How Will A Narcissist End Up -  

In my opinion, forgiving a narcissistic person is granting them permission to continue destroying you. No thanks!

There is no narcissist that does not cheat guys, she's 100% right

What's done in the dark will ALWAYS be brought into the Light 💝

The maddening thing is they cannot even see what they are, but they are ALWAYS the victim once they’re held accountable.

Their lives are truly pitiable.

I wouldn't want to spend one day in the shoes of a narcissist. What a sad and miserable life it must be. Thank you, Paula ❤

No one knows these type of people exist and they are so unworldly that there is no medication or treatment for a narcissist. They are able to deceive everyone even children of God. But this is a teaching lesson for us. Because adversity brings about humiliation. Believe me after God breaks you away from the narcissist you will pray and thank God for everything that he has blessed you with. The knowledge is the key. Thank you Paula

Guys, when you reach the pinnacle of indifference you wouldn't care where your narc is, what he does and how he'll end up. With each day he'll become smaller and smaller. It took me more than 2 years and a lot of education thanks to channels like this one. Thank you Paula. Good luck to all, and let's transform all the negative energy into positive.

Karma is very real, it comes in ways most unexpected.

Satan is the biggest narcissist ever! Narcissism is a demon, deliverance is needed.

I (being an empath) fell right into the trap of marrying a narcissistic woman. It was 26 years of chaos, drama, and insanity. We were financially well off at the beginning, but her crazy schemes led to financial ruin. She had multiple extramarital affairs during our marriage, followed by multiple live-in boyfriends after our divorce (7 years ago). My life is so much happier and peaceful now that I have gotten away from the situation. Paula, every word you spoke is exactly what I have experienced as a decent man married to a narcissist. Thank you. - Mike (from South Dakota in the United States).

How does it end for the narcissist? My x husband blew up our marriage, his mistress ran away when he got bone cancer,none ,not even his own children would take care of him,nor his " friends ". Sad. He would have died alone if I hadn't helped him in the end. He did it ALL to himself. I don't think anyone should die alone. It's all between God & him now.

CAN YOU IMAGINE??? My narc had all of my three children around him for Father's Day. He's sick with cancer -so the children have been with him to help out - so I had no children with me for Mother's Day but I understood that it's a difficult time for them. What did he do - the ungrateful sod??? He left them for the day to meet up with a woman. They put aside all plans to be with him for the day and he went out for the shiny object. Narcissists are never satisfied even when they have it all right in front of them.

I'll tell you how blinded and desperate I was when I met this person......when he told me he had set his mom's yard on fire with firecrackers, burnt his grandpa's shed down, two dui's, was molested by his brother, and HE was sent to live with his grandparents????? THAT RIGHT THERE.......hello, RED FLAGS????????🤦‍♀️ But what did I do??? Felt SORRY FOR HIM AND HE KNEW IT!! Three weeks on he "thinks he loves me?" Dear Jesus where was my head??? I'll tell you.....up my A$$!! Ha!! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

My heart goes to those who have been injured by a vampire. I pray 🙏 for recovery. A frightening thought of how it ends for the soulless. 😵‍💫⚡

Oh yes.....God says Vengeance is Mine, I will repay. God is not a man that He should lie and His word cannot return to Him void❤❤

Normal people and especially those with a healthy spiritual life are very resilient. When they go through difficult times they learn and grow as people. Everything that Narcs learn is superficial and shallow. As they get older the immaturity and delusional mindset becomes more and more obvious. It's the creepy older man or woman at a bar trying to seduce someone much younger. They are in complete denial that the things they value the most are fleeting. Looks, money and influence will fade. The love that you have shown to family, friends and pets is a legacy that holds true value. I feel sorry for them, I can leave the abusive relationship and God will help me heal, they are trapped in a Hell of their own making. 🙏

My ex inherited £800k. He has sod all left. Cars, failed businesses, flashy hotels. It was endless. He never made anything work because he just expected it to work…just because. He a loser in life and can’t self reflect that this keeps happening. When he fails it is everyone else’s fault

They lack the ability to love, which is what makes life joyful and satisfying.

They blow up all friendships and relationships, it’s actually sad, pathetic, I’m at the stage where I actually feel pity for them. Ty Paula everything you say is truth.

To me not wanting harm to come to them is enough. That is enough forgiveness.

FACT! “There is nothing behind the mask!” What is there… is the dead soul of that vessel a complete waste of human skin bound by chains trapped in a cage just a ghost of a shadow in a shell. The moment a person see’s those black eyes split face and smirk…that is not an illusion. That is the Devil with Caligula’s grin peering back at you. Good luck, on your next choice or word and action. It is a spiritual battle of the soul; armor up! Thank you 🙏 Paula

When they discard you, Discard them too and no way back in for them. Focus on yourself and your children and the narc doesn't exist and even their children grow to hating them and seeing right through them and cutting them off from their lives. Infact the narc is their own worse enemies. They're miserable and sad for the rest of their lives

My husband is a narcissist. From the beginning of our marriage he literally referred to me as his retirement plan to my friends and relatives. So humiliating and embarrassing. He said he was just kidding. Actually not. We are going through a divorce after 28 years of marriage. I left him. He absolutely did everything you described. All of it. And he’s fighting for my retirement plan. He is very sick and alone and totally dependent on his brother who is not in great health either. I still have compassion for him as I would anyone in his pathetic and pitiful situation, but I am strong in my faith that God is removing him from my life. You are spot on about the magical thinking and sense of entitlement. He has pretty much ruined me financially but I am at peace. I have a fulfilling career and supportive family, thanks be to God. I also have my daughters who are amazing . I am breaking the generational curse of my family. God bless you Paula for your videos. So reassuring and helpful in my recovery from narcissistic abuse. ❤❤❤

I grew up in an abusive home. As a result, I became highly attuned to people around me. I can usually get a feel for people very quickly. When I have encountered Narcs it's like a blank feeling, as if I'm interacting with a cardboard cutout. I used to mistake that for strength. With others, I could tell almost instantly if they were lying to me, however I could never tell if a Narc was lying to me so i was inclined to believe them. Now when I get the cardboard cutout impression, I take it very seriously and distance myself immediately.

My Narc brother just passed away.. and nobody was there for him.. His daughter's can't stand him. He caused me so much pain when I was a child.. There was no funeral because nobody would come.. sad situation.

"The need for absolute control interferes with forward-planning of a narcissist." When Narcissists get old, they cannot stand losing control of their lives. But even in the Bible it says "Very truly I tell you, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go. (John 21:18)" The elderly narcissist FIGHTS this so hard. It's impossible to take care of them. My narcissistic mother cannot accept that she is developing dementia, and refuses to de-hoard and sell her four-bedroom house. She wants ME to take care of it. I do not have the funds to take care of MY FAMILY and her stupid house at the same time. And yet, she will not give anyone a POA to help her with her house. She cannot even pay her bills online. Yet she won't let anyone see her bills. She's seriously devolving into psychosis. It's amazing. And because she's lost the mask and ability to hide her deceptions, I've learned how she was financially manipulating me all my life. Every time my dad got sued, she would use me to hide money (ineffectually) and screw up my finances with bizarre investments that always failed. I finally divorced myself from her financially last year (2023) at 51 years old. It took me THAT long to figure her out. They keep fooling people and fooling people, until they get too old to hold the mask anymore. And by that time, I've got my own family to protect from her shenanigans, I'm not falling for it anymore. I can't even afford to fall for her manipulation anymore. She is on her own. And it's a sad end, because it was of her own making. A lifetime of bad choices have pushed away her only child. She doesn't even remember ANY of her grandchildren's birthdays anymore. Just the days her social security check arrives. It's creepy. Pathological narcissists are soulless. I know it's from her abuse and neglect in her infancy -- by her maternal grandmother who I think ended up committing suicide. The demon entered her then. And it stayed in her, despite ALL the chances people gave her to turn around. She CHOSE the demon of selfishness. And that demon's false promises of wealth and power. We all die in the end. And it's as the Bible says.... it's easier for a camel to go through an eye of a needle than for this "rich" woman to go to heaven. She will not change. And as she gets older, she only digs her heels in harder. She chose objects over people. Money is her God. And so money is all she will have left. Look at Jeffrey Epstein. Even money couldn't protect him in the end. The Devil will come for his due. Pray hard that these people stay away from you.

Life is exciting, peaceful and expansive without the demon. If the narc decides to self check-out which he threatened to do so when we're together, it's none of my concern and I'm not heartless. The amount of harm they'll inflict on others would be much worse. The only regret I have is teaching the narc communication, social and even life skills when we're together. I wanted this poor hurt soul to be able to fend for himself but not knowing he'll use all of these skills to deceive future victims. Him checking out would be the best thing for society. May light flow into all of your truthful and honest lives.

They, as a group, are so predictable….yet, so many are hoodwinked by them. 🤷🏼‍♀️. It’s baffling.

You are exactly right. At 73, he's burned all his bridges, nobody wants him, his reputation has caught up with him. His alcoholism, dementia, and physical problems are catching up with him. I don't have any sympathy. He's getting paid back for his years of abusing people and animals. Nobody needs to seek revenge. It's happening right before our eyes. This narcissist has been so cruel that I honestly question if he's human. I see someone who is demon possessed. I've never been involved with him. He just trapped me so he could abuse me. I've taken all of him I'm willing to take and he knows I'm done. He should leave the planet before it's time but on one hand I think he's too arrogant and on the other hand I think he's too weak. I can't wait to get away. Thank you Paula!❤❤❤

Ty Paula. 2 years out and strong. Diacarded 4 times. I own that because I kept letting him back in. At the end I knew he was going to leave again. But this time I told him my home was not a bed and breakfast. Get out! The damage that man caused is horrible. I keep my chin up and give myself extreme grace and self love.

My ex-beloved-narc is just driven by hatred and bitterness, perversion and greed, everything is about competition, rivalry and revenge. He needs to destroy others and he seems to enjoy it. It's like he has to channel all his darkness and destructive energy to a scape goat, because otherwise, it eats him up. For me his presence and even just attention feels like a disturbing electro magnetic field that makes you feel bad instantly

The misery they project onto their partners is utterly horrendous, hey thanks for another good informative video 😊

I believe that this type of spiritual vampires and predators were prepared for these times in which we live now - times called the final times, where evil takes on various extreme forms. Those who believe in the victory of good must also know that the fight between good and evil has always been a fight to the death, which is why these fights are so painful and require tactics. TRUTH AND GOODNESS is the Lord Jesus who stands up for us when our hands are already weak...🙏. Thank you Paula for helping us to understand what narcissistic behavior is all about 💕

Madness ... exactly. It seems like a syphilis infection of the brain where all empathy disappears.

I've never heard the term "somatic narcissist", but wow does that make sense. The pycho in my life was so desperate that he was using a photo as a profile pic that was over a decade old. (A motorcycle accident on top of normal aging, and he's going downhill fast.) He has no car, no license, no money, and everything he owns (which isn't much) has been donated, inherited, stolen, or exploited from someone. I saw a recent photo of him...emaciated, bad teeth--I was stunned. He was a decent-looking guy, but not anymore. In the two and a half years since I left him in the corner he painted himself into, he's never attempted to hoover me, but two days ago, I got a short text asking if I wanted to be friends. I just chuckled to myself...our split was so incredibly acrimonious that if he's trying to get me back in his life, he has to be beyond desperate. Good.

They will throw you away in an instant

I was bpd and full blown narc and I was delivered by the grace of God. Literal demons came out of me and then strongholds have been being broke down over the course of years. God can change anyone. I have recently had dealing including a friendship of with someone who turned out to be narcissist and I’m just now understanding through this exactly what I put people through. It’s truly humbling.

Einstein's definition of mental illniss is continuing going back to something believing it will magically transform into something else.change.

Thank you for this video! I remember telling him that his disfigured face is perfect reflection of who he is on the inside. Its true. Nobody wants to stay with a monster. He will never find another woman like me.

A narcissist, as you are laying on the ground, bleeding will step on you. And, go their way.

God doesn't even control us, hence free will of choice. However, there are consequences......good, bad, and indifferent.

Career narcs are the most dangerous they leave a trail of broken people and family's They lie right untill they depart this mortal coil lets hope karma gets them first

Pls teach the young to know about these evil people. Don't waste your life. I did...50 yrs ... 6 yrs free finally!

❤ justice for Mica Miller❤ Let's remember, not everyone who deletes themselves are narcissistic. They could be coersivly controlled by a narcissist and see no other way out.

It's so illogical. They spend their whole life trying to control the false narrative about themselves through manipulation when the answer is there all along. We have the option as to the choices we choose to make, but no matter how choose ultimately God is in control.

Paula, In my opinion, both people need to be in love before the partnership will work. When a NARC feels they are the perfect person, that partnership is in trouble from the start.. It can never work out. When a person is always looking for someone better, I do not think they know the true meaning of love. If your spouse hears the word cancer, and you start looking for someone better, you are not worth much as a human. They gave you a gift when they said goodbye.

It’s very common for the narcissist to meet a worst narcissist or even a psychopath- AND the narcissist at that point lost narcissistic supply for good - this ruins that narcissist

im so unbothered. we had a family birthday dinner saturday and my covert narc mom was there. i sat at the other end of the table, left early, didnt speak and had a great time!

My ex narc did not leave a loving relationship. On the contrary. For 20 yrs I went grey rock, realizing that he wasnt going to change. The last decade of the relationship I denied him sex and safety, threatening to leave him out of sheer despair. When he finally left with new supply, I felt guilty for pushing him away, but now I see how it couldn't have ended any differently. While Im grieving the lost years, a quarter of a century in a shared fantasy at best, a fake relationship at worst, Im healing faster than id have, had I provided him a loving relationship till the end. It has cost me, nonetheless.

This one really hit me💡 I do wanna say… They are SO good at making everything look Well…. Hunky Dori😬😂

There are no exceptions this demon cheats

You are extraordinary. I have been listening to your podcasts over the last 7 months of the shittiest time in my life after the end of a 24 year marriage to a narc. I listen through the night to your wisdom to help calm me and make sense of the crazy my ex wife has created in our lives and I am deeply grateful for what you do. Each episode has so much accuracy, insight and depth of understanding that it’s like you can see inside my world. I am not overstating it when I say you are a life saver. Your honesty and authenticity are a shining beacon and you have let the light get in. Thank you.

Thank you Paula. They are so destructive, that they ultimately destroy themselves. Knowing how they operate, helps avoid being trapped into their toxic web. Yes, being black and white in their thinking is a big clue. Always needing to be right and knowing everything. I believe that they are not human, they don't have a heart. We need to be aware, and go by your intuition what feels right. Love and blessings from Australia. Big hug to Remy. xxx🥰😇🥰

I don't see the man(child😉) anymore, blocked him and don't call him an ex- boyfriend. It was an learning experience, nothing more know. I became so much stronger🙏❤

I have survived several narcissists starting with my parents. AFTER 70 odd years of this abuse, I studied NPD. Knowledge is power and wisdom is freedom. Never, ever going back! My response to the last one is the most powerful of all and it is SILENCE . AMEN.

I studied my narcs life and Paula is right,nothing will ever end well with the narc,it shaming sometimes when i think about it even though my narc did all dirt on me with her family but i see no good end for them and my narc

Alex Murdaugh has become a PRIME example of ALL of what you speak here, Paula.......

I had a lawyer to help me claim my money… I pulled out last minute. I know a narc living in their own head is worse than any law. I left it to KARMA.

The narcissist have a hunger for acceptance and greed! They need to praise to be seen and heard! And of course from a new audience!!

I think the hard part of losing someone you love in this type of situation is that it takes a while ( 4+ years for me so far ) to see how it all plays out. They may be “ happy” with the new supply for a long time. Mine left me for a very controlling female narcissist…. She decides everything. I bought him out of our home…. He lives under her roof…. And has to behave and toe her line so she doesn’t kick him out. He is getting his karma. Many of our mutual friends who see them together tell me they can’t stand his new gf…. She is aloof and disinterested in anything that isn’t someone or something she wants to do or be around. He’s her prisoner…. She is his warden. God is seeing to it that he gets his just desserts.

Ex Narcissist has a heavy addiction which he makes out he no longer has...in denial. I have finished with him now. Impossible to help him. So I now help myself.

We need to stop thinking about forgiving ...this word is used too much. Accepting what happened is enough.

Where do they find this boundless energy? It's like they're riding on the back of the devil. My narc mum is 82, physically disabled but has the energy that I've abuse in other Narcissists. They seem to live longer than people who feel. It's true, the best die young. My mother has made me so angry with her abuse towards my father for years on end. We are sorting out a resthome for her, so Dad can get some peace and quiet. His heart has gone out of rhythm due to my mothers screaming abuse. Im totally done with her....and my sister. And I've been the target for Narcissists three times in my life, so my patience for them is nil. My brother recently told me that I'm a good communicator yesterday. He said my sister doesn't talk much and is poor at communicating. I dont have any contact with my sister as she is a hollow mask and a self referencing joy sucker. At least my youngest sibling is starting to realize that their are basic problems within our family. Mum is always on my arse about something and is an abusive drama queen. My sister is a sneaky, underhanded delusional control freak. They are both different but both as difficult as each other. I just want a quiet life of honest connections with good people.

He told me that the reason he was so controlling is becasue he had no control of his life growing up and when he got away from his Narc father and all the abuse, he felt he had to be in control of everything and everyone...To keep safe. He couldn't trust anyone!

Thank you Paula. I loved all the info this video was filled with. I left my narc husband almost 2 years ago because I caught him cheating. Now, I realize he probably always cheated. He stole lots of money over the years from me and his dad. He said there wasn’t anything wrong with taking our money. He lies! He is addicted to porn! He drinks and smokes weed now! He is angry all the time! How long can they go before they collapse or become sick? When I do see him, he looks worse every time. The path of destruction he created was huge! He had to leave the state to be excepted by people that have no idea who he really is. He continues to live a lie. He spends money on so much crap, he is constantly trying to buy happiness. He truly believes that whatever he buys next will give him so much happiness. It’s one high after the next. I am so grateful I saved myself!

I can only imagine that they end up a fractured OAP child with really shitty supply because anyone who lasts that long is going to be very bitter. What an awful existence. Paula, you’re ace my dear ❤️🌷

If you see this whole thing as a spiritual journey, narcissists seem to be stuck in some very primitive realm where they can’t become unstuck or evolve. My departing instinctive thought with The Narc was: you are not going to get it right this time around. You will die in this condition and may or may not get another shot. Only a force much bigger than us knows that.

Paula you are correct in stating, " He messed with the wrong woman". Now he has a criminal charge. Addictions ruin people one way or another. I'm on my own now.. away from all the toxic people holding me back. Dad died 2 months ago, so one permenantly removed. Now I'll spend the rest of my days writing, sharing the truth, traveling, and meeting my fellow empaths to lift each other up! I met 2 empaths here at the beach today! There's still hope for us good people! Thank you Paula for bringing light to this subject! 🙏

Thanks Paula, nearly a year out of my entanglement with the narcissist , the more times passes, the more what a fractured broken person i see them to have been.

Another excellent video Paula you are so accurate , We send our best wishes You are a great comfort to us Thank you

Wow your on point my ex who was the worst ive met is now living on the street a full blown junkie . And he has lost everything in cluding hes looks

45 minutes worth listening to it TWICE

Coverts tend to get physically ill over time. My covert/Malignant mother had multiple surgeries for illnesses. She was sick my whole life. At the end, she had no money, had no control over her body functions, was losing her hearing & sight. She was stuck on the second story of our house because she couldn't get up & down the stairs. She went about two months of not being able to eat solid food, then she went about three weeks of not being to eat anything. In her last two weeks she barely drink water. She died a horrible & painful death...alone! No one cared that my mother died. Glad you made this video. People need to know Narcissists don't always get away with their bad behaviors...it just takes time.

I think karma comes around. Last few yrs my ex husband wasn’t even respected by the hospital. He was so mean. I didn’t even talk to him anymore for years. Just as a decent human being. It was done

These people walk with a mirror hmm...All they see is themselves...Thanks lady❤

They are never happy so they are always looking for the next thing to make them happy, but it never happens for long, the happiness they may feel is fleeting.

The good news is for us. Most of us listening to these vids, know what to look for now, and have enough self care now to smile and walk away when one pops up. Like last year for me at church, noticed this person lied about some pointless stuff, when I said no to the littlest thing he was visibly angered and asked are you sure? Yep with a smile. Then it was sending me a pic of himself of just getting my number the day before. (Love bombing). Then noticed the black eyed stare one day. Then an attempt at intimidating me, these people are strange and completely unhinged. Smile and walk away with ANY new narc you meet. NO explanation, excuse needed.

The behavior is hell and the persona is heaven. They live in the flesh and mimic the spirit.

Everything you have said resonates with me 💯

What you sow you will reap iis straight out the bible😊

Be well, Paula and Remy.

I’ve chosen to forgive my narcissists. I’ve given them over to God, which set me free from the rage and has healed my heart in many areas. I’m still healing… My father died of pancreatic cancer. One is struggling to hang onto a man in her life who isn’t her husband. He has left her more than 6 times over the last 4 years. She will lose the last few people in her life. You see the ramifications of various narcissists within the public view. Look at Weinstein, Epstein, Ailes, all of the serial killers that have been apprehended. We are all blessed by our right choices and we suffer consequences for the wrong ones. A narcissist is the number one fan in their fan club of one. They end up alone. If they don’t repent, they will exist alone, eternally.

Maybe the narcissist will be alone in the end! All the suppies his victims of his narcissistic abuse That he had previously they probably don't want anything more to do with him anymore! He was getting away with things that he was doing behind the victim 's back maybe after the victims left him because of his attitude and his behavior and actions against them ! Some narcissists Can claim to be christian and pretend to be one ! If you are a narcissist victim, you will need to think about many things that were done to you Should you decide to Solve your own problems and take back your life again! God be with you in your healing journey from narcissistic abuse!

Spot ON again!

You always reap what you sow. And what you mete out to others shall, in like measure, be meted back to you. All this straight from the Bible.

You are amazingly gifted. Ty for your support 💜🙂

The more we are aware of them the better for us.

Hi Paula 👋😊😃🇱🇷 Illinois 🪻 Your home looks beautiful 😻!!

Forgiveness is for us, not them

The narcissist's comeupance... I was angry for a long, long time. But when something (slightly) bad happened to her, I just had empathy for her. I'm out of the trauma bond, there is zero chance of reconciliation... I rejected several hoovers and flying monkeys. But I don't wish harm upon her. The way I see it... the desperation for attention that she >>needs

Often they end up like my creepy father, no friends, miserable, delusional and in shame.

Thank you so much Paula for all your pointers we need to hear. What a happy positive blessing you share with broken wounded people who are struggling to understand what has actually happened in their life. Your understanding and words give us - especially me - hope for living in the present and future. Allowing me to shed my skin of my past horrendous life after being married to a narc over 20 years. Hearing you describe his personality to a T is been so rewarding. It like you have given my a pair of HD glasses and I can now see clearly all the areas of hurt, wrong, abusive, brokenness and set me on the road for healing. As a human I too have brought about hurt and heartache but the difference is down the line I want to talk and straighten rough areas out and not leave them to fester. My narc ex husband only spoke when he wanted and had to be about him. Really nothing got sorted out but I went with the flow due to 2 young children. It is an appalling road to walk as I felt I was blind with no white stick and had to find my path through life with no help. Since I have been listening to your podcasts now 4-5 months I know without a doubt he was unfaithful not that it has surprised me at all. His 2 other brothers did the same and feel they are cut from the same cloth. So he was 49 when we separated and he could never hold down a job for more than 9 months. He would walk out if they looked the wrong way at him otherwise every other time he was sacked! How absolutely shameful to have this history and he truly thought nothing of it. He was very into risk taking not thinking about anything or anyone not even his wife or children! He has never ever owned up to any wrong ever! With your help I no longer feel guilty anymore and I love myself and my life even more now that I never have to see him. In my opinion he is definitely deranged mentally before I knew about narcissistic behaviour. His life is so miserable and can’t stop thinking about his woes ( my kids tell me) you are right that they are very unhappy inside. I really believe because all of this life style he has physically aged at least 15-18 years older than his birth age. We all can choose our pathway in life and make sure we mix with like minded folk to stay on an even keel. I pray that everyone listening to your words get the best value and understanding out of them as I do. You are my blessing in life and thank you for all your time and energy into going above and beyond for us. It was so lovely to see Remy snoozing on the sofa and hope you could enjoy fresh air and good walk to clear your mind of these demons in our lives. Take care until next time 🙏🐕😊

Hello Paula. Thank you getting the knowledge out because that is so important because once I got the knowledge I was free and God is blessing you will the ability to break it down so everyone can understand your messages.

You have perfectly describe the mental torture I endured for years. This maniac of an ex husband I was with wouldn’t let me go down to the Mail room because he was intensely jealous. He wouldn’t let me walk across the street to the grocery store. He wouldn’t let me work out. He told my family I was “ just unable to control !!! “ without providing context which is how he swooned them into believing and validating his behaviour. I went crazy thinking I was being unreasonable. Later when I asked to divorce he said he was trying to protect me and said anything could happen to me in the Mail room. He cried saying he saw his friends get raped and felt helpless that he couldn’t do anything .. literally what ? I couldn’t believe my ears especially knowing all of his control tactics were no where CLOSE to being enforced for protection. I was in awe when he used that as an excuse because in those moments he was calling me a whore a slut everything even though I wore sweats to the gym. My family believed him. I still can’t believe how mental this man is and how crazy he has made me. The physical and mental abuse has changed me forever. But I won’t let this ruin my life forever.

Thank you for sharing all your experience. ❤

My narc ex steals at the hospital he works at. He's convinced he won't be caught, because he's done it for so long. What an idiot!

They are the Victim or the Hero in Every Story they tell . Every.

You make me sound like I'm the narcissist, as I'm now totally on my own, had high anxiety, suicidal thoughts and paranoid. But this was because of the abuse. I doubt I'll ever trust anyone ever again, and with regards to a relationship highly unlikely as I'm so damaged by this. 33 years for goodness sake, more than half my life!

A wise, really brilliant analysis of the narc long view. I have a 43 year experience with one watching her devolved life by now. Thank you!