I Caught My Wife Doing Herself? 

Akhi, don't talk about things like this. The solution is simple. Tell those that you are counseling to train themselves with lesser internet and lesser smartphones. Time will go slow, there will be lesser images and screens, people will become in touch with reality, focus more, the spouses and families will engage with one another more. Memorizing and getting images when your read Quran, Hadith and Sirah will increase. Your worship and concentration will increase. Bring solutions. Set up retreats that help people discipline themselves into getting out of addictions. I believe the root cause is the internet itself. And then these devices. Islamic training programs like those health apps that have 3 day training, 5 days, a week, a month, a year etc. They set up everything for health and body, but not apps like that for becoming more educated and practicing in Islam. Look up samsung health app, take the rationale behind it and convert it into a Muslim practicing training app where people encourage one another. Did you pray your five daily prayers on time today? Check ✅, you have 29 days left on your program. Good work! But mentioning these things could make it normal and mainstream. People might think it is normal, so I'm not alone.

I have 3 days without internet and smartphones each month. And it's the best three days. You will begin to see the usefulness of the internet i.e to research and get knowledge. While you're reading a book, then all of a sudden you need to do research. That's what the internet should be used for and not instragram, tic toc and scrolling one kilometer every day. But when it is used for setting up profiles and uploading images of yourself, that's when you'll get people like this. They are constantly bombarded with images of uncovered women, they see people who have fake happiness, become envious, and begin to hate their husbands until they talk like the disbelievers and say "you're not making me happy anymore". A man should not give his wife a smartphone. Give her a Nokia ds 150. Bring solutions brother. Exposing things like this is not wise.

And put stickers on the camera, and turn off the phone when you're with your wife. These devices are spying on you until your 'Awrah (private parts) are exposed. Would you have allowed someone to peek into your womenfolk? How can you give them these smartphones? Look up pegasus, trojan horse, cybergate rat. Allah سبحانه وتعالى said, يَا بَنِي آدَمَ لَا يَفْتِنَنَّكُمُ الشَّيْطَانُ كَمَا أَخْرَجَ أَبَوَيْكُم مِّنَ الْجَنَّةِ يَنزِعُ عَنْهُمَا لِبَاسَهُمَا لِيُرِيَهُمَا سَوْآتِهِمَا ۗ إِنَّهُ يَرَاكُمْ هُوَ وَقَبِيلُهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لَا تَرَوْنَهُمْ ۗ إِنَّا جَعَلْنَا الشَّيَاطِينَ أَوْلِيَاءَ لِلَّذِينَ لَا يُؤْمِنُونَ O Children of Adam! Let not the Shaytan (Satan) deceive you, as he got your parents out of Paradise, stripping them of their raiments, _to show them their private parts._ Verily, he and Qabiluhu (his soldiers from the jinn or his tribe) see you from where you cannot see them. Verily, We made the Shayateen (jinn devils) Auliya' (protectors and helpers) for those who believe not. [Al-A'raaf 7:27]

The united snakes military, used the naked body of women as a weapon against Muslim detainees. Ask yourselves why? The easiest way to drain Eemaan is the body of women. All the dayyuthism (cuckoldism) that's going around, stems from that. Go to 'Umrah or Hajj, increase your Eemaan for a month, and as soon as you land at the airport and you see the images and uncovered women, how many of you have not felt the missiles, as if all the shayateen at the airport saw fresh meat i.e your heart with Eemaan, and so they rushed to get to it first? We need to block the Muslim mind and senses from that which harms Eemaan. How strict the Sahaba were, protecting the Eemaan inside their hearts. It was narrated from Naafi' رحمه الله, the Mawla (freed slave) of Ibn 'Umar رضي الله عنهما: "That Ibn 'Umar heard the sound of a shepherd's flute. He put his fingers in his ears and directed his mount away from the road, saying: 'O Naafi', do you hear that?' He said: 'Yes.' Then he moved on until I said: 'No (I do not hear it any more).' So he took his fingers out of his ears and brought his mount back to the road. And he said: 'I saw the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم, when he heard the sound of a shepherd's flute, do something like this." [Musnad Ahmad (4535), Al-Arnout رحمه الله said: Hasan Hadith. And Sunan Abu Dawud (4924) Classed as Saheeh by Al-Albaani رحمه الله] These devices are their spying tools. Buy a Nokia ds 150, and use it when you are at home. Use the smartphone for paying bills and banking. Train yourselves out of being addicted to them. That's my advice. Once they set up metaverse, and turn it into engine 5, and the banks and big companies get involved, you will migrate from these obsolete platforms to that. And how will you be able to resist then? And I think this Hadith will be understood then, when you see people becoming like surrogates inside a tube. Narrated Abu Sa'eed al-Khudri رضي الله عنه: Allah's Messenger ﷺ said: "There will come a time when the best property of a man will be sheep which he will graze on the tops of mountains and the places where rain falls escaping to protect his religion from Al-Fitan (trials, temptations, afflictions, polytheism, forced apostasy)." [Sahih al-Bukhari » Beginning of Creation - كتاب بدء الخلق » Hadith 3300]

@@Ibn_Abdulaziz You are right about the solutions. And brother Gabriel is trying to help and he is wise enough to expose these issues, and maybe there are being too many cases (or like a pandemic, figurative speaking) so he had to address the issue.

I don't know much about this issue. There are so many positives and negatives to this. If I speak about my case in happy I'm not married yet. If I was married as soon as I hit puberty I wouldn't have got time to understand myself and my likes/dislikes and make sense of the world. I was also very liberal back in the day and if I got married would probably be living with a liberal wife too and to bring her closer to Allah would've been a challenge and would have caused chaos for our marriage. I was thinking of marrying recently and have got even more strict in practicing deen and the girl I liked doesn't wear hijab just as I used to wear shorts and didn't cover my awrah. So I'm thinking as I'm working on dressing appropriately, fight off music addiction should I marry a girl who still does all this? That's why I'm delaying my marriage further to be fully sure of what kind of wife I want

@@maazmustafa2322 Understandable

Facts!

I agree, people need to be encouraged to marry when there young and fertile. People have there desires, shaytan wants us to take these desires and destroy the bonds with our family, rape, pornography, adultery, fornication. Allah swt wants us to have these desires so we can make strong bonds between the opposite genders, and make a strong happy family

@@maazmustafa2322 when I mean late I mean well into their late 20/30 early 30 not 14 lol

Same for women

A pious woman may have a history you wouldn’t know about. Cannot expect every woman to be chaste her whole life, especially if haram is promoted everywhere and marriage is delayed till late 20’s.

@@moonwalkerr87 not 20's i would say till 30's or more (in case of men)

Lol liberals are filled everywhere man. Just make sure she follows the sunnah and noble companions not ikhwanis, sufis Shias or pagans.

@@Fadedfrost1 true

Please say “Alhamdulilah al lathee 3afani min ma ibba talakum bih, wa fadallani 3ala katheeru min man khalaqa tafdeela” when you see someone who has gone through or is going through or has some hardship or trail etc say this always! You will not be afflicted by that thing if you do this, Inshallah.

The muslim, the christian, the jew, the sunni, shia, ahlul bidah arent the ones in heaven. But the mutaqoon are

@@TeymurKhan571 yoy cant have taqwa without being a muslim.

Sohih

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Bruh- lol 😂🤣🤣

yeah lol Mashallah May Allah protect him from evil eye

@@mrbaseeth7506 Ameen.

He’s not really attractive to me

What does ya akhi mean?

@@hamzianodoingitrightnow9250 o brother

True , women are condition to thing that are angels or sinless. A lot of them think that they don't have roles which is not cases because they have roles .

Eh there's a wide range of opinions on it (from haram to halal only in some cases to makruh), but obv it's clearly haram to watch dirty material either way

@@SIGSEGV1337 there is no opinion on this akhie, don't spread misguidance follow Quran and Sunnah according the understanding of the first 3 generations of the Muslims

@@user-ys7oh6eu8m what if someone can't ever marry and they use that to protect themselves from zina as a long term solution, because fasting is only a temporary one. So it can be the lesser of 2 evils

@Obvious Incel it's a longer term solution than fasting

To be prepared mentally to what could happen and eventually addressing it beforehand what you as a husband won't accept from your wife etc

To be prepared for unwanted situations if any arises

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There is no harm in knowing about these things

what?

Ameen, also please say “Alhamdulilah al lathee 3afani min ma ibba talakum bih, wa fadallani 3ala katheeru min man khalaqa tafdeela” when you see someone who has gone through or is going through or has some hardship or trail etc say this always! You will not be afflicted by that thing if you do this, Inshallah.

It should not be a fighting thing. We all know that human is created imperfect. We make all make mistakes.. What we should be talking fight on is how can we solve this problem ?

more women will be in jahanam then men on average Muslim men are better in character than women and religion. usually.

Who is saying that woman are not just human? And is it not better to assume the best? How can you even assume your wife is someone that commits major sins. Of course a couple need to pay attention to each other’s needs.

how dare u

@@ismailah4576 There will be more women in Jannah so....what does that say...

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Very well summed up..

@Obvious Incel Good question. If she is a virgin 100% you can't do this as her father or Wali will be there, plus she will most likely not know herself. As for the divorcee, then the wali needs to give her some space for conversation time. Maybe a little wriggle room after a few meetings to have a private conversation between them. Keep it halal, but keep it real. Communication and transparency is a wonderful thing in a marriage. Even if she tells you she watches porn don't give up on her, at least she told you the truth. Get married to her and try and knead it out. God knows how many sisters are marrying porn addicts, if they knew 95% of us would be divorced by khula' LOOOL.

She can be a virgin and still have these problems. Like in the current example it started at an young age.

@@somedude454 Yeah agreed bro. I have bumped in to those before. You got to play it by ear. Virginity is not binary i admit, it can be like a spectrum. She may have not have been penetrated in virgina, but she may have been sodomised, or she may have rubbed herself. Fully understand, but you need to make dua to Allah, make sure she loves Allah and keep it moving forward or move on.

@@strictlyyoutube6881 I think masturbation is far more common with women than what most men think. Especially in the Muslim world.

Please say “Alhamdulilah al lathee 3afani min ma ibba talakum bih, wa fadallani 3ala katheeru min man khalaqa tafdeela” when you see someone who has gone through or is going through or has some hardship or trail etc say this always! You will not be afflicted by that thing if you do this, Inshallah.

@@idreesabdallah.2664 jazakAllah u Khair

@@idreesabdallah.2664 jazakallah brother

@@idreesabdallah.2664 💯 Jazakallah khairan

Same bro

But you still clicked.

Fair comment. Why are people mocking hi.. Itt is bit of a click bait title

He can but not everyone might understand completely. So it's needed here to be more specific so that viewers may understand the issue.

@@obnoxiousfaryas really brother really? Are you that weak in language comprehension that if things are not said to you specifically you won’t understand them?

@@satti80 I'm speaking for everyone. Yes there are people who aren't used to hearing euphemisms and indirect words. Issues like this is best spoken clearly to convey the true meaning of the issue. Last thing we want is people assuming stuff and making things worse.

How do you know they don't?

You are right bro/sis It’s sad tbh and really unfortunate for the women to be in this situation. Most of the men I knew have zero interests in making their women happy in bedroom. Problem is their parents or teachers not teaching them anything about love and affection in any way. Let’s talk about desi culture. Desi and Arab men don’t care about these things in bedroom weather she wants it or enjoying it. So much to say but I’m sure you know or heard it before. It will take some time to change those mens mindset

@@Ricestlover that is the last thing on their mind

Please say “Alhamdulilah al lathee 3afani min ma ibba talakum bih, wa fadallani 3ala katheeru min man khalaqa tafdeela” when you see someone who has gone through or is going through or has some hardship or trail etc say this always! You will not be afflicted by that thing if you do this, Inshallah.

This is silly, men don't need to cover their face. Just listen and don't look at the video.

That's an interesting POV. But I think scholars have already answered it

@Obvious Incel women must lower their gaze when they find a man attractive.

As long as he’s properly covered, he has done his part. If looking at him is a fitna for you, then you have to look away. Cannot blame someone who is blameless.

@@moonwalkerr87 "… and say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty" Surah Al-Noor [30 -31]

We also need to be very careful just because some people do something doesn’t mean it’s okay!!!

Stop Your BS please... Western Men dont wanna marry anymore, look the red pills and mgtows... Because the women have no shame, to fu** with so many guys, then they try a good men with money, but not a sexy body, then the start to cheat or split up with the men... Or they get pregnant and then split up... And what say western men now... The Religions make it good... And try to marry a virgin... And you say now, we better stop to shame?? Germany say to, most man, marry a women is madness... Why?? They have a lot of s*xopions and you cant trust her... Because the most men was betrayed... Not only incels and blackpiller, good men too... And the new men was most time more rich or more badboy... Sister need to know, if you have more mens, you are not like a virgin, you are more like a whore, and nobody with selfrespect and money, wanna you marry... Until we have virgins here, they try to land on one virgin or one women, who have only 1 husband... Mens have more hormons for sex... Mens dont Love so fast... And what is this for a women, who let a randoom men in her body, only he looks cute or badboy... I dont say men do it good, they need punishment too... But a men hornylevel and a women hornylevel are not same... Because this, the women loose more...

If she go back to God, and make her soul clean, and swear to God she wanna never again go back to bad boys, then she learn her Religion and are the best women in town for Religion, maybe then some men look again to her, but she cant cry, if the men found out, who she was... Because we trust no women, without a virginproof... How many time she can meet with boys for a*al or blow*ob, if the Family Look at her... And she never feel a another men in her vagina, this emotion she safe for you...

Sister, double standards exist in society and rightly so. It doesn't always "work both ways" Men and women are different so double standards should apply. If we were to use the same standards we use for men for women or vice versa that would be unfair.

@@lost_poet_ what do u mean ?so a man can do as he pleases ! You know women are not robots they have desires too and they fall into haram

Nobody said when Men do haram it's okay. So kindly stop spreading your poisonous words. The issue here is wife masturbating on her own right after having sex with her husband. Even if it was the other way around it's still haram and also not right to the spouse psychologically.

I don’t necessarily agree with this you can have high desires but also have self control. Also if she is struggling with it pre marriage and shes a virgin then most likely once she gets married the issue will (hopefully) be resolved as long as there isn’t a big mismatch between her and her partners drive

@@sammyz4eva but what if she doesn't have that degree of self control like this sister in this video?

@@lost_poet_ if she does cheat then of course it is wrong. But you can’t say someone will just because they have a high drive.

@@sammyz4eva I didn't say she will. I mentioned it's most likely, in my opinion. If the husband can not fulfill those needs then she's bound to look elsewhere

@Ceiling Fan .. What point are you trying to make?

There's much worse videos like music, indecency, almost nude people, violent games etc on RU-vid. So please.

@@obnoxiousfaryas yes, I mean we're muslims, and we're responsible of what we're doing. I don't know how algorithms work, but at least make this video restricted, so no kids (muslim kids) will stumble upon this video.

@@al-Jakarti that's the job of parents to monitor their kids. And not give them access to everything and anything. Restricting such a common and ongoing issue in muslim marriages will only further increase it.

@@obnoxiousfaryas but it's also the job for anyone of us who knows that there are kids who can access RU-vid, regardless whether their parents are aware of it or not, as muslims we should take it into consideration.

As a Gen Z teenager, I'd hate to say it but majority of us were exposed to internet pornography at around 11-13. This may be thru ads, popups, redirects, or someone else telling about that.

Say alahuma barik

He's on the motorway or highway whatever you call it

Cruise control akhi

@@elmiroble4608 Allahumma Barik

@@squabsquab2524 jazakalla khairan brother

reference?

@@angelinataherin3102 hadiets are saying from profhet Mohammed peace and blessings op on him.

Simply not true

@@theterminator6121 bro, it's the main ingredients. Plus, try doing the opposite and see where that gets you.

Self-masturbation is sinful.

Translate it and reupload it if he permits you

You lucky bastard....

Dude delete this comment have some shame

Bro don’t tell us this, this is between you and your wife

@@ColonelFluffles bro who are you and what are you? Did you accept Islam yet?

@@Lzali10469 Yes, I accepted Islam and I will spread it throughout Western Europe.

astaghfirllah. Allah disapproved of this bs!

@@TeymurKhan571 it is the best ideology in the dating world it does not require us to hate on women rather understand them and trust me brother it solves everything it does not goes against Islam except for the dating part ofcourse

@@buzznotaracist3755 akhi, blackpillers are a desctructive group who hate themselves and can’t find women. It shouldn’t be followed by Muslims. Redpillers minus the zina is okay

@@TeymurKhan571 no brother redpill is the most mysogynistic it will just make you hate women trust me but black pill is the ultimate truth because it focuses on the science and is pretty reasonable to the fitra I came at peace with myself you can't say they hate themselves but if you're below 5'6 then you can't do anything but to give thanx to Allah swt and work for the akhirah Allah test everyone in our case he test us with looks.. maybe hoor for us but we shouldn't destroy a woman's life she has the right to choose best man for herself

@@buzznotaracist3755 Yes, but blackpill cant be applied to every women. I think most of modern women are the reason for this blackpill, and I agree with that. We dont hate ourselves, blackpill in my opinion teaches us to look at personality rather than looks. Look at most women I’ve met (muslims), they say that they want a tall, rich husbands, but if I say that I want a beautiful (I supposely doesnt mention muslimah, although irl I would search for muslimah), they will mock me and say that I have to accept her no matter what. This is true, but look at the double standards here lol. Again, not every women

@Obvious Incel Yeah

Please reword that

He's not advising a particular couple. He's addressing an issue that is not being solved behind closed doors. This video may help save some marriages. So it's an ignorant take to say this is none of his concern.

@@safwanshahriar4108 it’s not his concern, he should worry about his own relationship. This is for couples to talk in PRIVATE, and his heading for his video is disgusting.

@@Geebee67 Then scholars wouldn't give advices regarding marriage and other relationships. Better yet, the Prophet صلى اللّٰه عليه وسلّم wouldn't even speak about intercourse in public. Considering this is a mainstream issue and I didn't have the information or solution close by me, and that this video may even save a marriage or two, I think this video is a logical upload. And about the title, maybe it could be better put if I'm being honest.

No, stop trying to portray him as some kind of weirdo, because he isn't. His helping a lot of men (and women) out there dealing with these kind of issue, much more than you will ever help with that weird, bizarre and judgemental mentality of yours. Cheers.

These men ignore what Muslim men do, Muslim men who have wives and still cheat and find good, although he could simply marry second wife, Muslim men who masturbate, many now say for men is normal, they can do it, although they have wives, Muslim men who do not want to take responsibility. .... It's easier to blame women.

@@ColonelFluffles This is helping, why not talk about men and women, is it not the same sins.

If you can’t handle and take care of one physically, emotionally, and financially, the worst thing to do is bring other women in

This is the reality my bro. If you don't know this is a massive issue in our community and our generation then you are in the minority. Muslim couples are facing this issue a lot nowadays. So it's a very valid question and topic and needs to be dealt with. Many muslim brothers have such wives and unfortunately living in such bad marriages.

Ikr it’s so uncomfortable

What about those that are too shy to attend such lectures? What if there simply are no such lectures at all? These are real problems and need to be addressed PUBLICLY since there is absolutely no one talking about this yet it's common in our ummah

So let's delete all the Islamic QA pages on the net. Let's delete all the videos of scholars addressing masturbation and porn. When the issue is so mainstream you want the solution to be only mentioned in private? There are millions of Muslim sisters single above the age of 30, single mother's and what not. Do you not think they suffer from these issues in the current highly sexualised environment?

Bro he makes so much money by himself do you think he needs youtube or something? Brother gabriel is one of the only Islamic youtubers who tackle these huge problems. Do you know that the number 1 po*n viewing country is a muslim country?

@@bbalpha4921 I dnt think Muslim country is the top most watched that is with America, India, Japan or China. It is most searched as the westerners know each site whereas in the Muslim country they would search for it as there is restrictions on the net in some Muslim countries

Those attitudes are EXACTLY why he needs to adress these problems. If no one talks about these things, then who will? «There is no shyness in religion». Many people suffer in silence and are two faced because we all pretend to be angels. Real talk.

Bro What are you talking?

@@somedude454 🤣

@@rutaz6176 did U read that in an accent 😅

Brother this is seat belt.