How To Never Get Angry or Bothered By People 

Exactly how I feel

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@@mariebarrett7177 Yes, everything, whether we perceive it as beneficial and not, is from G-d and it all is good. Greater good? For His purposes. Not ours. Greater good implies we benefit communally, globally. That's not His goal. G-d has a plan, unknown to us.

@@Y1836Y everything and everyone is connected for god's greater good and for his purpose

​@@mariebarrett7177 Thanks for responding. The term 'greater good' has been said as part of woke, liberal, socialist, ideology more than G-dly Torah teachings. We deder to Torah. No extra words put in. Hashem was very specific with His word choice in Torah. Not one extra word. Nothing though about the greater good. Lots of other phenomenal ideas, relevant today as then. .

@@Y1836Y has it? Been used in woke culture, oh right.. I do apologise.. my mistake.. I mean "works everything for good" and yes I just checked the scripture haha Romans 8 28

@@Y1836Y you learn something new every day... I've always said greater good I really thought that's what it said, I appreciate you putting me right.. need to work on scripture I think, bit more reading.

Wow. An amazing realization. Thanks for sharing with us.

Yes there are "bad" parents. Why God would allow helpless children to be abused is one of the most challenging ideas to face. I struggle with it. I had terrible parents yet there are parents worse than mine. No easy answer I suppose. I am not a perfect parent myself but I don't want my children to suffer at my hands so I think about my actions.

Your opinion is understandable. We can't have "free will" though "until" --- it's uncomfortable. There would be no pain, etc, nothing to fix. This is the lowest of worlds G-d sent us all to, for a reason. What G-d praised be He gives each victim is strength to survive, to be survivors instead of merely victims. Unreconcilable for our limited brains and minds is that there were reasons. Yes, it sounds horrible. It is. That realization, shock, horror and intolerance of evil, is from G-d. We didn't invent it. We don't have more of it than the Creator. Part of our perfecting this world is redeeming or eliminating evil like abuse, torture. Unfortunately we have to know where and what it is to do that. With G-d's help we will eradicate all of it. For Him, Who cries with us, comforts us, and wills us to do what He needs.

​@@ThePinkPantha21May God make it easy on you...

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amen 🙏

Sorry to.hear that. Pain without a reason is upsetting. Almost intolerable. There were reasons. G-d had them. What they were you might not find out or figure out.

Why can't write God? ​@@Y1836Y

If the reader is a parent, then the story will absolutely be about the parent. If the reader is a child, the story is obviously about a child.

If your fiance was to be your wife you'd be married. There are no mistakes in that. You sound angry. Angry with yourself, others, maybe even with G-d. understandable. You want and it hasn't happened. Who's to blame? Noone. We end up marrying when we like the idea of marriage on its iwn merit. Not for love Not for security. Or we're lonely. We are whole. Bored with thinking of only ourselves. Want to focus on soneone else's needs, not ours that we have figured out are unimportant. We find the one person who we can't think of being without. When we start thinking of others others see us as giving, needed rather than taking and needy. May you find your wife and devote yourself to her happiness for decades to come.

@Y1836Y thanks for your input. I sincerely hope you're living a happy life. It's comforting to know that if I can't be with the love of my life, that others have it. It's very existence is a beautiful thing whether I possess it or not. Once I had a vision that I would raise a family in the way my mom and dad raised me. With values like communication, yiddishkeit, and warmth. I offered loyalty and hard work. I did my best to make the people I had the gift of spending time with valued and their voices heard. But now I'm almost 40. The dream of children is dying, and my mom and dad are already accepting the fact that they may not have grandchildren. I do have needs, but I don't ask for much. Is it too much to ask to connect with someone who doesn't care how tall I am? Or how rich? Or whether I'm vaccinated or not? Or that I don't have the intelligence to be a programmer? Or that I want to fall in love and not just have sex and fall in love later? Or that I'm too Jewish? Or that I'm not Jewish enough? Here are MY requirements. Here's what I need from them: - the ability to receive love - the ability to give love -a kosher home -children (would be nice)

@@glennroback9102You sound like a wonderful man! Perhaps your Beshert is being born (through conversion) right now. ❤

@DrD2You thanks so much! You seem to have a lot going for you. I wish you luck with your school! I hope your degrees are serving you well.

@@Babylon2060 A lifetime? We can all have emotional strength when we know that G-d is in control. Nothing is within ours. He does His job, we do ours. We simply have to do His will.

You sound upset and horrified by the things that happened in and out of the tunnels. Understandable as most people are who learn the details. Who said 'all for the best for them'? Not in this or any other Chabad Chassidic teaching Ive heard or read. Sounds like a non Jewish idea I've heard. The teaching is that G-d, not people, decides who lives and dies and when. Those that were involved in the particular details, including any horrors inflicted prior to or after death, have to account to G-d for their involvement, G-d forbid. It's a serious situation.

I know you want an answer from Rabbi Friedmen, not me... but I want to put my two cents in anyway. Hashem is good and only does good. With our finite minds and limited awareness, we can't understand how it's good that 6 beloved kedoshim were cruely kidnapped, tortured and murdered. And yet, we know that, from a higher spiritual perspective, it is good and that it is G-d, the Master orchestrator of all of His creation. Ultimately, He is the only existence and power within that existence. Hamas has no power and no perminant existence. So we bow our heads in humility, not knowing anything of the big picture, only knowing Hashem is good and only does good. Yes, those 6 beautiful souls came to this world and left in exactly the right time and the right way - for them, for us, and for Hashem. Yes, it was good for them, though we do not understand how or why. Yes, our enemies will pay for their crimes. Yes we must live the paradox of complex reality, knowing what is evil and must be destroyed, and knowing that Hashem is One, and all is good. Inside the center of that paradox we can meet Hashem.

You answered your own question

Interesting question. We have to.repent for the intent. Without doing it, which involves returning to the us who doesn't think to intend evil, that evil us still part of us. Repenting, teshuva for Jews, means return, to G-d and our G-dly selves, resolving not to again. Being fallible, we may intend, or carry out, sin or evil. More return, with a stronger resolve "not to". .

@@Y1836Y That makes so much sense thank you for your wisdom.Also I think there is something special about the fact that maybe this person who intended evil but did good hopefully will do good again.

@@danielfeldman4291 let's see what Rabbi thinks especially Rabbi Tovia Singer

@@j.lsantos9106 I understand.

Aren't you listening?

A prison.

@@mewsez B'ezrat Hashem, I don't want it to happen again.

I don't want to hear from the global extremists again