How to Totally Dis-Empower A Narcissist 

I need to be set free from the 25 + years of " Titanic" narcissistic abuse. Please God, help me to be wise and courageous enough to get away before it is too late.

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After leaving you for dead.

Praise the Lord

You are never free always be vigilant, that person has marked you, but you sound strong enough to defeat the beast, just always be vigilant you will have heard the words "you will always be mine" I know you will have, you stay strong yes bit be aware they never give up 🤝

George Washington said, "Better to be alone, than in bad company".

No response require s patience but it works

yes! they want you to engage in the argument with them. Even over something super small.

Thank you...

Yes! Their frustrated reaction is absolutely palpable! Then...they double down.

Yes, using the Grey Rock method drives them crazy! There are ways to play a narcissist, but you have to be willing to leave after you play with them.

I used to try to add some humor to a situation. She would not laugh and say with no emotion " your funny"

@martyc2637 That was her mask slipping and what no empathy looks like from her. Thanks for sharing. Hope you are staying narc free!

I could write a book !!!!!!!

​@@dclarke1896 This is so important, as recently I fell into a relationship online, three years ago, after a Covert Narc marriage of 40 years. It was disastrous. Had no idea what I was getting into. Worse still, it was an online romance scam & he was taking my money. I had no idea my ex was a narcissist which predisposed me to fall for this online Narcissist. I went from the frypan into the fire, literally. But, I escaped again, & now 4 months on. Feeling better all the time. It is an addiction for me.

​@@edgarjoseph2323 Me, too!

I can't wait to be where you are now how sweet it is

Thank you for sharing that. In ignorant desperation I tried being the reactive abuser. It was like pouring gas on a fire which emboldened the narcissist further. I backslid into it again last night when I overheard him asking a potential new supply to have dinner with him. Of course when I confronted him it reignited the gaslighting. BTW the prelude to his invitation to her was his lie to me saying that he was going to be going to help serve the homeless their Christmas dinner. I hope that he is sitting at such a table to be fed in the coming year!

The coverts can be the worst to spot and deal with. After 10yrars, I'm just now realizing a family member was a covert narc because they acted so shy, unassuming, meek, wouldn't hurt a fly personality.

Exactly, who wants to be harvested for supply? Especially since narcs PREFER negative supply. So gross.

That is such a good analogy. Narcissistic people are like leeches: they literally suck the life out of you if you let them, use you, make a sport out of being toxic and making everything about them. It has been so valuable for me to detach and just see it more objectively: these people simply have a distorted view and their projections aren't the truth. They need to up their false bravado and so they put others down. I'd actually find it comical how they want to make everything into a contest, if it wasn't so damn sad.

@@laurewinkelmans9501 Great comment. Thank you!

Soo true! That and all the crazy set ups they create and realising you are either an actual crazy freak

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Glad it was helpful!

​@@NarcConThis video has helped me so much and right on time!! Thank You!!

​@@NarcConThis video has helped me so much and right on time!! Thank You!!

​@@NarcConThis video has helped me so much and right on time!! Thank You!!

Amen 🙏

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Thank you Freespirit. I needed to hear that.

Beautifully said

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So very true!

You are 100 percent right ! They hate the light 💡 that shines within Us ! They are Possessed by Demons 👺

Not just an element, they are evil itself

The lack of insight is profound.

Love that!❤

Congratulations to you!

He probably left because you were too much to deal with

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@@NarcCon you really Great therapist

You didn't know it But HOW LUCKY you were !! You are free now, your baby is free. A great place to start your new life with out any nonsense from the narc. You can make a wonderful life for you and your baby..

❤ great advice!

Awesome!

Hard to go through but 💯 worth getting away as fast as possible. 😊

I can relate to this

There are so many of them and they're all cut from the same cloth. It is just absolutely amazing to me how so many people belive their nonsense. They are award-winning actors and sales people.

They ARE demon possessed 4 yr olds!

And why should he help you with money after a breakup? Going off your comments you sound like the entitled one lol

I want to feel how you feel, been 8 months since, so still up and down.

I think there is some proportion between time spent and health. And, I don’t believe that those claiming an immediate return to their lives pre-narc is true. I think there is a lengthy curve and a lot of rumination. But I couldn’t say with certainty as I was born to a narc.

My relationship ended 4 years ago as well. I know there are times when you think you will never get over it, but time is the best healer. I will never forget, but I refuse to stay stuck in it either. I would never give him that satisfaction. We all heal at our own pace.

@@1991windsor 9 months on , going thru a tough time again, thinking too much of her, what she's doing etc. I need to stop cos its just prolonging the torture.

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns It's terrible the ups and downs but don't give up and open the door to the narc again. Binge watching videos related to these insidious, vile, designing character types helped me understand these characters and I let go of the guilt and shame. Then I started looking at them clinically and my mind took over, and my heart took a back seat. I learned a lot from RU-vid videos on what makes these odious people tick, and came to terms with much in my mind and heart, thereafter. I wish you luck in your healing journey. May you be covered with unconditional love and pure, divine light.

bloody true

Well Said.

Very well put!

Thats brilliant 😮

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Thanks pamela

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Thank you!

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Love it! Love it! great answer.

Can you kindly explain what is meant by them baiting you in front of their minions?

Absolutely true! It's embarrassing and humiliating.

@@cr_m3848 Why don't you give more of your own history before you start seeming like a suspect trying to trick someone to answering someone for someone else's amusement? I frankly don't trust you!

Congratulations sam

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns thank you, John! 🙏😊

@@sharmalarm no problem. Her loss. Happy future for you. 👍

I didn't know my mom was as a Narc til recently, I'm 58yo.

@@keithstewart7514 , ' Ditto ' 👍🏼 ( and my sister 😏)

Very very well said!

Well he's about to spin because he is OUT

Absolutely true!!

That is how you toy with a narcissist is to act cool, calm, collected when they know they're pushing your buttons, but you don't react emotionally. And you discard them first.

I've witnessed the Smirk that went wider than ear to ear!

Exactly my only boundary or contact ever again is none or with actual third parties if communication is required

It's all gain for those of us who choose to get out!!!

Amen

I too, am in my post narcissistic abuse high! Life is sooo fabulous without those pitiful creatures in it. Now I know what these damaged humans are and I know how to avoid them. My narc mom is 87 and worse than ever. Purposefully she is a 33 hour car ride away! The ex narc partner tried to hoover me - again - because he successfully did it multiple times before. That’s how CONDITIONED I was from the narc mother. So when the ex actually walked by the sidewalk in front of my house, while I was sweeping off my deck, I discovered he no longer elicited a response within me. “I don’t see why we shouldn’t stay in each other’s life,” he said. “I have a good reason,” I replied. “I am so much happier without you.” He put his head down and walked away. 😇

Good on you ❤

BETTER LATER..... Than NEVER Like Soooo MANY People!

It is not your so-called overreaction IMHO. They were just pushing at people until they could GET AWAY WITH IT FOR A SECOND. But you're at this website so obviously you've shut it down or are beginning too. Don't beat yourself up like these bullies are HOPING to trick you into believing. Signing off, a 50-yr old dude

Christina I fully agree with you. A so called friend was volcanic when I asked "Do you know what a Narcissist is"? She was tight lipped and fuming, and I didn't realize as I was driving and trying to find a good spot to park. It was a horrible parking spot, and I took it because that devilish narc was insisting I park in that place and nothing else was handy. Got down and went to get something from the car I'd forgotten because of the Narc's evil vibes. The evil Narc was trying to leave me behind and head off, and I needed the wretched creature to show me a particular place. I called out to her to hang on, didn't look down, stumbled and heard a cracking sound....I had a fracture. After finishing my work, dropping off the narc, I headed to the hospital.....it was a fracture. Luckily I have been able to distance myself from the narc and don't plan to go on any more shopping sprees with this individual. I'm pretty certain the Narc was cursing me in her mind and wishing something bad would happen to me. In retrospect I should have realized this was an overt Narcissist and extremely jealous one I was dealing with. I told another friend of mine what happened and I was told to slowly stop talking to the Narc, and not go anywhere near the individual.....keep a good distance, no hi and bye too, not even use a 10 foot barge pole near the Narc....

@@maytruthprevail4668 I'm sorry you had that experience. Sometimes we don't know people's true nature until we get to know them a little better. As your friend suggested, don't confront her, just quietly let her go. Above all, be discerning in the future. With narcs that can be challenging because on the surface they can be charming and outgoing. But when you actually get to know them, you see their core self. All the best to you.

@@transitionsnc Thank you Christina, sound advise I am going to follow. The narc has a whole battalion of flying monkeys, all shapes, sizes, different walks of life. The most unnerving thing was I'd just sent in the comment to you and was planning to go out when the narc called my mobile. The timing was so uncanny it gave me goosebumps as I'd told the narc last week that I was busy. Absolute silence after that, and then when I'd just sent in a reply to your comment there's this call from her, which I didn't answer. Really a case of "To the Devil, A Daughter!"

Correct. It seems that my extremely religious (evil) mothr😢has groomed me to go to hell with my family since my birth... six decades ago.

Im 64 and I'm Christian. I suspected my husband of 25 years was cheating. He look a lie detector test and he obviously thought he could outsmart the operator. In the end if wasn't just one woman it was 3. There was absolutely no remorse. I think this is spiritual warfare, the evil he is now displaying is unnerving. I left 3 months ago but unfortunately we still have to sell our home. The healing journey has begun.

All 100% true!!

And then turn around and accuse you of being the narcissist

lol so your with this dude 30 years and all of a sudden everything goes to shit I don't buy it you just wanted to go out and cheat and are you a Dr because women like to throw around the narcissist word all the time I think women project how they feel about themselves on to other people

They do that. I got to the point that I said I do not believe you. (Words did not meet actions) then he was off dating people from work again he was doing it all along. When you get to the point you confront the truth that mask comes off completely in one final attempt to drive a stake through your heart through action they do at that time if they do not crush you spiritually and emotionally if you are still there in the physical then if you are dealing with a psychopath or sociopath weird things happen when they are trying to kill you. Sudden break failure on your car, someone trying to run you off the road while driving, lug nuts removed from a tire, stove gas turned on slowly, they act like they are cooking a meal for you and you taste the bug spray or poison they put on it. They usually give left overs to dog but that day when you dont eat it the dog had enough today. Something important coming up and all of the sudden you are so phyically ill out of nowhere like you were poisoned. Rashes all over your body. A random fire in your home. This runs so deep. Please be careful if you are reading this. Something you said you didnt realize you caused deep narc injury and you wake up in the morning with you dog bleeding to death and they tell you they didnt want to upset you by waking you up she got hurt outside on a car part( u have outdoor cameras they refuse to replay) dog ends up with 27 staples and a chest tube. That was the end for me I woke up real quick . I have seen evil in someone I thought I loved for 30 years. The signs were all there. This is hard to recover from. Especially during lockdowns and pandemic's. I had to move far away and give up a job that was one of the greatest opportunities I ever had. I have been in constant therapy ever since. They will destroy u. They do not love you. They are using you. Please see the signs. I wish I would have in the begining. This took me down to my lowest point in my life. Do not let this get to that point for you. 🙏please listen to me. I hope this reaches the one person I believe God intended it for. I never comment this much. 🙏💕

Same, they push us and push us, we eventually react and are labelled abusive. Its pathetic how similar they all are.

@@JohnSmith-wo7ns yes and yes 🥶

@@Phoenix-tr1kh sad but true unfortunately 😔

Yes it because we have figured them out on what they're all about..The true hurts and it hurts them twice as much. They can not handle reality, when caught out from their false illusion and that's when they get " VERY ANGRY " very angry like a child that didn't get there way when little. Which there wasn't law to give them a smack in the back side.🤣🤣🤣

That is the final dealbreaker, isn't it? Never doubt what you understood.

Just went through this exact experience, still unnerved , and trying to understand why people go out to try and destroy others

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I'll second that 👌🏼👍🏼. These video clips are really really helpful and massive light bulb 💡 moments at times when you suddenly get it & find yourself going Yes yes yes . 👍🏼 God bless this Lady 🙏🏼

That smirk is the universal giveaway. Narcs smirk when they think they’ve pulled one over, and/or when they successfully goad you into an argument. Narcs feed off of conflict.

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You know the truth and sooner or later God always makes justice.

Oh yes. That malignant smirk!! Know it SO well!

It’s pretty simple/ he has to make himself better than you in his mind And he’s projecting his own shame by shaming you- you don’t have to accept it (don’t agree with his delusions) and it goes right back to him That actually what this video is about! That’s how to disarm them Don’t buy the bullshit don’t play the game- don’t agree with their false reality Energetically it send them for a loop They need our reaction/response/acknowledgement to sustain their delusions Don’t play the game

Time May sort this one out Kathleen 🌹

She is toxic she will dismantle the band they will be sorry they ever let her in

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BASICALLY! Saving Yourself 💯👌💪

63 and free

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narcissists are cowards, grey rock the shit out of him

You can complain to the property manager

Security camera in my apt kept a nosey covert landlord out of mine. He wouldn’t even come to the door anymore! Get one w a mic and yell at them and lets you save clips. Make sure he isn’t tech savvy. Use a secure camera brand that helps walk you through how to assign to a secure part of your router/web.

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I have such gratitude for how you speak Truth. Many thanks from across the pond.

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So sad for you. He will knock on your door as soon as he is able...♥️