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I got cheated on: dealing with infidelity in our marriage (story time) - NAMIBIAN YOUTUBER lempies

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Ciao Guys,
Infidelity in a marriage should I stay or go??
Relationship worst nightmare, cheating. The number one deal-breaker for 99% of the couple!
Or not? he has cheated on me ? Should I forgive him or not?
Would you forgive your husband if he cheats on you? if yes in which circumstances?
Today we talk about our personal experience on this hot topic. infidelity is indeed a trauma that almost no married couple can overcome.
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@Lempies 4 года назад

Would you forgive your husband if he cheats on you? if yes in which circumstances?

@thembikhumalo7695 4 года назад

Lempies Once a cheater always a cheater. You can forgive somebody, but you can never forget. The trust is broken. The relationship will never be the same again.

@malnommalual8758 4 года назад

If you really love him/he then you can forgive

@IamBrendaMarie 4 года назад

Yes! I would divorced him and then forgive him.

@andowilbard1950 4 года назад

Once tht seed of doubt is planted, it leaves roots difficult to uproot

@mamageorge8289 4 года назад

Never, and I would also not forgive myself. I would not want to be forgiven...it is like killing a person!

@ambyburum2666 3 года назад

I had a cheating husband. My self esteem was in the gutter. I stayed for 7 years. Never again. Like Ale said the loss of trust the awful feelings..jealousy...nope, never again

@Lempies 3 года назад

You made tge right decision. Because staying never helps in this regard (speaking from experience)

@arlenejohn4373 4 года назад

The both of you are a lovely couple i pray that cheating will never be in your marriage.

@Lempies 4 года назад

Amen 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

@pinokyochannel2033 4 года назад

It's a big NO💔💔 damage has been done.. One is enough for a wise man, move on and be happy.

@Lempies 4 года назад

Dont you think your partner deserve a second chance 🤔

@md8465 4 года назад

I would probably leave. By saying this, is because I am able to support myself financially. I dread STD's, that would be horrible and just for that reason I would say Adios!!! It is a different situation for each and everyone of us. Therefore, whatever you wish to do, go ahead. Take everything into consideration and make a decision.

@glgartman 4 года назад

In my marriage, an extramarital affair by my husband would not have been the worst thing that could have happened. There are so many other ways to experience disappointment or lose trust in a relationship.

@paulaburgess9157 4 года назад

Forgive only if the root reason for the cheating has been addressed and resolved.

@zambianvlogswithquemwamba4127 4 года назад

Getting even isn't a good option.

@sallysmith7664 4 года назад

Sometimes Ale seems a little uncomfortable about sharing your personal lives, not this video though! It’s amazing that you guys can be so open with each other. It seems like everyone’s been cheated on at least once and it’s a part of growing in life. There’s many levels to it too. My first bf cheated with my sister and I found out years later. It taught me a lot. I agree with ‘there’s no one night stand’. People always say it was just a kiss one time. I think it can happen since I’m in my twenties and everyone is ‘thirsty’. Most of the time there’s definitely emotional cheating first.

@gigiajavon122 4 года назад

That’s a deal breaker for me 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Hertha_Imene9845 4 года назад

Me too so sad

@manenenangombe9206 4 года назад

a well educated topic and helpful. I believe once a door closed another one opened. Be in a relationship with a cheater it will reach to unhealthy relationship.

@thedaeverett3094 4 года назад

Cheating is putting yourself in a situation where you could become emotionally attached to another person. Or it can be just loving someone dearly you want to be intimate with whether or not you do.

@antheavigar1766 4 года назад

Hey there!😊🙌 Fellow Namibian here🇳🇦. In my honest opinion cheating will not happen if both partner's have that soul connection. I have been cheated on 8 times by the same man, and as dumb as I was I kept forgiving him...to the point that it was emotionally and mentally starting to affect me and I started losing my identity as a strong independent woman. Thank goodness I woke TF up and ended it. Always trust your GUT feeling...if something doesn't feel right...it usually isn't. 100% honesty and open communication is key to any great relationship. Anyway. You guys rock. #proudlynamibian 🇳🇦

@Lempies 4 года назад

I feel your pain I also been cheated on by my previous partner and it's definitely a bad experience but it helped me understand that love is not only feelings but rather intention and perseverance from two people that decide together to share a common path in their lives.

@antheavigar1766 4 года назад

@@Lempies absolutely! I now have a wonderful man by my side. I had to experience all the bad, to appreciate the good. 🌸

@robynabadie5861 4 года назад

I've been through it my husband of 17 years cheated most of those years I thought because I was a strong Christian woman I would just keep forgiving then one day God spoke to my heart and told me to get out it was just destroying and he didn't stop and he wouldn't go to it's up to you if you can forgive and go to I believe in but it takes two people.

@bobbiwilliam6811 4 года назад

TRUST is like a crystal glass that once it's broken its hard put the pieces back together and when you try to fix them, you might get puncture and get hurt. The crystal glass would never be the same no matter what, that is why it's important to apply wisdom when dealing with our partners and i believe smartness is essential in any relationship. I got help from (Cybertech-tracker) as he helped cloned my cheating husband’s phone and I got access to all his phone Text messages, Imessages, Facebook, Instagram, Whats-app, Skype, Kik, Twitter, Snap-chat, Email and social media chats without touching his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist but I'm glad to uncover his deceits, secrets and Infidelity. All I did was share his phone number with (cybertech-tracker) and i was able to read his recent and deleted messages from my phone without laying my hands on his phone and he has no idea his phone has been cloned. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Australia and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in the UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned . He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this great hacker via Gmail (cybertechtracker) or text and speak to him directly on his phone and Whats-app : +1 (202) 697-7171. Thank me, later...

@robynabadie5861 4 года назад

@@bobbiwilliam6811 Thank you so much for the information.

@careycollins729 4 года назад

Yes you forgive just like you would want to be forgiven. But don’t forget!!

@Lempies 4 года назад

In my case I would never forget. But that's biggest problem.

@sheraicampbell9543 3 года назад

I can't get enough of you guys!!!! Lempies energy is everything!!! lol

@nicoleebony3625 4 года назад

Hmm this was very interesting. I've been there and the trust was lost, because of the lies and deceit. I no longer wanted to be with someone who had no respect for me. I don't believe in staying in such a relationship because of children, that's dysfunctional and would only hurt them in the long run. Blessings to you both.

@beverlyhosein2830 4 года назад

Cheating breaks trust, it’s most likely over, the intimacy changes. Now 3 people in Your bedroom, so to speak. Cheating is a deal breaker. But if someone want to try and work it out, they should try to.

@selmandeyanayih 4 года назад

I agree with Ale, tit for tat is childish. Either you forgive completely or leave. Usually as a person you know your limits, what you can and what you can’t forgive. Personally I find that I have difficulty forgiving a betrayal of my trust. At the end of the day it wouldn’t even matter whether I love you or not, once the trust is broken the relationship is next. I totally agree with the “disinfecting” if it were possible.😀

@allen8iluminada 3 года назад

Marriage is a COVENANT, an AGREEMENT to BE FAITHFUL. Once one of the spouse CHEATS, the COVENANT IS BROKEN, the TRUST is gone! The only outcome is DIVORCE... unfortunally that is the only way, even when you forgive the cheater. It is a very serious and SAD thing. 😪😥

@bettysally237 4 года назад

There should not be no cheating in no marriage that's a very serious step to take to ask some one to marry you I feel like you better be dam sure if this person u what's to spend your life with

@Lempies 4 года назад

I think that is whag everyone wants in a marriage but people change 🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

@smilesallround 4 года назад

This was a good discussion! I just subscribed to your channel, I love both of your accents 💓

@dr.emilyacevedo812 4 года назад

I agree with Ale I wouldn’t cheat because they did

@lovelykuvare3618 4 года назад

Two wrongs don't make it right. No matter how in love I am, I will leave✌

@Lempies 4 года назад

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@damaq2889 4 года назад

Hey guys! It’s been proven that men who are happily married have cheated because the opportunity presented itself! They thought they could get away with it! Good, decent men! Woman are more into an emotional relationship that includes sex but neither is willing to breakup the marriage! Temptation is the evil that comes between relationships! It’s about self respect! If you respect and love yourself, you can honor your marriage. If you married a person who cheated in past relationships, then he/she will cheat in this one! Treat someone the way you want to be treated🙌🏽

@bobbiwilliam6811 4 года назад

@bellateriini9506 2 года назад

Infidelity in marriage is very very very toxic indeed.

@rachelnghifewa5908 4 года назад

If you have evidence that your husband cheated on you, then I think you have all the right to doubt him. But if you are just assuming, girl you really need to work on yourself because that really hurt man inside. you are one of my favorite RU-vid couples though😍

@sheyaitewa5778 4 года назад

Even if moving on means you'll be alone. A word 😍👏

@monicahansle2266 4 года назад

If there's a relationship breakdown and ur guilty of the reasons why ur partner cheat., then I'd definitely be willing to forgive., ,but if ur married to a cheater, that's definitely the cheater's personality, best to move on (lepers cannot change it's spot). U obviously married a good man lempies, try not to allow jealous thoughts to sneek in and ruin what u have. Marriage is something that takes naturing, be blessed xxxx

@Lempies 4 года назад

Your analysis is spot on. It's impossible to generalize. Circumstances make the case.

@deborahbrewer1599 4 года назад

You two are one and think you would not hurt yourself. Think of the conversations and interactions you are having with others. If you fill they are too intimate and not something you can share with your other soulmate stop it. Regain the intimacy you only want to share with your soul mate. It is healthy to variety in a marriage; but, limits are naturally set. Marriage is commitment made and not to be taken lightly. Listen to one another and share thoughts without dispelling what you the other us saying before you have heard them out. Trust God read his word, and believe his word. Speaking a widow of

@EsterMaupa 4 года назад

There is physical and emotional cheating

@trinitwig 4 года назад

I tried to forgive and be the bigger person, but it was so painful. I got even, was super disappointed in myself but we could finally move past it.

@walterthomas4242 4 года назад

Relationship is trust🤞and love,🥰😀

@aggsperez865 4 года назад

You look lovely with that head wrap

@sandraatkins2539 3 года назад

Yes she does look gorgeous.

@Hertha_Imene9845 4 года назад

Beautiful topic. I don't see myself staying with a cheater. I hate nonsense and unfaithfullnes. So I don't see how I'll pass through the disappointment and move on along normally. Maybe if great work is done to solve the issue but otherwise I'll always have anger and grudge or disappointment over my partner. Anyway once maybe we can forgive. Or else I'll just forgive and let it go and let you go and be too. I pray I never find such a partner and may the same never be for the both of you too. Much love God Bless ♡ till old age , grow together you are such an inspirational souls. Be there for each other till the end in Jesus Christ mighty and wonderful name Amen.

@meesheeli9107 3 года назад

I don't know but for me cheating is beyond physical intimacy, for me to feel cheated on I think that the person has to be emotionally intimate with another person.But I still won't tolerate it if my partner has a physically intimate relationship with someone else💀.

@IamBrendaMarie 4 года назад

Good content guys

@mariatashiyashoolongo 4 года назад

Cheating is a painful thing, but am a vambo married to a damara man,I was cheated by my husband but that time we was gf and bf, god it take long to heal my heart and I give him a second chance he tell me why he did it and he really tell me it will not happen again, it was a long and angry story but we manage to come over it its 9 years back now and we are now happily married for 5 years and this didn't happen again and I thank God for changing him.

@Lempies 4 года назад

Hi Maria, it's good to know that thighs work out for you and your husband. You are indeed a strong woman.

@mariatashiyashoolongo 4 года назад

@@Lempies thanks alot love, we need to understand and forgive each other, ❤

@joyshangombe9667 4 года назад

Cheating is not healthy thing in a relationship, trust me. I experienced it in my marriage. Once woman cheat, your dignity, self respect, etc just go down. It is not easy for man to forgive woman. So please woman dont cheat rather leave the person and continue with your life.

@aminatathomas3522 4 года назад

Sheeting in the relationship not good if you love your partner you’ll never sheet there’s no forgiveness once you sheet no trust.

@Lempies 4 года назад

Correct.... You gotta love ypur partner more 🙌🏾

@pombilievard8316 4 года назад

How come you don't show affection in your videos, not even a kiss? 🤷‍♂️

@agastyamon3008 3 года назад

Yes, you should forgive him and start new life again.

@yvonnemcgee2599 3 года назад

You are so happy togather I fill good about that God bless your marriage

@EsterMaupa 4 года назад

Two wrongs don’t make a right the even part is not the best option in my opinion

@denisewalker7217 4 года назад

There are many reasons people cheat! Lack of communications, doing things together, different careers etc; I can forgive but I would not stay in the relationship single or married. I think it would be wrong to stay in the marriage just because you have children. That's one of the biggest mistakes couples make. Children are very smart & you do a disservice to them 'emotional , spiritually & physically. What matters to children is that mom & dad still love them, even if they live apart. And yes, that takes a lot of work on their relationship afterwards & they may need to seek help from specialists.

@alinanamene4845 4 года назад

Notification Gang❤️😍😍

@lucasmwangi2504 4 года назад

Its horrendous to cheat

@Lempies 4 года назад

I don't know that, I never cheated! But I have been cheated on, and that it's not nice.

@JESUSISLORDforever888 4 года назад

CHEATING is wrong, unkind and selfish......NO EXCUSES

@kendrabennett2843 4 года назад

I would cheat back and even the score. I'm from the dirty south and the old ppl have a quote. "What's good for the goose is good for the gander." You must give ppl a taste of their own medicine. I've done it and the man got really pissed off.

@Lempies 4 года назад

That would be my first thought too when I get pissed. But if I give my self more time to think about it, i will choose to walk away and keep my sanity 🙌🏿🤷🏿‍♀️

@ingridblagrove9044 3 года назад

With God all things are possible, if love is tested and some other partner fail, if they love each other and really want the person in your life I think forgiveness must be considered. We have cheated God in so many ways, and He has always forgiveness us. Clubs are not the place of the older person, church would be more appropriate for them. It would give them time to know God, learn to trust Him, be obedient to his words so that they can be able to make the right choice going further. Most times things happened because God wants our attention. Remember He is a jealous God. Stay strong! Love you both.

@jackiejoseph4308 4 года назад

I believe you should forgive and try both to move on.

@Lempies 4 года назад

The best choice otherwise opt for an opem relationship

@ayodeler39 4 года назад

In your case I would think find a beautiful home , start your family and enjoy your good health..🤷🏾‍♀️

@normairisrodriguez8666 3 года назад

Hiiii! I like you talk about situations for marriages. It is a wise way; because I think, is a good way know every one. They are lots of persons, marriage without know every one. Please, can you show us how you wear every headwrap? I love them.

@normairisrodriguez8666 3 года назад

Gid bless your home!

@SeeLasSee 3 года назад

Options: 2 > 1 > 3

@mareshalite 3 года назад

Infidelity Hmmmmm.... I can't for example with sleeping around then I catch a disease like HIV and aids. I can't stay. I have aunts, friends who we have buried out of being ok with infidelity.. Boy byee. Divorce, or break up my choice

@julietmukasa7124 4 года назад

Nice topic Its really for me I don’t know what I should do, coz I’m faithful en I expect my man to be faithful too.

@bellateriini9506 4 года назад

Marriage between a woman and a man is a covenant with God. Full stop. Remember for richer or poorer till death you do part.Try living in your vows , those words should active in your marriage Seek Gods advice. All your answers are biblical.

@Lempies 4 года назад

I believe in staying in a marriage as long as both partner are faithful and respecting marriage boundaries. However if my partner is being disrespectful , abusive or cheating than 🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️🏃🏿‍♀️ back home 🙌🏿

@SydneyMusipiliMutelo 3 года назад

Difference is that its the first time you are sitting on his right side

@mutsatakundwa3172 4 года назад

Trust once broken is gone!!

@mariacaetano6668 4 года назад

Ciao lempies potete parlare anche in Italiano siete una copia carina ma sembra che i vostri blog sono solo per persone che parlano Inglese ci sono tante copie miste in Italia con diverse idiomi e comunicano in Italiano. Sarebbero più interessante

@Lempies 4 года назад

Ciao Maria, viviamo in Germania parliamo tedesco ed inglese a casa. Quando siamo in Italia parliamo italiano e quando sono in Namibia oshiwambo.

@aminatathomas3522 4 года назад

I will not forgive you because you no better.

@dr.emilyacevedo812 4 года назад

@julietmukasa7124 4 года назад

Hello 👋🏻

@Lempies 4 года назад

Hello there Mukasa 😍🤗

@starseed2226 4 года назад

Forgiveness is good for your soul growth

@Celiamaria581 4 года назад

Muinto bom isso

@elizabethebarkley6319 4 года назад

Lempie:Ale was in your country when he started complaining of backaches constantly etc .That happens when a man is being denied sex.Remember he is not dating you ,He is married to you!!Ask your primary care doctor!!!!!! Liz. USA

@elizabethebarkley6319 4 года назад

Lempie:If he has no history of prostate Ca,back injury,nerve injury ,urinary tract infections along with a list of other injuries or infections having backaches is a No,No! If he has been telling you he did not cheat then,he could have been telling you the truth.We are observing and listening to you all keenly,we are not stupid!!Liz. USA

@jarsavokai6489 3 года назад

Forgiving is the best option,walking away is not advisable

@Lempies 3 года назад

I would say forgive and walk away 🙏🏿🙌🏾

@jnamunkete9366 2 года назад

If the guy cheat,the women need to forgive him,but if the women cheat ....the men need to break it off immediately without hesitation

@feliciakidd9358 2 года назад

🙂👍

@user-kh8ec5zl7s 4 года назад

Hey Beautiful girl you guys didntbknow each other before you got married why you talki g about each other personality now this is time to talk about future not about this and that is your love done? A and "husband" ! don't talk about past with yiur wife and you seem like you want divorce its sad ......

@Lempies 4 года назад

In our relationship it is ok to discuss things which have happened to us in the past too. Because they are important lessons in oir lives 🙌🏿🤷🏿‍♀️