How to Overcome the Fear of Judgment 

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Hey thank you, happy to read that!

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Good question, luckily it seems like tides are shifting with meditation and tapping being offered as classes in certain schools now. Not much help for you personally I'm afraid as it takes time to implement changes, but it's looking like there's at least good things coming for future generations... Focus on what you have control over, what you can do for yourself, build your emotional resilience, find your own tribe, become indifferent to what others think of you. Not as easily done, but doing this inner work is a worthwhile investment as it will affect everything (relationships, career, happiness, etc) for the rest of your life. One good thing: you're interested in this at an early age. You got this

This issue has crippled me and shot me in a downward spiraling life in which is night and day to whom I was prior to “this issue”. I feel that I have heard and tried just about everything however, I really feel that it somebody would be able to write out a list that is guaranteed to work because they’ve gone through it similar to the 12 steps of recovery but for the mind, I and many others could quicker heal.

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Hiroki, happy to hear it's helpful!

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Hi Shaza, I've got a few things lined up before that, but yes I'll put it on the list. Thanks for the suggestion, good one!

Yes, been there done that. It's an "I don't give a f*ck about anyone attitude". It's a shield of protection, covering up deep insecurity, and often shame, guilt, etc. What I'm talking about isn't 'not caring', it's 'NOT WORRYING' about what others think. Freedom lies there. I still care, because I care about other people. But who I'm being isn't altered just because someone might not like it. There are exceptions to this, like with anything. If someone is very shy or uncomfortable, I might tone my energy down a bit initially, until he or she is more comfortable. Or I might show I like the person, and give approval. But that's just intuition and good social skills. That's altering my behavior because I care, versus altering my behavior because I'm scared that I won't be liked. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

​@@Social-anxiety-solutions Thanks! However, I once recall seeing a video of yours where you readily admit to being (or aspiring to be) an 'a-hole' and have heard some real-life reviews where you actually show up in front of others who have done nothing to you in this same, totally-random, definitely obnoxious and uncalled-for, "IDGAF if I'm bothering you" way. So what gives? In some spaces you present yourself as mindful, thoughtful, caring, deliberate but in other spaces you come off as someone desperately dealing, still, w/ some of the very issues you talk so much about. Do you perhaps still just grapple w/ this stuff in your day-to-day life (appears so)? Is that all this is? You're perhaps coaching as you're still learning, yourself, but in reality you absolutely haven't mastered some of these principles yet, either?

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