How to Protect Yourself as an Empath or HSP! | Stephanie Lyn Coaching 

When someone show u their true colors never ever try to repaint them

Biggest lesson for empaths and HSP’s to know is that you have control over your life. Learning to put yourself first is essential. Especially for people like us.

“We believe everyone’s a good person” that line said it all I’m definitely learning how to see people for who they are

Yes that's me and I'm sick and tired of being used by people especially in the work force.

Removing yourself from negative energies and practicing self- care and self- love, learning how to connect with yourself Great video ♡♡♡ thank you !

When she talked about reminding yourself that other people's problems aren't my problem, I really felt that. Especially with friends because I feel like I have to be there for my friends and help them but I can't always bring up their problems .

I have recognised that I am like a sponge that absorbs other people’s emotion and like a mirror who reflect how other people behaves towards me. Now I know I am an “Empath”. This is very eye opening for me to deal with my attachments and emotions. Thank you for this video.

OMG I started thinking something was wrong with me because people's energy really affects me and I couldn't understand why I feel so drained after just having certain people around me and if I talk to them OMG I have headaches and I low energy. I started to isolate myself or avoid certain people. Thank you for explaining how to deal with this feeling

I've had to repent of my savior complex. We have to respect other's free will and right to make their own mistakes and pay for their own consequences. I'm a recovering people pleaser and I'm also setting boundaries with the toxic people in my life. It's good to mature and save your energy for when you really need to share your empathy. Moreover, I've learned that healthy relationships are NOT a competition. Live and let live!

Thank you for this video. I'm a highly sensitive empath. When I meet new people I usually hope for friendship. It always saddens me that they just want to take advantage of my generosity. I'm on a path to recognize them, healing, and self love.

I moved to Hawaii so I'm always by the ocean, it's such a replenishing and peaceful energy to be around.

These videos truly help. I don’t have much support or anyone to vent to about my struggles with my narcissist ex who is also the father of my children. You’ve truly helped me get through so much in the past month. 💜

Thank you... I was with a group of energy vampires for a very long time... Like years longer than the point that i knew that they were destroying me every day with their negativity... But i got myself out and am slowly but surely discovering what and who I really am... Learning boundaries is a very large and important part of this transformation... Also it soothes my heart to know that there are more kind and sweet people in the world like me cuz this state can be very confusing, overwhelming and lonely sometimes... It also dosent help when you have a moral code that is far higher than the people around you

Thank you for this video, I recently discovered I am an empath and highly sensitive to other’s energies. I wish there were more people like that out there as it can be a very lonely feeling when you are unable to connect with many people on a deeper level and dealing with people close to you that don’t understand the need to remove yourself from a negative situation or person as we feel it so much more strongly than other’s. It is a gift but can be very draining as well 😔

I saw a few therapists when I was younger and every one of them told me I was carrying someone else’s shame. I couldn’t understand what they meant until I uncovered a family secret and realised I was so empathic that I had been carrying the shame of another family member without even knowing I was doing it. I now know when I’m picking up someone else’s feelings. It is hard to step back sometimes but I am getting better at it. Thanks for these videos. Xxxxx

As someone with bpd (borderline personality disorder), this video really helped me. I struggle with letting go of negative people/situations because of the rooted fear in abandonment. The ups and down of idolization/ devaluation also make it more complicated. I’ve been working on being more self aware and working towards letting things go. I feel like borderline is really similar to being a highly sensitive person. It’s only hard because I’m so use to the negative or chaos that I tend to cause it myself. It’s what I’m use too.

I am both HSP and enphathetic. That's why I 've suffered a lot when I constantly met the wrong person. Yes, I had several boy friends before. I didn't really love them. I just thought it may hurt them if I reject them. Then, I got hurt more. Now I know. Thank God. My husband is a good guy. He respect me and give me support always!

Being an empath is so exhausting. I was constantly looking at negativity by watching the news. I week ago I decided to stop looking at the news. It has helped me with my energy level by not having so many negative thoughts constantly bombarding my brain. Thank you.

I am a empath, HSP and also have asperger syndrome, witch makes my life harder in general. People love to put all their junk on me and I am learning slowly basiclly everyday when to back off and focus on myself and God. I do get all my positive energy by spending time with Jesus och listening to worship music to calm down my soul and energy, it truly does really help! It gives me such a deep innerpeace state, both in my mind and soul. I sleep better, feel better, more blissfull and calmer overall. Try Jesus if you haven´t yet for everyone and anyone reading this! And yes, I truly do love my alone time :)

It's a gift and a curse for sure 😔🙏

Work on yourself ....then boom you’re healthy mind, body and soul 💯 💯 💯

Yayyy I'm both 😐 that's why I'm usually alone 😂

I wish I could find more people who were empathetic and hsp. It gets lonely when you’re surrounded by people who don’t operate like you.

It would be so hard for me because I would want to help everybody. Then I would be sad because when I would need help rarely then I felt like I had nobody to lean on...

Newly embracing that I’m an empath has been the most freeing information.

I don’t know if I’m relieved by this or more discouraged. I’ve always known I’m an empath. As the fifth of six children, my mother always called me her heart child. My problem is I know I’m supposed to “regulate” my heart towards people but I just can’t. Even though my heart is shattered right now, I’ll still believe the good in all of them. I truly believe it’s why I’m here. I’ll leave you with my favorite Marlon Brando quote... “They’re a great people, Kal-El. They wish to be. They merely lack the light to show the way. It is for this reason, above all, their capacity for good, that I have sent them you...”

Toxic is understatement PEOPLE ARE SOOOOO FAKE AND MEAN AND JEALOUS AND SPITEFUL and always looking for a new and creative way to dig at you it’s ridiculous

Very good information. I'm wide awake at 5 a.m. and thought I would check to see what was positive. Empaths are a soft target for every unthinking lump, for every entitled individual they meet . All it takes is one good 2 minute rant to straighten out everyone taking advantage of me oh, and I am now left alone with respect.. My neighbors have never heard me talk about an inside voice so they thought they could take advantage.. they see me differently now in a good way.. one came to me and apologized unconditionally. Who knows what they're saying behind my back, but they won't say it to my face Away from my little dead end Street, out in the world, I shut people down as the need arises. It doesn't feel right but it has to be done so I can have peace. This channel is well worth subscribing to

Throughout the video, I was saying, "Yes, this is me. This is what I do." Thank you so much. I was in a narcissistic relationship and I gave chance after chance, always wanting to believe what I was being told. When I was just being told what I wanted to hear at the time. I have my own faults because no one is perfect, but I think some of my reactions were just because of the relationship I was in. Since my divorce, most of my relationships have all been with a narcissist and I have since decided to take this time to just be myself. I seem to draw those narcissists to me like a moth to a flame and I just don't have the energy to deal with that sort of relationship any longer.

My goodness. This video was for me. Your channel is such a blessing. Thank you for what you do.

This video felt like a literal 12 minute warm hug to me! Sending love and happy energies your way!

So totally resonate with you. Have also found my need for magnesium (the calming mineral), zinc, and B vitamins goes way up with any kind of stress.

Over the years, I have become extreeeeeeeeemly discerning of toxic people.......so my alarm bells go off instantly and I disengage myself immediately thankfully.....

It is vital to learn to let go of the relationships which are not good for us empaths and realise we are not the saviours of the world. You can not help anybody who is not willing to be lost. And there are plenty of those who don’t take responsibility for their own lives and would happily transfered their burdens onto somebody else’s shoulders. We need our eyes to be wide open.

You just described me and my life within minutes. Thank goodness it’s not only me that feels all of that. 😊 🎉

I've become very isolated so I sometimes go to activities and talk to new people but often feel like my energy is draining away very quickly when they start talking. I think it's when people start telling me all about their lives, problems, opinions immediately and I feel overwhelmed and panicked at being expected to stand and listen, process and respond. When all I wanted was a light hearted chat about the activity at least initially. Another reason is people having opposing opinions to me and rather than enter into debate or conflict I try to smile and nod but want to get away. Occasionally I do meet calm, warm, thoughtful, gentle souls who seem to like, accept and respect me who don't expect me to be their instant free therapist and who instead are curious about getting to know me as a genuine friend, I like people like that. The challenge is not knowing who is who when meeting new people and getting drained by the former type of people then isolating myself to recover.

💯✅ Guided meditation when you go to bed & aromatherapy is great! Walking at the beach is calming also. Be good to yourself & get rid of toxic people. I’m loving my own company atm. Learning how to say no! Healing....Thank you! 💕

Dear Stephanie, thank you so very much for this information today! I’ve been really struggling with a major lesson in “ over giving “ today! It’s taken me far too long to learn that not everyone wants your help! I’m exhausted, and devastated right now after having realised that I have upset my beautiful sister with my wanting to “fix “ her, and wondered why she was upset with me! Thank you, and other coaches like you, who are helping us to walk this path in the way we should! Blessed be, Brigid from Australia 🙏😇🌹❤️💕💚💙💜🤗😁

For years I was told I was “too sensitive” by my family and I genuinely thought it was me who had the problem, channels like yours helped me realise it’s them being cold and callous that’s the issue

It's crazy how many empaths have that moment,. The moment u realize ur not alone or weird . The joy I felt was intoxicating

Reconnecting with your Maker is the best way. Comfort always follows.

this video appeared on my youtube stream at the most perfect and necessary time for me today, especially amidst the mostly overwhelming, stressful, and very unnecessary for me to even know about yet alone not waste my time and energy even giving attention to. thank you for making this video, and even though its several years since you made it, i hope its every bit as relevant and true for you today as it was then, especially regarding you finding a little moment for yourself to get out of the house and enjoy a walk or time spent in a beautiful place in nature, maybe the beach, mountains, a nearby park or field or tree grove or garden or something like that :)

This video was so helpful!! It feels good to not be alone in these feelings of an HSP. Thank you for sharing.

I usually don’t like labels but this describes an undeniable part of my personality. I’ve hated this part of me for so long but I’m realising that it’s not our of your control. You aren’t destined to be used and abused, you can take responsibility and set healthy boundaries. And you don’t have to enable the narcissistic dysfunctions. You can make a conscientious decision everyday to CHOOSE you!! Prioritise YOU. When you have healthy love for yourself it can protect you from the ones who tend to leech off us. Thanks for the video ❤️❤️❤️

I really like what you said about opening the windows, getting sunlight and being in nature. I’ve always needed to have the windows open, even when it’s cold and I need to sleep in a cool room with fans blowing air around. I feel absolutely suffocated when I’m in peoples homes that have closed windows and blinds and it makes me want to run away and I feel like I can’t breathe! I need sunlight every day and gloomy weather gets me down. The lack of light affects me and I’m so much happier when it’s sunny and I love the wind. It’s like my body and soul need the energies to be able to move freely to keep me refreshed and to be able to clear out any lingering emotions and energies that otherwise just stagnant and suffocate me. I’m an extreme empath and highly sensitive and I not only feel other peoples feelings, I can read their actual thoughts more often than not. I’m a carer, helper, counselor type and I see very clearly where people need to make changes to improve their lives and I very much want to help them. I’ve learned over time that most people honestly don’t want to change, are afraid of it and won’t take help when it’s offered so the saying “do not cast your pearls before swine” really applies. I have to limit my exposure to most people and I prefer my solitude and quiet time, doing my own things. I have been single for many years and I’m never lonely and I finally accept the way I am and embrace it and love myself. Emotional vampires are everywhere and I can’t do anything about it so I am very selective about who I associate with. I give my all to those who I love and care for but I still take the private time that I need and that’s ok.

The sad part is when you realize that someone is just leeching on everything others do to just benefit themselves. But when your abillities to care and listening to others actually is making them better is priceless. But sometimes you don't know until years later when you meet them again and they actually tell you about it. Because we often attract strangers for no reason apparently, which it is not. It is because of what you are and they are drawn to you. Unfortunatly we attract lesser desireable people too and we must learn to deal with that, otherwise we will harm ourselves.

*There is nothing wrong with you* Empath and HSP is a personality trait and a gift. Read, study, and learn about this. Learn how to ground, block, and use your gift. We are here for a reason. We aren't victims. We balance out the negativity and benefit ourselves and others.

Thank you making this video!!!! I am literally entering a phase in my life where I’m beginning to seriously hate who I am as highly sensitive person/empath!!!! Perfect timing! I really need to learn how to use this gift appropriately and not let it be something that crushes me

Sleeping on a grounding mat made a huge difference for me. I always had so much tension and anxiety in my chest, first night with a grounding mat it was all gone. Never felt more connected with myself and at ease.

I needed to hear this so badly right now. I'm going through such a hard time. I havent eaten for 3 days. My anxiety is through the roof. And everyone around me is having a hard time too. And I've been neglecting myself. Yesterday I finally said, I love you, i want to be here for you, but i need tonight to myself. And it broke my heart to say, but I'm thankful. Because I needed to be alone so i can heal my own wounds.

This is the 2nd time I’ve watched this video. The 1st time was when I was still in an abusive marriage. This time is nearly a length divorce and it still resonates, maybe more so now. My therapist told me today she thinks I should say to myself everyday that “I’m an empath” to remind me of who I am.

I hv learnt so much on balancing and embracing my strengths as an empath. I think it's a key skill that took time but it's worth it.

My wife constantly talks shit about you stephaine ! But you help me out so much ! You help me understand the toxicity I am constantly getting abused by. Thank you

I struggle at work, still... I wish I could have the ability to stop time sometimes. Being assertive requires courage

Ask yourself...What do you need? How can I help you? Wow. That really hit me. So true!

This is great information. Setting boundaries for ourselves and other it is a daily healing process .

This is soo good. I need this. Everybody finna think I’m the biggest asshole but I need this for Me 💯

This video is so helpful! I always have to remind myself to actually believe it, when people show me their "true selves". Sometimes I am so caught up by what the other person is feeling, that I can no longer get a hold of what I am feeling at the moment. I still have to figure out a way to keep my energy bubble up and not immediately engage in whatever feeling the other person is feeling. It's really hard! But I am looking forward to learning it!

Hi Stephanie 💞 I relate to everything you said. I believe that haters are drawn to us bc our energy is healing to them. They just don't realize why they are obsessed with us bc they have 0 self awareness. I love my time alone 💟 I am sending love, peace and joy to all of my fellow empaths.✝️

Thank you Stephanie I needed to hear your words. I'm an Empath who is being drawn in so many directions I never knew what I was and why I was so different from everyone in my family. I'm 59 yrs old and have just started to find me and control my actions and responses as can empath and its unreal the peace I have found.. I can watch a tv program and pick up the feelings from the actors! It crazy to think I was going insane. No one ever told me I was an HSE.. now I know I'm gifted and I use the gift to benefit not only myself but others as well

You spoke to my soul!! I felt naked!! I truly appreciate you for making this video, becauseI was starting to think I was just weak. You made me feel seen and not alone.

I'm an empath and HSP which I'm sure that all the people who are as well can see clearly that we are a target for the Narcassists supply. It is extremely important to realize the toxic impact they place upon our heart and soul. My Exhusband, Mother, two Brothers and Sister are all Narcassists which is the reason I'm well aware of their trates, I can spot them a mile away. I saved my life when I walked away from all of them and wished I had done it sooner. We have to face the truth that we are and will always be a magnet to them but watching this video will really help providing you take all the advice from this amazing lady who also sniffs them out of a crowd I'm sure🙏

I've relied on these abilities my entire life. I've been reading people and situations since I was a little boy. Intuitiveness, deep level empathy and a built in bullshit detector have gotten me through. I've always relied on my feelings and those feelings never let me down. I didn't realize there was a name for it.

I needed this. Every word resonated with me. I really identify as empathetic and highly sensitive. I have been collecting crystals and burning sage and palo alto in order to cleanse myself everyday and maintain a clean protected safe space to come home to! I am working on my emotional boundaries so that I will no longer be as affected as I am from friends and situations!

Finding out that I poses these traits has helped me a ton. Being a highly sensitive empath has been difficult to say the least. Taking on others issues and problems to help is extremely exhausting! What I have learned to do is understanding what I can help with and what I can’t. I have also learned to start giving to myself more. In my opinion I am blessed to be able to feel others emotions! Thanks for sharing this topic!

Oh my gosh! This is so true! I feel like I am so broken because of it. Its hard to become whole again and I think its because I dont set healthy boundaries to stop getting to involved in other people or taking on their energies

Always helpful with great descriptions that really help. Thank you Stephanie 🤗💞

THANK YOU SO MUCH !!! ❤❤❤🤙🏼 7 years later still helping to save and change lives !!! Props to you !!!!!🎉🎉😊

Ugh! I really needed to hear ALL of this! Learning to create & IMPLEMENT boundaries. Thank you so much, sweet girl.

Thanks so much for your support again Stephanie with another of your videos. I find that your insights and views help me to balance the hell that goes on inside my mind and open up doors to new perspectives.

Love your videos, Stephanie!! Your video on "How to Protect Yourself as an Empath/Sensitive People"...was just SPOT ON!! Many of the ones you have are...& SO helpful. Thank you so much for what you do & for helping so many!! 💗💗

Yes, that is me to the core. I need to spend more time with self-love and self-care. I have been neglecting that area in my life. Thank you for your wisdom. I really appreciate it.

Nurturing your soul I like that :) Nice tips Stephanie..

Thank you for this video bive been waiting for something on this particular topic, especially from you. Your videos have helped me navigate through a rough emotional journey of healing and standing up for myself. I subjected myself to so much emotional trauma because I couldn't handle this constant drain on my energies. Emotinal manipulation is often so subtle. I couldn't vent, I couldn't complain , I could hardly explain it to anyone, and I couldn't fight back. In the past few months your videos helped me navigate through so many issues. It's like talking to dear friend, a soul sister. ♥️

I'm about to be 38 years old, and recently i had starting to Discover these traits on myself , that i have always feel like shit because i was so freaking sensitive and My origin family are like rock , didnt know that beeing as i am was ok , surely less i didnt know how to protect myself. Because i havent discovered My self yet. Society exalts this superthought ultra competitive peoole and with this traits i'm out of that. Do i want to be any different as i discover i am , i don't , but before i cursed this overwelming gift ✨ Thank You Stephanie 💗 You bring me peace and hope to find My empaths Friends ☺️ someday and these are really good and welcoming advices ✨

Thank you! Great video! I never knew I had a label Sensitive/Empath and it’s really shed light on wonderful ME & why I do what I do etc. and it’s now nice to know why taking care of me by setting boundaries, avoiding negative ppl/situations and prioritizing me w/ alone time, exercise, healthy eating & habits. I know why now I’m depleted all the time and how I need more re-energizing alone time to rejuvenate my own energy.

This really help out a lot ,thank you so much your videos have been helping me get over a bad toxic relationship and truly bring back my self

Listening to this (and your other videos) so much about who I am is making sense to me now. And all the ways that “friends” and my husband pushed me to be different than I was, to not listen to myself. That voice inside me was right! I so appreciate your videos. I feel like these are tangible things I can do to really take care of myself and honour myself and be who I truly am. Thank you.

Spot on and a great reminder of how much we Empaths and HSPs really need to take extra good care of ourselves! Love your hair BTW...it looks so pretty!

Stephanie you are fantastic!! So extremely on target, helpful and I have shared your coaching videos with so many people of many ages. Your lessons about dealing with narcissists are true learnings. Keep it up please! Thank you for all you do!

Bless you for existing and making these videos, I love them! thank you for helping empaths and HSPs out there.

You are so right about the struggles we face before figuring out who we are. And of all the different kinds of paths out there, I'm so thankful I was born an empath because that glow and warmth my spirit feels when I know that I'm a positive reinforcement in somebody's life or helping them through their tribulations or raising children and teaching them function and expressiveness and inner strength and watching all of the people we help feel confident, safe, inspired, and most importantly healed. We know we have fulfilled our purpose. It's neat how The Empath and The Psychopath are on exact opposite sides of the spectrum, but we both share the urge and desire to fulfill their inner purpose andto take control the major significant difference is our intentions. The Psychopath is pure selfish, The Empath is 85% selfless with discipline. The Empath's plan is to give, to construct, to protect. The psychopath's plan is to take, destruct, and exploit. Negative topic aside, I'm so glad to have found my people.

I need to listen to this video EVERY DAY! All if the things she talks about apply to me so deeply it scares me. Thank you for this video, I hope to let it help me change my life for the better.

Gosh I love this message!! OMG, you’re talking my language. I needed this, thank you!!

Very insightful with great strategies to cope with the world around us. Thank you!

I specialize in helping HSPs, Empaths, and Heart Centered Women to thrive, so I truly resonate with this video! Happy to connect. Have a blessed day. 💜

Like many others here, I am both an Empath & a HSP. Your videos have been incrediably helpful for me. Thankyou so much. ❤❤❤

I am jus becoming aware that I’m an Empath and HSP so learning boundaries and protecting my energy is vital right now! I have been taking on all my ex’s mother traumas as if I’m the one who caused it and is responsible to heal it. Two of my ex’s mothers passed at a young age and the others have had abusive and neglectful mothers. I feel immense guilt when I need to walk away from the toxic relationship like I am abandoning a wounded child. I am starting to understand how I have enabled them and almost destroy myself in the process. I am even looking to quit my career as a nurse for now so I can focus on my own healing and health and create better boundaries. I can’t keep sacrificing myself for others personally and professionally!

Love all your videos Stephanie. Very helpful and I hope I can follow through with the advice you offer.😘

Im soo obsessed with your videos. Its crazy how much I can resonate with everything you say. Im so glad I came across your channel! Keep touching hearts Queen

Thank you so much! Your message is a breath of fresh air! Love love love!

This has helped me SO SO much!!! I am an empathy and I’m currently taking on others problems. And I hate it. Bc I’m drained. Listening to this has helped me tremendously. I appreciate you so much❤️❤️

So true and such positive advise! Thank you for the self awareness on an empathetic person...makes so much sense about the way I am now.!

Stephanie Lyn, I just wanted to thank you for all you do & especially for this video. It resonated deeply with me. There is so much more I wish I could tell you, but not on a public forum, so for now, thank you for taking the time to make these videos. They are needed & very much appreciated. Peace & blessings to you, Belle 🌸

Love all your suggestions! I am an RN & going through a divorce from a narcissist after 15 years. Every step in this process is a step towards my healing & reclaiming my boundaries in my personal & work life.

Loved this video! I believe I am an empath as I can feel energy and people's moods so easily and accurately. Being out in nature makes me feel my best and I love love love being alone.

such a great video! so much clarity, such helpful tips and perspectives! i feel so much better already after watching this. thank you!

Thanks for another excellent video. I can relate as I'm an empath / HSP. I've dealt with several narcissists and have removed myself from those toxic relationships, including my narcissist ex. It's true, I have felt guilty for leaving unbalanced / draining relationships and the guilt and shame that came from that. But, staying steady in knowing that leaving was what needed to happen is important. Thanks again for the videos and keep up the great work!

this is absolutely the best video out there on empaths! I feel so connected and seen now! thank you so much. Love love love your energy. My hero!

Thank you @stephanieLynCoaching SO much. 1:50 We are VERY glad you are Empathic/Sensitive.