How to mirror a man? In this video I share this concept and explain it in detail so you understand the difference between mirroring a man and thinking like a man. Self-Love University: self-love-u.com
@@summerdior459 nope, not even the soulmate. A man/soulmate is still a man. The rule applies across the board hard lesson, but truth. The objective is to love self first by applying discipline, self control, self confidence, self love because you know your self worth.
Was about to make a 4-course meal for a guy I recently met since he works 2 jobs and eats fast food when he can.... but he hasnt found the time to take me out once in 2 months. Nah. I'm getting my nails/feet done instead. 2020 Ladies, time to reclaim our self love!!!! 😊😊😊
Kysha Hampton Yass! In this season what makes me feel good is hotel and spa confirmation yas sis we getting our feet done and sitting in hot tubs all 2020!!
@@shanellpittman7742 I don't fully agree with you. I believe that men are the natural givers and women are the natural receivers. When a woman starts to give a man, the natural balance is thrown off.
@@ifightzrealwell I am going to take Tony's advice and Matthew Hussey because I was constantly told to do the reverse thing here in Adelaide South Australia so men would ask me to buy them something I did even though I am on a disability pension they took it and ghosted me what changed it for me is they never ever spent a cent on me and the last one owned 13 houses! That changed me forever. Then I learnt from another female on RU-vid video about being a feminine qualities and that is being the Reviewer Not the Giver because that's a masculine trait You know what I think of those scrougy boys now I think of them as being females! and if any more males try that on for size I'll be sure to tell them to their face. God bless you
At this point that’s exactly what I’m doing with my husband...I stopped cooking and cleaning up after him and he will not be getting anything for Xmas or his birthday because the last time he bought me anything was Christmas 2015 but I’ve been over doing things for him...I’m tired and completely over it and I’m training myself not to care about him anymore so that when that day comes I will be completely unbothered
Mr. Gaskin, I thank you. My boyfriend of 3 and a half years gave me very little in our relationship. I implemented the mirroring and he didn't like it at all. When he would cursed at me, I told him if he ever wanted to see me again the cursing and yelling stopped there. He hasn't cursed since. He asked me why the sudden change in me, I told him that from that moment on, I was holding him accountable for his grown-boy behavior. I now see the grown man coming out. So again Thank you.
Please expand your vocabulary. You're using the word petty incorrectly and putting yourself down. All it is is "matching" not petty. Matching and mirroring is the same thing.
Sarah Lysobey > relax, my husband actually called me petty for mirroring when we dated so I used that word, you telling me to expand my vocabulary as if you know me is actually insulting. Stfu and go about your business 😊 please and thank you
I struggle with this so much because I’m so generous ...but I’ve noticed the more I do for him the less he appreciate it. UPDATE : he’s made some changes and improved his behavior . I love this man 💓
As a woman who was dating. I learned that men do play major games in the beginning because they want to gauge what you will tolerate. And the eye for an eye concept does work.
1. Mirror the level of interest/engagement/investment 2. Sidestep the power struggle and your man stand alone in the mirror. 3. Be loved by you man as Crist loved the Church 4. Be Blesded 🙏🏾
Mirroring is leveling up or staying on a man's level with regard to his actions. This makes a grown man wake up & get in tune with the woman...and become a better man. Take the emotion & ego out of the equation...yes, the man will be disarmed.
Tony what you were saying about the man seeing himself and taking responsibility for his actions, sounds real good in a perfect world, but these clowns out here will be like "Oh well...." and move on to the next one. These jokers are ruthless and of a different breed. I don't think that some of them will ever grow up because it is ssoooo many broken women that will except thier immaturity.
Be blessed. I’m already wired like this. I treat people how they treat me. What you give me is what you get in return. For example, I never come off more interested in a man, even if I am I keep it to myself until HE starts to show me signs that he is more interested.
Be blessed. I am 41 years old and I have NEVER been taught about standards and self respect. I was abused as a child and due to all of the influences, I never knew that I was worth anything. I had relationships with wrong men and a terrible marriage. I found Jesus when I was 35 and have not had a relationship yet. If I knew all of this, when I was young and in my 20's, I would have saved myself a lot of heartache. I am learning from you, and want to speak a Blessing over you and your wife and may the unity of your marriage be protected by the Blood of Jesus. May your children and your children's children be blessed in all their relationships. In Jesus Name. You are a blessing and I will teach my son's how to be honourable men and how to treat women.
Don't give a man more then he gives you really needs to sit in my spirit!!!! This message is the only one I have listen today for the last 4 hours! That's how badly I need it to become my actions.
•√"Don' give a man more than he gives you" •√"You get out what you put* in a relationship" •√"When you mirror a man now he can see himself" Deal Breaker Ex. : "If he yells/curse at you stop it by walking away...don't yell/curse back" •√ "side step the power struggle" mirror him •√"Never compromise your self worth/self respect leave and move one" •√Don't settle/sit in it leave ~Blessed~
"Side step the power struggle", wow, this hit me like a ton of bricks. So very true, my arguing days are over starting today. Thank you for your videos.
Man this is facts!!! When a man sees you’re weak he will take advantage of u and I was blind to see this! I did so much and pampered him and that is where I went wrong from the beginning he gave nothing in return. Smh.. never again.
Wow!! I wish I knew this before I foolishly spoiled my ex-boyfriend. In my mind, I wanted him to see how good of a wife I could be to him if we got married, I felt like I needed to prove myself to him when it really should be the other way around. I spent more money and time on him that he did in the 2.5 years we dated. It drained my energy and my bank account 😩. Thank you Tony for this wisdom. I will know better next time around.
😂🤣this has definitely been my motto in this dating game and at times when I was married. It never feels good to dish out something you can't handle yourself. 🤷🏽♀️ Trust me this works and put men into perspective about their behaviors. We teach people how to treat us.
Be blessed, mirroring is an awesome lesson, it prevents a lot of wasted time, enables us to see things early and move on if necessary, while protecting our own selves.
This is what I told my ex and he never got it. I left him and my PEACE was restored. I never gave him anything because he wasn't my equal,not on my level, not mature and not worthy of me. I love me more...
The fact that most of your videos men have put me through and it’s just crazy how accurate these vids are. You really out here changing mindsets , and that’s a beautiful thing. God bless you 🙏🏾
Ooowwee Tony got me punchin' the air and cheering right now! I love the way he teaches so practical. That part about not revenge cheating is on point! Never ever ever lower your self and compromise your virtue for no damn body!
When it was known husband cheated he could not lie about it, the female he laid up with text me got my cell number from his phone as well left her underwear ECT, funny now he lied that woman trying to break us up, I laughed in his face saying no you broke this marriage up. Why in the hell should she care about you being married if you don't care why would she. Evil deeds alcoholic crack addictions,lust ,hatred spirits of self, will lead you to self destruction. Of course I divorced this flith and I will not have no interest to lay up with another male for revenge God says revenge is mines, not yours. Not mines. Before divorced I wouldn't call home to see what he was doing, nor where he was at didn't care. Didn't question him about people, places or things sometimes silence is golden in certain situations as this was for me I just didn't care anymore once you laid your body down man or woman it's over my feeling disappeared disappointed 😔 time to move on. The ten years I was married to him every day he accussed me of cheating with Tom's dick and Harry. Why???? Because it was him all the time doing the cheating.
Wow! Someone revenge cheated on me, it was not reality of what was happening, just their view. It was an final end of the relationship, just could not respect a guy at all who could even contemplate doing that and the girl he targeted was just a hapless victim. So much ugliness.
I say this all of the time. "I am going to be as good to you as you are to me". You should treat people the way that you would like to be treat. Be blessed Tony thank you for the wisdom.
@@tawnimarie1402 Yes... later on... when they are too old and broken to be able to play any more, and ego too big to learn about how to love. Look up the homeless and mentally ill populations after a certain age, and find out who the most neglected people are in medium and long-term care. They suffer, tremendously.
@@hymnodyhands Yup, when they've hurt, used, destroyed & unappreciated tons of great women... My Dad is 74, brags about his thousands of women & now complains that he can't meet a decent woman 🥴 I'm like "Welp you probably passed em up & kept the other thoughts to myself" 😬😒
Be blessed. This is an area of growth for me. For me it’s not financial, it’s me giving too much time and attention in conversation when I first meet a guy. I’m so open and make friends easily. At times, I get way too comfortable. My ex told me I don’t make men them work for my fun, attention and information. He said they probably feel like theres nothing to work to learn. 😂😩
Exactly...continuing to reinforce negative behavior just makes more of it. I dimiss quickly, whn a man gets it, he cares enough to try. Whn he doesn't he isn't mature enough to handle an adult relationship, so leave & save yourslf the time.
I know one thing when he has met you and you' re a great woman and even so there are a lot of women integrity and character means a lot. When you leave, then he realizes that you were not playing with him. His loss and another man' s gain.
I was always told...that behind most....not all failed marriages and relationships, is a man not doing what he is suppose to do by his wife, significant other, or whatever and his family/children.
Mirroring: opposite but equal reaction. It's pure science. He gets outta hand the opposite is not to swing to your extreme, but to disengage fully. (opposite of rage is indifference not more rage or even love) The relfection will then be on him not you. Be blessed🥰
The last bloke I had asked me to buy him a bottle of Jim Beam I'm on a disability pension but I did then I found out he owns 13 houses and never spent a cent on me! Then he ghosted me so I hope that helps you to stop because a lady did a RU-vid video on female qualities Receiving and male qualities Giving they actually know that's why they dump us to go after the woman that wants to Receive I definitely want that
there is a guy I like and I think I do a pretty good job at mirroring him, but in some instances not. I think its important for a girl to feel desired by the guy she likes (and he likes her too) and he never really compliments me. I know he likes me because he has told me, but I think he could be intimidated by me.., but regardless its hurtful because I want to feel like he desires me... I think any girl would want that. But I notice that even though he doesn't really express to me, I will express my attraction to him, and I am stopping that. Since he doesn't express how he finds me pretty/beautiful, why should I express that I find him sexy and handsome? I don't think I am unreasonable in wanting to feel like a guy can be expressive with me
This advice is so simple but it's never clicked until now. My mind is blown reflecting on my past dating experiences and how much I would do to get a man to appreciate me... never again. 🤯 Mirroring all the way.
Great video. So if he barely text me and never call. I should do the same, never text and barely call. I give attention when I get it. Mirror him. "Don't give a man more than what he giving you." Great advice!!
I got caught up in a one sided relationship bc I did not understand this concept. I was causing myself to do too much (that my person was unwilling to reciprocate PERIOD). Thank you for this 🙏
Be Blessed. If the man is not doing his job, then he is already out of line. After watching this video, I doubt there will be any man getting more than he is giving me. Great teachings.
Give him what he gives you but don't lower your standards to do so. Keep it classy with your standards and values intact. Got it. Thank you, Sir. Be Blessed. ❤
Oh Tony, you had me laughing at the end. Moving forward in my life, I am taking your advice and running with it. I hope more ladies agree with you. I had to learn the hard way after pain and suffering. It’s generous of you to give your time to help others avoid the pain. The Lord bless your home.
Thank you Tony for that direct word. It’s simple you meet a man with the same amount of energy that he gives you all while maintaining respect for that man and your self.
Definitely a message I needed to hear.. I always go the extra to please a man I deal with and show how good of a woman iam but NEVER get nothing in return.. smh I’m learning. thank you Tony 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Tony love it Mirroring. This excellent video for the Ladies. So many women giving more. Especially the men wanting to be head of the household, and leader. Well he needs to show it. 👍🏿 Young ladies need to see this video.
Big damn facts my man aint texting me or calling me all day for 4 days when i go see him its a damn different vibe i wont put as much effort in him since he cant put in the effort or the time for me 💯 be blessed
Tony we live in the UK ... everything u say in all of ur videos is spot on ! You don’t know how much you have helped save myself & my best friend . We watch you everyday ... so we can heal our wounds left on us by abusive ex partners ! Xxx
This is a good concept. This is something that i do already. I never go beyond what a man is doing for me. I have done that before in my past and realize is that wen u keep doing that mess they get comfortable and not want to put alot of effort into the relationship. No thank you. Never again.
GENIUS 😭 What would I do without you Tony. The virtual big brother I never had. This whole video makes so much sense the way you used the analogy of mirroring of a man.
Be blessed Tony! I just experienced this last year and I ended the relationship. Unfortunately, I didn't just remove myself but acted in an immature way because I allowed myself to get fed up with the lack of reciprocity but I I took it as a lesson not a loss. I'm listening to you and learning!
On point... I've been doing this and people say it's tit for tat...if you talk people in a language they understand..it goes to their head. But if you talk to people in their language, it goes to his heart.
I agree with everything you said I dated a man recently his birthday was first we went to Vegas it was his birthday I bought a cake $150 then my birthday came he spent $400 on my birthday he never had a woman do anything for him before so he was grateful but in my past a dude only said happy birthday to me so I kept that same energy 😂 I do it to everyone you get what you put out
Be blessed. I do this already and get told I'm being hard to get or I tit for tat. It is funny how many don't like what you do that's what they did. This video lets me know I'm doing right......periodtt! Thanks for this!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Y'all need to listen to Tony. Hes right. If you do more for him you'll soon be saying I feel like om being taken for granted. Let the man lead. Please!! You gotta save all that nurturing. I know you want to but you have to suppress it lol
He is speaking the truth on this one ... I gave more than I was receiving in a previous relationship ( even though an elder told me not to) & it all backfired... Match his interest/investment but do not do more. Lesson learned the hard way but I'm glad I eventually learned...
