I Confronted My Father After CSA 

Yeah, does she have any proof?

No this are inesesnt shes very intelligent ❤ from Europe Switzerland jist the best i feel you

@@craigharris41 are you a molester? For WHAT REASON would you have to ask such a hideous question such as that?

💯 He should NEVER be around children EVER!

or to you or to any innocent living being, fe deserves to be in Hell

Dad said inappropriate things to me, it was mostly verbal, so he thought it didn't constitute sexual abuse.He blamed me and threatened me. He is pathetic! I warn other family and other women, especially those with girls, he can't be trusted. He expects me to be silent so he won't go to jail. I won't protect him. He blamed me for the abuse, not taking responsibility, nor does he. I don't like, love or respect him, much less trust him! He's a sicko. His brother got into telling me sex jokes. They are pathetic! Not all members of his family are like them, thankfully! Dad started when I was 12 1/2, it went on for decades. His brother started by telling me a sexual joke. I complained to their mother who said "Have a sense of humor" Nothing was funny about the joke or the situation. I lost any relationship with her for her enabling the uncle. So pathetic. I felt alone, betrayed and blamed. Dad still expects me to protect him. I won't!

I was 26 when the uncle made the nasty joke. I gave up on him and dad. They are pathetic!

I agree! I warned family about him. He expects me to put up and shut up. He expected me to let him off the hook.He expects to continue and me be silent. He's wrong! I warned my sister, who has a daughter. I warned my aunt and uncle who have two daughters and a son, too. I warn other women, especially those with daughters, to have nothing to do with him. I hope they listened. I am breaking the cycle! I chose not to have kids, so they won't be hurt by him!

I’m so so sorry that happened to you 🧡🧡😔

I'm 60. I hear you darl 🥺

I am 61 but it was my brothers and then sometimes his friends.

@@teem4207😢❤

Exwctly!! Even if a child does try some inappropriate touching or wtv...(like her father said she did) it is up to the adult to not engage and stop that type of activity immediately. No matter WHAT it is never ever the child's fault. And that goes for young children all the way up to 18. Ive heard so many stories of fathers or uncles or stepfathers trying to say that the "she knew what she was doing" or "she would walk around the house half naked to tease me" and its just 🤮🤮🤮

Well said!!

Exactly ❤

@@jonelbondyingnuezca742you are a disgrace

YES!! I was molested by my dad too, but my mom wouldn't believe me (until 15 yrs later when he finally admitted to her, anyways). So no one had ever told me it's not my fault, until around 2 yrs ago, when I started watching Swoop here on YT. She's such a beautiful soul. She tells/reminds us that it's not our fault & repeats it like u did pretty often. I cried like a baby the 1st time I heard her say it & now, I still cry every time I hear it, just not as bad, lol. It really does help, so I try to tell/remind ppl (just like u have here 😉) as often as I can! Anyways, thank u so much for doing that, love!!! Sending u lots of peace & love ~From TN ❤❤❤

Wow. I didn't see the whole clip as it's just a tad too heavy for me at this point in my life but I hope the aren't still practicing! If so, I think this lovely lady needs to report them..

Not if she is an adult

Sadly a lot of states still have limitations on abuse if it isn’t rape, especially, even though many still do for rape even. It’s why I never reported and it’s sad because my state just changed it to no limitation but I’ve blocked almost all the memory now 😔 what I do have left is very fuzzy... there’s nothing I can do now except hope and pray they can’t hurt anyone else. If my memories ever came back I would report. But I was abused a LOT as a very young girl, by two different people. One of them was caught and my mom has told me details about it that I don’t remember. So my brain had learned how to shove it all away already by age 4.

They don’t have to report unless the crime is still happening or it happened within the statute.

They only have a duty to report if the abuse is still going on/if the person is still at risk of being victimised.

You probably haven't been sexually abused by your dad then

Don't let him near your kids, ever!

Exactly! The cycle will always continue if the offender is allowed around children

I agree, I can relate to this my father also is a sexual abuser in s subtle way and if I had kids I wouldn't allow him to be alone with my kids. No matter if he changed there is no room for such an option.

I understand most children are torn, because the abuser is somehow not the same “person” as their loving dad. When a child is hurt, their mental development is stunted at that age. So you’re still 4 & love your parent.

Name of book? Hope I can find it on my library app

@@GatesontheGo It was not published. It was written as a means of self therapy, was sent to him by another individual and was then destroyed without my permission.

@@GatesontheGoI think it was a personal diary, probably not a published book.

I don't blame you for not going to his funeral. My mother is dying and I have often thought (over the last 30 years) the day she dies will be the day I remember as the day my heart and soul are totally emancipated from the horrid parent and person she's been . Your same sex parent is suppose to love their child unconditionally and lead by their example. I remember my mother taking store clerks and Dr office's staff OUT with her words leaving them shaking and in tears and her extreme need to always be right and mad at the same time. She will die after all the lies, rages and untreated mental disorders including narcissism that she leaves our world with. Never took responsibility for her mental health and always blamed others for her issues. The way she treated my brothers and Father were just as bad and caused much mental distress to every member of the family. I've actually asked God if he would play her video of her death back for me so I can see it. I want to make sure she's GONE & that she gets what she never took back nor sought treatment for 100 fold laying on others by her horrendous choices. I believe she sexually abused my brothers and had a memory of her taking me to a ritual gathering in the Catholic church when I was about 4. I scared the shit out of her, the priest and attendees. I began talking like a adult and telling them what they were doing to kids was a blaspemy to God and there would be huge repercussions. It got me out of a childhood of sexual abuse by the Catholic church. They hate kids who talk too much. I went right home and told my dad - my mom told him I had an overactive imagination and was lying and last time I went to those kind of church get togethers . . . but not my brothers. Whenever we moved we always had our new priest over for dinner. I truly think Mom was showing them what she was offering up for them and her church (her sons). I wasn't negotiable because I had a big mouth. Thank God THANK GOD thank god.

Me too so painful I never had any close relationship after this had sexual anxieties too much and have become almost asexual now rather identify myself to it as I have hated sexual contacts too much

I’m so sorry that happened to you! 🧡

😊

@@martinln1932why are you smiling

I'm so sorry

@@martinln1932wtf check your emoji not ok

Right! I have never understood the logic of those that say 'but they're your family?' Like, that somehow justifies their shitty actions? OR grants them permission to be abusive, exploitative, manipulative etc etc. I now see it as something that people who've never experienced toxic family systems say, having not stopped to think about it first.

@@kellymurphy6667 totally agree with you

The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb. Chosen bonds are stronger than blood bonds

I agree with you, I will not protect my dad, his shaming and blaming and threatening me did not work. I told my sister, mother(further), her mom. I tell other women, especially those with daughters, not to trust/have anything to do with him. I hope I am breaking the cycle of his SA of me.

"The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." Basically the family we choose for ourselves is usually more loyal and trustworthy than our biological family. Edit: oh dang, I should read all the replies before I add my own!

Sorry about your Dad. Thanks for his service! My Dad was like yours! 🙏🏼❤️he was a war hero WW2

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It’s like the wicked live long to roam the earth

The perfect playmate? That statement threw me off... Are you saying you wish your dad would have been more like her dad?

My dad passed away a couple of years ago. He was a very kind man but had issues showing affection. He really loved me though. I can imagine having a dad who can hurt you in that way. People like him are evil. Do not ever let your children around him.

I agree

Agreed

Are you saying that this brave woman isn't a survivor? That's insulting.

My soul was murdered. Age 3.

I agree and they should get life in prison. Destroying your own child’s childhood with this perverted, sick action. I think they treat it too lightly in the courts.

Im so sorry my dear😢❤

You're not damaged goods. You were taken advantage of by someone who should protect you and care for you above all else. I know it's hard because of how entangled you get in the trauma, but that's not what you are, it's something that happened to you. I do think entanglement is the right term. It has helped me to look at my own trauma that way. You're not the thing itself; you're not "of" it, you're caught in it. There's a big difference. I hope that speaks to you.

Sending you so much love 💛

💐❤️

@@innermeetme thank you so much for those kind words

Many I said "my" which wSa typo.

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WE ARE WARRIORS!@@trevorjennings

@@shannon6708That’s good to know you’re safe from the virus😊. Hope you’re having a nice and a wonderful day today??

So intelligent. Boundaries are everything. They say NO to abuse and end its action. They also reflect a high form of self-love and inner knowing. Thank you for sharing.

Now men in power have taken away the right for a female to have an abortion if they get pregnant by these sexual abusers.

Unless it's your own parent you have not no idea what you'd do

I'm afraid he will start it again. He got one of his brothers to bother me, with a sexual joke. Inappropriate. I was shocked. Then, I complained to their mother who said "Have a sense of humor" The joke, nor the situation were funny, she enabled the uncle and expected me to put up and shut up. End of my relationship with the troublesome trio!

What is wrong over in America. So much of this going on. Is it generational trauma or what ?

I’m so so sorry 💛

Lousy creep!!!! 🤨

That's crazy. I pray that you find healing my love ❤

@@c.p.5741 Thank you. I’m in therapy. It’s been five years in therapy now and I’m having positive breakthroughs. ❤️

@@myishenhaines1706 awww I'm so happy for you. Keep it up love! And find your happy space ♥ 🙏

Thank you so much 🧡

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Yeah she is a true badass! Her dad was a sociopath!!!

I find myself truly hating Men more and more.

I confronted my dad, he told me I had some nerve, that I made it up to make him look bad(he needs no help from me, to look/be bad!). I warned others about him. No kids for me, so he can't abuse them, too! I protect future generations from him. I am not silent, nor do I put up and shut up. He needs to apologize and mean it. No nonsense and no blaming me. He's hypocritical. He's a douchebag dad!

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He probably did this to other children.

Yes the predator will always blame the victim

Someone who is without a conscience

Someone who's evil 😢

Words like: innocent *little* and angel are descriptors that motivate predation. Please refer to children as children, HUMAN BEINGS, not small, not fragile, not corruptable. It's important to be mindful of the importance of language

@@trent_kingyou’re wrong they are little, innocent and fragile.

@@sueannarca9102 I didn't say they weren't

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It never ever someone else’s place to tell a survivor how to handle healing from their trauma. You have no right to tell other survivors to do what you have done. We are allowed to follow our own path.

​@@myishenhaines1706 I never told anyone what to do I was speaking on my own point of view. But I agree everyone heals in their own way

I agree whats the point in getting an apology from the devil? Theyre not human.

Very true, but I needed it for myself to be able to have closure

@@audrey-vf9efxactly! It’s also dangerous because they will go along with it by “apologizing”, writing letters,giving gifts just to abuse you AGAIN later. This is why I think it’s best and safer to give yourself closure and stay always from them!

He never even addressed what he did, just moving around it, sick

Big hugs and you are stronger than you know! I finally got rid of my brother who I didn't realize was mentally abusing me even though the other had stopped many years ago. Removing any caustic person or thing from our lives is essential to our health mental, physical and spiritual. It's one of the hardest things I have ever done and I've done really hard things. It does take 2-4 years once the abuse has stopped for our brains to be able to start processing healing from it. I found writing it all down as needed, podcasts and audiobooks really helpful. 🌈 💜 🌈 You go this. It's his shame and his sadness. He's a big baby parading as a grown up and you are truly a grown up.

I am so so sorry you went through all of that 😔💛

Jesus loves you and wants to heal you.

People who victim blame annoy the shit out of me. That is NEVER okay! Your godmother doesn't sound like a great person in my opinion. I'm sorry you had to go through that.

I hope you healing journey can be empowering. Even though full Justice did not happen, you are a precious gemstone being revealed. Please seek counseling, therapy. Being taken advantage of by a family member and then Godmother dismissing it all is just what a lot of families do. I experienced such a family too. But my eternal Father is my real father in Heaven. He comforts me. I hope you can find what you need to start healing ❤️‍🩹

Yes, My dad, his brother were in on it. Dad, much more so. He said he was doing me favor. No! He still won't apologize, he blamed me, entirely. Jackass! The uncle told me a sexual joke. Their mother, when I complained, told me to "have a sense of humor" the joke wasn't funny,nor the situation. I was expected to put up and shut up. End of my relationship with those three! I felt betrayed, isolated and blamed. They didn't deserve my trust. Especially Dad, then his brother, and then their mother enabled my uncle with the comment "Have a sense of humor" Not of it was funny. They're scum! I deserve better!

Thank you so much 💛

🧡🧡

Dad expects me to be silent to protect him. I'm not silent. I warn others. Too bad for him!

@@jackilynpyzocha662 good call! Take care of yourself and loved ones 💚💚💚

little bbbies touch themselves???? wtff are you talking about? ghislaine maxwell :O goddamn

Babies don't know anything about something feeling good. Smh

@@ceceprincess4758 no, it’s true, some toddlers do. But it’s never something to be abused and twisted. Their guardians should speak to the child’s pediatrician about it because that in itself can be a sign of SA.

@@brioche8123no Fr I remember I since I was a toddler, I would touch myself. I had never been CSA although when I hit six, I ended up being a victim of grooming, not rape or anything actual sexual, it was still very very bad. But yeah, I had explicit dreams, really weird explicit dreams as toddler and kid. CRAZY. As I got older I was like damn, wtf. But I feel like the explicit dreams became worse after the grooming began. And I know for a fact before I was six nothing happened. It was just a weird subconscious thing.

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Thank you so much 🧡🧡

Sending you so much love 🧡🧡

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You do whatever makes you happy.

I am happy he is out of my life and I am sorry for my sister who is not really understanding to becareful not to leave the kids sleeping overnight at mine parebts because my mother is a shitty lady who helped him in the past. I did my best and I talked to her so this is up to her. She was warned that if one day her kids say something happened to them not come to me since she knew and didn't listen to me.

Thank you so much 🧡

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Like ew 😢she’s definitely messed up in the head from this he’s a predator and when he said she’s the perfect play mate eww im disgusted you never ask for a apology from the person who did you wrong and u will never be in my kids life period she’s out of her mind

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There's no proof as she doesn't have to go through that

@@Jesusgivesnewlife So it’s ok that she stays quiet and enables other children to be raped? Is it better to do good on the Sabbath or evil?

This comment makes me angry as a victim of this myself the cops do not give a single fuck

Let the cops feel guilty if they turn you away and the abuser preys on more kids. At least speaking out is trying to do something. Make blog posts using his real name and expose him. Even if he threatens to sue is that worse than SA?

@@BigRedShadevil I’ve told my story countless times and I went to the police the day it happened with my mother. I was 8 years old. I was told it was completely normal

Thank you so much 🧡

Thank you so much 🧡 and yeah, my dad showed me that he can’t take responsibility for his actions or feel remorse, so he will never be involved in anything. I don’t have kids yet, but maybe one day 💛

Thank you so much 🧡🧡

Wow! I'm so sorry things were handled that way. Hurt people hurt people, and you deserved way better. God bless you always. It wasn't your fault

Im sorry. You are loved and treasured beyond measure. God knows the truth and you know the truth. I hope they can apologize to you someday. I wish you immense healing and tenderness

He’s not God don’t ever disrespect God

@@ceemoney5309 she means her real father is the Lord, not her abuser. Your nastiness is unnecessary.

Your story resonates deeply with me. I wish the absolute best for you.

@@artisthusnatalal3099blah blah blah blah blahb

@myrenaissance I totally understand about struggling with the idea of God as Father. It took me a long time to be able to see that father should mean love and not fear or abandonment. ❤

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@@trevorjennings I'm doing fantastic"..and did you mean Covid 23??😄😄😄 what a joke!! Hope your well also🤙

@@angelinaparodi9721 I’m fine Angelina😇. Hope you’re having a nice and a wonderful day today??

Thank you 💛

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❤ Never say never. ❤️

You can do it 💛💛 but you have to do it on your own timing

In some way the causality of the Universe or Karma will always find a way to make balance by serving consequences to ones who seek to cause damage and pain unprovoked to others. An action brings reaction and some things are irrevocable, once done cannot be undone.