Lol.. looks like you're super into us. I didn't mind it. On my channel, I just use the sewing machine cover as my microphone stand. 🤣 Maybe you could use a shipping box from your garment line.
I love how you always tackle that darkness. You're the opposite of toxic positivity. You're healthy positivity. Tackling that dark shit is half the battle. And you short cut it so easily. "Because it feels good" 🤯 thank you. I love your videos
I felt like crying as early as "without you the world would probably still be as bad. with you, you do have the potential to make it slightly better." struthless is truly a gift and the world is definitely substantially better with you in it - thank you!
I've noticed your videos are the type of videos you have to watch at least 2 times to get the most out of it. One to enjoy the video and visuals, to get that mind blowing feeling out of it. The second to "do your homework" and apply to practical life. Getting people to watch stuff is hard, but your content is so good it deserves a double watch. Thanks for your videos. All of them, even the ones you think aren't that good. I've learned at least 1 useful thing in each of them or they have moved me to a better state of mind with your sense of humor and metaphors. Just bought your book and it is helping me understand the stuff my therapist can't. Thanks
I was crying two hours ago about the fact that I couldn't set goals correctly. Two possibilities : you're my spiritual mentor or google is listening . Cheers from Belgium, I love everything you do 🤘
Great video. My problem is I suffer with anxiety, and goals make me anxious. I have abandoned so many that when I set a goal and I DO manage to complete it, I am more relieved that it is over than getting a sense of achievement. So a long term goal, even broken down, is a wait on my shoulders.
Can we have a struthless journal with all your journal prompts PLEASE. I risk spending 2 days of my life binge-watching (again) all your videos just to note them all down in one place!
I have not had a reason to live 10 years and counting. I hate being alive. The only things I care about are physiologically impossible or impossibly expensive.
fair play to you admitting your jealous tendencies! Especially in the online world it's easy to fall into the trap of portraying perfection, but what I love about you is that you're authentic 💜
This changed my life, I made a list of decisions a little over a year ago, and because of this video, I’m in a much happier place today. However, I stopped doing the journaling after only a few months, and I can tell that my goals have fallen to the wayside. But a friend asked me today how they could keep up with their goals and daily stress, and I suggested this video. I decided to watch it again myself, and I’m filled with motivation to restart the journaling I started when you first released this video. I hope it turns out well, thank you and keep doing you.
"Follow the fun!" Ferrrr sure. I really struggle with this, as most times I've followed the fun I've managed to turn something I really enjoy into drudgery. Mostly just pinning too much importance on it, and trying to do too much of it, thinking about it in my off time etc...burning out on it. Anyway, your videos help so much and I'm starting your book once the kid is in bed tonight. Cheers!
Same for me. I'm having to teach myself that it's okay to take breaks, even from fun. Depression and perfectionism really make you think that fun things arnt as fun anymore. If you're up for advice(I dont know you so feel free to ignore this I may be wrong), try to relax. Practice being okay with taking a 30min break from EVERYTHING without feeling bad about it, then once you're relaxed, make an achievable goal and do it. This is kind of what he touches on in the video lol but with an added "it's okay to get burned out so give yourself a break so you can get back to it". :)
Same here, I learned my problem was I put a huge expectation on everything I touch. I feel like I have to be the “best of the best,” and shouldn’t it be easier to do that if I choose something I actually enjoy? It very quickly takes the fun out of it. I’m slowly but surely cutting out the expectations, negative thoughts, judgements, criticisms, and comparisons I not only get from others but also myself 😅 Best of luck to you and finding the fun again!
I am struggling with the same thing. I think a part of my problem is that I take things too seriously and too personally. I have always been extremely harsh on my self and being that way over the years has caused me to avoid playfulness for fear of looking like an idiot. I don’t care if others judge me it’s me and the viciously pessimistic voice in my head that bother me more.
I think that some fun things should be left as fun and easy to do things. There are things that are both fun and important for you, but also the ones that are also important but more like for your soul and mood. Like professional life and career things are fun for sure, and this is where you put more effort and energy. But a little things like hobbies or sports are where you could start off when feeling down and burnt out. It shouldn’t be a necessary goal to finish it fast, but something like I will do it when I feel like doing
I just want to be consistent and put all my efforts for the next 1 year(for a particular short term goal) into something truly difficult but also rewarding (by simply working towards it). That's all. For now. The reward is intangibles (character growth, honesty, work ethic, curiosity, competence, learning, teaching, perseverance, resilient, value of time, bigger picture, valuing life itself).
Thanks so much for the start point of 'lost'!!!!! It's definitely rare to find a video like this because everywhere presumes we already have our 'goal'.
I cant achieve any of them because of my genetics or its a curse. No matter what i do I rarely (never) improve at anything & i regress or suddenly lose any skill gained, i put triple the amount of effort & practice in than all these pathetic lazy npcs ever have. I really hate people who are better than me because of this especially naturally talented people. they are the living personification of the word laziness. perfection given upon birth & never have to practice to get better, they sicken me
I still had no idea what I wanna do. I got things I'm interested in (drawing, dancing) but to actually learn them, I just can't. My mind is always like "You suck. Please don't bother" I know everyone sucks too at the beginning when they're learning but I just can't bear the pain of seeing trash results on daily basis. It feels like everything I do is useless and I am a useless talentless person
What you said about jealousy is so life-changing man... I appreciate so so much that you always try to give us an option to use our negative feelings in a useful way. Thank you so much ❤️
I love your content to bits man. So wise, comforting and motivating all at the same time. So glad your channel exists and I found it 🥺 you're truly a lifesaver, and the saviour of my mental health ❤
legitimate question, if you don't think about anything usually, if there hasn't been things that get you interested, and also do not get jealous of people, don't know do you want anything, is there a chance you already got everything you need, if so how one could carry on after because setting goals for nothing feels weird, also not having goals makes living kind of boring
If anyone in my life would have provided me with this when I was graduating, I don't think I would have been so lost in the world. Your students are lucky to have you
This video came at the exact right moment - I want to organize and perform in a solo recital by sometime next year because it’s an opportunity i didn’t seize when I was doing my BA in music... ready set gooooo!!!
Hey good luck! I'm doing a BMus at the moment and find recitals fucking terrifying! It's compulsory in my course to do them, otherwise I don't know that I would. What's your instrument?
"Most people dont get good parents but most people have a dark sense of humour and enjoy a laugh about it" i am most people and now i am excitedly looking forward to that animation! can 't wait!! I hope you can create it whenever you can (even if its later than when you aimed for~)
I love how you mentioned that quote "following the fun" and if you are not having fun then you are doing it wrong! Because life is supposed to be enjoyed and your goals should have something that excites you!
I love how he recognizes on some days we feel like shit and others we feel like we can accomplish anything. This bipolarity in my own emotions from day to day really set me back and i’m glad he points this reality out.
What if nothing excites me anymore? I had depression for a long time and have finally got out of it for the most part, but my excitement for stuff (and positive emotion in general tbh) has been dull ever since. I work a lot so rarely have time to do stuff which I find exciting or have time for my brain to come back to stuff. What steps should a person take to re-introduce possibility for excitement in their life?
I'm not a professional in this space by a long shot, but perhaps I could throw something in the ring for you? The date of your comment indicates maybe you've been going through a similar mental patch many of us creatives have been during this weird time in the world: not everyone becomes this epic inspired creator when afforded downtime (like what many of these LinkedIn hustle culture show ponies would like to have you believe ). In fact, because the world is paused, as does the input you need to give you ideas to create things. That's where my head has been. Only recently have I even started the process of pulling myself out of this pandemic-induced depression by saying yes to a gig that will definitely get me excited about performing again. All this, while I try and get my day job to be more fulfilling (by being more effective). It's a start, and the dread I've felt over the last couple of years by sitting down to concentrate on my instrument, and getting back into a focused mindful learning space is slowly eroding away again. So with this, even just the event of a small goal presenting itself is slowly giving me my passion back (I honestly thought that at 45, my days of loving music as intensely as I did when I was younger were gone, but...here we are, opening my eyes to the light again). I might be way off for assuming how you're feeling, but this has been my experience with this; bes tof luck with finding your first small goal to work towards, mate.
this is literally the best youtube channel ever. thank you so much. you changed my life 3 years ago and now i kinda lost the direction a bit again and came back here to find this amazing video. thanks man.
Thanks for doing these videos. I keep ending up in depression. Poeple tell me I have a lot to offer, but I often don't see it that way myself, or am totally bogged down by mental health issues. Sometimes a video like this can give a little push in the right direction.
Hey i saw ur video two years ago, i set big ambitions, ive achieved 95%. Was looking at my paper i wrote and i am never where i thought i would be. I have tons more dreams to keep going. Just wanna say ur video is still as relevant and i remember seeing this, after having had written what i was working on. Thinfs even 10 years ago i thought were impossible. Im having new types of goals, like meeting people and things but i still have my fire in my belly
good video. especially the journal prompts, and esp. jealousy part. makes me feel less shameful about it, because it makes sense. I appreciate that you arent fkn perfect and yet still try to develop self awareness to improve your whole.. all we can do. it's really inspiring for some, to know how much of a "loser" you believed you were, for us to see the first video's, then see how you're systematically getting out of the older mindsets/ situations.
You have lots of comments so mine should be invisible but I still wanna tell you your video and how it presents is SUPER AMAZING!! (At least it suits me), they are clean and straight to the point and add a bit of fun in it. Thanks!! I am gonna put the steps on the wall~ Because without a map step by step guide I am super lost!
*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."* The chances of you seeing this comment is pretty low, but if you did, *I hope you have an amazing day.* 🖤
Hi , congrats in your videos I'm definitely a fan, just writing to pointing you to a comment I left in your "stop comparing yourself" video because I thought it might get lost from your radar since it's an old video but I was just commenting that I recommend you to look into "Micropigmentation" I did it and it's really amazing and just thought in sharing my experience with you and whoever has deal with baldness. Anyway I hope it helps you. That's all. Thanks for your positiveness and keep up the good work. it's awesome.
You were recommended by a friend. I am very grateful for that. Thanks for your brilliant videos. Fun and informative. BRILLIANT. I would love that video on parenting. I speak about leadership, culture, and personal growth and a lot of parents don't realize they become leaders the day their kid was born ... Bad leaders (parents), create bad cultures (environments) and hinder their members (kids) to grow and develop in a healthy way. Luckily, we can heal and grain a lot from healing. Anyhow... So looking forward to that video. Just hearing your take on it will be therapeutic for so many of us, I'm sure. Thanks for all your great work.
Me: * turns on CC * RU-vid: _Vietnamese (auto-generated)_ Me: Uh... okay........ Me: * Watches the whole thing and only get like 20% of what Cam's saying *
I don’t think envy is always a sign of what you want but what others think you should have. For example, if someone boasts about his body count and you feel jealous… maybe you don’t really want to sleep around and you feel weird at the thought of doing so but you envy the sense of confidence, status and recognition that comes with it cause most of society says the more people you get laid with the more desirable you are. It becomes a dilemma and you stop trusting envy as a tool
I'm enamored with this. I had the pleasure of reading something similar, and I was truly enamored. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
oh my goodness, i was literally thinking I need a good video which explaines goal setting , i open my youtube and there are you. That's fucking perfection , thank you so much !!
bro, i love oyur stuff! discovered you one, or two weeks ago, and iam so happy :D nice dude, perfect content and i love your accent! keep it goin´ greetings from germany!
-Love the Australia centric globe! -First thought you’re gonna say ‘clean your room’ instead of the pacific 😂 And big congratulations to finishing and publishing your book!
I happily come here for the content, 100% ✨, b/c I literally want / need the information in the title and thumbnail. But smiling and laughing at your sarcasm and sense of humor, dude. 😄 Just keep on doin' it!! 🙌 🤜🔥🤛
Okay, but that fun language for your goal? That is 😚👌🔥🔥🔥🔥 Why have I never done this before? I always think I don't fucking care about anything. I don't want anything that bad. I feel like that is literally a piece I have been missing - personalizing so the goals sound like me and something I do want.
Merry Christmas, Cam at Struthless! Here is a video just for you ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-apUfhf_l66Q.html In kindred spirit Eliza Australia x
Hey Struthless, love the vids, thanks for making! A couple of staff at the school I work at have used them with our students to help them spark goal setting ideas, appreciate the content :) One question, the closed captions seem to be auto set to Vietnamese, so RU-vid thinks you're speaking Vietnamese, and as a result seems to be translating some whacky stuff. Any chance you could switch your language to English for captions? Would be great for accessibility for the students!
G’day. Just wanted to say Thanks Mate. I love your channel and the book is awesome and you have a mad signature. Kidding Not. Lol anyway Thanks for doing what you do. It’s awesome to have an Aussie who speaks heal and recovery. Anyways Luv ya mate. If ever in Tamworth NSW would love to shout you a cuppa. Thanks for keeping me going and remotivating me when I have push back pauses.
Imagine causing a war, flood or famine and struthless comes up to you: "Come on, man... Why you gotta do that?" xD But seriously though, your videos are giving me a lot of clarity right now. Gonna spend the next few days solely on tidying up my room and life. And then I'll be armed with an arsenal of tools to tackle every bad day there is. Thanks for your work, highly appreciated.
This is the best video I've watched on goals (and I've watched a lot) THANKS. Now a little question: I feel jealous of people that have written a book but every time I try to do it it's not fun, I find it hard to be creative and it feels like hitting my head over and over into a wall. I also don't feel capable of writing something decent.
I love everything about this video, thank you so much for this! The presentation, your energy and all the helpful genuine tips. I wish you all the best and thanks again ✌️✨
Thank you so much for another great video of yours 🤩🤩🤩 I'll hug you if i could, thanks ❤️ i laughed a lot when you said you are always trying to find new ways to procrastinate 😂😂 omg! i can relate 😅😅😅 not so proud though 😔😔
I've always known what I want to do...Music. Specifically Cinematic Composition and Folk/Jazz. Later I would love to teach. But every time I look at it like it might actually be a possibility I feel like the walls are closing in on me. I feel I have missed my chance and might end up hating it if I pursue it due to the stress and very long hours people in the industry talk about. Lately I've been playing my guitar a lot again, after having barely touched it in 3 years and I am embarrassed with how much skill I have lost or never learned. Instead I have gotten extremely good at agonizing over what I shall study instead. But nothing feels quite right. I keep jumping from one option to the next, always circling around the same core. In the meantime I keep on playing my guitar and keep on working to pay for singing classes to get better again, so I can finally apply to the Philharmonic Choir I've always wanted to get into. I don't know how I am supposed to go from that to the little house in the hills with a partner, children, a dog, a cat, a few goats, an atelier, a little music studio and room for travelers. How do people do this??
The point where I always get stuck is money. I want to follow the fun, do what excites me. But I can't make any money with it. So what do I do? Go for it anyway or adjust to meet my monetary needs? It's such a difficult decision. And because I never really make it, I feel like I'm stuck in limbo.
What if what I think about in the shower is the job I hate doing because I have anxiety and I constantly overthink? 😅😂 Loved the video anyways, thanks dude
Omg thank you so much!!! I am the type of person who can get overwelmed by too much information on any topic, so this simple guide to setting goals made me feel so much more relaxed and made me actally willing to follow it. Can not wait to start setting goals this way!!!
I've discovered goals work differently with different people. Some people need them in order to function, while it causes severe anxiety in others. The whole "I need to be a millionaire by the time I'm 30" goal is SO common and causes so much unnecessary stress and anxiety. The points in this video are great, just do what works for you king 👑
I agree and with the millionaire by 30 goal, if you think about it it’s so ludicrous. Often the only reason we want to aim for that is because we see it all over social media
at some point of setting goal, and failing them all, life just became easier without checkpoints one has to reach. all together, I think everyone takes life too seriously, wasting it away working to retire... by which time the body won't accommodate the will of you get my meaning. it's the way of the world, I know, everyone has to work..... but with only one life, why not just live without worry. even in nature, you see animals coexisting in Africa, every now and again, a zebra gets eaten, but at least the zebra lived it's life for itself, set it's goal every day, "don't die today." really, that's all that we should be worried about in life, instead humanity functions on unequal ground, doing what humanity should do to ensure the species survives as a whole, but only giving it to those with paper to trade.... it's kinda like we live our lives for someone else to enjoy the labor....I went out on a tangent
