I totally cried at the end during the final dominos falling part because I knew what it meant was that somehow despite all the problems and roadblocks that not only did everything eventually fit into the new routine, some of the roadblocks became a part of making the final routine work. So much joy and hopefulness that this can be true! *sigh*
0:24 Keep what you know works 0:36 Design the routine with current you in mind 1:16 Leave plenty of white space in your schedule 2:08 Write it down 2:36 Get used to your routine before adding in new stuff 3:09 Manage your stress levels 3:52 Acknowledge your achievements 4:13 Tweak as necessary
I am a nurse with ADHD and I have come across your channel more recently. This channel has not only given me more insight on my ADHD but has helped me help others. Thank you so much!
Yaaasss!!! Nurse here with ADHD...can I tell you I've written my joy sheet in the same format for my whole career in spite of bunches of job changes!!! Lol!!!
When you said "Crying in the middle of a grocery store", I thought you had literally been spying on me. I had developed a routine of buying a specific kind of coffee drink at the local grocery store. You know how much us brains love caffeine. Well, this store suddenly stopped carrying it and I actually did cry in the middle of the grocery store. Thankfully, I have since found another store that sold them.
Kayla G. I have found an amazing grocery store that will special order anything. It's been very helpful for my ADHD/OCD for specific flavors/brands that most stores like to drop. It's helped me not to have the grocery store breakdowns. Mine usually happens to be special candy bars. You hardly ever can find Skor or Charlestown Chews. But they have them always there for me.
That's so cool! I really love to drink the cans of Starbucks Doubleshots. You can get them at actual Starbucks stores, but so much more expensive than buying the four packs they sell them in. I found the drinks at Walgreens. I live in a city and there is literally a Walgreens every few streets, so it's not a problem to find them. The initial breakdown was just the fact that I couldn't get them at the store I was currently at and really wanted/needed them. My brain tends to pretty reactive. ;) I just had to calm down and look in another store Thanks for the awesome, encouraging comment, though!
Kayla G. I had a crying fit once because I always take a shower immediately after cleaning the bathrooms, and my brother decided to wake up and take a shower just as I was finishing cleaning the second bathroom. Our water heater was small, so I had to wait 45 minutes for the water to be warm again for me to shower. I felt like I couldn't move on with my day until I'd had that shower. I literally just sat in my room that whole time, touching nothing, furious with my brother. He knew my routine and he didn't care. He only wanted the shower to avoid going somewhere he was supposed to be. I normally wouldn't have cried about it, but I guess I was having a stressful week and I really needed that little bit of dependable routine in my life.
I just found this channel weeks ago and am the only adult "in real life" that I know has ADHD. I often feel like my reactions, my behaviors, etc, are so weird. I am 28 years old and I've just started the process of accepting myself the way I am. Do I react to things in a way that is so differently than others? Yes, I do. But that's okay. It's been so freeing and inspiring to find this channel and accompanying pages. There are so many of us out there and we're all going to be okay!
I had a similar problem! I drink Starbucks refreshers and then the grocery store stopped selling them. So im letting you know that Amazon sells Starbucks canned drinks online in really big packs!
"Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better." -Samuel Beckett You will fail at some point. But it's not a bad thing. When you walk, you may stumble on a rock or an asphalt or something. You will not give up walking there: You walk again, but this time, more careful, and more successful.
Just a comment passing through pointing out that I noticed this video is very well polished. Always improving. Just thought you deserved it being mentioned :)
AGREED. I've been able to watch the behind-the-scenes vlogs (Patreon, $5 level) and the amount of work they put in to every episode is astounding. Really sets this channel apart from others
#hello Tammy! Tammy is the first person with diagnosed ADHD that I ever met, she was open, willing to educate, bubbly and unashamed. It was because of her I became open and aware that ADHD was a real thing. Several twists and turns later, which includes finding this channel, and my husband is going in for diagnosis as soon as possible. This has been a life changing discovery, without it I might have been divorced already and my husband out on the streets. That is why I put forth "Tammy" as a name for your awesome helper!
You have done well to go out of your way to research ADHD people's experience. It is very real and has severely affected many people including myself since birth.
HOW DID YOU KNOW?!! My schedule at work shifted 2.5 hours earlier last week, and even though I’m excited to be going home earlier, everything is different and I don’t know how to Day now. Thank you for continuing to help me deal with my life.
My past year two years have been full of rapid and unexpected changes that have, in a lot of ways, broken me down and rocked me to my core. This video was not only helpful, but also extremely validating. I'm so grateful that you made it. Thank you :)
I just started a new job this week as a lead preschool teacher. The current teacher decided not to return after winter break. I had been working as a temp. teacher's aide in the preschool and told them I'd be interested in a promotion like that, if one should become available. I, however, was totally not expecting a mid-school-year transition! This week, I have been running around like a crazy person, with no stable routine in sight. I have a faith that we will both adjust soon!
OMG I literally use "sobbing in the grocery store because they don't have the cheese I like" as an example of how my life was when I suffered from chronic panic attacks! Tiny peaks in a giant mountain of stress is a perfect way to describe that part of my life. This video is great! (and I'm not even done, whoops, just got reaaaally excited about hearing you explain my experience almost word for word the way I do!)
I"m in the process of re-building... the basics. I'm fighting major depression and sleeping, eating, showering, even dressing up are time to time overwhelmingly hard. I get anxiety and yes, I've cried in a panicattack while been making food - but I did it. So the last one and this vid are extremely valuable to me. Thank you.
Thank you so much for the videos you do. You're helping me deal with my recent ADHD diagnosis. You're also helping me manage my relationship with my girlfriend through this stage of my life. Being able to convey to her the difficulties I face in the form of a video that other people identify with helps her understand me. So thank you so much.
Robert Metroid she’s brilliant! Communication is really important when it comes to ADHD and relationships... you might want to check out “ADHD and relationships” on my channel :)
Thank you for this. I was at a good place for a bit and felt like I was really making progress and felt organized but man the holiday season messed all that up. Going home to my parents for 2 weeks, it’s been such a struggle to get back to normal now back at my house, thank you for all the fabulous content! I only found your channel in the last month and I keep joking that I went adhd on learning about adhd lol. Watched so many of your videos in such a short time but they have been life changing!
I have struggled with ADHD since I was 7. This group is a godsend for brains like mine. I first found your Ted talk and can't get enough. Thank you! And since watching your videos, I've decided to pursue starting my own business.
Ironic that I get the notification for this while working on what I should put in my daily routines. I would love to see a video on how to build routines in your life when you have a variable schedule.
Samson Ann I have a variable schedule from working two part time jobs and I am not sure how to make much of a routine work with it... I have decided to at least work on a bed time routine so that I get sleep which will make everything else better. 😊
Love your videos!! I honestly learnt so much by watching. I'm 25 years old and married. Sadly my ADHD effects my marriage in many ways. Ways that I didn't know was because of my brain. I have only now know from watching your videos. This includes being extremely forgetful with appointments and forgetting to hang up laundry, and even forgetting to fill the car up with gas. I am currently working on my sleeping, I am the dead sleeping in the morning. I had no idea my brain had a play in 3 alarms going off and sleeping through them for more than a hour. My wife yells at me to get up and always makes a sly remark like "you just need to wake up, it's not that hard". Of course I fight back being early in the morning not awake yet and no filter. I often snap until my meds kick in. I have now started to set 2 alarms. With a pill on top of my phone. First alarm goes off, try to awake and take the pill and fall back asleep. The second always goes off 30 minutes later. Enough time for some to be active. It has made a difference with my mood in the morning. But my real question is how can I get my wife to understand what it's like to have ADHD. I often try to explain myself when I snap or say the wrong things and also when I can't comfort her when she's upset. She always thinks I'm using it as a crutch or an excuse. She knows very well that I have extreme ADHD as when I don't take my medication she wants to kill me and I eat all the food. I think she may only think ADHD is just hyper and the lack of focus. Keep up the good work on the videos. I love them! Have binged watched them all since I found them 3 days ago haha
New job + weird working hours = destroyed sleep habits. Then + yoga classes changed schedule + now always forget to walk dogs which I love to do = ripping my hair out waiting for a routine to settle in. I put a heap of effort in before the end of year to ensure I routinely did things that were helpful to me and my health. I am still jaded about all the change that has thrown all good habits out the window. Thanks for this much needed content.
So often... you are just what I need. Thank you for helping my brain slow down for just a few minutes so I don't feel like a failure. You and your team are spectacular!!! 💓💗💓
I want to cry this is so helpful. I have been struggling so much as a single mom of 2 with my own business, volunteering, finishing up university, . This is so helpful thanks so much!
How about #hello Jane the brain maybe it's me but I like the rhyme. And maybe the male could be Art the heart idk i seem to be feeling the rhyme right now.
I am in Love with this video thank you this was great 😆 Hit the meltdown line when my family surprised me with some things I wasn't so happy with so trying to cope a little and .... Rebuild 😶🌫️
Years (and years and years) of counseling, coaches, books, programs, all the things ... and THIS little video is the MOST HELPFUL THING I’VE EVER SEEN! Thanks!
This is such a fantastic video! Thanks so much for all your hard work, I’m going through all the videos from beginning to end and this is one I’m saving to my ADHD replay list for those days (we all know those days). Xmas break really threw me off my school schedule and now I’m in the 2nd week of my new classes and trying to get back on track. I’m keeping these 8 tips in my pocket for this coming week. I can rebuild! Thank you 😊
Yup! Definitely know what days you're talking about, ahahaha. Thank you so much! Your support means so much to us. 🧡😊 And may your routine building be less stressful from now on! 🧡
You make my day so much better! THANK YOU for starting this channel! I understand me better when I watch videos like this! In December i broke down so many times crying because I was dissapointed in myself for not being neurotypical but this channel makes me realize that "different" in no way means "worse". When you're not alone different is amazing!
I love your simple, practical advice mixed with the whimsical features. Super interesting and helpful video!! Also, really inspiring. It all feels a little less impossible now. Thanks!
#hello Petunia! I have been watching your videos for about 3 months now and I just have to say... I start crying 1/2 way through every video because I am so relieved to know I am not the only one who has these struggles and that I am not just a crazed screw-up! Both of my brothers and I were diagnosed with ADD as pre-teens, and though my parents did (what I consider) a wonderful job with what little resources were available in the late 90's/early 2000'@, I have found that as I reach my 30's ... I am having to retrain my brain. Thank you for your content and I look forward to the next video making me cry with relief! 😂
Today, I went to a doctor about the great possibility of me having adhd and was patronized and was told it was 'just my insomnia' that caused it all so I'm not feeling too great and this video really helped
wow, really? Lack of sleep can contribute to ADHD-like symptoms and make ADHD symptoms worse but also Edward has had doctors tell him he doesn't have ADHD and they were wrong lol, so I recommend a second opinion!
How to ADHD I'm really going to try and get a second opinion! Turns out my sister had a similar run in with that doctor about her depression in which she told her to just "get up early" and "eat healthy" when my sister had already reached a serious point in depression in which it wasn't that simple of a solution. Also she didn't use facts to support this she used personal experience, so I'm really going to try and get another opinion. Thanks for replying! I love your channel and if I hadn't found it I may have not figured this all out until I was already an adult.
@@notsotypical6202 Hang in there! I second your plan to get a second opinion because you should trust your instincts when a diagnosis doesn't feel or sound right. We expect to be able to trust a doctor's opinion -- they're the experts after all. But even the best doctors aren't infallible and, unfortunately, you may run across some practicing who are well down the ladder from "best" or who are decent enough except for their arrogant tendency to offer uneducated opinions/diagnoses outside their area of expertise. Nice your gut reaction was backed by what you learned from your sister's experience!
I love it! Let me think... If I was a character who is played by Jessica's fingers that helps ADHD Brians creating habits how would I like to be call? Okay so I think she is a brain too...but she help us so she is also a Heart What about Briana Hart?
I didn’t expect the end with all the dominoes going down and the flashback moments. That took me by surprise and nearly made me cry. I am SO EXCITED for you and Edward, Jessica! Thank you SO MUCH for your amazing existences ❤️❤️❤️
How to ADHD I hope the challenging aspect isn’t taking the fun out of it! I can definitely tell you’re having fun with it. Your brain is so creative and fun!
I'm not sure if you read comments on your old videos, but thank you for this. I've been wondering why this year has been so much harder, and I realized that it's likely because i've made two major job changes, and moved from a rental of 7 years into my first condo, which has changed my routine drastically. Thank you for this channel and all the information and support you provide.
Thank you! I used to have lists. I was told to make my life easier I was to get rid of the lists. I have tried many times to reintroduce them but it doesn't work now. I now use a bullet journal! So far so good. I am optimistic that I can rebuild my routines now!! Thanks!! XxXxXx
Thank you so much for this series of videos about rotine, this was exactly what i was in need of and i wasn't even aware of it. you gave me a few ideas already! It would be great if you could make a video about breaking bad habits. The name for the character could be Miss Polaina
#hello Pinky & (the) Brains!!! (Maybe just Pinky for short!) #hello dar Wee-LiL-Ones (ALWAYS in either an A) Irish or B) Scottish Brogue -- preference goes to the abilities of the RU-vidr :) #hello Trollo #hello F-UN-locker (the Legendary assassin of ancient Chinese finger-puzzle locks) #hello Eye 2 Eye (goofy movie) #hello Digits or #hello Digitus (see Latin Dictionary) #hello Smarmy (nothing personal, just sounds fun) #hello 2fur #hello two-sies This has been a mighty pleasure and a timely one at that! This is PRECISELY what I'm working on right now! I've been so impressed with your ability to learn, digest & not MERELY disseminate, but dominate Youtubing of complex and jargon-filled concepts into simple, bite sized and above all Entertaining videos. I share these with most everyone that I ensnare beyond 2 minutes in conversation. I find myself in this incessant battle against ignorance with a healthy peppering of apathy sandwiched everywhere I go-which makes my appreciation for your creative spirit and dedication rise with every video!!! Thank you again for all of your diligent efforts--I'm sure this has been SO much more difficult than you've been letting on (as charming and forthcoming as you are dearie ;) I truly find your dedication and work towards your/the tribes goals an inspiriation and a model for my own struggles. Best of wishes and your friend truly, #hello Scrumptious
Now that you mention it, I actually have a morning and evening routine posted right on my kitchen cabinet so I will always see it. My problem is that I see it so often that I don't see it anymore. Maybe I should update it and move it so it is fresh again. And I absolutely adored this video. I found you just over a month ago and your videos have totally changed how I feel about myself (I'm 45 and only diagnosed a few months ago). Knowing that I'm not alone is hugely helpful to stop hating myself. Thank you.
I checked out a few apps and I actually like roubit better than brili so far because I don't have the same routine everyday and brilli only allows one active routine at a time with free version and I can't afford to pay any $ because I am on a fixed income.
#Hello I so needed this video. Its my senior year of college and I'm totally freaking out....about everything.... By the way I think Emlyn should be the fingerling's name. It means a brave and noble warrior. Sometimes( mostly all the time) having ADHD is a batte and Jessica and Emlyn are great at helping us all make it though. 😘
Lisa, like my favorite nerd--Or Jess.. a small version of Jessica ;D See what I did there? edit: I just noticed we have to use the #hello tag, #hello Lisa #hello Jess
Oh! BTW, for Android, by far and away the best habit encouragement app I've found is Loop Habit Tracker. Easy to use, multiple types of visualizations for different types of brains, free / open source and no ads, and best of all: it doesn't punish or discourage for missed days, unlike many other "streak" apps. The main visualization is a "strength" graph which builds quickly, especially when the habit is new, but declines slowly when you miss days. It's worked for me where many others haven't. I'd be happy to provide screenshots if you need for any reason and aren't an android user! Thanks again for this channel!
For many reasons including financial issues , I have not seen anyone in the mental health profession.I have found your videos so very helpful as I have issues with executive function as well as anxiety . Thank you very much Jessica and I hope you know you are also helping way more people than you realise . Best wishes and thank you .
Even though this video is a year old, it was really exactly what I needed right about now. Got some real challenges up ahead of me, and my mental energy is sparse and my concentration and focus is at level with a puppy dog right now. I’m about to graduate as a teacher in 4 months, and honestly- though I don’t particularly like the student life, I’m kinda terrified about my life changing right now. I will watch this video a couple of times, and try to incorporate as much of this thinking as I can. Good one.
First off, as a brain with a week-old baby at home, thank you for this video. I always have a hard time seeing everything I've accomplished vs. the few things I didn't get to.
How to ADHD haha, wow! Thank you! I use “George” bc it reminds me of watching looney tunes as a kid; there was a character who had a very low, derpy voice and he would say, “I don’t know, George”
I honestly thought this video was made with the 2020 context in mind, and it baffles me how I managed to come across this very much so relevant video exactly three years after!
Thank you for this! i just recently got diagnosed with ADD, and my work changes schedule every few months. i need these tips right now, so i can consciously hold on my job (and not leave it to luck like i usually did)
