How To Raise An Emotionally Intelligent Child 

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Mirshad Morgan, you are welcome. As you know, this is not a one time event. You can come back to this topic as they mature and use different language. Love that you posted them for reinforcement.

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@@LiveOnPurposeTV We have a 5 year old, 3.5 year old and a 8 month old baby. We always spoon feed the 5 year old because most of the time she doesn't want to eat the main dishes by herself. She will just sit there and not touch the food unless we feed her. She eats healthy snacks by herself fine and occasionally will eat a few bites by herself of the main dish. Her 3 year old brother ate most of his main dishes by himself until recently he is following her behavior and just sits there in front of the food. We have tried giving smaller portions, making her sit by the table until she is done for two weeks, excercising more, eating together as a whole family more often, tried not encouraging food just enjoying the food with conversation about anything but the food (which she loves and could be talking and talking but still the food is not eaten). We are out of ideas and would greatly appreciate if you could make a video of how to encourage her to eat by herself.

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Christina Odishou, you can watch the videos with your kids if you think it would be helpful. Many parents have done so and they have had deep conversations with their children and the have learned something. Sometimes kids and especially teenagers, are more open to hearing something from a person who is not their parent.

J. Nicci Coffie, seems like a simple explanation should suffice. As kids get older we spend more time in conversations so they understand why we ask them to do certain things. There should be a certain level of trust that the parent is working in the best interest of the child. Sounds like you and your husband need to do some more work in deciding how you are going to parent.

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Vicki B, have you ever tried pulling over to the side of the road and getting out, letting her know that you won't get back in until she stops? Other parents can chime in with what they have tried.

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Yes, please. My daughter has been harassed and bullied at school but never told a teacher or guidance counselor because she said “she couldn’t trust anyone at school.” It’s heartbreaking and I want her to be able to manage some of it herself. I finally had to intervene after weeks of this but it would’ve helped to have her speak up with confidence and conviction. She’s always afraid it’ll get worse. I’m learning that her intuition is correct, the school doesn’t always have her back. I’m working on that with the school. But I want her to at least TRY to communicate what bothers her to her peers and to escalate to teachers if direct communication to students doesn’t work. Thank you for addressing this problem. I know it’s s big one in my district.

I will add the topic to the list, V. Villao-Rodriguez. I have a child who was caught up in the perfectionism cycle. It can be draining for them and you.

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Yay! I love when we reach these milestones and realizations in life. You can parent differently than your parents. It really is up to you.

Yep, love them no matter what...

bu2ful 1 1, It is always best if the parents are on the same page. You need to take care of yourself and I would highly recommend you getting some help through counseling. It will take a load off of you and give you someone to talk to and bounce ideas of and help you to clarify the situation.

RP, in this context it probably means to always be kind and try your best to make them happy. It doesn't always mean that, context means something.

Welcome to Live On Purpose TV, Maria Iribe! I sincerely hope you can find value here at the channel. There are some videos that I thought of right away: "Four Things To Do When My Child Throws A Tantrum" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-udRDR44CF44.html "Dealing With Aggressive Behavior In Children" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WwWyT0CnzAk.html "How Do You Handle Aggressive Child Behavior Toward A Parent?" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Dmmbfuqlin8.html "What To Do With A Child With Anger Management Issues" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Mzau33PphtM.html "What To Do When Your Child Hits You" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-mgyWqd1U_kQ.html We have many more topics on our Positive Parenting playlist: ru-vid.com/group/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU. The strategies I review in the videos might not seem to work right away, so please remember to stay positive, calm, and consistent. We have received feedback from many parents that the videos are helping them and their families.

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Yes, absolutely, model positivity for her. Teens go through this stage and ignore as much as you can.

Thank you, especially for the, "as much as possible ". 😉❤

oceanminded2009, I think I did a video on that topic, take a look.

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Put the language on her level and with three year olds, you have a small window with their attention. You have lots of time so don't stress. You got this, queenSummerKeli.

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Great idea for a future video Pedrina - I'll put it on the list. You'll find lots of similar topics in the Positive Parenting playlist here on the channel in the mean time. DrPaul

Practise it at home. Not a stressful event. Start off with 5 minute increments of sitting and listening. And gradually increase. Get them used to sitting round the dinner table. I have 10 kids and they have all learned to sit quietly during church. I don't expect perfection. Everytime they show improved behaviour during church etc, offer a reward. When they have a not so good time, say, that's a shame, I know it's hard but you're such a trooper and I just know you'll get it next time.

Just in this brief explanation I can see that there are a lot of moving parts here. For such a young child to be exposed to the difficult dynamics of a multi-household family is challenging. I think the best thing you can do is to create the most sane, stable, loving environment that you can within your own household. You don't control what happens in the other home, so pay attention where you do have some control - in your own home. Keep watching with some of the other videos here, especially in the positive parenting playlist. Best wishes to you and your family! DrPaul

J.D, true, but I think about how situations get out of control when authority is snubbed. We can't control anyone else but ourselves.

No offense taken, Grace Bock. Many of these principles are not mine, they are eternal truths, and can be found in the bible. Thank you for watching.

Thank you, Sarah.

Sushma Sharma, yes, I believe it is possible, because I have seen parents and children change! Please keep watching my videos, especially the ones on the Positive Parenting Playlist here: ru-vid.com/group/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU. Also, consider a free, 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall

Cheryl Moser, thank you.

That is an important aspect of the rule, Allison Yim, so thank you for asking for clarification. That is where the "right and reasonable" part comes in. If a person in authority (or any adult) asks a child to cooperate with something that makes them feel uncomfortable, that is not right. And asking a child to do something inappropriate is unreasonable. I hope this makes sense.

There is much on the internet now about French mothers. There are cultural differences but love is the universal language and the one that all children understand. It will look into it. Thank you, Marwa Gad.

French would tell you that they are superior at everything, including raising kids. It’s just a fact.

Kacie C, that is so true. Everyone should remember that.

Recognize that everyone has their choice and you can't control the behavior of another.

Take a deep breath, Binky Music Channel. In general, hitting is not good. I have sword fought with my kids when little and played like that. It is a parents choice what they allow. Some people think that if what is happening is done in fun and no one is hurt then it is o.k. When hitting is not fun and it hurts then it is time to switch to another activity. If you think your daughter needs to get some aggression out, you could have a boxing bag or pillow or something she is allowed to punch. In general, hitting is o.k. when we are protecting ourselves, but those situations are far and few between.

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Writing at 3 years old is not usually a sign that something is wrong. Check with the child's doctor and ask his or her opinion, jenny queen lairellakpam. Also, if you are in the US, there are birth to 3 programs through most elementary schools so I would check with them to see if he could be tested and they might offer some help. See if your area has a Ready for Kindergarten class going on.

Shelbymaldita, sorry you had to go through this.

My pastor taught me as a teen, there are certain behaviors that a parent can do to tear up their parent card. It helped me understand that my parent is just reaping what they sowed by not having my respect or relationship.

brightpage 1020, I hear the strain your are under. They need a lot of attention at this age. It will be easier as they get older.

Yes, Alicia Beers. Practice with them. Kids this young like to role play and then positive reinforcement for acceptable talk. Some parents have a signal that discussion is over and if the child is just trying to argue, set up consequences.

Monika Seidenberg, I hear what you are saying. This is such a tough topic, we want our kids to be respectful and we want those in authority to do the right things and treat everyone fairly. I won't give up hope.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for your feedback. I agreed with your hopes, but reality is still tough especially for the little kids.

Sorry, sometimes when speaking extemporaneously, little errors are made. Thanks for watching, Robbie B

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I said it in jest. That had no bearing on your tutorial. I'm going through some behavioral issues with my 6 year old son which led me to your RU-vid clips. Good substance, very educational and reinforcing. The behavioral issues get worse with his use of technology. We take it away, and he plays it alot less. But when he's not playing it he obsesses about the next time he plays it instead of spending time playing sports or going outside. It's as if he is in a virtual waiting room waiting to play again. I'm doing some research on it and technology is impacting children's dopamine levels more and more. Scary stuff

Some children are affected by technology more than others. If he has that obsessive tendency, then maybe you just don't have electronics in the home. It is an option. Good luck with your research and decision.

I haven't seen any scientific data on the method but there are videos and exercises to do, Tina Morandi.

NateR 1309, emotional intelligence has nothing to do with gender. It is the ability to learn and apply knowledge in order to solve problems. You are never wrong about how you feel and need to work through those emotions in order to hopefully get to a better place.

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Warren Hale, sorry it is coming off that way. Thanks for watching.

Howard Delovitch, thank you for watching.

@@LiveOnPurposeTV To tell the truth....I didn't watch the video. Your welcome.

and I did not post twice , it's an annoying employ of RU-vid to discourage the TRUTH. Mostly four times , not just two.