I’m 30 and Have Never Dated (What Am I Doing Wrong?)

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I’m 30 and Have Never Dated (What Am I Doing Wrong?)
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@ihatekids1541 Год назад

I'm over 30 and have never been in a relationship. I feel like there are a lot of people in the same situation but are too embarrassed to say.

@mikesmith-wk7vy Год назад

same here it is very embarrassing and has been since i was like 20 . surprised for the caller being a women , women get asked out and men have to ask so id imagine anyone in this situation would be a guy

@princess_maya_ Год назад

Just turned 33 and I've also never been in a relationship (I'm a woman)

@101runaways Год назад

@@mikesmith-wk7vy Nope, nearly 32 and I have not been asked out before. Finding a prospect is like looking for water in the middle of a massive desert.

@101runaways Год назад

Its really sad that we live in a society that shames people like us. We are no less because of it even though I admit the situation really sucks. Being shamed only adds to the difficulty cuz now we cant talk to anyone about how we feel and are struggling cuz 90% of the time or more we get made fun of or receive some kind of negativity adding to the pain.

@mikesmith-wk7vy Год назад

@@101runaways good analogy, never imagined I would ever be in this spot , it’s very embarrassing and depressing

@janenns9831 Год назад

I met my husband when he was 34 and I was 24. He had never had a gf or gone on a date or held someone’s hand. We were married a year after and has turned out to be the most stunning man I’ve ever met. We have 3 beautiful little kids and have the life I once prayed for. ❤

@DJSTUX93 Год назад

You give guys like him Hope. Thank you

@SheckleRFan715 Год назад

I'm 30, male never had long term relationship 🤧🤧

@ellisjackson336 9 месяцев назад

Congrats to you both but sometimes I wonder how this happens lol

@noidea2568 9 месяцев назад

@@Loner-DestroyedWoman 34 old??? You must be clearly very young if you say that (I say this as a 21yo!).

@SoloRenegade 9 месяцев назад

@@Loner-DestroyedWoman you're clueless

@Fhornergal Год назад

The "Where do we go to meet the people" is totally me.

@adkjfasldkf 6 месяцев назад

I recommend finding people that have similar interests or pick up a new interest. Join a board game group, take an art class, do yoga, play rec soccer, etc. There are tons of group events in cities (can't speak to all areas). Recommend trying Meetup, Facebook, etc. to find the events.

@Bock728 6 месяцев назад

Church is a good place to start.

@angelrogo 6 месяцев назад

@@Bock728 Catholic Church is the coldest and inhuman place to meet new people. Unless you are a Chad, no one wants to look to anybody else, even less to have conversations.

@angelrogo 6 месяцев назад

@@adkjfasldkf People today are extremely mind-closed. No matter where you go, you'll never be accepted.

@Mexicanstongstyle 5 месяцев назад

@@adkjfasldkf To piggy back on that too, I would also add when you join a group to also go consistently, in my experience people tend to open up more to who they see on a consistent basis. So, if you take art class as an example, it could be a little hard to meet new people if you only went 2 times and left vs if you go once or twice a week for a few weeks or months, people will tend to want to get to know you better cause they see you so often

@a32tl 6 месяцев назад

I’m 55 and have never been on a date or in a relationship. Never one genuine romantic moment shared with another living soul. When I was 17 or 18, I overheard a girl telling another female friend of mine that she sure was glad most guys didn’t look as ugly as I did. Crushed me and I already had no confidence but that literally killed me inside and I have always believed I wasn’t worthy of someone’s love because I was ugly. I was already incredibly insecure but hearing that was like the nail in the coffin. Now, all these years later I wouldn’t even know how to have a relationship. I’ve subconsciously erected so many walls, I wouldn’t even know how to begin tearing them down. The power of words is immeasurable.

@manosijroy8282 6 месяцев назад

Wow man 55 and never even a date? BTW I am a 23 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before but had my first ever date and my first ever hug at the age of 22 with a girl who was 19(20 now) but it didn't work and also went out with a female friend who is also 23 but idk whether to count it as a date. Recently got indirectly rejected by one of my crush due to my shyness. But for a month, I have been having a massive crush on this girl in the classes where I go for preparation of exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college 7 months ago and I am a soon to be an MBA Student. She is also within 21-23 age range. I was shy to talk to her too initially but I finally could with the help of my friends and one of her classmate. The last time we talked was 3 days ago and I got to know more about her and I was a lot less nervous this time. She is honestly very very pretty almost model like and has a very sweet voice whereas I am definitely not that good looking especially with my glasses(without them I look a bit better) and slightly chubby too. I don't even know whether she is even single or not. One of her classmate said she probably has a boyfriend whereas her another classmate who helped me talk with her said she is single and idk whom to believe. She has some male friends too in her class(we aren't in the same classrooms). She still haven't accepted my follow request on Instagram yet and its been 2 weeks even though she is nice and friendly to me in person. This another girl who is also 23 and on whom I had been crushing on for 7 months is ignoring me after she came to know about my new crush on this girl about whom I shared above. I also like this another girl who is 19 turning 20 in April and we have been chatting on Instagram for the past 7 months too. She used to be in the same school as me but we didn't know each other that time so we only have been knowing each other for 7 months and she is in a different college. We chat daily and send each other virtual hugs and talk about food a lot as we are both foodies and she is super sweet and we plan to meet up soon too one day and hopefully will get a longer hug this time.

@blubablub1599 6 месяцев назад

I feel you. But its never too late to change. A grandpa of a good friend changed his destructive attitude towards live at age 75 and became lucky in a new and fulfilled relationship. Maybe you could reach out for a life coach or something similiar. Wish you the best!

@aetank_yyteawu3436 5 месяцев назад

One of the biggest lessons I learned was that other people’s words only have meaning if those people matter to you. “ “Never let the words of people who aren’t important to you, become important for you.” Some of the wisest words I’ve ever heard.

@lorenzovelasque3668 5 месяцев назад

I hope you can make peace with the past lessons you've learned there's always hope to get enlightened and change your thoughts which change your life

@prudencedantye9297 5 месяцев назад

Even the people who are considered the ugliest are in relationships/ married. Pretty people have insecurities too. It all boils down to what you believe about yourself. Confidence is attractive, no matter how you look. It’s not too late, you can change that. Start by building your confidence. Do affirmations. Think positively. All is well.

@Song2LongUnsung Год назад

I didn't have my first relationship until I was 27 due to serious insecurities on my part. I didn't even dare try to befriend any man because I thought they would all recoil in disgust. At 25 I got fed up myself. If I was ugly then so be it. I just started opening myself up and talking to people without expecting anyone, including myself, to develop feelings beyond mere friendship. That worked. I had my first (horrible) relationship at 27 that taught me more than I ever could have learned if I had just remained single. Now I'm 35 and married to my amazing husband and expecting our first child. So to everyone out there struggling, it can get better. All the best to you all.

@luzwest7501 Год назад

when did you meet your husband? how long have you been with him now?

@brainfreeze91 Год назад

I got triggered when he said "why!?". Good conversation. But that initial impression is my fear. No one normal gets us. Everyone's like "dude just get a relationship". They don't have that innate self doubt that tells us that we're not worth it. Somehow they didn't pick that up. There's a voice shouting at the back of our heads that we're creeps, we're ugly, we're uninteresting, we're not worth anyone's time. This is speaking as a 32yr old male who has never had a relationship. I know the voice is irrational, but I still listen to it.

@manosijroy8282 Год назад

I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and no luck on dating apps so I also have been messaging some girls on Instagram whom were in the same school as me and are mostly 19-22 age range now. Sadly a many of them ghosted and even blocked me as I was shy near girls in my school days so never interacted with them in school so I am kind of a stranger to them. Only like 4 or 5 of them chats with me and only 2 of them both 20 year olds are sweet to me and we send virtual hugs to each other and would love to meet them but I also like another girl who was my childhood friend when we were in elementary school and now she is 21 turning 22 after 3-4 months and she is very pretty and I made her aww too by sending her virtual hug on Insta and I also wanna meet her too but she says she isn't that active on IG so her replies are really slow and we live in the same city but 20 km apart from each other and also go to different colleges so idk.

@musicgal9830 6 месяцев назад

We need more men like both of you 😇 top tier. Once your confidence skyrockets and you surround yourself with other better men then you’ll find women.

@biologygirl91 6 месяцев назад

As a 32 year old woman I completely relate to this: I remember telling my sister in law that I’d love to just be a stay at home wife and mother, she just looked at me and said ‘then go do that’ I felt so unseen/unheard - it sounds easy if you’re someone who dates or seems to be what men are looking for. But if you’re not, what then?! I factually bring a lot to the table in a hypothetical relationship, but no guy is interested so I’m stuck.

@karlstrauss2330 5 месяцев назад

The guys at Ramsey live in a bubble. They behave like it’s still 1984 and have no idea how bad it is outside of their protected Christian bubble.

@rlugoele54 5 месяцев назад

@@manosijroy8282 Do you know what you are? You're a fucking obsessed creep, spouting your life story to each and every comment on this video. Get a grip, you lunatic and stop bothering these people.

@LorraineVirginie Год назад

I hear her shutting down at the end. She asked a clear question of where do I go to meet the people and he just says invite people from work, and then she just says “okay…” with tightness in her voice. But my workplace is 90% women and the only man isn’t single. I really have zero clue how to meet a man organically who is actually single and interested in me.

@ebonylo. 7 месяцев назад

Do you have hobbies? I took up skiing, golfing pottery and painting. You'll definitely find singles there

@snowbird1381 6 месяцев назад

Literally all the men in my workplace are either too old too young or already taken. And if they are single, they’re gay or super liberal. I’m always in this weird bubble where there is always some reason why I can’t have someone. I literally tried just going out in public and seeing who was out there, and it is still that group I just described. Always too young, too old or taken.

@angelrogo 6 месяцев назад

@@snowbird1381 I assure you there are single men that are wishing to meet single women. But women always seem to find in us some flaw that makes us unable to meet single women's standards. No man is perfect, no woman is perfect. For once, we should give each other a chance to be happy together.

@MrSpencerport 6 месяцев назад

Saying anything like that to a Women will get you a quick trip to HR.

@Pswayze23 6 месяцев назад

@@snowbird1381I'd recommend going for the taken guys. If they like you, they'll choose you over their gf.

@benjones621 Год назад

Didn't expect to hear a woman's voice.

@jones2277 Год назад

by sheer numbers alone, you have to understand that there are far more single/never dated before women than men.

@CptWesker07 Год назад

A lot of ugly bitches out there

@texan903 Год назад

@@jones2277 given how easy it is for a woman to get at least one date every night of the week, it is definitely a surprise to hear this. It is much, much harder for men in this regard than it is for women.

@jones2277 Год назад

@@texan903 getting bad sex is not the same as getting a date. why is that hard for most men to comprehend? it's just like receiving an unsolicited dpic.

@lucindabreeding Год назад

@@texan903 This was never reality for me. As soon as I became an adolescent, the social "energy" I got from men was neutral to hostile. There was TikTok series with women telling first person stories about how awful men can behave toward women they find unattractive. I related to that hard, as the kids say.

@larissagonzales6075 Год назад

I have dating fatigue. I am tired of being dissapointed. It is not worth it for me anymore.

@zeal4god402 Год назад

Don't quit Larissa. May God renew thy strength

@emmarose6590 Год назад

same. I’m in the same boat as this women. I’m also a Christian women and that makes modern dating that much harder. Everyone just sleeps with each other

@7somekindofsomething Год назад

Feel the same. But I feel fine about it now. I’m taking the time to work on myself and trusting what god has in store for me.

@Meyouletsgo 7 месяцев назад

Same ❤

@harrisn3693 6 месяцев назад

@@Meyouletsgothen let’s date each other, I’m 32 and a male

@kimtaro9575 Год назад

I 100% relate to this caller and what she is saying. 36 years old and never been in a relationship despite wanting a life partner. Feeling rejected, ghosted, etc over and over again. It's hard to stay positive after so many bad experiences, and when everyone else seems to have a much easier time finding someone. Thanks for calling in Madeline and thanks to Dr. John for answering her.

@101runaways Год назад

It really is discouraging when you see so many people easily get what you want but then nothing ever works out for you.......Doesn't seem fair.

@tiahnarodriguez3809 Год назад

@@101runaways That’s because It’s not fair, and we have every right to think so. Imo, the only way to get a result is to keep trying, so while it may take more time and effort, and even painful, I think most people will eventually find someone.

@101runaways Год назад

@@tiahnarodriguez3809 I dont really have any options to put myself out there. No single guys around my age are ever at church and that's a problem across the board not just at the one I was attending before and the one I have been going to now. College is over and I had zero prospects from it, nothing at work, the gym or basically anywhere I go. Its always the same, no single guys my age. And I have tried online dating to exhaustion with the same negative results each time no matter which site I try or which angle I approach online dating. Speed dating is very expensive and I found it was not effective either. Iv been told I should ask people I know if they know of any single guys looking but I really don't want to get other people involved as the results from doing so has always turned out to be very negative with zero benefits. Makes it even harder that I don't want to have children as most people in the Christian community cant understand being childfree and want to have kids. Iv basically been shoved into a corner and cant get out. Im basically cut off from dating because of all these things, Im starting to think that its never going to happen.

@initiatorhater0688 Год назад

are you a man or woman?

@101runaways Год назад

@@initiatorhater0688 Woman. Why do you ask?

@weekendnomad5038 Год назад

My husband at 34 told me he had never had a relationship either that I was his first. We married after 11 months . So far so good

@hoperichardson1193 Год назад

Me too, and now it's been 21 years.

@initiatorhater0688 Год назад

i wonder if he is emotionally damaged due to having been single, alone that long, because i think its common for a lot of people to feel that way if they don't get into their first relationship until late in life, they feel forever scarred mentally, emotionally, over all the years they were single

@tiahnarodriguez3809 Год назад

@@initiatorhater0688 The same can be said for people who get in relationship after relationship. It really depends on the person.

@humanoid-robotics Год назад

@@initiatorhater0688 lol what are you on? 2 partners a week damages you a lot more than being single.

@ShortGirlsClimbCounters Год назад

How old are you? Did he go a lot younger? All I see on the internet is that men don't want women over 30. I'll be there in two years 😢

@ireneangelucci3733 Год назад

Madeline, if you ever read this. You have such a beautiful voice! You seem like an all round lovely person, I'm with you❤️

@laur5486 6 месяцев назад

I thought so too!

@anonymoususer855 5 месяцев назад

She sounds so sweet. I'd definitely be down to meet her if I lived in Missouri. Unfortunately, I don't 😕

@Cesar-t6x 5 месяцев назад

Have to agree with you on this it kind conveys her personality

@KS-md3uj Год назад

It was really touching the way John really tried to help her. So many men on the internet would have jumped right on her weight and ignored the fact that she is a person. Thank God for men like Dr. Delony

@zmanzeta7776 Год назад

He was kind. But jumping to her weight isn’t negating her personhood. It’s identifying a problem. I’m sympathetic, but i can’t lie to a person to spare their feelings- if the lie is going to ultimately contribute to their misery and self proclaimed loneliness.

@jashroy Год назад

Wut? No way in 2022 would most radio hosts be like "Yo, it's probably cause you're a land whale.". His response is right about what one would expect, not to say that it is a bad one.

@KS-md3uj Год назад

@@zmanzeta7776 I'm pretty sure she already knows about that particular problem, and doesn't need you or anyone to 'help' her in that way. Maybe if she felt better about herself, she would naturally get out more and start getting healthier. He helped her in a way that your mind is too narrow to see.

@KS-md3uj Год назад

@@jashroy You haven't been listening to the mgtow channels....all they talk about is how 'unhealthy women' don't deserve male attention.

@signalfire15 Год назад

Because her weight isn't the problem. Fat women can be with fat men. There's someone out there for everyone. A person's weight doesn't mean they are destined for a lifetime of loneliness.

@ThisRemindsMeOfaJoke Год назад

i'm also 30 and never dated, it's because i've never been satisfied with my life to the point where i can afford to focus on dating , i never had that feeling of fulfillment that comes with having stability in life , i''m always quitting jobs and searching for jobs, constantly questioning and doubting my decisions , always wondering what i should've done and what i should be doing.... i'm just constantly trying to find my place in the world and i've prioritized that over dating

@brittanyt.1603 Год назад

Wow this is me!

@ellisjackson336 9 месяцев назад

While you think you need to get your life together before dating…Bear in mind that there are people living with their parents who have significant others. Lol dudes in prison have women wanting to be with them and marry them. There are so many people who don’t have their lives together who are getting into and out of relationships. My point is you don’t necessarily need to have your life together (whatever that means to you) before you start to date. If that’s what you want to do though, then go right ahead

@chaz7604 9 месяцев назад

@@ellisjackson336 💯 this. By the time you do date you’ll probably end up selling yourself based on your “worth” that is material and attract people who see your worth based on that also and that is never going to contribute towards real life and true connection and intimacy. Fab comment x

@YukiNakamura 5 месяцев назад

I feel so related and really bad about it. I think I should have been more proactive but I needed a lot of time to deal with my depression and addictions, so by the time I've started doing changes in my life I'm already 29, half-way to eldery... 😢

@Event_Horizon14 3 месяца назад

Lol...this is me! And I could never figure out how others had the same struggles with career choices, and job searches, and moving cities, and STILL were constantly in and out of relationships. Until I randomly did an ADHD test and then another one, and then another one and figured out I actually have ADHD (without the hyper), later confirmed through a diagnosis. Researching ADHD though opened my eyes to why I am the way I am and most of us funnily enough struggle immensely with forming romantic relationships. We struggle with relating to others, period. Our brains are always abuzz with passions, obsessions, projects, new endeavours, courses, plans, degrees, new career paths, it never ends. And so you never feel quite ready to start dating, you never feel you have enough headspace to deal with this. And going out on dates with people actually feels like a chore. One not worth the effort at that. Wow, reading back though my post - I'm really a catch, eh? 😂

@amandawalker1196 Год назад

Hi Madeline, We are very similar. I am 35, turning 36 in December and I have not had a relationship either. I desperately desire to have children and I have to trust God on that subject. I am trying to put myself out there more but it’s easier said than done. Just want you to know you’re not alone. Praying someone finds you soon!

@User-s868 Год назад

I hope you find your special someone too

@michele5695 Год назад

You can adopt or use a donor and still create a family. If I could do things over, I would. Men are like an additional child

@jackcoleman5955 Год назад

Do not give up, Amanda. At 36, though, you need to make this a coherent goal next year. The same way some Type-A business guy would lay out his biz goals, you need to set some specific targets (create online profile by March, go on5 dates by Apr, volunteer at these 3 orgs, and inviting one guy at each). Also, trust Jesus, and know that even if you don’t have biological kids, you still have a life full of beauty and hope ahead. Lastly, God loves you. He really, really loves you. May the Lord bless you with peace, and May joy shine from your face so brightly that the right man is starstruck.

@initiatorhater0688 Год назад

a woman who is 35 and never had a boyfriend? have you had any guys express interest in you?

@amandawalker1196 Год назад

@@initiatorhater0688 yes. And I’ve dated around. But it’s never been anyone I could see a future with so I saw no need to spend more time and waste his and mine if I knew it wasn’t going anywhere.

@Wtf-re5up 10 месяцев назад

He hit the nail perfectly on the head with this one. You grow up being treated a certain way because of your looks, or your personality, or the way you dress, or (like me) all of the above. So then when you’re an adult, you’ve learned to keep people at a distance because you need to protect both yourself and them. Because you’ve learned you’re embarrassing and trying to fit it will result in rejection. And you assume nobody really wants to be seen with you so you pull away to spare them. It’s absolutely crippling. I can think of SO MANY times I’ve purposely held people at a distance because I didn’t want to seem too eager and get hurt, or because I assumed they were only hanging out with me as a second best option so I didn’t want to seem needy. But now I can see that probably made THEM feel that I thought they were weird and didn’t want to be there, instead of me thinking the reverse. And I’ve been told many times I’m attractive, cool, been invited to hang out, etc, but it never mattered. I always felt like I’m still some kind of inferior person and I shouldn’t even try to connect because I’m inherently going to repulse people eventually. And if I do hang out, it has to be the absolute best version of myself. I can never just naturally be myself. I have to have the coolest outfit, have just showered, not eaten before so I feel thin, be in a perfect mood, I can’t just exist and be worthy.

@asia6522 7 месяцев назад

you put it perfectly into words

@adavanja5682 7 месяцев назад

I felt every word of this.

@Mayfloweralways 6 месяцев назад

I spent most of my life this way. But today- i live in this world that i’m only going to get to spend so many years on. And it’s my one life to find joy in. And what other people think i should be like or don’t like about me- well, they can go kick rocks. I’m f*ing going to be happy. And today i am. I met a wonderful man and i only spend time with people who like spending time with me- just the way i am. I hope everyone finds the same.

@abcdefg-oj5wn 6 месяцев назад

This is really relatable. In high school I was thin and had massive pretty privilege, then when I went to college I gained a ton of weight and was bullied daily. It was like day and night, the way I was treated. Now I have an obsession with my weight and my appearance in general. I know I'm being too hard on myself but I'm still traumatized from the bullying (which was like over a decade ago). I relate so much to this caller.

@khalexi8692 6 месяцев назад

Isn't that too true. Being around the wrong crowd can be damaging too. You are left feeling rejected and dealing with self worth issues. Now I just distance myself from everyone and don't want to put myself out there any more.

@rachelr.290 Год назад

My parents (Mom and Dad) had a really awful relationship that I was exposed to from a young age and resulted in feelings of chronic stress and low self esteem on my part. I am turning 28 in six months and have never dated seriously because I don’t view myself positively and am so afraid of being in a toxic relationship. This videos was helpful.

@noregertsyamsayin8011 Год назад

Great comment. I'm a male that grew up the same way. All the relationships I know have went up in flames. It's very hard to put myself out there

@kaleyjoplinRAWRR Год назад

Yup me too. I didn’t have a good model for what relationships should be like when growing up. My parents were abusive too. Bc if this I had my walls up all the time. Also, I struggled with social anxiety and am introverted so that made things more difficult. I’ve been asked out and have been on a few dates but unfortunately nothing really came of these. For the longest time I would turn and run away because I didn’t think I was good enough sometimes and was afraid of being vulnerable. I had to really do some self reflecting (and therapy) to get out of that mindset and although I haven’t found my person yet, I think I’m in a much better place to date now. Wish I would’ve started this when I was a lot younger but better late then never!

@th3azscorpio Год назад

This has a lot to do with it for many people.

@kathleenphillips7145 Год назад

My parents were married for 60 years and my siblings married in their early twenties. I, on the other hand got married at 29 years due to the pressure I felt that I needed to be married to be “normal.” Worst mistake of my life. Disastrous marriage. Divorced three years later and found true happiness by learning to love myself.

@Girlgonewise Год назад

There’s a huge difference between never dated and never having sex. There are many people out there that sleep around without commitment.

@humanoid-robotics Год назад

Like you?

@Stingman012 Год назад

I had sex with hookers but nvr had nice date and good relationship which i wanted to. The society is like that either get someone money for love and have sex and next day I forget you. Bye bye. Lol It's hard to explain

@chada75 Год назад

Guilty as charged.

@MrKrushgutz Год назад

Don’t give yourself away like that

@pinkturtle2016 Год назад

Me who's never done either lmfao

@nepatriots77 Год назад

I never dated anyone until I was like 29. My reason for not dating was fear of rejection, being socially anxious to even put myself out there and also just being bad with multitasking dating with working/studying.

@initiatorhater0688 Год назад

i assume you are a guy, male, since these cases are normally male dominated

@brunett93 Год назад

@@initiatorhater0688 i'm a woman and i have the same reasons for not dating so not necessarily.

@initiatorhater0688 Год назад

@@brunett93 its more shocking to hear of a woman reaching a certain age than it is for a guy and to still be single, since women are the ones that get approached and hit on

@brunett93 Год назад

@@initiatorhater0688 not everyone. depends on where you live as well. i live in sweden and i've never been approached. but i also don't really go to clubs and bars and those types of places. it's common here for women to make the first move and men here are more shy/reserved compared to men in most other countries. either way, there's nothing wrong with being single.

@initiatorhater0688 Год назад

@@brunett93 so you as a woman, didn't have a boyfriend until 29?

@gmbiasco 5 месяцев назад

"Where do we go to meet the people!?!?" I'm 100% relating to this person. I'm 33, single, and have barely dated. Apparently there are a lot of us out there -- go figure 🤣

@tyronewilson7890 5 месяцев назад

I’m in college so I try to walk around campus, eat in cafeterias and work in library,etc to meet women. When I’m in my home city I go to Walmart to meet women but the mall is the best if you’re not in school.

@InteractiveIdea 3 месяца назад

Anywhere. Everywhere. Just have to be bold and openminded.

@RayShortt 15 дней назад

Im 41 and never dated ever... mostly because i am.homo.

@AString95 Год назад

My first girlfriend was at 27 and now we are engaged. Don’t worry about lack of experience it literally doesn’t matter and in many cases makes it worse. Keep trying and it will eventually pay off!

@notreallyafamousartist695 5 месяцев назад

You two are a beautiful couple man🤝

@MajoCurie 5 месяцев назад

Exackly

@cindyasters Год назад

I understand. My parents were always saying bad things about my appearance and I thought I was ugly forever. Now that I'm older I look at family photos and I was not ugly. I was pretty. I always told my daughter she is beautiful--and she is-- but she had the same feelings about her appearance and I did not understand it. Finally she told me my Mother in Law was always saying picking on her about her appearance. I always tell people how good they look, they have beautiful eyes, etc. Hoping to pass some positivity on.

@DaintyAbby Год назад

Slowly claps 👏🏾 good job mama 🥰

@anthill1510 6 месяцев назад

Yeah, it`s crazy. I thought I was too big for anyone to find me attractive because my parents told me constantly I was too big. I look back at pictures of myself and I was a normal weight, it`s crazy.

@MegaThunder70 Год назад

Your not alone, it’s actually a good thing you are saving yourself for the right person. I didn’t date until I was almost 30 and when I finally started dating it was the one

@nobodysperfect06 Год назад

I assume you are a guy, male.

@kattwin1 5 месяцев назад

Same!!! Thus, I have no regrets and no baggage. ❤️

@JenniferMoleski Год назад

Awesome admission from John about the teeth thing. Everyone has personal gut-punches they've taken and absorbed over the years, but saying them out loud, on youtube, years later takes courage. I hope this woman finds her man. One of my good friends didn't kiss until she found her husband and got married at 29. She's gorgeous, hilarious, fit; she just took a long time finding her husband. She's happy now, married, kids, homesteading, raising heritage breeds--she's legit. Hopefully this woman will have a similar story.

@Andrew--S Год назад

What is this? A cross-over episode? It's nice to see 100k+ youtubers in the comment sections.

@MicheleHerrmann Год назад

Thank you for calling in. I don't date much (I'm 47) and I've had similar problems with men. I've had three boyfriends so far in my lifetime and some dating spells but much heartache.

@Whatorwellsaid21 Год назад

I was in the same situation until 23. As an introvert it didn’t bother me…until it did, right after college. I really wanted that one person to have a solid relationship with. I spent two years going on first dates (about 4 of them). Dating sucks bc young people these days are very superficial and don’t care for monogamy. After those 2 years I found someone great, and we’ve been together 5 years now. It takes time and work to find the one, and online platforms can help, just be cautious and check people well before you decide to take it past the first date.

@zeal4god402 Год назад

YAYYYYYYY

@brianbest6097 Год назад

You just sumarized my experience. However, i met my girlfriend at work not a dating app.

@moonlightstargem1006 Год назад

Men in their 30’s and 40’s only used me for sex in my 20’s. I’ve only had one long term boyfriend and he was the same age as me and i dated him since we were 18. But he cheated on me more than 3 times. I kept taking him back. Finally i left him. I thought i could work it out with a man but they are too selfish. They don’t want to go out of their way for women romantically

@Heyu7her3 Год назад

23 is different than 30s/40s in terms of "urgency"

@starrjohnson1327 Год назад

@@moonlightstargem1006 sorry you went through this. I know quite a few women who thought they would never meet a good man. All of them are happily married. These women were overlooked for a long time. Also had bad relationships. It can happen😊

@estecnukeops9167 Год назад

Delony- You are very, very good at what you do. You connect to people like no one I've seen. Good job.

@thatsfunny2051 6 месяцев назад

I'm a woman. I went on my first date at age 25. Then for years and years I didn't get asked out. I'm in my first actual relationship now at nearly 34. I can relate to this woman so much. People don't believe that this happens to women -- I heard this all the time ("Any woman can find a relationship! If she can't, there is something seriously wrong with her!") That made me feel like there was something totally flawed about me that I just couldn't figure out.

@fred6907 Месяц назад

It's usually a weight issue. Not sure in your case, but the insecurity from being overweight will be pretty obvious from the get go. Men are mostly guided by visuals, at least on first impressions.

@joshuacox581 Год назад

Same here I am 30, still single, and never dated.

@InteractiveIdea 3 месяца назад

Longer You wait, harder it gets.

@DeadCat-42 19 дней назад

I gave up at 30.

@foedeer Год назад

I had a girlfriend who was in the same situation at 30. But she persisted and was determined, put herself out there, initiated dates and a couple years later married with a child. Use to cry on the phone saying she was unapproachable or had resting b*tch face etc., Keep going👍

@youtubelady6118 Год назад

It’s really a lot about confidence, for men and women. I’ve seen pretty unattractive people who have managed to get into relationships consistently, and I’ve seen really attractive people who just couldn’t really find a partner till their 20s. I’ve been shocked on both sides of the spectrum! But a good personality, maybe a sense of humor, and knowing how to show someone you’re interested in them without coming across as too nervous/desperate go a long way.

@eh1126 Год назад

This is so true! I wasn’t initially physically attracted to my partner but I was drawn to his sense of humor and confidence. Now he’s the hottest guy yo me and I’m crazy about him lol Confidence can work wonders!

@AmazingStoryDewd 11 месяцев назад

No idea what a good personality even means 🤣

@eh1126 11 месяцев назад

@@AmazingStoryDewd it’s all relative, a good personality to person A is not good for person B. One can generalize based on some personality disorders (narcissistic, borderline, sociopathic, etc) that there are some “bad” personalities but anything other than that depends on the person and is subjective.

@chuckcollins2349 10 месяцев назад

Cope

@romans52345-cy3tq 5 месяцев назад

Looks are important, don't kid yourself

@bigcahuna42366 Год назад

Open your heart and be yourself. Don't be afraid to take some risks. Someone will notice you Madeline and appreciate you for being you. Don't worry if things don't work out 100% perfectly. Awkward moments are normal among many of those who attempt to start new dating relationships. You're still young and have plenty of time. I wish you the very best!

@rajerriusgordon6835 Год назад

Don’t be yourself that’s a lie

@musicgal9830 6 месяцев назад

So if someone is to ‘notice’ her that means she needs to wait for that person to approach or pursue so she knows they ‘notice’ her. Otherwise if she makes the first move that will be trying to make that person notice or value her. You’re essentially asking her to continue doing what she’s been doing and work on herself until someone else noticed her which is COMPLETELY out of her control.

@user-cp7kt4vi9r Год назад

Remember that as a women you still have to express to a man your interested. Real life isn’t a fairytale, a man won’t just pursue you at all costs. You might get rejected, but keep trying. It’s possible some men you were interested in didn’t even realize it. I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years and I was very upfront in the beginning about wanting to continue to see him more. You aren’t desperate if you tell someone how you are feeling. Men need reassurance too.

@DannyD-lr5yg Год назад

💯% this. It’s made even worse in Christian, and Christian-adjacent, circles, because so many women are raised to either: believe they shouldn’t express ANY interest and that to do so would be off putting/unwanted/uncouth, or they simply don’t know how to - or don’t even realize it’s an option. I’m speaking from experience! I couldn’t even call to invite a platonic friend to a hangout if that platonic friend was male. It was drilled into me from as early as when I had crushes that I was to be pursued. I distinctly remember casually telling my mom I wanted to let a boy know i liked him, and she informed me girls are to be pursued and boys don’t like it any other way; like even if a boy liked me back, he would stop liking me if I expressed interest. My first 2 boyfriends both told me (at the after-breakup “postmortem” lol) that they didn’t think I even liked them that much. But I did; I really did. Anyways, I’m 30s now, and finally unlearning some of those habits. It’s hard, it’s awkward, it’s embarrassing at times - ANY putting myself out there feels like I’m completely exposed and vulnerable. But me being willing to be vulnerable, or to be the one to look silly, is already beginning to pay off.

@jmcast3195 Год назад

This is true. The old-fashioned way was for a lady to drop her handkerchief and give the man a chance to pick it up and talk to her.

@AndisweatherCenter Год назад

Well, she acted like the man will probably come out to her. Well I’ve never been in a relationship and I’m 31 and I’ve Felt like what’s the point of asking girls out since they will old is reject me since I’m autistic. I do ask girls out and I am always rejected. But I don’t think it’s because of my autism, it’s because when I do ask him out at Masumi table automatically reject me and so when I asked them out I’m really anxious

@initiatorhater0688 Год назад

oh please, women normally never do and never will bluntly express interest in a guy first, it has always been and probably forever will be expected of guys, men, to do the pursuing and asking out

@genxx2724 Год назад

@@DannyD-lr5yg Thank you.

@elonr1018 Год назад

This was me. First date at 29. Grew up in purity culture, homeschooled, couldn’t date unless I wanted to get married.

@JordanEvansMusic Год назад

That’s how I was too. There was so much shame around dating that I was seriously afraid to. It wasn’t till I was 21 that I kissed a girl/had my first girlfriend

@AnOriginalYouTuber Год назад

Those purity classes painted the wrong picture of good relationships. They imply that sex in marriage is a necessary evil and that we are all barley controllable. It pushed me to being a monk for over a decade. I knew what was wrong but had no idea what was right when dating. I don't think the people who made the curriculum knew either.

@zmanzeta7776 Год назад

The book “I kissed Dating goodbye”, which was hugely influential in codifying the Purity culture movement, was written by an unmarried 18 year old with no experience in dating, marriage, or relationships. Of course it was full of crap. The author of that book isn’t even a Christian anymore and he regrets that book. I’m just wondering why so many adults took his advice in the first place.

@JordanEvansMusic Год назад

@@zmanzeta7776 oh that was like a staple in our home we read it like every year haha

@zmanzeta7776 Год назад

@@JordanEvansMusic i never read it, but it was heavily pushed in youth groups. Many people threw the baby out with the bath water when it comes to purity culture- it has been given as a source of “deconstruction” across Christianity. It’s sad really.

@leekshikapinnamneni4835 Год назад

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with your Madeline! I haven’t dated very much either and I’m 28. I know it’s going to sound cheesy but definitely enjoy your life the way it is right now and definitely trying to find partners by plugging into a social circle or looking online. Maybe be open to a parent, a sibling/cousin, or a friend setting you up. Perhaps you can find a social activity or place of worship with people in the same stage of life that you are but also, don’t worry if you’re not in a relationship right now. Some people are single for a lot longer than they thought they would be single. Let people that you trust know that you’re looking for a relationship and don’t be shy about it. Also, don’t settle for less than what you deserve because you think you need to be in a relationship. Don’t tell yourself that your standards are too high or that you’re too picky. Why not be picky? You’re looking for a person with whom you’ll spend the rest of your life. People do more research when they are looking for a home or a car then when they’re looking for a relationship and that’s unfortunate. I wish you the best of luck!

@manosijroy8282 Год назад

I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and yet to get my first kiss and it has been bothering me a lot especially at my age. After 3 rejections recently, I did ask out my childhood friend who is 21 year old now turning 22 soon by messaging her on Instagram and she did reply yeah ok but she isn't that active on the app so she took almost a month to reply to it and now again she hasn't been online for weeks and still yet to reply about when we can meet but I am still waiting. But since 28th May 2023, I have been chatting with another girl on Instagram who used to be in the same school as me but we didn't know each other in school days. Now she is 19 year old and is in 1st year of college and I am in last year of college and we chat daily about pretty much everything and we send each other virtual hugs too and I think I started liking her too but so far it still looks like she just sees me as a friend as the chats doesn't get very flirty yet and we have been chatting for almost a month. We are also in different colleges but her college is very near to my home. I do wanna ask her out but my childhood friend didn't reject me too and I like both of them.

@ibuprofenPill Год назад

I’m 53 and never had a relationship, gave up many years ago. At this point, I just try to be the best version of myself that I can and no longer pursue that type of thing. The years of my life I dreamed about spending with someone are past, so that potential in someone no longer appeals to me. There were several things in life I feel I got mostly right and I’m proud of that, but love wasn’t one of them.

@manosijroy8282 Год назад

Woah damn man really at 53? Thats scary. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before and never been kissed. After having no luck on dating apps, I had been chatting with some girls on Instagram who were in the same school as me and are 18-23 year olds(mostly 19-22). But there is this girl who is 19 turning 20 in August whom I tried asking out for a coffee and we had been chatting for a month on insta and we were in the same school too but now in different colleges. And I can't believe that she agreed to meet me. She didn't say when but she said she will let me know when we can meet preferably in the cafe near her college as she is a medical student so she is busy. This is the first time I didn't get rejected or blocked or ghosted so I am still not able to believe it and really happy too but idk when we will meet exactly.

@nobodysperfect06 Год назад

Going to assume you're a guy

@ibuprofenPill Год назад

@@nobodysperfect06 what should I assume you are?

@nobodysperfect06 Год назад

@ibuprofenPill I'm just making an assumption that you're a guy or male because unfortunately cases like this are male-dominated, people who go far into adulthood and I've always been alone and have never dated or never been with anyone

@kaylawaters2691 10 месяцев назад

I'm almost 42 and never been in a relationship or on dates before. A few guys said the words "Would you like to go out/hang out sometime?" to me in my life and they made zero effort afterwards to make an actual date so I assume they were drunk, dared by someone to ask me, or something because they sure didn't mean it. They did me a favor I suppose. Lol. Unlike a lot of comments I read on this subject, I've never wanted to have kids or a husband anyways, so it worked in my favor.

@emmarose6590 Год назад

I really really don’t think John comprehends how bad dating is. it’s hooking up and having sex. That’s dating, there no connection Dr. John.

@michele5695 Год назад

Women need to stop hooking up, if that's not what you want.

@emmarose6590 Год назад

@@michele5695 girl I don’t hookup, that’s why I don’t date. My friends who hookup, gets asked out and BFs all the time. I agree tho, it needs to stop

@frogery Год назад

online dating isn't dating. leave that to the animals and stick to meeting people through other people or common hobbies.

@emmarose6590 Год назад

@@frogery it’s literally where 95% of dating occurs

@Meyouletsgo 7 месяцев назад

Thank you 😢

@taryndodds1390 Год назад

Madeline you’re not alone! I am 27 and have yet to be in a relationship.

@haleytruslow7200 Год назад

She seems like a cool person, good luck Maddy!

@texan903 Год назад

Dating for me before COVID, was easier than it is now. It's a lot harder to get a reply to online messages on dating apps and people have generally become more flaky the past couple of years.

@ReginaMcNeish Год назад

Get off online dating…..❤

@9rbloomer836 Год назад

Same! I’m 30, almost 31 and never had a relationship, just a few dates that broke off pretty quickly. By the way, thanks for all you do with the Ramsay group!

@nobodysperfect06 Год назад

I assume you are a guy or male, just bringing this up because cases like this have always been male dominated

@9rbloomer836 Год назад

@@nobodysperfect06 Actually no. I'm a female and its just been a repetitive string of guys who have acted interested but moved on/chose someone else. It's also hard to even get conversation going on online dating at times. Its just how things have gone for me so far and it can feel sometimes like men aren't looking or giving women a chance, but I'm sure men feel the same about women today.

@nobodysperfect06 Год назад

@@9rbloomer836 reason why it seems like cases like this are male-dominated is because of how for all time, men have always been expected to do the pursuing and be the ones to ask the woman out, be the initiators, that's why it seems far more common for men than for women to reach a certain age or a certain decade and never had a relationship before

@princess_maya_ Год назад

Why are people surprised that she's a woman? It feels like 70% of the church is women. I just turned 33 and I've never been in a relationship, despite being fit, attractive, and highly educated. Make no mistake - I have been asked out by several men and even get randomly approached on the street often. However, I attend a small church and there are no eligible bachelors there. I take the biblical principle of not being unequally yoked seriously, but I will be honest... it's extremely hard and at times I've gotten depressed over it. However, this made me feel a tiny bit better that I'm not alone.

@emmarose6590 Год назад

Same. I’m attractive too but I’m a Christ follower. It’s virtually impossible to find a single Christian man

@princess_maya_ Год назад

@@emmarose6590 I can definitely empathize! I wish church leaders would do more to address this :/

@emmarose6590 Год назад

@@princess_maya_ yep. They won’t though, and singles are becoming more common by the minute

@megalodon1726 Год назад

Being fit is attractive to men, but being highly educated doesn't make you more attractive. While intelligent men do appreciate intelligent conversations, your degree doesn't matter to us. We'll evaluate your ability to have intelligent conversations by having conversations with you, not by looking at the degree(s) you have.

@emmarose6590 Год назад

@@megalodon1726 from a man who is shallow looking for see . If a man truly wants to get to love and connect with a women he’ll find her intellect and grace education fascinating and love it’s part of who she is.

@jillohara3121 Год назад

I was often put in the “I-think-of-you-as-a-sister” zone

@InteractiveIdea 3 месяца назад

By everyone? Why do you think that is? Don't you know that most men interested in most women.

@actuallyterry Год назад

I was in the same position and for me it's because my mom made me feel like like wasn't pretty enough. Then it translated into you're not petite enough. And it made me think that no one would want to be around me. I'll probably never believe I'm worthy of love.

@theskyisblue567 Год назад

You are worthy of love.🙌

@georgewagner7787 Год назад

Never seen the movie with the line, You're a woman, all you have to do is show up? Meaning men like women and if you see someone you like, give yourself some credit

@musicgal9830 6 месяцев назад

@@georgewagner7787 no that is not ALL she has to do. Stop making it seem like it’s so easy for us women. A lot of us live in a man’s world and live masculine lives thanks to feminism. A lot of us didn’t asked for it and it creates this pressure to be competent and also be marriageable. Stop downplaying what women do.

@InteractiveIdea 5 месяцев назад

Men like women of all shapes and sizes, levels of attractiveness and intellect. Trust me. We do. %100

@truckdriver3737 Год назад

I didn't get a girlfriend until I was 29 though I'd tried for many years before nothing worked until I met my now wife.Everyone rejected me except her,hang in there don't give up on Love

@initiatorhater0688 Год назад

how do you feel about not having had a girlfriend until 29? because i believe it depends on the person, i know its not unusual for many people to feel forever sad and depressed over not getting into their first relationship until later than normal, until late in life, because they feel they missed out on young innocent love.

@truckdriver3737 Год назад

@@initiatorhater0688 I'm glad it worked out the way it did.

@initiatorhater0688 Год назад

@@truckdriver3737 so you are not sad and depressed about not having had a girlfriend when you were younger?

@ga6589 Год назад

@@initiatorhater0688 Why dwell on past disappointments if he's happy with the present?

@initiatorhater0688 Год назад

@@ga6589 well thats human nature and always been part of the human psyche

@Lesh004 Год назад

I was 27 when I went on my first date, and I’m a woman as well. The reason it took me so long was I never found anyone worth getting to know. Either guys showed interest and then I’d find out they had a kid and a girlfriend, living with them. Or the one in my early 20’s died before I could even go out with him. After than I gave up and put walls up. I’ve also struggled with weight and low self esteem. At age 27 I let a friend talk me into joining dating app. I decided it was time, I dropped 20lbs before I made my profile. I was that self conscious and down on myself I didn’t think anyone would ever be interested in me. Then before I knew it I had 4 guys who wanted to date me. I was completely blown away. I ended up only going out on dates with 3 of them. And I found out I had a lot of fun. I was honestly surprised that when I put myself out there I had good feedback. It was definitely rough going on dating apps, but in the end it was worth it. I ended up meeting my husband 2 months later. My first date ever went so well. However my first date with my husband (my actual 10th date, 3rd first date) was horrible the first half. We both botched it so badly. Even our waitress was feeling awkward. My husband even said it was one of the worst first dates he’d been on. 😂 Thankfully he suggested a walk after dinner. And that saved the date and was what sparked forever. Even our second date was a bit awkward. He touched my knee, while watching a movie, and I literally jumped out of my theater seat. My other dates with the guy who was my first date ever was a bit awkward too. On one I completely whacked my head getting back into his plane, and another one I couldn’t stop gloating about winning one round of bowling, and I spelled his name wrong. Surprisingly they were all still willing to go back out with me. 😂

@sunshine3914 Год назад

I got on a dating app years ago… never had a bad date in 12 years… but then, I only went on 1-3 dates a year. Still friends with half of them. Unfortunately I haven’t found anyone who I would care to date in the last few years.

@initiatorhater0688 Год назад

most people and society find it more shocking to hear of a woman reaching a certain age or certain decade without ever having been in a relationship before than compared to a man, since women are never expected to actively seek out romantic/sexual partners like men are

@tiahnarodriguez3809 Год назад

One of my college classmates said a guy told her she was the ugliest person he’s ever seen, then fast forward, he asked her out on a date, and in the present they’ve been together for awhile. She told us this when we were discussing the psychology of romance and relationships, and the whole class was shocked, but honestly I’ve heard worse, and am still shocked that these types of relationships where things don’t seem to go well in the beginning end up being fair more healthy compared to the relationships I’ve seen where the couple says they love each other and do romantic things, but behind closed doors they cheat on each other and bad mouth each other terribly.

@humanoid-robotics Год назад

Getting back into his plane????????? Yeah they only go for 🤑

@musicgal9830 6 месяцев назад

@@initiatorhater0688 umm it’s actually a lot more normal nowadays then ever. If you’re not a woman putting yourself out there sexually or participating in hook up culture and you’re not desperate for men or their attention, you won’t get approached because most men are too busy choosing the wrong women or settling down early to really be looking for true single women wanting to marry.

@captainfrosty31 6 месяцев назад

The best advice i have so far as a 41yr old. Put yourself in plenty of opportunities to get rejected. Get use to rejection, make rejection your best friend. Learn that rejection is not and should never be, tied to self worth! Rejection is personal preference and you will never be a good fit for everyone but someone you will, you'll never find that if you allow rejection to stop you looking. Become friends with rejection.

@rebeccaoprea9917 Год назад

Looks attract the eyes but personality seals the deal . People won’t know what’s there unless you show them . We hide with our insecurities which also hides our light .

@cosmicshy637 Год назад

Dr. D, you have a GREAT smile! Madeline, you are worth loving & your prince is out there looking for you. Love yourself and work on being your best version of you & greatness will come! Good luck!

@lisalister8002 Год назад

So glad this brave lady called in... so many out there have the same issue, but too afraid to discuss it.

@KW-um9ow Год назад

When my engagement ended suddenly, I was single for the first time in 7 years. My friend suggested I sign up for a dating app- and I did! I needed to PRACTICE dating. I said yes to lots of dates, and learned that I could get through good date and bad dates and survive it. This boosted my confidence and my belief that I could put myself out there. And then I met my husband. ❤️

@KarenLopez-kp6mw Год назад

This was a good one! Madeline seems so awesome, like a really good friend to have.

@discospiders 7 месяцев назад

I have several female friends in their 50’s who are still virgins, never had a date. It’s more common than people think.

@arthurmorgan9559 6 месяцев назад

wow

@nobodysperfect06 2 месяца назад

Were they saving for marriage for many years

@Bluehearte07 Месяц назад

@@nobodysperfect06No, they're just living their lives as they should

@Genius766 26 дней назад

@@Bluehearte07alone and sad?

@Bluehearte07 26 дней назад

@@Genius766 Everyone is born alone and sad, you will be alone and sad and certainly people die alone and sad. It's nothing new. So what's your case?

@davidkopatz8270 Год назад

I'm glad that she feels confident enough to admit this! Also she's never been hurt in a relationship so when she does get in a relationship she has a clean slate which is a good thing! Also if she is bettering herself for herself then someone will come along and see that and it will eventually happen naturally.

@musicgal9830 6 месяцев назад

Men these days don’t want that 😂 trust me. I know a lot of women like this, including myself and a lot of men don’t go for us.

@kaleyjoplinRAWRR Год назад

I’m surprised at why so many guys on here are shocked to hear it can be hard for women to date / find a partner. It’s not as if we can’t suffer from social anxiety, be shy, have trauma etc. these are all things that can affect dating. But also, as a woman, I have gotten some offers but they have not all been a match for me for various reasons. I know some pretty girls that have never had a relationship in their late 20s too and it’s not because of their looks.! They can get dates but it doesn’t mean it works out for them. I don’t think it’s wise to just settle for whoever asks you out if they’re not a good match..

@portman8909 Год назад

Yeah, it's not the same. You choose not to do date because you're whiny and picky not because you can't due to being completely undesirable from the opposite sex. So no, you're not relatable at all.

@nobodysperfect06 Год назад

The reason why tons of guys or men out there feel this way,. I'm no exception, that we find it much more shocking to hear of a woman still being single by a certain age compared to a guy, still single as in never dated or never had a relationship before, is due to women never being expected to make the first move or do the pursuing like men always have, it should be obvious as to what I'm talking about.

@ga6589 Год назад

@@nobodysperfect06 There are expectations for both men and women when it comes to dating. Regardless, it boils down to how comfortable you are in your own skin. I think we are naturally attracted to people who are not only confident with themselves, but are also genuinely interested in others. Desperation can be spotted a mile away. You can never be happy with someone else if you're unhappy with yourself. I'm a senior citizen and didn't marry until I was 35. I went on a lot of blind dates and was determined to get out of my own head, leave my expectations behind, and take each one for what it was- a learning experience. When I met my future husband, we took time to cultivate the relationship before committing to anything. We've been happily married for 32 years. I sincerely hope you can find yourself in a satisfying and long-lasting relationship.

@nobodysperfect06 Год назад

@@ga6589 didn't marry until you were 35? I assumed you had plenty of relationships before

@ga6589 Год назад

@@nobodysperfect06 I dated and had a few relationships, but I was not interested in getting married, at least not until I met my husband. We actually lived together for a couple of years before we tied the knot. Good luck to you!

@101runaways Год назад

32 never been in a relationship, but its not because I don't think Im worthy. My entire life I have had no good opportunities. All the guys who have liked me turned out to be jerks and or creeps so no Im not "too picky". You just become isolated from any opportunity to date when you have no options, which has been my life story. Everywhere I go there are no single guys my age and I have exhausted online dating and totally given up ever finding someone at a church. The only hope I have left for change is that Im really good at playing piano and maybe if I put in a consistent effort to network in the local music scene that one day something might happen.........

@jeromehenry4484 Год назад

If you already have a specific denomination affiliation you might want to talk to your pastor to see if there is a dating network. Some denomination networks cover multiple states, not just local churches. Another commentor mentioned catholicmatch.

@101runaways Год назад

@@jeromehenry4484 I dont live in the USA, I have never heard of a dating network before inside the church community. I am not catholic so I don't want to date a catholic.

@jeromehenry4484 Год назад

@@101runaways Some Protestant denominations have dating networks, especially if they are a small denomination and do not want to lose their congregants to other churches because of lack of marriage opportunities locally. I am Seventh Day Adventist, very small denomination in USA, we definitely have a dating network. Mormons probably have a network too. Please ask your pastor before giving up, don't just assume because you didn't hear anyone mention it. I do think it is best to stay within your denomination, if at all possible, it prevents doctrinal conflicts within marriage & childrearing. You are correct there is a significant shortage of men (all ages, but especially young) in Protestant churches. It really depends on how strong your commitment to your denomination is.

@101runaways Год назад

@@jeromehenry4484 I will dont consider Mormons Christians so thats off the radar for me as well. I left my old church cuz I woke up out of the word of faith deception and despite going there for 9 years I had zero prospects. I have been going to a smallish Christian reformed church ( I was raised in the CRC) for about two years now and there is only one guy about my age who is single but he has a drinking problem and is divorced with a kid. ( I don't date guys with kids). Its not so much denomination but certain aspects of theology and beliefs that cancel out a lot of the field for me and the fact that I am 100% certain that I do not ever want children makes the picking especially slim. I have called up so many churches in my local city to see if they had singles groups for 30's to maybe 40's and none of them did. I guess I could look up protestant churches and see if they have any networks you speak of. Even the local gym that I regularly attended for about 4 years did not have guys my age. I feel like something is working against me.

@georgewagner7787 Год назад

I had a friend who was 40 and said he only wanted to meet a woman from reformed church. He didn't earn much and i thought he was narrowing his options. But he went to visit some friends and they knew of someone

@julieanncheshire9960 Год назад

Madeline, take a dance class--salsa, for example! It helps you to feel in control and confident in your body and it is a great way to meet people.

@illy_6 5 месяцев назад

That was similar me at 29 to be honest. Maybe the odd date, but I’d never really put myself out there because it wasn’t a priority. I had also grown up with a lot of trauma that I wasn’t ready to face before (growing up in an emotionally abusive household). You are definitely not alone! I’m now 33 and engaged to be married this year - to a truly wonderful man that it makes me sad that I never thought I deserved it before. Everyone is deserving of love.

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 4 месяца назад

Congratulations 🎉 Thank you for giving me hope 🙏🏿❤️

@yogaqueen1527 Год назад

I'm 38. Only dated 1 guy. I too wonder what's wrong with me. I'm not bad looking. I keep up my appearance and hygiene. Men just never approach me

@nicolab2075 Год назад

Don't wait for them to approach you. I think it's usually a two way thing?

@noregertsyamsayin8011 Год назад

I'm 37 and for me it is so hard to read women's signals and the world has taught women to make men come to them. Some women consider a smile a sign and some consider it just being nice. A guy sees a smile and takes it as flirtatious when she was just being nice and polite, then the guy is considered a creep. I'm not on here complaining or saying it's all women's fault. I'm just saying it's very hard to read a "sign" and also trying not be accused of being a creep at the same time.

@kumajoey6031 Год назад

It's because most men have unrealistic standards due to watching too many adult movies. They expect women to look like IG models even though most men aren't attractive.

@masaniazura2131 7 месяцев назад

It's a real problem here in the Midwest. I didn't date until I was quite a bit older. One thing I found out was I was rather tiny and energetic, a very popular character at a reenactment environment, and couldn't get a date! YmUmteen billion years later, I was visiting the event when I crossed paths with the guy I really liked back in the day. He was thrilled to see me and introduced me as one of the participants he'd known since I was 13 yrs old. I looked at him and said, "Uhm, I was 35 years old," His jaw dropped. I truly didn't realize I had looked so young. I was actually a few years older than him. It also took me on a flashback to the past when someone asked me back in the past. "Girl, where's your mama?" because I was flirting with guys...and probably with that guy.... So, be sure people know you're an adult and can engage in adult conversations and adult behavior.

@MegaTeeruk 5 месяцев назад

As a guy I can tell you in this modern era men are terrified to approach women. Men are legitimately afraid of a woman misinterpreting them and next thing they know she's on social media calling them a creep or pervert and suddenly their whole lives are turned inside out. I myself, thank God, am very happily married but my single friends talk to me about this stuff all the time. You are going to have to initiate to make the guy feel "safe" in speaking to you. I know it sucks but it's the world now.

@gbear34 Год назад

Seems like there are thousands of decent lonely people out there who aren't figuring out the part of meeting people that requires going out and doing things... and those things have to be things that people you'd want to marry would also be out doing. I.e. if you're looking for a nice church girl, you won't find her in the bar. That sort of thing.

@zeal4god402 Год назад

Amen!

@purpleviolet207 Год назад

Amen to that!

@georgewagner7787 Год назад

Ski club, bowling, hiking club, etc

@musicgal9830 6 месяцев назад

That might not be who they are going on all those skiing and doing activities etc.

@musicgal9830 6 месяцев назад

It feels like for some people God may be saving them for somebody in particular. Hence, why they never feel peace about actively pursuing all these alternative avenues.

@jellyrcw12 Год назад

I know lots of people who have never had relationships before. Dating is hard! I was single for about 3 years. Online dating is atrocious. Good luck to everybody out there!

@aliolivi Год назад

WOW, he's absolutely right about the practicing. You must put yourself out there in SAFE yet new experiences and situations. I would highly suggest group dates for a while until you trust yourself and others more. 💜 I started dating at 16. It's interesting to deconstruct and think how I would approach it now.

@julietcunningham852 Год назад

As per the late Dr. Albert Ellis: What would the man of your dreams be doing with his spare time? Where is that? Go there. In person, not online.

@Lesh004 Год назад

Online isn’t bad, I’ve met some really nice guys online. And some really bad jerks in person. Both my best friend and myself met our husbands online.

@MijoShrek Год назад

@@Lesh004 How long ago was that? I would encourage to do both. After last couple years, people have become really flaky or non existent engagement. Younger Generations craving social connection & not building social skills to meet people of similar interest. Hear this constantly on these platforms from everyone right now.

@ShortGirlsClimbCounters Год назад

Thing is, I don't know where he would be. I have no clue where guys go.

@Tristum1970 Год назад

Loved the part about the ‘this is your friendship Group, not your romance group’

@Debora.14 Год назад

I’m with you sister! Stay strong. There’s nothing wrong with you. You are a beautiful, strong, amazing woman fiercely created in God’s imagine. You’ve got this!

@NaomiFelesita 5 месяцев назад

This was honestly a great answer. Really did something for me I did not expected. Thank you Madeline for being brave enough to ask your question!

@XxhimynameiscynxX Год назад

I dated a lot in life and insecurities held me back from pursuing a relationship until 27 years old. It is SO HARD to trust someone with your deepest insecurities especially in a social media era where the plastic lifestyle is glorified. Too many narcissistic people people out in the dating pool. The good ones are hiding away.

@venoztheproducer Год назад

True

@MariR-zm8wr 3 месяца назад

For u to date u got to be proactive. People say wait and will happen, it won't. Dating, sex and relationships kick u in the butt in terms of your pride and self-steem. If u dont make it easy for someone to approach u, they won't. Nowadays it is even worse 'cause u have to be connected through social media and tinder, etc... people are less and less pronned to tolerate anything that brings a little bit of a real challenge. We have a lot on our plate and we are not willing to endanger our rotine.

@Shelley464 Год назад

I’ve been watching so many clips and learning a lot, and recently I’d been wanting to hear some stories and advice about singleness. Thank you for taking this call! Very helpful and has my wheels turning about my own singleness.

@limitbreakplusultra7551 5 месяцев назад

I was married to the idea of meeting someone naturally IRL. I dropped it at 30 and jumped on an app because clearly my way wasn’t working. MORE people on apps are actually looking than people IRL. Much better luck.

@meganbaute4254 6 месяцев назад

I’d say that she would count her blessings. I’m 30 and have been in 2 abusive relationships. I’d rather be 30 and have never dated than 30 and devastated. That being said, my experience has taught me how to have boundaries and taught me good lessons in who to stay away from, but it has also left me with damage and trust issues for my future relationships.

@Gunngirl Год назад

I was approached a lot starting in high school but being plus size, others would laugh or act shocked and amused if a man showed interest. It was hard to feel attractive when others don’t think you can be desirable. I worried to much about what others thought and I regret it. I’m in my 40’s with only one real relationship in my past and it definitely affects me. I don’t think I’ll ever find true love.

@Big_talks. Год назад

You care to much about what people think and the reality is most ain’t happy with they own lives

@romans52345-cy3tq 5 месяцев назад

@@Big_talks.I 💯 agree with you on the latter but with the former, in life you do have to worry about what others think. I think it's very counterproductive for our culture to keep passing that advice, I know it sounds nice But it's actually sugar coating the reality of things and that is others opinions matter

@Big_talks. 5 месяцев назад

@@romans52345-cy3tq you’re right and that’s why I said he cares to much lol

@Big_talks. 5 месяцев назад

@@romans52345-cy3tq you can’t care to much man at the end of the day you have a life to live and progress in.

@Genius766 26 дней назад

Lose weight. Go out. Date online. You got your answer

@nleem3361 Год назад

Weight doesn't matter, but it helps. I'm a lady and my sister is much more fit and smaller than me, by about 50-60 lbs. She doesn't flirt. I've tried to teach her, but she doesn't like it. I flirt and am confident talking to guys even though I weigh over 200 lbs. She's always shocked by how much i get hit on. Here's the thing, men like women who make them feel good. I'm still single. Mostly because of bad choices I made dating the wrong guys when I was young. I gave everyone the benefit of the doubt which is great for friends, but not so good when choosing a life partner. Plus, I put too much into chemistry verse looking at common values, goals and the reality of where they were in life versus what I want in a husband. I'm meeting a lot of great guys now. Hopefully, one of them will be a good match. If not, I'm having fun and have a lot of great friends. I do break it off as soon as I know it's not a match and I usually know after 1-3 dates, so I'm not sleeping with all these guys, just some time on the phone, text and a few dates.

@lindokuhlekhoza7571 Год назад

I believe you b/c this is my exact situation. I am and have always been thin but I'm just not open to/interested in meeting new people/flirting. My sister on the other hand is heavier than me and is alwaysss dating someone, sometimes I get a bit jealous over how sociable others are🤭. I'm 21 so maybe when I'm older, I'll have some interest in dating

@verfed Год назад

200lbs?! No wonder you're still single. Men still gave you attention because so many of us will sleep with anything. But we're not going to marry a 200lb woman. Jesus! You have no right to weight that much. Not until you've popped out and nursed three or four kids. You have to earn the right to be a fat lady. And ONLY older mother and grandmas are allowed to be fat ladies.

@sarahkrick8667 Год назад

You have an amazing gift to speak directly to the hearts of people. What a service to humanity!

@zoetsahai Год назад

Omgosh I'm 31 and the same, I was just having this similar convo with a friend. I'm really going to try what he suggested, he was right about how I feel about me, it hurt. I'm going to reflect again on the negative thoughts I have about me. I have done this in the last 3 to 4 years but I haven't done something like really put myself in socially awkward situations consistently enough

@HeatherStrickler 5 месяцев назад

I’m 26 and never been in a relationship really either. I’ve gone on dates but never been serious with anyone. I’ve started to realize I’m just scared of people really seeing me. Flaws and all because it’s just scary. I’m working on being ok with that and realizing it’s ok if someone doesn’t like me, that doesn’t mean I suck it just means that relationship wasn’t for me and that’s ok.

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 4 месяца назад

🥹🙏🏿❤️

@AlbertoGarcia-qr7qg 3 месяца назад

Relationship is For everyone, it is just find the right person For you

@oncetwice5942 Год назад

I feel dating is a complete waste of time. I’ve only been in two serious relationships. The last person that I dated turned out to be the type that uses people. It’s been a month since I dated anyone and I plan on keeping it that way. My stress level would get so bad when it comes to dating whenever things start to go down hill.

@oursong4289 Год назад

Tbh if you need a partner, get married. Dating is exhausting especially when I look at younger people who are influencing the most of our society, older people are trying to keep up with them or getting insecurities and ruining perfect relationships.

@tiahnarodriguez3809 Год назад

@@oursong4289 That’s not how it works. Sure you could do a Mariah and Nick Cannon, but guess where that got them…. Divorced. It’s very rare for a “just get married” marriage to work. Plus, if you can’t even make it past the dating stage, how are you supposed to get through the engagement and marriage stage? This isn’t something you just do silly nilly it takes effort and commitment from both partners.

@oursong4289 Год назад

@@tiahnarodriguez3809 Believe me it works(for most people obviously, not all). It will work if we want to. Sure all of us want some rare connection and all but no one put enough effort to make the connection because we carry baggage of insecurities. Even if someone is being 100% devoted and loyal, the other person would treat it based on their own insecurities or the way they were treated in their past relationships(any relationship). That's the main problem here. And that is why I said "if you need a partner for life" get married to someone who wants the same from the other person and ready to offer the same (sounds like arranged? Lol yes that's the whole point. Be friends first before jumping into romantic relationship.) People are transparent when it comes to friendship. Otherwise dating would only get you heartbroken because maybe you qre looking for a someone to spend the life with and the other person is only looking for short term fun. They would tell you they want to get serious after sometime but they are always looking for another option always. Do it's better to clear things first. Otherwise we are complete ourselves. Spending single life is complete life too.

@funicon3689 6 месяцев назад

@@oursong4289actually "most people" get divorced

@Nat-lg2ks 3 месяца назад

At 30 Id never been on a date so I went online dating. I had 100 first dates with the mindset that I was going to do it to learn how to date and with no expectations. My 101st first date became my husband ❤

@DeadCat-42 19 дней назад

Unfortunately men can't do that. It would take me 200 years to get that many dates. One every two years is the best I could do and I'm six two, fit and owned a home at 26. My friend looks like Hercules, he's a great guy and he couldn't get a date without months of work online.

@Paradise-on-Earth Год назад

brilliant, brilliant work, John! So attentive, respectful, wise... and PRESENT. Thanks for being a male showing that males can be all of this!

@mrskitty7929 Год назад

Oh John 🤦🏻‍♀️ she can’t bring them to her if she doesn’t know where they are. When you have a gathering, ask a couple friends to bring someone you might like to meet. Tell ALL your friends you’re looking for a date/guy/etc. Ask friends to have a dinner or lunch and include a guy for you to meet. And yea, realize you are worth having a guy you love who loves you so you are open to meet people. But please have a list of reasonable standards they have to meet (employed, same religion, similar goals)

@CDX7 5 месяцев назад

I was 32 and same situation. Spent my 20s chasing career and moving around. Every day that went by I got more insecure due to my perceived expectations of what women would want. Who wants to date someone who has never been in a relationship? One day I got upset and made a bumble account. Maybe 2 weeks on the app and I found my wife. One day she told me that my lack of baggage in dating was actually a positive. Almost passed out. All those years of insecurity for nothing. Anyways, don’t give up hope

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 4 месяца назад

This gives me hope. Congratulations 🎉

@bundlewade 5 месяцев назад

That question at 4:12 was so eye-opening to me! I've always struggled with my appearance, and I've only had one boyfriend (back in college, almost 20 years ago). I've not been asked out so no opportunities to date... I've also struggled lately with people ghosting or ignoring me, and I'm processing the latest of those situations. This is important: "Is your struggle with appearance sth that's been noted on you or that you bring to a group or to another person?" Even though I did/do not get compliments from guys or anything, I think I've thought of myself as uglier than I really am. As I'm just average, but not particularly hideous as I need to remember this, AND not bring that insecurity into groups/new people.

@sarac3325 Год назад

I didn’t really date until I was in my late 20s due to being introverted with low self esteem. My husband is extroverted so it helped when we started dating.

@nobodysperfect06 Год назад

Are you saying that you was a woman didn't have your first official boyfriend until like around 27 or 28?

@ShortGirlsClimbCounters Год назад

This is me. 28 and too introverted and shy, and I have no clue how to meet guys. It's especially hard because I only date within my church as it wouldn't make sense to end up with someone with different beliefs. Makes the dating pool incredibly small.

@h.w.4482 3 месяца назад

if you're still looking and near a bigger city/town, even if you don't live there and it's 10-15 minutes away, you could try going to multiple churches there and asking middle aged attendees or church leaders if they know anyone around your age and single; that is if you don't want to spend the time go up to every man you think looks nice individually and introduce yourself just to find out a lot of them are not looking or in a relationship already

@nicoleyoshihara4011 Год назад

Having higher standards means you don't date just anyone. Know your worth 🥳🎉💯❤

@TheBlessedQueen2000 5 месяцев назад

Absolutely ❤

@DominickSpano Год назад

I haven't even seen her and I would date her. Lol. She seems more than charming.

@paulo7507 Год назад

you sound desperate m8

@DominickSpano Год назад

@@paulo7507 I was being nice man. I am w/ someone. Can't someone be nice w/ out jerks like you?

@mark.daniel Год назад

@@paulo7507 and you sound superficial.

@mba2ceo Год назад

That might be true but she probably would NOT give U the rime of day

@DominickSpano Год назад

@@mba2ceo Your a total ahole jerk.

@ladyg3nius Год назад

I am a 40year old virgin and since I turned 30 it has been a turn off to almost everyone I tell.

@manosijroy8282 Год назад

Are you a man or a woman? I am a guy who turned 22 almost 5 weeks ago and never had a girlfriend and never had a real kiss with a girl except getting kissed on the cheek by a girl when we were in 4th grade but we were kids. I use dating apps and sometimes get matched by 18-23 age girls but they ghost me for no reason. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago but got rejected. I also chat with some girls on Instagram whom I knew in high school and they are 20-22 year olds now and I had the best chat with a girl for the past 6-7 days. She is 20 and I knew her in school and she was 2 years my junior. She seems so much better than other girls I have chatted with. I kinda messed up a bit today by giving her a cheesy compliment today but I apologized and said that I just wanted to make her smile and she thanked me and said it was sweet of me. Btw I have no idea whether I have any chance with her or not.

@ladyg3nius Год назад

@@manosijroy8282 woman. 22 is a good age to be what you are. But don't be afraid to get rejected. Date if you can. Get to know people

@krugcpa 6 месяцев назад

She has a really great voice and attitude. Weight is an issue only if extreme, for some prospects like curvy or full-figured. A nice smile and a good attitude overcomes a lot. Good point by the host about how she projects to others.

@Texan_Gal Год назад

After many relationships from hell (I should be on Dates From Hell) and an abusive marriage…..I’m actually jealous. Never would I have thought I’d say this. But, true.

@kayabe856 Год назад

Exactly! I feel the same way.

@szechuon6971 5 месяцев назад

I hope this woman found someone! I just want to say I met my soon to be fiancé when I was 30, only had one sort term relationship and a whole lot of singleness and rejection and allowing myself to be strung along. It’s hard but please don’t ever give up! If God knows it’s on your heart, stop doubting his willingness and start trusting his ability to make it work. When I started trusting Him and his ability, I found myself treating OLD like a job interview only I got to be both the candidate and the recruiter. I allowed myself to go on dates with multiple men, and found myself to be relaxed. If there’s a connection, great! If not, no problem. And then I met my man. Not saying that will work always, but if you remove the “ughhh I gotta find someone” from the equation, you’re gonna be much more level headed and relaxed. Also - have your priorities sorted out!

@AshleyLebedev Год назад

I can hear it in her too, we love you lady! I empower you! One trick I learned in my 30s was to treat myself like I wanted to see others treat me. To stop sending the magnet of want out and start to turn it onto myself with so much slow gratitude for what I’d done already and who I may truly was underneath what I thought I was. When you love yourself like that and live the life of the person you’d be if YOU believed THAT level of love about self, the rest gets magnetized to you. I used to shut my eyes and pretend I was sitting in some house in the dark looking at me from the shadows to see what others might see or what I saw of myself and I amped up the love about 10000 degrees and kept doing that as a meditation to notice not someone else, but to notice stuff I maybe never saw about myself. And you do that and tweak that scene until you take off what isn’t yours and fall into love with yourself, your looks, your energy, etc. If you repair that view the universe brings you something like a baseball. And it’s so healing. I send you so much love. Nothing is wrong with you.

@JesusisTruth77 5 месяцев назад

I'm a 24 single lady and have never been in a relationship nor on a date yet. I've been proposed to, twice ironically, once by a college classmate and once by a mom who wanted an arrangement marriage. However, I'm waiting for the right man to share myself with. Because each date is a moment you share your heart with that person, and I want that to be with my future husband.

@stefaniamalatesta8076 Год назад

Dating nowadays is a waste of time.

@DeadCat-42 19 дней назад

Exactly I read that %68 of young men don't date at all. I think that number is false. It's closer to %92

@grndiesel 14 дней назад

Thank you so much for focusing on the health benefits of not being overweight. People get way to touchy about this topic. It's not shallow, its about personal health.

@juliescott6247 Год назад

I am 57 and have only had 5 blind dates. I understand how life passes by. Work acholic.

@manosijroy8282 Год назад

Are you a man or a woman? Did you have a gf or bf before? I am a guy who turned 22 just 18 days ago and never even had a girlfriend and it's bothering me a lot. I had crush on 2 girls in my college few months ago and both rejected me and I use 4 dating apps but hardly get matches and even they ghost me for no reason. I also follow some girls on Instagram and chat with like 4 of them. I knew 3 of them in my high school days and they are 20-22 year olds but they hardly chat much with me and their replies are slow. I also started chatting with another girl who is 18 turning 19 after 2 months and she was suggested to me on IG as we have a common follower and she said she is fine chatting with me but her replies are slow or one word maybe because she doesn't know me and we go to different college but still live in the same city.

@georgejones8727 5 месяцев назад

I’m not a woman or overweight but I still get a lot from this. Thanks!

@emackinaz196 4 месяца назад

I feel her pain I’m in the sort of same boat now. I’m 46 and can’t get a someone to even date at all. Haven’t dated in almost 5 years! I keep praying for God to bring me a Godly spouse and it never happens.

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 4 месяца назад

Keep trusting. He makes all things beautiful in His time 🙏🏿❤️

@bluemoon8498 3 месяца назад

Ah never got past the first date. I only had about 6 dates in all my 41 years. The others just rejected me on dating apps. Welcome to tfl town.

@AwesomePikachu808 5 месяцев назад

I’m happily single and wouldn’t trade it for the world. It’s helped a lot with my issues, and forced me to take responsibility of my life. I have goals I want to achieve before getting married and I’m just not ready for that serious of a commitment yet. I don’t hate men, however in this phase I’m better off single. There’s no problem if you’re single or if you’re married. That’s upto you. I just hate online dating, I don’t like to put my pictures on social media, that makes it harder for me to date. I have a RU-vid addiction, still trying to work that out.

@dallinshumway7188 Год назад

I think it's funny whenever Dr. John says "internets" like it's plural

@liviyatulbya481 Год назад

She can call my brother, he is another 30 that can’t get someone, and the dude is smart, excellent body shape, good looking…

@musicgal9830 6 месяцев назад

Set them up then!

@antilaw9911 Год назад

I didnt start dating till late 40"s. Lost virginity then too. And im attractive according to many. Pressure of society makes us think we have to follow suit to be somebody. And believe me, more than made up for all the lost years of real sex!!!! You think your missing out but your not. Those who wait or try later in years are more likely yearning for true love and not just go through the ringer.

@manosijroy8282 Год назад

Damn man and here I am 22 and feeling I am running out of time as I am still single so I can't even imagine being this way even by the time I will be 25 let alone late 40s. I am a 22 year old guy who never had a girlfriend before. I got rejected by 4 girls recently and recently I asked out my childhood friend too who is 21 turning 22 soon and she actually replied yeah ok but she isn't that active on Instagram so she gives replies after weeks or even a month. We decided tho we will meet some weekend but still idk when exactly due to her being so inactive on insta. I got crush on 3 more girls for the past 5 days in a class where I started going for exam preparation for getting into MBA as I am graduating college very soon but I just have a massive crush on one of them who is also 22 or maybe 23. She initiated convo with me saying hi and telling her name and asking mine last week Thursday(our first class there) and we did shake hand and it was the first time I shake hand with a girl. I really can't stop thinking about this girl as she is very pretty and she is very sweet as she tries to initiate convo with me asking whether I had lunch and yesterday she also asked how far my home is from the classes but I just answer what she asks and I am too shy to initiate a convo further with her but I really wanna get to know her and idk whether it would be fine to message her on Whatsapp by seeing her number from our class whatsapp group. I also have been chatting with another girl who is 19 year old on Instagram for over a month. We both used to be in the same school but didn't know each other in school and now we are in different colleges but her college is very near to my home. We share about everything and send each other virtual hugs too. I wanna ask her out too but I am scared due to my previous rejections and she still seems to see me as a friend. Now I am confused too as I like this 19 year old girl, my childhood friend and also this new 22/23 year old on whom I newly got crush.