How & Where To Find a Trad Wife? 

When I was in college I honestly didn't know if I wanted children, and told my now-husband as much, and he was afraid to report that to his mother. Things changed a lot after we got married and biological urges kicked in, and maturity as well. I ended up homeschooling my kids, being a stay-at home mom the entire time, loved homemaking and now we have a little homestead where my work is all about the home, yard, animals, garden, etc. It's something I love and wholly promote and hope for for my sons families someday, but I acknowledge it's nothing I was envisioning for my life when I was 21 and getting married. I had no idea I would want this or love it so much. One thing I was certain of was that if I did have children, I would stay home and raise them.

I want to be a stay at home wife and mother however have really had an issue finding guys with a similar mindset. Oftentimes i’ll meet a guy online, we get along super well and send really long messages, and as soon as he asks about the future and I tell him I want to be a stay at home mum and wife he’s not interested. Sincerely, where can I find a man who wants this lifestyle too? I live on a small island so I’m looking at long distance with a goal to move to the place the man I connect with is at. But it’s so hard…

When i met my husband and we went on our second date i remember speaking to him about...1) if we date it must lead to marriage and we cannot date for a long time 2) i asked him if he was open to homeschooling because that was my hearts desire 3) i told him my life goal was to be a homemaker We have been married almost 16 years and have five children that are homeschooled. I have been able to stay home full time. 💓

Thank you Scott & Kelli for sharing how God has brought you together. Very encouraging. When it seems impossible, no answers to be found is when God can shine! So long as we are humble, obedient to His direction in seeking Him.

Unpopular opinion: you can find a trad wife/ good girl on dating apps. A lot of us are homebodies or introverted/ shy, and don't go out much. This makes it hard for us to meet men. In comes dating apps: the perfect solution for homebodies, lol. I see lots of serious-minded, traditional Christians in their 20s on dating apps like Hinge and Bumble. They put on their profile that they're dating for marriage, they're looking for a wife, etc. But then again I live in a conservative area. Probably not as great a tool if you're in a very liberal area.

A girl who was homeschooled are more likely to want to be a homemaker.

yall don’t want a wife yall want a mom

I have recently found your channel! What a treasure. You guys are a perfect balance and I look up to you both as an example of Christian marriage. I’m a converted Christian (even though I grew up Protestant, I soon became atheist at the age of 17). Now I’m in my journey of growing in faith and learning how to be feminine/traditional through God’s grace and mercy and also through channels like yours. So thank you very much! ❤ By my perspective, the same I see guys complaining about not finding trad women, I also feel like men nowadays don’t want or are not prepared to sacrifice/get the priorities right in order to provide for a trad woman and a traditional home. Everything is egalitarian, even among Christians.

I met my husband in Sunday School when we were 12-13 years old! He ended up seriously backsliding and leaving the church for about 5 years, but we prayed for him, God pursued him, and he repented and gave his heart to the Lord again (the long version of that whole story is waaay more exciting). He felt called to move back to where I lived (not because of me, but because of our church here), and we were able to start a relationship. It took four years of dating/being engaged because of the circumstances he had just come out of, but we were finally married 1 1/2 years ago. It's important for young people not to overlook those in their own church. There are so many single people in the same congregations, it seems, and the thought is often, "Oh, I could never date THAT person!" Or "I know that person too well. It would just be weird." I get that, and sometimes that's valid. I am concerned that we tend to have a lot of excuses for why the available young people are "not good enough" for us (again, sometimes that's true, and I'm NOT saying go date any random guy who has no values or standards). Like you two said, we humans change over time, and in a Christian relationship, we change together. I, too, am not the same woman that I was 5 years ago or even one year ago! I've learned so much from my husband, and we have built a life together with mutual goals and values. It is constantly a work in progress, though, as we learn more and seek God's ways.

"Do you know any girls that are suitable to me, please let me know". What a dork. If I say this to a co-worker, I'd never hear the end of it. You guys really don't get it.

I am going to watch this all the way thru as a feminine women in the US you can literally go into Ulta, Sephora, Hobby Lobby, Michaels craft store and find a feminine and Godly women!! I shouldn’t give this away but they’re hundreds if not thousands! I know because I currently am a makeup artist and domestic goddess and visit these stores on the daily and it’s just seas of women out nesting for taking care of themselves and decorating/ preparing to be homemakers. I DON’T SEE MEN OUT ANYMORE AND IT’S SCARY!! Where are they?! Seriously like I only see men out from Gen X and older. Millennial men have been messed up from all the pandemic nonsense, being robots to tech and the beast system. And ya’ll I live in Dallas, TX! If anyone in the US reading this comment can give any encouragement for where I can be positioned for a Godly man who likes being out and about! 🙏🏻 Also God bless this amazing couple I’m a new subscriber ya’ll are a God sent you have no idea!!

This was scary but everytime you makes us happy with your amazing videos❤❤❤

I appreciate you guys so much. Praise God indeed.

You two are the best

Another great video!

I do love the idea and I want to be a trad wife, however, the danger of a man wanting to take advantage of these women is very real. So she has to be very careful who she chooses.

I’m confused about the idea of trad or traditional wives. I want to emphasize that I’m trying to understand in good faith, but as a non-religious person, it’s hard for me to understand how 50% of the population could all be happy in the same role. With men, I think it’s understood that some men do well in business; some in engineering; some in medicine, ect., it’s kind of understood that they are different people with different talents and interests. Why wouldn’t the same be true of women? How could all women be suited for the same thing?

I was waitressing when I met my husband! He along with several other guys he worked with came in for breakfast almost daily. They were truck drivers and were often obnoxious. Because they came in as a group there were limited areas for them to all sit together and my regular space had one of those areas. After several days of dealing with their chaos, I told them they couldn’t sit in my area anymore. After a couple of days my now husband (42 years) and one of the other guys came to me and asked if they ‘behaved’ could the two of them sit in my area. Lol, the rest is history and in the end, they all realized how obnoxious they were and started acting like gentlemen and ended up back in my area. Most of that group were at our wedding and a couple of them were part of the wedding party. The Lord works in mysterious ways.

This is why I'm so attracted to Amish girls, but they are hard to get when you're not Amish

Get a job at Chick-fil-A!! So many great gals work there. A lot are homeschooled and tend to be more conservative 😊 i am a conservative Christian girl and met my husband while we were both working at Chick-fil-A 😊❤

I am traditional 😊

more videos please guys

Pro Tip#1: Have facial features similar to the guy in this video. (this will help you find any woman, trad wives included, maybe)

Ehhh, I get what Kelli is saying at the 11:45 mark, but guys cannot assume a woman wants to be approached in today's climate. There are countless Tiktoks that have gone viral of women declaring the opposite is true -- they don't want to be approached in stores, in parking lots, at gas stations, while shopping, at a restaurant -- I even asked a woman about this recently, and she said she didn't want to be approached by guys at the bar unless she gives them the vibe that she's approachable, which was befuddling to me, because I then asked, where men should approach women? And she said it wasn't abbut where, but when, and men need to better gauge timing. Also, as many guys know, approaching a woman can be detrimental, like the gymbros found out as they were labeled as creepy/stalkers/etc., when filmed and posted on social media just for even glancing at a woman. So men have to be VERY careful when approaching women in today's climate.

Would love to be a tradwife :) but not easy finding a good man living in the city

How and where to find a trad wife: In a 3rd world country. And i say that from the most conservative province in Canada. In all honesty, they dont really exist anymore in my country, Canada. Maybe they exist on farms and are Mennonites?

I'm sure you mean well, but your advice on girls who are wavering on careers--vs--stay-at-home is not helpful. On the one hand you say that a guy isn't going to find a finished product, a take-home ready trad wife, that men should be realistic, but then you give guys reasons/excuses to dismiss a girl. Yes, there are the obvious "blue-haired, cat lady" vibes from some females who are lost causes, I get that, but there are a lot of women who are trapped between worlds, who just need a push in the right direction. There are a lot of women out there, myself included, who needed a man who was able to show that THEY were marriage material, that THEY could provide the leadership in a marriage so that we could find that place to feel comfortable with traditional feminism. You know that saying "waiting to exhale?" I think a lot of women feel that way, that we constantly need to be girl boss, constantly need to compete with the world, take care of everything ourselves. Men need to get their s*** together and give us a reason to restore our femininity, to let us exhale and allow us to be who we were designed to be. Thankfully my husband was a lot more understanding and forgiving of my upbringing. I am a stay-at-home wife of nearly 8 years. I stopped working once we got married, but I was raised by a father who believed that women who stayed at home were "using" their husbands. Yeah, and he's not the only man I've ever heard express that sentiment about stay-at-home wives. I am one of those politically conservative women and was raised by liberal atheists BTW. My husband has helped me in the faith journey too. If men want a trad wife, they first need to be trad men, not fake beta males masquerading as alphas either, so that they can help guide their family and society by extension back to a better place. So much of what we women have come across in the dating world is betas. If you read this, nothing personal. Again, I'm sure you mean well, but I see a lot of trad channels doing the opposite of what they intend. I actually came here about freezing milk and thought I'd check out a few other videos before I subbed.

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