How to Stop Being a Victim - Releasing Self Pity 

I hope it wasn’t a slap, just a gentle realization, ;) no slaps given here. I am thrilled you have the first step to changing your life. Recognition is the first step to changing. Congratulations!

You’re welcome! This was a few months ago, sometimes I don’t see comments until later. sorry for the late response. How have you been doing in your pursuit of not using self pity?

Did you work this out? How did you do?

everyone does, until they don't. I am excited for you to end this behavior, :) Keep Growing!

It is left over as a child's compensation tool, and many people never change it. I am so happy to hear your comment, thank you for changing that, you are doing more good for the world than you know releasing Self Pity. Congratulations for your awareness, you are already half way there to a more powerful life.

Me too. I want to be rid of this self defeating habit.

come out with flying color now :-) best wishes

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Oh good! Congratulations! It is truly a life changing moment to realize this and begin ending this debilitating behavior. Bravo! It can be a sticky thing to drop, so be willful in your pursuit. You are most welcome. Get ready to be much more powerful in your life!

Thank you for this feedback! We really enjoy making these videos and it’s so nice to hear when a person resonates with it and appreciates our efforts! ❤️

@@Richardparistalks Thank you very much for your encouragements. I am determined! :-)

Thank you!

Spoken articulately and honestly. So, so many are right there with you. Recognition is the first step to change and you are moving in the right direction. Thank you for changing, the more people who can do this the better the world will be immediately. It’s just an old anesthetic that has become an addiction, that needs to be released and not picked up again. This is the root of empowerment for many. Congratulations. :) thanks for your comment. Be sure to check out all the other gems on my channel. Happy Holidays!!

The key to recognize it is you who must stop feeling sorry for yourself. Self pity is a way to deal with being disempowered. You cannot be empowered unless you can stop. It is a coping mechanism of the child, that must be moved beyond. It’s just an old way to deal with life that debilitates as one uses it.

Thanks! I appreciate your responses and I have a few new videos to record that we are discussing now. I aim to attract “those who can hear”. :) keep stretching!

Isn’t it awesome to see what you have been doing to yourself for so long and have a way to stop? Life will be very different for you, congratulations for stepping out of the dark. Good job. :)

Thank you again for your considerate comments. There is a lot of gold in there for the right miner. :)

@@Richardparistalks True, so true. Thanks again-

Congratulations for finding it!

Congratulations! some patterns are too addictive for some to let go of. Some people seem to enjoy struggle. It’s sad to see, and painful to be around. Once you honestly see it for what it is, doing it isn’t the same.

Wonderful! You can do it. The fastest way out of martyr, is to “remember the love”, it will stop the punishment right in it’s tracks. Recognition is the first step in a change process, it has the least level of responsibility, but a requirement for any change. Congrats!

It's funny I've been thinking about your channel but couldn't remember what it was called. And lo and behold this notification came up again. That's strange. I can't shake what you said about your near death experience, when you mentioned it was the Goddess that controlled everything. At least that's what I heard

This is the most self-pitying comment on self-pity I've ever seen. I wish I could change but I can't I have this addiction. Bullshit! If you want to change then do so. stop making excuses. stop feeling sorry for yourself, and take full responsibility for your actions. It's not a disease it's a decision. A decision that only you can make. And if it is a disease then get medicine for it. Don't bitch about how you have a disease, yet are doing nothing for it. And responsibility is not the same thing as blame. Blaming anyone including yourself will not help anything

Excellent! Thank you.

Congratulations, how is it going?? Were you able to drop it?

@@consciousrealitycreator8774 honestly it is a work in progress :( I find myself up and down, I definitely need some more work on myself

@@mahammmi just stop feeling sorry for yourself. It’s no work at all. Just stop it. It will continue to ruin you’re wins and your positive possibilities. You have to know you deserve to have more. You can do it. Just be more willful than the desire for the drug. 1% more can do it.

@@consciousrealitycreator8774 thank you so much. I feel like this is the push I need every time I feel myself slipping back into the same pattern, I deserve better in life

@@mahammmi deserving is a willful act on your part. Remember that. You must move through life as you always deserve more. For no reason other than you want more. Stay on track, now is the most important time of all.

When you have an ear for the truth and you hear your song, the rest is easy. I’m always so excited when I can hear our song in another. Congrats! There’s a lot of goodies for you here.

You are so welcome, enjoy!

I want to write you a note. You must muster all your willingness, and do whatever you must to end that numbing and damaging pattern for your reality. Self Pity IS at the very root of all your current problems. We are in a #NewParadigm, let go of the past. It is more deadly than it ever was.

@@consciousrealitycreator8774 Agreed. Thanx for your reply.

Living in the Past, (which is *only and completely born of thought) is how self pity perpetuates survives and thrives. What you believe is what you are getting, Belief is the function behind what is all form, basically belief is the driving motor in what generates form, Belief precedes all physical experience. Belief’s are what the elements respond to. You are seeing, smelling, tasting, hearing and touching your entire real-time mirrored reality. You cannot fully respond nor create a positive response from a reality, stemming and based in and out of struggle. “Struggle” used as a means to “get ahead”, as in “no pain no, gain”, “hardship is what tests your mettle”, (which when “not being tested” is the proof you are healed, which then can open the gates and quantifies ones level of receiving) And the win can never happen. You will never have the life you want with this approach. Basically, “feighning weakness, trying to manipulate god into giving it to you, is how you will win the manifestation game. With this mindset only hardship will elevate. Self Pity will ruin you and those you love. If I could not stress anything more to you in pursuit of a spiritually and naturally based lifestyle is to stop this pattern right now, right now. At the ROOT of ALL your problems is self pity, just quietly walk away, and be done with suffering for other’s. For example, Take off your mask and don’t put it back on for any reason. You will guarantee you will be dealing directly with your self pity and you will have a chance to directly relate to it for the purpose of resolving it. So dive into it, in order to release it, or just stop struggling. Just stop feeling not good enough based on what you have (not) earned, stop feeling sorry for your lowly and humble mediocre life. Do anything you can and find the means and method to stop. The current environment is begging you to stop it. You can do this, I did. Don’t try to be the epitome of the one who suffers, go for being more loving to yourself and the ones you love, whether these ones you love are known or not. Self pity dies the moment you remember the Love, and respond from and with it. The reason you take the pill of Self Pity is because you have shame, heal your shame, and the reason to go into self pity in the first place will be gone. Take the appropriate level of responisbility here and heal.

Rise above, break the chain, go for it legend

Thank you for your comment. :)

That’s great! I like that. Thank you for your comment!

@@consciousrealitycreator8774 you're welcome

You are so welcome!

You’re so welcome!

Thanks for your sweet comment. :)

You got this!

Thank you. I’m excited to help you release this pattern. :)

@@consciousrealitycreator8774 🥺🧡🤘

You are welcome. :)

Thank you, I appreciate your comment, and I want to keep it small and real. I’m not into being too involved in sharing this. I have a great life just how it is, lol it’s here for the right listeners.

@@consciousrealitycreator8774 definitely understand and respect it. Thank you for contributing!

@@modernemcee if you have any questions about any of it, I will answer here. I think over time, the comments section can be a quality resource of additional information.

Thank you too. :)

I didn’t say anyone is bad for being in self pity. It’s just not good for you or anyone else to be exposed to someone who is in it. It is an arrested behavioral pattern, which always creates problems for the person in it.

@@consciousrealitycreator8774 yeah but you say people do it to hurt others? I'm not trying to hurt others.

@@jamesgentry13 all that means is you’re not recognizing your impact. Are you a loving and caring person to the people you care about when you are in self pity? Your not bad, just not loving in those moments. You are manipulating and causing them pain. Manipulation causes pain. I think you are not wanting to see the truth of who you are when you use these lesser coping mechanisms. You are using the tools of a child and adolescent. You’re too evolved for that. Be honest. You’re hurting people. Just stop it and ask for what you want. Self pity exacerbates bipolar and depression. Watch the depression video and heal that too. :) you can do it!

Sometimes it is a pattern that can still seem to keep us safe. Perhaps there is a part of yourself just too afraid to drop it. If you continue as an adult, as you get older it will slowly erode and destroy you. You have to *willfully disengage it. Don’t go through life numbing yourself, don’t be afraid of your feelings or the future. Life is primarily supposed to be fun. Try and learn to have fun with your emotions and don’t take them so seriously. You cannot try to stop it, you must resist the temptation. You can do it. If you haven’t dropped it yet, you will have to find a higher level of willfulness than you have previously utilized. Go farther than the other times. Also look at the recording on healing depression, I think that might be something you can do now that could make it easier to drop the self pity after you have released some anger/rage.

The first step to any change sequence is recognition, congratulations. This is a terribly disabling behavior. You can be a new person when this is healed. I’m very happy to have you here. Thank you for your courage and work. You’re making the world a better place. Happy Holidays to you and your family!

@@consciousrealitycreator8774 Happy holidays and blessings to you too , this was like Cristmass present for me thanks :D

@@captaincool6268 wonderful, that makes two of us. :) I had a typo in my last answer, I fixed it! Yay for us!! There’s lots more good videos to watch.

Just watch my “releasing depression” video, :) one step at a time.

@@consciousrealitycreator8774 link to this video? Looked at your videos but couldn’t locate it

@@chgofirefighter here ya go. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-dx5PEv9GltA.html

I’m so excited the example was so poignant! When you exhale you “ARE” disempowering you’re will, desire and have the very worst expectation in that moment. This is what you are trying to tell yourself. You can make a Giant’s leap in your growth at a monumental time in “human consciousness” expanding. You can create a life at this moment beyond what you can imagine from here. Stop this immediately. Every moment you wait is disempowering yourself when “right action” is monumental. If no other positive motivation is available to you right now, *know and follow your Constitution, in all ways powerfully. Let the past go. Release all the reasons why not. Release all of your past. It cannot help you now. There is absolutely zero value in it. The value is inveigh expectations and the emotional desire to place yourself vigorously in the best environment for your growth. Speak up for what you want, if you don’t know, learn who you are, love yourself. Self pity is a cheap drug. You must know you deserve more than that. You can only do that by dropping the Past.

LOL! It’s funny when we look at it when we aren’t in it! Recognition is the first step in the change sequence, keep going! Thanks for your comment.

My entire channel is dedicated to working towards being the ultimate authority in everything in your life. There is no room for being a victim in an empowered life. There is nothing out of your control. For some, the best they can imagine is there is nothing out of your control in the way they you respond to life. Even that is better than being a victim, but not yet fully empowered. There is never a good reason to be in self pity if you are over the age of 12. It is an outdated response carried over from childhood. It’s ok, I understand it is hard to let go of, but one must. It is debilitating to use Self pity in lieu of feeling and responding. There is never an appropriate time to be in self pity, period. I am being a bit firm here, because it’s true. Don’t opt for that, it will lead you no where in your pursuit of experiencing quality emotions or in any positive direction in your growth. Thanks for responding! You can drop it, you really can.

Not really, standards are values, choices made and based in ones character. I am speaking of the literal Latin translation. EX=outside, Spect=to see. Expectation is seeing outside yourself. To see what it is you envision in the future. To have such a crystal clear image that this imagery will generate the feelings that ultimately will create the space for your desires to manifest. Expectation is a powerful reality creation tool.

You’re funny. That would be Alpha Beta.

lol, you and my dad might get along. If someone tells you, "you need to change", it might be true. Only you will know if you do need to or not. Just because someone tells you to change doesn't mean you don't need to and it's on them for asking you to. It's far more sophisticated than that. You can ask my wife, if she is in self pity, (she used to do this a lot) I will tell her to knock that shit off, and drop it. It sux to be around someone feeling sorry for themselves, they're just punishing you when they are. There is no clean Self pity. You should tell them when they are stuck in a crappy place. Who else could, or would? The person in Self Pity owes it to the *relationship to change. If your relationship isn't healthy, something is off and it will always be a contribution on both sides regardless of what the situation looks like, "it takes two to Tango". This is why intimate relationships are a necessity in elegant growth. If an intimate person in your life says you need to change, then I would agree you ought to. Maybe you aren't changing what they specifically want you to change, but you would be wise to find out what needs to change. An important person in your reality is asking you to, do you tell them fuck off, take me as I am? Alway go for greater love. And no one needs to change to be loved. The greatest power in life is to be balanced between paradox. Did you go into self pity around my relationship with my dad? You were triggered by what I said. You don't flip the script per se, you stop punishing people, and "Remember the Love". Love is the antithesis to Self Pity. thanks for your comment!

@@consciousrealitycreator8774 Thanks for the response. I understand your take. The first part of the video I didn’t agree with but I learnt quite a bit from the video overall. Love is something I didn’t think of and loving myself. And definitely yes a bit of transference as I have my own issues with my dad. And at times I do get caught up in self pity more than I want to be. Good insight.

@@user-wj7um7hn2e such a painful perspective to hold. I think pity is an attempt to manipulate God into doing it for us. People hold out for years, so many church goers live here. :(

I have, I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t. Just because you hear something in (ones) the voice doesn’t mean they have an issue. I can clearly remember all the feelings, it’s doesn’t mean I’m a victim to them. My dad was “good enough” as he was. So was my mom, which I had far more issues with. If you’re alive past being a teenager, your parents did good enough.

I used myself as an example of where I have been, not where I am. I use myself in many examples. Thanks for the tip. :)

It is a great example. My mother is like this "I'm fucked up and so what? You Don't like it, I can leave all this and disappear and then what are you going to do? I will drive into nearest tree and that's it".

YOU are welcome. :)

You’re welcome!