I Cheated on My Wife (She Can't Move On)

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I Cheated on My Wife (She Can't Move On)
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@luannkelly5071 11 месяцев назад

As a woman who's ex-husband cheated on her, I felt he was dirty and didn't want him touching me. I felt he was gross after having intimacy with another woman. I didn't want him anymore. It was like, yuck.

@natasabrandt21 8 месяцев назад

Good for you sister!

@marlieesworklifejourney 8 месяцев назад

That's what i would feel.

@Amila-ym7ny 8 месяцев назад

Absolutely. Cheaters are disgusting physically. Like wow nice u couldve caught a disease and gave it to me?!?! Rot

@Mgramato1 8 месяцев назад

This is exactly how I would feel too.

@sexyslim92 7 месяцев назад

Yup that’s how it feels

@RespekfulFungus 11 месяцев назад

Trust is never gained on your time table. Face the reality that she was in it forever, you weren’t. Patience or Divorce.

@IHateNicolasCage 11 месяцев назад

Regaining trust is like taking Elmer's glue to a shattered window. Good luck with the repairs...........

@aimeerebecca1 11 месяцев назад

@@IHateNicolasCagebut why do you hate Nic Cage? 😂

@catholicfemininity2126 11 месяцев назад

Bruh, hatred is not healthy. xD@@IHateNicolasCage

@jzwalz51robin45 11 месяцев назад

Sounds like divorce

@nly4607 11 месяцев назад

I'm thirty three and this attitude is why I would never get married l o l Women quit the second things get tough and think they can do better and then whine when men only want to use single moms for sex

@jennifersilves4195 2 месяца назад

If you don't want your wife mentioning your affair DON'T HAVE ONE.

@lunacarolyn 3 месяца назад

The amount of men calling in with zero respect for their partners is alarming

@Veracityseeker7 2 месяца назад

Typical

@dhibba52 2 месяца назад

Given the culture we live in, it isn't unusual at all.

@lunacarolyn 2 месяца назад

@@dhibba52 honestly yes, you’re right

@documentariesbycategory1483 Месяц назад

It’s disturbing, but then it’s paired with such a profound lack of insight, self-pity, and whinging that I end up feeling completely horrified for these men’s partners!

@barb7124 Месяц назад

Raised by toxic mothers

@royh2618 11 месяцев назад

Bro cheated. Game over. GAME. OVER. Another weak dude who messed up and now feels victimized.

@frankcorrea8691 11 месяцев назад

Don't feel sorry for you bro, should not have lusted!😮

@lv2756 11 месяцев назад

@@frankcorrea8691shouldn’t have acted on it, now he’s gonna make sure the person he hurt is forever miserable

@elladeon 11 месяцев назад

"Wait, you mean my actions have consequences?"

@sometimesising1016 11 месяцев назад

@@elladeon😂😂😂

@frankcorrea8691 11 месяцев назад

Yep dude, gsme over, game over, game over, game over, game over, you lost, sksnk boy, you lost, you lost, you lost, you lost, you lost, you lost!

@Reshme77 11 месяцев назад

Dude If she cheated, you would have just left her

@RG-hf4et 5 месяцев назад

EXACTLY!!

@bloomingale7868 4 месяца назад

Then leave. Why is she torturing herself and him by staying?

@PossibleTango 4 месяца назад

And he should leave her if she did cheat. The woman can end it whenever as well. This feels like they're just torturing themselves.

@Reshme77 3 месяца назад

@@bloomingale7868I have a better idea. He shouldn't have cheated to begin with

@dtschuor459 3 месяца назад

You don’t know him and you don’t know that

@toscadonna 5 месяцев назад

“I need her to completely forget what I did and just give me her heart on a silver platter to eat again.” -the Caller

@MS-cg1mj 3 месяца назад

Well put. He deserves to be alone.

@mrv2308 2 месяца назад

She’s dumb for staying too. When will woman have enough self respect to leave the first time?

@shecaptain3444 2 месяца назад

The condensed version. Thank you!!

@user-pn6rd6fv9w Месяц назад

Best comment

@Jackrabbitsteaparty Месяц назад

Yea, its weird.......

@laurennguyen1008 10 месяцев назад

This made my blood boil. My son in law cheated on my daughter and she immediately divided their money and told him they would get divorced. He has said many stupid things since then like this guy has. He feels sorry for himself and seems oblivious to the shock and utter devastation. I am proud my daughter is smart enough to project into the future and know she will never trust him again. None of us could so that's it. They are divorced and she has blocked his texts.

@blueseptember2174 7 месяцев назад

How is she doing now? Is she feeling more hopeful? ❤

@jengoodwyn2715 6 месяцев назад

You're a good mother for being there for your daughter.

@kdphotos4691 5 месяцев назад

Good for her. Sounds like she will be ok. Glad you are supporting her through it.

@lindalund9621 5 месяцев назад

Good

@SunnyDenmark 4 месяца назад

Your daughter strong 💪❤❤❤

@jademcl4727 11 месяцев назад

"Well, well, well, if it isn't the consequences of my own actions."

@laquamartin4602 5 месяцев назад

Exactly He's Wants His Soon To Be Ex-Wife To Hurry Up And Heal So He Can Be Back On The Bullshit!!! Divorce Her Already Since You're So Miserable!!!

@GalaletsangSeema 3 месяца назад

That’s what I’m thinking

@annc.3908 2 месяца назад

If I could hit the thumbs up multiple times I so would

@Veracityseeker7 2 месяца назад

Exactly

@MicheleWeismiller-sq5qt 2 месяца назад

Good counseling forgiveness.. if not move on..

@claymore9359 11 месяцев назад

You can't be vulnerable with someone who betrayed you.

@Gxport 11 месяцев назад

Right?! Why would you trust them to be that open again.

@katemiller7874 11 месяцев назад

Some people are very forgiving. I have seen it many times through the years.

@midnightblue117 11 месяцев назад

Co-dependent and weak people forgive! Period!

@lademoiselleketoret6958 11 месяцев назад

So true!

@thecolorfulhag4008 10 месяцев назад

@@midnightblue117Yes!!!

@cherylwright5540 4 месяца назад

This man is not the victim. He broke the marriage.

@bebop2523 3 месяца назад

So he can’t forgive his wife for giving him a blank stare 10 years ago, but he’s mad that she won’t forgive him for cheating three years ago 😂

@elladeon 11 месяцев назад

So this guy brings up a sob story from 10 years ago because that is relevant to his relationship today, but it's unfair for her to bring things up in the past? He cheated, he left, he dangles divorce over her head and then complains that she's withdrawn and not committed? This guy is morally weak and incredibly selfish. This isn't accountability, this is whining.

@jeromehenry4484 11 месяцев назад

Agree with most of your points, but the part about "she's withdrawn and not committed". Wife is far more committed to this marriage than caller. She has not left, not filed for divorce, not cleared bank accounts, not had a retaliatory affair, etc. Wife is committed to this marriage, but she is not committed to caller, there is a difference. Glad to hear caller is going to therapy, but didn't hear what steps caller has taken to rebuild wife's trust in him. Sounds like caller feels ENTITLED to wife's trust; no one is entitled to trust, it is always earned over time.

@BP-xe7dw 11 месяцев назад

I am always amazed at how quick to judge and define moral perimeters are thrown on people of which you know so little. This is difficult for both of them. I wish them the best, hope they find peace and a resolve to their situation.

@calibaby3442 11 месяцев назад

You said it best!! I 💯 agree with you ! You have some tweedle dums who think otherwise.

@elladeon 11 месяцев назад

@@BP-xe7dw I'm am very comfortable calling a cheater "morally weak." That is pretty much all the info you need.

@cosmicshy637 11 месяцев назад

He doesn't deserve her. 💩

@michellebreedlove2711 11 месяцев назад

Scott, dude, trust is lost in buckets and gained in drops. You destroyed your wife. You entered the body of another human being with NO regard for the risk you put your wife in. If it was bad, you could have left, but you chose to violate her body and the marriage bed. You are asking her to re-engage with the same person that violated her and you're frustrated because it's not easy. In no other crime do we as a society ask the victim to re-engage with their attacker. Imagine if your wife stepped out every time YOU didn't meet one of her needs. You need a dose of perspective. It will come up in arguments because YOU changed the lens she sees the world through. Own what you did and accept the consequences.

@chrissyellem7397 11 месяцев назад

You are right. What's scary is that the middle aged population is getting STD's in droves now. It's because they are too trusting because back in the 80's people weren't concerned about diseases it was free love. Now if these older spouses cheat it is a VIOLATION of the spouse because you just brought their risk up for a permanent STD. Selfishness is the worst.

@brightpage1020 11 месяцев назад

This response seems considerate as it is realistic. I appreciate your sense of respect for him while carrying concern for her.

@dabd8175 11 месяцев назад

Terrible comment 🤣

@pinkfairydust83 11 месяцев назад

100% agree!

@debfox 11 месяцев назад

That’s a great way to put it!

@nickalton 8 месяцев назад

Once you cheat and get caught your relationship changes forever. She/he will never view you the same. It’s just reality.

@giftfromabove2107 5 месяцев назад

He put divorce on the table because she is not moving on as fast as he wants. He wants her to be all giddy and singing Kumbaya after rubbishing their marriage. What a man!

@MegaSamTheMan77 11 месяцев назад

He cheats and suddenly he’s a victim.

@abark 11 месяцев назад

Just like every woman.

@VioletPersuasion 3 месяца назад

He cheated because he was telling himself he was an "unheard victim," even before the cheating! Entitled people like this are so gross. And, he's had therapy enough to use it as a weapon - Dr Delony started to call him on it when he told hin to stop using broad-stroke language, then get swept up in how bad the man "has had it."

@I-hate-youtube797 2 месяца назад

@@abarkA man cheats on his wife and tries to act like she’s the villain and you somehow turn this into a sexist thing against women saying it’s women that make themselves out to falsely be victims. God you people are unbelievable smfh

@abark 2 месяца назад

@@I-hate-youtube797 every woman who cheats justifies it and plays the victim.

@korvonfrancis6552 2 месяца назад

If it were the other way around women would be telling him to such it up

@NeeNee_B. 11 месяцев назад

She doesnt even have space to heal comfortably, you keep holding divorce over her head. How selfish can you be??

@jzwalz51robin45 11 месяцев назад

Sounds like there will never be enough space, she will make life with her a living hell.

@JoyofRVing 11 месяцев назад

You can’t rush healing.

@snoozyq9576 11 месяцев назад

@@jzwalz51robin45cheating made life a living hell for them. That's why you don't cheat

@NeeNee_B. 11 месяцев назад

@@jzwalz51robin45 um no, HE made life with her a living hell. Prior to this, their biggest issue was that he didn't like a face she made 🙄

@gabrielamartiniuc6322 11 месяцев назад

@@jzwalz51robin45any man that cheats will be in hell. A hell he created for himself.

@voulafisentzidis8830 2 месяца назад

Why would she show vulnerability around an untrustworthy man?

@theaxe6198 8 месяцев назад

Oh my goodness. If I cheated every time my husband looked at me blankly when I told him something that was a big emotional issue, I’d have slept with entire town.

@rebeccapiamonte 5 месяцев назад

😂 This guy must never have heard of the "nothing box." He needs to get a grip and stop being so touchy.

@queenwhatever5217 5 месяцев назад

Amongst all these serious comments, this one was refreshing and made me laugh.

@an67481 4 месяца назад

😅❤ 100%

@genacostello5896 3 месяца назад

😂😂😂😂😂

@sanamo86 2 месяца назад

Loooollllllllllllllllll 😂😂😂

@maebee23 11 месяцев назад

He didn't just cheat, he LEFT HIS WIFE amd tried to replace her and came crawling back when it didn't work. Now he wonders why his wife is traumatised? I bet he's been a piece of work for years and that's why she emotionally shut down

@elladeon 11 месяцев назад

He only talks about her feeding his ego and emotional needs. So, so selfish.

@JoyofRVing 11 месяцев назад

She didn’t want to be intimate with him because she was fed up with him not meeting her needs even before the affair.

@EadsB7002 10 месяцев назад

The fact that so many women tolerate behavior like this and stay when they are treated this poorly is just absolutely beyond me!! 🤦🏼‍♀️

@pear_jules4013 10 месяцев назад

He didn’t come crawling back. She initiated the reconciliation.

@purplelove3666 9 месяцев назад

So , question,why is she still there?

@cruiseny26 11 месяцев назад

This guy cheated and instead of calling and asking what can I do to help her to trust me again, he calls and says, “I said I’m sorry. Why won’t you forgive me already? Maybe we should divorce? Why are you so distant from me and give me what I need?” This dude is a piece of work….

@allisonhernandez3829 11 месяцев назад

And Dr.John seems to encourage this nonsense. He didn’t call him out once for the crap he did and is currently doing.

@shachede6828 10 месяцев назад

@@allisonhernandez3829so you just skipped over where dr John said “ you blew this up and you’re keeping divorce there, how is your wife suppose to anchor into that” and ‘have you ever thought she could be right when you’re repeating old pattern” and he called him other times too. Y’all just have selected hearing or something?

@onecompass7290 10 месяцев назад

@@allisonhernandez3829 and he FAILS to call out the insane level of covert narcissism going on because he can't see it. very very disappointing!

@xclusive40 10 месяцев назад

3 years… If you can’t work through it move on🤷🏾‍♂️

@xclusive40 10 месяцев назад

@dillardsshopper24863 years isn’t hurry up. He owned his horrible action and is trying to work through it. That’s all anybody can do. They should stop wasting each others time if they can’t work through it. What’s a narcissist to you? That word is used frequently and inappropriately many times so I have to ask. What does that mean to you?

@angelaalexander1581 5 месяцев назад

At no point did the host say , "What have you done to earn her trust back?"

@AI.Astrid 2 месяца назад

That’s my biggest issue. It was never asked. And it should have been. Because that would have been a big tell and it’s a huge thing that was majorly overlooked.

@sameerajafri747 2 месяца назад

The host generally put a lot of blame on women

@catcat9582 2 месяца назад

Noticed that,too. He has shark eyes.

@zk6019 2 месяца назад

he hates women and has so much sympathy for these creepy men.

@Jacob-qz5mu 2 месяца назад

@@sameerajafri747 if you think that, you dont listen often, and not calling the host, john by his name insinuates you dont listen often enough to make that conclusion.

@coureenlawrence4915 5 месяцев назад

He doesn't even sound like he's sorry for cheating. He is sad that he is not getting the affection he wants. All about him..

@jasminebaby3375 11 месяцев назад

❌🚩So he cheated, had a affair on the wife and he is also the one who brings up divorce yet he is here crying!! The nerve of this man. 😂😂❌

@agricolaregs 11 месяцев назад

I think you missed major parts of the call.

@Gxport 11 месяцев назад

He sounds like he’s always saying he’s a victim and his wife is probably emotionally protecting herself.

@blueravenchick 11 месяцев назад

@@agricolaregs he sounds like a douche..... sorry.

@Snappypantsdance 10 месяцев назад

@@Gxportlike the other comment above, you might not be taking all of the factors into account. These things are usually very complex…

@sueblack5794 10 месяцев назад

He also very much blamed her for his cheating.

@keelycramer7364 11 месяцев назад

Dude just wants her to file for divorce so he can perpetuate his good guy story

@ErickaWilliamsCC 11 месяцев назад

Bingo. That's exactly what it is

@midnightblue117 11 месяцев назад

Exactly!!! That what I’m hearing too!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@kdphotos4691 5 месяцев назад

Yes, that's a good point. Then he can be another "my wife divorced me, blah, blah, blah..." Classic.

@suzziezhills 5 месяцев назад

Yep!

@ffsno9078 4 месяца назад

Spot on. My first thought too.

@phuonghuynh5946 3 месяца назад

I used to stare into my ex’s eyes and swoon over them, I felt so loved so SAFE, his eyes made me feel at home. After he cheated on me, I look into them and see those same eyes looking at other women, and I feel so completely disgusted. I didn’t feel safe enough to be vulnerable with him anymore. That was it, there was no going back to the way it was before. The feelings were destroyed and his eyes never had the same effect on me anymore.

@grilledcheeseandsoup1652 2 месяца назад

Wow worst advice ever. If your husband cheats on you, then complains that you aren't healing fast enough, then takes you out to breakfast and lays out what he needs from you to stay in this marriage, RUN!!!!

@christiestarr6941 Месяц назад

THIS!!!!! You should be taking these calls!!! lol!

@danielrn133 11 месяцев назад

"I need deep emotional connection". So he cheats on his wife. He says a lot of "I need". He sounds like a creeper.

@neisci 11 месяцев назад

It's all about him. ME ME ME ME. He's emotionally draining.

@Dark_Souls_3 11 месяцев назад

He’s a RAPIST

@mistermanman 11 месяцев назад

Very weird how "emotional connection" always turns in to sex.

@rayf6126 10 месяцев назад

It's also weird how same gendered friends is never an option for emotional connection, stress relief, or breaking up a routine.

@CeeSparks 5 месяцев назад

Right. The selfishness, self absorbed "him" is the reason he cheated in the first place. Nasty SOB

@rodneyperry7940 11 месяцев назад

What a narcissist! He cheated but it’s all her fault.

@romans52345-cy3tq 3 месяца назад

Not all her fault but it takes two to Tango

@Prismalpink 3 месяца назад

Yeah it makes me angry because he’s just like my father.

@Veracityseeker7 2 месяца назад

Typical

@romans52345-cy3tq 2 месяца назад

@@Veracityseeker7 Yeah but she's to blame too, it takes two to Tango

@tideio Месяц назад

@@romans52345-cy3tq”takes two to tango” are slow? She’s not the affair partner she’s the betrayed spouse, that not what that metaphor implies, tbh I’m surprised you even have access to a cell phone lmao.

@jennifert2953 9 месяцев назад

She can feel anyway she wants. You broke it. She owes you nothing.

@dove861 5 месяцев назад

Wait a minute. This guy had an affair, but we’re supposed to feel sorry for him because his wife gave him a “blank look” once when he was going through something? Nope.

@basedjenny7362 5 месяцев назад

Lmao Fr

@katrina2931 Месяц назад

I’m sure I give a blank look frequently. It’s not because I don’t care, it’s because I’m going through my own stuff and my mind might be occupied. If it’s serious say some like “hey can we sit and talk about something serious for a minute?”

@katrina2931 Месяц назад

Those of us with a one track mind need a second to adjust… or even realize someone is speaking. 😅

@Phoenix-mh5eo Месяц назад

10 YEARS and that's the worst he can come up with? Meanwhile he violated their marriage in one of the absolute worst ways possible and expects forgiveness when he can't forgive a blank look? Not even a mean look or a disapproving look, just one that didn't have a lot of emotion behind it. I hope she heard this episode and realized he's a professional victim and she's already out of there.

@foxxybrown291 11 месяцев назад

You don’t get to choose how long it takes for her to get over the affair xx

@drewbear17 11 месяцев назад

Try telling my ex that

@cayleebis 11 месяцев назад

this. 👏

@Tionaintown876 11 месяцев назад

He does get to choose how long he has to deal with her after she claimed to forgive and truly does not

@skincareceo 11 месяцев назад

He does get to choose if he wants to stay in a marriage where he'll never be forgiven.

@foxxybrown291 11 месяцев назад

@@drewbear17 That wasn’t your person 💓💛💓 xx

@ember13dp 11 месяцев назад

Wow... and my husband says I hold on to stuff!! He's still carrying around a blank look she gave him 10 years ago 😂😂 but expects her to get over HIM CHEATING 😂 I can't with this guy.

@AJK8144 8 месяцев назад

The audacity of this man makes my blood boil. His wife was probably walking on egg-shells around him 😢

@lindalund9621 5 месяцев назад

It is Him Him Him Him

@kandymuffin 4 месяца назад

I was kind of surprised how easy John let him off. 😅 He should've been asking more questions as to why this guy wanted to get back with his wife at all since he seems to be complaining about the same things that he says lead to the affair in the first place. The guy acts like by his wife agreeing to try to repair the marriage after he cheated, that she would also repair the things he didn't like that lead to him cheating .... because he blames her. As if emotionally getting over the affair wasn't enough, he wants her to do more.

@bebop2523 3 месяца назад

Also, he was so vague about the situation that led to his wife giving him a blank look. Somehow he “crossed a line“ but it “wasn’t a personal failing“ like huh? What did he do? This guy is so full of self-pity that if he was actually innocent in that situation, he would tell the whole story because it would get him more pity points, the fact he’s being so vague about it means he definitely did something wrong. He was probably throwing a pity party and blaming other people for his mess and the wife didn’t believe him hence the blank look.

@saturdayschild8535 3 месяца назад

Classic disordered behavior. My ex went back twenty-five years to justify his affair. Context completely lost on him. Even the instance he complained about my reaction was something unacceptable that he did initially. I hope this lady realizes he’s out gathering support to divorce her and leaves him for good. He’s not worth one more day of her emotional safety and mental health.

@AngelaEvans_ 6 месяцев назад

Cheaters need to realize, the person they cheated on will never be able to forget, and will never fully trust them again

@nancyballard8666 5 месяцев назад

She probably has told him what she needs, but he lives on the mountain of his own ego and feelings.

@MelissaBarrotti 11 месяцев назад

"I'm pretty amazed at all the personal progress I've made in the last few years"... what a piece of work this dude is.

@Erica-wz8yv 11 месяцев назад

😂

@blackbutterfly233ify 11 месяцев назад

so he isn't allowed to work on himself?

@melissab0515 11 месяцев назад

He really likes himself

@katemiller7874 11 месяцев назад

Well he realizes he has the problem. Not her

@snoozyq9576 11 месяцев назад

@@blackbutterfly233ifynot what they said lol

@rfpnc 11 месяцев назад

Did I hear this right? HE stepped out on her, left her, and then came back, says he wants the marriage to work, but brings up divorce because he doesn't feel things are moving forward fast enough? Well whatever his wife did or didn't do, i can understand if she has put up emotional walls the size of the Empire State Building.

@PureJoySkinCareWaxStudio 5 месяцев назад

Yep, that's what I heard, too.

@hillarybillary21 4 месяца назад

Not enough for her to leave.

@bebop2523 3 месяца назад

He can’t forgive her for giving him a blank stare 10 years ago, but he’s mad that she can’t forgive him for cheating on her 3 years ago

@kimberlyfloyd1009 3 месяца назад

@@hillarybillary21 she really should but maybe she is torturing him on purpose...punishing maybe?? can't blame her!

@maryalicecampbell341 2 месяца назад

yes he is really saying this and how great he is.

@gb8889 5 месяцев назад

Short version: she looked at me wrong 10 years ago so I cheated. But also she's not allowed to bring up anything about things in the past and can't get over my cheating. So I'm going to hold divorce over her head. I expect her to have a smile on her face, a happy attitude and be grateful I'm giving her a chance to make things right.

@crazymusicgrlcheesecake 5 месяцев назад

I dated a dude just like him, this guy's brain is broken

@t00862 3 месяца назад

Wow. Slow caps for the cheater.

@alladreamwedreamed 3 месяца назад

I love it when toxic, selfish, fragile narcissists call in and expose themselves. Thank you for taking their calls 😂

@snowwhite2709 11 месяцев назад

Why would she trust a guy ever again who cheated, and now put divorce on the table? She should walk away.

@Tionaintown876 11 месяцев назад

They both should. Not just her

@LoveLetters1076 11 месяцев назад

totally agree, he is an ASS

@citrustaco 11 месяцев назад

He should walk away. He's putting in so much effort to repair it and it's just not worth the time. It's trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Just throw the towel and be happy elsewhere. There was a reason he cheated in the first place. It's OK if it's not working out.

@EadsB7002 10 месяцев назад

The BS people still tolerate in their marriages nowadays is absolutely astounding to me! No wonder there are so many unhappy people and screwed up families (messed up kids) everywhere. 🤦🏼‍♀️ sometimes it really is most healthy/best to cut your losses and just move on!

@GhostruckerX 10 месяцев назад

Vise versa

@chrissyellem7397 11 месяцев назад

It's been 21 years since my ex-husband cheated on me with the teacher next door. We got divorced. It ruined my dating life for 15 years. I couldn't trust anyone. There is always collateral damage with selfish people.

@sarahalderman3126 11 месяцев назад

Found out my husband’s cheating the week of our 22nd anniversary… it’s definitely thrown my life in the meat grinder. Selfishness and self centeredness seem to be two things that every man possesses.

@lademoiselleketoret6958 11 месяцев назад

The trust thing is REAL. 😭😭😭🙏🏽

@frankcorrea8691 10 месяцев назад

@@sarahalderman3126 hey dude girl ,one day the ex husband will be so alone because of his evil doings and hurting innocent people old and shriveled in an old folks home with several marriages under his belt, karma is out to get you!

@mrshappywife8468 10 месяцев назад

@@sarahalderman3126 not every man, just the weak ones.

@lynette599 8 месяцев назад

@@sarahalderman3126 Women are not far behind.

@susangloag4401 Месяц назад

This one hurts me to my core. I was cheated on & for me there was no going back. I divorced him. This one makes me cry because I know how she feels as the wife. She can't forgive you because she can't forget what you did. You touch another woman & that's absolutely disgusting to her. You broke your vow, you broke her in two. This one's opening up old wounds. Yes I forgave him but I've never forgotten!

@maylynbayani 2 месяца назад

Boohoo he's so sad that he is facing the consequences of his actions.

@KENTUCKYUSA1 11 месяцев назад

It took 5 minutes for Dr John to say that Scott is tired. It took me less time to be tired of Scott.

@terrywade3696 4 месяца назад

😂🤣😂 I completely agree! I’m not buying his sob story for 1 minute! But I loved your comment!

@kimberlyfloyd1009 3 месяца назад

haahahha yesssss

@kate3519 3 месяца назад

Best comment 🏆

@TheSwordandPearl 3 месяца назад

😂

@smmds 3 месяца назад

Hehehe

@MoonFoxSassy 11 месяцев назад

Is anyone else *extremely* creeped out by the way he said "She's not going to be there when I need her... and I carry that with me"? 🤮This guy is sick.

@GhostruckerX 10 месяцев назад

So are you keep cheating on your husband. If you have one.

@MammaBear-xp7ur 4 месяца назад

@@GhostruckerXwhy are you being offensive to someone else expressing a perfectly valid opinion?

@Sarah-dq1fm 4 месяца назад

@MammaBear-xp7ur Because he’s also a cheater and his wife is divorcing him. Hits too close to home.

@libertyna933 4 месяца назад

It's almost like he is taking the words of the wife and turning it back on her. This guy scares me a bit because there is something VERY manipulative about him.

@rengurenge 4 месяца назад

He is keeping her for utility reasons, if she will get seriously ill or for other reasons become no use to him or if he finds better "deal" then he will dump her in light of speed because he does not love her at all. It's all about him, his needs and wants.

@TheHyperfixationStation 3 месяца назад

Stuck in a dark room? I'm telling you that is EXACTLY how she has felt.... welcome to her world

@christiestarr6941 Месяц назад

She probably shared that analogy with him and he adopted it as his own.

@ophiecat 6 месяцев назад

If she cannot “get over it”, it is because she does not feel heard or understood.

@snakeypuffs6154 11 месяцев назад

“It was not a personal failure on my part.” That just confirms it was most definitely a personal failure on his part. 😂

@kendradamm1428 5 месяцев назад

💯 💯 💯 💯 💯 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

@thevisibleclear 4 месяца назад

He thinks he can do no wrong

@bebop2523 3 месяца назад

100%. He was being so vague about the situation, how did he simultaneously cross the line but also it wasn’t a personal failure? I bet he did something wrong and his wife found out and he was trying to throw a pity party and point fingers and make excuses and she didn’t believe him, hence the blank stare. And he has victimized himself so much that somehow he has twisted the situation, so her blank stare is more hurtful than the actual actions he took to cause the situation in the first place

@Nesrook 3 месяца назад

For real. When he said he “needed his words to matter and be heard”… yeah I’m sure he was really saying meaningful things that really needed to be shared with his affair partner. This dude is a loser lol

@Brenaenae 11 месяцев назад

This guy totally avoids accountability. Girl, run!

@unknowncomment85 11 месяцев назад

i think he is pretty accountable compared to most women.. i have heard woman who cheated on their husband giggle on this show.. so there is that..

@binnie2150 4 месяца назад

@unknowncomment85, you turned this into a gendered thing instead of demonizing deplorable acts these people commit. What about the man who was giggling when talking about abusing his ex-wife. These people know their actions are bad, so they using laughter to cope for their moral failings. Let those red pill video rest. Men aren't any more innocent than women.

@romans52345-cy3tq 3 месяца назад

@@binnie2150They are much more honest and sincere

@sameerajafri747 2 месяца назад

@@unknowncomment85this guy giggled when John asked him what the affair gave to him.

@unknowncomment85 2 месяца назад

@@binnie2150 fyi, women cheat more than men.. go read the stats

@lanapugh 3 месяца назад

I told my husband there were two reason the marriage would end immediately before he married me. You cheat, I’m gone. You hit me, I’m gone. We can work our way through anything else, but those two would be an immediate call to a lawyer. We’ve been married almost 18 years. I have no use for this dude. He’s a fucking child. He’s so worried about him and all he can do is blame her for his actions. She didn’t do anything WRONG. YOU DID. Man up, grow up, and let this lady go. She deserves to be unshackled to you.

@righand 6 месяцев назад

As a man, this guy disgusts me. How could you commit this type of treason against someone you love?

@BryceGarling 11 месяцев назад

Women never forget pain. This relationship is tainted forever.

@chrissyellem7397 11 месяцев назад

You are right. I'm still angry with my ex from 40 years ago.

@agricolaregs 11 месяцев назад

My parents divorced about 8 years ago. And my dad died this year. In hospice he was talking about good times with my mom. He never wanted a divorce. All my mom could do while I’m crying on the phone with her while he’s got days to live is tell me his mistakes

@mozerm 11 месяцев назад

@@agricolaregs something so few people seem to understand is that truly forgiving someone isn't saying what they did to you was OK but rather it's to free you from anger, bitterness, and resentment. Your mom could benefit from that message. Remember, hate corrodes the vessel in which it is carried...

@ivywildwss 8 месяцев назад

Was your dad unfaithful to your mom? @@agricolaregs

@blueseptember2174 7 месяцев назад

@@agricolaregshurt lasts a lifetime. She just couldn't grow past whatever it was. ❤ Hugs.

@Mkay999 11 месяцев назад

Him: “years before the affair I didn’t protect my family like I should have. I confessed this to her.” Wife: gives a *blank stare* Him: I will never forgive you for this and know you will never be here for me. Oh cut me a break with this narcissist.

@Mkay999 11 месяцев назад

Completely. The woman just listened and he hasn’t been able to move past that for 10 years. Ugh this guy is many women’s nightmare

@Deroliebe 11 месяцев назад

He sounds like my mother. He reads too much into things, creates a story in his head and runs with it.

@TheShortykorte 11 месяцев назад

He kinda glossed over that "didn't protect his family like he was supposed to" part. I bet there's A LOT more to that story that he didn't want to share. He will find a way to make himself the victim of every story he tells

@MattCasters 11 месяцев назад

Yeah, this perspective feels closer to the truth. Their marriage was over before he cheated when you take BS like that into account. He just didn't have the balls to end it then and decided to go and have an affair.

@gabrielamartiniuc6322 11 месяцев назад

“ What I need “ 🤢🤢🤢🤢 I need her to … blah blah .You don’t get to ask for anything. Typical narcissist.

@KristinaLopezWrites 5 месяцев назад

That guy is oblivious and narcissistic as hell! So YOU hold a grudge for a look for ten years but you CHEAT and she has to get over it fit?!🤦🏾‍♀️ Then, you KNOW your wife doesn’t feel safe with you but you haven’t even tried to reinforce that safety after breaking her heart into pieces and dangle divorce over her?! You are the absolute jerk here. There are two sides to every story but this guy is clearly entitled as hell to what he thinks she should do vs worrying about how to be a better human/man/husband. 🤡

@christiestarr6941 Месяц назад

There are two sides to every story… BUT we have heard his side and we are on her side, can you imagine if we heard her side too?

@MDcinematic 5 месяцев назад

You mean cheating ruined her trust and desire to be vulnerable around you???!!! No way!

@aladdout9454 11 месяцев назад

This girl is an icon tbh lol. She's making him feel worthless without uttering a word. "she gave me a look and i feel bad waeeeeeee😭😭😭😭. All I did was ruin her life???"

@Obsidian_9 4 месяца назад

goofball that happened before he cheated, he literally explained that situation was one of the reason he even began to look outside his relationship.

@aladdout9454 4 месяца назад

@@Obsidian_9 WAEMBULANCE🚑🚑🚑🚑

@bebop2523 3 месяца назад

@@Obsidian_9 he actually didn’t explain the situation at all. He was extremely vague. Something about him crossing a boundary, not protecting his family, but he also says that it wasn’t his fault. Why won’t he just say what actually happened? It sounds like he did do something wrong and it was his fault and whatever he did was way worse than his wife giving him a blank stare. It is absolutely insane that he says he cannot get over her making a certain facial expression 10 years ago, but he expects her to get over him cheating on her three years ago. He acts like her making a certain facial expression is worse than him committing adultery

@justforshow629 3 месяца назад

I don't think he feels worthless at all. I think he just wants all of us to think he's hurt. It justifies his past behavior and whatever he decides to do next.

@catcat9582 2 месяца назад

I love this take.

@omowhanre 11 месяцев назад

If she was the one who cheated, would we even be having this conversation? Let’s all ponder that together…🤔

@lademoiselleketoret6958 11 месяцев назад

He would have dropped her like an old rag.

@laquamartin4602 5 месяцев назад

@@lademoiselleketoret6958Absolutely

@dogelincoln7167 4 месяца назад

Sounds like a rotten tomatoes review

@stayfocused6389 2 месяца назад

He’s upset about her response to his feelings for 8 years. But he expects her to get over him cheating in less than 3 years. While in the meantime, he’s talking about divorce. Amazing that he’s the victim. OMG, I would be mad and out the door.

@auemmjee 6 месяцев назад

Hmmm 🤔 "I failed to protect my family," but "SHE'S not gonna be here when I need her."

@ladysparkle6784 11 месяцев назад

Her heart isn’t safe with this idiot. She probably regrets taking him back. He’s probably a bully and when his girlfriend dumped him he had nowhere else to go so begged his wife to come home and she took him back out of sympathy.

@agricolaregs 11 месяцев назад

Sounds like his wasn’t safe either. They should just end it.

@ladysparkle6784 11 месяцев назад

@@agricolaregs I agree. No sense going through life hurting each other.

@probablynot1368 11 месяцев назад

He said that he chose to end the affair, so it doesn’t sound like his girlfriend dumped him.

@RandomName-my2uo 5 месяцев назад

@@probablynot1368if we're assuming he's being honest, sure. Plenty of reasons to lie in this situation, including the glaringly obvious if you tell your wife your side chick ended it and you wanted to keep it going, she would be the most naive person ever born to invite you back.

@mattier.9095 4 месяца назад

@@probablynot1368cheaters often lie and say this - he was dumped by his new chick, and went crying back to his wife and he lies about it… bc he’s selfish and needy with little self control.

@gabbyyyyy5452 11 месяцев назад

Maybe she doesn’t feel like putting in the effort to fix what you broke

@thelimey351 5 месяцев назад

Yup, divorce time.

@jakitaprice9633 5 месяцев назад

OMG THIS RIGHT HERE!

@alladreamwedreamed 3 месяца назад

Exactly. What's in it for her?

@madihaq2252 5 месяцев назад

Gotta love it when cheaters say "I'm committed to my/our marriage" particulalry *AFTER CHEATING* ......

@MarsMellow84 2 месяца назад

She doesn't have to forgive him, ever. She should dump him immediately.

@ritawallace-reed7500 3 дня назад

I agree 100%. The pain never goes away.

@limiwa 11 месяцев назад

This is exactly why I've told my husband if he ever cheated on me I'm out. I'm not going to try to work on it because I know myself, I will most likely never 100% be able to move past it and it will make us both miserable. The burden of, "Hurry up and heal so we can be happy again" is not for me. Nope, it's over.

@lademoiselleketoret6958 11 месяцев назад

This. I’m the same way. Not all women are the same, so… they need to know her personality. He violated her trust so he lost the key to her heart. That’s just wisdom. When you know a thief, you don’t ask them to hold ya wallet.

@mistermanman 11 месяцев назад

Same here. I told my husband that if he REALLY feels the need to cheat that I can't stop him, but he needs to fully understand what will happen if he does and if he would think it's still worth it to cheat.

@cyna866 11 месяцев назад

You said a word! 🙌🏽

@moniqrupley6019 10 месяцев назад

Yes. Absolutely. Cheat on me we are done.

@seadragon1456 9 месяцев назад

I wouldn’t stay either. I’ve let that man love me in many different ways. I’ve opened my body and soul to him. We’ve had babies together. There’s no way I’d be able to look at him. I’d be destroyed from that damage.

@megd5498 11 месяцев назад

It's so strange to me that he never mentions why he wants to be with her. Not once. Just lists what she's not doing for him and how hard he's working. It's also interesting that he's upset she's telling "random" people about his cheating, but he's doing the exact same thing to everyone watching this.

@texuztweety 6 месяцев назад

You make excellent observations!! Yes I agree

@auemmjee 6 месяцев назад

Something probably went sideways with the side chick

@crazymusicgrlcheesecake 5 месяцев назад

He says everything good about the cheating though.

@brightpage1020 4 месяца назад

💯 I love 💕 you for this comment! 🥰 🍿

@aprilchow-chee5281 4 месяца назад

@crazymusicgrlcheesecake he would stay with the affair partner but I'm guess she dumped him

@amykay2781 2 месяца назад

"Have you forgiven you" "yea I have". He never felt bad.

@judithmiller7308 5 месяцев назад

He cheated. He forgave himself,,,he gives himself a free pass and he wants what he wants and he wants it in HIS timing. Tough.

@Dansyoung 11 месяцев назад

You already threw in the towel when you had an affair 🤷‍♂️

@RG-hf4et 5 месяцев назад

Amen!!!

@Blah951 4 месяца назад

Dude, you’re smart. Seriously, summed up in one sentence what we are all trying to explain. 👍

@biancacaputo7174 8 дней назад

and moved out! This guy has some nerve

@sugarmagnolia33 11 месяцев назад

This guy is a living, breathing red flag. I hope his wife gets the strength to leave him - he has no empathy for her.

@RoxiieSays 5 месяцев назад

lol he wants praise for going to therapy, has the audacity to bring up divorce and has the nerve to be frustrated with her when he’s the one who cheated. I hope she’s secretly preparing for divorce. I’m sure he’ll be “blindsided” 🙄

@hillarybillary21 4 месяца назад

I don’t know why, but I laughed out loud when John asked “have you forgiven you” and he said “well yes I have”. Lol Aw whatta strong man…

@reewritten7 10 месяцев назад

Telling someone to get over being cheated on is like telling someone to stop grieving the death of a loved one. There’s no going back to the same love after infidelity has made its way into a relationship.

@Jackie-sn1km 3 месяца назад

Well said

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 месяца назад

No, it’s absolutely never the same.

@larissaalcorn3406 11 месяцев назад

No one should be surprised when they use divorce as a threat in arguments and then their spouse becomes indifferent. She's protecting herself by shutting down. She thinks that you're going to run off with someone else every time life gets hard. That's the behavior pattern you have set. That's the behavior pattern you need to break. If you don't want a divorce, then stop threatening her.

@brennanleyen 11 месяцев назад

Yes. My “husband” did this same thing. Cheated for months and then kept threatening divorce for 3 years. Now we are getting divorced. I never cheated and I gave my all. The root of it- selfishness.

@heartsmyfaceforever8140 11 месяцев назад

He’s impulsive. He left her to get something he wanted in the moment. He threatens divorce in the moment too. He’s not good to be married to.

@sarahalderman3126 11 месяцев назад

@@brennanleyenclassic man… I’m sorry. My cheated for years with my best friend and sister. I found out the week before our 22nd anniversary, a year after he “ended it”. I just don’t believe men are truly capable of the love or commitment needed for marriage. They just haven’t evolved enough apparently.

@lademoiselleketoret6958 11 месяцев назад

@@sarahalderman3126 what a horror. I’m so sorry 😭😭😭🙏🏽

@user-if4ke6en9r 11 месяцев назад

@@sarahalderman3126sorry for your situation, but it’s not helpful for anyone to blame all men because of anecdotal experiences.

@tjturner3916 5 месяцев назад

So you cheated, told her to get over it, and she's refusing to just accept that she's not worth fidelity? Great job. "Be vulnerable with me after I publicly humiliated and betrayed you with someone I valued more than you."

@onetry7406 5 месяцев назад

What?! Please tell me you were not implying that the spouse who was cheated on should keep it a secret!!!

@us5freaak 11 месяцев назад

He’s just having a pity party like oh no I cheated now I feel sorry for myself

@DevHazy 10 месяцев назад

Absolutely. Cheating is a symptom of our deep insecurities. We have to truly own up to it and get therapy in order to change

@bebop2523 3 месяца назад

Exactly. He’s acting like his wife making a certain facial expression one time a decade ago is worse than him cheating on her. He says he can never get over her giving him a blank stare that one time 10 years ago and he even did the crocodile tears when he said it, yet he expects her to hurry up and get over his affair?

@ShalomDove 2 месяца назад

I once had a friend who did something like this… cheated on her husband, then got her girls on a group call to cry about how she was really the victim… ummm, no, girl. You are in no way the injured party here 🙄

@Nah-ah 11 месяцев назад

I’ll tell you now, Scott… your wife hasn’t forgiven you. And she never will. She’s checked out! She’s done.

@mistermanman 11 месяцев назад

That's why he needs to make the decision to leave. He's waiting for her to pull the trigger because he doesn't want to be seen as the bad guy yet again.

@jonathanmitchell5171 10 месяцев назад

Agreed, the marriage is over and was over before the affair. Reconciliation is no joke and most of the work is on the betrayed spouse.

@kdphotos4691 5 месяцев назад

@@mistermanman - That's exactly right. Then he can claim "my wife divorced me" and continue to play victim.

@mistermanman 5 месяцев назад

@@kdphotos4691 It's a tale as old as time. They neglect their wife's needs for years, she finally leaves, and he's "blindsided".

@vegasrenie 4 месяца назад

and when a woman is done...

@deborahrich2666 5 месяцев назад

It’s all about him! That poor woman. He doesn’t get the pain he caused!

@LOADING...o.o.o 4 месяца назад

He sounds like my military ex. He just wants to pretend like he is a good guy, but inside is rotten.

@laurenvr77 21 день назад

I can relate to this comment.

@elettramia6380 8 дней назад

@@laurenvr77😅 me too, unfortunately 😒

@biancacaputo7174 8 дней назад

I think most men are like this. The pretense is often more important than the actual act of being a good person

@ritawallace-reed7500 3 дня назад

They have a hundred different faces!!

@Hephbeu 11 месяцев назад

This is all so tiring. He needs his mother not his wife. He’s draining & self-absorbed. He holds on to grudges for years, a mere look or a non-response but expects forgiveness and understanding for the ultimate betrayal in a marriage and then is audacious enough to dangle divorce🙄. Sir please go! Pack your entire bags and leave! Let this woman be free to leave in peace that I’m sure you’ve robbed her of for years!!

@pattydella4 3 месяца назад

Yep!!!

@MichaelJones-rn2pq 11 месяцев назад

"I told my wife that I was committed to us." She heard that before and it wasn't true, was it? It's going to be a lot harder (if not impossible) sell this time, Bud.

@missfranniepants 5 месяцев назад

I have no sympathy for this dude. He FAFO.

@omiyinkaogunsegun5012 3 месяца назад

It takes 10 seconds to lose someone's trust and 10 years to regain it. Men think that a woman is supposed to forgive them right away and take them back into their bosom and bed after they have cheated. It does not work that way. This guy has to go along with her timeline for forgiveness. If the shoe was on the other foot, he would have dumped his wife immediately.

@karynnotkaren693 11 месяцев назад

I am so surprised by this response. Usually John pays better attendion and catches the inconsistencies but he is just taking this guys side and not challenging him on why the wife doesn't feel safe. The guy even said when she does share he reacts and makes it all about himself. He keeps putting divorce on the table not her. I wonder how much he has changed. Who says they are so impressed by their own changes??? Narcissists

@Veracityseeker7 2 месяца назад

I hear you; but he's trying to get him to open up. He won't, if he feels force

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 месяца назад

The guy keeps putting it on the wife.. yeah, if you did something you knowingly put your family in jeopardy, she’s gonna b upset for awhile. He seems like a narcissist that has to have his ego constantly stroked and the attention all on himself. That’s an exhausting position for any spouse to be in. Constantly having everything revolve around the other person. No one can fill that gap… except Jesus.

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 месяца назад

And I’m sure the wife would have a whole different story to tell.. you know it.

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 месяца назад

( seems most marriages are entered into by 2 broken people that try to make one whole. Gotta look deep inside ourselves first and figure out where those broken places need to be me see before we can both come together, or separate to b healthy for the rest of life..

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 месяца назад

Healed

@annieganim1057 11 месяцев назад

This makes my blood curdle. I feel horrible for this women. She doesn’t feel safe because she’s not. He holds his wife’s feet to the fire for a LOOK she made TEN years ago. Yet calls a public radio show sobbing that his wife is still hurt about the affair he had TWO years ago. If she didn’t feel disposable enough, he threw divorce in the mix. A subtle reminder of his superiority and her disposability, and that he has the upper hand. He hit the nail on the head- EGO. An ego so fragile that he’ll continue to identify as the victim, while demanding more. Just so long as no blame is directed his way. Meanwhile, his wife’s feelings are silenced while she’s busy trying to jump through hoops to validate this child of a man. Sir, your therapist mostly listens because he or she knows you’re a full blown covert narcissist. It’s more obvious than a giant neon sign. Your wife has nothing to hold on to, because you’ve never held on to her, only yourself. If you have any humanity, the best thing you can do for her is let her go and find a new source of prey to feed your insatiable ego. She has a long rode ahead of healing from the damage you’ve caused. It’s so painful for a person broken down to admit they’re as disposable as they’ve been made to feel. It’ll take her a while to gain the strength to walk away. Do her a favor. Better now than later.

@stefaniamalatesta8076 11 месяцев назад

This call made me so mad. He isn't a victim.

@mistermanman 11 месяцев назад

Beautiful comment. This man is a weak baby.

@ellamarie9709 10 месяцев назад

Well said. She’s exhausted from having to deal with his fragile ego all of these years and now she’s dealing with his unfaithfulness. He sees himself as a victim. He’s not a victim. I hope he’s reading these comments and understand he’s a huge part of the problem before it’s too late.

@towpottsfam7631 10 месяцев назад

Totally agree with you I said the same. Covert narcissist ...its disgusting how he treats her. Though he doesn't perhaps know. He really can't cope with an adult relationship. There us no room for anyone but him in his life. He's wsi awful. John gave him way too easy a time and was drawn into colluding and enabling

@chandimagunaratne8220 5 месяцев назад

Like a broken vase, u can not put it back together and there's always be cracks

@Svillatoro 5 месяцев назад

All I hear is how he is the victim in everything and he deserves so much praise for doing the bare minimum after HE ruined his own family.

@BradKandyCroftFamily 11 месяцев назад

He hurt her in the deepest way possible and now he's made her needing sufficient time for forgiveness all about him and his feelings. I wonder why she's so "indifferent"?

@agricolaregs 11 месяцев назад

She was indifferent and dismissive before the affair…hence the affair.

@mikaelzurich6166 11 месяцев назад

@@agricolaregs that's what he told. Classic excuses from the cheater.

@katemiller7874 11 месяцев назад

Ya but she shouldn’t be throwing it up in his face every argument that doesn’t help or telling random people.

@deztellez2571 11 месяцев назад

@@agricolaregscommunication is the most important thing in any relationship. He should have talk to her, go to therapy, try to work it out. Then divorce if they refuse to change.. not cheat and hurt your SO and give them trust issues. Never an excuse to do that..

@Alayne89 11 месяцев назад

@@agricolaregs The dude even stated that he makes everything about him. Even when she needs to talk about something worrying her, it becomes about him. I'm not surprised she is indifferent; she's not allowed to have emotions around him, unless when they center and celebrate him.

@Alissandre_Iskander 11 месяцев назад

Glad that he's acknowledging where he messed up... but his audacity is showing. He caused a lot of pain and damage here. He deeply hurt someone he claimed to love. She heals on *her* timetable, not yours.

@BradKandyCroftFamily 11 месяцев назад

You notice how he never really dove into what she needs?

@calibaby3442 11 месяцев назад

Why is the host on his side justifying his sorrys. She needs to heal this man can't rush it he screwed up if it takes forever to prove his love for her so be it! He is a jerk!

@SpeedfreakUK 11 месяцев назад

@@calibaby3442yeah he should take the side of someone whose story he hasn’t heard and who isn’t on the call 🙄

@calibaby3442 11 месяцев назад

@SpeedfreakUK sorry , to me, it's giving victim vibes. He seems to be entitled as far as wanting her to just get over all the things he has put her through. It's selfish to think she should be over it after 2 years. I'm all for forgiveness, but I'm sure it's hard to forget. It's just very odd to me.

@CyeOutsider 11 месяцев назад

But at the time time, she committed to trying again, then has not held up her side of that. She's just put him in a position where he can't do anything right. Committ or don't. It's up to her.

@JNGL-bw8ux 4 месяца назад

They never ask “what can I do to fix this?”

@brendaleverick3655 5 месяцев назад

He ended his marriage when he stepped out on his wife. His wife now needs to find the strength to end it on her end. When she releases it and lets him go, then she can look forward to the future.

@elyse443 11 месяцев назад

If he wanted such a close, intimate, connect marriage then he shouldn’t have cheated. Then when it didn’t work out with the other person he came back to her and now is over the crappy environment he created? What a catch!

@agricolaregs 11 месяцев назад

He tried to communicate with her and she disregarded his feelings. And pretty much said, that’s just my personality to not care about you. Deal with it.

@elyse443 11 месяцев назад

@@SarahConnor562 emotional toddler is right. And drain.

@ireneswackyjournals8810 10 месяцев назад

@@agricolaregswell he’s also hypocritical. This is a guy that claims she talks about him cheating which is close to todays date but then brings something up from 10 years ago against her. And he claims he wants constructive criticism but then claims he takes things personally. You can’t have it both ways. And we are only hearing his side of the story. There’s no excuse by the way for him cheating. Unless she approved it it’s no bueno. He does seem to want a lot of attention and reads like a narcissist

@wendyeskelin8765 11 месяцев назад

So let me get this straight. HE'S hurting because of a look she gave him 10 years ago and her seeming indifferent, when HE was in a bad place at that time, but now she's supposed to be over HIM crushing her soul after three years. And not just one soul crush but by the sounds of it over and over.. If he can't get over a small infraction why does he expect her to? Whatever therapist he's seeing he probably needs a new one, one that will hold his feet to the fire and give him a wake up call that he's being totally selfish. What he did is 100000x worse than "indifference"

@deborahjean5474 11 месяцев назад

Yes!!!

@arra6361 11 месяцев назад

I was taken a back by Dr Johns empathy for this guy he sounds like a terrible husband 😕

@deekayvixen 11 месяцев назад

She gave him a blank look and he cheated. They’re even now 🤷‍♀️

@Joyjoyjoy4 10 месяцев назад

Yeah I undertake him taking an empathetic approach, but the fact that he didn’t point that out was shocking to me! All of this because of a blank look? Ridiculous

@austinlarange6328 10 месяцев назад

@@arra6361i think its because Dr John just wants to help the caller. If he was helping the Woman, he wouldve been much harsher on the guys actions I think

@KristinA-xv4yk 5 месяцев назад

It’s annoying when ppl play the victim about their secrets being aired. Oh, you’re mad she’s telling ppl about your choices? Lol, if you don’t defend your reputation via actions, why should she???

@Nousername0 4 месяца назад

Guy is either super remorseful and is genuinely trying to fix things or he’s a really good manipulator lol I’m getting both of those vibes from him

@mikaelzurich6166 11 месяцев назад

How the hell is she gonna feel safe if he puts divorce on the table? She knows he is one foot out from the marriage. Why the hell did he come back if divorce is on the table?

@brendamoon2660 11 месяцев назад

He needed a place to stay between affairs

@kdphotos4691 5 месяцев назад

@@brendamoon2660 - Yes, good point.

@WorldOnAString 11 месяцев назад

Narcissistic. Personality. Disorder.

@WorldOnAString 11 месяцев назад

@@wordsalad01 Agreed. He's definitely getting his rocks off on a national talk show talking about himself, playing the victim and painting his partner as unreasonable. Heaven help that poor woman.

@grilledcheeseandsoup1652 2 месяца назад

So something bad happen ten years ago where he failed to protect her and their family. He cried to her about how he needed her to comfort him over this. She was blankly staring at him because he wasn't worried about her and wanted her to comfort him about it. So he cheats on her. Now he needs her to comfort him again about how he did a bad thing. And she is refusing to do so, so she is the bad one and he is the victim. Narcissist behavior!

@RG-hf4et 5 месяцев назад

She is never going to let it go bc she can't. Someone cheated on me & it was the most excruciating, painful thing I ever went through. I couldn't even drive a few blocks away from this persons house without breaking down & hysterically crying. I tried to reconcile, but all I could see was the 2 of them having sex 24/7. I was going crazy. I had to walk away & let the relationship go. I couldn't trust him & I was physically & mentally drained. Very few couples can survive an affair.