Hurt Bae: Don't Let Men Leave You Emotionally Bankrupt! 

hate is a heavy word....

​@@Centimilli HAAATE him

Has Ayesha passed away? What was the cause of her death please?

@@nietzschesmuse She passed away on July 2nd. She suffered a fatal anaphylactic reaction from an unknown food allergen. You can read about it on Zora Medium in an article dedicated to her called “Rest In Power: Ayesha K. Faines”

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Just found out today that she passed...so sad!😭😭😭

A friend referred me to Ayesha's RU-vid channel just yesterday. I have been listening to her posts every opportunity I get, I resonate with what she's sharing and I love her energy, her in-depth information and knowledge. Today, suddenly I tune into this cast and the first comment I see is "RIP Ayesha" Oh Lord!💔💔💔 May her Soul Rest in Peace. I am so heartbroken 💔💔💔and so sad 😭😭😭😭

THIS 😭

At least you get them….

Wow! That’s interesting. Reminds me of the teaching of Salkis Re

Yep! Abusers always put blame on victims even society too

No, it is not. He would respect her more if she left. Men's currency is respect. It is not love, emotions, and other things women would like to believe. If you don't have respect for yourself, he will not give it to you. So he was subconsciously pointing towards what was the major issue between them. He was a scum. But the weak one between them was her, for allowing to be treated that way and clinging on. These are all lessons to be learned.

@@11eve There's too many assumptions in your position. For example 'Men's currency is respect'...umm, sorry, I'd have to call bullshit on that. Respect isn't something that belongs solely to men, nor can it be assumed as being more their 'currency'. It's definitely a cop-out to say 'why did you take my disrespect, because if you had enough respect for yourself you would have left me?' If he had enough respect for her or himself, he would not have disrespected her in the first place. She didn't disrespect him for taking his shit. 'He was subconsciously pointing towards...' assumption, with not much basis but even if it did- it's irrelevant. A person's abuse/disrespect ISN'T the equivalent of the lack of self respect that a victim might have who takes that abuse. It's pretty rich for him (the abuser) to ask his victim 'oh but why didn't you just leave?'. It's not his place to ask that. You must be confused 'men's currency is respect'. Currency is how respectfully you treat others- period. When you abuse someone you don't get to say afterward- oh, 'but why did you take it, have some respect for yourself'- gross. Standing-by what I said here 2 years ago 100%.

@@simonjerrems3738 I agree with the part "A person's abuse/disrespect ISN'T the equivalent of the lack of self respect that a victim might have who takes that abuse", that is true the 1st time it happens. If the abuse continues and you allow it, it clearly shows that you have some wounds to work on in yourself, because you value the other person more, than your own integrity. It is not that complicated. It is why people allow to be mistreated by others... because they are hoping to get something. People like to hide behind BUTs, "but I LOVE you, why do you treat me this way". That is not love. That is neediness, lack of self love and lack of integrity. Just because I love you and want you to love me, you are surely not forced to be in love with me, right? So let's suppose you are immature and unable to kindly let me go, and instead you start using me and at the same time cheat on me, I think I should be aware enough to not cling on to you and realize, that this "LOVE" is onesided and I should have enough self respect to leave and not drag this out by going through your phone and spying on you, that makes all involved lose respect. As painful as it is to admit it, she should have left and he is honest in telling her, where she made the mistake.

@@beab8738 Beautifully said. I wish more women would take their power back in a gentle and intelligent way, without constantly blaming and looking for approval. Power to you sweet soul.

Yes, unfornately i just discovered her. I feel she had so much more to give and was so young. Very beautiful and talented woman

It is truly a process. The best thing that I did in a relationship was start doing things that made me happy motivated and stimulated. Like got a new job, worked out and brought clothes went out. I made myself so busy with these things that once I did spend time with the person it made it easier not to want them and slip away. Trust me you’ll want him less and less and he’ll start to notice and get cold likely but keep on doing you until you’re done with him. I hope that helps!

also this woman is a genius! I love her videos and she surely gets you in the right mind set to date

There could be multiple reasons why she still talked to him after the fact. I was like her because unfortunately I was raised by my family to be an absolute doormat. I couldn’t speak up for myself at all if I had a concern because I was told to shut up or ignored, had to constantly clean up after people like I was a maid, screamed at for no reason. In my opinion how your raised effects all areas of your life. If your parents raised you to stand up for yourself it will show when people try to take advantage of you. If they don’t however then your more likely to be a pushover and let people take advantage. There is a possibly that she could have been raised in a decent household, but looking at how he was talking to her I don’t think so.

Yes, he definitely was. I'm familiar with the attachment theory and we discuss it quite a bit in several of the Women Love Power courses.

Thank you! I so appreciate you, and there's definitely more to come, soon!

Thank you!

Me too 🤗🤗 she is so dope 🙂🙂

Yes... It's so sad that she has just passed away😳😪😪🙏

Hamdi Abdalla interesting! That would be a great topic! Let me think about this list. Thanks!

Hamdi Abdalla what a great idea! I also live in Sweden so I agree that it is hard to find books on the topic of femininity and power by black authors

Yes! I would love for her to do a video on sources to build an education on the Orishas

Yes 👏🏾👏🏾

Thank you @justin Gumbs! I try, lol!

Thanks for your kind words! I am glad you've enjoyed watching!

Khari Cook thank you for stopping by with a kid comment and for sharing this with friends! Reading this really put a smile on my face!!

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It was real as far as I know