How To Build Self-Esteem - The Triple Column Technique (CBT) 

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For real!

No you shouldn’t because people decline after a certain age.

@@NN-fz4pd I agree

With love..No, we are not our past, we are only our present self. Good or Bad, comparing yourself to how you used to be will only lead to more issues. (The only person you should ever compare yourself to is the person who you are now) . . . keep going and when u fall remember you choose if u wanna pick yourself up or stay down. Fight for yourself worth fight for a happiness in your day, accepting the worst days and taking the punches of the problems u go through. You are now and what matters is now not then or when

Decline? The ability to love or be kind or compassionate declines with age?

I got a problem where people say stuff about me that's not true then I start thinking maybe there right I'm weak minded

Love the part about talking to the little kid (our weaker, vulnerable selves) and a photo to focus on that younger self.

I love this.

@@paytonmaetzig6927 to be honest it works really well, you end up with a lot of compassion for your self, and a lot more empathy and forgiveness for others, I still carry the picture of my 8year old self sitting on Santas knee 🥰

I will try this! Thanks for sharing 🙏🏼

Wise words! Thank you!

LB Remember that you are worthy and valuable just as you are. you have unique strengths and talents, and you have the power to overcome any challenges. Everyone makes mistakes and has weaknesses, its important to focus on your own personal growth and development instead of comparing yourself to others. Believe in yourself and have faith in your own abilities. you are loved and supported, and you have the power to create a fulfilling and meaningful life for yourself.

I found it out today. Sometimes on weekends I’d get so anxious just of the thought of doing nothing. Today I finally found out that it’s because I constantly compare myself to others and that it’s in fact my lack of self confidence that has caused all of this

@@golemstalkerxoxo1134I’m on the same journey.

Im am on the same journey, self reflect every day and keep working with the tools to help with your improvement. I wish you all the best.

Hi Ten. Any good CBT books that you can recomend?

Did i write this ?? 🤯

God bless you

That is cognitive distortion! 😁 Your statement may be correct. I do not know... An analogy of your statement: it would be better to have... $1,000 (self compassion)... than $1 (self-esteem)... But that $1 is SOMETHING isn't it? Better having $1 than $0...!

I fail to see how this is useful...

​@@profet1385Self-esteem is based upon succeeding in feeling the way you want, self-compassion is being kind to yourself regardless of how you feel :)

@@UnexpectedAmy yup 😁 that is good thing

Havent seen girls that look like u in years

@@krash6951 😂

@@ari_jean real talk tho lol

​@krash6951 what tf are you talking about

Bullseye 🎯

Ironically, confidence and social ability can be produced and nurtured through CBT.

Thats precisely why we should learn to find solutions that work for us in order to be able to surpass our own limitations & get to whare we want to be with ourselves . Besides this, what can we expect from a 9 and a half minute video. Im not even disagureeing with you per say, but your coment is worded in such a way, as if its pointless to even try. ( tho i cant say what your intent was. Ill assume your intent wasnt to say that ) Typically, its usually a negative feeling that comes first, and then the negative rationalisations for why we feel inadequate that come second, and they tend to make things worst, and really, this is what this technique aims to eleviate. What can we really do against a feeling if inadequasy by our selves in the moment as it happens except potencially having already implanted some series of thoughts to be triggered when the feling arises in order for us to combat the feeling with at least a reality check, and if that doesent work, then a breathing technique could eleviate a bit, or perhapse a strong belief in the idea that its okay to feel bad sometimes and that the feeling will go away if we give it some time, and etc. What i dont like about the aproach youve taken in your coment, is that you offered critisism without offering a potencial solution or resource, or some general direction, which to someone who isnt very aquainted with this feild, it can look like: " oh, well, i guess they're right, what can i do if i simply had a bad childhood" Of course, our childhood shapes us, but it typically doesent rob us from our abuility to adapt.( tho it can severely undermine our abuility and want, to do so ) Anywho, hope i didnt come off too mean, i interpreted your coment like you were beeing smug, so i went in smug myself 😅 Have a nice day

To add one thing. Sometimes it is a fact that a negative emotion is caused by a negative thought, and this is whare this approach can help. From personal experience. Just the fact that i started noticing when i was overgeneralising, has significantly reduced my negative thinking, and as a result my negative emotions as well. Tho admitedly, this videos title might not be the best descriptor of the content itself. I do think that without developing a logocal framework for working bad ideas out, its will make building self esteam quite difficult.

akryloth Remember that you are worthy and valuable just as you are. you have unique strengths and talents, and you have the power to overcome any challenges. Everyone makes mistakes and has weaknesses, its important to focus on your own personal growth and development instead of comparing yourself to others. Believe in yourself and have faith in your own abilities. you are loved and supported, and you have the power to create a fulfilling and meaningful life for yourself.

@@Samanthax1221 It's not often I get such a nice comment, so thank you for that. I'm having multiple problems with ''you're worthy and valuable just as you are''. What kinda worth and value are we talking about, what does that even mean? It doesn't really say anything. Same counts for ''believe in yourself''. Same vagueness. For the abilities, strengths and talents. Haven't found em. There's nothing I'm particularly good at. Luckily I don't often compare myself to others. There's simply no justification to not have a low self esteem.

@@ZTRCTGuy Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with me. It's important to recognize that everyone has their own unique abilities, strengths, and talents, and it's okay if you haven't discovered yours yet. It's a journey and sometimes it takes time to uncover what we are truly passionate about and what we excel at. As for worth and value, it's important to understand that you are valuable and worthy just because you exist, not because of what you do or what you achieve. You are a unique and special individual, and you should strive to believe in yourself and your own worth, even if you struggle with low self esteem. It's also important to remember that it's okay to have moments of self-doubt and to make mistakes. We all have them. What's important is how we choose to move forward and learn from those experiences. Believe in yourself and your own abilities, and don't be too hard on yourself. You are capable of great things and you have the potential to achieve your goals and dreams.

Bro same haha, I’m just waiting to be diagnosed with MDD because there’s no other explanation as to why I despise myself so much and I have no energy most of the time

Yes “ as a man thinketh so is he” 👍

who else is here

i am

Hi. I have been suffering from negative thoughts for 16 years now. i want to change myself at least now because i hate being unhappy. can you please tell me a way to start.

@@r.g6170 same

That's the spirit 👍

Did it help?

How's it going?

@@hayateaxel5380 good so far

@@theresadeltoro3725 great to hear!