How To Speak: 3 Secrets To Increase Your Personal Impact | Richard Newman | TEDxUniversityofBristol

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How can you increase your personal impact, influence and connection? Discover the science and secrets of storytelling, body language and heart led communication, which Richard Newman has been exploring for over 40 years. Learn about Richard’s journey from being an introverted, autistic child, to living in a Tibetan monastery, studying acting and creating unique research. Richard Newman is a communication coach, an award-winning speechwriter, and author of the books ‘You Were Born To Speak’ and ‘Lift Your Impact’. He is the Founder of UK Body Talk, coaching clients worldwide to enhance their business storytelling and personal impact. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@actionfigure2191 3 месяца назад

I really like how you talked about being a great speaker not just as a skill, but like it's a way to bring people together. It gives it a real sense of purpose beyond just personal success.

@hamlinr 5 месяцев назад

What how old is this dude? Talkin about 40 years of this and decades of that but he doesn't even look 40...

@hollytrichards 4 месяца назад

His explanation of the head, hands, heart model is a game-changer for public speakers. Well done to him on going to such lengths to understand and improve himself.

@richardnewmanspeaks 4 месяца назад

Thanks Holly! Glad it resonated with you!

@sukyevers 3 месяца назад

Yes! To everyone I think, not just public speakers.

@marisolroman0-0 3 месяца назад

Honestly, I got a bit teary-eyed when he got emotional talking about his childhood struggles to connect. It just goes to show how everyone really craves belonging, especially when we're young

@therealmyyt 2 месяца назад

I love the idea that human connection requires vulnerability. It's something many of us shy away from, but it's clearly so important.

@ThePizzaPriestess 9 дней назад

yes, it took me a really long time to learn that

@andrewfarason 5 месяцев назад

Had to laugh at the way he talks about getting into acting, I can imagine it would have been a massive breakthrough in terms of the "how to" side of interacting.

@-OpenDiary- 3 месяца назад

Seeing him cry while rehearsing part of this talk was really powerful. It showed just how much reconnecting with vulnerability meant to him. Mad respect that he chose to include that

@kyleighmcdowell 2 месяца назад

Absolutely, made him so much more endearing

@hinicetrygoodbye 3 месяца назад

I loved how genuine he was and how he didn't try to sound all fancy or formal. Being real like that is super important for making true connections, just like he talked about.

@TheAmendIsNow 3 месяца назад

definitely, made it feel way more relatable and actionable

@PostNowIMeanNow 4 месяца назад

You could tell this topic wasn't just something he thought about academically, but a lifelong journey that came from personal pain. There's just so much emotion in it, it makes the importance of his message come through so strongly

@richardnewmanspeaks 4 месяца назад

Thank you 🙏

@sukyevers 3 месяца назад

Yes, he really speaks from his experiences and it is a testament to the power of perseverance and self growth.

@VodkaByNight 4 месяца назад

The personal story of overcoming communication barriers as someone who is introverted and autistic gives so much hope and inspiration to others facing similar challenges. Glad he was given the opportunity and platform to share his story and advice.

@richardnewmanspeaks 4 месяца назад

Thanks so much, glad you liked it!

@sukyevers 3 месяца назад

Definitely, I have an autistic grandchild so seeing things like this is very reassuring

@ThanhNguyen-pq4ky 4 месяца назад

Thanks for such an inspirational speech, Newman.

@artcornish3520 3 месяца назад

His call to use our voices to bring people together and "tilt the world in a positive direction" was kind of wonderful. It makes me want to be more deliberate about connecting with others through how I communicate.

@TheAmendIsNow 3 месяца назад

yeah exactly, what's the point in being able to communicate well if you're not using it to connect in a positive way

@richardnewmanspeaks 3 месяца назад

Thank you!

@janetsplace1953 5 месяцев назад

3:45 I get this, connection is everything🥰🥰🥰

@ThePizzaPriestess 5 месяцев назад

Thanks for emailing this JP, wonderful - means a lot going through what I am.

@richardnewmanspeaks 5 месяцев назад

Thanks so much, yes connection is so important! We need this to thrive!

@idimarus3278 4 месяца назад

I appreciate the practical advice on storytelling and engaging an audience effectively.

@zacgulbranson 5 месяцев назад

Richard Newman is the absolute man! Such an inspiration . A wealth of knowledge, and great mind . Next level Richard , killing it!

@richardnewmanspeaks 5 месяцев назад

Thanks so much Zac! I gave it my all!

@rubylcharlotte 5 месяцев назад

Had to laugh around the 6:35 mark, yes it's definitely all the same story

@everybodyworksinsales 5 месяцев назад

As a fellow TEDx speaker, massive congratulations Richard. I remember reading the monk story in your first book, You Were Born to Speak which I absolutely love. This is a valuable talk and superb storytelling

@richardnewmanspeaks 5 месяцев назад

Thanks so much Niraj! I appreciate your support!

@Gemmasnewman 5 месяцев назад

Such a brilliant talk 🗣️ that needs to be seen by everyone. I loved the tip on standing and especially the palms up and palms down concept. So simple yet crazily effective!!

@camerongdowd 4 месяца назад

From struggling to connect as a child to teaching monks and studying acting is very cool.

@shadyreginald 5 месяцев назад

Yeah I can relate to the group conversation thing and I'm not even Autistic 😅

@thebespokedoctor 4 месяца назад

I was fully expecting everyone to fall over with the shoulder push!! 😂

@lorrainegracelacson Месяц назад

that scientific study on nonverbal communication blew my mind. a 57% increase in voting likelihood just by changing body language? that's insane! makes you think about how much we’re influenced by subtle cues without even realizing it.

@tonirduran 2 месяца назад

His story about feeling disconnected as a child really tugged on my heartstrings... those early experiences shape so much of who we become as a person

@ThePizzaPriestess 5 месяцев назад

A simple practice for a complicated life, I needed this today; thank you, Richard!

@richardnewmanspeaks 5 месяцев назад

Thanks! Yes my aim was to keep this simple and easy for everyone to benefit from.

@ThePizzaPriestess 9 дней назад

@@richardnewmanspeaks You did a fantastic job!

@jacquelinehogan3313 5 месяцев назад

Oh boy when he talks about conversation being like a 12 line super highway I just had this memory of a guy I worked with who would very awkwardly jump into conversations exactly like that. It was only as he was leaving that I found out he had Asperger's and now here I am years later realizing what things are like for people on the spectrum.

@bestnewtunes8363 3 месяца назад

The idea of conversations being like a 12-lane highway totally made sense to me haha. As an introvert, I could really relate to that. I'm happy he figured out how to join in and make himself heard, especially by using things like acting techniques, I thought that part was really clever

@taylorpjansen 5 месяцев назад

Loved how he explained the Triune brain theory and how it relates to storytelling and communication. Making complex scientific concepts accessible is a true skill!

@liftretreat9821 4 месяца назад

Thanks Taylor! Yes my goal is to make everything simple and straightforward for everyone.

@dannyduncduncan 3 месяца назад

The scientific backing of his techniques adds a lot of credibility. Really appreciate the evidence-based approach over just opinion and experience

@jemmajames5056 5 месяцев назад

Love this! Thank you for sharing your insights Richard. Inspiring!

@richardnewmanspeaks 5 месяцев назад

Thanks so much Jemma! I appreciate your support!

@immayasass 4 месяца назад

Wow the bit about going to live with the monks and teach them english is actually so clever. So much of communication is non-verbal, makes sense that it was such a valuable experience

@sukyevers 3 месяца назад

It's an amazing thing for anyone to do, let alone an introverted autistic person

@IAmTheRealJoker 4 месяца назад

Acting as a tool to learn communication? That's a fresh perspective I hadn't considered.

@richardnewmanspeaks 4 месяца назад

It was a game changer for me!

@thebespokedoctor 4 месяца назад

What an amazing talk….. I learned so much..! Thank you for your vulnerability and expertise.. you’ve communicated your knowledge beautifully! ❤

@richardnewmanspeaks 4 месяца назад

Thanks so much! So pleased that you liked it!

@saajidahlip Месяц назад

Thank you for the tips! 🙏🏼🙏🏼

@kiankaskert7925 4 месяца назад

Really appreciate how he demystifies the art of communication with clear, actionable steps.

@richardnewmanspeaks 4 месяца назад

Thank you , glad you enjoyed it!

@elisbrokli 4 месяца назад

It’s incredible how small changes in body language can influence how others perceive and react to you!

@richardnewmanspeaks 4 месяца назад

So true!

@bridgettemsanders Месяц назад

Loving this advice, thank you!

@timmymckinley 4 месяца назад

I'm wondering how much of what he taught would work in different cultures. Obviously, body language norms can be different, but the main ideas about storytelling and connecting from the heart seem like they'd apply pretty much everywhere.

@richardnewmanspeaks 4 месяца назад

Yes body language varies from one culture to the next, but many fundamentals of communication stay the same!

@maryyouson4404 3 месяца назад

The idea that storytelling is what makes humans the dominant species is so interesting... I've never heard or thought that.

@ZigWagon 3 месяца назад

I'm curious if the body language techniques work equally well on video calls/virtual settings nowadays? or if there are specific tips for better online presence. Would've been cool if he addressed that too.

@richardnewmanspeaks 3 месяца назад

Thanks - yes they are key to virtual communication too. The pieces I mention around palms up, palms down and posture all apply through a screen. You also need to remember to have the webcam raised to the height of your eyes, have light coming towards you (not behind you) and gesture within the frame. In a longer talk I certainly would have taught these!

@thephilosopher59 5 месяцев назад

Wow, I'm speechless in a good way. This has truly gone right to the heart of things. You may have heard these secrets before in different ways, though never like this. Definitely he walks the talk, exactly in what he's talking about. The best of all is his recommendation on what to drop. So worth watching, and more than once!

@richardnewmanspeaks 5 месяцев назад

Thanks so much! I appreciate your message and feel grateful this connected with you.

@judeblyth3606 3 месяца назад

That shove experiment was funny! It showed how even small changes in posture can make you seem more confident and powerful. I'm definitely keeping my feet shoulder-width apart from now on

@richardnewmanspeaks 3 месяца назад

Thanks Jude!

@sangjhatnih Месяц назад

this is crazy good, will be watching my body language more from now

@lizbeethgonzalezhernandez Месяц назад

kinda freaky how much our subconscious picks up on body language. wonder how many opportunities I've missed because of bad posture or something

@raquel-mercedes 4 месяца назад

The scientific backing really strengthens his points on body language and communication effectiveness! Well done on putting it all together in a way that makes sense

@richardnewmanspeaks 4 месяца назад

I appreciate that!

@hazrexall 4 месяца назад

The part where he talked about the emotional masks we wear and the importance of vulnerability in genuine connections really struck a chord with me. It's crazy how much closer to someone you can feel once you've shared a moment that's rooted in being vulnerable

@richardnewmanspeaks 4 месяца назад

So true! Thank you.

@katarinabloom Месяц назад

The examples from popular stories like Harry Potter, Star Wars, and Barbie really illustrated his points well. It's interesting to see how these storytelling techniques apply to everyday communication.

@keranskeckter Месяц назад

interesting how he connected public speaking skills to everyday interactions. never thought my casual chats could benefit from presentation techniques. might give it a try.

@thedoctoryami 5 месяцев назад

Great talk from a dedicated speaker and teacher! So thankful for the work you’ve done to help us all be better communicators!

@richardnewmanspeaks 5 месяцев назад

Thanks so much!!

@TribeFearless Месяц назад

This talk was super interesting but now I feel like I'm going to be overly aware of how I'm carrying myself and gesturing lol

@58vette Месяц назад

Never knew that gesturing more could actually help us think better! Guess it explains why I always talk with my hands when I'm trying to explain something complicated

@umadelecois 4 месяца назад

Oh wow I can't believe he got teased so early on. I was also brutaIIy teased all throughout grade school and well into my teens but I remember the first couple of years of school were actually nice. Like everyone got along, there wasn't that mean kid buIIy vibe yet.

@sofiatclara Месяц назад

mind blown by this talk! never realized how much our body language impacts others' perceptions. gonna be way more aware of my stance and gestures from now on.

@Take-Away-Step 2 месяца назад

His time with the Tibetan monks sounds so cool! A challenge for sure given that there was no common language but still so cool.

@jackbenns Месяц назад

The three-part brain theory and how it applies to storytelling was really insightful! It makes sense to engage all those parts of the mind to make an impact

@lynnecousins Месяц назад

I appreicate his call to take off our emotional masks and connect more deeply. I think it's very timely too, considering the effects of the pandemic and how disconnected a lot of people are feeling

@TheFirstSocialScoop Месяц назад

This is a really impressive transformation and honestly it makes so much sense that he chose to go down this path.

@ClusterofHope 3 месяца назад

Loved how he talks about being open and brave and how it helps us make genuine connections. It's tempting to stay guarded and keep things shallow, but he's right - taking a chance on being rejected is worth it to feel fully alive and connected.

@richardnewmanspeaks 3 месяца назад

So glad this resonated with you!

@sukyevers 3 месяца назад

Same, I thought this was so wonderful and brave on his behalf

@idanowser 3 месяца назад

The 12 lane highway thing absolutely resonated with me. I have talking over people or being talked over so if I'm in a group setting that's more than like 2 other people I just won't make any conversation.

@richardnewmanspeaks 3 месяца назад

So glad this resonated with you! I have discovered a few ways into a conversation that may help - I may gently touch the arm of the person talking when I want to interject, or take a breath in while slightly leaning forwards. You'll see other people do this instinctively in conversation and it essentially creates an on-ramp for you to join in.

@idanowser 3 месяца назад

@@richardnewmanspeaks it did thank you

@granmabecker 4 месяца назад

One of my grandkids is Autistic and I'm glad for people like Richard who are paving the way for younger people to have less difficult experiences with it. He's in his teens now and the way he jokes about it and allows other people to have fun with it is such a relief compared to how we thought things would be for him

@liftretreat9821 4 месяца назад

Thanks! I’m glad you found this useful. It’s so important that we talk openly about these things, to help others.

@sukyevers 3 месяца назад

Yes, same! And at first I'll admit I felt so heartbroken, thinking about how much harder life is going to be for them this talk and your comment gives me hope though, he's still a child but to think it isn't actually as big of a deal these days in terms of acceptance is really wonderful

@colincampbell5068 4 месяца назад

His approach to communication as an autistic person really strikes a chord, it's good for people to have this kind of insight

@richardnewmanspeaks 4 месяца назад

Thank you Colin 🙏

@TheAmendIsNow 3 месяца назад

oh wow I'd actually forgotten that he was autistic by the end of it lol

@oilverdennison 4 месяца назад

The breakdown of how storytelling, body language, and emotional presence can be merged to improve personal impact was very insightful. It's amazing how simple adjustments in nonverbal cues can drastically change perception.

@sukyevers 3 месяца назад

Yes, and it makes it all the more easier when we're aware of it

@richardnewmanspeaks 3 месяца назад

Thanks, glad you enjoyed it!

@oilverdennison 2 месяца назад

@@richardnewmanspeaks I did, thanks for speaking...

@jordanbaslier 5 месяцев назад

Pretty awesome that he got to teach english in a tibetan monastery like that has to have been an epic experience

@granmabecker 4 месяца назад

Yes! How amazing that would have been for him

@richardnewmanspeaks 4 месяца назад

Yes - it was life defining for me!

@YaniMulyani-cx5dl 5 месяцев назад

Richat pria yang berpendirian mutlak dan tidak berpengaruh terhadap perkataan orang

@katyabradova 4 месяца назад

That moment when he described his first day at school was heartbreaking but so powerful in understanding his journey.

@liftretreat9821 4 месяца назад

Thank you Katya 🙏🏻

@katyabradova 4 месяца назад

@@liftretreat9821 , you are so welcome...

@marekzagdanski Месяц назад

From not being able to join a group conversation to being a communications expert is crazy. Really speaks to the power of determination.

@ThePizzaPriestess 9 дней назад

absolutely, I think it's a pretty wonderful transformation

@dustyevans2130 3 месяца назад

Having people skills like these feels more and more important in our modern world of digital interactions that can feel pretty shallow. We're hungry for genuine human connections but unfortunately so many of us don't know how to get them

@richardnewmanspeaks 3 месяца назад

Thanks Dusty, yes that's exactly what drove me to give this talk.

@samanthaabadi Месяц назад

His experiences make me wonder what I could achieve if I pushed myself out of my comfort zone more often, super inspiring, thank you.

@richardnewmanspeaks Месяц назад

Go for it, Samantha!

@cliftonwilliams7489 Месяц назад

That bit about taking off our emotional armor hit different. feels like everyone's got their guard up these days. maybe if we all chilled a bit, we'd actually connect for real, ya know?

@richardnewmanspeaks Месяц назад

So true!

@wildflowerhoney1862 Месяц назад

The comparison of conversation to a 12-lane highway is spot on. It's overwhelming at times, and I can totally relate to that feeling of not knowing how to jump in.

@richardnewmanspeaks Месяц назад

So glad this resonated for you.

@eleanorrigbywhatdoesitmean Месяц назад

the feet together vs. shoulder-width apart demonstration was pretty cool! Love that such a small and easy change can make such a difference in how we're perceived.

@richardnewmanspeaks Месяц назад

Yes, small changes that are easy to make can have a massive impact

@TheAmendIsNow 3 месяца назад

this kinda reminded me of that old saying "they may not remember what you said, but they'll remember how you made them feel"

@kyleighmcdowell 2 месяца назад

Interesting... I don't know that quote! But I immediately thought of a few people who yes, really stuck out because of how they made me feel

@MarcoPolo-uh4pn 2 месяца назад

The idea that nonverbal cues can increase how inspiring you are by 25% is incredible. It makes me want to be more mindful of my body language.

@ThePizzaPriestess 9 дней назад

same!

@mickeyrat-da-rat Месяц назад

Loved how candid he was about his struggles with autism. I think way more people have it than what we even realize and content like this goes a long way towards destigmatizing

@richardnewmanspeaks Месяц назад

Thank you!

@frasernicholson8509 3 месяца назад

It’s fascinating how he integrates scientific research with personal anecdotes to make his point about effective communication. The study involving 2000 people really adds credibility to his methods.

@richardnewmanspeaks 3 месяца назад

Thanks yes I was keen to get our theories validated by the best research team we could find.

@ThePizzaPriestess 9 дней назад

yeah you can tell he put a lot of value in doing all the groundwork

@RavishingDamsel 3 месяца назад

I'm glad you mentioned the role of humility too - often get the vibe that self-help/communication "gurus" can come across selfish or arrogant. You seemed the opposite.

@TheAmendIsNow 3 месяца назад

True he seems super humble

@richardnewmanspeaks 3 месяца назад

Thanks, yes I believe humility is key to all human connection.

@reaganmosher7769 4 месяца назад

Damn 17 stages of a journey? I thought it was just, introduction, conflict, development, resolution 😂😂

@iamtheunusualsuspect Месяц назад

the way he broke down charisma into learnable skills was pretty awesome... I always thought some people were just born with it, but maybe I can level up my own charm game!

@richardnewmanspeaks Месяц назад

Everyone can learn it!

@iamtheunusualsuspect 27 дней назад

@@richardnewmanspeaks yes, true they can, but will they

@KittyFest 2 месяца назад

The part about emotional armor really struck me hard. I know I've been guarding myself for a long time now, but I've always seen it as a way of protecting myself, I'ven ever thought it might be holding me back from anything. The thought of opening up is scary though lol I don't know that I'm ready to take the armor off just yet

@skyec8562 2 месяца назад

I get what you mean and yes for sure it is scary but so, so worth it 💖💖

@KittyFest 2 месяца назад

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@richardnewmanspeaks Месяц назад

One step at a time! It takes work but you'll get there!

@---nameless--- 3 месяца назад

Wasn’t sure about the effectiveness of nonverbal communication changes, but his research proves it works. Gonna try it.

@nextgendynasty 2 месяца назад

The connection between communication and leadership was interesting... makes me think about famous leaders and their speaking styles.

@elaineclouston 2 месяца назад

the idea of transmitting ideas from mind to mind is powerful. never thought of communication that way.

@paulacharlesstanley 2 месяца назад

I wonder if the body language tips still work in high-stress or emotionally charged situations... like arguments and emergencies?

@IAmASeaMonkey 6 дней назад

His point about needing courage, humility, and vulnerability for real connection is something we should all strive for. It's not easy, but it's worth it.

@chezravvy 2 месяца назад

I would love to know how this translates to different cultures... like do these body language tips work the same way in Japan or India for example? Or is this just western-centric body language... I guess you can't cover everything in one talk but it would be interesting to know!

@Usyard 4 месяца назад

I wonder if he had to endure a lifetime of people saying, "Hello, _Newman_"

@kyleighmcdowell 2 месяца назад

Had no idea that hand movements could speed up cognitive processing! Might explain why I talk with my hands so much lol especially when I'm trying to explain something

@noraandrews8215 2 месяца назад

I have never thought about how my feet placement could affect my perceived authority. Looking forward to trying that wider stance in my next meeting! Though I wonder does it work on people who already know you?

@kendrasroom 3 дня назад

Yeah I can realte to this big time, especially when I was at school, trying to jump into group discussions was pretty much impossible

@tubularvideos 2 месяца назад

I must admit I'm still a bit skeptical about some of these claims.... like, can changing your hand gestures really make that big a difference? I suppose I just need to try it for myself and see what happens

@bencycaitlin 2 дня назад

The research he did with UCL was impressive. It's good to see that his insights are backed by scientific studies and not just anecdotal evidence.

@randomthought1556 2 месяца назад

Lots of great advice here, I've worked with several autistic people and it seems like more and more they're just leaning into it like "oh well it's just who I am" -- that's fine and all, but I think what Richards experience show is that you _can_ improve on those qualities if you really try

@kinsleydanton Месяц назад

I'm intrigued by the idea of using storytelling techniques in everyday conversations... might experiment with that structure in my next team meeting or when pitching ideas to my boss, thanks!

@brunodstone 5 дней назад

The idea that storytelling can galvanize people and create unity is powerful. It makes me want to be more mindful of the stories I share and how I communicate them.

@EverDragMedia 2 месяца назад

Definitely felt the chaos and anxiety in his description of conversation as a 12-lane highway. It really can be so overwhelming

@why-why-why-why1 2 месяца назад

lol at the penguin gestures. pretty sure that's me when i'm nervous.

@nataschaweiss 2 месяца назад

this was a very powerful talk about the importance of human connection, thank you for sharing your experiences, it really made an impact on me!

@aaronereid 5 дней назад

Love that he just kept taking it to the next level in terms of learning about communication. Really cool that he drew from so many different sources as well

@khloetaylor1674 23 дня назад

His breakdown of the 3-part storytelling structure blew my mind. I bet I’m going to start seeing it everywhere now

@tinycockcroft 22 дня назад

The studies about body language and its impact on how others perceive you were really interesting. Had no idea such small changes can make a big difference in how you're received.

@skyec8562 2 месяца назад

The stuff about body language changing based on differet professions was pretty interesting too! I feel like I'm going to be paying more attention to that kind of stuff now