I don’t look blind, or do I? (A blind girl rant) 

"You don't look blind" is a phrase most blind people hear on a regular basis, so that begs the question, is there really a way to "look blind?" The answer? NO! Blindness is a spectrum and our community is as diverse as any other group of individuals! There is no one way to look or be blind. In fact, most blind people don't even use a mobility aid like a cane or guide dog, so you very well may be interacting with a blind person on a daily basis and have no idea. I'm blind, so this is what blindness "looks like" for me but one day that may change. A common complication of RP is developing cataracts, which often make the eyes appear more foggy. Will this make my blindness more real? No, I'm blind either way - no matter how my eyes look. If we in the blind community can understand that, I'd like to hope others can too. There is no one way to look or be blind! We and our eyes all look different and EVERYONE is perfect as they are.

“You don’t look autistic” “you don’t look disabled” “you don’t look depressed” etc. etc. it’s such a huge struggle outside of the disabilities themselves.

I work at Starbucks. Because of you I was more aware of the most caring and helpful ways I can interact with blind customers and the accommodations we have as a business. A customer who is blind came in with a friend. I noticed she was blind because she was using a cane. I walked over to her and let her know we have a braille menu. She was super excited. I used my voice to guide her to where it was. Her eyes were not facing me while we interacted and to be honest it was relieving as a neurodivergent person who has to force a lot of eye contact in a service job myself. I am very grateful for your content. I'm glad you are embracing your freedom to allow your eyes to do whatever they want to do. You are amazing, smart and beautiful. Love you Molly!

As someone with a chronic illness who is regularly told how well I look, I think I might be able to understand. Since I’ve wished to look more sick so people don’t expect more from me than I’m capable of, the part about “looking more blind” making things easier for you was very relevant.

I am legally blind. I have a lot of sight for a blind person, but I have strabismus. It switches between eyes and isn’t all the time, but I am very self-conscious and people make horrible comments. I often feel like I don't belong with the blind community but also am not 100% sighted. There have been times I don't want to meet people or do certain things because of it. I was literally crying watching your video. I can't thank you enough. I really can't. Thank you soo much!!!!

I work in two different rehab centers for very different clients and I want to say that like in disability in addiction there is no "face" or "type" that an addict looks like. I also grew up with a mother with a disability and although she was not blind she would get the similar sentiment of "you don't look disabled"

I’m so glad your touching on this. I got yelled at by an old lady using a automatic cart thing in target today with my service dog. She asked to pet him and I kindly told her he was working and she then told me I’m a healthy young girl with no issues and that I’m just lying t have a dog with me. Then told me that if I have a dog in public I’m signing up for him to be pet. I have many chronic illnesses that don’t visual show and it was such a scary angering experience.

Everything you said here is so true! I’m legally blind, and I constantly get the comment, “You don’t look blind/disabled.” People frequently accuse me of lying or exaggerating. I have often found myself trying to look blinder in contexts where I need accommodations, or trying to look less blind in contexts where I’m worried people will discriminate against me. Blind people shouldn’t have to cater to sighted people’s expectations just to be treated with basic decency and respect.

I'm not blind but I am disabled and have lupus and I agree with you so much, especially with the "you don't look (insert condition or disability here)". It makes me feel really bad. I used to push myself to act "normal", mostly to put others at ease, but it's exhausting. I used to force myself to go to dinner or go for a walk so I didn't look sick or disabled. Disability and the range that a chronic illness affects someone is a huge spectrum and it changes day to day. I love and appreciate your content so much. It makes me feel not so alone

i’m not blind, but i am disabled and i relate so much. i hate the pity and/or praise. nobody understands how the praise could negatively affect me, but it bothers me so much, and you explained it so well. people expect of me so much more than i can actually do all the time. also, the internalized ableism is so real. i hate it so much. thank you so much for this video ❤️ its so important.

As disabled people, a lot of us mask how we truly feel/look/anything in order to please able bodied people. I didn’t realize I was doing this at all until I was 20, but I’ve been doing it since I was at least 5. It’s something that’s so hard to unlearn when we might not know or remember anything else. This video is great representation for some of us, thank you for everything that you do Molly 💙

Yes! Thank you Molly! I'm autistic and often have people say you don't look autistic, what does an autistic person look like? It's a neurological condition, and just like blindness it is a spectrum and everyone is individual

THANK YOU for saying this!! I started work and a supervisor chatted with me about me getting sworn in as a lawyer. I told her I’m excited that a blind judge will swear me in and she told me “why would you want that, you aren’t blind?” Like she didn’t ask just said I couldn’t be blind when in fact I am and a good worker and soon to be lawyer. Plus I ALWAYS get the excuse of people forgetting I’m blind cuz I look so normal. It’s so sad and frustrating 😅😢😢😢

this was so honest and good! (as always) I'm so thankful for your perspective and truth, Molly. Stigma is so ugly and it comes in all forms. I'm a sighted person and this will be good for all of us to learn from.

As a sighted person, listening to mollies perspective truly help me educate myself on disabled people and how to be courteous and respectful. Thank you mollie for being so informative!❤❤

GREAT RANT! My twin brother became disabled after a stroke, since I’ve been watching your channel for years already, your guidance on what able bodied people can do really helped me navigate it. I’ve been showing my family ways we can help that will help empower him. I’m sorry people can be so insensitive but I guarantee you’ve helped far more people and made the world better for it. ❤

I always hated that saying. Now that I’m confident in telling people I am visually impaired/blind, people still tell me I don’t look blind so I’m faking but even my close friends have told me that if they actually look at my right eye you can clearly tell there’s no more vision cause I lost all my vision in my right eye over the past two years and it keeps getting grey fog more and more, it’s such a frustrating thing to always have to battle as someone with low vision living in this sighted world. I’m so glad you explained this and hopefully people can have a different view after this video.

I feel so fortunate that I worked at a camp for the blind and visually impaired because I was around so many amazing people that presented different ways including several that worked as my colleagues. All were vastly different from each other and the differences in the way they were treated astounded me. I couldn't comprehend when people would day one of them didn't look blind bc she tracked very well. Sometimes got very lucky with finding condiments on the table.

Red lips looked bomb! ❤ and pink lips are cuuute! Love you Molly! 😘

I’ve had this said to me many times before. I don’t really understand why people think it’s a compliment. My vision loss comes from optic nerve damage from a brain tumour. A lot of people still don’t understand that vision loss can come in hundreds of different forms.

My husband has strabismus but he is sighted (should wear glasses but he does just fine without them and is more comfortable that way) but other then that he is able bodied. BUT people were and still are looking at him funny or keep staring or even make fun of. One of my close relatives was concerned about me getting married to him, because of this condition, because he could pass it down (even if we don't want children which is unfortunately not accepted and we will surely change our minds 😡🤦) and because he's ugly and not "normal" and I could do better. It still hurts me, but he is so used to it, it's actually a little bit sad, that he had to get used to it. By no means I want to compare your struggles with his but our society is so weird. We can treat a "normal' person differently because they don't look "normal" but we also treat disabled who look "normal" in such a weird way and call them liars... I just can't comprehend it

Hey Molly! As a blind person who also has CP, I haven't hurd the "you don't look blind" BS, but people do say things like "oh you por por kid" because I have CP and because of my blindness and it pisses me off to no end. Thank you for making this video, kind regards, a blind teen from BC. PS. I was born blind.

Not blind but I am disabled, and I feel so much solidarity with you in this video. (I also love getting to see this talked about from the perspective of a member from a disability community that's different than my own!) I used to need a mobility aid, but now I don't anymore, and without it I look ablebodied. I'm glad that I'm able to get around without my mobility aid now, but I also miss "looking disabled." I know I have a lot of internalized ableism, and watching this helped me feel more like "Yes, I am disabled, so I am what my disabilities look like." Thank you for sharing this.

There used to be a Candian stand-up comic duo where one was blind. (I don't remember their names.) The blind one didn't look like a stereotypical blind person (no dark sunglasses or guide dog). As part of his routine, he would tell a story about someone going up to him and saying, "You don't look blind. How come you're not wearing glasses?" His response, "Have you ever seen a deaf guy wear earmuffs?"

I'm chronically ill and disabled (by my chronic illness as well as another disorder) and I am often told that I "don't look ill" or that "I look really good so no one can tell!" And although both of those statements are meant to be compliments, they really sting because they usually also mean that the person I'm speaking to doesn't understand the gravity of my illness and disability. Being invisibly ill makes it hard to receive necessary supports and accommodations. I'm still processing my feelings around this but I do know that it is very challenging for me at this time, and I'm sorry that people aren't more understanding about diversity within the blind community!

I’m glad so many people relate. I have a chronic illness and it drives me nuts when I get the comments “you look healthy” or “you don’t look sick” and they think it’s a compliment.

Hi Molly, I’m sorry to hear that your vision is continuing to decline. I could tell that it affects you, and thank you for letting us know. I grew up without reference to blind/deaf people. The only time I saw a blind person, it would be on tv, the first person coming to mind would be Stevie Wonder, always with thick black sunglasses on. Maybe a saw a person with a cane, but again, very rare. Until I found your channel, I never really understood that there were different kinds of blindness, my lack of education thought it would be: either you see, or you don’t. To be fair, I initially stayed for the animal content, as I just love animals, and yes, I did wonder how a blind person could be so fantastic with makeup and fashion, as I, a sighted person haven’t even a fraction of your skill and knowledge and colour coordination. I am now a volunteer with the Be My Eyes app, and love your channel as a learning opportunity for myself, to give myself awareness and knowledge on how to be more inclusive. Please don’t adjust how you are to “fit in” for sighted people, I’m too busy looking at your pets, your amazing interior, your makeup/ clothes, or whatever, to notice how your eyes are moving. Please stay you

🌞 Just watched your Tiktok live. I love your videos despite knowing no one with vision impairment and being old enough to be you mom. You've taught me so much!

In a word, this is how you look dear Ms. Molly Burke…BEAUTIFUL! :)

I have eyes that have a drop down and people think they look like cats eyes and say that they look amazing but they don’t actually know the struggle I have to go though and have a disability from it. It’s called Coloboma and I was born with it and there no cure for it. Love watching you and you help me out a lot. Thank you xx

Hi, Molly. I am completely blind in my right eye and visually impaired in my sighted eye. I have nystagmus and I tend to tilt my head without realizing it to compensate for my vision loss. I can still remember the day someone pointed out my head tilt and how ashamed and embarrassed it made me feel. I have also been told, "I would never have known you are visually impaired." I think people really struggle with difference and they want to qualify it in some way. It can be very frustrating when you are just trying to go about your life.

Because I was able to successfully make it from my chair at the doctors office to the reception desk approximately six steps away , without my cane , I was accused of not really being blind. I mean I have only been to this office like 20 times . I asked my MD to have a discussion with the reception lady about the retina and it’s function ( or in my case dysfunction ) . She actually said , “ well you tried to fool me with the white cane .” Oh yes . I just love carrying that thing around for fun these days . 🤷‍♀️

I have MS and what I hate is being pitied. I am normal, just as you are, but being pitied is the worst for me. This was a really good, enjoyable video Molly. Thank you.

This really resonated with me. I'm in my late 20s but have arthritis and hypermobility syndrome. I often push myself more than I should because people think I'm able bodied and I don't want to seem disabled and I get embarrassed. It's going to be a learning and acceptance curve for me to accept that I am disabled and that doesn't necessarily look like other people's disabilities and that's okay. People don't have to see me as someone with a disability for me to have a disability

Molly I don’t know how many times I have heard that I don’t look disabled. I have even had a county disability organization tell me that I didn’t look disabled enough for their services. THANK YOU for making this video because I deal with it also seeing as I have autism. When people think about autism they think of people that basically society has always used the R word in regards to disabilities. Please keep doing what you’re doing because you give people like me a “friend” who deals with the same shit I do.

Yeees, it happens to me so many times! I’m legally blind due to glaucoma but I have a very narrow field of vision left. So I’m able to read something on my phone up close, but I need a white cane to move around so I don’t bump into things constantly. I use public transport to go to work and there was a guy on the bus once. I got on the bus and sat behind the driver and that guy was a couple of seats behind me and he started talking about me behind my back, that I wasn’t actually blind because blind people wouldn’t be able to go on a bus like that let alone use a phone and that I would simulate all of this to get an advantage from welfare support and what not. I was SO pissed, first about that unparalleled rudeness of that person and second it made me so angry that there is that image that other people have about us and that they just don’t understand what blindness actually looks like and what different forms it can have. I really wish that people would educate themselves more and would start asking questions if they don’t understand something instead of guessing and imagining how things should be like because they saw it in a freaking movie! So thanks a lot for your channel and that it helps others to finally understand blindness and the people behind it better.

It’s heartbreaking that we all feel we need to change ourselves. I love that you share this, education is needed.

I am not blind, but I am mentally disabled (by law) for having mental illnesses (yes, more than 1), so I completely understand how it feels. I was diagnosed late in life because everyone just kept saying I'm just spoiled, shy, dramatic etc. Whenever I said anything about it, I immediately got shut down - which made things worse. Only when the self harm started, around 21ish, my parents finally realized that maybe, just maybe, this is not just me being spoiled. Sadly, you can't see mental illnesses, so even with all the diagnosis, the meds etc - if i'm not actively self harming in an obvious way that you can not ignore (because not eating or even leaving my bed for 4 days is just me being stubborn apparently) - it's going right back to me "choosing to act that way".

Thank you for making this video Molly and bringing awareness to people with disabilities who "look normal". I have a few disabilities and some days I do seem "normal" and can walk a few miles but other days I can't walk at all because my legs don't move and it's very hard to walk and I'm in constant pain. I've even had strangers say "you are too young to have those problems" or "I take a tylenol everyday for my pain it works just fine." I'm tired of people thinking that just because I'm young or I'm okay in the moment means that I am faking a dissability to get a better seat or I'm just lazy because I have lay down during the day every few hours or else I will be in so much I won't be able to walk. More people need to realize that disabled people are all around them every day and they don't even realize it because they seem "normal"

Thank you thank you thank you for finally putting this into words. There is the phrase “disability porn” which I hate but has come the closest to explaining this phenomenon for me. But it’s so hard to explain to people that they are being ableist when they are like “Aw how cute, this wheelchair user is doing something ‘normal’ “ or whatever countless example I have encountered. Ugh. Anyway, thank you for making this video. Also I love your nail color. It looks like minty-light green to me and is very close to my favorite color.

This honestly hit home for me so hard. As a person with strabismus, and has had life long issues with my eyes, I’ve always been insecure of how they look, but listening to you talk about this really helped me remember that im okay just the way I am, and it doesn’t matter. Thank you for sharing this. I didn’t know I needed to hear it❤️

Amazing video molly, thankyou so much for educating us.

Thank you for making this, not looking blind enough or having people tell me I’m not blind enough is really hard. People always think I’m rude or mean for looking at light when I’m tired it might be a me thing but it’s one of those blind things people really judge me on

I feel this so much! I've suffered with a mystery but constant migraine condition for almost a decade now and the number of people that tell me I don't look like I'm sick or in pain is huge. It takes so much effort just to get out of bed because I am constantly in so much pain that has also disrupted my cognitive function and it's so hard to not get any recognition just because I don't the way people expect someone with my condition to look like. So frustrating!

Thank you for sharing Molly. ❤

This is really thoughtful and insightful, Molly. 💜💜 Thanks so much for sharing your perspective.

Thank you Molly. ❤ I was born with severe strabismus and as a young child had two surgeries, one eye at a time, to help straighten the muscles. They were not completely successful but the muscles were significantly improved. Decades later now, I also have nystagmus and when I don’t wear my corrective lenses or if I use one eye over another, (monofocal vision), the strabismus is more apparent than usual. I am not as self conscious of it anymore as I was when I was younger. Mostly because through developing Optic Neuritis and having complete blindness in one eye, then partial in the other, then having my vision restored, I am indescribably thankful for who God created me to be AS I AM!! I am thankful for all of it. Turns out too that the strabismus surgeries which led to the monofocal vision actually helped me tremendously also during my vision loss. My eyes were already accustomed to working independently so I thank them for adapting so well. Normally, one would be for near and one for far sight but then during the vision loss, one eye needed to do both when the other was out of commission. 💞 I have never seen in three dimension, so those glasses in the movies…I always did wonder what the hoopla was all about! 😂 Last, when people make their eyes purposely crossed to be “funny” or to make what they think are funny faces, I feel physically sick. Imitating someone’s physical disability is NEVER funny. I am thankful for the good God always always always makes out of the challenges we each face, and the blessings of facing them together. Thank you Molly and community! 💞

I love watching your videos with my kids, 5yr and 3yr. It helps me explain so much to them about disability, service animals, and so much more. My 5yr has asked so many good questions, and when we saw a guide dog in person both boys looked to me, and the oldest said, oh we can't pet that dog, he's working. I'm always looking forward to your vidoes!

This is real talk right here Molly. I am legally blind and I have absolutely no central vision at all and what I struggle with a lot is moving my eyes around so when I talk to people I can see the outline of their face but in return I’m not making any iContact and it comes off as extremely rude and I constantly go back-and-forth on do I fake looking at the person so it’s polite or do I look away so I can actually try and make out their face better. The struggle is real.

Everybody should be watching your channel. It's extremely helpful to know what other people go through in all aspects of life. Having a better understanding of our fellow humans is important. While each and every person has different feelings towards the life they're living, it truly helps having a basic understanding of what people go through. Thank you for sharing this with us Molly.

I love that you feel safe enough here to share your feelings & vent your frustrations. I hope everyone learns something from your insights. I know I have.

Hi Molly. Thanks for posting this video. In the description, I’d seen a link to your audiobook which fit perfectly into my plans to read more non-fiction this month! It’s a great listen.

Oh yes, “using” my eyes gets exhausting sometimes. You help me and others understand and accept our own selves Thank you

I think the red lip with pink outfit looks great on you!

Thank you for sharing your life with us today and in every single video! Every time I see you turn towards people or try to stay focused in their direction I'm tired on your behalf for putting in that work. Also, it helps us and the people you interact with for you not to mask. The whole world needs to be comfortable with you as you are. it's our job to get comfortable with it. It's silly and unfair for anyone to expect you to pretend to have more vision than you do. As a sighted person, the last priority on earth should be how I feel about your blindness. Thank you for putting in the hard work to educate us. You're helping the world eventually get to the point where anyone will be comfortable around any disabled person without that person doing anything other than living their life as they are. I respond to the "You look good for a blank" backhanded compliment by asking where the person is from and then saying, "Wow, you look good for someone from Placetown! I would have no idea you were from Placetown if you hadn't told me. Seriously, I would almost guess you're from here, but coming from Placetown, yeah you actually look pretty good! " You're putting in the hard work to educate us.

I loved this. It reminded me of when my parents say to look at who I'm talking and for some reason, I just can't. I tried to, a lot, but I can't. So this video really helped put it into perspective that I don't need to try and make them or any other able-bodied person comfortable. I seriously thought I was the only one who thought this way, but I guess not. Thank you, Molly ♥

Such a powerful and important message!

Thank you for posting stuff like this to make us aware off stuff we dont imagine. You’re absolutely right

I really relate to this, but on an autism side of things. “You don’t look autistic” Feeling like I have to mask things. Day to day tasks take more energy and I then have to use more energy to appear “typical”, to maintain eye contact whilst also being able to focus on the conversation. Functioning labels stem from how we outwardly appear to OTHERS. This puts down those labelled as “low functioning” and gives unrealistic expectations for those labelled as “high functioning”. I could ramble some more, but yeah, I really relate to this video. I’m also trying to just be myself, not force myself to appear typical in order to make other people comfortable…when it’s making me uncomfortable doing so.

Thank you Molly. What a great topic that we can all relate too.

I get this a lot when I struggle in public... I have congestive heart failure, hypertrophic cardiomyopathy with an enlarged septum and a ICD defibrillator. I'm 26 and have two little girls a 2yr old and a 7month old and I struggle a lot. sometimes some days I have good days, some days I have bad days. what always gets me is when I go to the cardiologist and people ask why I'm there "I don't look like I have anything wrong with me" or "you're too young to have a bad heart" or I'm using a mobility scooter at Walmart because I'm out of breath...and I get judged because people think "you don't need that" I'm sorry I didn't know you had x-ray vision and you could see my heart🙃😉 I love your videos and you are beautiful no matter what inside and out❤

The reason I love your videos is not to learn more about blindness or fashion or whatever - It is because as a young woman myself, going through my 20s, seeing you just a few years older than I am living your life so boldly, helps me keep focused on what is important in life. I try to not live life and make decisions based on what other people say, think, expect, but like many young woman I do find it challenging at times. So really I just wanted to say thanks for just being you and sharing your unique and yet insightful world view.

Molly, you're a real treasure. I'm having similar issues with not 'looking visually impaired'. Whenever I meet random folks they assume I'm training my guide dog, and we're not a working team. The reaction I get from some folks is upsetting. I also struggle to explain my condition to those who ask, but I'm also learning I don't need to justify or explain myself to everybody either. I think I'm still getting used to living with my sight loss journey, but my boy Guinness my guide dog has changed my life for the better. Sight loss is a wide spectrum and unfortunately, not enough people seem to know this. Keep going Molly, you're incredible.

Molly thank you for teaching me so much, I was living in my own world blind to others peoples needs and I needed an eye opener. this has been your channel for me and I hope that one day I meet someone from your community I can be respectful and helpful and not judging and I hope I will make them feel equal and comfortable. that's what I strive for. for every human.

I’m an ophthalmic technician and work with blind people every day, almost NO ONE who is blind “looks blind”, because the most common eye diseases are in the back of the eye that only people at the eye doctor and their ophthalmologist can see. Also, out of the 5 years I’ve worked in ophthalmology and all of the blind people I’ve met, only a couple of them had a cane or service dog. Blind people mostly walk holding a loved ones hand or they’ll walk really close behind the tech so they can follow your shape and then if they don’t wanna hold your elbow, just describe to them where to go. So many ppl without vision feel they are not “blind enough” to use aids and I wish more of them would do those things to make their lives easier. Thank you Molly for bringing awareness to the blind community every day, I have told a lot of our younger patients that lost vision about your channel and hope it helps them! :)

I love you molly. Thank you for bringing more awareness to the sighted people! We love you too!! ❤

Thank you for having this platform and using it to educate people to the ignorance of their behavior and a I appreciate the rawness or your honesty

I just love the colors in your new apartment, so warm and cozy! I am autistic and I have heard so often "you don't look autistic" , people sometimes don't even know that autism is a spectrum and it is different between females and males. After watching you talk about this and other disabled creators, I have gotten more comfortable with just saying I'm autistic, I'm not ashamed of it and I even managed to find a part time job that accommodates with the things I have difficulty with, and they hired me knowing I am autistic, unfortunately I was turned down alot because of it but I didn't give up and I am so happy in the new work. I hope people will start to recognize more and more that disability doesn't have a special look. Before I found you on youtube I did not know anything about blindness, you have tought me so much, thank you for that, I am so thankful for that.

I love the red lip and pink top combo! And pink lip is also pretty, colors look lovely on you 💕

Your outfit and your nails match your walls are I love it!

You are so valuable to the world because of this. Because of what you choose to do. And it's had a positive effect on me and how I treat others, especially blind folks. Because of you sharing with me I'm better

This is one of my biggest pet peeves!! Another one, sometimes just a precursor, that bothers me is people always asking if my guide is in training, to which they follow up with “oh really wow don’t look blind at all” after I had explained she is my guide I am her handler. Thank you for once again putting words to the thoughts, emotions, and experiences that I too have. I love being able to share your videos with others to help them better understand.

Love this video. For me, I wear dark glasses in bright rooms and outside because of my light sensitivity. I hate when I take them off and people are like "woah, you don't look blind".

Thank You Molly for making this video you have no idea how much it helps other people that are also disabled like myself. I no longer feel alone.

Molly you are giving me therapy! Thank you🫶🏽

One of your better ramble videos yet! Personally i have a very very very small balance disability and it annoys me to no end when people say "i have bad balance too" as if to make me feel less alone but it just makes me feel almost mocked or invalidated, that being said, still waiting for a new fashion haul video! My faves!

You’re awesome Molly 🙌🙌🙌

I made the announcement to my family and friends and coworker on Facebook recently that my most recent visit with ENT and Audiology came back that I am candidate for Cochlear implant and have less than 10% hearing left only in one ear. Being deaf, I have heard the you do not look deaf and the most recent one that pissed me off the most is - I not sure how you can live deaf I would not be able to live that way. The people that say these things I try and educate them without loosing my cool but man they make me so mad. They think because I cannot hear them that I do not know they say it. I use Live Transcribe on my phone so I always can figure out what people are saying most times using that app. Also I read lips really well. I Love your videos and helping to educate the world on not just the blind but other disabilities as well. Thank you Molly for all you do and keep positive and keep up the great work. Give all the animals snuggles for me as well.

I once went to a school for special needs, I was the only student who had a cochlear implant processor. Basically the odd one out, I have an invisible disability which I am born profoundly deaf. However this school did exactly what you had to experience Molly! I relate to you so much, I was forced to work in work experience places that required so much noise and I was told to get over the fear of noisy places. I get it that I can’t tell the work place to be quiet I don’t want that to happen. I just don’t like it when I can not function in that society, they tried getting me to use the telephone that had poor quality, I was told to work in a noisy kids place where I could not hear. I tried explaining again that I could not “get over it.” One don’t suddenly get rid of something that they’re born as. I really hated it because I was compared to other students who are more disabled, like I am more normal looking when I’m not. It’s so frustrating, I’m just glad I’m not alone in this and I understand you so much. I hate having to be what others think we are. I’m getting a hearing dog next week in hopes it’ll show that I am deaf. You’re doing so well Molly! 💛

Thank you for sharing this with us Molly. It resonates so much with me. I'm physically disabled, and I feel like I subconsciously lean into the stereotype a little more when I'm in public. I agree with all the points you made in this video. And hopefully, the new era of social media will educate more people about all disabilities, and we can learn from each other. Love you Molly❤❤❤❤

Miss Molly I feel so similar once again as you describe these things or in past videos talking about how people use blind people as inspiration I feel this falls in that category. I am 33 now with strabismus and nystagmus just like yours. My strabismus is worse than yours but similar. I have also gone through a transitional stage of losing more vision I have LCA which is a cousin to RP they even have cross over genes between the two diseases. This last couple years I have lost more vision due to LCA as well as going through a rare cancer and treatment for that. And as I’ve lost more I have also been told by people in my life that I look more blind. More people can tell I can’t see now then before. Honestly it’s a difficult transition and worrying about how other people perceive me as blind or not is just an added stress while I am trying to navigate this transition for myself. You’re right on it again! You are so articulate and express your thoughts so well and I think have a way that most of us in the blind world can relate to you.

I am deaf. And I understand tge frustration of “ not looking” disabled. I can speak well too so people can’t understand how I can be deaf and speak so clearly! Well… I am and I do. Totally understand the frustration especially being denied access as I use a service dog to guide me in my surroundings and everywhere I go. Thank you for this awesome awareness video.

You make a really good point. We need to get better at accepting people no matter what their disability might make them look like or not look like. I grew up being taught that that I needed to straighten my arm and hide it, so I didn’t stick out.

Molly liked either lipstick color with the pink top, and as for the topic of the video I agree with you that you shouldn't have to worry about other people's perception of you or change who or how you are to make others feel better. You are the best you, you can be at this point in time, as we all grow and change over time. I am glad that you are on utube and show the blind and disabled community that while being blind you also have the problems that all individuals have, and the difficulties that the disabled community has. This helps those of us who are in the disabled community who are not blind to stand up and advocate for ourselves. You have been a good example of how you advocate for yourself. Whilst I am not blind my physical disability is getting worse with age and will not improve, so while I don't know exactly what you are going through I can empathize with the lost of ability.

Best video. We all need to think in this direction. “Don’t Care What other Think or Want” we need to bring others up!❤

People can say the oddest rudest things. People need to think before they say things. You are an amazing and beautiful woman that has a big heart full of strength. You inspire so many people Molly and you deserve only positivity and everything good in this world. You seem like such a nice person. And you’re so talented. Your content is incredible. I love your videos so so much. Keep up the amazing work 😊

I know this video was partly a rant, but I love this video so much! It’s very relatable to me in a huge way. I’ve only had one person on my channel thinking I don’t “look blind” either. And I had to tell them you can’t base it off of what you just saw in this video. Yes, I do really well with filming, I can see quite a bit the world with my glasses, and without them to an extent in my left eye. But my right eye I used to have very little light perception when I was very little, but that deteriorated very quickly when I was young, my right eye is also smaller than my left, due to my premature birth, and the medical condition that caused my blindness. That’s why I had to make a video about, “why I wear glasses” for example. I hate the pedestal that we are put on in society as well. It’s really frustrating even seeing comments myself on other people’s videos. No one has ever told me that phrase in real life, but one person told me with my guide dog that, “I didn’t realize you were visually impaired.“ But the question came up because they asked why do I have my dog with me when I was at the Library with Zeke. It didn’t come off in a rude way, the person was just curious, which I don’t mind answering that question because I want people to know that I am visually impaired/blind. My coworkers at the Hospital, Zeke and I work at, they know that I am visually impaired because I’ve pointed out my smaller eye. I showed my mom your videos in the past, she’s noticed your nystagmus is a bit worse than mine, and your eyes wander around when like you said, you focus them on talking to the camera.

I’m sighted, but I have ADHD and I constantly struggle with my eyes flicking to anything my brain decides is visually interesting (or neutral depending on the type of stimulation my brain wants) and wandering all over the place while I converse with people. I’ve had people say I must be uncomfortable talking with them because I can’t maintain normal eye contact and I’m shifting my stance so much I must be uncomfortable (one when I was a teen even went so far as to compare me to scared animals), in school I had teachers try to call me out for not paying attention because of it, and I constantly worry about people thinking I’m rude. I have a persistent internal monologue running through my head about if I’m making too much or too little eye contact. I know it’s not the same kind of eye wandering, but it is definitely the same social pressure to spend extra energy and effort trying to mask something we really shouldn’t need to mask for the comfort of people who are closer to what our society considers the baseline for normal. I hope some day no one who is disabled, neurodivergent, or struggling with chronic illness/pain has the same pressure to put the amount of energy into masking as current generations do.

👏👏👏 I love this video!

this was such a wake up call. I'm an abled person, but I have a crap ton of anxiety, and my left hand (sometimes my left arm and leg too) tend to shake. thing is, it didn't use to be a problem until people start commenting on it (I post a lot of content online, so it was video comments not IRL). and honestly, just trying NOT to shake and look "normal" (hate that word btw) guess what - it makes me shake even more! to the point where my muscles start hurting and I need to scrap whatever I'm doing. so the tought of being: I'm shaking? ok, so what? and not trying to cater how I look in order not to be judged by randos online...sounds super freeing! thanks Molly ❤

I've just come across your videos and am so impressed. You must have your 'off' or 'down' days but you project so much positivity that you must be an inspiration to tens of thousands who need to cope with their condition and live a fulfilling life.

I'm not blind but I understand how frustrating "you don't look ___" can be. I have ptsd and autism and hear this all the time. 🤦‍♀️

I loved this video so much 🥰🥰

This is so IMPORTANT Molly thanks so much for sharing Molly I love you ❤️ 🧡🦃❤️❤️🍃🧡🧡🦃🍂🍂🍃🍃🦃🧡🍁🧡🦃❤️❤️🦃🧡🍁🍁🦃🍃🍃❤️🍂🍂🍂❤️❤️🍃🍁🧡🦃❤️🍂🍂🍂🍂🍂🍂❤️🍃🦃🍁🍁🧡🧡🍃❤️❤️🍂❤️🍃🍃🦃🍁🍁🧡

I’m sorry you’re going through this. But thanks for sharing your story. I’m struggling with coming to terms with having an “invisible” disability and passing as able bodied 99% of the time. Even though I’m not blind, it really helps to know I’m not alone and other people struggle with it as well

I know you already know this, Molly, but you’re doing such incredible work. Keep at it!💜

Great rant Mollie. I have learnt so much through your videos. Thank you. You always look delightful. I have always been horrified each time you tell that you were badly bullied as a child and your sight loss increased. I simply can't understand people like that! What is wrong with them? I am always delighted to watch your fun and educational videos.

I love the red/pink combo!

Your video reminds me of a recent video of youtuber “Footless Jo” where she opened up about the struggle with her intern abilisim (or how do you write that word, sorry English is not my main language). Both of you are so inspiring and awesome. Ty for being so open!

The red-pink combo looks great on you!