How To Permanently Boost Your Confidence 

Before = Gained self-esteem from compliments After = Gained self-esteem from Charisma on Command

You know, I like how you gave this speech without editing the video or cutting out any parts. Proves your points

Hard work is the best way to raise self esteem to me, whether it's working on your body, your mind or your work. If I spent a good amount of time working hard on something I feel like a million bucks and no matter what anyone says I KNOW I've put in time into it so it gives me an incredible feeling of accomplishment, joy and pride. :)

Ignore how young he looks. This dude's thought is older than his years. Impressed.

You can smell this man's confidence from the screen.

"All that matters is how you see yourself" - Conor McGregor

I think I've watched this video 50 times. It's just pure gold that changed the way I live my life.

Interesting - After alot of self reflection, I decide to become the "me" who is the protagonist in my own great story. In other words, to always take my own advice. I just mentally ask "what would the legendary 'me' do?" or "what kind of person do I want to be?" and it really gives me guidance. That's helped alot with motivation, self-discipline, ethics and morality, and thus my self-image. It also gave me a way to identify my faults and mistakes honestly, and thus work on improving them. The hard part is that eternal vigilance, to keep remembering the method, and to not succumb to knee-jerk impulses of bad choices.

You're a great speaker man. Enjoyable to hear, fluent with nice energy. And I hope that compliment wont affect your self-esteem :D

Great video! The person who compares themselves to others is doomed to be on a roller-coaster ride of ups and downs, but when your confidence is drawn from you working hard to constantly improve and be the best person you can be, it's solid and only continues to grow as time goes on.

I can speak in front of an entire class no problem, but I cant ask a cashier how his or her day was ....wth lol

I have never met a more passionately articulate person! You have a genius in you!

Self esteem cannot come from the outside... Absolutely true. I work hard, people respect me and often ask my advice. They often come to me for both my insight and expertise.... I'll get compliments about my intelligence and work ethic and at the end of the day, I get home, look in the mirror and absolutely hate what I'm seeing. It's a strange reality... no one I know thinks of me in this way. They all think I have it together, but honestly... on the inside.. I gave up long ago and there are days I seriously consider just ending it. I'm really not trying to be melodramatic and I seriously don't want people to tell me it'll be "ok" or anything like that. I'm not looking for sympathy. I'm just pointing out, that for some people... It's easy to give everything... when you believe the worth of what you're giving is zero.

When I was younger, I used to pretend I was my favorite hero for a day, like what would my hero say\do....it is a very powerful way to get started!

Wow. You speak to the camera(audience) with complete engagement and know exactly what you're talking about without referring to notes or anything! No "like" or "um" between sentences either! You are a very impressive speaker :) Great content!

i am the kind of the person who compares himself with others , and the kind of person who tries to kill it everytime to feel good about him self . i will try to drive my confidence from within ,,,,,,,, thank you man ,,,,, this video is very helpful .

Dude Seriously your stuff is much better than all the other "gurus" out there

i must say that this is by far one of the best channels on such topics , i wanted to thank you for all the value you give us , have a great day !

True self-confidence is when you are walking on a street, and you see some piece of garbage on the street, you pick it up and throw it in the bin, while thousands have walked past it.

This video was posted exactly 4 years ago and something tells me, i should watch this on the extra day every 4 years!! Valuable!!

This video advice is gold. I've done this over the last few years, and it quadrupled my salary.One point I would add is:"Know what you are saying and why it is relevant."I still today probably couldn't stand up in front of 5 friends to tell a joke without screwing it up, but I'll gladly tell an audience of 20 company directors and executives about the business elements I am intimately familiar with.If you know what you're talking about and why those points are relevant, if you structure it in a sensible and meaningful way, and with a little thought into how you present the information, you become God in front of the crowd."Confidence" becomes a silly buzzword. You grow beyond it. That's true self-confidence.

This made me realize My self esteem is alot higher than i thought, i focus on me and my happiness. And Everyone Reading this. Its not impossible keep going

When i look at myself in the mirror i love what i see. Confidence comes from within, and saying good things about yourself to yourself more often can really help that process.

I was suffering from burnout a few years ago, like, depression and anxiety, packaged in a neat nervous breakdown. I was a wreck. But after roughly 7 sessions of therapy, I could feel myself developing self-esteem. I was always confident in my abilties (well, my brain); but still, I never felt good enough as a person without any accomplishments. So, in my case, it all boils down to knowing myself, accepting myself the way I am and then finding a way to actively use my innate talents. And I found that the "knowing yourself" is the crucial step. Like, I always thought that I was an egoistical introvert, but this was more due to the way I was raised than who I actually am.

I don’t know if you will see this but I have struggle for the longest time on connecting with people when it comes to large groups and questions to asked during one on one conversations... thanks a million

Exactly, I heard this somewhere" be the same person even if no one is watching" it's pretty much what I live by now. when I start to self doubt I'll be up on myself I ask myself if I would say to someone else. When I get angry at someone I ask myself is this something I would want others to know I think. It can be a heavyweight but it also leaves you feeling good at the end of the day! Knowing at any moment if I was dying I would have no regrets or nothing to hide.

I'm 16, still figuring things out. When I forget who I am or who I want to be, when I forget how to to put my mind where it needs to be in order to act as and believe to become my best self-, I watch your videos. I cannot express how much your videos help with my structure of thought, you help me to think to better myself in real life situations. You're my favorite RU-vidr and I love all the books you suggest, especially "predicably irrational". Thank you so much.

This is going to be my daily video until I get my shit together. You were speaking to me man.. Thank you for this video. I'm the type that gains the temporary self confidence from comparing and trying to be the best and perfect in every situation - and often times I'm not and it always ends up making my confidence worse. I'm slowly learning to find it in myself where my confidence is and this video will help a lot!

...true self-esteem comes from self-love.. and no one ever teaches you how to do that

reminds me of a quote from Ernest Hemingway, “There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.”

I use to want other people validation not necessarily a compliment but a Validation that made my self esteem, my confidence go up. From now on. I’m confident because of me, I am amazing, my mind is amazing, my body is amazing, my voice is amazing, my heart is amazing, my energy is amazing and I am happy🤍

I wish I'd had someone to tell me this years ago. Good video. This is the kind of stuff that can change people, if they are open to it.

Damn, this self-help stuff is deeper and more useful than I imagined. I will have to study these videos.

Charlie you are a charming young man. Pleasant to listen to you even without sound. Thank you !

Never doubt yourself. You were built for more amazing things than you know!

This is the truest - we delete, then distort, then generalize. We will use those mechanisms on anything that comes in through our senses. This is why when some people are complimented, they say "yeah, but x could've been better". Their self-esteem determines what makes it through their filters.

Bang on point. Competing with others is a killer of confidence and self-esteem; it just raises horrid emotions like judgment, jealousy, and non acceptance 🙏💖

My mom is the most confident person I know of, and she's not pretty nor did she come from money. She was orphaned at age 12, lied about her age to get menial, minimum wage jobs, studied like crazy in school, earned a full scholarship to college, and used her degree to get a very well-paying job. Her life path instilled in her mind that she CAN. She's self-reliant, knowing that if she must get something done, she can do it. She doesn't think she's better than others. She doesn't compare herself to them. She just knows she has incredible inner strength. It's a real self confidence that doesn't come from being told you're good looking, or because you come from a famous, affluent family. It's comes from her inner knowing that "I can."

Took me 15 years to come to this realization. Ive suffered with social anxiety since i was a teenager, when i speak to someone i often find myself being anxious and then for the next day or week i'll think about what i did wrong in that social situation. Recently i havent been as bothered by it, I'm not even conscious of what others maybe thinking about me and even when i do something goofy or unconventional it will be forgotten 5mins later. I realized that my self-esteem increased without me even trying to do so. I think its really about feeling proud of oneself. For you it might be maintaining your character and integrity. For me achieving my physical goals has meant a lot, even if they arent much by other peoples standards it means a lot for me. Thanks for the vid.

Good point coming from someone who’s good looking and probably never had any confidence issues growing up.

I wish I were like you, confident and warm. I’m sure everyone gravitates towards you

I believe in a mix of internal and external confidence. External confidence = how much money you have, your looks, your relationship status, your health (health is both intern and extern I believe) (so these are the reasons to feel proud/confident) Internal confidence = how good you feel about yourself even when the external factors are at a low point (so it's really loving yourself and being proud even if you don't have a lot of reasons to be proud about yourself)

Just so you know, you have bettered the lives of tons of people here and am pretty sure doing the right thing.

Self steem is knowing that you are a good person and deserve to be happy.

I don't know what to say. this is the best video I've seen in all my youtube years. It gives the most-clear background of self-esteem that everyone on the face of the earth needs to hear to improve themselves

I grew up with a beautician for a mom lol. Image was and continues to be super important. I was so insecure at one point that I couldn't go outside. I'm now teaching English in Japan continuously in front of others. My ultimate challenge to my image was being able to shave my head (my hairstyle dictated my image and who I thought I was for a loooooong time). I shaved my head and felt ridiculously liberated. I'm pleased to see that I've grown a lot since I was younger. Cheers to the journey.

Trying to do the right thing and fail. Being uncomfortable but feel proud of yourself that you did it. Great advices

I just found that i had huge confidence but my self asteem was lacking OMG GONNA FINALLY START LIVING TO THE FULLEST!! LOVE YOU ALL

Thanks. I have found myself comparing 'mah self to others way too much. It brings a lot of clarity to know what to call yourself out for.

Thank u for sharing! I tend to validate myself through the compliment or opinions of others but from this vid I realize I need to spend considerable amount of time finding out how I can fuel my self-esteem through my opinion of myself and by on my OWN path and hold self opinions about myself to the highest esteem over my peers. Again thanks for sharing! its what i needed to hear now.

I saw my counselor earlier today and this is exactly what he was trying to help me understand. Your enthusiasm to contagious, and a trust that you actually care about your viewers is astonishing. I'll be signing up for future studies. Ya Got Me!

You've changed my life..... Thank you very much. I am really grateful that I found your awesome channel! And I will really give advice to others like you. You are inspirational. I will share your videos to my friends and my family. Thank you again! ;)

You can't derive self esteem from within yourself until you learn to let go of the constant need for validation from others. Too many people don't know "how" to do that because it doesn't feel logical or real...and yet that's what the core most self help advice out there needs to be.

I think I have an experiment I'm gonna try to see if it boosts my confidence. Every, for a mental self esteem workout, I'm going to give myself permission to shamelessly tell myself 'Im the best' and truly believe it. Just a few minutes of complete self acceptance once a day everyday.

Hi, Self-esteem is built by accepting yourself fully. With your flaws and your good traits. Building self-esteem on being a good person is beautiful and amazing, but also is only a leg of the table that can crack - to put it with your words. Very often you will find that there is no right or wrong, because the world is not black and white. What can be good for you can be bad for someone else, so being "a good person" and "doing the right thing" can and will get after you, with feeling guilt in some situations where there is no right answer for everyone. Being ok, with not being a "good person" is key, because we all have the right to error, and still be loved. As we do love our closest with their flaws. Thank you for your beautiful work, I love your videos even if I disagreed here.

This guy is pretty fucking slick and smart for how young he is. Respect

1:25. "your self esteem is your reputation with yourself" Got my esteem in the past from... results, competence and acomplishments. Now I choose to get it from... Presence. Simply Being Here Now, mindful, aware, appreciation. ~ Meditation ~ 👍

I love you dude, you are one of the few youtubers that don’t try to sell us anything and make us feel insecure if we don’t buy their products

Self esteem is basically the outcome of wheather or not you live up to your own values

You would be a great life coach!! You can tell you live & are passionate about what you do & that’s so awesome to see. I envy your ability to do it. But it’s pushed me to go back to school after 13 years to accomplish what I REALLY love to do for a living. Thank you for your videos & your motivation! So much bad & negative content out there. It’s nice to see something that inspired & pushes us to do better & be better 😁

As a visual learner I enjoy when the channel includes scenes from interviews and movies.

i have seen lots of peak performance videos.i would say this is the one of the best videos. thank u so much for giving this great video .

i think experience is one of the best way to achieve a unbreakable self-esteem.. i mean.. everytime being in movement, evolving yourself, try to get in touch with different realities and situations.. and i think travelling is the best and fastest way to do this

thank you for what you do!

I think this may have just saved me. I remember a time when I looked up advice to help with my self esteem and I was first introduced to the notion of a “self esteem file”. This is essentially a document made for the specific purpose of recording every instance of praise you receive. The idea is that one could return to said document whenever one is feeling low levels of self esteem and this regain them. It seemed to work for a few days, but the strategy very quickly fell out of favor as I returned to my old ways of depression and depravity. I feel much more confident about the methods introduced in this video. These are the types of tips that help one banish not just the negative outlook itself, but to kill the sources at the root. It is a way for one to truly feel pride in oneself and press forward, no matter how much anxiety besets them. Looking back on it, this message sounds pretentious, but to be totally honest, I don’t really care like I normally would. In one fell swoop, I think my self consciousness has finally showed itself out of my brain. Thanks for that

The bigger question is do you want to look confident or to feel confident because these two objectives are way apart?

Words of wisdom, man. There are so many people who seek self-esteem in all the wrong places it even becomes a sad sight at times.

This is a brilliant breakdown of what Self Confidence is and the suggested strategy to raising self-esteem brings about a range of possibilities once you have had a chance to examine how you have been determining your self-esteem so far. Doing the right thing is always going to be subject to moral reasoning, and to those who choose to identify the right thing to be the socially accepted one, may find friction. Therefore, some alternative strategies must be explored. Otherwise, it is a fantastic breakdown. A must watch.

Totally true. Always do the right thing and don't give a shit what anyone else thinks or says. People with low self esteem will always try to bring you down will people with higher confidence don't feel that need because they have nothing to try to prove.

self-esteem is not something easy built for an adult man. During my childhood, there must be something seriously affects my recognition to myself. Up to now, I often feel worthless and my life is a total mess. really get inspired and hope best for next days.

So true comparing your self to others will kill your self esteem faster

Holy shet you just described the old me , comparing , trying so hard to be the best and to be liked but everyone

I'm totally with you on doing the hard thing part. I nearly every situation of life we can decide to do the easiest way we can imagine, or we can find a way that helps us grow while also achieving our current goals.

You deserve more subscribers and views. Great content dude, keep up the grind!

Awesome video! Thanks a lot for your advice! And it’s very true- we try to compare ourselves, we try to impress, we try all stuff but be our true selves and it just ends up to us feeling so insecure. You really put me at ease. We don’t have to be the best, we just have to be our best selves. After all, there’s no scale really.

thank you i had the worst week and you gave me the best advice. thank you!

Wow, this video really hit home for me. I've realized that I'm the jealous person you described at the end and I need to change. Thanks, I feel like this is going to help me so much.

Can you make a video about Muhammad Ali's supreme confidence/charisma ? The man was cocky, humble, arrogant, funny all at the same time

I really love this channel! You've helped me more than you can even imagine, I can't thank you enough!

I like this type of attitude towards life. Making the best out of every situation is a key thing in my opinion.

Not only will compliments not build up your self worth, but trusting compliments means you value external validation, which leaves you vulnerable to insults

It's for that reason that I believe the focus should never be self esteem, but self discipline. Self esteem fluctuates because it's an emotion. At times we feel like good people, at times we feel bad, but discipline is what makes us consistently efficient in the face of those fluctuations

I like you and your videos. No fluff. Very helpful.

you say that self esteem can't come from externally, but i feel good about myself when other people like me and feel bad about myself when other people dislike me for no apparent reason

I appreciate your sense of integrity.

My senior quote was "There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man. True nobility is being superior to your former self."

This video has been the most helpful to me, Thank you so much. I wish I could underline that. I was that guy that could just walk into any room and dance. Literally dance. I'm well revered in my circle of friends. I'm the fun. Crazy. Nice. Guy. And now in my career a lot of people come to me literally as if I'm the boss. But I've noticed lately something has been off. Id leave work without a smile. I'd be drained. Ive been basing my esteem from good performances wheb actually in my work they don't praise and feedback rarely happens. So it's mainly through that lack of compliments. I realize now I need to express myself to my superiors and help the people that come to me through them. By voicing my own opinions, while still respecting there's. I don't think highly of myself at work, I let my administration walk over me when I help their employees and they don't even know, it eats at me sometimes. I don't want to cause problems but I've been low because I'm not doing the right thing.

Them 'friends' who try to destroy self confidence when you have it are the worse

Wow, you are a very smart guy!!!:)

5 keys to be more confident - Write out your achievement, Be prepared, Be positive, Don't accept failure & Change your body language.

If you are ok you have it. Plain and simple.

Six Pillars of Self Esteem-N. Brande . I highly recommend this book to anyone who is willing to build some core confidence.

wow.that really hit me. my selfasteamfountain doesnt come from compliments or good grammar. its from goals

Whenever people ask me about the components about the blueprint of my self-confidence, I have the same answers. First component: I don't care. I don't care what other people think about me, and when I help them it is done unconditionally. You gotta help people not because you want them to think about you in some way, but do so because that would be respecting your bushido. Not caring what others think is a superpower along with stoicism. Second component: Integrity. Integrity is part of self-respect. If you owe something to someone, give it back. If you promised yourself something, pay respect to that promise. If you made a plan for tomorrow, follow through. This will harness willpower and gives you the confidence that you can achieve anything. Third component: Self-love. You can tell when someone is wearing flamboyant clothes just to impress you. You can also tell when someone is wearing flamboyant clothes because they have self-love, value and self-respect. Whenever you do something, focus on it as if you're doing it for yourself. Don't study because you want to ace the exam and get on with it. Study because you're teaching yourself new things, because you enjoy learning and the overall experience. That's the main element of those people who exude charisma when they have a book between their hands. They're focus solely on the experience of teaching themselves and expanding their knowledge, without a care about people around them. Fourth component : For those leaders or future leaders of you. A leader loves his followers unconditionally, elevates them, and never puts them down. He doesn't denigrate them when they're feeling like shit, apologetic, can't keep eye contact, weak body language, weak voice,self-sabotaging...etc, just to boost his ego. Also, a leader can only lead his followers with confidence if he has harnessed the certainty, without a shadow of doubt, of having arrived mentally where he's going to lead them. If their plan is to reach point Z from point A, then in his mind, he's already there.

Thanks a lot for the insight. I had acknowledged it but never gave it a second thought. I am really thankful for the ‘pure’ content that you post and help, I don’t know how many people. Bless you.

This is gold. Thank you!

God damn this is deep only if your ready to get the message

Great videos, but one thing I haven't seen addressed yet (unless I completely missed it) is posture. I find when I slouch that my confidence really drops, so I implemented an exercise that really helps boost me. Wherever I am or doing, I'll start from the bottom and work my way up and repeat this mantra: stomach, chest out, shoulders back, head up and eyes forward. It does wonders for my confidence and invigorates me. Certainly something to consider.

good advice. it doesn't matter if others like you, the only thing that matters is that you like yourself

Thank you Charlie for the enormous effort you put into your videos. They are helpful and powerful! Thank you.