I can hear in your voice that your heart hurts for the pregnancy you’ve lost. There are no words that can take the pain away. Just sending love and support. I hope 🌈 comes soon
I don't have any children, but I am an elementary teacher and I hear so many different views. I hear that children are incredibly expensive and I've also heard that children are not expensive at all and only add minimally to their household finances. This may sound confusing, but honestly, I think this tells me that children CAN be expensive, and as long as the children are healthy and do not have many special needs, children are only expensive if you allow them to be. Just like eating out and going on vacation can be expensive, but only if you allow it to be. I might get some hate on comparing kids to those things, but it's just a comparison to put things in perspective. Of course there are possibilities that could increase costs if a child has health problems or other special needs, so you do need to plan for just in case, but as far as generally, I think kids are only expensive if you allow them to be.
Rachael Lyn i have to disagree. I can’t go on many vacations because kids are expensive. Diapers, wipes, cream, clothing, bedroom set, daycare alone is a mortgage, daycare supplies, food, lunch box, shoes, socks, bottles, milk, when they are sick time off from work to care for them, cost of meds, co pays for dr visits, ER visits, ambulance cost and other unforeseen cost, the cost of toys, the cost of Christmas alone with kids, baby supplies, and the list goes on. Kids are amazing, I have two...but please you can’t say that kids are not expensive. Anyone dependent on someone else is expensive. Whether it’s an elderly person, and adopted person, a pet, anyone aside from yourself that needs some of your money is expensive.
Rachael Lyn even if the child did not have medical needs, it is still very expensive. You can’t compare a child to materialistic things; it’s like comparing apples to homes going on foreclosure. I understand that you are a teacher; but but being a parent or guardian totally changes up the scenario.
Rachael Lyn well I want to meet these parents and see their personal take. Maybe you work in a higher income area where people don’t live on a tight budget, not sure. But kids are super expensive, even the kids that are not diagnosed with other ailments
@@Liale2011 Yes but kids don't need a bedroom set they can make do with a cheap 200 dollar bed and mattress and you don't need alot of those things for kids people just like to get them. Like for my nieces they don't have a ton of Christmas presents and whatnot. It depends on your lifestyle.
Thx for sharing marissa! It’s funny how expensive my wife and I thought our first baby was going to be. Now with our third baby, we’ve learned just how much the baby stuff marketed to parents are unnecessary.
I remember how badly I wanted to stay home, after our second child was born. Prior, I thought I'd go back to work, and had everything set up and "planned" to do so. There was something about having my second child, and seeing how quickly the time passed with my first, that really tugged at my heart. I ended up quitting my job, and following that "tug". Having said all of that, it's amazing how we were able to work all of that out, and for a brief season, (it flies by), we had to stop working on several of our long term financial priorities, to take care of our present situation. That was five years ago, and I have since gone back to work part-time and we're back to working on those long term financial priorities. I don't regret that decision, at all. I say all of this to tell you that after watching your videos, I feel like you are wise beyond your years, and when the time comes, you and your husband will know exactly how to make this work for that season. You're already steps ahead of so many people, in that you're planning and preparing for this upcoming season. I can't wait to see how it all unfolds!
Wait until after 20 weeks that still gives you a lot of time to get ready. Honestly so much about parenting is go with the flow and seems like personally for me it was less planning is more. Of course life insurance and saving money for out of pocket L&D expenses are super important but the more flexible and less stressed you are about the money the better. I am a planner and type A and after 3 kids I have learned that you will always have what you need when you need it. Planning is awesome but stay flexible and don't plan so much you don't enjoy what's happening. Babies and kids are cheap thankfully they don't need much to be happy and healthy!
Great idea to prepare before getting pregnant! We saved up a bunch of money before having my daughter and it made the whole experience a little less stressful (still stressful for different reasons). Hope you guys get things into place for when God blesses you with a pregnancy!
Loving your content recently! My husband and I are just starting to stick to a stricter budget as we are just beginning to try for our first baby. Thanks for your tips! May God bless your family💗
My wife and I are 27 and we pretty much started our careers off with 400k in student loan debt... flipping sucks. Also we live in a rather expensive area (lowest rents are 1700). I'm so thankful we make 150k and we use about 3200 a month to pay off this debt. It is insane to think what we can afford once this 400k is gone. We want to have children but know we cannot afford a house and these loans at the same time. Really cheap houses are about 325k here. NUTS... We moved here from a place where very very nice homes were that price so it's a little culture shock at what people pay here between DC and Baltimore. I would love to move back to Delaware if there were jobs there... She is a Pharmacist and i'm an assistant meat manager at a grocery store. It is a highly concentrated area of pharmacists here and it took her 4 months to find something after she graduated. Luckily I got a promotion moving here but it is not making up for the god awful cost of living. Our rent use to bee 1100, now its 1750 for a smaller place. Can't wait to move to a cheaper area.
Thank you for being so open with your life. We are going to start trying for our first child next February and this video is super helpful! Seeing youtubers like yourself talk about your miscarriage made me realize it is common. I talked to some of my friends and was surprised a few of them had gone through the same. Best wishes to you and your husband.
Yes I told my fiancé I want a house before we have a baby just because I want to give them the life I didn’t have so I want to be financially stable before bringing another person into this world for one number two I also would like to save at least 100 thousand before having a child plus at least a 20 thousand dollar emergency fund for any un foreseen expenses or anything but I’m glad I came across this channel because there’s many things I want to get take care of in my life before I bring another human being into this world glad people are planning for the future instead of jumping into it
Our goal is for me to be able to work from home on my business! If that's the case, then we won't need childcare. But I totally get ya there... Childcare is expensive!
Could you show us how you came up with the $700/mo. I’d like to know how much you allocated for baby items and maturity and exclude the medical portion. Thanks!
I don’t have any debt but I worry that We won’t have enough for starting a family. I’ll give my fears onto the Lord and just work hard to save money before pregnancy like you :)
i'm 15. i have baby fever sooo bad. i'm on birth control. but the only way i can calm my baby fever is by buying baby stuff. i have quite a bit of clothes. a pack of newborn diapers. wipes. and pacifiers. i bought everything with my own money and it just makes me feel better idk why
@@samuelasanderinos1521 my family has a lot of female problems and every female has had to have a hysterectomy or is going too in their early 20s so i'm thinking about trying for a baby at like 17/18/19 cause i really want to be a mother
@@beccanicole5439 do you watch 16 and Pregnant? Speak to someone that had a baby at 16 on what they had to give up and grow up in a whim. Enjoy your Youth, you have ample time to think about babies but not now
@@beccanicole5439 hun that’s too young, remember there are options like adoption, and fostering if that’s the case parenthood is NOTHING you should rush into. You not only have to be financially prepared, but you have to be mentally and physically prepared as well.
Great video !!! I heard alot about a vitamin that is wonderful for conceiving called : Serrapeptase by Doctors Choice brand. You may want to.look into.
