DAllanRixxTV I’m just asking are you gonna do the opposite of what she said in the video bcuz that’s what y’all are implying. Unless you comment before watching the videos
Yeah totally works i usually never text a girl once i follow her instead i wait till i see some interesting post on her story so i can come up with creative replies that will keep the conversation going
Online is lame as shit. Don’t see the point in trying really hard to stand out for a girl who doesn’t even barely try to have a decent conversation with you. Meeting in person is less time waisted cause you can get to the god dam point quickly instead of waiting for her to respond to the questions like when are you free or meet me at such and such. Plus you can rely on yourself instead of figuring out how not to turn her off by texting one word incorrectly during messaging all while distracting her from 1,000s of other messages from hotter guys. Fuck social media, I’m stepping out the god dam house. I live in Cali so there are women everywhere anyway
This video helps more than enough Courtney. Ironically enough, i met some of the girls i was into through twitter and i just realized i been using your advice this whole time there. I haven't dm many girls on Instagram but some have dm me first. If i do, it's because we have something in common. I rarely message girls with tons of followers tho. I'll be using your advice about Instagram stories too since i know most people kinda ignore those. Have a great day 🌼
Courtney always keeps it real!! The funny part in this video is that she tried so hard not to say that word nevertheless it still came out somehow 😂. “Don’t send a dick pic” 😭 and she said it twice 🤣🤣. This is so funny to me because even in a relationship I don’t let my girl send me such pictures or myself do that, I personally think it’s not respectful I rather show the girl or see her live Lol 🤷🏾♂️. Plus I know a thing or two about the internet just know your pictures are stored somewhere in the cloud unless you don’t care Lol!!
This is good stuff. I met all of my past significant others on the dance floor (ballroom, swing, and country specifically), but since that's not an option these days maybe it's worth considering meeting people on the internet...
On this last times I'm avoiding social media, I'm feel so strange to use this and I prefer to improve myself on things what really matters to me. Thanks Courtney for this tips Greetings from Brazil.
I think she is on point with a couple things but then doesn’t really know how things are elsewhere. If you are trying to get the attention of a girl with 3k plus followers, most likely story response and direct messages are never going to get seen. I’m not sure there really is answer to getting someone’s attention with lots of followers without coming off a little strange. And I say this because there are so many people messaging these girls. Trying to engage in a simple conversation can seem like the hardest thing because you might get one reply but then they never respond again. So, it kind of stinks.
When I see these videos I always feel left out. I've never had social media from the time myspace started to everything out right now. Never had any of those apps. I still do things the old fashion way like my father taught me and do face to face interactions. Just last week I walked up to a women at the grocery store, introduced myself and told her i was attracted to her and that didn't want to take up too much of her time so I got straight to the point and asked for her number. She gave me her nunber and later confessed that she was blown away with my confidence that I just came up to her in person and asked for her number and that was the reason she did give me her number. She was impressed and all I did was introduce myself.
Pro tip: women who have their profile set to private tend to be a more serious type of woman, and less superficial, also women who don't post thirst traps and post less often, you'll have a better chance with!
I tend to disagree. I feel like when you’re in different countries some girls feel safer replying cause there is no pressure in terms of meeting up or having a relationship
agreed, talking about her life and story works and the last two i have never done and just thinking about it is cringy af, also you should do a "How to message Men on instagram" video for the women on your channel and it would allow a sort of self reflection for men on your channel who use social media because men and women view social media differently.
@@CourtneyRyan haha! Gotta Pump those numbers up! If you diversified your content towards women you could create more comments leading to more conversation about your video content as you already have a large male demographic viewers. the inclusion of women allows men a certain perception into the female mind and how women react to mass media and its interactions. That be dope af.
Great video Courtney... I kind of figured that Beautiful Women like yourself get thousands of messages and that makes it tougher to find the Woman we desire when it seems demand supercedes the supply. I am over 40 and still single, just been unable to find what I am desiring because it's been tough to find single Women that are Beautiful to me online or in real life.
The best way to meet girls still remains in-person. Online, you are just one face among dozens or hundreds of other men looking for her attention. But in the real world, she is right there. You can get her attention just by talking to her.
She is just so soft spoken. A pure remodel on how a woman is supposed to look and act. Pure femininity that any man with true masculinity would find attractive.
Talk when? Initial approach? First date? Honestly, keeping it simple, direct, honest, respectful and with a touch of humor goes a long way. As an introvert myself the best advice I could give you is don't overthink it and be yourself. If she likes you and you like her it will be surprisingly easy.
Responding to her story will not assure you a conversation, it will only MIGHT assure you a response to your comment, and that's it. Instagram also has the "chat invitation" bullshit which means, you can only message once until she has the initiative to look at your comment and talk back.
Yea i just noticed that new update too. And if they post a story or post after you message them just assume they saw it and arent interested. Its hit or miss unfortunately with dating today
I love the way you always say "I promise". I have a question about messaging someone from a business perspective. How do you reach them quickly without spam if she doesn't know you? I often see "email for collaboration' yet no url is given. They are so hard to reach as you were describing you only have maybe one brief shot, what is the best message to break through the wall? Will you comment directly?
I gotta ask you something Courtney. When a random girl who doesn't follow a guy on Insta suddenly pops up in his notifications and likes 3 of his last posts, does he have to respond to that? And if yes, what does he have to do? Is there anything the girl is trying to say or imply with those 3 likes or it's just likes with no hint? By the way, I did put some of what you said into practice and I got a reply! But of course, I was being genuine with my text and did not beat around the bush. I followed the girl, asked her a question that concerned something I saw in her bio and I got the most polite and respectful response! And please don't forget about the question I wrote above.
Messaging her story is a good idea. Is it weird to message their story if you not following her on instagram? Or follow, then message. May be discuss in a Part 2 or 3 of this topic.
I'm going to be a working professional soon and I've been told it will be difficult to meet people once I graduate from college. I didn't date during my tenure at college. What can I do in order to meet women once I graduate and start work? I have made friends including several female friends who I can meet in person once in a while or text/message on social media but not of any romantic interest but it's very difficult to go from friends to romantic relationships if I don't see them every day or as frequently as I used to in college. I am not a fan of online dating and casual dating.
Courtney I guess I am slow or I missed something entirely here b/c I had no idea Instagram was being used as a side dating/meeting app, this explains a lot of other thoughts I had about Instagram but I usually just use mine from time to time to post pictures. Thanks for the helpful info, definitely appreciated!
this is great tips i got layed doing this :) change approch do not talk about sex ... dont send dp, Be real. be honst, communinate it will work out eventually
Message vs. Comment? Because, there's reasons they don't check DM. There's reason comment is better imo. And remember- no one knows someone over Insta. You only know people you have met, spent time with, and continue to establish a pattern of growth and increasing virtue. Otherwise, IG is not real life, so don't get confused. Have fun!
Also... sorry Courtney! I let stories run their course. I reply to stories I like, sometimes. Not one that keeps track, so... I had no idea I responded to.. a few of yours. Thankful for your videos!
The question is: should people that don't know how to connect and communicate be in a relationship? Wouldn't it come across as forced and unnatural, or just simply _be_ forced in the end of the day?
Hey Courtney, great video. Could you please do a video about colour co-ordinating. How to match colours. Can I wear black denim with brown leather shoes, or why shouldn't we wear navy with black, or what colours are most versatile for summer?
OK, sounds simple enough. Her & I have this strong conversation when I DM her and she likes a lot of my photos so I guess I should just keep going and see if it leads to where I want it to lead.
Hi Courtney. Since watching this video based on girls on Instagram, how about making a video on which girls on Instagram are red flags 🚩 and which are the ones you take home to mom? I’m asking you because you could help filter out the good ones from the bad ones. There’s a lot of good looking women on Instagram but it’s hard to filter out the good ones from the bad ones. Pls help. Thanks.
I studied 4 years of Chemistry and Endocrinology at University and they were wayy easier than all.this dating and messaging instructions and rules to follow.
