How to Overcome Resentment Towards Your Partner When They Have it Easier in Life 

Exactly, exactly, exactly! That's my guess too.

Agreed, that's what I absorbed from it too. Idk how he can say he is working just as hard as her when its clearly not true. Maybe she wouldn't resent him if he would just acknowledge how hard she works and give her some emotional support to help cheer her on.

Yes possibly, I love this perspective. A little support from her (what should be) partner in life, some encouragement and acknowledgment is something I think is needed in every healthy happy relationship. But I also think that neither side should be arguing whether one works "harder" than the other or anyone else. Plus working "harder" shouldn't be this badge that deserves so much praise anymore. That's very much hustle culture. She's obviously likely undervalued at her job, hence the much smaller paycheck and many more hours, but that's probably another reason she's looking for validation and appreciation for that long hard work from her partner. But no one can make any assumptions about how hard someone else is actually working. That's just fact as the "hard"-Ness of anything, working, heck life in general is subjective and personal to each and every individual. So while she has no right to say she works harder than him and vice versa, she does work more hours for less pay and that is a provable fact. He should be able to validate that and support her feelings about it, but I'm sure it's hard if he feels attacked or shamed for not having to work as many hours but makes more money than her so he probably can only think of how to explain why he would be deserving of what he has himself, not thinking of it as even a situation in which he needs only to help her feel better and find clarity on her emotions. Because at the end of the day, it's as simple as her emotions on her own work situation being taken out on his work situation, and unless he's literally telling her she shouldn't switch jobs. Or unless they have children or some responsibility that is being dropped on her that would prevent her from making any changes to her own situation, or if he is actually (not just her projecting, but clearly and obviously) saying things to her that would belittle her work/business and income, then she really needs to realize her resentment towards her partner isn't actually resentment towards him but jealousy of his situation or resentment of her own choices and situation she's in. I just feel for both of them. Because, she's unhappy for at least one reason that is not exactly small, and he's either just the victim here or he's somehow actually contributing or at least not working towards helping these issues on his side either. I just think everyone needs to do couples counseling once they start having these not so tiny issues that can way too easily snowball and destroy a good relationship completely unnecessarily. And even if not couples counseling this is a perfect example why self reflection, and especially therapy in general is a healthy and should be more common thing for every individual. If she was working on this with a therapist she'd hopefully already have worked out how her own internal issues are being projected and if there's anything in their reality that is making her feel this so called resentment outside of her mind. Sorry long reply. But find these situations fascinating, especially all the new perspectives ❤️

​@@unboundbytiffany But why? Why can't she be content in her hard work AND happy for his accomplishments, as it goes to both of them?

I am trying to understand how your ex was supposed to be "supportive"? Did you tell him clearly what you needed? Was that dismissed?

She is though

@@SilverSight92 Nah

Yes thank you. He should acknowledge that and help out more when she is exhausted, not cop out saying he works just as hard when he clearly doesn't.

That's not his fault or his responsibility to carry her burden. They were only dating and not married. She just thinks his life is easier but no one knows how hard he's work and had to work to get to where is now. If she wants more financial support she should ask instead of laying in resentment.

Absolutely 👍🏻

Yeah he doesn't.

Hell no. Keep your wallet closed! She’ll make more money being a call girl. Use your Ass-etts 😉 You have a “Shelf Life” and it’s expiring. Why the hell would anyone work a crap job. There is NO guarantee that she will make more down the road. Boyfriend needs to get the hell out of there FAST.

Is she paying her fair share?

@@duaneaustin3183 the monetary contribution doesnt matter if she makes less per hour its about fairness. My boyfriend makes half my income but works more hours than i do, i dont expect him to carry 3/4 of the load of chores just because i pay 3/4 of the bills, he works hard too. We split the chores and hire a maid to help pick up the slack, and at the end of the day we have about equal amounts of freetime.

Yes. Currently in that situation with wife. Envious and jealous for sure.