I Was Mentally, Emotionally and Physically Abusive (Can I Get Her Back?)

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I Was Mentally, Emotionally and Physically Abusive (Can I Get Her Back?)
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@briskettacos 5 месяцев назад

"My victim escaped, how do I get her back? I miss my litlle punching bag 😢"

@zammymynakersnackstbmoth 4 месяца назад

Seriously. F this guy.

@lovelylipbonesouwwwwwwwolv2198 4 месяца назад

For real! He doesn't see a human but a punching bag!

@tankdesign1 4 месяца назад

Yep/

@jacquidanke1263 4 месяца назад

THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT MY MOUTH SAID OUTLOUD! PISSED OFF ALERT. NO EXCUSE FOR ABUSE!

@musicneurons7807 4 месяца назад

@jacquidanke1263 wait does he squally say these words? Like Is this a quote?

@andreack9983 4 месяца назад

The truly repentant thing to do is to RESPECT HER DECISION TO LEAVE YOU.

@heatherbukowski2102 4 месяца назад

Yep. Respect her wish for freedom.

@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 4 месяца назад

He needs to give her what she deserves! Her peace, and calm without him!!!

@user-jq4im6rw5p 4 месяца назад

Hundred percent, bro.

@deirdremorris9234 4 месяца назад

EXACTLY

@tegannottelling 4 месяца назад

absolutely

@user-uc7vp2dx5k 3 месяца назад

As a DV emergency councilor, I feel the need to mention something. This bullshit? The crying, the begging, is glorified by romance books. He does not mean it. I’ve seen all kinds of abusers, police officers, doctors, and the like, fall all over themselves in court and in front of the survivor. It is always 110% of the time a manipulation tactic. True remorse is leaving you alone. True remorse is understanding you lost the relationship. Don’t buy it

@sthrnbll2u65 2 месяца назад

@user-uc7vp2dx5k i have a question , where would a DV couselor be found?

@user-uc7vp2dx5k 2 месяца назад

@@sthrnbll2u65 Most DV agencies in your city would have one or contact or the National DV Hotline

@MaanSelene 2 месяца назад

Even before starting the actual conversation, this dude was throwing red flags around. The hyping John up, the saying how he was honored to talk to a fine man like John? Men don't do that, unless they want something from the other guy. In this case; sympathy.

@rachelm126 2 месяца назад

This!!!

@skooflefloofandfriends4557 2 месяца назад

Exactly!

@estherbjerga523 3 месяца назад

Never go back into a relationship with someone who spits in your face. That person hates you.

@THEREALBILL03 3 месяца назад

💯💯💯💯

@Merell564 3 месяца назад

YES!

@jojo2007ish 3 месяца назад

That part

@monicadhenderson8670 3 месяца назад

Absolutely!! To spit in someone’s face is horrific!!!

@iiAmStarFire_ 3 месяца назад

Me right now😢😢

@brunoqnzbk7891 4 месяца назад

Men are so quick to ditch the wives if they cheat, but will expect women to forgive if they're being physically harmed by them. Unbelievable.

@Blakmagic88 4 месяца назад

THIS!!!!

@user-dl1yv1ng7r 4 месяца назад

Exactly

@veggieeater 4 месяца назад

Oh they are very very quick with a vengence, and rightfully so. The frustrating part is the fact that women don't react this way.

@daniella8400 4 месяца назад

@@veggieeaterexactly! I left my husband after cheating and encourage all women to do so because they don’t stop.

@kelloggs7447 4 месяца назад

That was a powerful episode ❤

@makeupandtheology1821 Год назад

Does anyone notice how these men are so respectful toward other men, but they just don't think as highly of women?

@Blakmagic88 4 месяца назад

Yep! In general, I believe males do not respect females in the same way they respect other males. Their is usually an undercurrent of violence and sizing up with male interactions. By default women are not as strong/violent and therefor cannot force their will in the same manner.

@sommerfranklin9421 4 месяца назад

Honestly I believe that these men don’t actually even like women let alone love them. Women are objects to these types of men. Possessions that belong to them. So they treat them as such. And when they get to whining or trying to get back with them is because they haven’t found someone else to take her place to mistreat. Plus they put in all that work to break down that woman and it’s easier to just harass her or manipulate her to come back than to start over 🤦🏽‍♀️. I know from experience

@Mytesmyth 4 месяца назад

That’s cause y’all play too many games. Y’all literally ruined our mental health it’s not even funny. You try being dumped relationship after relationship and see if you have a positive outlook still. I was 14 when I made my first abusive act and it took me ten years to realize you females ain’t s***

@hopefulfilled9519 4 месяца назад

Yes!!!! I see this all the time

@elithunder 4 месяца назад

Depends on what circles you're running in. This is not true of "men", just some men. I guarantee you, the courtesy John was showing him was because he was on camera. The way he indicated what his inner circle of men would've done to him if he confessed what this man did is indicative of what most men would have done to this guy. There wouldn't be a need for respect, just painful accountability.

@ss021070 3 месяца назад

If this guy isn't the universal RED FLAG to all women who ever considered going back because he "changed". THIS IS THAT GUY. Listen closely ladies.

@Kristenoyinbo 3 месяца назад

These demons never change.

@annmariemarin5513 3 месяца назад

Amen!

@MaliCat2.0 2 месяца назад

Yah 10 months in! Come onnnnn

@alladreamwedreamed 2 месяца назад

I feel so much compassion for his ex-wife. I hope she is feeling safe and supported as she puts the pieces together and moves on with her life.

@dahliacheung6020 Месяц назад

@@annmariemarin5513John said it well when he stated that this man's wife is the poster of him at his worst and he wants to get her back to change that picture of him- but thankfully that's not his choice. I'm glad he also pointed out that no matter how impressive all the work he's done on himself in terms of therapy/weight loss/work that this guy is still entitled in relationships and has done ZERO work on this. This guy got some serious truth but that sigh he gave when John told him he couldn't do with work to get his trophy back... It was very telling. This was everything this guy needed to hear but I can't help feel he's not gonna take it, just because they rarely do.

@LetJesusTouchUrLife 2 месяца назад

"I miss my wife like crazy." "Your EX-wife?" Dr. John is totally onto him. It's not at all about her. It's about him.

@leahartlee29 4 дня назад

He misses abusing someone. I say keep running ex wife!!

@annette2326 4 месяца назад

He overcame his trauma. Bravo! 10 months. Are you kidding? What about HER trauma!

@nicoleowens2318 4 месяца назад

Right? I left my ex 9 years ago and I'm still single with severe PTSD and brain damage but he still dreams about us getting back together. It's sick. It's always a fantasy in their head. And when you're actually with them, the fantasy becomes about other people and you become the obstacle in their head, a burden and "the problem." Sick.

@stdeborah460 4 месяца назад

I'm sure her trauma is way worse that wimpy cry baby James. I seriously doubt he'd even attempt to hit a man. He cries and is remorseful only for himself and the impact that her leaving had on him. Where is his concern for her mental well being? Has he sent her money or tried to help her financially in any way she she left him? He only loves himself.

@testtest2609 4 месяца назад

@@stdeborah460They're never brave with men coz they there are consequences

@cruiseny26 3 месяца назад

That’s how you know it’s not meaningful change. It’s manipulative. This is the cycle of abuse.

@PandoraBear357 3 месяца назад

I worked in one place longer than he has ever done when I was a teenager. 10 months of working is not a long time😂

@Angela-ne9cy Год назад

As an abuse survivor, this one was hard to listen to. At his core, James still believes his EX-wife "belongs" to him. It's always about what the abuser wants. They always put their own needs above their victim's. And here we are again: James wants her back so James will call a radio show with the express purpose of getting what he wants. Red flag!!!! I hope his ex-wife stays far away from him.

@TulipsNTattoos Год назад

That was my thought too… what does Ex Wife want? CLEARLY, to stay away from him. She deserves a NEW life- without him, ever around again. He won’t like that.

@ruthiedavis8786 Год назад

I totally agree 💯

@sensimania Год назад

I'm so glad that attempt to adopt NINE children fell through

@blahblahblah4544 Год назад

He's still struggling with his entitlement. I liked the doc pointing out "You mean your EX wife." Dude has to realize his wife don't need him and that he don't need her either. It's okay to love people but people are free beings. The best way to love is to let go and allow people to stay. Not manipulate and beg. Dude has gotta learn to become a patient and loving for the sake of becoming patient and loving.

@johnjayandabackpack644 Год назад

Sorry you had to go through that, you didn’t deserve that and deserve so much more, a protector not a weak minded individual

@emilycgardiner 3 месяца назад

Listening to an abuser lay out the path of how verbal abuse turns into punching walls, turns into physical abuse is wild.

@Circa2000s 2 месяца назад

Right! Like, so you know exactly what tf you are doing!???? Disgusting!!

@gabsmarg4048 2 месяца назад

Literally!! the verbal abuse is the lightning and then we all know what the thunderclap is…

@ingrid5944 2 месяца назад

To think that this almost happened to me is insane.

@Nastasyashanti 2 месяца назад

They perfectly show it in the series Maid. Before hurting you they start hurting space around you.

@emilycgardiner Месяц назад

@@ingrid5944 so glad you’re safe now♥️

@barbstotter7288 3 месяца назад

My ex husband had the most amazing tansformative and spiritual turnaround after I left. I should have stayed gone. It was all an act.

@dimphosweet 2 месяца назад

Mine even "became born again" 😂😂😂😂 thank God I didn't fall for that because he went on and became worse and when all else dialed told people I tried to kill him that's why he didn't take me back (at this point I had not seen him for 8 years and because I refused so that was his way if trying to get me to react - through rumours)

@user-on2lw7ip5b 2 месяца назад

I used to believe that my abuser would change and I would leave and he would do exactly this. I honestly believe that this man could have changed. However, I also feel like the chances are slim.

@natoskull2 2 месяца назад

@@user-on2lw7ip5b Close to zero. This is a power thing. They're egotistical and narcissistic beings. They don't know how to accept a "no" for an answer, and much less if it's coming from a person they see as an inferior to them. This creep calling should actually be locked up forever. They don't even regret their doings in all honesty. All women with psychos like that should just dispose of them. There's NO change you as a woman or anyone else can do in such a mind, so just leave it be (leave it follow its course), and that's it. You can't help what doesn't wanna be helped.

@barb7124 Месяц назад

Mine too

@ahhwe-any7434 25 дней назад

Follow your intuition they said Like the universe? 🤔🤷🏻‍♀️ bc it's hard to compartmentalize navigate & weed out everything after all that. Idk how to feel or think about anything other than that's bad, be gone. I love her, plz don't let me f her up. Oh good gah bc Now I have a kid w/ this fam... & I'm.. fd. I already feel like something's up when his mom asking what city I'm working in so she can magically make me suit her "plans." No, either she's just trying to be nosey. & Or she's just a hater. Have something to talk about bc they're lacking or giving him clues to harass or stalk me. Thanks gah I said it in a tone where I acted like such an an annoying wannabe snot bc that place is just so sh. Not only is it in the xyz area, it's xyz levels up, & imagine going to xyz location trying to cause a commotion there tho. Wheeew we. But only in their addict & enabling so called Christian fam will only 1 thing remain. The persistence in all that ignorance where in their world, all they need is talking to get by in life. I didn't say effective communication, they simply just meant talking. Even if they fished it out the air, that's what they're doing. Anywho makes me sad I'm in the same exact damn county.... How is it cheaper to get married than it is to divorce? Like we're separated! The end. I never knew ish about marriage, obviously. I'm glad we were poor. I'm just sad he's really dumb... Bc it's still gonna cost me if I want to finish this off quicker & if I don't make sense these rules make less sense.

@gloriahui3490 Год назад

It is not your ex wife’s obligation to help YOU feel better about the horrific things you did to her. Go away, leave her alone. Show your love by letting her live her best life without you

@briskettacos 9 месяцев назад

Exactly. He still feels entitled to her time, understanding, empathy, and forgiveness.

@KD-gd5oq 5 месяцев назад

THIS

@jacquidanke1263 4 месяца назад

PERIOD!

@snudder.s.m.l.5026 4 месяца назад

Well said.. ❤

@indoora 4 месяца назад

Well said.

@annalove9593 4 месяца назад

Men are unaliving their spouses at an enormous rate. She got away once; he won’t allow her to be able to escape him again.

@thatsthejobbb8587 4 месяца назад

Should see it in Australia. A man ran his wife over on a tractor with a slasher attachment. I'm a migrant here and never heard anything like this before I came here but these types of stories are so regular and nonchalant on the news it's scary!!!

@mercedesharrison5550 4 месяца назад

My gosh my heart for her 😩🌸. A man almost k’d me by essentially choking me. Seeing his face as he was over me with pure rage knowing death was what he wanted for me. He even tried to bite my face while he was “choking” me. But being on the other side of that. Seeing it up close. Feeling your body getting weaker like you’re about to fade away. Your vision starting to darken. It feels so wild and frightening to be up that close and seeing this person coming towards you is nothing like witnessing it secondhand or hearing it through an outside source. The feeling is almost indescribable but you can feel the evil. I cannot imagine through her eyes to see that coming at her and then penetrating, the sound of the tractor, knowing someone you slept next to is now k’llng you. Knowing this is the end in just a gruesome, barbaric, gory way. My gosh that’s horrifying. It saddens me to hear that it’s almost normalized.

@annalove9593 4 месяца назад

It isn’t easy to hear but grave yards are saturated with women who we unalived by men who “loved them.” One of my cousins was shot to death by her husband while holding their baby. The caller only wants his possession bk. These unalivers are getting younger.

@anns9688 4 месяца назад

This is so true and it is not talked about enough.

@rhondacrosswhite8048 3 месяца назад

That's why so many states file the battery charges against the husband when she has to call them. So many women give in to his and his family's pleas to drop the charges. When she drops the charges, the police take her from her home in a body bag because the husband swore that no woman would ever have him locked up again. When the state files the abuse charges, the wife can't drop them. I know this from personal experience before i finally divorced him and moves three states away.

@racheltarentino3314 3 месяца назад

The only reason i can think of why james would have called in is because he knows his victim listens to the show and is now trying to get her pity

@terrywade3696 2 месяца назад

Racheltarentino: I agree with you 100%! Everything coming out of his mouth is a manipulation and lies! He thinks that if he says the “right things” and he can get John Delony to agree with him, it gives him credibility! He knows she listens to this show and I’m betting, she’s blocked him on every avenue and that’s why he’s using Delony’s show to get his message to her. I hope she runs far, far away and never looks back!

@BigHeartNoBS Месяц назад

Exactly. This whole thing is a manipulation tactic.

@godsboricuachick85 Месяц назад

I agree

@sheiladiaz2359 Месяц назад

😢totally

@wayasaunooke3424 Месяц назад

Bingo! 🎯 More manipulation from a pos.

@mackinacisland3825 3 месяца назад

NEVER, NEVER RETURN to an abuser. In case I didn't stress this enough, NEVER.

@argieholliman6231 Месяц назад

Say it again NEVER !

@AK20741 Месяц назад

NEVER

@caroldorsett8170 17 дней назад

NEVER!!

@leahartlee29 4 дня назад

EXACTLY! when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time!!

@southernlight6 4 месяца назад

No women who was abused should ever take the abuser back.. not ever.

@lwitte8857 3 месяца назад

Exactly. Do abusers typically change? No. Can abusive people change? Sadly, it doesn’t happen often but it can happen. Should an abuse victim go back to someone who has changed ( meaningful or not)? No. If you have abused someone, especially for an extended period of time, then your relationship to that person has fundamentally changed. You cannot walk back the dynamic you have established. You will always be the person in power and they will always be the person trying to comply. Being a shitty ex is something you can grow from. Being an abusive ex is something you move on from.

@LLandS18 2 месяца назад

If only it was that easy. Does trauma bonds there's PTSD there's coercive control. There's gaslighting. There's manipulation. There's love bombing. There's the sunk cost fallacy. There's so much to why people stay with abusers. Least of all is the most dangerous time for a domestic abuse. Victim is when they're leaving the relationship. The only other time in the relationship that comes close to being as dangerous is when they are pregnant or recently postpartum. There's a reason why you always hear about men murdering their pregnant wives or The wise that they recently just gave birth.

@zoe9190 2 месяца назад

They shouldnt, but it happens like 90% of the time. All the excuses in the world, they leave once their tipping point has been reached. Men and women go back to their abuser if not the same day, within a week or two. men and women mostly abuse differently, but there are enough women who abuse like men do and vice versa. People are horrible, but i would make it gender neutral statement. Men arent the only abusers and women arent only victims. Everyone is capable of being abusive

@kimberlyfloyd1009 2 месяца назад

I agree even if tomorrow my ex-husband came to me and apologize for everything that you did to me and the way he feels like he didn’t abuse me although he was doing it the whole time I would never take him back in fact the abuse is the one thing that makes you stay away for good!!!!

@AndrewDaniele87 2 месяца назад

Or man, just saying

@elizabethpieters7798 Год назад

He wants control. He wants power. He cant handle the fact that a woman found the strenght to leave him. He is dangerous.

@GameChanger597 11 месяцев назад

Extremely! And I'm disgusted Dr. John didn't say more to put him in his place 😠

@ashleenicole71 8 месяцев назад

@liveyourlifeextra4576 Eh Dr John reads people well. He even said. I want to say things but won't say it. So he's aware..

@KingOfKings__ 7 месяцев назад

Or he wants to change.

@meesh1002 6 месяцев назад

He’s even trying to manipulate the conversation with Dr John by opening up with how much he loves him… trying to win him over lol

@richerDiLefto 5 месяцев назад

@@KingOfKings__ Maybe, but that ship sailed for that particular woman.

@boogieuggie7865 3 месяца назад

"Malignant narcisist" need I say more? Kudos to her for leaving him.

@KB86-uq8pu Месяц назад

I do wonder if narcs of that level can be considered to have full capacity to consent get married, because essentially they have an empathy deficiency which means they will probably always have essentially a 3yr old's understanding of marriage. Like when the little girl says she'll marry Daddy because in that moment she's sure she wants Daddy to herself for the rest of her life. She's not thinking about providing for her Dad's needs for the rest of his life at all.

@SherryONeill 14 дней назад

Oh Yeah ToDay I am Really Feeling The Irritation Of It All I Have To Keep ReMinding myself That Adonai Sees And Knows All About It And He Will ReCompense And Vindicate

@anafesmire-chronicaf6153 7 дней назад

as soon as he started reading a written out story ...........I knew . " idont care about impressing people" and then a laugh , always the laugh .

@rachaelrobirds5820 2 месяца назад

9 children almost got adopted ? Thank god that didn’t happen ! Saved 9 children from physical abuse

@dodgyyoutuber9560 5 месяцев назад

Love how he responds to “my wife” with “your EX wife?”

@dianatwum7493 4 месяца назад

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 exactly

@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 4 месяца назад

He's still VERY possessive of her....

@joshuamontgomery0 4 месяца назад

I fist pumped the air when he did this!

@rarebird_82 4 месяца назад

That made me smile Ouch 🤭🦂 haha

@AshleySpeaks4U 3 месяца назад

Right. He needs to remember she is GONE. I was abused and someone asked if I would go back. "HELL no-are you NUTS?" She was actually serious. Barf. No. Not going back.

@CassieNishti 4 месяца назад

If his ex wife ever hears this, she will hear all of his tone of voice changes, his sickening chuckle, and his crocodile tears, and her skin will crawl knowing he has not changed.

@veverest2155 3 месяца назад

She’s in the comments. He’s repeated this behavior with two more girlfriends and apparently did a single day in jail. She has no intentions of going back. Thank god.

@Jetsi79 3 месяца назад

@@veverest2155 I’m so glad she didn’t go back to him!!

@samanthapateman8054 3 месяца назад

100% agree it’s so fake. He’s just doing this to look like he is doing something while not doing anything.

@Dinnerthedaythebanksareopen 2 месяца назад

@@veverest2155Where is her comment? Has it been deleted?

@grace52775 2 месяца назад

@@DinnerthedaythebanksareopenI'm also curious about her comments.

@Esrohlrig 3 месяца назад

I always find it ironic that controlling people will attempt to control everything around them, which is impossible to actually do. But refuse to control the only thing they have any ability to control….. Themselves…

@nikkimollard5097 3 месяца назад

Perfectly said... The only control we have, is of ourselves.

@christopherhansen6078 3 месяца назад

DAMN!

@ludmilamaiolini6811 3 месяца назад

Oh, they control themselves pretty well. They don’t hurt people because of lack of control, they do it intentionally

@susangrande8142 3 месяца назад

My mother, who was abusive, was also very controlling. My husband pointed out to me that she thought she could control outcomes of situations too, as well as other people’s behavior. She was a very weak person.

@kathydurow6814 3 месяца назад

My Dad, towards the end of his life when he was old & sick, admitted just this - that he refused to be controlled but wanted to control those around him. Still insisted on paying the bills from his hospital bed when on chemo/radiation therapy in his second marriage. She was earning most of the money in their marriage so hopefully it wasn't as physically abusive as his first.

@alexi5903 2 месяца назад

His constant laugh/chuckle is so scary. Makes you wonder if he would laugh in her face as she cried or begged for him to stop

@SherryONeill 14 дней назад

Oh Like A Malignant Narcissist,.... I am Tired Of These Demonic Entitys Getting AWay With What They Do

@Howdy1957 День назад

That really stood out to me,too. That cackle was very telling!

@Howdy1957 День назад

Why would people like this ever consider bringing kids into this environment!

@laurathuijls2630 4 месяца назад

He’s still an abuser. He says he lost control when he beat his ex wife up. But he didn’t. He was so much in control that he knew how much beating she could take before it would cause permanent injuries. He was exact in how he treated her. He has not changed one bit as he still hasn’t fully taken responsibility for his abuse. If he had, he would never consider trying to work his way back into his ex-wife’s life.

@HildaDeerfox 4 месяца назад

Yes absolutely!

@Chantilly907 4 месяца назад

Thank you for saying this! This is my ex husband. And then so sorry and do so much self work and then I stay, but only a matter of time before he doesn't feel he is getting what he is owed and the cycle goes again. Almost like he felt because he did all this good stuff, I owed him. Actually the more 'good' he did the more control he felt he had over me. He almost killed me 2x during our marriage but stopped choking me just in time for me not to die(still had bruised vocal chords and passed out). Spent 1 day in jail for his multiple 'misdemeanor ' domestic assults. Took me 7 years to leave. I'm ashamed at myself for staying so long.

@t.aronsen8466 4 месяца назад

@@Chantilly907you are strong ❤

@fairlind 4 месяца назад

@@Chantilly907The fact that you stayed a long time has nothing to do with you. It’s all about programming and automatic behavior, and you were thoroughly programmed to stay and take it. The only thing you willfully caused was breaking the program. Congratulations.

@jvance6 4 месяца назад

@@Chantilly907I'm so glad you escaped. Even if it tool 7 years. You found a way out, cause if you hadn't he probably would've killed you.

@calliemalugin2338 Год назад

“We we’re trying to adopt nine children, but it fell through.” Thank God!!!

@lovecats6856 Год назад

What a baby cry. He wanted those kids as a possession to show everyone how wonderful he is. Then his wife would feel guilty to try to get away.

@AlyssaTaylor9 Год назад

Right? Adopting ONE child is difficult enough, and it should be difficult. How in the hell did he think he, an abusive 20-something dirtbag addicted to Marijuana and unable to hold a steady job would be able to adopt NINE CHILDREN???

@petracain6794 Год назад

So it's true. I did hear correctly. I will be dannngggg!!!

@bodhisattva2348 Год назад

Those 9 kids dodged some major bullets

@aprilchow-chee5281 Год назад

He wanted to burden her to stay with him

@dluxsolutionsathome5162 2 месяца назад

Gaining the trust back of someone you physically abused is probably the most narcissistic ask of all time.

@megazw7740 2 месяца назад

To this man's ex wife, if you're watching this or listening to this... never go back. Never. You deserve so so much better. He won't change.

@jibbyjabs Год назад

The audacity. His tears were very well timed . You blew it dude. Stay away from her and every other female until you've done YEARS of intensive therapy.

@scorchedearthcreations Год назад

He miraculously switched them off very quickly too.

@summerdowlig Год назад

I'm sure he wasn't crying while he spit and hit her.

@jibbyjabs Год назад

@@summerdowlig exactly, that's what I meam by his well timed tears it's always when they are required by someone else to address what they did

@pattimartin859 Год назад

The night before I left, my ex finally came home. He sat across from me and cried, "I just don't know what to do anymore ". All well timed crap . He has the audacity all these years later to ask....."how is your mom". Men like James don't change, they just get better at how they hide their abuse.

@jwhite5396 Год назад

@@pattimartin859 Yeah. And for him to know to squeeze her leg so no one could see the bruise, that’s planned just like his tears. He beat her up and spit on her because she couldn’t find where he went for a walk. That poor woman was probably always walking on eggshells with him. I’m glad she got away.

@haolegirl7230 Год назад

"I want my wife back". This could turn into a stalker situation real quick. He needs to accept she is NEVER coming back and truly being sorry would be accepting that.

@Shadowwind4 Год назад

Are you looking for a husband?

@InTheNameOfLife1 Год назад

Exactly. If he was actually sorry he’d realize the trauma he inflicted on her and would stay away from her forever. And he’d know he needs years of therapy before ever attempting a relationship with anyone again

@sdl5731 Год назад

Yep!!!

@charminglove8594 11 месяцев назад

@@Shadowwind4????

@jdj2022 11 месяцев назад

She’s not his wife, she is a survivor.

@nikkid4890 3 месяца назад

He scares me. He needs to just leave his ex wife alone! She has the right to heal and move on.

@biancacaputo7174 2 месяца назад

My wife divorced me and I'm overcoming my traumas. I started a business and lost weight and I miss controlling my ex ... Basically.

@beautifulmess2023 14 дней назад

@@biancacaputo7174 what a random share. Leave her alone

@Trogdor1365 3 месяца назад

You know he is downplaying his abuse. I can only imagine how bad it was based on how bad what he admitted to was.

@andrea9797mdd Год назад

You don't get to "be proud" of your ex wife who had the wherewithal to escape your abuse. This guy is unreal!

@anyagee9467 Год назад

YES - Just saying " I am proud of her " in this context is a RED FLAG!

@rebeccashields9626 Год назад

Agreed. It made my skin boil. You don’t get to be proud of her, you don’t own her.

@tubeloobs Год назад

@@rebeccashields9626 Dr. Delony doesn't own James either yet he said more than once that he was proud of him. What on earth are you guys talking about?

@anyagee9467 Год назад

@@tubeloobs CONTEXT - this guy reached out to Dr Delony for help. His EX ran away from him and his abuse - he is in no position to comment on her actions as if he is an authority over her. Parents/teachers/best friends/health staff can be proud of others' progress and choices, an abuser doesn't have that jurisdiction or right. He is basically making himself the authority over her by saying this.

@brightpage1020 Год назад

@@anyagee9467 this. What this person said. Like her position in life is beneath this guy or she should look up to him. I hope she's healing from him without looking back. And hiding from him effectively.

@midishh Год назад

I have no empathy for this guy. He's saying all the "right" things, reminds me of my abuser too. Nice and highly aware for others, and a frightening jerk to me. He's crying now but he didn't care when he made her cry numerous times and had no compassion. Give me a break.

@GameChanger597 11 месяцев назад

Yep I'm getting sociopath vibes from him

@catholicfemininity2126 11 месяцев назад

It's only been what, a year or 10 months? or so.... that's not enough time to truly heal and transform into a virtuous person. I've been trying to change for 2 years and it's not easy, and that's just with the small stuff. But if he has any humility at all, he'll accept the hosts' advice and let her be and work on himself.

@Emy53 7 месяцев назад

I don't trust an abuser. He's looking for a 2nd chance until he gets triggered. He's dangerous to me and doesn't deserve her. He just can't find a new woman to beat up. I don't trust him and I don't believe he is in a better place. He's just waiting for the day he can beat someone up because of his own childhood issues.

@triciadilligaf2678 7 месяцев назад

@@catholicfemininity2126the vibe I got from him is he's doing all this stuff to appear to change so when she ultimately rejects him he will turn people against her and whine about her not giving him another chance.

@MeowzKitty 5 месяцев назад

That's EXACTLY how they are. They're so likeable and when you listen to them you'll feel so enlightened and even empathize with them more than yourself or even others will feel sorry for the abuser.

@Jane-rc2rk 3 месяца назад

Oh just leave her alone! She’ll never recover from what you’ve done … never. All this is about you … it’s not, it’s about her.

@deborahlester4018 3 месяца назад

When a man has been so abusive, trying to get her back is just more torture.

@rebeccawright5987 4 месяца назад

I feel like this caller is trying to manipulate John too, not just his wife. He still wants to control her.

@basicbase749 3 месяца назад

True!! He is a smooth talker and knows how to use words to his advantage and create a good public image

@Cactusbrigade 3 месяца назад

Definitely. Did you notice the flattery at the very beginning? It’s off the bat manipulative

@rebeccawright5987 3 месяца назад

@@CactusbrigadeI’m betting this guy has NPD

@nonnaza 3 месяца назад

Totally

@corrieworou4813 3 месяца назад

Yeah, rings false.

@summershandy19 3 месяца назад

Having been abused myself, an abuser will ALWAYS downplay what they’ve actually done to their victim. If we were to ask his wife, her stories will be more raw, real, and horrible. Once a man abuses you, he will NEVER respect you again regardless of the work he has done on himself. The fact that he has a running list of what he’s accomplished already shows his narcissistic tendency. If she decided to get back with him, he would get upset if she does not recognize the changes he has made. DO NOT GO BACK TO YOUR ABUSER!!!

@user92248 2 месяца назад

And get mad when she still flinches at his raised voice or doesn't trust him

@rachelm126 2 месяца назад

1000000% this

@Lilith6.6 2 месяца назад

His telling of how he "put pressure on her leg with his arm" wana bet that wasn't her leg?

@rachelm126 2 месяца назад

@@Lilith6.6 what are you implying it was?

@Lilith6.6 2 месяца назад

@@rachelm126 Not implying it was anything

@unravel2053 3 месяца назад

Within the first few minutes, I absolutely 110% know he is not a changed man. This is not a person who is truly taking accountability. I hope she has stayed away. Sending my love to her. A person who is truly sorry wont blame addiction, frustrations etc... they will take full responsibility for the trauma they caused and show through CONSISTENT long term changed behaviour before they even think of trying to actively be in a relationship with that person. It's not about winning her back, it's about making yourself into a better man for yourself not for a return. Not about words and speeches.

@ethermac9015 2 месяца назад

Why hasn’t he taken accountability?

@grace52775 2 месяца назад

His intermittent cackle is unnerving.

@allywolf9182 Месяц назад

Kamala style....

@grace52775 Месяц назад

@@allywolf9182 no kidding.....

@mssophiad03 26 дней назад

@@allywolf9182word salad too

@offgridjack5779 5 месяцев назад

I'm thinking he emotionally blackmailed her into the adoption of 9 kids telling her they needed to SAVE them but his real intention was his version of "barefoot and pregnant" and keep her trapped!! What a manipulator this guy is. Always the victim. Tears and all.

@amysue1616 5 месяцев назад

Or worse. 😢

@barbthegreat586 5 месяцев назад

He tried to entrap her with children.

@user-je7db7bi7i 5 месяцев назад

You've just identified the true reason women bear children with male sperm. If the purpose of that change (from asexual to sexual reproduction) was this, then it CANNOT have been a natural change, it was FORCED. Which means men and women relationship is a LIEEEEE!!! XYs came, invaded women's world and altered them somehow.

@TrueWalker88 4 месяца назад

That's ridiculous. She's a grown ass woman who made a choice. No one can be "forced" to adopt a child, much less a whopping NINE children.

@soullessnight6539 4 месяца назад

@@TrueWalker88you obviously no nothing about psychology abuse. Most common form and imo even worse than physical. They do it slowly over time that you don’t even know yourself anymore. They take all your self worth that you think you could never survive without them. You become a shell, a puppet and they pull your strings.

@mandyg943 5 месяцев назад

“I don’t care about impressing people” what a LIE

@mish375 4 месяца назад

All abusers want to impress people. That's why they are so pathologically addicted to control.

@zammymynakersnackstbmoth 4 месяца назад

Seriously. Cuz if that were the case, he wouldn't have brought it up.

@ImNotaRussianBot 4 месяца назад

Brother, you called in to a show. People with any sense of rationale and awareness first examine your actions then see the words. If they're contradicting, that is a sign of a mental illness or personality disorder, either way they have enough life experience to stay away from you as much as possible.

@JadeWasHere987 4 месяца назад

Right? I wanted to comment the same

@nicoleowens2318 4 месяца назад

Yup

@lmg633 2 месяца назад

As a survivor of abuse, I can't believe this man. I don't feel he has much contrition for what he did to his wife. All I am hearing is that he's healing his trauma, how he's improved. But he never talked about her & where shes at. What damage has he done to her? How has he helped her? Did he pay for her therapy? Did he apologise? I can't believe he thinks he deserves her back. I believe if a man hits once, he'll do it again.

@alisesanchez9240 2 месяца назад

He doesn't miss her..he misses having a scapegoat. Not once did he say I go to therapy, I go to anger management, I apologize and I take accountability. If you loved her, why would you hurt here? I loved when he said child monster. What narcassists are. Adult children.

@DrFrankenschtein Год назад

This was a well-rehearsed story from a person that closely monitors, controls, and attempts to disguise what they say and what they do to protect their true character. This is a deeply manipulative, small, weak person. He starts off by trying to flatter John in an effort to ingratiate himself. Then, he puts himself down (describes himself a 5 year-old) and pretends to cry in an attempt to disarm John and to lessen John's reaction, which he can expect will be strong. (You wouldn't kick a guy while he's down, would you?) The problem is, five year olds don't beat up women and spit in their faces. I'm sure calling into the show only inflated his ego and furthered this narcissistic charade. (His ex-wife probably blocked him, so he had to find a way to get his message out.)

@cameronreeder9609 Год назад

This is the best comment.

@melissaa.8547 11 месяцев назад

I noticed this as well…he is extremely manipulative but the cracks in his narrative are very clear…I guarantee the abuse was much much worse than he describes

@user-oq4ow9rr6z 11 месяцев назад

I'm so glad the wife got away from him but she should have done it a lot sooner. Better yet, to make sure this guy doesn't one day show up at her door, she should have taken care of the problem when he first touched her

@tiffanyh.5788 11 месяцев назад

@@user-oq4ow9rr6zevery after the "but" was literally blaming the wife.

@stuff1784 10 месяцев назад

Sociopathic behavior

@asdf4678z 11 месяцев назад

"proud of her" my stomach turned.

@marleyhill34 4 месяца назад

Yup.

@JB-xm2wh 4 месяца назад

He needs therapy and meds, more importantly to be locked up

@michelleashton6712 4 месяца назад

Like he’s taking a part of her exit as well.

@dominiquejones6758 3 месяца назад

That stuck out to me too. It’s giving “good girl” vibes…what a prick

@MARISKI-MUSIC 3 месяца назад

Yeah right. Twisted f*cker. He’s probably said something to her like “why are you doing this to ME?” for leaving, but now he says he’s proud lmfao what a loser

@Nat-lg2ks 3 месяца назад

A gradian angel was watching over those 9 children the day that adoption fell through!

@LifeontheBush 3 месяца назад

As someone who was abused, it's scary how normal he sounds before he states the question. This is why I'm cautious around everyone.

@l-train7876 Год назад

10 mos is longer employment than he’s ever had, and he was trying to adopt 9 kids. Holy shitballs.

@jet4415 Год назад

Haha, I laughed at how John took him down on his employment section.

@Flash3-22 Год назад

Find it hard to believe that part of the story. Cannot be true that they were trying to adopt 9 children.

@somethingclever2 6 месяцев назад

😂😂

@continuousself-improvement1879 5 месяцев назад

@@Flash3-22maybe he meant being foster parents. Or tried to adopt with the end goal of having 9 kids but not all at once.

@luckyduckydaisyflower2344 4 месяца назад

The kids were a meal ticket somehow..he means foster

@wisco_hdgirl5273 Год назад

As an abuse survivor I strongly encourage you to leave that poor woman ALONE!!!

@jacquidanke1263 4 месяца назад

GLAD YOU ARE STILL HERE. I AM ALSO A SURVIVOR. WE DESERVE BETTER, FOR SURE. GOD BLESS!

@hopefulfilled9519 4 месяца назад

@@jacquidanke1263yes we women are glad you both are here ❤

@hopefulfilled9519 4 месяца назад

How did it start out for you guys? Was it verbal abuse first?

@Eph10c 4 месяца назад

@@hopefulfilled9519emotional, verbal and psychological

@hopefulfilled9519 4 месяца назад

@@Eph10c the physical abuse, it blindsided you? Like when it happened it didn’t seem real

@lsharon2175 3 месяца назад

Dr. Delony has incredible control to not say what he clearly wanted to say.

@christiestarr6941 Месяц назад

I think he should have said them.

@karinaz8756 2 месяца назад

He wants her back. It’s too hard to start from scratch with a different woman. He has her broken in pun intended. He is mad she’s not here at his disposal.

@jmj5388 13 дней назад

🎯!

@meaganernd4980 6 месяцев назад

“You should 100% be in jail.” Thank you for that comment - as someone who left this same situation about 2 months ago and constantly felt afraid …. Abusive people like him and my ex should be in jail. Fearing for your life over extensive lengths of time is beyond words. Entitlement, possession, being set off by relationships ….. AMEN to you John for calling him out. Being choked/strangled/dragged to the ground is life-fearing! I went through it and I hope this woman finds healing and peace. I’m sorry to this man who feels he is so self-important…..he needs extensive help

@hannagg9365 5 месяцев назад

💯

@Phatse 5 месяцев назад

The way he failed to actually mention techniques to overcome his temper and learn to honor another person's feelings. He doesn't even realize that she probably wants nothing to do with him and he needs to accept it

@mish375 5 месяцев назад

@@PhatseThat's the narcissism talking. Most abusers have some kind of narcissism component and so he still feels he's entitled to her. No mention of how he's dealt with his temper in an actual productive way. His ex-wife was right to run. I hope she stays away from him.

@trailertrish 5 месяцев назад

the psychological trauma we endure for YEARS after. like bro walk away. leave her be. and dont date anyone ever again. 😤

@jacquidanke1263 4 месяца назад

I PRAY YOU FIND PEACE AND HEALING IN YOUR LIFE, TOO, PRECIOUS ONE. YOU ARE WORTHY OF BEING HAPPY AND FREE FROM FEAR. GOD HELP YOU ON YOUR JOURNEY. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND IF NOBODY TOLD YOU THEY LOVE YOU, I LOVE YOU. NOT TRYING TO BE WEIRD, JUST KNOWING HOW MUCH THOSE WORDS/ AND BEING LOVED ARE SO IMPORTANT TO WE SURVIVORS. I AM WORKING ON ME, TOO. WE ARE VERY WORTH IT-GOD SAYS SO BECAUSE HE MADE ALL OF HIS LOVELY DAUGHTERS! PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU.

@kekejefferson9219 Год назад

You haven't changed, your just not around her. Your ego wants her back.

@darksu6947 Год назад

He just wants to beat her one last time.

@mish375 5 месяцев назад

His narcissism is angry that she escaped from him because she outsmarted him and ran. Narcissistic abusers can't stand being beaten at their own game.

@thefirm4606 4 месяца назад

@@darksu6947last and final time I suspect

@ehamilful 4 месяца назад

Of course he wants her back. She probably worked and brought home the bacon while he smoked pot all day seeing as he has only had steady employment for ten months. Now he has to be self reliant and he doesn't like it. This guy is disgusting.

@sheridanvance7426 3 месяца назад

❤

@DJ-sv7xf 2 месяца назад

Telling the abuser that there's even a 1% possibility his ex will come back is like pouring a beer for an alcoholic. As someone who's been stalked after breaking up, please tell that monster to man up and leave her alone. He owes her that and so much more! Their dynamic was disastrous and fixating on getting back together is the magical thinking of a child rather than good mental health.

@sylviaking8866 Месяц назад

No women should ever take someone like this man back. NOT EVER. Narc alert. RUN.

@imveryhungry112 Год назад

Guarantee you he wouldn't try to hit another man. Just a woman. These guys are always physical with women but when confronted by another man surprisingly get very timid.

@gailainsley6939 Год назад

Not the ones I know. This particular one fought with men Too and did not mind displaying this in public with anyone.

@imveryhungry112 Год назад

@@gailainsley6939 probably little or older men.

@katet_33 Год назад

That's the case with some abusers, but not all. Some people are just angry and violent.

@brendalara1210 Год назад

@@gailainsley6939 yeah my abuser was violent towards other men too

@gailainsley6939 Год назад

@@imveryhungry112 No. The guy I saw in particular were his friends and his age group. Mid 20’s - early 30’s. Forgot exact age but I remember.

@ludelkri 4 месяца назад

Ironically, the fact that he wants her back proves he doesn't love her. If he loved her, he'd let her go. He shouldn't want her to stay with someone who caused her such pain. Real love is selfless. There is no room for one more chance from the extreme he took it to. When an abusive man asks you to stay with him despite the past mistreatment he put you through, he is asking you to repress your hurt, instinct, and memory for purely his benefit. It NEVER benefits you to stay with someone who was ever capable of hurting you so badly.

@amiek9226 3 месяца назад

Very well said! When some lines are crossed, there is no going back. There is no way she could ever truly feel safe with him again.

@cbeachbaby266 3 месяца назад

This.

@megazw7740 2 месяца назад

He's in a pit of self pity. He doesn't want her back. He wants her services back because they made his life easier and he only realised it after she left.

@paulahileman2291 3 месяца назад

When I left my abuser I never wanted to see him again. He tracked me down knocked on my door 5 years later I moved the very next day put everything in my sons name and he never found me again.

@Twenty-Seven 2 месяца назад

Coming from a guy (me) that was dumped by the love of his life for being FAR less of a dickhead than this guy: she's gone. Stop scheming up ways to get her back, since that's what you're doing. The best you can hope for is for her to move on without the thought of you haunting her.

@TisHotMessHistory Год назад

He still feels entitled to his ex-wife. He needs to be thankful that he's not in prison where he belongs and move on with his life, and let her move on with hers.

@veracityhunter7777 Год назад

Exactly

@paulaaquino Год назад

Totally agree

@hismom5600 6 месяцев назад

Ti!!!!!! You lurk in all the coolest places!😄

@TisHotMessHistory 6 месяцев назад

@@hismom5600 I do! LOL I love this show.

@mamat1213 5 месяцев назад

YEP. He can’t even say “ex wife”

@nanjones3973 3 месяца назад

He called in to be validated and hoped he would get help on how to woo over his victim to get her back in his life. The finalization of the divorce was her nail in his coffin. He 100% doesn’t know how to cope with having absolutely no ties or control over this woman anymore. If she ever goes back, she might as well have planned her funeral because he’s not gonna let her leave again. Adopting 9 children was a way for him to keep her stuck. Thank God it didn’t go in his favor. He would have abused those children too.

@leona2222 3 месяца назад

💯

@jalanepeppin1346 3 месяца назад

Exactly!! He just wants validation so he can tell her "see everyone thinks I should have a another chance bc I changed" gtfoh. He has YEARS to go if ever before real change happens. He's still an abuser

@kellyt4683 3 месяца назад

Dude is psycho. She needs to stay far far away from him.

@jennyjones-tw5hp 3 месяца назад

It feels like he’s likely got a personality disorder. It doesn’t even occur to him, that this woman is her own person and it would do her well to stay the hell out of his life.

@annc.3908 2 месяца назад

Ah stuck is too small of a word to describe that… omg the level of stuck she would have been in…

@Lizbeth1203 3 месяца назад

He wants her back because he's a psychopathic narcissist who's lost control of her & he hates that. Been there done that for 7 years each TWICE with different men. Now I'm 63 & even with years of therapy, the thought of being in another relationship makes me want to vomit. Never again. I'd rather be alone than risk living in that kind of nightmare again. I've just resigned myself to thinking I don't know how to pick partners, and I'm fine with that.

@beastshawnee 4 дня назад

I also agree that he may be psychopathic because of the calculated ways he approached this all. He could win her back but also be the manner of her going missing…

@sarabee6967 3 месяца назад

“You cannot achieve love, you have to receive it.” That’s phenomenal and applicable to so many personality types.

@maresdreams8731 3 месяца назад

Sure is! never heard it that way.

@itsmexena4727 3 месяца назад

I hate how he keeps on saying "my wife" and when he was corrected he said "Yeah that" What an absolute creep 😮

@Letstalk295 Месяц назад

Also the divorce has been done for months

@jereni-solpoetry5994 23 дня назад

Right, I heard that!

@amyitis 12 дней назад

That's the funny thing, if people have been through this, there's little signs that you know to look out for with narcissistic abuse. This is a perfect example.

@BitterComments Год назад

*“Abusive people are entitled.”* WOW that hit home. My uncle abused the hell out of his wife and he’s the most entitled brat you’ll ever meet.

@EmpressMermaid Год назад

Yes, good point. I work in the field and one day it hit me that most "anger management" problems are really entitlement problems. They feel entitled to everything being how they want it and can't deal when it's not.

@sensimania Год назад

Is it entitlement though? Or is it more to do with stubbornness & ignorance (which usually goes hand in hand with abuse)?

@blahblahblah4544 Год назад

@@sensimania It really is entitlement. It sits right at the core. The rest of it, stubborness etc. come after. Like, a person who isn't entitled is going to be like "Aw you can't find me? Alrighty, I'll walk home. May you keep your phone on?" The entitled person is going to be angry and abused like he was because he expected his wife find him.

@Moody3863 Год назад

They're emotional toddlers, essentially.

@goov47 Год назад

@@sensimania Sounds a lot like entitlement. Seen it before, and it's pathetic.

@IrinaVanRonkel 3 месяца назад

He must be in jail for abusing his woman.

@kenseihaup 3 месяца назад

This dude makes my skin crawl. He’s saying the right things but there is nothing meaningful about what he is saying. He still thinks that this is whole person, this whole independent person who HE put hands on, still belongs to him. Dude doesn’t love her, he loves the submission under his power. I hope the ex runs far and fast and never looks back.

@emilieshepherd4005 4 месяца назад

I’m glad the comment section is pretty unanimously in support of that woman staying tf away from him.

@martavega2860 5 месяцев назад

"I miss her, I want her back, etc.". All I hear is him putting his desires before what is best for her. Girl, run

@mairedaly4926 3 месяца назад

Yeah, it was about there that it got very clear.... and then he cooly finishes his list

@Phoenix1664 2 месяца назад

The fact that this guy is prepared to make a phone call about this, says he's got some audacity in the first place!

@machaontarot5514 3 месяца назад

Seriously!? This guy is not truthful or self aware, so many red flags. He uses distancing language every time he speaks about the abuse, but is able to speak directly about all the "amazing" work he's done over the last year. He is only tearful about her leaving him. He is still dangerous.

@Rambutan. 4 месяца назад

"What changes have you made since she left?" "I go for a walk" This guy is such a narcissist, it's clear even in this setting where he's trying very hard to hide it. I can't imagine what he's like behind closed doors.

@burungpipitmakanpadi 4 месяца назад

This reminds me of my abusive narc dad. He always made a big deal about his daily walks alone. Why???

@lunarforte1620 3 месяца назад

Even refers to what he has written down to discuss as his "script" around 8:15 in

@evapawlowska 2 месяца назад

@@burungpipitmakanpadithey brag about anything 😂

@ChristinaFromYoutube 2 месяца назад

@@burungpipitmakanpadi they're usually lying. He probably walks around the corner to the bar. That was my experience with an ex that never shut up about the gym. He was actually on dates lol

@noahdouglas702 4 месяца назад

**abuser gets half an hour to preach about himself and put himself on a pedestal** We all make mistakes. But hurting people/ animals is a choice, not by accident. Also, his crying came and went so sharp. Like immediately stopped crying and then went back to crying

@missingbobsburgers 4 месяца назад

He kept forgetting he was supposed to be upset about his behavior.

@rarebird_82 4 месяца назад

100% manipulator, a dangerous, wretched individual. As if people would fall for the self depricating faux charm offensive? Jog on mate!

@RaquellePhillips 3 месяца назад

I heard that too 🤮

@RachelSings21 3 месяца назад

My abusive ex put a cd into my belongings when I went to collect them (I made SURE he was out and took my whole family and made him aware I wasn’t going to be alone). On that cd he’d recorded something like this, saying things like ‘you’re still my wife’, saying sorry for what he’d done (even though he was still being abusive via every medium available to him), and then crying….REALLY fake sounding crying and it cut off like a switch and he was talking normally again. Absolutely narcissistic. All this ‘change’ is bullshit, this guy would 100% abuse his wife again if she went back.

@BNJA5M1N3 3 месяца назад

And how dare he say he's proud of her! How entitled. It is not his to be proud of. He should be ashamed and lock himself in a room with chains. Like in the werewolf movies.

@VictoriaNguyen-bw6en 2 месяца назад

He's not sorry. He'd never changed.

@barbstotter7288 3 месяца назад

SPOT ON Dr. Delaney!!!! It’s not about getting her back. It’s about not being a POS and menace to society!!!

@karenk2409 5 месяцев назад

"What changes have you made in your life?" Lost weight, have a mentor who "pours his life into mine," (yikes!). refused drug rehab, maintained employment for 10 months (whoop de-doo), "started" this and that, garnered pity over his "ton of depression," and his "traumas." What a piece of work. He misses "My Wife" - Dude, she's not "your" anything anymore. Maybe he should reconsider drug rehab, find a professional counselor that doesn't pour his life into someone else's, and let the people you tried to destroy alone to heal.

@KEOSHAANEILIA 5 месяцев назад

💯

@Rose-kj7rz 4 месяца назад

Right? And he says that about a mentor, in the same conversation that he's learned that he isn't owed help. The gaslighting is insane...

@rarebird_82 4 месяца назад

For real. He was all me me me. Self depricating to try to avoid backlash. Coercive controlling coward

@cruiseny26 3 месяца назад

Exactly. Hasn’t even done the work….

@stepek91 3 месяца назад

He would just go back to old ways with her. That's only a year of changes vs like 4 years of escalated abuse.

@MissBlueEyeliner 4 месяца назад

This is a dangerous person. Not just to his romantic partners, to everyone. And not just physically, this is a master manipulator who’s dead inside.

@LivEandInspirE4EveR 2 месяца назад

Sociopath 100%

@bygrace8485 2 месяца назад

Literally!

@annmariemarin5513 3 месяца назад

“I did all this work- now Take Me Back!” How many times must we hear about women who believe them take an abuser back and get even worse abuse? Did you know it takes an average of 8 breakups for a woman to break the cycle of abuse and finally NOT take them back? This guy is terrifying.

@amyitis 12 дней назад

The sad thought is that if she were to take him back, he would most likely try to unalive her and blame her for it

@noirefit5954 3 месяца назад

I’m sorry but when he says he wants his wife back in his life, my instincts scream that he just wants to finish the job. It doesn’t sound like love, it sounds like he lost control and feigning for the terror reign he had in her life. My blood ran cold when he spoke because he’s really still upset this woman left him. She should stay away. He would ruin her if she goes back

@laumay7364 4 месяца назад

The world’s longest “that’s a no for me dawg.”

@purpurina5663 2 месяца назад

😂 this is awful but you made me spit my coffee

@StephanieP-ie6un 8 месяцев назад

“I’ll do anything to show her I’ve changed” Great, leave her alone. Let her heal. Put her need to be away from you over your desire to possess her again.

@rarebird_82 4 месяца назад

Oh no... it would take real remorse to do that. He still thinks she owes him, creepy man cant take a hint!

@texasgirl187 2 месяца назад

The BEST counsel I ever received was from my therapist (30 years ago): 1. My husband's behavior was on an escalating trajectory, and that I was a hair's breadth away from getting my face broken, 2. Leave, but if you have to do that in the middle of the night (I did), then please call so I know you're safe, and 3. ***here's what will happen after you leave: he's going to call you and say "__________________", so know it's part of the plan, his plan, so DON'T FALL FOR IT. It played out exactly as she said it would. I left, knew what to expect, never went back, never looked back.

@mulderitsmee 15 дней назад

He deliberately stopped before he left bruises? He didn't lose control. He was in control the whole time. He chose every moment of that abuse.

@nap163020 3 месяца назад

I hope his ex-wife hears this and gets a restraining order against him. Girl RUN!!!!! As far as you can....

@ethxo6734 Год назад

Leave that woman alone. If you have a guilty conscious, write her an apology letter but leave her the eff alone. Let her heal and let her find someone who will love her right.

@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Год назад

He will apologize ONLY to get her back. If she rejects him he will SLANDER her and blame her !! That’s my speculation… because mine was that way. HE is getting emotional because he physically abused her? These abusers truly feel sorry for themselves and feel zero empathy for the victim.

@sarrahconley3923 Год назад

No he don't need to send her anything. Just leave her alone.

@user-ob5nk3ss1p Год назад

@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 This man punched her in the face and all over, kicked her, etc. These types of abusers are very hard to get rid of. These types of people will stalk, harass, torcher, these are sick people.

@stephanienelly90 Год назад

Right!! He can be better for the next woman but let that woman be! No one deserves this!

@Machoke. Год назад

The only thing he could say is " I know sorry will never be enough to justify the things I have put you through. I wish you the best, and hope you can find happiness in your life because you deserve it". Other than that it's probably best to just leave her be, and move on. At this point in the game although he may want her back he doesn't deserve her, and never will. That time has come and gone. For her, and his own sake to he honest, it's best to move on. He caught a break by not being in jail. Take the opportunity, and run with it.

@silverwolf6669 2 месяца назад

The wild abúsér jumps straight into the ábúsíve tools he'd usually use. Flattery, little jokes to lighten him up to show he's a good guy, "getting emotional" with the croc tears literally right off the bat but his voice also switching between the sad, remorseful loving guy and the casual "yeah I did that" and the laughing while telling the story? This gives me chills watching from the outside, I can't even imagine how she must feel

@bionic_bat 3 месяца назад

7:39 is absolutely haunting to me the way he said "I'm proud of her." You know he was angry as all hell when she left him. You can hear it in his voice. Also his nervous giggle is this is really infuriating.

@simoneXox Год назад

This guy is unbelievable - he should never have the audacity to say he wants her back after all the rubbish he put her through

@dadthemillennial Год назад

Soul tie tho

@veracityhunter7777 Год назад

@@dadthemillennial That's just an excuse. New age bullshit. The accurate term is trauma bond.

@veracityhunter7777 Год назад

That's the thing about abusers, they are extremely entitled. He's all about ego and really doesn't care about her comfort. He never did. He never would have abused her. If narcissists have anything, it's audacity.

@trumpisgod2535 Год назад

You have likely done disgusting things as well so you shouldn’t never have the audacity to say anything about anybody else

@sensimania Год назад

@@trumpisgod2535 WTH kind of messed up comment is this?!

@rebeccabamford5505 6 месяцев назад

He’s doing everything he can to show her he’s “ changed” and win her back. and the minute he realizes she doesn’t accept it all? Has no interest in going back to him? The rage will rear its ugly head once again

@rarebird_82 4 месяца назад

Yeah, id like to see him continue this little "journey" if she met another man. Be interesting to see if he had _really_ reformed, my guess is not, its all an act to recapture his prey 🙄

@cruiseny26 3 месяца назад

Yup. Totally manipulative.

@0Demiyah0 3 месяца назад

He did not verbalize for a SECOND how he empathized with his ex-wife's broken heart, her disillusionment with love, her fear and shattered trust, her gutwrenching pain. Not a SECOND did he consider what SHE needs to feel whole again. He did give any emotionally intelligent cue of understanding that SHE needs trauma therapy, counseling, somatic body work, friendship, self-discovery into her hobbies, likes, wants, boundaries, traveling alone, dating another man, in order to feel like herself again after the ordeal that he put her through. 10 months of separation is barely scratching the surface of that kind of PTSD-inducing menacing hurt and fear of an abusive rageful child-man. He really thought that being a semi-decent guy for 10 months entitled him to want her back. This dude is going to stalk her for 5 more years before he learns. He needs to be single for a decade. He should learn to be genuinely joyful that she may meet a better man who can give her a wholesome love, and then maybe, he can start to emulate that. He won't get there before he is 40 and his testosterone production is low.

@ngo7156 3 месяца назад

All the changes he did sound good until he still calls her, "his wife"! Dr John pointed it out, your EX-wife! She is merely a possession and he wants its back period. I hope she doesn't take him back because it usually only escalates.

@sheridanvance7426 3 месяца назад

❤

@abeal49 3 месяца назад

An update would be interesting. If the only reason he was trying to improve himself was to get his ex-wife back, what happened when it didn't work?

@shannonlynch7706 3 месяца назад

“You cannot achieve love, you have to receive it.” Wow.

@AnusiaLA Год назад

My ex was cheating and lying. I left and he cried, begged, promised the world, we went to therapy. Then he kept lying. Then I found out he had a girlfriend while we were going to couples therapy. Now he is out on bail cause he dragged her down the street and broke down her door. I don’t believe the callers crying. I think he’s crying cause his ego is hurt because she dared to leave him.

@l-train7876 Год назад

You don’t think this guy can feel emotional pain and loss from all of his horrific behaviors and choices? I disagree. It sounds like you’re assigning a very specific meaning to what is meant by a person crying.

@AnusiaLA Год назад

@@l-train7876 I’m probably just traumatized by what I’ve been through. My ex sounded extremely genuine and like he was in emotional pain… and he was cheating on me and lying to me from day one all the way till I left him. Looked in the the eyes with tears running down his face… and he way lying. It’s hard to believe this guy… who was beating his wife and abusing her that way… finally saw the light… after she left him. They always see what they did wrong, but only after you dump them. The monsters like that tend to be very good at saying all the right things.

@l-train7876 Год назад

@@AnusiaLA it sounds like you’re saying “bad people” cannot cry or feel pain. I think you’re definitely projecting.

@TheEblenRealestateTeam Год назад

Girl your right.. Its more that likely he will revert back to it.. take that L..

@AnusiaLA Год назад

@@l-train7876 they can feel pain. Doesn’t mean the pain is caused by the suffering they caused. Doesn’t mean they understand what they did. They could be crying cause the victim left or that they’ve been caught. They could also pretend they’re in pain to manipulate and get sympathy.

@mochi_3600 Год назад

He sounds so crazy. Gives me chills how he giggles

@show_me_your_kitties 6 месяцев назад

Same. The giggling gives me a bad feeling.

@Isthisjoebiden 4 месяца назад

Its a form of duping delight I gathered. Like teehee my plans working, got this guy fooled

@AltaicPride01 4 месяца назад

He sounds like a creepy clown

@ElizabethGeiger-ye1sf 3 месяца назад

@@IsthisjoebidenHe enjoys trying to dupe the host. His giggles are evil.

@farhanah2244 3 месяца назад

My mum does those laughs... the entitled manipulating narc laughs..

@louisaklimentos7583 2 месяца назад

He misses his ex wife because he has no control over her . He needs to knock her down emotionally and physically because of power and control . She should not to go back to him . He would be good for awhile but , he will slowly abuse her again . He needs his ego fed .

@omiyinkaogunsegun5012 29 дней назад

He is not only CRAZY BUT DELUSIONAL AS WELL!!! He is dreaming if he thinks his ex-wife would return to all of that abuse!!

@askalauna 4 месяца назад

My exhusband broke my jaw after yrs of verbal abuse. I filed for divorce once the courts opened and he stalked me for 2yrs afterwards. He has assaulted every woman he's gotten with afterwards & is a dangerous individual. He even assaulted another girlfriend in front of our kids. He deserves nothing & I pray no woman ever has to experience him .

@Justaperson354 3 месяца назад

I am so sincerely proud of you. I have daughters and I’d hope they’d have half the guts you had to leave and stay away. I could never imagine hurting my wife. I hope you found a truly loving partner and your kids are able to stay away from him. I wish dv was treated more seriously by the law.

@askalauna 3 месяца назад

Thank you for that. It's been a tough road for us but we're strong & have navigated some perilous waters. He's continued to be problematic and currently owes his children 34k in back child support 😒.

@idekanymore3963 3 месяца назад

As someone whose mom had been with an abusive narcissist for a time, I feel so much for you. It’s definitely not easy to have to hear someone being abused especially as a child, and the fact your ex husband was able to do that with another women in front of your children really sickens me. Thank god you left that situation and hopefully your kids will never experience that type of trauma again because it really leaves a mark seeing something like that. Thank you for sharing such a story because they are important.

@MC-cz5qd 3 месяца назад

😢 ❤

@samanthapateman8054 3 месяца назад

I wish there was a law for people like that to be banned from dating.

@thistleskeptic Год назад

If he actually cared about her, he would care enough to leave her alone.

@ThingsILove2266 Год назад

Amen.

@somethingclever2 6 месяцев назад

And all womwn

@zammymynakersnackstbmoth 4 месяца назад

I'm sayin!!!

@Bluejai27 3 месяца назад

Fact! Join a monastery! This call-in all about “me me me” or “poor me”! Thank God, the adoption fell through! Also, the fact that he keeps calling her “his wife” not “ex-wife” is disturbing…like he still owns her and not realize that the marriage has been over for a long time!

@randomblackwoman 3 месяца назад

leave her alone. Just leave her alone

@MariaKoroleva.Realtor 3 месяца назад

Trophy is right. He deserves to be in jail. He traumatized his victim. You don’t expect your victim to have you back in her life, you can do 180, the trauma is there for LIFE