I Don't Ever Want to be a Mother. Here's Why. 

Exactly the same is happening with mine. Her daughter is amazing, but I wouldn’t trade lives with her for anything, while I’m sure she would happily do with me, at least every now and then

Same

As they always do lol

Sometimes, but most of the time she's not.

This is my experience as well. In my 20s everyone was SUPER mean about me not wanting kids and now in my 30s I hear constantly how I made the right choice from stressed out parents. I don't want kids ever, including step kids. I had my ah-ha moment when I was 11 about this. I have always known it isnt something that I want to do. Nothing could have prepared me for the amount of hate I received for this. Its just a personal choice and no one is going to suffer as a result of me not having kids so I will never understand the visceral hate.

I also think that parents who pressure grownups to have kids are selfish. I mean, their own children would have the choice to have kids or not someday. So I wouldn’t be surprised if they pressure their children, who might end up choosing to be childfree, to give them grandkids, which is selfish since they’re not thinking about how the pressure would affect them.

It is always selfish to not want children

@@ThomasJDavis It’s selfish for parents to demand grandkids from their adult children

@Thomas Davis The best kind of selfish. To put yourself first and understand that you don't have parental instincts is divine. Soo many children are born to people who hate being parents. I'm proud that men and women have more choices today.

It is not for everyone, exactly. Parenthood is for mature and responsible human beings. It is not for weak, selfish and immature big children. Having children requires a lot of courage, faith and sacrifice.

It’s not too late

​@@achristianson4059It is too late.

...keep saying to yourself, I made the right decision, I made the right decision, i'm happy and content..

@@747maran they _are_ though. why do yall find it so hard to believe?

@@cutecorgiis5230Because these weirdos think having kids is the only happiness and that one person is repeating to their self because it sounds like they are having a panic attack and trying to not regret having kids 😭

You made my day😂👍

I should hope you knew yourself better 🤦‍♀️😂

I would love to see her face 😂

If you ever wondered, children are future: DEAD rotting bodies in the cemeteries, people filled with unhappiness/loneliness/anxieties/depression/ destructiveness/dependency, pharmaceutical/medical industrial complex’ life long clients/victims, losers, prison/military industrial complex clients/victims, fascists, satanists, totalitarian single digit IQ nobodies, communists, marxists, bolsheviks, leninists, SJWs, BLMs, socialists, mercenaries, toxic drug dealers I mean ‘doctors’ for big pHARMa, lawyers/judges who deny us justice, accountants/tax collectors who rob us, uniformed people who ticket/harass you for no reason, teachers/news anchors who brainwash/indoctrinate everybody with totally retarded/nonsensical/idiotic LIES pretending to be your benevolent parents, ‘law’ makers, inventors of more toxic chemicals contaminating everything you eat/drink/inhale/wear/rub on your body/live in/use/enjoy/spray on yourself and in the air, religious freaks wearing funny clothing and head coverings spreading ‘peace’, modern brown shirt members, prostitutes/escorts/sugar babies, sugar daddies/sugar mamas, female rapists, pimps, health forum users trying to figure out why they have 100s of health symptoms and how to recover from them, welfare/benefit queens/kings, cartel members, starving people, broke(n)/bankrupt people from all points of views, hitmen/hitwomen/assassins, murderers, witches/warlocks who curse others, murderers wearing uniforms-badges/white coats-stethoscopes/suits-ties, control freaks, power tripping psychopaths in positions of ‘authority’, abused people, abusers/users, drunkards, drug addicts, drug dealers, alcoholics, homeless, gang/mafia members, suicide victims, bullies, bullied people, torturers, tortured people, mentally and physically handicapped people, orphans, psychopaths, sociopaths, serial killers, victims of organ harvesting and human trafficking, single mother victims, permanent residents of hell, dead soldiers, racist group gang members, prostitutes, residents of hell, debt slaves, suckers to participate in the rat race that enables the world wide criminal syndicate(royalty, bankers etc.) to stay rich and become richer..,/

@@patricia_1303 😂

Right 🥹

Yep ❤

I love that we’re finding our tribes

@@veetahbee1368 me

Yes!

100% of life's problems never happen in life if you never live....

@@UrsaBellabe fucking quiet

U wouldn’t have been born so ig you’re part of the problem

If u never suffer u never live.

​@@dystopianaverice1981Bullshit

this sounds so terrifying and unsafe, I'm glad you've broken up

Good on you. I broke it off with a girlfriend after 5.5 years, because she wanted to do the typical, get married and have kids. Caught her dropping her pills down the sink too. I've never really liked kids, however they seem to like being around me.

@@rogerramjet6429 The thing is, women have a rather narrow window in which to have a healthy pregnancy between the ages of 20-37. If she had a desire for children, she lost precious time during those 5.5 years. If it was discussed honestly, it would have been best for her to leave within the first year, if she knew the relationship was about shacking long-term without intension for a commitment of marriage or children.

Wow what a monstrous psychopath. Thank god you got out of that one!

@@kristinab1078 That's fair

Extinction of the human race ...

The strange part is that this perspective is considered "selfish." From what I've consistently seen in my 47 years there are very, very few things in life that are more selfish than having children. It's all about having power over someone and pushing your personal agenda on another person who's much too small to do anything about it.

​@@devilsoffspring5519thank you so much for this statement. As a young adult, I'm lucky enough to have supportive parents in my life, but there are friends in my generation that don't have the support they need. Either being neglected, forced to do what their parents want (the parents even choose their university or job decision later, and not letting them have a word about their life), I realize that not everyone is capable of raising a child without forcing/neglect/abuse them 😢. Therefore having children is a big life long job that anyone must consider before doing it.

Sad😢 May your wife rest in peace 🙏🏻

@@raspberries97 yes

@@raspberries97 Thank You.

Really sad to hear your experience, but what is the conclusion should we have a kids then?😢

@@Pankaj-4572PR Should, would, could are all less important than individual woman WANTS to have children. It is her body and her decision. Thank you for your consideration. GregW

not overpopulated. you're just repeating dumb things from dumb people.

you have the mainstream opinion, so cool of you

We've measured the earth, theres no curve anywhere. We see mountains from 300 miles away, thats not possible on NASA's globe. Theres no proof the earth is moving. The 2nd law of thermodynamics says outerspace isnt real. Cannot have gas pressure next to a vacuum. NASA brainwashes children with globe propaganda from birth. NASA steals $60 million a day from you to shoot helium balloon rockets and satellites into the ocean. Air bubbles in "space", green screens, hair spray in hair to fake zero G, actornots on wires and harnesses. All government and military design documents assume a flat and non rotating earth. Pilots admit its flat. "Flat Earth" is openly censored by government. Real flat earth youtube channels are deleted and anti-flat earth channels are promoted (corporate welfare). NASA means "to deceive" in hebrew. NASA has 666 in their math everywhere. Every picture of space is a literal cartoon image NASA admits is fake. You could collect $20,000 if you prove earth spins. You could collect $200,000 if you prove earth curve.

you're like a parrot repeating the TV. overpopulated overpopulated, overpopulated/

Our world is not overpopulated. You could argue that China, India are overpopulated because families have lots of kids. Africa, Arab countries are over populated because their populations can not sustain themselves without importing European food. Europe, the USA, Australia, Central Asia are not overpopulate regions. Europe's population is declining. Plus there is enough space in the world for even more low density, green human settlements if we don't continue to desertify the land by factory farming, ploughing, using mono cultures, pesticides, herbicides, chemical fertilizers, genetically modified crops and use low tech, simple, scalable, efficient, not work intensive permaculture methods which is literally used to green the deserts (Geoff Lawton). This method of food production is local, everyone can do it and per land area it produces more food and greenery than modern methods. More greenery means more trees, more trees mean lower temperatures, more oxygen, less carbon.

This is such an important point of view. Thanks for sharing 💜

@cass7658 Thank you for sharing your wisdom on this topic. Not many mothers admit this .

omg thats so selfish im just amazed

You’ve described me perfectly. I had two children but I wasn’t a very good mom for all the reasons you stated. My parents divorced and my mother left our home when I was four years old. My step mother was only 10 years older than me so I never had a good example of how to be a mother. My daughter hasn’t spoken to me for years and my son is emotionally distant from me.

@@thatperson9835 The obviously don't have kids. Divorce him and move on. What I don't understand is why the SIMP married you? Surely if you're not on the same page with regards to having children then that is a major red flag.

Good for you

imagine if your mother had done the same.

@@RobertMJohnson that would be great! no one needs to be born, humans need to stop reproducing and bringing innocent children into the world just to suffer until death, put an end to humanity for good we have no reason to be here!

​@@RobertMJohnsonimagine a world without internet trolls...

@@melfreemansawww. The little fascist hall monitor has trouble with context

Omg this!!!! The narcissistic media culture has created a whole generation of shitty parents. It is crazy how many grandparents are doing the job. But it ends there because trust me todays parents won't be good grandparents like that.

BRAVO‼️‼️‼️ EXACTLY‼️‼️‼️ WHO CAN AFFORD THEM❓❓

Exactly

Are you a woman?

@@Amazigh_MaeMae you seem like the one that needs to accept your fate. For such hostility cannot come from an acceptance of one's fate or even happiness.

@@Love-kc6yk noop this is not hostility. Just facts. You need to understand wat faith means. Talkimg nonsense.

@@Amazigh_MaeMae You don't sound educated.

@@automnejoy5308 lol I'm am honey. Prob higher than you..but I'm not here to proof anybody. Get out of her ahhhz, nobody was talking to you. Are you this desprate for attention that you have to get in the middle🤣poor sheep.

What would you have done differently if you could do it all over again? I'm kinda stepping into a similar situation.

I did the same, thanks to this I have peace...my brother would have let her die of thirst...so glad I don't have a child like my brother. She also treated him special...I think there's something in that, misogynists often have over protective mums who favour them. He recently tried to rob me, I'm not surprised, just gutted.

​@@FutileGriefyou must do what is right for you...that will be the legacy. I don't regret a single day I was by my mother's bed...and I also know it is what gives me peace, regardless of anyone else.

@@fay5479I’m seeing a trend that it’s adult male children who shirk caretaking duties.

@@sarahlo4661 adult male children....as in immature men?

Dionisia, I am also the father of 4. I too lost my youngest daughter. A parent is NOT supposed to bury a child. I feel for your loss. She left me 3 grandkids. Circumstances prevented much of a relationship with them but I love them dearly anyway. I also have a decent long-distance relationship with a g-son and am very close with my youngest g-daughter. As you said, families come in all forms. Life and relationships are what you make of them.

@@kenhayhurst374 why do people say that a parent is “NOT supposed to bury a child” when it happens EVERY day? My first born and only son died by choice at 27. It’s REALITY.

@@rosa9251 It IS a reality, yes. ". . not supposed to. . " is just how it feels. Your parents bury your g-parents, then you them, then your children you, etc. That's how it's 'supposed' to be. I've buried 3 of the most important women in my life. My daughter, Mom, and wife in that order. All are different but just as hard. I'm sorry for your loss. "By choice" is a wrinkle I've not dealt with. It MUST be another level of difficult.

@@rosa9251 your name is much too beautiful for you. You need to learn compassion AND empathy! Do better! 😠

@@victoriasegall3404 you sound DUMB. Reality sucks sometimes. It is what it is‼️ WTH does my name have to do with anything⁉️ You sugar coated people that can’t handle the truth is who needs to do better‼️ Don’t tell me CRAP about showing compassion. I just shared my last $24 in tips with a young lady on the bus after work who is experiencing homelessness. What kind of compassion do YOU actually exhibit⁉️ Or are you one of those people that like to judge people experiencing homelessness❓ Or maybe you’re the type that likes to sit on your high horse judging someone about their lack of compassion based on something like their name❓ Go take a nap‼️🤣

Good for you! I wish you and your husband many years of happiness and fun together. And your "friend" was dead wrong. You ARE a real woman. Why? Because you are true to yourself, and you are living life on your own terms.

I hope that "very close friend" is no longer a friend.

with friends like that who needs .......

they say it only out of spite. I can't imagine to say something like this to other person imposing your way of life on them. Can you imagine saying "you won't be a whole woman if you won't travel/have your business or career/have a pet/garden" It is so rude, nobody says so, because they are happy with their choice and they don't care. They say that because they want to drag you down so you feel as bad as them.

@@kanashiihime6753 I agree people should stop having children for at least 10 years And what’s more from now on tree pod burials should be the new norm everywhere how about not have children until a time when there aren’t too many humans on this planet that way all consumption of resources will slow down with the passing of time

L.A. Paul talks about this in "Transformative Experiences." She evokes a funny parallel with vampirism. It's a rare human that wants to become a vampire, but, once bitten, vampires seem to be pretty pleased with themselves, their immortality and agelessness.

Thank you for sharing this story! The world needs to hear more stories like yours!!!

Did the same. I agree!

I also decided quite young that I didn't want children, I think I was about 17-18 years old at the time, im now 57 no regrets.

I've had the honor of taking care of my parents in their old age. And we have always been so glad we've had each other. I've been happy that I could take care of them because of all the selfless things they did for me their whole lives. They never once made me feel obligated to take care of them, it's what I wanted to do. We've grown so close during this stage of their lives. I love them so much and am so glad that I have an adult daughter.

Oh lucky you. Sounds like a fabulous lifestyle. Wish I could do the same. I am happily childless by choice but also very poor

Not mention that nursing homes are filled with people whose children never visit or care for them.

Having children so you have someone to look after you is immensely selfish.

It's not. It is the natural order of life. Expecting 'other people's' kids to take care of you and to provide for you when you are too old or infirm to care for yourself... well, an argument can be made that that is selfish, can it not?

@@leroyj3627 The "natural order of life" is questionable

​@leroyj3627 many animals kill off their older parents etc. So should we do everything natural?

Divorces are hard enough for childfree couples just imagine how messy they are WITH children 😬

@ Camiella_choo_ : I'm 39 yo never married no childfree and don't want kids. Enjoying my life this way. I'm happy to know there are other women like me #ChildfreeCrew

I m 24 i will marry a girl who dont want kids

@@bisckuttalks don't marry if she wants kids if she insist on you To have child don't do it if I were you I will break up with her

@@lydokope5210 your name

i dont want kids or need kids no kids for me they will make me unhappy.

@@mrx-od3ji me to i will marry a girl who dont want kids

But tekl how pm of india is living only with servabts how many bachelors are living

I once worked in admin at a care home. Believe me; so many kids never bother to visit their elderly parents...

but the people paid to take care of you are other people's children?

Congratulations.🤍🤍🤍

Great aunty i m young i will marry a fo giro who dont want kid

@deeporter7369, I look up to you !

Adopt don't Breed

Indeed. Also motherhood has nothing to do with being a mother. Else we would have a world full of selfless people. A large majority of parents who choose to procreate are mostly doing it with a selfish motive of passing on their genes. Let's understand motherhood is about caring for the other as your own. You don't necessarily have to reproduce for that

If you ever wondered, children are future: DEAD rotting bodies in the cemeteries, people filled with unhappiness/loneliness/anxieties/depression/ destructiveness/dependency, pharmaceutical/medical industrial complex’ life long clients/victims, losers, prison/military industrial complex clients/victims, fascists, satanists, totalitarian single digit IQ nobodies, communists, marxists, bolsheviks, leninists, SJWs, BLMs, socialists, mercenaries, toxic drug dealers I mean ‘doctors’ for big pHARMa, lawyers/judges who deny us justice, accountants/tax collectors who rob us, uniformed people who ticket/harass you for no reason, teachers/news anchors who brainwash/indoctrinate everybody with totally retarded/nonsensical/idiotic LIES pretending to be your benevolent parents, ‘law’ makers, inventors of more toxic chemicals contaminating everything you eat/drink/inhale/wear/rub on your body/live in/use/enjoy/spray on yourself and in the air, religious freaks wearing funny clothing and head coverings spreading ‘peace’, modern brown shirt members, prostitutes/escorts/sugar babies, sugar daddies/sugar mamas, female rapists, pimps, health forum users trying to figure out why they have 100s of health symptoms and how to recover from them, welfare/benefit queens/kings, cartel members, starving people, broke(n)/bankrupt people from all points of views, hitmen/hitwomen/assassins, murderers, witches/warlocks who curse others, murderers wearing uniforms-badges/white coats-stethoscopes/suits-ties, control freaks, power tripping psychopaths in positions of ‘authority’, abused people, abusers/users, drunkards, drug addicts, drug dealers, alcoholics, homeless, gang/mafia members, suicide victims, bullies, bullied people, torturers, tortured people, mentally and physically handicapped people, orphans, psychopaths, sociopaths, serial killers, victims of organ harvesting and human trafficking, single mother victims, permanent residents of hell, dead soldiers, racist group gang members, prostitutes, residents of hell, debt slaves, suckers to participate in the rat race that enables the world wide criminal syndicate(royalty, bankers etc.) to stay rich and become richer../'[]

Me tooo

Just one problem though. You are supporting not having children, others support the opposite. Both sides should be equally free to make their case. You are saying in your comment do not let anyone tell you otherwise, well those that advocate for kids say the opposite. Let people say whatever their opinion is. In the end just be sure to make your own choice instead of someone elses

@@ThatGuy-tx4vm no, the breediot side can't obtain the consent of the person they are trying to kidnap into this dimension. That is the entire point.

Amen brother 🙏

Men are expendable, so don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. The human species won't go extinct even if a third of all men were to die tomorrow. However, the scenario could be different if a third of women of reproductive age were to suddenly disappear.

you sound like a bit of a fool on this topic.

You sound like a nice person. I also dream about a quiet life. I am open for a partner, but I want a living space where we don't have to be together 24/7, potentially separate bedrooms.

​@@rostislavsvoboda7013 not even close, three billion women is still A LOT of women.

Same! 💜

35 isn't old but the clock is ticking.

@@jacktaylor9290 Ticking for what? Wanting to be married and have kids? What are you saying? I've wanted kids and marriage less now than I ever have so the clock will continue to tick. So let it be written, so shall it be done. Peace out.

@@ofhawksandhummingbirds 🕒

@@jacktaylor9290 Given that time is artificially accelerated here in lower earth anyway, your clock emoji and persistence in making zero points and adding no clarity to senseless comments are only prompting me in using my time in demonstrating - through your comments and not through procreating - the number one reason why I would never have children. Congrats, Jack, for inadvertently taking one for Team Child Free Women and for being an example to us all.

Uff, it feels like a relief watching this video. That feeling of not being alone. I love your wide perspective on topics and looking at things from a non-mainstream angle, it’s so refreshing! My cup of tea 🙌💛

I really appreciate your content and I’m so happy to see you and Vilk in your progression of getting to know one another. That being said, I’d like to know what your viewpoint is on when abortion is appropriate and when it is too late to terminate the pregnancy 🤰 🫃or should it be an option up until the baby is born? I know it’s kind of a heavy topic but seeing how these two go hand-in-hand I’d like to know what you think 💭 I have two fur 🐕 babies myself and raising a puppy these last two years I have swayed my thinking in regards to being a father as a male. Obviously I wouldn’t go through the hardships of giving birth but I’ve been way more receptive to the idea lately, for the most part of my life I was a person that felt very similar to your beliefs in having kids but now I’ve become more open to all or any options depending on the situation. ✌️ safe travels 🛶 🏕

You are a treasure, Eva. Thank you for starting this channel. I really think it will be a place of learning, and healing.

You can have dog but not a child of ur own..hypocrisy at its best😊

@@charlesgoodwin5016 I agree completely

With our current Republican installed Supreme Court you can't legally make your own decisions about childbearing. With the recent overturning of Roe by the Republican Supreme Court you can't terminate a pregnancy, even in cases of rape and incest, birth control could be illegal in some states and other freedoms that are taken for granted can be taken away. Women, who didn't even get the right to vote in this country until 150 years after our Constitution was written, should not be too complacent about the freedoms they have. Thanks for bringing attention to these issues.

yes baby , very true

@@themissdior1235 So sad and sorry for your loss. You hv put it so correctly "what would be, would be." While it's a free choice to not have a child but having children is a beautiful experience for some of us. I for one cherish the presence of my only grandson. He brings my such happiness, joy and peace. Wish everyone good luck with whatever choices they make.

Haha wtf this is a horrifying community lol I'm gtfo of this devilish video and comment section. Damn

@@jamesmandahl444🤣

Do you regret having children? I don’t care one way or the other if people have kids or not but they don’t have to make some kind of manifesto video about it with a lot of drama. Ultimately, someone has to pop out babies to keep humanity going till extinction.

Also they legit forget we can adopt a kid.

@@angkhoa1216 that's true. There's already too many people suffering and struggling in the world. Forcing another person into existence is the most selfish and monstrous thing we can ever do.

We had a patient who had a baby at 52.😊

​@@wheatstonebridge she means people who don't have kids, is it hard to understand? Lol

For you. The right decision FOR YOU.

@@EngageYourFrontalLobefor everyone, fuck this planet it’s a joke

live anyway you want and if you want kids or if you dont want any i respect your choice.

fluteerbyby, For me I don't want kids because the money problems that come with kids, the stress, the 24/7 work even they turn 18 years,

Me too.

@@MelindaKucsera plus the health issus i have and the mental issuea that I have. it's bad for me and the kids

@@waterfirelord understood. You don't need to justify your decision. It's your decision. You decide what to do with your body. No one else.

@@MelindaKucsera thanks

Try this experiment with people who bother you for not having children. VERY important that they don't know what question comes next. I guarantee you, that you will not have to modify the questions based on the situation. 1) Name someone you think is a great person (Einstein, Beethoven, or whoever, very important you let the person you are talking to choose without knowing what question comes next). 2) Do you know whether or not this person had children? 3) Do you even care to look up whether this person had children or not? Some things to point out. Take Beethoven for example 1) Even if there is nobody today who can trace their ancestry back to Beethoven, his legacy lives on. Whereas you probably don't know who your great great great grandfather was (without looking him up) and you probably don't care what he thought or felt. His legacy, is pretty much effectively dead. Small comfort that you share some of his "genetic material" 2) Beethoven was probably way too busy composing music to take care of a kid. If he did sacrifice his "selfish hobby" to take care of a kid then, like your great great great grandfather, he would not have left a legacy. Maybe his "genetic material" is something you can spend countless hours enjoying instead? 3) In order for Beethoven to be successful at composing music, he had to have many ADULTS helping him along the way (kids would obviously be too immature to be any help). These ADULTS probably didn't nag him about "giving up his selfish hobby to have children so that he can be fulfilled" Would be really interested to see what responses you get.

​@@elzoog That's very clever. It's true. No one cares if any great person had kids or not. It's only notable if that great person also had a great kid that achieved a similar level of renown, like John Adams and John Quincy Adams. But that is pretty rare. (John Adams also had a couple of other sons who were alcoholics and caused him a lot of grief and aggravation!) And people certainly don't care about the great-great-great grandchildren that exist today of a long-dead famous person, if any exist. They are so watered down from their ancestor, with so many other genetic lines added in since then, it's like there's no link there at all. They're shopping at the grocery store just like you, nothing to distinguish them as a descendant of that person... just another average human descended from the hominin family tree. Conversely, no one cares about the parents of famous people... like how many people know who Beethoven's parents were? Very few. It is kind of ironic, as you pointed out, that in the pursuit of creating a "genetic legacy" you might decrease your chances of creating an ACTUAL legacy because you are sacrificing your individuality to raise kids, and people will only remember you based on your individual achievements!

​@@automnejoy5308 Yeah, so unless you really want to have kids, staying single makes sense. If you really want to "leave a legacy" you actually have a better chance trying to do something yourself. The odds are still pretty slim, but are probably better.

If having a kid means that adventure is over than better never have kids! Your children will be miserable…A child can be a perfect companion for your adventures as well , is all up to you and how you raise. And no , I don’t have kids and I don’t want but because of a different reason. They don’t look like a problem to travel to me

@@ManiaReina Kids do best in a stable, stationary environment. Same school, same house, same friends. Kids that are moved around a lot develop issues. You can go on a couple of family trips a year, but they must be less than a week so that they don't interfere with school. You don't want the kid to fall behind. And the trips will be all about what the kid wants, not what you want. So it's Disneyland or something. Yes, adventure absolutely takes a nose dive when you have kids (or it SHOULD anyway) and that's just the truth of the matter.

It's YOUR PATH. Life is like a river on an inner tube. We all have our own ride. People ride along side for a while and branch off. Your ride is just as beautiful as some others and it's your ride. I'm in the exact same place but doing OK.

hey its been a year since you made this comment, how are you doing?

I wish my mother was like you. You're such a wonderful woman.

We need more people like you in this world. ❤

there may be more to your personality than your being a mother, however, your "other" accomplishments (?) are not impressive in the least to me compared to being a good parent.

​@@RobertMJohnsonGood thing OP doesn't care about what you think of her life. She is not married to YOU. But we all cry😢 for the woman who is.

@@Childfree334 you’re projecting. We all know men can’t stand you in the least. And you live with that pain and reality. Meanwhile I have the sweetest and most beautiful woman in the world by my side.

No. Selfish is to get children because "thats normal", and then put all the unprocessed problems onto the kids. And generalizing is always false. So no, of course not all parents are like this. We are individuals. Some of us take other goals and Tasks in life. We should not judge but embrace other sights in love.

​@@johannakuster1564so how is being a parent and sacrificing to make a human being to exist for the Next Generation selfish? The whole videos about me me me me me me me, that's literally what it was. The consequences of not having children is already affecting the West in Japan. Ukrainian is running out of men to defend their country because their birth rates are low. The statistics she gave her a lot of bogus, the idea of one out of five people in the French Revolution didn't have a child is because a lot of them died before they could have one. In the world population is actually dropping not increasing which worries a lot of leaders including Elon Musk talked about the population crash.

@@landsknecht8654 It's selfish nowadays largely because of social media and the age of comparison. I acknowledge that not all individuals are like this, but I have known women who get married and have children simply because they want to flaunt their status to everybody on social media. It becomes all about their own identity and their own 'achievement' of being married and having babies, and reminding everybody about it constantly, rather than about actually sacrificing their own desires in order to raise a responsible next generation. I have also known women who have had children because they wanted someone or something in their life that they assumed would love and comfort them unconditionally, and not because they wanted to give their own unconditional love. Also, the world population is absolutely not dropping. Just the opposite. The population growth is _slowing_ , but it is projected to grow from 8 billion (according to the U.N. Population Division) in 2022 to 10.2 billion by 2060.

​@@landsknecht8654It's selfish to have kids but not necessarily to raise kids, these are two different things. Also, having kids to fix population collapse, is basically using kids as a mean to an end without them having a say. Also, my "hypothetical kids" don't owe the world anything.

Having kids il also à me me thing. You guys want 'lienage' 😅LOL

How did you com to that conclusion? Its certainly not like that in the west (as far as I understand it)

EVERYBODY in my surrounding (friends, siblings, neighbours even strangers in the supermarket) were HORRIFIED when I chose to marry and become pregnant at 27. We have a stable financial situation and the ideal idyllic setup for a family. The only person who supported me was my mother.

There won’t be enough staff either

​@@jaaa3274 robots the future

@@jbone9900 Who wants to interact with robots? I don't.

Haven't you thought of adopting a child? I'm a young woman who has a weak health. If I were a man, I would probably love to have kids. But I am the one who is responsible for bearing a child and making the most of the work after it. That's why I haaaaaaate the idea of motherhood. I'd love to adopt a kid, but not bare it myself. Besides, those 0-4 years old kids... Ahhhh, I hate them!

​@@thatperson9835 If you hate kids from 0-4 then you probably don't deserve to adopt a kid

@@shadmansakib9324 Lol. Well. You might be right but I don't care. Life is amazing unless you are a woman who gave birth.

@@thatperson9835 I am the eldest of five siblings. I have helped my mother in taking care of my youngest. Sometimes it does take a toll on me. But when my youngest sibling smiles and happy. All the burden and stress smoothly goes away

Your forgetting the good times and unconditional love you get from your children. It's not all about temper tantrums. I have two grown up sons and a grown up daughter, and they are the best th8ng that ever happened to me. I also have a beautiful grandson. As far as 8m concerned I've been blessed to have my children and grandson and I wouldn't change that for all the money in this world.

​@@deborahwhitney9427 not everyone wants "unconditional love".

@@deborahwhitney9427 no such thing as unconditional love. EVERYTHING is conditional.

Deborah’s point is that there are many wonderful blessings that come from mothering. People who choose not to have children often seem to feel the need to make children sound like a bad thing. I think it’s okay to say “kids are wonderful, just not for me”.

@@Rheath127 there are many wonderful blessings that come from mothering FOR the mother NOT for the CHILD. For the child, 'mothering' is the beginning of HELL.

Also, for those afraid of "who is going to take care of me?". Well, I have 2 parents that I will NOT be taking care of in their final years. They are awful people and shouldn't have had kids. So yeah, the have kids or die alone argument is moot

prepare for a divorce because it's coming. he will marry a young woman who he can have children with 🤷

You left him ?

@@kodymeyers9126 no, we are still together. Hoping we can work this out, but we shall see

@@Enviro-Erin lol He wants something you don't want. There's literally nothing to work out. There's no compromise to be made. He should leave. If he's a simp enough to stay with you, he'll hate you sooner or later.

Why are people these days are running away from commitments? Nowadays everything is centred around yourself, nobody else comes into the equation. 'If I decide to have a child then that means I'll have to let go of many of my freedoms that I enjoy because I have to constantly look after them.' From an evolutionary perspective, the sole reason for a existence of a species on earth is to procreate it and if you decide to go childless that means you're denying that part of your biology. Over ambition and endless greed for self gratification has led to this epidemic of people going counter-biology.

💞 Love your comment @Ali-gb7mf

That its the only way than they have for not feeling like a shit and completly failure and trying impose his mediocre ego in the life of the others for feeling than they are right despict they are not right.

It's only the red states. But it sucks for the women in those states, for sure.

And don’t people see how people can be extremely cruel to one another? I wouldn’t want a child to have to go through things like depression, suicidal ideation, being bullied, etc.

They cannot force people to have a child they have no right

I support you and what you said all day.

Wonderful to hear your point of view. I am also a father of three kids (well young adults now). I especially find the idea that some people think you should have kids to ensure that you are looked after in your old age horrifying. As if your offspring could be considered as possessions that have some responsibility towards you just because YOU chose to bring them into the world. Get over it, they have their own lives to live. If they choose to have anything to do with you, consider it a blessing, not a right. People should stop trying to live their lives through there kids. Get over it and get out there and live your own life.

Thanks for speaking the facts many shy away from

@@peterstewart3563 bravo! Well said! 👏🦋

Thank you ❤

52 yr old women have had kids too

We did not consent to be born it's like kidnapping one of your own flesh

Whenever they keep saying this, ill just slap them with “Dude, theres 8 billions people on this planet.”

And nobody ask you for being born in first place, someone else obligates you to born without you consents, it's not weird than the most of babies cry after get out of his mom belly.

Yeah that is the most selfish reason for having kids ever

Yeah, I don't get some people, why say all these things like "you'll chnage your mind" or "you can adopt" if someone does not want a child that is their choice, respect it. its not our bodies or our choice.

Same, it's not normal and then I see they're living hell on earth with those kids.

Not to worry; you won't be alone. In the not too distant future, many in the western world will be childfree by choice or involuntarily by the increasing rates of infertility.

There’s a lot to say about this topic. I have 2 daughters and consider it the best part of my life. I have never questioned peoples personal desire to have or not have kids. Unfortunately most kids are not from choice. We’re just looking at this from a western perspective where we have that choice. In many countries there just isn’t that choice. Both my daughters are grown up, one is a mother and has always wanted to be, the other (a lot younger) says she has no desire to have kids. Both have that choice and I consider that to be lucky. BTW being a new grandmother is just the most wonderful thing I’ve ever experienced and I didn’t expect it to be like this. Whatever makes us happy as individuals is my philosophy but we must remember these women that don’t have this choice.

In what way is it selfless? I'd like to understand.

@@grantcivyt Overpopulation destroys the planet, so having kids is more of a selfish choice

@@housefox92 I see. It would depend on the motivation for the decision. My view is that children in developed countries are the least harmful to the environment and the most likely to fix whatever problems arise.

@@grantcivyt True

Thanks for this. I was about to say the same thing about the legacy part.

Exactly. This is what I share in my comment - Some people have come to the conclusion that there is a price to pay for your choices and you have to pay it in order to be happy...But the price to pay is to be at ease, not to struggle. "You come into this physical world to leave a legacy or work hard, or that you should find your purpose in life" -> I think these all are prejudiced based on individual experience. I think that we came to this physical world just to feel the experience of life. So go out and make choices good or bad. I wouldn't give up one miserable moment, because every one of them helps me to become who I ultimately am!

I agree! A great legacy is not leaving a legacy. Loving your community and being mindful of the environment can have incredibly positive ripple effects through history.

Yes, living a simply life is a great legacy! 🙏🏼🙏🏼

@@KristinaRaqs thank you! 👏⭐🌻

Same here from Sydney but actually married childfree but…☺️

If it isn't too personal of a question to ask, why do you regret fathering your children?

Well you might want to search about movement called MGTOW. In addition please look into the problems facing men in the US today concerning domestic orders of protection obtained by women through unsubstantiated false claims, the problem faced by lower income parents when faced with child support orders based on imputed income and the practice of jailing parents who cannot obey those orders. Related to that is the problem of homelessness in the US and deaths of despair. Finally research the problem of parental alienation syndrome. Sorry I am not allowed to include links here. The bottom line is that if a man in the US today has a child, if he is low income or becomes low income and his partner, because of any whim , turns against him, his life becomes a living hell. A large segment of American young men today adamantly refuse to have children after seeing what happened to their own fathers or to other fathers. They rationally fear for their own safety.

@@JacobStein1960 False accusations definitely have the potential to be life-ruining and I'm immensely sorry if that's something you've been subjected to, but personally (and this is merely my opinion), I don't think it justifies adhering to MGTOW ideology, although you're of course free to believe whatever you want. There are significantly more men out there who are legitimately abusive than there are women making false accusations about men. Going by your logic, women should adhere to a misandrist philosophy in order to protect themselves from men, because the risk of being abused or even murdered by a man as a woman is larger than the risk of being falsely accused of something you didn't do as a man. In other words, in general, women fear for their safety at the hands of men significantly more than vice versa. All that being said, I sympathize with what you've been through and I'm deeply sorry that someone you trusted and loved subjected you to something so traumatic and unfair. I completely understand if that has colored your view of women, but just like it is with abusive men, these kind of predatory/abusive personalities are fortunately in the minority. That doesn't make your pain any less real, and I hope that this message is interpreted as me respectfully disagreeing rather than me trying to change the way you think or denying the notion that abusive women can wreak havoc on a man's life and social reputation. I hope you have access to the resources you need in order to heal from your painful experiences.

@@Hassanthehorse All that I am is saying that looking back on my life now at age 62 with perfect hindsight my greatest regret is becoming a father. I would add that if a young man in the US today were to consult with a family attorney he would probably be strongly advised never to have children due to the risks involved. I also agree that it’s bigoted to single out any group of people as being particularly evil. I’m sorry if I implied that. However I believe that there are fundamentally two forms of domestic violence: direct and by proxy. Direct domestic violence involves a physical assault most commonly men against women. Domestic violence by proxy involves a woman making false accusations against a man and enlisting other men to attack the man. Both are atrocious and both have existed since time began. Consider Genesis 39 the story of Joseph being falsely accused of rape by the wife of Potiphar and imprisoned. The United States strictly prohibits direct domestic violence, as it should, however completely ignores the most egregious domestic violence by proxy.

You regret the life of your children? I don't know what to make of this comment.

For me it's hard to believe that people actually want kids. I don't understand the appeal of it at all. It's endless work. Ruined health. Re-living childhood but with world weariness. I also don't care about making a "little me." In fact the concept is disturbing. It's not that I don't like myself (mostly haha). It's just that I don't need to replicate my DNA in another human. Why?? It's so bizarre.

@@automnejoy5308 I agree, but remember that reproducing is a biological function. There's no inherent meaning or fulfillment in taking a piss either, but people do it because of how biological life works. Same thing with having kids.

Legacy of what? if the most of the people don't give a shit for nobody in all his entire life.

This isn't correct, and it seems to come from a person who isn't experienced enough in life to have witnessed what happens when an adult becomes critically ill or even disabled. From someone who has experienced it myself and witnessed it countless times, since becoming involved in disability circles, and being even more appalled since entering the brain injury world... All I can say is don't feel so secure in your naivety. The only thing keeping patients alive once they become incapacitated is a family member who's willing to fight for proper care. So yes, all humans need other humans, no matter what age, and life expectancy goes way down when people have no support systems. Perhaps you haven't seen the evidence of this piling up in our tent cities as well. I was lucky enough to have peers as a support system, keeping me from being homeless when I became disabled. That kind of support dwindles the older you get.

And I'm absolutely not trying to convince anyone to have kids. I've thought it's selfish to have more than your fair share of 2, since I was a teen of the 80s. But this idea that we're fine without other people is just destructive and incorrect. I've witnessed how the breakdown of community affects society and individuals... just in my lifetime the changes have been extreme and devastating.

@@joob40 You are RIDICULOUS. No one is saying people don't need the help and support of others. But we are saying we do not need to breed to have that kind of support. I have siblings, nieces, nephews, friends, and trusted co-workers in my network. I do not need children to secure my future. In fact, I have been able to secure my future by building wealth that would have been otherwise impossible had I succumbed to the programming and brainwashing to have kids. Consequently I will be leaving a large portion of my estate to charities that help foster kids and orphans. So tell me again who is doing the biggest favor for society. 🤔

@@Childfree334 Like I said, I can see who's lacking life experience here. And who's triggered (pro tip... people who are confident in their stance don't get that emotional.) You think money will keep a nursing home from letting you rot away from bed sores or killing you ... or an ICU from sending you to have your organs harvested 2 days after an accident? Hilarious. Oh and money won't even keep you from living on the street. I had 5 years of rent in the bank when my brain was injured, and I still slept in my car because I thought I couldn't afford a hotel. Not to mention that brain damaged and mentally ill people can't keep up with paperwork and can lose houses that are paid off, merely by failing to pay taxes or meet other regulations. Again, really clueless about what actually goes down when humans become incapacitated, even partially. But of course that won't happen to you, because you had money.

@Arcovidia Such a beautiful comment... I totally agree!

Dude as a guy it's the worst. There's very little men talking about the decision not to have kids. I personally don't want kids and friends and family bash me for it all the time. I think back to this time a guy in a Lamborghini drove past me in a parking lot as a kid and I asked "how'd you get that?!" He responded, "Don't have kids, haha" Dude looked so happy. People always say, "Think of the experiences you'll miss" but at the same time think of the experiences you'll miss BY having a kid 😂

I know ur pain. That is why I listed the 40's as one of the hardest times in my original post. I have no doubt you weighed the decision many times when you were child bearing age. Now you have to trust yourself. As to being alone, I believe being a member of a community is more important than being a member of a nuclear family. Some say by definition, you cant be in one without being in the other. I say Bull S#!+. It is amazing how connected, how fullfilled we become when we devote our efforts away from our own egos and petty insecurities whether it is toward your children if you have them or towards creating art, improving the standard of living for many or preserving the environment. Good people will come into your life and will watch out for you and you, inturn, will watch out for them :))

Lisa, don't sell yourself short. You probably would have made a wonderful parent.

you can get pregnant from a sperm bank

@@GenealogyTravels have you seen a lot of good people around?

@@polha4966 Yeah, I have. Wonderful people.

Same! I am so glad I got sterilized at the beginning of last year because I am in the US and they are trying to keep women in line with the patriarchy here. I get huge peace of mind knowing its not physically possible for me to get pregnant anymore.

@janelanne3760 I had a salpingectomy. For me that was the right thing. It was a rather short surgery, and I didn’t have any issues with the healing process. I do not know if you can have a sterilization without a surgery, sorry!

@@user-di5pd4he8l Life is what you make it, do whatever you want. Try to make things happen as best you can but don't worry if things don't happen as you expect them to. Life never goes along with that plan you have as a teenager. You are 20, if you want kids you will have them. No one at 20 years has the slightest clue what their life will be like in 10 years time. No need to worry about that life having no purpose, if you don't have kids there are plenty of other ways to give your life purpose.

Spoken like a true narcissist! "People are jealous of me" "All money goes to me, me me!".

@@Diogenes_Lantern. Imagine being upset that someone works hard for their money and spend it on their wants and needs. Like, it’s THEIR hard earned money. As an adult, you know how hard it is to work and earn that paycheck, REGARDLESS of what your job title and description is. You’re really upset over how someone spends their money, and I find your anger really weird and unsettling. Please work on living your own life in peace-but only if you want to, of course.

Discusting

@@rosedalinevaletine6931 Money on one's mind, mind on one's money. If such people decide to die without any offspring, should society really regret it?

​@@Diogenes_Lantern. Don't worry, such a bloodline dies out soon ;-)

Me too. I agree with everything you said. I’m just naturally disgusted by childbirth, kids are loud and messy etc .

At least you are wise enough to knowing than you won't whould be a good father

Don't do it for them you don't want a child don't do it.

I had a cabbagepatch doll and I would just throw it around like a rag. I preferred barbies because she was grown and I could I've vicariously through her. I knew then I didn't have motherly instincts although I'm a cat mom.