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How to Speak up in Meetings - with Confidence 

Shadé Zahrai
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One of THE most common things I get asked is, “How can I be more confident and speak more meetings?”
While this is a challenge not limited to women, the question seems to mainly come from women who work in male-dominated industries.
If you feel that you struggle with being heard in meetings or that you want more confidence then this video will help. In it I share practical tips and strategies that I train my own clients, and that you can apply immediately at work.
The ability to to be a valuable participant in meetings is a MUST have skill that is vital to your career advancement. It can also strengthen your influence, and it will more likely get you noticed, promoted and recognised for your leadership potential.
You can't afford not to level up your meeting skills and confidence.
In the comments below let me know what you struggle most with in meetings - do you get cut off and interrupted all the time?
Do you find it hard to even interject and share your ideas?
Do you preface everything you’re about to say and apologise for taking up the space like “I’m sorry to interrupt the flow of conversation, but...”
Let me know what you do and let’s tackle this together.
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@waleednassar6239
@waleednassar6239 Год назад
sometimes it is a matter of self confidence. you are not sure enough that what you are going to say is really worth saying
@aqeelkirmani7391
@aqeelkirmani7391 4 года назад
I can't help but appreciate the symmetry of ur position in between the two vases 😐
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 года назад
Haha, that was my husband's attention to detail!
@aqeelkirmani7391
@aqeelkirmani7391 4 года назад
@@ShadeZahrai He has a good sense of "wait, just a bit to the left, perfect, now go on" !!
@abhishekdatta8800
@abhishekdatta8800 4 года назад
😀
@myth6627
@myth6627 4 года назад
Its green screen i guess 🙂
@dziembaj
@dziembaj 4 года назад
Shadé Zahrai that husband thing isn’t gonna work. Simps will most likely unfollow
@infinitybless7132
@infinitybless7132 Год назад
I usually don’t say much in meetings. I just listen. I’m the kind of person that takes backstage. I make things happen by doing it and showing how it will be efficient. I’m more of a doer than talker. ❤
@rico1648
@rico1648 Год назад
Beware of posers who take credit for your effort.😅
@infinitybless7132
@infinitybless7132 Год назад
@@rico1648 been there, not concerned my dear. God is with me. 🙏
@feelthethunder119
@feelthethunder119 4 года назад
Watching this as a guy, cause why the hell not
@aap9167
@aap9167 4 года назад
True that
@ashu2502
@ashu2502 4 года назад
@@aap9167 True that...
@SagarAbhishek
@SagarAbhishek 3 года назад
Same here
@busterbuster8193
@busterbuster8193 2 года назад
Easy on the eyes and ears - with substance - what else can you ask for?
@bradleysica5640
@bradleysica5640 2 года назад
This woman is so amazing in how she relates to her viewership. She is very likeable and talks very sweetly. Brad (Maine)
@idselseno2306
@idselseno2306 2 года назад
English is my second language and I can use it in above average level. The biggest challenge for me is how to explain things specially technical ones to non technical members of the meeting. It takes some brain power to think for the technical solution(solved inside the head using native language) then translate them into English. In some occasions it could make me look as if I don't know enough answers because of stuttering and a lot of filler words (uhmm). Oh those bad memories! 😅🤢
@KCSMITH86
@KCSMITH86 2 года назад
TECHNIQUE: One way to make sure you get heard is to wait for a pause or silent moment. If someone starts talking at the same time, advise the room that when that person is done speaking, that you have something to say. Be ready to speak and jump right on in when that person is done. A second way, is to raise your hand to let it be known that you have something to say. You may have to raise it a few times. Once the room knows that you have something to say, they will get on your side and make sure you have a chance to speak. At this point, they can't wait to hear what it is that you have to say which will be encouraging giving you more confidence to speak. You only have to say excuse me to get their attention never having to apologize. Speak, knowing that what you have to say is valuable and they will receive it as just that. Speak, not caring what anybody is going to think because if it matters to you, thats all that matters.
@unstoppable-ar3292
@unstoppable-ar3292 4 года назад
You're articulate. I love how you break down the video to small sectors. Thank you. I'm a man who has all the confidence in meetings and I will implement this to further enhance my presence in meetings and others around me.
@waelfaraj6705
@waelfaraj6705 5 месяцев назад
Something I have noticed is that people listen more if you speak less and act more ... People favor concise speech and I am doing my best to practice concise brief speeches ...
@tramnguyenngocphuong7639
@tramnguyenngocphuong7639 3 года назад
1. Don’t apologize for interrupting/ bothering before sharing your ideas. 2/ Tack back 3./ Value your ideas, thought 4 /create space for others
@everythingsamsungpro445
@everythingsamsungpro445 4 года назад
Seems like A perfect and gorgeous lady.... I am not gonna lie...her beauty dragged me here ....but when i reached here, she is a motivational speaker which is rare combination for a beauty ,plus her voice & Accent is also very very good. Clear words..... This is called the beauty with brain
@sacchitsreenivasan3487
@sacchitsreenivasan3487 4 года назад
Clicked for the beauty, stayed for the insights
@zubinzaheer551
@zubinzaheer551 4 года назад
I believe working out having a good physique along with the proper attire.. fragrance.. accesories body leads to confidence skyrocketing even before entering the meeting room ready to take anyone and everyone.
@abhinavtripathi970
@abhinavtripathi970 Год назад
Awesome presentation and skill. What I felt people dont speak is because of 2 reasons: 1. They don't do homework before going in a meeting thus they lack the information or knowledge of the agenda and subject. - You will feel confident if you know your audience, have enough information and have done your homework. 2. They do think before sharing anything what if I am proved to be wrong. - people should understand, Most of the time if not always, in any meeting people want to have your idea and get corrected.
@maggiesun5423
@maggiesun5423 2 года назад
Watched this long time ago. Never thought a time would come for me to dig this up and saver every bit of it for my next meeting! So very helpful!! Recently I've been quite frustrated with one of our meetings where I was constantly cut off by one of my colleagues. After a while, I found myself feeling dreadful to even go to the meeting anymore. Now examing it, it's really like what you said - a male dominated (I'm the only female of us 4), and it seems ok among the three of them. I will try your technique in our next meeting. Thank you so much for providing so so much values in your videos!
@kunjalsahu3504
@kunjalsahu3504 2 года назад
How is your experience now ? Plz share
@iamyourcoach_Rosy
@iamyourcoach_Rosy Год назад
Congratulations. I'm so glad this channel is growing so well, great to see a channel get the recognition they deserve. Can't wait to see where this channel goes from here.
@MuhammadZubair-co5jl
@MuhammadZubair-co5jl Год назад
Thank you for your kind opinions. As I am a little introverted hence my CEO recently told me: "You are enough good but have less forthcoming ability". 😊
@SG-hj2hv
@SG-hj2hv 2 года назад
I liked the idea that we need to value our on thoughts and ideas before anyone would and well that's the most difficult thing for me. I gather courage and speek up an the moment I see others are not welcoming it I start feeling less valued and stupid.
@SG-hj2hv
@SG-hj2hv 2 года назад
My most difficult thing is whenever I have an idea related to my work that I feel is useful i get so much carried away that lose the inability to look through the bigger picture.So whenever I present the idea, my teammates bombard me with what is said won't work because of so and so reason and I feel stupid and valueless
@philh1245
@philh1245 3 года назад
I just don’t understand why she makes these videos for women but they’re equally awesomely helpful for us poor men too.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 3 года назад
They're certainly valid for anyone. But like all good business practice - our company can't be all things to everyone. So one of my company's areas of focus is providing career development services for women.
@dastidararnab29
@dastidararnab29 4 года назад
Thanks for sharing these tips. The issue with me is whenever I have to speak I tend to get nervous and thereafter fumble. The flow doesn't come.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 года назад
Perhaps start starting with asking more questions such as asking the person to clarify or elaborate. Once you're comfortable with this then start to contribute by sharing your own thoughts. It might even help to jot down some dot points before you speak out. Good luck! 💪🏽
@dastidararnab29
@dastidararnab29 4 года назад
@@ShadeZahrai thanks!
@DrJonTam
@DrJonTam 3 года назад
Timestamps: 2:07 1. Don't apologise 2:55 2. Take back space 4:43 3. Create space for others
@vranataraj
@vranataraj 2 года назад
The third point of bringing another team member was a big learning. Which I will for sure bring in my next meeting.
@Anonymous-kn8ph
@Anonymous-kn8ph 4 года назад
Your Beauty dragged me in but your Brain is equally as astonishing as you are.
@marcus.the.younger
@marcus.the.younger 4 года назад
one might even say, Beauty with Brain !
@dhimanbhowmick9558
@dhimanbhowmick9558 3 года назад
Good pick up line, Lol, :p
@PinupSticknerd
@PinupSticknerd 8 месяцев назад
Use top space:: Groin muscles -not tense but ready* - take more space - open up negative space: Breath: Smile 😁 Preciate you
@dharinisridhar8151
@dharinisridhar8151 2 года назад
Your videos are quite useful, thank you for sharing! The trouble I face often times is either I second guess myself about what I want to communicate in a meeting or my thoughts are way ahead of what I am actually communicating. Because of the mismatch I sometimes find it difficult to speak coherently.
@hanquenaga8535
@hanquenaga8535 Год назад
Give them space but by first creating your own space, wow! Learning new in every video..
@surimenon9260
@surimenon9260 4 года назад
Thank you for your time. PATIENCE, and Listen.. Convey what is much need with a Smile... I am Aviation man.. Into Sale and Leasing... 🙏
@kokmunloh
@kokmunloh 2 года назад
Way beyond my expectations. Applicable to all social situations.
@abhinandanrocks
@abhinandanrocks 4 года назад
i have been working for 10 years and I am a man but still this is very helpful
@Anurag_Saxena
@Anurag_Saxena 4 года назад
I first ignored your procrastination clip but later found interview tips fascinating... Keep them crisp concise and come considerate 👍
@akhilaccchannel
@akhilaccchannel 4 года назад
B E A U T Y with B R A I N S.. And you carry both elegantly!!! 👍🙂
@silveraser
@silveraser 4 года назад
How to tackle fear of audience, regardless of the percentage of men or women. Often one ends up speaking more confidently in one on one conversations but when it comes to public speaking then speaking the some words becomes challenging.. would appreciate your advice on this
@constancemunyenyembe9867
@constancemunyenyembe9867 5 месяцев назад
Did you get advise from this?
@nawajali7406
@nawajali7406 4 года назад
Thank uuuuu God is GOOD 💖😊
@rajeevSreenivasan
@rajeevSreenivasan Год назад
That’s right,in my work place there is always a coworker (female) cutting everyone off when they starts speak, next time I will follow your tips, thank you
@maheshmohan3011
@maheshmohan3011 4 года назад
Your content is high quality, shade. This channel is destined to hit a 100,000 and then a million subscribers soon.
@abhishalsharma1628
@abhishalsharma1628 2 года назад
I love psychology as well as watching ur videos🥰
@AshPragasam
@AshPragasam 4 года назад
This is great advice. Also, for the serial interrupters out there (I'm guilty) it's good to keep in mind it's not just giving everyone equal time to speak merely out of a sense of fairness. If you sincerely believe others have something you can learn from you will naturally encourage them to share. Happy collaborating!
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 года назад
Great to hear from the other side of the spectrum! 😉 Thanks for sharing that thoughtful perspective. 🙏🏽
@abubakerbugembe7000
@abubakerbugembe7000 2 года назад
Have been so much apologetic but with these clues you have shared, I will rock well in meetings. Thank you.
@pierrevia6599
@pierrevia6599 2 года назад
It is very rarely for me to comment on any video but all your videos are awesome. Your contributions to the social media should be recognized. Thanks so much!
@mavericksantiago319
@mavericksantiago319 4 года назад
I bless you ... you will reach 1 million subs soon .... keep going brave lady 🙌🙌🙌
@lucyaklar6345
@lucyaklar6345 4 года назад
Shade...you should also address the notable fact that discriminatory animus is also a heavy barrier for females and minorities (including males) in the Corporate America world (I assume Australia too!). Sometimes regardless of how loud a female, or even male minority might "speak up" in meetings, they are still minimized as much as possible due to clear discriminatory pretext. In this video it appears you wanted to go to that topic, but you just did not. Thoughts??
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 года назад
Yes, unfortunately discrimination against women and minorities still exists in workplaces. And the research backs this up. One of my core beliefs is that "every differentiation of class, creed, or color must automatically be obliterated, and never be allowed, under any pretext, and however great the pressure of events or of public opinion, to reassert itself. If any discrimination is at all to be tolerated, it should be a discrimination not against, but rather in favor of the minority, be it racial or otherwise." I choose to contribute to the narrative by empowering people to develop the mindset and tools to help overcome such obstacles, and the encouragement to promote collaboration.
@lucyaklar6345
@lucyaklar6345 4 года назад
@@ShadeZahrai I respectfully disagree Shade. If you were fully "empowering" people to develop tools to overcome the heavy burden of discrimination, then part of that process is to directly acknowledge the root of the problem. You made no mention of discrimination, however if you are empowering a mindset to overcome it, you need to bring it into the forefront of the discussion. That's the problem here in America (..and again probably Down Under too). Discrimination is always that "scary" or "taboo" background topic that no one wants to face head on, yet it is often the 800-pound gorilla variable in the room that in many instances caused the problem in the first place for the woman and/or minority sitting in the meeting being minimized. You should have injected it into the conversation, as it would not have negatively impacted your empowerment approach one bit. Plus, as an attorney, I trust that you see the perspective I represent here for many of your You Tube viewers. Thank you.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 года назад
@@lucyaklar6345 thank you for sharing your perspective. I really appreciate you taking the time to write it and your passion for unity. The work that my husband and I do through our training programs with big corporate, and my online programs, my TEDx talk etc. directly address issues of discrimination and encourage elimination of prejudice in an empowering way. Wishing you all the best Lucy!
@lucyaklar6345
@lucyaklar6345 4 года назад
@@ShadeZahrai 👍
@trewaldo
@trewaldo 3 года назад
Sometimes, when you open the floor for questions after a presentation, people know what to ask about but they don't know how to phrase the questions. So they end up with the response "None, so far." 😅 Great tips, Shadé! 🥰🤓😍
@mehwishhanif906
@mehwishhanif906 11 месяцев назад
In today's meeting I was just saying okay okay to others. I think I need to be more strong in my field and always I am unable to share my ideas. Many times I don't remember anything.
@salmaba3229
@salmaba3229 4 года назад
When will you publish your book 📚?
@khadijahfaribol9524
@khadijahfaribol9524 Месяц назад
2:05 Don't Apologise 2:54 Take back space 4:44 Create space for Others
@kgeorge1736
@kgeorge1736 2 года назад
Thanks for sharing. I am a firm believer in effective communication and I am constantly learning. Your contribution is greatly appreciated.
@MrKrushgutz
@MrKrushgutz 4 года назад
Much of it has to do with how you carry yourself. I’m quiet at work but I’ve been promoted at most jobs I’ve held. I’m not the loudest but when I speak people listen. When I’m in meetings people ask for my opinion when I don’t say anything.
@divineversesmalayalam
@divineversesmalayalam 2 года назад
As a silent person as you , i want to know more tips from you for climbing the career ladder. Do you have any
@Swift1756
@Swift1756 2 года назад
Beautifully Defined....Thanks..
@patrick_527
@patrick_527 Год назад
Your personality is just brilliant!!
@waelfaraj6705
@waelfaraj6705 5 месяцев назад
I have noticed that people listen more when you speak less and act more...Speaking the necassary and meaningful conversations but briefly and concisely ...
@abdelrhimhagag8835
@abdelrhimhagag8835 Месяц назад
Teacher shade thank you so much
@sofiaspam7178
@sofiaspam7178 Год назад
I want see more content like this: strategies for women working in a dominated men team
@ashrafhassan6610
@ashrafhassan6610 4 года назад
Beautiful minded, Shade . All my respect 👌
@usmansani7486
@usmansani7486 3 года назад
I'd say you're lovely, your presentation style is perfect, I subscribed your channel yesterday, and almost in two days I watched all of your videos, which I found very interesting and helpful. Thanks, you're appreciable
@adityayadavx447
@adityayadavx447 4 года назад
I just discovered your channel , Just love it., The content , topics are so helpful and informative.. Love from india miss :)
@meer-vrcontentdac4868
@meer-vrcontentdac4868 Год назад
Thank you for valuable points to pick ourselves during meetings, i always hesitate to speak in a group settings!!!
@ritugoel2187
@ritugoel2187 2 года назад
Thankyou for sharing !
@Katangmi10
@Katangmi10 4 года назад
Wow can't express her presentation its too perfect...thanks for this video again...
@HenryRph
@HenryRph Год назад
Thank you Shade! This is incredible info to be caring and aware and stellar talker!
@aqibrehmanpirzada4552
@aqibrehmanpirzada4552 Год назад
Such a Marvelous Work Shade. I would be glad if you make more videos on the Professional Communication and Presentations😊
@boyharwin652
@boyharwin652 4 года назад
This is pretty interesting n valuable topic, my straggling in a meeting is how to wrap up my idea nicely, structurally and logically, so it will easily for others to digest, accept n appreciate it. I want to hear ur video about it "wrap up ur idea nicely". Tq
@juanrosero5117
@juanrosero5117 4 года назад
I love this kind of content. It's targeted for women but the advice is so useful that anyone can take advantage of it, including me.
@atomic_xfire
@atomic_xfire 4 года назад
Im a fan as well
@emiliodejesus8519
@emiliodejesus8519 4 года назад
This is so organized and structured, I love it
@basharalrefaee6953
@basharalrefaee6953 Год назад
Makes a lot of sense, thanks!
@shafeeqahmed8386
@shafeeqahmed8386 4 года назад
Helloo am fan from india🎉🎉
@Bhunesh27
@Bhunesh27 4 года назад
Maheshwari se kam nhi chla kya bhai..? 😂😂
@shafeeqahmed8386
@shafeeqahmed8386 4 года назад
@@Bhunesh27 uska ek ghante ka video kaun dekhega bhai😁
@Bhunesh27
@Bhunesh27 4 года назад
@@shafeeqahmed8386 hahaha... Sahi h👍
@mohammadaghajani1400
@mohammadaghajani1400 Год назад
So useful video thank you ❤❤❤
@ipconfigearth102
@ipconfigearth102 4 месяца назад
Important lesson! To speak up!
@akadirnilavane2861
@akadirnilavane2861 Год назад
Useful information!
@iliyashossian3385
@iliyashossian3385 Год назад
I'm waiting for your video it very helpful ❤😊
@KCSMITH86
@KCSMITH86 2 года назад
TECHNIQUE: My husband said that before his manager moves on to the next subject, he ask if anybody has something to say. Everyone feels heard.
@qalrazal
@qalrazal 7 месяцев назад
1. Dont say sorry first 2. Don't get cut off easily 3. Give someone space Got it
@debojyotichanda8136
@debojyotichanda8136 4 года назад
Excellent channel.
@JamanUddin-o3m
@JamanUddin-o3m 3 месяца назад
Thanks you so much
@gitanjaleeakmar3415
@gitanjaleeakmar3415 2 года назад
Great information
@roarproductionsstudio
@roarproductionsstudio 4 года назад
the other day I was watching some video on a social media and suddenly an Ad pops up and it was a famous actor she was promoting her show in this Ad. and the first thing said was "I'm so sorry to interrupt and then she continued to promote her show". she was Sushmita sen Miss (edit: Universe). so its nothing wrong to apologise before you speak up just my opinion. it really doesn't matter in fact it can help you in some way.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 4 года назад
I agree, there are times where it makes sense to say "sorry". The important thing is not being overly apologetic or apologizing for no apparent reason. I've seen too many people (mostly women) being apologetic in the most uncalled for situations such as before they say something in a meeting.
@purpy7y
@purpy7y 4 года назад
Thank you Shadé! As a man starting off my career I find your videos very helpful!
@Honest_Reply900
@Honest_Reply900 Год назад
Creating space for someone is a good idea bit what happens if the person doesn't like it or they don't have anything to say
@nihalkumarasinghe5507
@nihalkumarasinghe5507 2 года назад
Thank you 🙏
@lungkhangkalengta5492
@lungkhangkalengta5492 4 года назад
Looking awesome
@User-hh3gg
@User-hh3gg Год назад
Thanks for your videos. Each n every video has given me usefull inputs to be used in corporate world 🙏👍
@sbehera215
@sbehera215 2 года назад
Your videos are too good the way you present & very much useful and thanks for sharing.
@Mustafa-vl9lz
@Mustafa-vl9lz 4 года назад
I hope you make some audio books one day ❤️
@triciajensen9679
@triciajensen9679 Год назад
I am definitely going to try this in my next department meetings, thanks!!
@TheTravelDiaries486
@TheTravelDiaries486 4 года назад
Yes Shade madam I was feeling same way I always talk before I learned this thanks
@keerthisgk861
@keerthisgk861 Год назад
Hey @ShadeZahrai, you are doing a great job. Can you post more videos as this related to workplace
@user-vp9pd8vn3z
@user-vp9pd8vn3z 4 года назад
Your videos have really good content 😃!!!!! Thanks a lot 😊 You are a really inspiring woman!!!!😊😃 I enjoy your videos a lot 😊😊😃😃👍🏻👍🏻
@sanjaytrivedi6103
@sanjaytrivedi6103 3 года назад
Thanks.
@Big_Penguin
@Big_Penguin 9 дней назад
Slaaaaaaay Queen
@aviator5177
@aviator5177 4 года назад
you are an angel, I dont know who the lucky one will be.
@msmventures799
@msmventures799 3 года назад
Hi! How do you stop yourself from smiling too much and talking too softly/sweetly?
@rapatel1642
@rapatel1642 3 года назад
Excuse let me finish, 👌Good advice.
@davedukes6167
@davedukes6167 3 года назад
Great content
@KumR
@KumR 3 года назад
Whats the best way to start expressing an idea instead of saying “I am sorry or This may be a silly idea”.
@sataarsediqi783
@sataarsediqi783 3 года назад
The best way to speak confidently in meetings is to be competent and have some idea about that thing. The more competent you are the more confident you become.
@JerelTeh
@JerelTeh 4 года назад
This is so important in my life as a student
@zuesbenz
@zuesbenz 4 года назад
Good points.
@sanchitavaish28
@sanchitavaish28 Год назад
Awesome tips❤
@sreejithchandran118
@sreejithchandran118 4 года назад
I wanna improve my communication skills like you.. Could you tell me some tips to get improve.?... I want to be speak like you with more confident..
@SaiKiran-en2zm
@SaiKiran-en2zm 3 года назад
Just listen up It's okay to be different in accent and style Repeatative kind of boring Just keep simple words and be slow while talking further time works for you Only thing is you have to initiate things to happen.
@sreejithchandran118
@sreejithchandran118 3 года назад
@@SaiKiran-en2zm Thanks for your tips.
@habibytchannel3076
@habibytchannel3076 4 года назад
I like your style to speak. It's fully confident. 👍🏻
@shresthaditya2950
@shresthaditya2950 Год назад
1:54-Reality:It is usually the people who speak the most and the loudest who get heard, recognised and then promoted. Your Thoughts are just as valuable as other people's thoughts in this room
@waelfaraj6705
@waelfaraj6705 5 месяцев назад
I have subscribed today on 3rd of April 2024 ... Infinte love and peace from Lebanon to the world...🌍🌎🌏♾🇱🇧♾🇱🇧🌏🌎🌍🇱🇧♾🇱🇧
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