How To Successfully Break Up With Someone 

Feelings change

Omg I feel so much what you just said!!

So true

This for me is worse than getting broken up with I can handle my own hurt , but having to hurt someone I care about and there’s no way out ..that sucks

Yesss

Why hello!…

That sounds like a great idea. I hope your doing ok

Thank you, I'm going to do that aswell. Preparing to breakup this Friday 💔

That's a great idea! Thanks for sharing

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How did it go for you ? cause I'm hoping to do same soon. I dropped my story below in a comment below. It's long but Its cause my story is actually complicated. I have been with him for 8+ years now, we met in the university and it was only by God's grace that I wasn't expelled when I got pregnant cause it was a private university and pregnancy by an unmarried female meant expulsion. I'm not sure but I think, that may have been where our problem started cause I remember he once told me before we had the baby, after having an unprotected sex one time, that if I got pregnant I would just miss a couple of months in the session bla bla bla... Eventhough I love my son so much now, It pained me that he didnt consider the possibility of me being expelled. I know I cud have taken care of myself by taking pills to avoid getting preg but I was young and maybe stupid too (A good stupid now though cause my baby is the best thing to happen to me). I stayed with his parents during the pregnancy as I couldn't tell my dad who would have stopped paying my fees and I wouldn't have graduated. Aside the pregnancy issue, My stay with his parents was a terrible experience as the only tolerable person in his family is his dad. I had no choice but to be patient so they could take care of my baby after i give birth and go back to sch. Also then i discovered he is a serial cheat, had alot of one night stands. Another issue i have with him is, I dont know how to put it, but he is not a very intelligent person and that turns me off.. I love a guy who is very smart and goal oriented.. Well to cut the long boring story short, I'm also not a saint as I started to have flings, but honestly it's cause I don't love him but he doesn't want to leave me. I have told him a number of times now that we need to take time away from each other but he always begs me and I cant stand to see him hurt so I keep staying. He also has this disgusting habit of installing spywares in my phone and then monitor my calls, movement and everything remotely. From this tools He has caught me a couple of time sexting and I honestly would hope he would leave me but insstead he would try to do better by giving me more money or buying me stuff. I no longer feel sexually attracted to him no matter how hard i try. It hurts me to hurt him but I'm so hurt myself being with him and now I have become a cheat cause I have sexual urges that he cant help me with. Finally, even if I decide to suppress my feeling and just stay, my family and friends dislikes him for his immature and insensitive way of talking to people (a trait eveyone in his family except his dad possess). I am so depressed.

@@funmifadele5245 I just got slapped and mocked online for showing her proof that she cheated on me

How did it go

WOW.

Boom

Wow that really got me thinking.

Powerful!! It is true. This pain, over and over is so horrible.

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This right here spoke to me so much.. I'm in what looks to be a breakup after one year. My guy does look after me and does protect me, which makes it harder. We're in a limbo, checking with each other every so often in the past month. I have no idea what to do...

Luky Cawarra You guys check out the work of Byron Katie.

Luky Cawarra but why u want a break up?

OutNumbered Family so did U Break Up or you worked IT Out?

OutNumbered Family same

If it's not too personal to ask, why did you want to break up if you both love each other? Have you broken up or are you both still together?

Ellie morris how did it go

@@devankmittal8311 Well caring about someone, being attached to someone, is not the same as being in love with them or even just attracted to them. These are clearly different things, I know by my own experience. Also she wrote that it's because they are not right for each other.

@Devank Mittal - you love them but you just aren’t feeling it and you really want a bit of alone time

Ellie Morris how was it?? X

HOW COULD YOU?! YOU SAID THAT YOU COULDN'T TEXT ME BECAUSE YOUR PARENTS TOOK YOUR PHONE AND NOW YOU'RE COMMENTING ON RU-vid?

THAT'S IT WE'RE OVER

@@pancakes4555 lmao

I'm in the same situation as you.

@@emgan girl just end it, it will hurt for sometime then all you'll have is peace 💗 never ignore your intuition, I found out he wasn't worth a second of my precious time, and by cutting him off I made room for the right person for me!

Wow you’re so brave. I hope you’re living your best life ❤️

+LittleMissFitness how did it go? i feel like i should do the same with my gf. it's been a year almost now, but i feel like i just want te be on my own again.. and it also feels like we're getting in a long boring relation ship, like i had with my ex gf..

+Boris Grifo I ended up calling him on the way drive up and telling him I wasn't going to make it and that I needed a break. 2 days later we agreed to end things. It hurt for about a week because I didn't have a really obvious "reason" why I wanted to end things. But looking back now 10 months later, I'm so glad I did. When you get that feeling that it's time to end things, listen to your gut. Bet of luck!

+River Duran 💁 after the initial pain of having to be the bad guy and break up with him, I realized it was a good decision and I'm happy now. That's not that crazy right?

It probably happened again no doubt, and doubtful it'll be the last because many women have self acceptance issues and feel the false need to be accepted by multiple men to feel validated, you will likely build up a reputation if you haven't already and will never find a decent man who will accept it and not bump you off after a couple weeks, you get bored of guys after a while I'm sure men get bored of you.

mab sreymom Did you communicate any of this with him? Communicate with him how you are feeling about being “bored” or whatever it is you feel?

Arcanex dude I thought the same thing wondering if I was crazy

Of all the things in this video this is the one you notice 😂

facts! but I would take dating advice from Daniel Radcliffe anyday...

Me too. I also have this "the saint" issue. Te Messia complex. And two times I have procrastinated the break up part, and gosh, it just makes everything so much worse; the fear of hurting the other person just builds up.. once You know that you know, you need to break up - dont pospont it, it is not healthy, and it just feed the unrealistic "saint" narraive with an indeed become narcissistic or self absorbed. I feel horrible for wasting my own and the other persons time.

@@kristinehovemoen7888 wow this is exactly what’s happening to me but today is the day. It’s going to suck but I know it’s for the better. Good luck 🤧

Joseph Meets Travel ur very brave and strong! Happiness is a good indicator/reminder that you made the right decision to walk a separate way.

this is awesome you realize this

I recently broke up with my fiance. Four and a half years together. It was only after the ring was on my finger I realized how much more commitment and sacrifice I had put in, and how much he took me for granted. He only responded to me if I cried, nagged, or made ultimatums. I don't like behaving that way, but if I ever tried to communicate as an adult he would either ignore me or respond indignantly, which was defensive. We had the same arguments over and over, despite calmly explaining my side, he could never explain his and we never got any of these arguments resolved. I realized that this behavior from him was, after four years we agreed marriage was the plan, indicative of someone who doesn't want to be married, isn't ready for marriage, refuses to address serious issues, and may never be ready to be married or be a reliable, supportive partner. We tried counseling at his suggestion, but he really wasn't trying to understand anything. So I had to walk away and start all over. Props to you for facing the frequent fights. Props to you that you were able to break it off without breaking down in front of your colleagues and students.

I really needed that right now. Thank you so much! I hope you continue glowing and being happy, you brave and honest man ^^

Joseph Meets Travel omg is this my story???? That’s crazy. I never usually respond to comments but I had to. Also, almost 2 years. He proposed. Long distance, him in Algeria, me in jersey. We had several trips in between even a summer. But after getting engaged it has becoming so toxic. He’s more controlling and it’s horrible especially with long distance. I’m thinking of ending it but it’s so hard to do. This gave me confidence. I’m glad there is a similar story. Thank you

This why I wish it would all end

Yes been here as well.

:( your comment made me remind something terrible.

People change dude

Im breaking up with my toxic boyfriend today I needed this

lol

Facepalm

lmao! i love this comment

Let it be before your girl sees this video ;)

+Bass God Gandhi haha you're awesome :DD

how did it go?

He chose violence

What was your one reason?

That is such specific advice, though, that doesn't just blanket apply to every couple and break up. Saying you must try to work it out first and compromise is required is all good and well in theory, but many people don't come to this point unless they have already given all they have and either fallen out of love or realized the compromise hurts them too much. Presuming people don't try is not a good way to approach the discussion - it keeps people in unhealthy relationships out of guilt, and people who leave too quickly will not suddenly change that inner problem after reading that. I wouldn't want someone to stay with me out of "duty" because they haven't tried everything yet when their heart is already out the door.

@@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend You have a good point! But I’ve been on both sides of that sword and having to break someones heart also hurts! But go back and read my comment again and see where I said “after you’ve exhausted all avenues” Lol I’m only sayin this because 2 of my exes wanted to get back together, in fact they BEGGED me to take them back after they broke up with me because they realised that they made a mistake lol 😂

I have tried but she works too much and her kids take too much time with one causing daily issues . I want peace and calm and have tried to make it better but she doesn't like to talk about It

How many times do you have to keep trying though just because you love someone...

3 years later.. how did it go?

@@viktormolleborn3146 it sucked man. Really sad with tears on both sides but it was done respectfully and helped both of us get through the next month or so of pain. I sat down with her at her place and then I could leave when I needed to and she had a safe place to stay. It’s hard to do but out of respect for the other person, doing it in the right way is the only way to do it.

Did you break up? btw why did you want to break up?

What if the boyfriend saw this comment before she broke the news ? :)

roger menjivar same here bro

Same here Bro

How did u get the strength to do it I’ve been trying to break up with him for months now and I just can’t 😭

it can be, BUT , as you do that they start to feel that they are losing you and try harder, until some point when they lose it, then relationship ended. Not really a good idea but it works.

It works, if you want to destroy that person.... I had it done to me, and I was trying so much to fix things which of course didn't work until he finally admited that he wants to break up with me, but by that time I was already emotionally crippled... It took years to recover from that. I'd never do this to anybody...

Yes really

Did you get it done? :)

shehan warnakulasooriya me too

How’d it go?

Rest In Peace

@@chrisjorgji7786 lmao

wow... I hope you broke up with him and are now safe and made the right decision for yourself

how was it?

+Joseph Meets Travel Well, I had decided to wait until the weekend, but he beat me to it. He ended up breaking up with me. It was fine at first, but then, I really wanted to undo it and started to backslide. It took me a good while to get over him, but I really have raised my standards since meeting him. I feel like I'm really getting better at noticing signs and weeding through guys I shouldn't date.

+fanefox thanks for sharing. I'm going through a situation and might have to come to a conclusion soon. We are long distance most of the relationship for two years. I think I've made my decision.

+Joseph Meets Travel Good luck :)

How did you go, did you end up breaking up?

im in the same situation my dude

Hey Dude! I can really relate, I feel like I'm in a similar situation. Do you regret breaking up now? how are things for you a year after?

Well as a girl that has been dating a guy who she felt did not love her anymore for a long time before that made me feel so bad that I dumped him I have to say you did the right thing. Feeling unloved in your relationship can really mess your self esteem up and bring you a lot of unnecessary suffering. Maybe she is sad now but I am telling you now, on her behalf, thank you for being brave and honest and not prolonging her suffering.

Clara Puig de Torres-Solanot ... Can you describe what made you feel unloved? I feel like this is an overlooked point... that it isn't merciful or kind to keep a relationship going "for the sake of the girl" when the love is gone. That breaking up can be the best course of action, still painful, but better than a slowly distancing relationship for no visible reason.

breakingthemasks Well, it was a bunch of different things. He did not put as much effort as he used to in making plans with me, he stopped wanting my opinion on important matters, he almost never call to talk when we hadnt seen each other during the day, he stopped caring about taking care of how he looked for me when we were meeting, he even kissed me and made love to me differently, like he was doing me some kind of favor but not really feeling anything. Like I have almost forgotten what a good kiss felt like. But when asked of course it was either stress for some other thing or me imagining things, it had nothing to do with us. Anyways, all of this would make me feel like I have done something wrong to make him distance himself. Like I was not good enough. It made me question my intelligence, my beauty, my emotional maturity to the point I fell into a sad apathy about everything. So yeah. If you think you have stopped to love someone, please break up with them before they have had they self esteem completely shattered.