I Found Out My Girlfriend Was Married

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I Found Out My Girlfriend Was Married
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@Aminah6623 Месяц назад

Sir, if your girlfriend has a husband she's not your girlfriend. She's her husband's wife and you're her side piece.

@80sbrunnette Месяц назад

I’m the mistress ? - Michael Scott

@snsn7251 Месяц назад

I was literally coming to make this comment. Well said

@texan903 Месяц назад

At this point, she's neither a wife nor a girlfriend. She belongs to the community.

@jessj2530 Месяц назад

@@texan903 Still a person, goddamn.

@texan903 Месяц назад

@@jessj2530 Still loose and has become property of the community.

@SiGr10614 Месяц назад

A, she is a liar, B, she will cheat and Lie to you, C, get her out of your life, FAST!!

@they.call.me.acb. Месяц назад

What? She told him and he still dated her

@probablynot1368 Месяц назад

Yes, so he knows the inevitable: D. If she does it with you, she’ll do it to you

@mikef2811 Месяц назад

If she cheats on her husband, she will cheat on you later on if you stay.

@JakeStewart1343 Месяц назад

"D" is her hobby

@daletrautman2626 Месяц назад

And they always have a roster of guys they are texting and you are being moved up or down on that list.They are basically whores.

@dudeorduuude5211 Месяц назад

With 8 billion people on Earth, there is no need to settle for messy situations.

@kimberlyfloyd1009 Месяц назад

So true!!!!!!!!!!!!

@auemmjee Месяц назад

Married people are the main people settling

@romans52345-cy3tq Месяц назад

A woman would never date a man who lives with his mother but she would date a man who lives with his wife

@shanandananscoo Месяц назад

@@romans52345-cy3tq unrelated to this situation. LOL

@shanandananscoo Месяц назад

Is this so? 8 billion? For a given human, narrow that down to the number of single people of the preferred gender who live close enough and actually cross-paths with enough to start flirting...... I'd say the number is more like 2 or 3 at best.

@droptozro Месяц назад

If I listened correctly, he didn't "found out"--he knew almost immediately upon meeting up with her in person after messaging her online... and went into it anyways.

@melanieb2132 Месяц назад

Well, she was evasive, and he didn't push hard enough for the info. Ultimately, it's on him...

@truthreigns3465 Месяц назад

Typical simp

@ForAncientKingAndElvishLord Месяц назад

Yes, exactly.

@yoloswagthuglifeselfie568 Месяц назад

@@melanieb2132it’s the man’s fault of course

@IrishFrank22 Месяц назад

@@melanieb2132It's the wife fault. She is married and should not be with other men except her husband.

@user-co7ph1rm9z Месяц назад

GF got herself a Grandpa-Husband and Sidedude-Lover. She didn't play him, she played the old man.

@francestaylor9156 Месяц назад

Or she played everyone.

@user-yd6th5ch5k 9 дней назад

The old man knew exactly what he was getting in to.

@ufchighlights1 Месяц назад

This dude is smart. I think he just got caught up in what the heart wants. Sometimes logic goes out the window

@bruderfaust5021 Месяц назад

Sometimes the nuts want what the nuts want

@JohnWilliams-cx3ip Месяц назад

Not his heart but maybe another piece of his anatomy.

@inthesameuniverse 29 дней назад

@@JohnWilliams-cx3ipoh!

@commanderbarbie2550 Месяц назад

Time to run away. Fast.

@lorainefleeman6011 Месяц назад

The caller is actually very wise. He realized even before this call that she will cheat on him, and wants to end it.

@figgityfly Месяц назад

This guy needs to run. My son’s father(an ex) just got a marrried woman pregnant. She lives with her “estranged” husband and their 16 year old son in the same home. My son’s father is a wealthy man and now this woman got her meal ticket to financially exit her marriage and acquire child support. This woman chased him all year even while he was with other women and told him she couldn’t get pregnant at 42 years old due to endometriosis. He fell for this and made decisions with the wrong head. Please leave married and red flag women alone.

@sassytoez Месяц назад

Like my dad always said, “If they’ll do it with you, they’ll do it to you.”

@davidblaske6911 Месяц назад

Remind them don't forget to take alot of pictures because how else will you know they didn't.

@romans52345-cy3tq Месяц назад

Not always, people do tend to fall in love with other people, it happens but yeah it's not something you want to chance

@marysaltlife1427 Месяц назад

Yep, I say the same.

@marjoriejohnson6535 Месяц назад

At one time I was to arrogant to believe he would do it to me...and after all he wasn't married he just lived with her for 10 years ...guess what..I married a serial cheater....mistake,...

@hollyj2925 Месяц назад

True words!

@joywebster2678 Месяц назад

To all single people, when someone claims they are " leaving their current spouse" and you will be the new partner, RUN. If they are truly interested they can look you up when they have completed their OLD business. Stop playing side/chick/dude to a married person who has no interest in leaving their current situation, but LIES and gaslights you that it will happen. So make them demonstrate its done. 9/10 the spouse has no clue that their marriage is going anywhere and side person ends up the fool.

@Mszahnclass95 Месяц назад

Amen ❤ I agree 💯

@thequirkychristian Месяц назад

Agreed! I got jumped on in a Facebook singles group for saying that I would never date someone who is separated. I was told that I could be potentially missing out on a great guy just because I’m judgmental. 😂 But I have seen too many situations where people say they are separated, but never actually get a divorce. Or it takes a few years to get the divorce. I don’t even understand why anyone would want to start a new relationship when they’re still attached to an old one, even if it’s just legally

@angryox3102 Месяц назад

Even without the moral concerns, that’s a dangerous spot to be. You do not want a scorned spouse angry at you.

@montecarlo4294 Месяц назад

You’re right. However, years ago, an angry spouse was something to definitely be concerned about. But these days, men who get cheated on don’t do anything. Not like they would have years ago. I wish they still did do something to put the fear of the Lord in the hearts of the men who sleep with their wives. But, sadly, in most cases now, they just let it roll right off like water off a duck’s back

@genelewis2481 Месяц назад

⁠@@montecarlo4294it happened to me and the only reason I didn’t end him is because I wanted to continue to be a father for my son. Hard to do that from prison but it has nothing to do with acceptance or “letting it roll”!! Some things are more important than revenge or pride.

@FreeSpirit47 Месяц назад

@@montecarlo4294 Vigilante justice, sometimes is called for. It can be done, legally, people simply don't care enough to implement it. A law was passed in New York in 1907 making it legal for SOs to sue for cheating on them. 15 US states also have laws that have been used where one spouse sued another for cheating on them. If a person gathers the evidence, wants to go through the anguish of a lawsuit, it has been done successfully.

@kellywade8275 Месяц назад

@@montecarlo4294 Please get some help.🙏🏾

@mvubu6823 Месяц назад

@@montecarlo4294 Not dice i would ever want to roll... This lady is DANGEROUS herself

@betty5799 Месяц назад

I think it’s good that he actually feels bad, it means he is a good human being. You have no idea how much a man that makes You.

@Annie-ex3ge Месяц назад

"I'm usually running from relationships, self- sabotaging..." she was great as long as she was married. Now she is available for him, he is sabotaging the relationship and running again...

@tcggggg Месяц назад

He self sabotaged accepting her into his life knowing she had a husband. This isnt a “relationship” to even be running from.

@-glitch-8195 Месяц назад

He's suffering from a deep kind of self-hatred. One that tells you that you don't deserve to be loved. He was deprived of it when he was younger. So he still carries that around. He was attracted to her because in some ways, she reminded him of his mother's situation. He's still taking the hit for that. Poor guy.

@JeremyS86 Месяц назад

he kinda sounds like myself not long ago. its tough to have a healthy relationship, when you've never seen one personally.

@user-ex3mx7hk4l Месяц назад

How Not to be Married: My Dad was abusive and our family was extremely dysfunctional. In my 20’s it took me awhile to figure out that it would be a good idea if I picked someone opposite of my Dad. In other words, someone who wasn’t a dictator who ruled with an iron fist & cheated on their Spouse. Learning the finer nuances of good communication & things like conflict resolution came later. Growing up I never saw a healthy relationship but it didn’t seem like rocket science: How to Be Married: 1. Don’t abuse your partner. 2. Don’t abuse the kids. 3. Give your Spouse the same respect you want to have. 4. Don’t be selfish. 5. Don’t cheat. 6. Get professional help with any personal issues you can’t resolve on your own. 28 years later & it’s worked in my marriage. 💕

@lillybethford1915 Месяц назад

I agree to extent, because you don’t need to do drugs to know it’s bad for you. Having good character won’t allow you to be with a married man/woman.

@addiskassa5165 Месяц назад

@user-ex3mx7hk4l good for you! You are so wise! God blessed!🙏👍👊🙌

@Suzette-gb7uj Месяц назад

I am sad that you have never had role models to show you what healthy relationships looks like.

@Xzy-rv2nu Месяц назад

You used to date married chicks?

@mwhe3111 Месяц назад

Yep...if she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you. Dude...gain some self-respect.

@felisleo101 Месяц назад

“So you’re saying…there might be a chance!” 😂

@JakeStewart1343 Месяц назад

"I read you" 😂

@31Sunshine Месяц назад

😂

@alissonvonderlane862 Месяц назад

😂

@AR-pp3wx 29 дней назад

"What was all that one in a million talk?!" 😅😅😅

@Charlies1970TA Месяц назад

Wow, I was buying into his story until John pointed out this talk was about her and not him. Progress was made once the caller understood he needed to focus on himself!

@ntDR1313 Месяц назад

Alexander, you are worth more than that, I wish you much love, healing and self forgiveness.

@katyedwards3935 Месяц назад

Break up with her.

@JakeStewart1343 Месяц назад

He "low-key" loves the thrill of it 😂

@Rollacoastertycoon Месяц назад

Nah they in love

@bisi1980 Месяц назад

A lot of people from broken homes chose toxic relationships that they know will fail to justify their belief that relationships are harmful and they hurt.

@MikeyPaper Месяц назад

This is too true.

@c.ro.w8191 Месяц назад

Ok the fact that she is 35 and married to a 60 yr old man should raise a lot of questions. Especially since she seems to lead a completely different lifestyle than her husband. So many red flags with her. She is probably pretty wild and needed someone who would offer stability. Like a father figure. He should walk away and get some support. She needs to figure her sh#$ out.

@merricat3025 Месяц назад

I am wondering if he had money

@what.the.whatever Месяц назад

Look I'm 32 and wouldn't be with someone that old. My dad is 70 and just because you can doesn't mean you should... the thought of being with someone thirty years younger than me makes me cringe

@annelouise-qz9vx Месяц назад

If you ask the question, "do you have somebody" and the answer is, I do, but it's complicated", the person is NOT AVAILABLE!!! Do not , do not, do not get involved with anyone is not 100% available. If you do, be prepared for heartache. Do not settle for an unhealthy situation.

@LuckiestStarByFar Месяц назад

Amen. Still married? Separated? Then they're not available. End of story.

@stephenwishburne1034 Месяц назад

I’ve been a little critical of your approach Dr. John with some of your previous sessions. But the advice you gave here and the treatment you gave this man makes me happy to call you a brother in our effort to decrease suffering in the world! I’m proud of you John!

@fordkd1 Месяц назад

I had a relationship similar, not married but with a friend ex. Totally regretted it and beat myself up about it for years. Finally, I asked God to forgive me and I had to forgive myself. I wasn't in a good place when I got into the relationship. Took time to get over and then I heard the song, I'm clean by Natalie Grant. I realized I was and owe none of those people in that process anything. The guilt was lifted off my shoulders

@thomaspugh9969 Месяц назад

You don't owe the friend an apology?

@Dogscatsbikes Месяц назад

You heard a song

@waynepolo6193 Месяц назад

Jesus might have sacrificed himself for your sins, but your friend did not.

@fordkd1 Месяц назад

@@thomaspugh9969 I actually did, but that's a story for another day

@biolife3274 Месяц назад

It's definitely not over. Only over if she decides. He'll go back.

@Hello_jo Месяц назад

Gosh I am so glad I’m not in a relationship. So much energy.

@jennabryan1658 Месяц назад

For real! It’s solving problems constantly…problems you wouldn’t have if you were single 😂😂

@davidharman7245 Месяц назад

Are you devoting that energy into something else which is rewarding to you? Or are you pursuing a simpler life? (both have benefits) p.s. That is a rhetorical question.

@auemmjee Месяц назад

Being single is always the simpler way of living regardless of how you're using your time @@davidharman7245

@Hello_jo Месяц назад

@@davidharman7245 Which question is rhetorical?

@StrongerThanBigfoot Месяц назад

@@Hello_jo You close to West Virginia? You'll fall in love with me. I'm gods gift to women

@EmilyLucille523 Месяц назад

I almost choked on my gum and broke out laughing when he said, “I should’ve known then when she said ‘I do, but it’s complicated’”! 🤣🤣🤣Red flags for sure! Hello!!! 🚩🚩🚩

@fivespeed3026 Месяц назад

This happened to me except we were dating first. She met an older doctor and married him and I had no idea until he contacted me. It was heartbreaking for both of us. He ended up drinking himself to death. I moved on.

@user-wh7ue2mt1t Месяц назад

Thank you!! This show really helped me in my inability to forgive myself for my stupid mistakes. I have some letters to write!!

@AnimsOnDemand Месяц назад

Sounds like he hasn't thinking with the right head and now he's realizing not that she was married but that he messed up.

@domirican81 Месяц назад

He added her on facebook, he definitely knew she was married. She’s a 304, nothing new.

@wikitaeu Месяц назад

I truly adore how John listens without judgement.

@FlappyBelly Месяц назад

And why no one will fix themselves... people need judgement.

@FlappyBelly Месяц назад

No regerts...YOLO... Puke

@wenchyfoodwench4098 Месяц назад

She’s an adulterer. He’s participating in it shame on him.

@ceciliaaznaran3317 Месяц назад

At least he recognized he made a mistake and felt that it was not ok. Deep down infedility issues stem from situations from our upbringing. In my belief as long as you honestly regret and ask God for forgiveness, you will feel much better.

@mewgiah8057 Месяц назад

The comments are being way too hard on this caller. It's true he should have known better and is responsible for his actions. But people are missing the part where the girl said "it was complicated" and implied to him that the relationship was over (or on the way to being over). The caller is also using hindsight to say "i should have known better" because yeah the way she worded that was sketch. But it doesn't take into account that she lied when they first met and persuaded him that her relationship was on its last legs. Its only after the fact he realizes it was a complete lie and he should have picked up on it. Also most cheaters or people who do bad things, don't give it a second thought. They don't feel any guilt. This guy does. He's actually taking responsibility for his actions and recognizes he did a bad thing. He's taking steps to fix himself. Again, I'm not saying people cant be critical of him. But I just don't get why so many are kicking him while he's down and acting as if he doesn't already know he messed up.

@alissonvonderlane862 Месяц назад

I think he heard what his heart wanted him to hear...

@DuffyGabi Месяц назад

No, it wasn’t complicated. He crossed the line with a woman who was still married and then he went farther and farther across that line. He was not a victim or manipulated. He knew exactly where this could head because he was thinking with his small head from day one.

@nimbzclowd Месяц назад

You must be new here. This channel bashes men for breathing wrong and puts women on a pedestal no matter what. He doesn't have them take accountability. The same stuff he'd say to a man he wouldn't a women even if they had similar stories

@Albertdoessomething-df9vr 25 дней назад

"its was complicated" is the reason not to engage. Let them first be single/divorced legally, mentally, emotionally etc

@rz8753 Месяц назад

I like the way dr John explains guilt and shame , this is very helpful

@RealAnimeBadGuy Месяц назад

Motorcycles and bodybuilding? I'd be hypnotized too.

@RafaelSantos-vg3jd Месяц назад

I don't know but that's masculine energy to me. I prefer feminine women.

@RealAnimeBadGuy Месяц назад

@@RafaelSantos-vg3jd it's just people liking what they like, no “masculine energy”

@morgancardinale6098 Месяц назад

@@RealAnimeBadGuy Women into bodybuilding and motorcycles definitely harness masculine energy. You can like whatever you like, but it doesn't make the statement wrong.

@RealAnimeBadGuy Месяц назад

@@morgancardinale6098 it does though a motorcycle is a mode of transportation not a men-only thing. Neither is bodybuilding. That's exactly why there are male and female competitors. Getting from point A to be or building your body is not gender based

@GIRLINA101 Месяц назад

@@morgancardinale6098She's a firefighter, too. Interesting.

@genxx2724 Месяц назад

Some people who have commitment issues purposely choose relationships they know will not work out. That way the relationship fails without their having done anything wrong or ended it, and they can keep believing that they want a relationship and they were wronged.

@ponygirlusa Месяц назад

Sure. The old "my spouse doesn't understand me" trope. If they'll cheat on their spouse they'll cheat on you.

@santafilipina9020 Месяц назад

Get her out of your life completely. Block her on social and phone. Avoid the same gym and biking friends circles. Don't look her up. These are easy to do if you get a life. The weakest time is when you're lonely so make sure you have a couple of good friends you can call when this happens.

@HaydeeNunez Месяц назад

This is excellent advice! I hope he sees your comment and actually implements it in his life.

@hollyj2925 Месяц назад

Great advice!

@BillTheConquerer 27 дней назад

This is the kind of therapy men need. Honest. Direct. Supportive. Practical. The caller takes responsibility for choices, but doesn't know how to move forward. I wish more therapists did this with men. We might see a positive change in the internal narratives men carry. Thank you, Dr. John.

@mrshappywife8468 Месяц назад

I was extremely disappointed in the comments here. If the roles were switched y'all would have been making every excuse in the book. He obviously has a lot of childhood trauma he needs to heal and grow from. I come from a very similar background and I hope and pray you heal sir. I wish you all the best and please ignore the nasty comments. Most of them sound like they need God or a good talking to from Dr. John themselves.

@JulietActual Месяц назад

I feel bad for the chick's husband who can't defend himself. Both are at fault. Unfortunately we hear these stories all the time where people get hurt because they decided to keep the affair going. Stop the bs. You knew what she was about from the jump. You're not innocent in this as you took ownership of and thats great. But dude. Forgive yourself and tell her husband.... work on yourself & dont get into relationships until you heal. end the relationship. Save a brother or sister in this situation. Stop fkn with people's feelings.

@auemmjee Месяц назад

Why would he tell the husband? 😂 He would probably get his ass kicked.

@genxx2724 Месяц назад

Don’t tell the husband. That’s looking for drama.

@JulietActual Месяц назад

@auemmjee real men does these. I highly doubt he'll want to throw hands unless hes a simp. You telling me you wouldn't tell another man his wife I cheating on him?

@JulietActual Месяц назад

@genxx2724 you ain't looking for drama. I'd want to know if someone was cheating. But I guess some people rather not know it's on them I guess

@user-eq6wb8zt8l Месяц назад

I don’t think we forgive ourselves enough. That’s great advice and something I’ll take with me, thank you!

@Roaming725 Месяц назад

That part about *how* to forgive yourself is really helpful, thank you.

@joycephillips831 Месяц назад

Great advice Dr John.

@jennifermorgan1837 Месяц назад

Don’t get involved in a marriage. Period.

@BJ37 Месяц назад

I wasted a year on a women, similar situation except she kept telling me she was going to leave the other person for me every time i tried to put my foot down. Was 1 year of complete hell.

@Katprint Месяц назад

The bright line is whether or not they are still living together. There is always a risk that someone will decide to go back to their ex regardless whether or not they were ever married, same as the risk that they might decide to break up with you and find someone new, but it is extremely foolish to date someone who is still living with their soon-to-be-ex-spouse.

@tigernotwoods914 Месяц назад

She’s for the streets bruh. Let it go. Run.

@alluringbliss4165 Месяц назад

Soul ties, not fun. Gotta pray on it.

@Sanecatlady74 Месяц назад

Nah karmic ties. The nasty gotta go ones 😂

@JakobPGrau Месяц назад

Soul ties are not biblical.

@Sanecatlady74 Месяц назад

@@JakobPGrau They are that is why there is confusion 😂😂😂

@coriemmett1363 Месяц назад

Yep I’ve had to do that and give to Jesus.

@alluringbliss4165 Месяц назад

@@JakobPGrau it certainly is. God himself delivered me.

@KiingShooter24 Месяц назад

I’m Dominican, close to his age and I felt that when he spoke of our culture, it’s true.

@FlappyBelly Месяц назад

What part?

@spricket24 Месяц назад

He deserves so much better than this and deserves to be loved and held in a high status - I hope he gets some help to see the light and starts to value himself. He will attract someone who treats him so much better than this if he does resolve his issues ❤ I wish that for you all as well.

@jones2277 Месяц назад

why does he deserve better? he knew going in that she was marrried.

@spricket24 Месяц назад

@@jones2277 because of his childhood trauma he suffered through

@evelyndaisy9722 Месяц назад

He knew she was married and still pursued her.

@spricket24 Месяц назад

@@evelyndaisy9722 Yup - and he deserves to be with someone who is not married and to heal his trauma.

@spricket24 Месяц назад

@@jones2277 Because he deserves to be with someone who is not married and to heal his trauma - hence - deserves better.

@user-tl7mj2bm4m Месяц назад

Once a cheater..always a cheater. Run from this woman.

@MisterKilogram Месяц назад

Walk away and block her. If you mess around with another man's wife, you're going to find out. (Proverbs 6:34) For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.

@kristiiiiiiiii Месяц назад

Dude you walked into that one, knowing she had someone. That was your mistake. You’re now the red flag.

@JakeStewart1343 Месяц назад

He loves the chase 😂

@snowflake2910 Месяц назад

You deserve better. You deserve someone who will be honest and committed and you’re wasting time with someone who doesn’t deserve you. She is keeping you from who you’re meant to be with.

@sa_ly Месяц назад

Who loves you and respect YOU, and themselves will never put into a triangle. 😪 .

@celitacantrill10 Месяц назад

Alexander, please do write that letter to yourself. I've done that particular therapy, which is very helpful. I wish you peace Alexander and best regards, Celita

@Aminah6623 Месяц назад

Sounds like he thought it would be short-term and fell for that thang. He won't leave.

@jones2277 Месяц назад

exactly.

@oraclepanda Месяц назад

This is why it's hard to pick a forever life partner. You can be tempted to infidelity much easier if you're not really into the partner. It sounds like this woman has a personality disorder and she's seeking security while also not being happy. Be careful who you marry, no matter what position you're in.

@ntDR1313 Месяц назад

She was upfront about her "complicated" situation.... there's always 2 sides to the story. Perhaps she's trapped in a Narcissistic/controlling or manipulative "unloving" relationship. Perhaps she is seeking a bit of love and validation which she so rightly deserves and not getting at home 🤔 ... just a thought ❤

@Dansyoung Месяц назад

@@ntDR1313If she was in a relationship she isn’t happy with she should end it and not start a side relationship/affair. If you are a victim of something that doesn’t mean you get a free pass to hurt other people around you.

@auemmjee Месяц назад

There's no reason to pick a forever partner.

@Dansyoung Месяц назад

@@wordsalad01Agreed, this is a manipulation thing where they can twist and contort anything to justify bad actions.

@ntDR1313 Месяц назад

@@Dansyoung 100% I do agree there's no free pass.

@alexandereisen3486 4 дня назад

Nothing he can do other than forgive himself, try to learn from his mistakes, and move on.

@qfbaby22 Месяц назад

Damn. I’m almost going through this exact situation and it’s ruined me.

@krysracquel Месяц назад

Maybe he was more interested because she had a relationship. Now, because she left the guy he doesn’t want her? He doesn’t sound like he has confidence in who he is as a man. I pray he gets counseling.

@iamlovingawareness2284 Месяц назад

My now wife was in a relationship before me. When we became friends she was married to an abusive man. We started to have feelings for each other during their separation. For better or worse, we’ve been married for 10 years now with 3 kids. We are best friends and our relationship only has gotten better through time. I understand people’s judgement about people in my situation, I suppose I justified our initial relationship by saying to myself that her then husband was an awful person and she was already escaping. Maybe I did the wrong thing but we’ve built a life, a homestead, and 3 wonderful children from that situation. How can I regret it? Given the subject of this video.

@proudatheist2042 Месяц назад

The fact that your wife's ex husband was abusive is a gigantic factor. I think people will judge your wife less harshly because an abusive relationship destroys people in it, so her ex-husband never would have been a decent husband to begin with. She left to save herself, not for the thrill of forbidden "kicks."

@lpl433 Месяц назад

Sounds like that marriage was dead and only needed to be sorted legally. Most cases people shouldn’t involve themselves romantically with married people no matter how bad the marriage is. Happy urs worked out.

@JourneyDestination Месяц назад

@@proudatheist2042this is the same excuse all Women use for cheating

@cdw5176 Месяц назад

nah brah ur a home wrecker and should be ashamed

@genelewis2481 Месяц назад

Dr John is right again! We’re all human!!

@NopeNotToday26 Месяц назад

This is why therapy is important for some people. Childhood trauma is real and needs to be dealt with before entering a relationship if you want a HEALTHY relationship.

@karamarler7756 Месяц назад

100% truth!

@keywestfan2503 Месяц назад

It’s clear why he did it. When someone has a void, and then along comes someone who is beautiful, is fun, is laughing at your jokes, is looking at you a certain way no one else has…. Man, you’re going to take every bit of that energy in.

@lpl433 Месяц назад

No matter how long they’ve been separated they’re still married. RUN it’ll never end well.

@theslavemotivator3571 Месяц назад

I love you john

@alissonvonderlane862 Месяц назад

You loose 'em how you get 'em!

@RobertaMalva Месяц назад

If she cheats on her HUSBAND... What do you think she 'll do to you??? 😮 Walk away from that mess

@Gabster1990 Месяц назад

So many single people in the world and he chooses a married woman.

@ozzycortes Месяц назад

Never ignore the 🚩🚩🚩🚩

@dennischiapello7243 Месяц назад

You’re so right, but I never recognize the red flags except in the rearview mirror. I see them, but my brain is high on dopamine or whatever! But the other person being married is more than a red flag. It’s a brick wall!

@dextermcgrubbin Месяц назад

Where's the fun in that? XD

@dahliaherrod4301 Месяц назад

That's not even a red flag. It's just a hard boundary that he chose to bust through for his own selfish desires.

@ozzycortes Месяц назад

@@dahliaherrod4301 Did you even listen to the video ? She's married, on social media interacting with other Men. Had an affair with a co worker. How are you going to tell me that's not a red flag ?

@dahliaherrod4301 Месяц назад

@@ozzycortes A person being married isn't a red flag. A red flag is a hard stop on a relationship. There is no relationship because she's married. He's just delusional and tried to hold onto something that never existed. The woman is disgusting and deserves whatever consequences come her way, but that doesn't negate the caller's issues.

@blueseptember2174 Месяц назад

Alexander has my respect for righting his wrongs 🙏 ❤

@sfs1167 3 дня назад

If you didn't know and then find out, it's on her. If you knew and dated her anyway, it's on both of you. If you try to stay with her, you're likely risking your life.

@om617yota7 Месяц назад

Ahhh he knew from the very beginning. Alright, I'm out. Sorry bro, you did this to yourself.

@23kppadilla Месяц назад

Sht happens so you either work around it or you leave 😂😂😂 She has an appetite for life😂😂😂

@9liveslisa Месяц назад

He's human and love is a drug. He just needs to get back on track.

@andrewmarshall7569 Месяц назад

Lisa, it's more than him just "getting back on track". This man is delusional and he needs a father figure to step in and set him straight immediately. In a loving way of course.

@9liveslisa Месяц назад

@@andrewmarshall7569 You take comments way too seriously, but ok, if you say so.

@andrewmarshall7569 Месяц назад

@@9liveslisa I was adding on to what you were saying. I'm not disagreeing with you at all, but if you have sons, you'd be doing them a favor by jumping all over this, even if they are adults.

@devadii24 Месяц назад

This sounds more like lust to me… which is even harder to overcome imo

@KristelD Месяц назад

1:47 "I do but it's complicated". So she was honest from the beginning that she was in a relationship, he ignored that and now is upset about the situation he has put himself in?

@trey8872 Месяц назад

She wanted to spice up her life with a Latin lover. 🕺🏽

@hmmm2564 Месяц назад

How do you know that she is not Latin

@31Sunshine Месяц назад

😂

@21truthbetold Месяц назад

How could he say she was fake if HE knew she was married the whole time? He is just as fake! He knows he’s not a genuine person but he’s blaming her for it. And after she left her husband, he no longer wants her, so he was only attracted to the fact she belonged to someone else so technically the woman wasn’t available. Like he said he self sabotages, and only wanted her when she wasn’t available.

@youcancallmemaurice Месяц назад

If she would cheat with you, she'll cheat on you. Walk.

@nancygorman Месяц назад

Jesus loves you and forgives you! ❤❤❤ Writing the letter to self is so powerful. Love it.

@kylemedeiros6907 Месяц назад

When people comment without watching the full video: 👇🏻

@irenefernandez9697 Месяц назад

This show is quickly starting to give Jerry Springer vibes

@dextermcgrubbin Месяц назад

Springer issues but more responsible advice

@irenefernandez9697 Месяц назад

@dextermcgrubbin I guess. It feels like "chisme" which is spanish for gossip but way juicier.

@brittneyyoung1882 Месяц назад

I'm here for it

@NHatemN Месяц назад

Run.

@Crypt007 Месяц назад

This is exactly the way I feel when I look in the mirror

@leonidaslopez170 Месяц назад

You reap what you sow. You don't feel any guilt; that's a lie. You are simply now suffering, knowing that the woman you fell in love with has zero morals, same as you. And she might say to another man that her relationship with you is complicated, the same way she said that to you. Let's face it, you are clearly not suffering for the marriage that you helped to wreck, since the beginning you knew she was married and you did not care, you are suffering because deep down you know that no one can expect to put his hands on fire and not get burned.

@mae1097 Месяц назад

You have a gentle soul. That is a gift from God. Go and find out what this means: “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” John 8:36

@FreeSpirit47 Месяц назад

Alexander is a himbo with someone who is in limbo.

@Kwk16534 Месяц назад

❤❤ dude you have this Antonio Banderas voice hot as hell you just need to ask whether the woman is married first before you proceed

@kekejefferson9219 Месяц назад

"Maybe next lifetimeeeee"

@annjensen795 Месяц назад

You made a mistake...but I think that the vast majority here has made a dumb mistake like this in life..BUT even more so I believe the vast majority can hear that you are a GOOD MAN! ❤️

@jones2277 Месяц назад

that's not a mistake. that's what's called a choice.

@matkiley17 Месяц назад

They teach you these things in rehab too. Think about that. (Drug rehab) the guilt and the shame speach. The letters. And a bunch of other things. He even says its like drugs. These keep getting me feeling more and more like they're not just call ins but maybe... scripts? But i don't want to put that on this man.