My mom asked me to add: If you are in an abusive relationship whether it’s emotional or physical make sure you find a way to leave. Ask for help, tell someone you trust, save money to get out… it does not get better if they abused you once they will do it again and worse the second time. It takes lots of courage to leave and start over but you have to be strong and have faith. It’s better to have some uncomfortable months or years than have the risk of someone taking your life. They do not change, they only get worse because they see that they can get away with it. If I could get anything back in my life, I would have left when I saw the early signs of abuse. You will get trough this, situations like these create warriors. When you are brave enough to choose yourself, everything in life starts to open up for you. Lots of love and blessings 🙏🏻♥️♥️♥️
Thankyou for this video, although I haven't watched all of it yet, from a week ago I couldn't stop thinking about this embarrassing moment, thinking about my friends and others laughing at me, but then I realise they don't actually care and would have forget about it.
Well, I'm in the same situation like this. And idk its tough to get out. I'm at a point where I want to get out no matter what, cause it sucks, but part of me still loves him. And he claims that he won't do it again, but my heart refuses to take that validation. I somehow know that this time he is actually changing, but idk what is in me I just can't trust him anymore. So what should I do abt thatm
I am a man and i find men’s self help videos sometimes very toxic. So i watch your videos and its amazing how good you are with this. Your advice always helps. Its like listening to elder very wise sister for me. Very therapeutic. Thank you for this.
@@joyc9323 it's abt appearance at first because that's literally the 1st thing we notice, when we see sm1 but after we get to know them that's when we choose if we really want to be around them
You would think it's such a crazy thing for her to say because she's pretty as hell but in reality, women literally go through so much in this world it's not even funny. Allot of the prettiest girls I knew in school were raped as a youth but they all trot around like everything is alright, when in reality they're suffering. Ps. Stay strong
@@KillerQueen-gx4vb I know that. I was not trying to leave anyone out. I was merely responding to her point is all. I also was eluding to the fact that the people that smile the most be having some of the worst experiences in life but hide it so well that you would never think that.
I can't stop crying. I am dealing with so much high school drama that I don't even wanna deal with but listening to her say,"It happened, it happened, honey it's fine" was such a comfort. Thank you Liz. You mean a lot to me. I love you with all my heart. You're such an elder sister to me. Thank you.
@@ladyslick121 I’m trying to understand what could be the underlying drive to make a comment like this. What is it inside of you that would need say this? I was floored by that sentence. Sometimes it’s the most basic & simple sentences that can be the most profound & just click for the reader. My life has been extremely hard on & off and sometimes I’ve become really weak physically & mentally. Getting stuck in a victim mindset & negative thought loops. I’m now 5 yes into a spiritual awakening & working on myself and I’m much stronger and able to let go of victim thinking patterns. I loved how empowering “life is not for the weak” was because it made me feel grateful for all my challenges because I’m strong enough to move through them & learn & improve. Your comment made me feel defensive and like I need to explain myself… so thanks it’s good for me to feel realise that I still have a need to explain myself to others… everything’s a sign post & a mirror right!? My comment obviously triggered you to feel something, I hope you can identify what it was & then bring awareness to it. 💫 xx
@@ladyslick121 it’s funny because people like you who easily trivialize things are some of the most dissatisfied and unhappy people because they can’t appreciate anything. So ironically, probably anyone who sees your comment is more worried about you. Things don’t need to be over complicated and convoluted to be meaningful. Some of the most simple things in life can be the most profound and beautiful If you have the capacity to recognize and appreciate it.
another male viewer from india, so im an 18 yr old boy struggling with crippling depression and constant physical and mental abuse from my parents. Honestly i was sick of most male self improvement youtubers telling me 'oh just hit the gym and meditate bro', cuz even by doing all of that, i never understood why i still used to break down in tears during night and had to cry myself to sleep until the mental pain was finally gone. Going through all of the loneliness, abuse , confusion and self hatred alone i thought there was no point in having even a single ounce of hope for life anymore. But then thanks to my cousin, she recommended me your channel and i noticed that im finally starting to feel better day by day as i keep watching your vids. i hope one day i'll finally leave my parents' place and see a totally new version of life. Edit: So Its been a while since i'm on my healing journey and im here to acknowledge the fact that yes it still hurts a lot and its not an easy process at all. A lot of times you are going to find yourself reliving the whole traumatic scene in certain social situations and even end up crying with a combined feeling of frustration and extreme sudden hatred towards the abuser. But always remember that since you were strong enough to survive the damage, you're well damn strong enough to survive the recovery too. AND YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!
Follow Nofap which gives you motivation for anything you need and certainly stop watching these 'female self centered youtubers'. This is women's battle, they hate each other.
when my 4 years old brother had cancer I realized that literally nothing matters in this life but being healthy,I was going to oncology clinic very often and seeing these little kids without hair and without any hope killed me,most of us don’t realize that we are very privileged and some people would do anything to be in our skin,we should be grateful because of that P.s my brother beat cancer and now he is doing great❤️
Your mom seems like a very strong, beautiful woman, that raised an amazing daughter. I‘d really love to see a video of you both together, if you want to
5:55 - Focus on evolving yourself to get the privilege you want 12:08 - Self pity is a waste of time 12:48 - Self pity leads to more negative emotions 13:14 - Self pity prevents you from dealing with your emotions 13:56 - Self pity interferes with relationships 14:12 - Self pity is a habit that you can change 14:22 - Accept the situation for what it is and focus on what you have now 14:57 - Volunteer to a worthy cause 15:24 - Start something new and make it apart of your lifestyle 16:05 - Look for the positive in every situation 16:27 - Look at yourself from and outside perspective 17:01 - Ask yourself what advice would I give a loved one about this situation 17:05 - Treat yourself like someone you love deeply 17:47 - Remind yourself of the times you were able to overcome tough situations 18:25 - Make a list of people circumstances and situations that you love and are good 18:44 - Write down things you are grateful for in a journal 19:20 - Repeat to yourself what you are grateful for 20:07 - Ask other people what they are grateful for 20:26 - Teach your children to be grateful ✨ 21:24 ✨
"You thought you couldnt make it and you still made it, and you should be proud of youself" thank you Liz, your words are really special and powerful that touch ppl heart
-update: im in my lowest point right now bc art school is so tough to me, i feel like i have no passion anymore and i wanna quit cause i think i wont make it suddenly someone liked this comment and it reminds me of how i should keep studying, because in the future i will make it anyway cause that’s how i’ve been through million times in the past, thank u again Liz and random person who liked my comment
14:39 "It happened. It happened, honey it's fine. It happened. Okay." Thank you, Liz. That literally broke me. Every time I see one of her videos, there's a part of me that heals and feels emotions that were buried somewhere deep within.
The pretty privilege point is so damn good because we as men were taught recently that women are living life on easy mode because they're pretty. When in reality you have women who get abused and cheated on but they are drop dead gorgeous. Also ones who suffer from depression and anxiety. Those things are not easy to deal with and I'm glad that I came across your channel to see a new/better side of things. Keep it up!
@The_Audacity @The_Audacity I respect your grind and come up and thank you for sharing this. Also, I feel like people get lost in making excuses. Some men nowadays will be talking about women like they didn't earn their spot in the pecking order. And that if they did then it MUST be because of some specific reason that they made it to the top. It can never be "well maybe they just worked harder than me". Their fragile male ego is going to get shattered knowing they got out worked by a woman and so they make up these scenarios that make no sense often. Because yes women have it hard. Allot of times harder than most men because on top of trying to look the prettiest on the outside and be respected in the workplace, they also have to work on their mental health. Most men are taught to suppress these emotions. It is far easier to run away and say fuck it but I respect women so much because they deal with so much shit emotionally and HEAD on. No running from it or bullshitting. Just real work. You're right though. God is definitely worth any and everything.
So??? Ugly people deal with those things too and have even worse lives?? They can't just make thousands modeling a month and then hire a spiritual coach like Liz?? Smh beautiful people are so disconnected and cringe. And so are their followers
How to stop feeling sorry for your self 1. Volunteer for a worthy cuzz 2. See the positive in any situation 3. Be there for yourself , comfort yourself (How would you treat a love one who is going through what your going through) 4. Have a gratitude journal 📓 and be grateful Thank you Liz ❤🙏
I heard this message during an Islamic lecture and wanted to share "If you woke up today with all the things you were grateful to God for yesterday, what would you wake up with today?". I realised I would've woken up with literally nothing at the time I heard that. It really helped me to truly be grateful about even the smallest of things.
As an Iranian girl, who is currently living in iran, watching this gave me goosebumps thank you for being our voice. I am grateful that women like you exist to spread these important words. It has been hard living through isolation government is forcing on us and your videos always bring me peace ❤️❤️
this woman is the true queen. when I was watching the last video " why everyone is always obsessed with me" I saw soooo many comments saying: "yeah, it's easy for her to say, she's pretty". And I was just sitting and thinking why didn't they hear her words and decided to be feel sorry for themselves instead. And here I open this video and see the answer. Liz, you're amazing❤
Because they are correct... I largely did all of this stuff, actual change happened with me improving my looks. I've seen similar things happen with height, makeup, booty size or muscles. No matter how infectious that personality is, attraction gives you more opportunities to express it, which makes you more confident because of sheer number of experiences. It's basic social mirroring! Positive mirroring leads to confidence, negative leads to distress. The issue is always people taking one extreme or the other. You can listen to her words, improve and realize privilege, in a pretty way does help you so much in life.
“your character shows on your face.” I understand what you mean totally. There are a lot of beautiful people with not-so-beautiful hearts, or who are very damaged. And like you’re pointing out, they’re often hated by others who don’t have strong self esteem simply because they’re beautiful on the outside, not knowing anything about them. Great points in this video 🤍
as your male viewer, also living iran, i really appreciate and am thankful for the knowledge you given us liz. i know your channel is for female audience but it really helped me with my self steem and i sometimes wonder why is it not being taught to us more too. everyone deserves happiness, freedom, success and all the best and i wish it to you all. thank you for being our voice and support. Women, life, freedom.
This made me realize that self pity can be equal to being not grateful, because self pity is literally focusing on the bad things and the things I do not have. And Allah already mentioned in Quran (Surah Ibrahim, 14;7) "if you're grateful, I will increase you". Thank you for opening my mind, and I should stop self pity. I didn't realize how much damage it did to myself.
"Life is not for the weak". I've been thinking the same most of my life and for that I felt like I am not made for this world. That I am one of those defective products of the universe who slipped through the quality check. But now that I think about all the sh*t that I went through, I am still here. Others have quit for less. Wanted to quit so many times myself too, but I am still here so I am slowly but surely starting to belive that some higher power saw my strength, my true powers and my potential and therefore planted me here because they knew I am an unbeatable. And the hardships are making me even stronger. I can and I will make it. Thank you Liz for your videos, you are the first 'life coach' who has truly hit home with me and you make me see things from different perspectives. Blessings to you ❤ And never give up guys!
i can’t say this ENOUGH. pretty girls have it ROUGH in this world and are always attacked for their confidence, i LOVE how you said your last video wouldn’t trigger a confident person… so true. don’t even remember you talking about yourself all high and mighty, only remember relating to stalkers, ending friendships, etc. YOU GO QUEEN!
same goes for people who have low self-esteem. Not all of the people who hate themselves envy pretty people at all. Not everyone is like that. Although I do struggle with insecurity I never get annoyed of confident people in fact I feel happy for them. The only reason I feel this way is due to my past, I'm still working on it to this day so hopefully I'll learn how to love myself.
I love that you aren’t a people pleaser. As someone who people pleases as a trauma response it’s such an inspiration to me. You think you’re beautiful? Say it. You can observe how people react to you? Why on earth should you be called a narcissist for speaking the truth. I appreciate you so much for this and many other reasons.
As an Iranian here, I do appreciate your support of us, Iranian women are creating a new history. Thank you, Liz, I love your videos and really get obsessed with them. Please be our voice.
i am Ukrainian so i can relate to your refugee situation. Thank you Liz for your videos, they really help me and inspire that even though hope is not here for me i know that its still out there and i can achieve things you achieved
Girl I saw your last video and rolled my eyes at all the negativity. All the insecure people were just projecting their jealousy onto you calling your confidence “narcissistic” LMAO. I enjoy your videos they motivate me to actually do something about my situation instead of crying about it and getting triggered when someone else is doing well. You’re an amazing role model don’t let these losers get to you 💕
I found myself criticizing your videos. Days and weeks went by and they kept being suggested to me. Since I kept feeling miserable and stuck, I decided to keep watching. Then I realized the voice that was criticizing, was my mothers. As much as I thought I was my own person and not like my mom, lo and behold every single criticism that was deliberately preventing me from being open minded and progressing, sounded EXACTLY like her when she would criticize me and others. Which is even MORE reason to heed your advice and wisdom. This is a next level way of living life, that you’re sharing with us. I am so so grateful for it.
Your moms story is so touching and so humbling. Your mom is literally a superwoman and so are you. Thank you for sharing this story today Liz and consistently giving us new perspectives to think about!
She's more than an advisor, she's the real woman who have been through the worst and she tries to help us not to face those things , she's a pure angel , i thank God for introducing me to her ❤️ ilysm Mama Liz❤
I'm a 22 yr old girl from Spain, with a very fucked up home situation since I was born and stuff. I was feeling awful and with my power and listening to you, such a divine speach, my life has changed drastically in less than a week. I send you lots of love of you and your family, I'm so grateful i can hear and see another day for being able to listen to you. ❤️
Your family story touches me very much, as I am Ukrainian refugee now, I am living in another country; my bf, father, granny, friends are so far from me… but I cannot just suffer. I need to do my best to help myself, my younger sister and my mom. War - is the worst thing! Thank you for this video.
So sorry for what ur living, But I prefer to live in another country than to live in my own country, because in Syria there are no necessities for life, there is no work, there is no electricity, there is not enough water, I hope that one day inshallah I'll travel to another country and complete my studies and dreams
You're literally saving me from an abusive relationship. Im so traumatised, damaged. But im focusing on healing process. Thank you liz you gave me hope.
Awareness is key in this process Liz. People get triggered, but don't know why, like reaaallly why. I know this is out of left field, but life hit me pretty hard. I used to live in Miami being around street violence, guns, death, and I even used to eat $3 a day, 25 cents noodles, expired toast and canned campbell tomato soup. I survived the Boston Marathon Bombing which was a few feet away and I saw all the blood the people screaming and I was alone at 18. I also used to live in a room with no kitchen, trash bag as a window and bugs crawling on me at night. I also took boxing to protect myself and learned how to defend against bigger threats. Now I live in a cabin in the north of Sweden where I go down to a lake to breathe and heal my past and I post on RU-vid to help others who need it the most. I just uploaded a video on my reset routine and looking to upload a mini documentary next week. I hope this helps someone reading 💜
After watching some of Liz’s videos, I wished I had a friend like her, after watching this video, I realized I want to be that friend for myself and those around me
Liz, I’m an Iranian girl and now that I watched the end of this video, I became so emotional that you talked about Mahsa Amini and spread the word about women’s rights. A lot of people were killed and arrested in this crisis simply because of the minimum rights. Thank you so much for your contribution in this❤
The way my confidence has skyrocketed after being introduced to your videos omg.. literally have no time for mediocrity in my life. I am the best and I deserve the best
Hi Liz, hope you’re doing well.. Silent viewer here. I’d like to let you know that you’re my mentor, I always think that you are a blessing from God and I am incredibly thankful for the knowledge and advice that you give to us. Please know that you’ve been a huge help after God. And I always say this: no one will ever abuse you more than you abuse yourself. If you know your value, run away don’t stay. Thank you Liz..
I can’t even imagine being against you. You’re a light in the darkness. I literally wish that if I had someone like Liz to scold me back then! The people who hate Liz, in reality hate the reality their trying to hide for so long. It takes courage to accept that & it’s not everyone’s cup of tea! love Liz🌟
You're really such a strong, brave and well-spoken woman. As a 19 year old girl struggling with severe weed abuse directly correlated to my ADHD and social anxiety, your videos have been an absolute godsend in what feels like the darkest times of my life. Thank u for creating this channel
@ruby Same here, but I decided to go sober of weed 5 days ago and I already feel better and more in control of my life. Before, every day was ruled and centred about the next time I was gonna smoke. It’s not easy but at the same time it is if you make the decision and take it seriously. I’ve had to consciously stop myself even if i really wanted to smoke. I’m doing all this for myself and for the better version of me that is so proud I’m doing this. I’m not doing this alone but with a friend who was in a similar situation. I swear it impacts our mental health so much, even more if we have a history of conditions. It’s not easy to admit you are addicted to it and that’s the first step, so congratulations!! 6 days ago I wouldn’t dare to admit it. If you’re looking for encouragement to quit, here it is. Ask for help if you need it and do it with someone else if you can!! I’m doing it and I’m no different than you, so you can do it too!! I wish you the best. You’re not alone ❤️❤️
@@laurareaf7984 wow thank you, I definitely needed to hear this! I can totally relate with every day being centered around the next time I smoke. Its stressful because i feel myself go into a panic every time i think about running out. It’s so easy to want to be numb & just stay in my comfort zone but Ive been knowing it’s not going to help me progress, i just haven’t been able to officially stop! you’re right it’s for the sake of bettering ourselves, this is my sign to stop for good!
@@laurareaf7984 I wish you the best on your journey to! I unfortunately can’t do this with someone else as that someone else use to be my ex lol but either way im doing it. Thanks for the encouragement
I cried really hard when you mentioned about iran. I as a iranian i feel great full for being able to live somewhere i can be safe for i pray for iran every day and for my land to be free i love you so much liz . Youre really a big motivation for me youre the biggest grace and power for women or people that watch you thank you. Thank you for being always kind and helpful even to the people that don’t appreciate you
This is so true. Insecurities will always project to some people. They will always be triggered when other people are confident about themselves. While listening to ur last video it was very relatable and feels like mirroring my own confidence and motivated me more. While the comments are full of insecure people thinking she was delusional. Like i hope you all heal. I hope people will see their own worth and beauty.
I'm Muslim..... 🌸 I'm very Grateful for what you've said about our religion.... Your follower from Sudan 🇸🇩, grateful for the beautiful energy that you give , it's the first time for me commenting on your videos . Love 🌸
I stood up for my friend when these girls were talking bad about him. I can say that you were a huge influence in me doing so. I am now proud of myself and thankful for you Liz
as an iranian girl i just wanted to thank you so much for your support and kindness we really appreciate your effort to advocate your time to inform people and specially women . women should be heard all around the world thank you for being our voice ❤❤❤❤❤❤
@@se.i.4393 bruh. Liz said they fled from the war (Middle East) to Belgium. Honestly I'm jealous of you guys, I'm from Ukraine and eager to get outta here too
thank you so much for speaking of the Mahsa Amini situation, im a 14 year old half Iranian girl who lives safely in Arabia but it hurts me to know that I can not fight with my sisters back home. we love you and thank you for your wonderful work ❤️
The idea to volunteer for a cause as an antidote to depression is actually so on point and backed by clinical studies! Multiple studies have shown that volunteering for a charitable cause can lower levels of depression - great advice
Hey liz, I'm from Iran and I have been a fan of all your videos for a long time. it's so great to see how the person I look up to is supporting me and my people. I'm so thankful of you for spreading awareness about what's going on in my country 💞 and for helping us through our journey of getting our simple human rights. It's really painful and hard but as you say; life is not for the weak. #mahsaAmini
Nobody is ugly. People just do not love yourself at the same level as people who make them look ugly inside. Thank you for your work, Liz. You make my life better.
@@rulingstone123 what is the definition of ugly? why do we call people “ugly”, “ugly” doesn’t exist, only societal standards do. No one is ever ugly. There’s nothing wrong with being ugly but no one is ever ugly.
I got inspired from that title , we should start normalizing being this proud of ourselves,we (women) have been raised to be humble , don't get so praggy about your beauty, success, life It's time to stop that and be aware of what society have been feeding us from the start
I’m in love with everything about you , I’m 17 years old living in an extremely abusive household and everyday I think of ending it all but your story gave me so much hope and strength I have lived this long and I know I’m strong and smart and now I feel like maybe after all of this I can still make a beautiful life for myself and become the strong successful woman I want to be . I was extremely touched by your mother’s story she’s such and incredible woman ❤️❤️
I can’t thank you enough for this video. I was watching the video completely and I enjoyed it very well and I learned a lot of things and I reached the end of the video the part where you talked about Mahsa Amini, I’m Iranian and the protests and the killing is still going on, we are still fighting for this country and basic human rights and I am so thankful that you and other people are raising awareness about the situation, praying for better days and peace❤️
You’re such a queen. I remember watching your last video and just thinking who wouldn’t wanna be obsessed with you. You have the confidence and energy that uplifts people. It’s only valid. Keep doing you! Maybe some people think it’s self absorbed to think that way but that’s a humble healthy ego to put ourselves first and people who actually have done inner work will understand this
Damn, Liz, this was exactly what I needed to hear. I am at a low point right now and I was trapped in the self-pity trap for a few hours. Thank you so much for always telling the truth
You are right! We complain too much and do not even notice how much energy we lose comparing ourselves to others. Instead, we need to be grateful for what we have and use that to benefit ourselves.
I saw you everyday. You're just a real mirror of life. who don't sugarcoat things. you don't motivate, you just scold us to stop going through negative things. a big appreciation for you. Love you with all of my heart.
your mom is officially my hero now too. am i in tears rn ?? yes. my best friend showed me your channel and just in a day you've changed a lot of my mentality. you're a queen and an inspiration girl❤❤❤
I remember when her video was recommended to me for the first time, and I dismissed it and thought to myself “yea yea, another pretty girl giving average people advice”. I was so so triggered just by looking at her. Fast forward a year later, I stumbled across her video again. But this time, I actually wanted to hear what she has to say. I was drawn to her. I didn’t feel jealous, didn’t put her in a box, I was genuinely interested in hearing what she had to say. And I realized how much I agree with her. I was blown away, and thinking like wow she is saying exactly what I mean. You what changed in that one year? My awareness. My confidence grew because I was working on myself. I became proud of my achievements and successfully defeated depression I was struggling with for years. I was ready to hear her message without getting triggered. Her videos only helped me progress on my journey even further away. Mindset is everything.
Liz can you do a video on how to stop being such a lazy person that wastes their time on bs instead of meaningful work? I don't know why I do this to myself but I need some tough love because I am wasting my time, failing at school, and not nourishing my relationships because I would rather spend hours on my phone hearing music, watching funny videos, and just watching my life go by and it causes me so much stress and yet I do nothing to change it
Try to take a social media detox, try to be strong willed, make a goal to stay away from media phone for 30 days and just focus on study work exercise, you need to be hard on yourself
That sounds like possible executive dysfunction. Or dopamine overload. A dopamine detox might help restore your dopamine levels to baseline so you're not constantly craving reward.
You betta preach girl!! Continue shining your light into this world and living out your greatness. Those that are for you know your intentions and those that aren't, they just aren't. Not everyone will like you and that's ok. Keep walking into your God given destiny. He will align it all up for you. And that's for EVERYONE out there reading this message. YOU ARE POWERFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY, YOU ARE ENOUGH. ❤️ Blessings and joy to all!
Liz, every video you make is somehow the most effortlessly life changing video I’ve seen. You make the confusing gray areas in life all of a sudden make perfect sense. The way you speak and the advice you give really makes my brain pay attention and it just clicks! You were born to do this!
This message was like a warm hug... It's just what I asked the universe for. I wanted a word of inspiration, and you gave me just that.... Thank you!!! 🔥💚🔥
I am so happy I find you on my early 20s dealing with changes is difficult but thank God I found someone who talks what I need to hear even if I don’t wanna hear it thank you Liz you are such a warrior and an amazing person I am sure of that
