How To STOP Seeking External Validation

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Are you constantly seeking external validation? Do you find yourself craving approval from others to feel worthy? In this video, we'll explore how to stop seeking external validation and start finding your true sense of self-worth from within. Discover powerful self-worth tips that will teach you how to validate yourself and become more secure in who you are.
Learn how to be more confident and stop caring what people think. By the end of this video, you'll have practical strategies to help you break free from the cycle of seeking validation and embrace your authentic self. Join us on this journey to self-discovery and learn how to stop seeking external validation once and for all.
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#selfworth #selflove #personalgrowth #advice
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Gabriel Miles
Animator: Maggie Wehler
RU-vid Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Gabba, S. (2019). "Stop Seeking Validation from Others." Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/addiction-and-recovery/201907/stop-seeking-validation-others
Arabi, S. & Litner, J. (2022). "Do You Seek Validation from Others? Here’s How to Stop." Psych Central. psychcentral.com/health/steps-to-stop-seeking-approval-from-others
Cikanavicius, D. (2017). "The Trap of External Validation for Self-Esteem." Psych Central. psychcentral.com/blog/psychology-self/2017/08/validation-self-esteem#1
Crouch, S. (2024). "How to Let Go of the Need for Approval to Start Thriving." Tiny Buddha. tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-the-need-for-approval-to-start-thriving/

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@Psych2go 3 месяца назад

Remember, your self-worth is inherent and doesn't depend on external approval. Here are some tips to get you started: Focus on your values and goals. What truly matters to you? Celebrate your accomplishments, big and small. Practice self-compassion. Be kind to yourself, even when you make mistakes. This journey is all about building your inner strength. Comment below on other tips to help others out as well!

@Anemogod 3 месяца назад

Omg 29 secs ago-

@kirti4648 3 месяца назад

1 min 😅😅😅😅

@setsers1 3 месяца назад

Thank You.❤

@StellaMagic100 3 месяца назад

Why do teens in particular want validation? What is the reason for the need?

@Redheadbelle 3 месяца назад

❤️❤️

@jadassolitude78 3 месяца назад

Validation from others is vain. One day they love you the next they don’t. I love this video because it’s the perfect reminder to recognize ourselves and be aware of the beauty we hold inside and out.💗🥰

@Psych2go 3 месяца назад

Love your comment. Thanks for sharing! :)

@robertpolnicky7702 3 месяца назад

I found that out tonight at karaoke. Last week huge ovation tonight nothing. Think it's just part of the business though.

@Annie-jf6gu 29 дней назад

Omg off topic but you are ✨️STUNNING✨️

@vinnzouiyt 3 месяца назад

0:51 Recognize the cycle 1:28 Practice self-appreciation 1:55 Try rejection therapy 2:40 Set personal goals 3:25 Listen to your intuition 4:04 Use self-care to self-validate

@TommyCashLover420 3 месяца назад

Not all heroes wear capes.

@noonegirl 3 месяца назад

Thank you 😊

@liamdylan_yw8rv7 3 месяца назад

Thanks 💙

@casey_fae 3 месяца назад

The timing for this video literally couldn’t be more perfect😭

@JazurikoKaedo 3 месяца назад

To me too 🐢

@mariahsart 3 месяца назад

I'm seriously scared they are watching us 👀

@cosmedelustrac5842 16 дней назад

Same.

@chadbrown748 3 месяца назад

To quote -- well, actually paraphrase a line I once heard in a movie I recently had the opportunity to see: "You can spend your whole life trying to win the acceptance of others, but at the end of the day, you just gotta do it for yourself."

@siennaprice1351 3 месяца назад

Lately, instead of validation, I’ve been finding myself seeking shame, judgment, and criticism. Because I feel like that’s what I need. But then again, what I really want in life, is to accept myself for who I am. As someone who is totally blind, autistic, and has complex PTSD, yes, I do things way differently than normal people do. I touch and explore everything. I feel emotions a little bit more intensely than others. I express myself through body movement, through saying silly things, as a way to communicate that I’m happy, and that I’m in a good mood, and other things. That’s me!

@Crazy_Chriz 3 месяца назад

I think that if you seek that entirely, you’ll just find yourself confused honestly. But, eventually at least, you’ll find that looking for that isn’t viable for your soul

@taylorgivenchy2764 3 месяца назад

You sound lovely.

@siennaprice1351 3 месяца назад

@@taylorgivenchy2764 thank you

@phillipminer3554 3 месяца назад

The first point - recognizing the cycle - really struck a chord with me. When it comes to social media, I’ve now recognized that it’s people’s takes on social justice issues and similar that triggers that need for external validation from me. I want to be seen as a good person. But the need for external validation makes me say and do things that aren’t appropriate, and certainly aren’t helpful. I want to be a good person, and it keeps feeling like others have to confirm that I’m a good person for me to believe it too. And… I don’t know if that’s healthy.

@Starelle-bm7wx 3 месяца назад

You don't need to get the approval from others before you know if you are a good person or not . Yes you will do things that you wouldn't like and it's not pleasing you it's pleasing them It's making them happy buh what about u.Are u happy .You wouldn't be because you aren't doing the things you love alot and it hurts u a lot. Do what u love in order to be happy

@Melomeda 3 месяца назад

I’m always seeking approval for others, because I’m always worried I’m not good enough and so I have to check with them to make sure it’s okay. I haven’t watched it just yet but I’m going to and hopefully it’ll help me stop being so clingy/self judge mental or whatever to myself.

@codybriangalacticraft69 3 месяца назад

It's totally alright to still be clingy, judgemental, and all others to others. You don't need to be perfectly the way people say a perfectly good person is, being good enough and striving for excellence than perfection is more self loving too. Take it easy, it's ok to be yourself, we still want to be clingy at times and make judgements if ever, just be more control of yourself, you don't need others to make you feel love, for starters, focus the cling and judgement on bettering yourself instead of treating yourself worse than others, you for one is the main key for your successes and a community full of self loved people is assuring enough that you'll know everyone would keep doing their best on whatever obstacles may come

@Lxllipxpity_Official 3 месяца назад

this is literally the video for me.

@Psych2go 3 месяца назад

Thanks for watching! This video sounds like it might be exactly what you need. I hope it helps you on your journey!

@noemilita1354 3 месяца назад

@CaptainMangles 3 месяца назад

This is literally me

@damnablethief 3 месяца назад

Fk what people think, be yourself wholeheartedly. If they have a problem, it is probably their problem...don't let it be yours. Peace.

@YouALLStop 3 месяца назад

Pretty difficult to do this when people want to rip me apart constantly. It's been this way for about a decade. Now that I am with real friends, it's difficult to accept their love. I feel like I am weak for not toughing it out. I still feel upset that I don't have anyone super close. I am much closer to some people than before, and I am grateful for that, but I still feel like I'm just some leech. This is especially prevalent when I get gifts. I hate it. I hate how I get gifts but then I know I can't do much to return the favor.

@Psych2go 3 месяца назад

It sounds incredibly tough to have dealt with negativity for so long, and it's completely understandable that accepting love from true friends feels difficult. You're not weak for wanting to protect yourself. You deserve love and support, regardless of what you can "give back" in return. True friends give because they care, not because they expect something in return.

@froggy_art1 3 месяца назад

Are we the same person?? Why is this so relatable

@yournutsin 3 месяца назад

I feel you to the point I'm worried we're long last copies of each other I hope we could get over this honestly it's so tiring and mind consuming just always put on your mind it's sweet and kind of you to return back but you don't have to, if anyone insisted that you should give back cuz they gave RUN get away from them that's so toxic and would ruin your mind more (it's even worse for me cuz I have attachment issues )

@thecanary4238 3 месяца назад

This comment resonated with me too. I’m going through this with my boyfriend

@codybriangalacticraft69 3 месяца назад

Just do your best with the right things you believe in. Stay with em, if they leave you, it's their loss, not yours. You for one is valuable, You don't need others to know that you for one is deserving of love even if it would come solely from yourself. External Validations and Love from others are entirely just supplemental, just a want and not a need. Just do your best being yourself! It's okay to fall, feel bad, and fail at times, It's better than not trying at all, don't forget to smile and notice how you'd never reach milestones and knowledge if you never had taken the chances so good luck!

@bizarrebatcat2685 3 месяца назад

This is something I struggle with everyday ..So this will really help me! Thanks!

@Psych2go 3 месяца назад

That's fantastic to hear! I'm glad this video will be a helpful resource for you. It's important to remember that healing is a journey, and there will be ups and downs. But with the right tools and support, you can move forward.

@theinvisibleman2194 3 месяца назад

I think when you grow up insecure, you're always trying to be a people-pleaser to build that confidence in yourself by seeking the gratification of others.

@RyanNerdyGamer 3 месяца назад

I may not yet have fully realised it at the time of this post, but the day I stopped using others’ opinions of me as the base template for who I should be is one of the most important days in my healing journey. Because that is the day this once-broken, bodily-shamed baby bird chose to stop giving away his personal power willy-nilly, subconsciously assuming the mantle of “The Real Me,” in the process. And now, this brave bird-boy is ready to ride those thermals above and beyond every false perception, misnomer, and exaggeration as “The Real Me.”

@Quack2567 3 месяца назад

Recognize the Cycle 0:50 Try Rejection Therapy 1:55 Set Personal Goals 2:41 Listen to your intuition 3:24 Use Self-Care to Self-Validate 4:04

@MoodyBluesRequiem80 3 месяца назад

Thank u! 🖤

@nabilsadik 3 месяца назад

This channel keeps me alive

@dahlrjay63 3 месяца назад

I don't know who this guy is... But his voice is perfect~ Also, the vibes for this video are perfect. Thank you!

@kazuko8102 3 месяца назад

THIS VIDEO IS ACTUALLY REALLY GREAT AND HELPFUL I WISH YOU GUYS ALL THE BEST AND MYSELF IN OUR JOURNEY TO BE OUR FULLEST AND BEST VERSIONS OF OURSELVES WITHOUT SEEKING VALIDATION !!!💜

@RyoukenNoJeiku 3 месяца назад

This is what helped give me some more confidence, through journaling which my psychiatrist sister recommended, I found most of my motivation was external. After setting boundaries with my parents and others, which was difficult - bc they weren't used to that and I kinda suck at it - and finding what motivated me internally and why, this resulted in a general confidence boost. It may be more situational, but this idea and reframe is what helped me the most with insecurity. Love this video 😊

@miaesteves4633 3 месяца назад

I love all the cute lil references like Brock from Pokémon and Miku with Teto from the new music video!! Really needed this video though so thank you :)

@MagicSylveonAnimeArt 2 месяца назад

Was looking for this comment ❤

@DanceLuvah1416 3 месяца назад

Still working on loving and appreciating for who and what I am……. But I’m taking little steps after that first one it’s tough but hearing yourself say “I’m proud of you” or “you’re doing great” when it comes to taking care of myself makes all the worthwhile 😊. So take your time and appreciate the little victories❤❤❤❤❤

@therealbrentrolland 3 месяца назад

Awesome video as always, P2G. One thing I learned this week is when I validated myself on a recent Zoom meeting, another person in the group said they liked that I celebrated myself. My self validation is attractive to others. And I like being able to see myself clearly. By the way, I love that there’s anime fans on the P2G team-it’s apparent in the art and wonderful. Makes this anime fan dang proud. 😊

@rishipiyakar 3 месяца назад

This video popped up during my mid-year exam and it really gave what I needed to hear. Recently my marks have been dropping and i am starting to feel like I am not able to live up to my teachers and my own expectations. I really needed this! Thanks, Psych2Go!

@Safe_Place_MentalHeath 3 месяца назад

Just what I needed! Thanks for the tips on how to stop seeking external validation and finally become my own biggest fan

@52-sumeghamallik97 3 месяца назад

Thankyou dear❤ I have been brought up in a abusive environment...right now I'm at home...just staying before I move back for my master's in literature...away from my home....and the same abuse is growing...but it's family...so I can't do much.... something happened just now...which made me question my self worth...and I came to your video to seek help...I'm soothed for the time being... thankyou ❤ I feel protected at your space❤

@simulation2250 2 месяца назад

The analogy of Brock for rejecrion therapy is actually incredible

@unicycle1017 Месяц назад

There's actually this blog called rejection therapy or 100 days of rejection therapy where a guy challenges himself to do 100 things that could get him rejected to get over his fear of rejection. It's an interesting personal growth experiment. Another set of personal growth experiments I like the most is the 1000awesomethings blog, where this guy writes an article each detailing his love for something he has gratitude for, usually with a lot of party loving jock sounding stuff, mixed with immature 12 year old comedy, considering that's his type of personality. The other one I like the most is the blog Ancient Wisdom Project, which is to take a month to practice the different major religions/philosophy of life, and to visit each place of worship while trying to interact with the different types of believers. Personal growth blogs are kind of underrated if you ask me. Not quite as deep as books, but deeper than a lot of social media accounts on self-help, which is a nice balance for people with low attention spans. If you'd like to look at some, look up "Personal growth blogs," or "Personal development blogs," and you'd find a lot. A note warning though. A lot of people end up disagreeing and arguing with each other on what advice is better or worse in such places, whether it's people arguing what the best diet is or what the best people to follow as historical role models are, so it's up to you to figure out which one is right for you, with all the people saying contradictory stuff.

@DraconiInfernalus 3 месяца назад

I like the idea that we don´t need external appoval with all these tips, that are helpful indeed, but we are a highly social kind of species. We need the input from the external no matter what you tell yourself( i dont mean the validation from social media crap). Thats why people are rarely able to communicate with each other in a appropriate way these days anymore. Everyone thinks...nah i dont need other people for anything. I can give that all to myself, i can do that all by myself and thats in my opinion not healthy. It´s a one sided perspective and it´s so much harder when people never experienced to be "loved" by someone so it´s nearly impossible for that people to grow into healthy behavior like just being kind to themselves. In my opinion a safe environment is needed to build up a healthy self esteem. No matter if it´s family, friends or whatever. And i think its so rare these days to find a safe space for that. So much negativity in familes, people tread you like sht, no matter how kind you are or because you are a kind person. No wonder there are so many damaged people out there

@nithumohan2811 3 месяца назад

I needed this vid once in my life... Way back in my past... But i have overcome this 'external val' problem... I just simply mind my own business 😂🥰 and now i feel so positive🤗

@stick-itproductions.3307 Месяц назад

Switching the dude to Brock for the rejection therapy example was hilarious, but also perfect. I aspire to have Brock's confidence, and self assuredness.

@NynyshAulia 3 месяца назад

The answer for that question is, when I finally can trust myself that I can do everything I want to do without being afraid of other people's judgement

@mizaramirez2513 3 месяца назад

This is the first time I’ve heard of Rejection Therapy. As person whose always been afraid of rejection and who is currently going through changes, I’m going to try this out. Thanks.

@user-zt5td3oz1r 3 месяца назад

Wish you luck

@Itachi-fan 3 месяца назад

I feel the music is ruining the great content

@simonjames3815 Месяц назад

I’m not going to validate your opinion 😂

@JuiceBox875 Месяц назад

@@simonjames3815right I think it’s great

@itdiaryofficial 29 дней назад

Correct

@moondewz.founder 3 месяца назад

1:36 OH MY TETO AND MIKU MESMERIZER but thank you for this :3 it really helps for those people who need it like me !! this channel helps in general for me

@Not-epic- 2 месяца назад

I literally almost threw myself out the window when I saw mezmeriser (joke)

@setsers1 3 месяца назад

100% Spot-On.

@FlynnFromTaiga 3 месяца назад

It took me years to silence inner voice, which longed for external validation. I got better at understanding myself and learnt how to recognise my real needs when I crave external validation. Made my life much better. I am much happier now.

@user-xn7nz4mt8n 3 месяца назад

What were your real needs that helped you stop seeking validation?

@teegutta4689 3 месяца назад

HEY GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY, I JUST GOT OUT THE HOSPITAL, I WAS TRYING TO BUILD A HEALTH RELATIONSHIP WITH MY PARENT MOTHER, AND SHE DROPPED A CUP OF HOT WATER ON MY ARM, PLEASE KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS, HAVE A BLESSED DAY TEE, ALL I WANT IS SOMEBODY TO CARE AND LOVE ME HAVE A BLESSED DAY TEE 💯🙏💙 STILL TRYING TO STAY STRONG, I LOVE EVERYONE.TEE

@_Marie_13 2 месяца назад

You are loved and cared for, Tee. Do not take anything personal from your parents, in what they say or do to you. It’s most likely what they experienced in their own childhood and they’re repeating the same patterns to you, because they probably don’t know how to love you correctly. But just know, it’s not your fault for how people treat you. It’s a reflection of them. Love yourself first by the way. Don’t expect people to do it for you, they will most likely disappoint you. God is the only one who doesn’t fail❤

@emirinobambino 3 месяца назад

I think this is good advice to a point--sometimes there are barriers in people's lives which they have no control over that prohibit them from following their dreams, succeeding, etc. There's also the case of when someone has done all these things, and they either don't help, or the comfort which they provide is minimal compared to mindless dopamine seeking. It also concerns me if people are focusing too much on chasing their inner calling, instead of appreciating the current opportunity to build meaningful relationships with others. In adulthood, almost all my friends have become lost and disconnected, and I'm worried that by constantly focusing on their job, self-care, and the other ways listed here of self-love (which they all do) that they've missed the opportunity to share in the love of others, which perhaps perpetuates the idea that they need to further isolate and self-improve. I think self-worth *should partially* depend on the external approval of selected loved ones, or else I see this other lonely pattern begin to emerge.

@thenumber1procrastinator 3 месяца назад

This stuff is literally me 😞

@nexus-tq7tz 3 месяца назад

Ive always been used to my mom validating me, may it be getting praised etc. Etc. And now it made me become a people's pleaser. Chuckling to statements, smiling to little details, always approving of something. And now it's become a problem😅 This video really really helped me im shifting my perspective. I appreciate it. I hope people find this vidoe more 💗

@isisross4516 2 месяца назад

The prospect of rejection therapy literally terrifies me. I will try everything else except this for the foreseeable future- at least until I build up some self-esteem first 😅 Thank you for the tips ❤

@saegardtv4503 Месяц назад

this is the first time that i encountered a good self improvement video

@isaiahjohnson9905 3 месяца назад

Maintaining self health is important because if you help yourself improve and care for yourself you can better care for those you love

@Psych2go 3 месяца назад

You're exactly right! When we prioritize our well-being, we become better partners, parents, friends, and overall better versions of ourselves. It has a ripple effect of positivity!

@sesshomaruco 3 месяца назад

im a trans woman, and the need for everyone else to see me as i see myself is kinda tiring, and stupid too, its not like i look bad, my friend constanly say that i have "passing" or that i look more than femenine enough, but when i interact with the world, the world say the contrary, however everytime i was treated as fem for a stranger, i felt completed or that the society would accept me or something. Im working on that, but its hard.

@gapple4385 3 месяца назад

The Pomni painting is making me feel more confident) Thank you for making this video

@smoothcriminal2142 3 месяца назад

some solid advice! smooth voice too, damn. i've always valued the opinion of myself more than the opinions of others but social media still makes it easy to fall into the cycle of seeking external validation. and even if you're aware of it, it's still a constant battle whenever you're online. good tool for training discipline though so, silver lining. it's also great for practicing rejection therapy. got the whole world at your fingertips just waiting to tell you "no!" conquering the fear of rejection will also help you seize opportunities in life as you won't be as indecisive. can overcome a fear of failure in a similar way too.

@starpowerel7172 3 месяца назад

every time i make a video for my channel i say to myself "i did this, with my very limited tools, and that is all it matters", i kimda need more people to watch so i can get money from youtube, but even then i am not getting anything, i am still proud of my work, people should be proud of their work regarless of views and likes

@davendrabedwal830 3 месяца назад

I think u will stop searching external validation once u know what is your worth in a team/social circle. Confidence comes by working and investing in ur self. "Success is liking urself" love this line ❤

@noobzito2 3 месяца назад

Timestamp! -0:50 Recognize the cycle -1:27 Practice self-appreciation -1:41 Keep a self appreciation journal -1:54 Try rejecting therapy -2:40 Set personal goals -3:23 Listen to your intuition -4:04 Use self care to validate

@thumpermatic 3 месяца назад

You right

@alethiasingleton3109 3 месяца назад

Thanks!

@dancajurikova4989 3 месяца назад

The selfappreciation journal is something I need in my life a will start doing, thank you ♥

@Redheadbelle 3 месяца назад

It begins with loving yourself and feeling secure! If you seek validation or love, then from people who care about you & mean you well! ❤❤

@derpyguy3611 3 месяца назад

Imma save this video for later, gonna need it

@kahale 3 месяца назад

The voice and music in this one was just straight sensual

@AnglephileSwedenGerman 3 месяца назад

I want to live cancer free n not have brain damage n my kid not to be a homeless drug addict by mid 20s i want her happy before i go , leaving money might be something but i don't see it helping others right now

@michellelesure8864 3 месяца назад

Thank you for this my mindset has been going through aloop lately these days

@Psych2go 3 месяца назад

I'm glad this resonated with you! Feeling stuck in a negative mindset loop can be frustrating. Hopefully this video helps you out in some ways!

@noemilita1354 3 месяца назад

i needed this, i was just thinking about this

@imeakdo7 3 месяца назад

This is exactly the video I need right now. Thanks

@leylandlynxvlog 3 месяца назад

Very informative and quite appropriate for what I'm going through. Thanks. I love the Pokemon characters included.

@usubenidango 3 месяца назад

This video made me so happy! Thank you!

@mini-mino 3 месяца назад

OMG. I really loved this video. I will share the link with my friend and translate some important part of it. Thank you so much

@alethiasingleton3109 3 месяца назад

Thanks! Bye bye 🖐🏼amazing information❤

@yourpt7161 3 месяца назад

thank you for changing the voice of the narrator 🙏🏼

@curlyqv2467 3 месяца назад

What if I am struggling to find activities that make me feel good? What should I be doing then? Been struggling with this for a while

@htft753 3 месяца назад

Same!!

@theinvisibleman2194 3 месяца назад

Do what you love. Although, if you get too depressed, you tend to lose interest in the things you used to enjoy.

@Yuri-ko6bk 3 месяца назад

I really like the voice in this one

@Psych2go 3 месяца назад

Thank you !

@Psych2go 3 месяца назад

Thanks for enjoying Gabriel's voice!

@lelokunene6642 3 месяца назад

Info graphics guy🎉love it

@azeemzoya3211 3 месяца назад

Perfectly explain everything... Thank you sir and your voice is magical sounds great 😊

@tommygunn6901 3 месяца назад

This is way better than therapy. Had to say it cause therapy isn't for me

@Psych2go 3 месяца назад

I appreciate your honesty! Therapy isn't for everyone, and it's fantastic that you've found something that works for you. So happy to hear our video can help you out in some ways!

@tommygunn6901 3 месяца назад

@@Psych2go when it comes to therapy, I've been there and done that. I just don't think many therapists are well equipped to handle clients. As someone who has been working through PTSD, I kept getting shuffled around and I refuse to try it again

@DeathItself123 3 месяца назад

No one finished this video yet

@elb-moyt2874 3 месяца назад

Now they did

@BrandyinIndy 3 месяца назад

I have.

@luciferteaparty 3 месяца назад

@brandishiverdecker8228 Okay, but the video has been up for 1h now, not less than a minute pookie

@elb-moyt2874 3 месяца назад

@@luciferteaparty "pookie" 🤨

@luciferteaparty 3 месяца назад

@@elb-moyt2874 Term of endearment. I thought it was cute that they didn't get it 🥰

@user-oy7tr2pl3q 3 месяца назад

YOUR ANIMATION IS SO GOOD

@Smorterthantheaverage 3 месяца назад

Amazing video as always:)

@Psych2go 3 месяца назад

You're the best!

@ghostirop 2 месяца назад

Your videos just make me happy

@carterb. 3 месяца назад

miku mentioned!!! 🗣🗣🗣🔥🔥🔥

@Ominous89 3 месяца назад

I don't need validation from others. I know my own worth. I am enough.

@Karra__with_a_K 3 месяца назад

Intentionally seeking rejection🙈…. I’ll give it a try

@cynthx 3 месяца назад

Guys, here. 1. Discover a hobby that fulfills you 2. Give yourself grace and room for mistakes 3. Mess up and learn. Never stop learning 4. Take in the small moments that bring ordinary comfort. Good poops. Hot chocolate. A sunset. The stars at night. 5. Look at yourself and say thank you for everything, and keep going. You don't need any power from external people. It all comes from you. So be nice to yourself.

@A55a551n 3 месяца назад

Timestamps 1). Recognise the cycle 0:49 2). Practice self-appreciation 1:27 3). Try rejection therapy 1:54 4). Set personal goals 2:40 5). Listen to your intuition 3:22 6). Use self-care to self-validate 4:03 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

@Sammy-e6w 17 дней назад

Just the video I needed

@abecadlo6556 3 месяца назад

couldnt focus that much because of this 🔥🔥🔥🔥 music

@Marie_Hyldgaard2010 2 месяца назад

i have used 3 years on trying to fix this, i really wish i had seen this video earlier

@str4b3rries24 Месяц назад

this video is so relatable

@ChMir-cv3xf 3 месяца назад

Rejection DOES hurt, we are social human beings, we need the acceptance of others. I still struggle to understand and convince myself i don't need acceptance and stop the hurt that rejection cause.

@multimir_7802 3 месяца назад

Probably,I would have been able to live life for myself,I would have been strong-minded,determined,strong-willed so I would not depent on other people's judgment There are many things I wanna try,but I fear judgments of other people Sometimes I ponder to myself who am I ? Sorry if I gone out of the topic*

@kono5717 3 месяца назад

It's easier to look at things like this when you are not heavily ostracized in the first place, all of this goes out the window when you become the butt of everyone's jokes no one wants to be around you and you end up completely isolated. I am trans and throughout my childhood and early adult life that's pretty much how it always went especially as I grew up in a fairly abusive household (could have been worse though). The feeling of being constantly put in the dirt and made into other people's jokes it never goes away you feel safe around no one . When you have a near shattered ego from decades of abuse and cruelty you desperately want validation to feel like you matter and are important and someone cares about you. I am fairly attractive and people will always tell me I'm beautiful but I still need reassurance that I'm not disgusting as it's so ingrained into me that I eventually always relapse even if I can look at myself and be like yeah I'm ok. I wish there was an answer for deep seeded psychological trauma as I've gotten to the point is I will just social withdraw from friend groups the moment people seem evenly mildly annoyed at me. Idk what to do I'm so lonely and I trust no one.

@UnMisanthropeCynique 3 месяца назад

Video request: Could you guys do a video on the 48 laws of power by Robert Greene ?

@otherme2444 3 месяца назад

Just what l needed, btw l like the voice over for this video❤

@jonathanjimenez2480 3 месяца назад

The music from This video was soo soo good!! ❤

@Dj_toyslmao 2 месяца назад

I love all the references from other characters in here tbh :3

@asasgm8618 3 месяца назад

if i didnt give anyone the power over my validation i would be less stressed, happier, and working at a nice job. too bad i have none of those

@phenomenal17playz 3 месяца назад

I agree with self worth but some traits are valued and some aren't. When things aren't valued it causes problems such as feeling of unworth and insecurities.

@fautex47 3 месяца назад

I didn't know I needed this. Thanks

@albatoolalhendi9707 3 месяца назад

Needed that

@Psych2go 3 месяца назад

Hopefully this video helps you out in some ways!

@ria_2723 3 месяца назад

Thank you! this video helped me to be motivated.

@wadeed7216 3 месяца назад

I'm here to restart and I'm the first in here

@JunkionMarnot2005 3 месяца назад

Helpful ❤ And not a bad VO artist. Not amazing Amanda, but great add to the roster. 👍🏾

@anleyy2010 2 месяца назад

Thank you!

@mika34653 3 месяца назад

i love the art on this

@markhachenburg3906 3 месяца назад

Only 2800 views in a whole 35 minutes!? I'd be so depressed, I'd post a video 📹 about it.

@MikeMozzaro 3 месяца назад

Ironic that one of the suggestions is "listen to your intuition" when all my intuition tells me is "get people to like you so they can help you do stuff". Kinda backfired if the goal was to want me to stop needing others approval lol