Hypergamy 101: How To Get Attention From A Man 

She’s speaking about how to attract MEN OF MEANS not these dusty hotep men who call you a queen but wanna go dutch. She’s giving you the game, stop fighting it & play to win!

All women can attract a man. That’s not hard. But there’s two ways of attracting. One way makes him want to give. The other makes him want to take.

Anybody else binge watching Chloe's channel? 🤣 I'm obsessed with all of this information and insight.

Being in shape makes a difference I promise!!!!!!!!!! Working out, physical classes kickboxing, Zumba, any kind of dance, heels, etc

I’ve been Married for almost 5 months ...I totally get it !! I lost weight 28 pounds and my husband can’t keep his hands off me . Also he started getting back in shape too . Defo not letting myself go .

Line of the day: "Some women open their mouths and it's like a Timberland fell out." I died.

I dropped a few pounds and instantly got men attracted to me. Sad but true!

Im gonna drop some late ass dimes on you ladies. I have a man who is amazing and he is attracted to me because I radiate positive beautiful energy. On top of that I’m girly and he loves my hair. Curly or straight he likes that I can do both. He buys me clothes, bags, and makeup because he wants me to stay pretty and loves that I do it. He never tells me I don’t need makeup although he loves my skin and how clear it is. I’m always sweet and respectful and hardly curse. You need to get rid of those rough edges ladies. That’s the biggest part of this whole thing. Don’t get caught up on hair ladies do whatever makes you stand out the most and accentuates your beauty. I love a low natural pony because it’s elegant, easy (let’s be real here we have to have an emergency style) and shows off my face. Also know that your personality (flirty but innocent and subtly sexy) your best bet. Also stand with your back straight correct that posture. It makes you look skinnier and you demand a certain level of respect.

Don’t Be be a chaser ..Appearance is everything,staying in physically good shape drop some pounds ,tone out the body live a healthy lifestyle 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

It’s true that black woman are shamed for wanting a man or a relationship. I’m overcoming admitting this to myself

As a man I would like to add, Cut down on the cussing tattoos frowning and be friendly to everyone, And stay away from ratchets

In my experience, black men are the only men who are not attracted to my kinks and curls and I think it’s because it doesn’t “look “ long, they are attracted to it if it is. On the other hand, I get all sorts of attention from every other race when my hair is kinky curly. You don’t need to straighten your hair, you need to have healthy hair, it’s a sign that you are healthy and will be able to reproduce, that is what they are biologically responding to.

I feel like one thing black women don’t realize is how naturally beautiful our figures are. So many have that beautiful hourglass or even pear shape. A lot of black women I’ve seen could benefit from losing about 20+ pounds. Men like flat stomachs. Point blank period. Lose it. It’s something I’ve been working on. Black people tend to build muscle easier which helps with toning up and fat loss. Switch up your diet. Hit the gym. Get you a man. Simple.

“Lashes... but not those over the top - lamb chop lashes that make you look like you have an INSECT falling out of your eye" Me: crap !! That’s me 😭

I remember a black guy who criticized my natural bsl hair, he had 3 biracial children and he was a broke dusty waste of space... needless to say I kept it moving...💅🏾

I'm a black girl with very kinky, short 4c hair. I refuse to straighten my hair or wear weave just for men. If they are not gonna be attracted to me for something I naturally am then that's okay. I love my hair and it's very important for me, coz I believe as an African (Namibian) woman it helps me truly honor my ancestors and truly demonstrate that I'm proud of my race. Plus, I actually get alot of guys attracted to me and even they like to tell me that I literally look like a flower with my afro. So please do not speak for all men, as there are many who love natural hair too. But even if they didn't, I would never go against who I truly am just for them. I'm not that desperate!

This reminds me of Sanaa Lathan in Love and Basketball - When she went to the prom in her white dress, her hair straightened and her moms pearls. When Q laid eyes on her, he started drooling over her... She went from friend to a catch. I get it now. I'm guilty of being absorbed in my masculine energy. That's all I really know to be honest. I get uncomfortable when I am trying to harvest my feminine energy. Like you said, baby steps....

Chew the meat, and spit out the bones. If you disagree about the hair opinion, that’s fine. Don’t discount the whole video over one disagreement. I went natural in the 90’s. I have done experiments and can tell you I get more attention when I flat iron my hair because you can actually see its length. Because of my shrinkage, it can look very short and easily mats. It’s not that natural hair is bad. But because of its nature to coil it looks very short and short hair can be seen as masculine.

Femininity isnt just about appearance and embracing your natural hair is awesome!! I love and respect a black woman who can rock her natural hair.

Thank you for this! Been trying to tell black women this. That masculine “independent woman mindset” is really hurting black women in the dating game. Be the complete opposite of a man. It is biology ladies..opposites attract!

Be friendly and smile more. I have two good male friends who say they love a women who has a happy/friendly spirit about herself. I love how you aren't afraid to speak on this topic.

I hate it when men announce "she asked me to marry her." I'm disgusted in the fact that she had to ask and that he wasn't being the man. I think that is partially why I've started to listen to many of these videos lately, I really think we need to step it up in our gender and they have to learn to be in theirs.

You can do all this and still be single

I lost 100 pounds. The difference is night and day with how men treat me.

I admire a lot of your perspectives, but a lot of what you attribute to women and men’s “natural wiring” is actually more of environmental conditioning. My hair is long and beautiful but it doesn’t need to be straight. It needs to be healthy, and real preferably.

I just wanna say something real quick regarding natural hair: The Most High gave each race their own distinct kind of hair. Black womens natural hair is absolutely gorgeous. Think about it, creation begins in spirals. It’s no mystery that He designed our hair the same way-it defines gravity for Pete’s sake! Black women should not have to alter or assimilate their hair to please ANYONE. People who equate straight hair with feminity like the video uploader are clearly brainwashed by western ideologies. It’s gotta stop. No other races of women are changing the texture of their hair like black women are. Why is that? When our hair is the most versatile and creative type of hair in existence! A lot of black men actually PREFER black women to wear their natural hair and natural faces (minimal or no makeup) so why diminish our beauty and say that we must conform to Caucasian aesthetics to attract a man? It’s backwards as hell. Black women, take pride in your natural hair because it is beautiful and God knew what He was doing when He designed your crown that way.

ignore them and act like you dont need them

I wear my hair naturally curly or in braids most of the time and I attract men of means and resources. Ijs 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️. So ladies don’t think you just have to wear your hair straight to attract a man of means, just make sure your hair looks polished and healthy.

"Some women open their mouths and its like a Timberland fell out" LOL. You are so straight forward and its appreciated.

You can look feminine with natural hair too. Saying men are wired to like women with staright long hair is bogus to me. There are all kinds of femine beauty. Its how you harness it. Love everything else you said though.

My biggest regret even though I lucked up with a great man is never learning to PUT MYSELF FIRST took care of everyone and never learned to take care of self... it’s a hard habit to break and I’m in need of rewiring

Like Jackie ana says😂😂😂😂"some of us are ugly"😂😂😂😂😂😂

I was at the gym today and this dude wearing a pink shirt, had trimmed eyebrows came up to me. I was like what is that? I was really offended. I’m like I really need to level up for real and take this weight off me. 🙄

Honestly you can’t teach some black women this stuff Bc they’re gonna always get offended. They claim they want the secret to find men of means but don’t wanna do the work that comes with it. I like wearing my natural hair but when I went “sugar daddy searching” I had my 22 inch Brazilian weave, a cute dress and was always polite and friendly and within a month of searching I found my sd. But you have to know what men like and use it for your benefit. I do plenty things with my hair NOW(now that I have him in my pocket) faux locks, braids, colorful wigs etc. but before when I was was looking I had my straight hair & it worked

My ancestry is Italian and Greek, so I'm not black woman, but I happened upon this video. And, In so glad I did. We are all sisters. Remember, sisters, the man us NOT the prize. WE are the prize. Love you all.

Why are women coming to this video but rejecting the message? Men (90% of straight, quality men) love LONG, LUSCIOUS hair! Your 4C hair might beautiful and luscious but if it's not LONG (longer than most men's hair) it won't be attractive to men.

It’s the truth. My cousin married well, educated great career only works bc she wants to she didn’t pay any bills. Her husband did & he was a great provider. She had long hair. Suggested by her friends did a big chop, she is now naturally Divorced! These same friends who were bald head scallywags convienved her to change. I suggested a she didn’t cut. She did not listen. He said he didn’t marry a woman with a Cesar. She wanted for nothing all he asked was for her to keep her hair. It sounds shallow but it happened. She now has no friends bc they literally hang out with her ex husband. They all do happy hour weeekly without her. They now emulate her previous look of hair cascading down their back with lace fronts. But that’s another story. Lol

Ladies, this takes TIME. This is chess, not checkers. We must be willing to be PATIENT while we put in the effort to make the changes that will ultimately give us the results we want.

I thank God for my husband he is Nigerian and very manly I wasn’t taught how to be feminine growing up even though I was taught to keep my hair and nails done I wasn’t taught how to be a lady or respected body. I really learned a lot about being a lady by him and the Nigerian community the women there are VERY feminine and the men take care of them. Even though I came a long way there is still plenty of room for improvement my husband is a provider and protector and I wanna keep him so these tips are really refreshing and much needed. Hell I even forward these vids to my little sisters 👯

Some of y’all gonna raise your daughter like the mom in “Nappily Ever After” and she’s gonna have a mental breakdown smh.

Lamb chop lashes 😂. Some women walk around looking like they got spiders attacking their eyeballs. Thanks for the info sis!

I’m with you until the long straight hair part. That means I would have to accept that femininity and beauty is exclusive to women with those features naturally. I can’t subscribe to that cuz I’m a black woman. We’re gonna have to work on including our natural features in that cuz I’m not about to straighten my hair

Very true, I was recently in a wedding and I had my make up done professionally, so Many men took triple takes at me. Lol and I Never get artificial nails. But i got them for the first time and so many people. Including men have given me compliments! Also, well arched brows change the face at well.

Where are all the fine men at tho. Most of the attention from men are from some dusty musty ignorant trolls

a man called me high maintenance by taking one look at me and I would draw too much attention to my self if I was with him. I was confused but it was proably because he thought I was highly feminine.

Patti from Millionaire Matchmaker use to always advise her curly hair clients (mostly white women with type 2/3 hair) to straighten their hair... it has nothing to do with race... it’s just a harsh reality🤷🏽‍♀️ Men (black, white, or whatever race) with means of higher quality usually like straight hair. I don’t know the science behind it but it’s a fact! There are exceptions but it’s definitely not the majority😒

Why everybody is so hooked up on the natural hair??? Don’t you know that straighter hair reflects naturally the light (sheen) that’s why men prefer straighter hair? Black women are so on the Defense they don’t realize that people just want to help them getting out of dusty world. But yeah, I forgot Black Women need no help, we are so independent 🙄

I thought this channel was OK until I heard that “men prefer long straight hair”. I wear my hair natural a lot and guys (not just “dustys”)love it and complement me a lot. This black femininity stuff seems to sneak in a lot of negativity towards black women.

I agree 100% on all points especially losing the extra weight. I definitely attracted better quality men when I was thinner (size 10) versus my current size and weight. Sadly, when you are stressed and overworked it is harder to shed the excess weight. And older (I’m in my mid 40s). So keep the weight off when you’re young and this won’t become an issue for you.

Who "discovered" this rule about men preferring women with long straight hair?

Lambchop Lashes 🤣🤣🤣

I think curly hair can look very youthful and feminine because it’s voluminous. It’s easier for straight hair to look long because your hair is at its longest when it’s straight. Straight hair can also look limp and flat though but when it’s long it looks thicker and comes across like the women is fertile. With natural hair having your have shaped into a style that makes you look soft, sweet and feminine is what’s important. I personally don’t think straight hair looks good on a lot of women because it can make someone head look big and masculine depending on her features. No matter the texture just let your hair be a sign of how well you take care of yourself. I’ve seen black women with natural hair that makes a mans knees go weak. Really your skin, hair presentation is just a sign of how you take care of yourself and how you want to be treated.

“Some women open their mouths and a timberland falls out”....😂 It’s funny but it’s so true. I personally don’t like a potty mouth, I do not curse/use foul language...I think it’s such an ignorant form of verbal expression. I also figure if it disgusted me, it would also disgust a man; a dignified man.

She is NOT lying... ladies stop fighting it!!! Wear makeup, short classy nails, long hair, smell good, smile, wear nice colors, be sweet, be kind, dont get to fat, wear heels, and have a great personality

I’m soo glad I found your channel! I’ve been everything from feminine (by instinct in my younger years) to a dust bunny because I felt sorry for an emasculated man 😩. I alway noticed men chase me more when I was my most selfish and self serving. Thank you!

I appreciate this video. But preference for long straight hair is as a result of social conditioning. That needs to change. They have to be able to accept that our hair grows the way that it does, lol sorry!

It’s a new year and I’m binge watching. Thank you Chloe I’m listening after your live. I’m so glad I came across your channel last year. Now to continue on this journey ❤️

I WILL KEEP MY LOCS FOR As long as I’m blessed to period

You be roasting it’s wonderful 🤣

Men know that if you look good to them, you will look good to other men too. They know that if they cannot provide you with what you want, you can easily find it in the next man. They love to feel like they've won the game and you're their prize.

Yes a video on feminine men please!

I agree with most of everything you said except the long straight hair. I have locs and had no problem attracting men of means when I was dating. I think that as long as your hair is kept up and done men will find you attractive. I have seen some horrible straight weaves. I am also plus sized working on dropping lbs because I want to not for men. I workout 5 days a week and men admired that I was taking control of my life and was confident to my weight was not an issue. I think your tips were spot on but being yourself and loving yourself is also super attractive.

This channel is LIFE!! I need more!!! 💪🏾😍 i dont do long hair but the short cut stays on point head to toe!!

It’s so refreshing in this day in age to hear reconfirmed nugget that my mom use to teach me thank you 🙏🏽💜💕💙💜

A lot of these qualities you mentioned are strictly physical and subjective. I think your outside is only half of the battle. You can be just as desirable with short hair, or thick. Many men prefer thick women, but again its subjective. Of course take care of your physical because that’s the 1st thing people see, but I think your inner confidence speaks volumes to men when you walk in a room

Once again well executed !

Not lamb chop... like an insect is falling out of your eye....JESUS LOL. Thank you! This video is everything (new subscriber)

Thank you!!!! Im starting my new new hypergamy journey! Im upgrading myself for a higher level mate and a higher level self! I will keep you posted!!!

I just found you and I love your channel already!! Please, please make longer videos! Your content is excellent!

She said “Not that bump and dump energy.” I literally choked! 🤣🤣🤣💀💀💀

Thank you for this great information!!

I’ve been binge watching your videos all day!!!! Loovvveeee your channel.!!! ❤️

I love how you mentioned the emphasis on taking care of yourself above all. Because that energy does translate, I personally have been in my masculine energy most of my life due to my upbringing & life, however one thing I never have let go of, was taking care of myself. I felt this need to always be on top of that, and not because of men but because of myself, I wanted to look & feel good so I actually prioritized that even over work sometimes lol but glad it counts cause now I know when dating high value men, it matters to them. Also wanted to share that you can be smart & driven & also be feminine, I’ve come to realize that even though as women we know deep down that we are smarter than men, and we can handle more than men, even though we are capable, we thrive better in our femininity & allowing men to handle things. I’m really practicing on letting go of being in control & allowing, it’s been a challenge but that’s because I’m making changes 😊

This was a really good video , straight to the point and no sugar coating !!

I’ve never worn a straight weave and I don’t see that in my future. We all know we can attract men with our curly hair or even braids and twists.

Thanks for sharing the details..you are a blessing to those who did not have nurturing wise women to guide them.

Meanwhile, in the dominant society, plain women are marrying good providers every day. Their men don't require half of this.

A man once told me that when a woman dresses sexy, she appears cheap but when a woman dresses sensuous, she's captivating.

The dressing and grooming advice is great. It often reminds me of what I see in certain parts of London in South West and East. We use a term called Brixton girls with multicoloured hair from every colour in the rainbow 🌈, overweight, micro mini skirts, bright coloured fitted jeans, long clawed nails, many ear piercings, loud and aggressive

Sis, I appreciate your quality info and like some others who made it here have gone on a semi binge of your videos. For this one I agreed with all points EXCEPT the fact that you feel men are attracted to 'long, straight hair'. Really? 🤔 As a woman of colour I embrace my natural hair and am never going back to weaves and chemically treated straight hair. If a man can't accept the natural me, kinks, curls and all then they are probably not for me. I'm not an European and I no longer give in to that beauty standard. I am an African woman and proud 👊🏿

I agree with everything. Excepts for the hair part. I have very long and curly hair. regardless of the topic of attracting a man with needs. We shouldn't fully promote self-hate, especially for black women. A lot of black women just started slowing appreciating their natural hair, let's not push back the progress.

Great advice thank you 💕💕💕

I agree with most of the video however... what’s gonna happen 6 months later when you get the man but your real personality and hair comes through? You’re supposed to change everything about yourself? Just curious

Thanks for these great tips!❤

Wow I’m learning so much!

Awesome post!!!

Thank you so much, i have got to step it uppppp

I had man tell me I wanna be chased and never heard from him again. Lol one told me he like me but he not no trick, get a job and sex is FREE. LMAOO I'VE been single for quite a while and this ain't it.

My man loves my natural hair and it's no where near straight. Lol

Good stuff!

"Men prefer long straight hair" LMFAOOOO so black women with type 4 hair just lose by default? WTF. WTF kinda statement.

Great video!!!

Just found you. Love these videos. 💕

One of my friends is so masculine that she's often mistaken for a man. I'm like why bother losing weight when you're just going to be manly.

Love all your videos boo 😍😍😍😍

GREAT VIDEO!!!

Chole, you speak the ugly truth. Many can’t handle these truths, but your message is necessary ❤️

I watched this video a year, her channel has helped me a lot but I still struggle with certain things so here I go starting all over again. I will continue to watch old and new...... I wish you took personal calls❤❤❤

That was great! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

My goodness, your channel is refreshing 🥰