[Introverts] Me: Hey dad, I'm just gonna get something real quick Dad: Alright Me: *walking towards an aisle and sees friend* Me: *starts to reverse back* Dad: Did you get the thing you wanted? Me: They're out of stock
Wow, there is so much we have no control over in life that makes life difficult. How many introverts actually commit a school shooting? Then they get arrested. I don't know why police has to exist and add to people's problems. My "Impact" a James Grider novel linked in my videos will make you hate police.
I often find that if I get really pissed I actually stop responding in words, I take an aggressive stance (bodylanguage-wise), and I start responding only with gestures like nodding, raising my eyebrows and tilting my head, all the while STARING into the other persons eyes as a warning to shut up and leave me alone or get hurt. Luckily my friends know how to read me at this point, so they'll leave me alone to think, or they just get me a beer or do something nice, without talking to me or engaging in any way.
Smoke Weed Just to be clear, fuckface, it's not the beer that makes me happy, it's that they are nice enough to get it for me. I'd do the same for any of them in a heartbeat.
I wish my friends (and literally everyone else) would get that I'm bloody pissed and don't want to start a conversation about smelly cheese or who's going out with who.
Really liked this video! I think that the narrator speaking about his personnal experience gives a new enlightment about such subject! Moreover it makes it easier to relate to this and/or apply it to an introverted friend you did not undestand when they had a pissed off reaction And it was good to remind us of the article since this video has a more intimate approach and then loses a bit of the factual aspect
Nobody understands just how important this message is. Relatives couldn't understand this to save their lives, to the point where I wish to end my own.
Why don't you tell them then? Nothing is gonna changed if you don't take any action. I used to be frustrated by my passive aggressiveness but now I can explicitly express my anger. I feel that much better than holding grudge for a long time and explode to rage outburst.
Do TinThinh I relate to him, too. Relatives just never understand this. As for me, I would never tell my parents because they'd either just laugh or get angry. I literally grew up being afraid of what my parents would do to me, so instead of telling them I was angry, I would let my rage dissolve into a fit of tears, and if I hadn't fallen asleep after then, I would start thinking suicidal thoughts. It got to a point where I was almost depressed, and I'm literally at that point now. Where that's leading to, I don't know.
Telling an introvert to stand up to relatives... It's right up there with "You just need to get more confidence" and "Why not try to be more assertive"
Yeah. You share genetics, so clearly they are either entitled to make you communicate what you're thinking, or they believe that they already know it despite you not communicating. Naw.
I relate with every single thing said in this video. The worst part is that when people don't notice when we introverts are pissed, is they try to engage, which just makes us more pissed.
Craig Kogan i know how hard this may sound, god knows i still have trouble doing this, but you should try telling the person in front of you that you’re pissed off, even if you’re not necessarily pissed off at them. Keep in mind that a lot of people have a hard time understanding the actions of others, so this may be frustrating for the other person as well as you. Bottling your emotions can do some serious damage on the long run.
I'm an extrovert and I know I'd try to keep you talking to tell me what's wrong so I could help fix it.... clearly the wrong approach. I'm trying to learn more about introverts so I can be much more sensitive to their needs.
I´m an introvert, too, and whenever I was mad, I´d give one word responces or talk about completely unimportant stuff. You know, smalltalk. So, this created the connection "smalltalk = he´s pissed" in my brain, and this still affects me today. Whenever someone tries to have a nice little chat, I´d sometimes think they´re at the brink of a violent outburst of rage.
When I'm pissed I don't really show it at all. I might sound a little irritated. I stop being mad at people really easily too, because I feel bad for being mad.
People to me(an introvert): "You should be more social" **Tries to be social** **Interrupted, ignored, talked over** **Stops trying to be social** **Still keep bothering me about being social** Me(my head): *shut the hell up* Me: **Ignoring them**
Ben McClure imma just tell them to shut tf up then I had this before they think they’re your personal therapist but don’t even hear what you have to say
This is video is completely a 100% accurate of my life. I have to let more people in, I need to let people see how I feel, cause it's very unhealthy. And I'm way to good at it now, I can literally feel INTENSE hate and rage, and everybody might... just might suspect that I'm a little bit tired or not really interested but I usually can convince them that I'm content. It's quite amazing and scary I know, but even though it can be an excellent defense mechanism. It's not very human, almost other worldly actually. I need people I can trust, and I want to open up too... 😐(Myyyyy Poker Face!!! 🎶)
I'm an introvert but I'm not that guy who just has a poker face when I'm pissed. If someone asks me how I feel my answer is always honest. Why? Because I hate lying even on the smallest things in life.
Same, idk why but for some reason being dishonest or having to lie usually kinda hurts me & i would rather try avoid doing that though not necessarily always but doesn't mean I never ever lie
Even though I'm an introvert and also have these problems, when I'm talking to another introvert and I notice they're pissed off (to me it's really easy) I often don't stand aside and am just being nice. Or eventually manipulate them either into explaining what's wrong or at least getting them to admit that something is wrong, even if they aren't comfortable sharing.
Every introvert secretly wants people to know what's troubling them but they don't want to interact at the same time. However, say that they don't have to tell you what's bothering them but you're there to listen and accept if they need you and they might actually tell you.
Nojatha This kind of behaviour has actually led to some rants. But bitching about things when in bad mood is normal and there never were consequences. I personally do stuff I enjoy when I'm in bad mood and this, surprisinglyb often includes interaction with some people.
This was so emotionally beautiful. 🙏 My soul just had a deep inhale exhale experience. When you're an introvert it's equally important to activate a healthy combination of communication, remedies for dealing with intense emotions, allowing people to know the importance of respecting your time & space, as wel as an action plan to speak your truth authentically. Much love to all of those who aren't afraid to go within so they can reflect that inner light without in the most positive way. 💛
This is exactly how my life works but when I get angry I just put on my fake happy face but when I'm about to lose it I just give my friends a friendly death stare that simply "says back off"
Thanks for this video, even my friends misinterpret my emotions. When I'm really sad they just think that I'm tired. When I scream inside my head and want to die my facial expression is just like the one when I'm tired.
the only emotion that people can actually see is when im sad but every other emotion they dont know. then they call me crazy when i release all my rage at them in ONE."RUDE".SENTENCE.
I'm so happy to see this, as of late my mom hasn't been giving me any space she'll do little things to set me off and when I just need a little space from her she gets even more in your face which would get me more aggressive, I keep trying to get away but she would then start shouting and yelling at me till I would come out, she doesn't understand or refuses to listen when I try to tell her, I just need a little room please leave me alone for a while, she'll then become infuriated and insulted that I said it but... it's becoming suffocating.. it's hard when you don't get to have that room for yourself and there's always prying eyes watching EVERYTHING you do
Ahh, I understand that . It is really annoying that you are being judged over the simplest of things when you do something differently than the way they want . My inner self starts screaming " Let me do my stuff in peace , stop looking at me "
I had those two problems except the last one. It was pretty annoying to deal with. Sometimes I wouldn't catch myself giving off a negative attitude/tone towards that person.
This explains a lot of me and my past. So many people ask me if I'm okay or if everything is alright. But, most of the time I was either depressed or didn't know what I felt. I was just stuck in a way. But this video has helped me and I can share it with others who are concerned of me. Thank you for that 😊
HEY THERE!!! IM A BIG FAN, and I'm and introvert. Im 12 and I don't know what to do with my life, I don't understand how to be like everyone else. I have a boyfriend and I try so hard to keep him happy,but I don't if I'm doing to much or to little. Im depressed,and people don't know, I don't know if it would make a difference if I told them anyways. I have 5 friends including my boyfriend. I need help what should I do to understand others ._.
Just be yourself. Introverts are never going to be the same as extroverts, if that's what you mean. I too am an introvert, and I'll never be as intimate and cuddly with my friends as they are to eachother. However, if you find friends that respect that, it shouldn't be a problem. Also, don't worry what to do with your life lol! You're only 12, and you've got plenty of time to decide. No one really knows what to do with their life, just live it and see :p Speight .B That surely helped! Thanks for giving this useful advice.. smh
Don't be like everyone else, be yourself, it really won't matter when we are all dead. Don't be a slave to anyone, especially not your boyfriend, they will use you. Read a lot of books on the subject, about psychology, friendships and primate behavior. Continue watching Psych2Go and also: ru-vid.com
I know someone who's clueless about socialising, even more than me. He's no introvert but he's oblivious about everything, he also doesn't shut up about how hard his life is despite coming from a rich family and gets paid even though he has no job, a real spoilt brat. I can't even have a conversation with him, he'll call me and be rambling about nothing for 40 minutes while I'm just going "Yup. Mhmm. Yeah." every few seconds. I find there's more and more people like this in the world, and it'll only get worse. I wish people would just leave me alone.
This is exactly how I get when I feel offended or upset. I'm so glad I found This channel. Thank you sooooo much for posting...I thought something was wrong with me for being different. Now I know, I'm just an introvert.
Thank you for, it makes me feel better that I'm not the only one who does this and I hope I can learn after watching this to open up more to others about how I'm feeling or when I'm pissed off, and maybe even learn to forgive.
Being an introvert myself, I understand the feeling. Growing up, there were times I felt so pissed, I just kept it deep down, trying not to blow up. It's natural for me not to express how I feel most of the time. When some people in particular might ask how I feel, I'll try to convince them I'm really all right, even though sometimes I might not be. Now only very few people really piss me off and I can deal with it better.
When I'm pissed off and people just don't get it, I tell them to stop talking to me before I explode.. I'm kinda not able to tell them they piss me off.. I just say I'm pissed in general bc I don't want to hurt them even though they piss me off and I kinda know that's irrational as hell but I'm doing it anyway.
Someone will literally just say to me “are you alright?” When I’m completely fine and I’m like “uh, yeah...” I guess the robot face makes them think somethings wrong
Uhhh, are you sure this is about introversion? Because I'm an introvert, yet I don't relate to this much. When I'm pissed of, I say "I'm pissed right now, I'll talk to you later, ok? Ok".
Yeah. This is just his own experience as an introvert. It, of course, will vary by person. It's a good thing that you tell people when you're pissed off!
Are you sure about that? A lot of introverts in the comment section seem to fail to relate to his experience, which suggests that maybe this doesn't have as much to do with being an introvert, rather it's more about not being straightforward enough?
Because nobody is 100% introvert. Some people have signs that other don't. The person that did this video had this one, while you didn,t have it. A lot of people can relate to it in the comment, too.
Bastobasto Err, signs of introversiom are just that, signs. The trait discussed in this video is just a trait some introverts share, this doesn't have to do anything with how much introverted one is. Most introverts love books too, but an extremely introverted person could easily dislike or even despise books (for whatever reason :\ ).
Man, this is me at school. For example, I always have a straight up poker-face and it usually seems to people that I'm fine. But, I get annoyed at people easily, friends even, so I usually will blow up in the middle of class by just crying silently for no reason. Thankfully, for me, this only will happen usually 2-3 times per year. And it annoys me even more because then people realize I'm crying and start asking me why I'm crying or if I'm alright. I find it to be more comfortable when I'm doing work by myself and not talking to others. Reason being, I know that they'll annoy me to the point I'm just wanting to tell them to go away but I know it's rude to so I don't.
Thats the worst part its so hard for others to see your emotions and take the hint. My only tell is shuting down fully or my clenched fist with heavy breathing. We dont want an outburst but its nearly inevitable.
When I ate on school someone pissed me off and it was my job to give everyone water *our water on school is dirty AF* and the person that pissed me off had a full glass of water but I was supposed to give a half glass *i did like it was an accident*
I get it is hard to let people know when your mad but your making it seem that it is their foult comunacation is the better option I know that that is hard I am a true introvert at hard
jip huiswerk I agree, but it can be absolutely frustrating when they want to know the reason why I feel pissed. I don't want to talk about it and that's exactly what I say to them. Yet some still insist that they want to know and help. It's aggravating! "I just want to be alone right now", "... is there something wrong?" "I'll talk about it later" "come on, let's have a ch- "I SAID!! ... Just let me cool off for today, 'Kay?" I understand their intentions, but that is just how I am.
This is so relatable. I thought something was wrong with me. And it's not just when I'm mad, it's almost any emotion. I don't know how to express my feelings.
At least if your bottled up emotions blow up in someone's face, they eventually get out. I'm so introverted to the point where the mere thought of that happening with me scares me. My emotions just stay inside, and I only take them out on myself by hating myself and crying in the nearest bathroom.
Yo I live with a Relative and can’t escape no matter what I do I have to eventually see and have draining meaningless convos every time I tried to leave my room jus to use bathroom or get water. Almost kills my motivation and I can’t truly be happy for the entire day knowing I’ll have to see them wen I get home.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and emotions with us. While I was listening to it I was wondering why you don't try to express your emotions instead of swallowing them? Are you afraid of other people's reactions? Or are you afraid to get rejected? I mean after all nobody can read your mind and without proper communication nothing will change at all. Good luck for your further journey. 😊
People are always saying, "Hey, what's wrong?" When I randomly, as though it seems, just explode with the emotion I'm having, usually frusturation, because I kinda get frusterated easily. I like to keep to myself because I feel like a blubbering idiot when I say what's wrong. Very few people know to leave me alone when I'm just sitting there laying my head on the desk or clenching my fist, and teachers are the WORST when it comes to this subject. I feel that I always have to answer an adult no matter what the subject is because that's how my dad taught me. So I'm trying to explain how I feel and they keep nagging me, then you get the snappy side of me. Its hard to do that because I'm usually a calm, relaxed, and carefree person who listens and understands your pain. But, we all have those days right? Anyways, if you get the snappy side of me, its not a good thing. Although I'm usually gentle, I can be very intimidating. Thing is I'm pretty strong, at least, according to the boys in my class. I can see that, I've proved myself in a game one year of how strong I can be, the downside though is that I have very low stamina and its hard for me to run around a track like a lot of my athletic friends, but that makes me me. I'm getting off of track, so I think I'll end it here 😛.
I have this one guy that I dated once. Didn't work out so we broke up. The problem here is after we broke up HE STILL FOLLOWED Me for a while it was just here and then but now this dude follows me EVERYWHERE. HE. WONT. GO. AWAY. I did every tactic a introvert could possibly create. But this dude never takes the hint. He makes terrible jokes and rephrases year old memes. The thing is when the few moments he did actually realise I wanted him tone he'd leave. AND COME BACK IN LIKE 5 MINUTES. Hes always trying to hit on me even though i DONT LIKE THAT. I AM AN INTROVERT. I LIKE BEING TREATED AS A FRIEND NOT SOME SENPAI SHIT. This seriously won't leave me alone it's too the point where my mom is concerned about this stuff. The dude still follows and still is yet to take the hint I don't like him...
I don't think any of these points were about introversion. Being an introvert /outrovert simply describes how a person loses / gains energy. It doesn't always affect a person's behaviour in such a way this video described.
Omg I’m an introvert, and this is so true!!! I was angry at one of my friends a few days ago for ignoring me in ssr when I tried to cheer her up, when she was upset for the stupidist reason, and at track after school she just acted like nothing happened, and started talking to me again. I was a little angry, so I just answered her with one word and stuff, and she still couldn’t see that I was upset!! I mean come on, take a hint!!
Did you pay attention to the video? The speaker mentioned multiple times that it was his own fault for assuming others would automatically know how he was really feeling. Also, introversion *is* a healthy lifestyle, it's just a little different.
OMFG THIS IS SO RELATABLE IM LITERALLY SCREAMING BECAUSE FINALLY SOMEONE WHO GETS IT!!!!!! It makes me so frustrated when people don’t get I’m mad cause like I don’t like yelling at people so I just pretend everything is fine but avoid interaction by barely speaking to them and they never seem to realize that I’m pissed off! And then when I blow up over lil things they think I’m a bitch!!!! Like ugh it’s so annoying and I love seeing I’m not the only one!
These is so relatable. what happens to me is I'm super pissed of is. Hi umm can you carry these for me. ok 😖 1 min later. ok I just need to get to my room and cool off. hey can you give me a hand. hey I want to show you something. 😡Ok then my sister pokes me me aaaaaaaaaaaaaa THATS IT. and then my mom comes in and goes don't me mean to your sister. Before you ask I have a big family anyway hope you have a good day XD
Tanzanight same , I have 6 siblings , 7 including me , and I'm an introvert , it's really hard and annoying . and I'm the middle child so my mom did the really pay attention to me that much , like she didn't care how I feel ,she's always too busy with the other kids
Basically my mood at any given time will either be angry, stressed, or sad. Mostly the cause of this is school but yeah, I basically always have a smile because if anyone saw me on the inside, they would probably turn the other way and run
That's pretty much true for me. Besides the frustration, they didn't know when I get depressed or stressed out because I rarely show any facial expressions. In high school, I often got asked if I'm alright when I just mind my own business and wanted to relax after long day.
Is this a retake on a previous video? I remember seeing the same topic but I highly disagreed with the points in the video. I'm still not sure if this is introverted behaviour per say but this is much better then the last one. I feel like an extroverted person might use the same method in order to not bothered.
I was thinking the same thing, there was a crappy one about the same thing a few months ago. The girl was listing them, and I agreed with like 2 of 11. I only remember it because of how wrong it was
I'm glad I wasn't the only one!!! I even related to it but not because of my introvertness but only because I don't like confrontation (and not in the socially draining way either). It was upsetting to me how so specific they made the introvert personality when it's really not like that for everyone!
If you think about it, you created a really good opportunity to conect with her. I mean now you are pretty sure you pissed her off. Go to her, talk to her and let her know. Probably just a few people will know that she is pissed off. If she has the feeling that you understand her when almost no one else does, she will get interested in you cause of that. Try it bro, just be yourself and be honest.
That Guy Dude, I don't know how old you are. But I am 20years old, from Germany/Austria. I missed quite a few chances when it comes to girls, I kind of regret it. ;) It might look like a cruel step for you now, but if you look back on it later it's not really a big deal.
I had an assistant chief that found out the hard way I am an introvert. I had been asking her for help over a 3 year period, with no response. Well, in a department meeting she asked if anyone had questions. I looked at my coworker sitting beside me and told her to stand back and give me some room. I snapped so badly I blacked out. I left the department 9 months later, during which the assistant chief never spoke to me or walked near my office.
I don't think this person speaking is an introvert. He's just an angry person and excuses himself to be an introvert. More like depressed. He even curses "why the hell"...
helenGD So you're saying I can't be an introvert if I have anger issues and depression? Which book of psychology did that come from? You are aware that people can have multiple issues, diagnosis and even personality traits, right? I'm an introvert who is asocial, but can get antisocial in minutes if not seconds. I've been diagnosed with clinical depression, social and general anxiety. Human beings have layers in case you didn't know.
I have a similar combination of traits and can fully relate to this video. Maybe not all introverts have these tendencies to struggle with, but I do, and so do a quite few other introverts I have got to know over the years. No extrovert I have talked with has admitted to having these feelings or shown this type of behaviour, so I think this person would be an introvert.
Introverts are saints or something like that? I don't think so, I'm introvert because I feel more relaxed when I'm alone, but that don't limit me to have feelings towards others: admiration, love, sadness, anger, etc. The difference is how we express that feelings, similar to the video.
I’m an introvert but if I’m with someone I’m comfortable with I prefer to make my emotions clear. I normally speak a lot to my friends but when I’m mad I ignore them and become emotionless.
I’m an introvert and one day I listed off another introvert for something I didn’t do. This girl started spreading a rumour that I And he were going out. Since we were both male and female and we were the only two introverts in the year, she said we were going out. This was before I came out as bi to my friends. She spread the rumour and when I tried to talk to him about it he just yelled at me ‘LEAVE ME ALONE!’ I think he thought I spread the rumour.
When I'm angry and refuse help from someone, it's not because I don't want to interact with them (although this is still true), it's because if I accept help from them, I have to be grateful and then I have no reason to be mad anymore. I WANT TO HOLD ON TO MY ANGERRRR
Woah, I do that to people when I’m angry too. I just lie and say one word, like fine, because I know it will end the conversation immediately. But I do that when I’m not pissed too just because I’m so much of an introvert. It’s oddly comforting to know I’m not alone
Tell me about it!!!! There are those that want me to help them with math or whatever and I’m glad to help, but they don’t even put in the effort and sometimes act like they don’t care!! Then why should I?? As an introvert, I value my personal space and time, but I make way to help tutor people because I love doing it. They expect me to help them whenever they want, but never realize that I have my own life and I’m not a robot! Edit: Anyone else?? 😝
I'm working on trying to be more open with my emotions. Trying not to let everything get bottled up cause I don't like blowing up at people once I've had enough. It's a process, and I have my setbacks. In the end I would rather be more open and honest with the people in my life
When as an introvert I pissed off I need someone close to open up Nd spit all the anger for whatever reason I was pissed off most of the tym just let it go Nd forgive Nd chill
There's this one person in my class and they just keep accidentally annoying me and my friends and he's making school a terrible. So I've have my small group of friends we're really good friends (I'm in advanced classes so I had the same class last year and this year so I know my whole class at least a little bit) and we don't really like having other people join in our groups and conversations unless we know them. Anyway out of nowhere a quarter way into the school year and BLAM a new kid shows up. So after a couple of days of him going to my school he starts attaching himself to me and my friends. Now this person I don't know how to describe them besides saying things they do. He would blame everything on "oh I wasn't here for that" even if he was and the teacher even says he was. He cries over everything. He spends a whole period playing games in his laptop so his partner split up to work by himself. He cried. He gets a bad grade on a test. He cried. On a project the teacher wouldn't let him transfer to my team. He cried. WE PUT UP 3 LUNCH BOXES IN A ROW SO MY FRIEND DIDNT LOSE THE DICE WE WERE USING FOR THE GAME WE WERE PLAYING AT LUNCH! He cried. After calling us a nerd for playing said game not jokingly then asking to join and us saying no and pointing out we are the only the fact we are his only "friends". He cried. It's been a few weeks now all that stuff has happened he apologized. TO ONLY ME! And now is basically trying to bribe me with snacks at lunch to be his friend. Can someone please tell me how to get him to go away? I've been hinting at him from the beggining that I didn't want to be his friend but he doesn't get it. PLEASE HELP
