Everybody has that internal voice that brings them down, we have to turn that voice into our friend instead of our enemy, sometimes it’s right to question our motives, and if it turns out to be bad judgement on your behalf you must own your mistake and look for a positive lesson, being human can be hard work, forgive yourself if you get it wrong. A therapist once told me to guide myself like a parent would guide a child, he even encouraged me to carry a picture of my childhood self around with me, he told me every time I judge my behaviour or reactions to be wrong, talk to the little kid in the picture to educate them, and remember to give them/you the unconditional love they deserve.
@@paytonmaetzig6927 to be honest it works really well, you end up with a lot of compassion for your self, and a lot more empathy and forgiveness for others, I still carry the picture of my 8year old self sitting on Santas knee 🥰
With love..No, we are not our past, we are only our present self. Good or Bad, comparing yourself to how you used to be will only lead to more issues. (The only person you should ever compare yourself to is the person who you are now) . . . keep going and when u fall remember you choose if u wanna pick yourself up or stay down. Fight for yourself worth fight for a happiness in your day, accepting the worst days and taking the punches of the problems u go through. You are now and what matters is now not then or when
Instead of “talking back” to negative thoughts, in some aggressive way, we can instead speak loving words to ourselves to rewire the brain with positive reinforcement.
LB Remember that you are worthy and valuable just as you are. you have unique strengths and talents, and you have the power to overcome any challenges. Everyone makes mistakes and has weaknesses, its important to focus on your own personal growth and development instead of comparing yourself to others. Believe in yourself and have faith in your own abilities. you are loved and supported, and you have the power to create a fulfilling and meaningful life for yourself.
When a psychiatrist told me my anxiety was obviously stemming from my low self-esteem, I felt so defensive. I went home angry, and started reading about self-esteem and realized that he was 100 percent correct. The problem with CBT is that it works so very well that you eventually almost forget that you were suffering and eventually fall back into the habits that caused the self esteem issue to begin with. Thank you so much for making this video, and making it in your awesome accent: it made it more human and compassionate feeling. I get so low sometimes that I see old videos about musicians who killed themselves and it destroys me. I think of friends I've lost and how alone I feel. I don't fit into a political "box" or category and when people tell me I have to chose a "side" it really causes me mental anguish, as I am a Bohemian at heart. I live and am very Liberal minded, but I understand why many people are traditional, and I feel defensive FOR them when Liberal friends attack them. I wish I could make everyone in this world be kinder to one another - for my sake! I guess at heart, I will always be a soft hippie who loves animals and quietness. I feel like an outsider. As a result, I have had on and off drug issues for years. It numbs the pain, for a minute.
I found it out today. Sometimes on weekends I’d get so anxious just of the thought of doing nothing. Today I finally found out that it’s because I constantly compare myself to others and that it’s in fact my lack of self confidence that has caused all of this
That is cognitive distortion! 😁 Your statement may be correct. I do not know... An analogy of your statement: it would be better to have... $1,000 (self compassion)... than $1 (self-esteem)... But that $1 is SOMETHING isn't it? Better having $1 than $0...!
I have created a three column worksheet with the cognitive distortions briefly described below the columns for reference. Handy, because I do most of these distortions in a big way. I’m glad that by shutting off the critical, negative inner voice, I will have good self esteem. Developing a whole new self esteem from scratch seemed daunting. So this is good! Thanks
Hey you. Stop scrolling for a moment. Put your hand over your heart. Take some deep breaths. Feel that beat? What you feel is the is a beat of purpose. Feeling better? It was a tough day but you made it through, tomorrow will be anew. Keep moving forward, blessings are on their way! Blessing from a life advancement RU-vidr!
Today I will practice self-care by making decisions based on what serves feeds and nurture my spirit I will stop apologizing For rejecting negative energies That deplete my spirit I alone am responsible for my happiness  with this acknowledgment I forfeit victimhood while embracing freedom It is only when we let go of that which dulls our inner light that we are able to connect With our dreams Anything less is embezzlement of our own soul self pillaging an infraction upon your own destiny Sister Grace 
I have my own version of the three column practise. Hence, when I saw it on here, I felt quite proud of myself. I've been doing things right all along, but it will take time until it becomes second-nature
Many years I suffered, lots of videos about many things, but this one is the one I was searching for and needed. Lost these techniques a long time ago, now I feel already cured.
Just a tip for others with this problem: I couldn't see the cognitive distortions myself, so I asked Chat GPT, and it was actually so helpful. It used all of those mentioned in the video.
These videos are awesome. I recognise at least 6 distortions that I actively do. I made a word document with everything you said so I can go back and find the correct matching distortion, did the 3 columns for the first time, labelled them and then gave solid self defence to it. Going to do this for a while in hopes it helps me feel better in my own skin :)
Good tool for all of us who are looking to change our self talk. Will try as it seems simple and I think more real and practice instead of being perfect. Thanks for your good work.
Hi. I have been suffering from negative thoughts for 16 years now. i want to change myself at least now because i hate being unhappy. can you please tell me a way to start.
Learning about the importance of self-reflection and taking time for oneself resonated deeply with me. Allocating meaningful time for self-discovery and growth has been an essential part of boosting my self-esteem.
Something that helped me silence the inner critic was listening to motivational speakers like Eric Thomas and Les Brown (lots of videos on YT). I listened to them multiple times a day, when I woke up or before bed etc. So, I essentially brainwashed myself. However, what I heard in those videos eventually helped my thinking and quieted my inner critic. Hope this helps.
The voice, the critical, arguing voice, pushes me to become better, while telling me im not good enough, and i believe that im not good enough, no one ever is, not me, not you, not that ceo from whatever company, if everyone was good enough, we wouldnt be living right now
Thanks for revealing the technique. One effective way to build self-esteem is by using the Triple Column Technique in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). Write down a negative thought in the first column, challenge it with a rational response in the second column, and write down how you feel after reframing the thought in the third column. Repeat this exercise regularly to retrain your brain to think more positively and build your self-esteem. Remember, you deserve to feel good about yourself and this technique can help you get there!
Thank you for this video! Extremely concise and useful. The quotes, simple visuals, and your kind voice makes self-help enjoyable! Those symbols for the distortions are extremely handy. Cheers!
The problem with this thing is the third column. If you were able to mentally defend yourself against these thoughts you wouldn't have low self esteem to begin with. the problem is that you cannot come up with a defense because you believe the cognitive distortions to be true. Wether they're actually true doesn't matter in this case. That's why I've found this technique to be thoroughly ineffective at least with myself. I'm a logical person, I can very well rationalize the cognitive ''distortions'' with arguments taken from the real world. And this makes solving your low self esteem so difficult.
akryloth Remember that you are worthy and valuable just as you are. you have unique strengths and talents, and you have the power to overcome any challenges. Everyone makes mistakes and has weaknesses, its important to focus on your own personal growth and development instead of comparing yourself to others. Believe in yourself and have faith in your own abilities. you are loved and supported, and you have the power to create a fulfilling and meaningful life for yourself.
@@Samanthax1221 It's not often I get such a nice comment, so thank you for that. I'm having multiple problems with ''you're worthy and valuable just as you are''. What kinda worth and value are we talking about, what does that even mean? It doesn't really say anything. Same counts for ''believe in yourself''. Same vagueness. For the abilities, strengths and talents. Haven't found em. There's nothing I'm particularly good at. Luckily I don't often compare myself to others. There's simply no justification to not have a low self esteem.
@@ZTRCTGuy Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings with me. It's important to recognize that everyone has their own unique abilities, strengths, and talents, and it's okay if you haven't discovered yours yet. It's a journey and sometimes it takes time to uncover what we are truly passionate about and what we excel at. As for worth and value, it's important to understand that you are valuable and worthy just because you exist, not because of what you do or what you achieve. You are a unique and special individual, and you should strive to believe in yourself and your own worth, even if you struggle with low self esteem. It's also important to remember that it's okay to have moments of self-doubt and to make mistakes. We all have them. What's important is how we choose to move forward and learn from those experiences. Believe in yourself and your own abilities, and don't be too hard on yourself. You are capable of great things and you have the potential to achieve your goals and dreams.
Bro same haha, I’m just waiting to be diagnosed with MDD because there’s no other explanation as to why I despise myself so much and I have no energy most of the time
I never compare myself… I struggle feeling deserving of a victory, success, awards, promotions. I simply do not care about them yet want them so that’s the paradox. When I do close in on a big bonus, a reward, a week or two of a consistent progress towards a goal, I suddenly give in, and catastrophe sets in. I ensure that the success is completely gone like it never existed
